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@o0oStillWeRiseo0o

3 ай бұрын

FELLAS REMEMBER: All women are sex workers! I’m 6’5 and the ninja yo girl tell you not to worry about. RECREATIONAL USE ONLY!!!!!

if a woman says i don't cook or clean then run as she is not a nurturer. These areas are hugely important in keeping the children and you healthy.

@urdadshusband781

4 ай бұрын

Or she's not a nurturer for you. Got out of a 4 year relationship with the mother of my child who was the epitome of this. I think she probably made me lunch for work 10 times or under in Four years. Basically didn't care what I wanted in any realm or regard. Very combative. Not giving. Not loving. Not affectionate and feminine. But she is a wonderful mom. Always prepping meals for our child, spoiling , even coddling. Night and day difference

@maxboya

4 ай бұрын

@@urdadshusband781interesting

@drip369

4 ай бұрын

Well those types of women will call you Daddy but will also tell you they are not your mother, why because they want to be your teenage daughter that lives rent-free and does nothing productive around the house. If she doesn't admire you and isn't willing to do anything to impress you, definitely run away

@drip369

4 ай бұрын

​@@urdadshusband781she would be a better mom if she was a better wife because sons need to learn what kind of woman to look for and what kind of man to be just like daughters need to know what kind of man to look for and what kind of woman to be. You can call her a good mom if you want but if she prioritizes them over the marriage, that is not considerate for the children's future. Children need examples, not servants. Even the Bible says to put the marriage relationship above all others underneath salvation because children learn better through observation than they do obsessive attention

@TC-yx1qt

4 ай бұрын

​@@urdadshusband781your fault for picking a woman like that. Learn your lesson

When a women says that I don’t do that…insert “with you”

Such a good one. Never forget actions speak louder than words-especially when it comes to women and love.

It’s true. As a woman, I do fall more in love with my man when I do things that help my man and make his life better and happier. One time I flew out to visit him and didn’t have anything to cook for him since I didn’t have a car but I took out the fruits he and I bought the day before and prepared that as a snack for him so when he got off work and came to pick me up at my Airbnb he had food.

@szn1580

3 ай бұрын

That’s how it’s supposed to be. Women serve men. He has to be worth it tho but yeah it makes women fulfilled. Not money and Instagram

When she does things willingly and lovingly without asking, that is a good sign. If she genuinely wants to be with me, she will find out what I want and she does it before I even have to ask.

@tori3158

3 ай бұрын

Same goes for males. When he shows me he does happily and genuinely things for me, i will do the same and more. But if i catch him putting me on some juvenile tests or other noobish behaviour, will do my part, but distance myself from him. As with true love things come so easy and things just fit and click. No need to fingerprint on anyone or anything. Both genders need to help each other. I always say to my partner " please, you do that as you are way better than me in it " And we both know it's true and we have a laugh. Same things i know he dislikes but DOESN'T want to ask me, i do it myself freely with pleasure. Now.. if someone would DEMAND from me things, he wouldn't get a thing. I think it needs a humble girl to appreciate a humble guy AND vice versa.

A woman who truly loves and values you, will WANT to take care of you (cook, clean, laundry etc..) My (Thai) wife is uncomfortable when I do any of those tasks. For me, the biggest signal is when she thanks me for choosing her (every few days). That shows she knows I have options but I choose not to exercise them. Whamen in the west are so different

@metalmike570

4 ай бұрын

Still it could go wrong with a woman from Thailand. Once you have kids for example. Really it is because our son is disabled with autism, so we became separated because our son demanded to much of her time and sometimes my time and then there was zero us time. It was many years ago, we are divorced but we still share the responsiblility of taking care of our son. He is 21 now. But I do know what you mean I do think back at the first 2 or 3 years we were married yes it can be absolutely perfect.

@acefully4703

3 ай бұрын

Bro you are in utopia 😅

@deanomarino31

3 ай бұрын

@@acefully4703 yup. And I know it. Living the dream 😀

@haywoodjablome44

Ай бұрын

I also have a Thai wife. She is nothing like yours. Unfortunately for me, My health is very poor otherwise i would have ditched her and taken my son with me years ago.

I love to be helpful and make my husband's and children's lives the best they can be. My husband feels the same way. Respect each other.

really good advice Rich. I remember finishing the drywall in my bedroom. I asked my GF to iron a set of clothes for me to work in the next day...and she refused. She has married a wealthy douche and he has been in rehab a few times. She was also boring in bed. She was the most unappreciative person I had ever met.

@lerak8452

3 ай бұрын

And you picked her.

"One hand washes the other." Mutual cooperation can benefit and help both parties.

I did this recently, and didnt know this was so important. I asked my gal to call and place an order for 500 rnds of 5.56 ammo...on HER lunch hour...and she knocked it out of the park! Cked all the boxes that day

@kdm28

4 ай бұрын

Nice! My girls dad was a painter and she helped him as a kid, so she wants to paint my house with me...

@markyontz9119

4 ай бұрын

Am I peritted to say I'm not sure if I believe you? Zowie! Does she know her way around guns and ammo?

@duanedahl8856

4 ай бұрын

@@markyontz9119 yes, and she has a Felony to prove it.🤣

@giafach

4 ай бұрын

500 rounds of ammo. Nice

@herethere5637

3 ай бұрын

​@@duanedahl8856That is cute

You wanna test her loyalty lose your job or get sick she will be gone

@stanlyqbrick1621

3 ай бұрын

so true, i got injured at work and was off work for 3 months and she behaved so badly i was stunned. When i got injured and she came home. she didn't ask how i was or anything like that, she asked me how long i would be off and then walked out of the bedroom muttering why does this always happen to her. I realized then i was just a gift card and one that didnt get her into the most important events either. She had more successful men in the past and practically hated me for not being one of them.

@gregrodgers107

3 ай бұрын

💯 real talk right there

@baronnashor158

2 ай бұрын

@@stanlyqbrick1621 sounds fucking awful

@mickobrien6360

Ай бұрын

He he he he heh heheheheheheheheh

The word "devotion" referring to women is just LOL 🤣🤣

@MRindependentTHINK

4 ай бұрын

They are devoted to their emotions. So it's all about weaponizing it your advantage. Become a Dark Triad

@edhog

4 ай бұрын

My woman is devoted to me. I could rattle off half a dozen instances where she’s had opportunity to screw me over and didn’t. The reason is, is as Rich has said, I’m her best hypergamous option. It’s doesn’t get better than me for her. She knows this, she knows that I know this… it’s soft dread and as such the relationship is on easy mode. 1.5 years in, monkey moments in the bedroom, I want for nothing, packs my lunches and cooks without prompt, laundry 80% done by her. She’s devoted to me, just as long as I’m on an upward trajectory. Like the other comment said here, they’re devoted to their emotions. If you level up and max out where possible, you can utilize feelings to suite your needs.

@nightfangs2910

4 ай бұрын

Exactly, be devoted to your purpose not a woman

@jaynikk758

3 ай бұрын

The rare unicorn exists.. just have to find her in the sea of " strong and independents "

@Ryan-xq3kl

3 ай бұрын

Women have never devoted themselves to you? That must suck.

Most women that I am with instinctively want to take care of me. I don't have to train them, if they hare not trained by the time they are adults - I don't bother myself with them. If she is into you she will do stuff for you without you needing to ask her, if she is not - that is when you end up doing more stuff for her.

Recently saw a group of beautiful girls play a beer game with some tourists and the bet was who ever lost buys everyone else drinks . When one of the girls lost she got teary eyed and said “I can’t believe this happened to me”. She was actually crying when the others looked away. Luckily when she went to pay, one of the men had already paid for everything. Just imagine how selfish you are where the thought of buying your friends drinks after agreeing to pay makes you cry! Like Rich said, look for the enthusiasm in these tasks

@kellygreenii

4 ай бұрын

She might not have had the money. Men go out with money in their pockets because they are expected to pay. But you will get some women who go out with no money because they get into nightclubs and bars for free…and they can mooch drinks and food off of men.

I was single forever, earning so much I had a maid, cook, and a driver, then I met someone, and even though I had staff, she still insisted on helping out serving be my meals working together with my paid staff to run my house hold. I married her we've been together 18 years, she has never waivered, they are out there guys, you just gotta ditch the losers. Set your emotions aside use your head, and you will attract, not find the right woman.

@gnarlytothemax

3 ай бұрын

Where did you meet her?

Women intuitively do nice things for men they respect. Cups of coffee, compliments, small gifts. If you cant even get that, just work on yourself instead of fixing her.

@Ryan-xq3kl

3 ай бұрын

this

Bro is in for a huge dose of reality

My 8 yr gf bailed after I got laid up bad neuro Lyme disease 😂 so I can relate to the theres chicks that will bail when a fucking dude has cancer

@user-xf3cu4le5z

4 ай бұрын

Where are you located? I'm in Sask with chronic Lyme

@Bringmeoneofthosechickens

4 ай бұрын

sorry to hear you dudes got lyme. May I ask if it was from ticks and what state you were in when it happened so I know not to hike there

@user-xf3cu4le5z

3 ай бұрын

@@Bringmeoneofthosechickens I'm in Saskatchewan Canada. The insurance companies and pharma paid off CDC and other institutions to lie about the test accuracy and the symptoms of it so they can drug the symptoms and so insurance doesn't have to cover the cost.

@Bringmeoneofthosechickens

3 ай бұрын

@@user-xf3cu4le5z Thank you, I will not be hiking in Canada. Sorry that you got it bro. Hopefully someone makes a cure

@Amero2323

Ай бұрын

Yeah bro, same here. My ex left an 8 year relationship about a month after I mangled my right hand at work. I thought she did it on purpose bc she knew I wasn't in a position to go out and date and move on with someone else.

As man you’re already investing more into the relationship than a woman. You gotta make her feel invested in some way that’s why it’s so easy for them to leave you is because she’s not losing anything. If your paying the rent make her pay the light bill or the WiFi so she feels invested NEVER PAY FOR EVERYTHING. She won’t respect you

Great stuff Rich !

GREAT test - I love that it’s something frozen, you can measure the priority by how melted it is by the time it arrives. Also - another thing to look out for on this test, as it can be indicative of abuse - overly apologetic on any delay/condition getting it to you, obsessively looking to you for acceptance after receiving it. This should be a drama-free action.

Test with little tasks , if she’s not willing to bring you a Diet Coke, than she’s not worth giving your heart to, just put her in f buddy mode

As usually Rich excellent advice. I really enjoy your experience advice. I believe you are also getting healed internally from your past. And I thank you for sharing your past. Lord bless you amen 🙏.

this is such a great channel. thanks rich.

He’s dropping a meteoric amounts of gems

I have them cook me a meal on the second date, or wash my dishes/clean.

Let me tell you gentlemen about a strong man who had a great woman. My grandfather who worked in a coal mine at 8yrs old, joined WWII at 16, self taught electrican was married to a woman who worked full time and retired at a local store, she raised 4 children, one day she was giving my two sisters a mouth full because she was talking $hit about her coal mining husband, she told the story how my grandfather woke up everyday with breakfast, lunch already packed, came home to bath water drawn out, clean clothes on the bed, and dinner cooked when he came home from working in the coal mines of west virginia. She said when we gave childbirth they didn't lay in a bed for days, they were in the garden that evening tending to it! She said what kinda of man would want a "today's woman " then said i bet your so lazy during sex the man has to do the work too!😂 they don't make women like they use to. 55yrs married this woman still loved taking care of her man and when she passed away he did too within a few months, he would say to me that life without her wasn't living, it was just watching time go by. Women do have natural inherent behaviors but there was a time when women loved taking care of their man 3:00

@rf-uj5sc

3 ай бұрын

Your grandfather worked extremely hard and in dangerous conditions, that's why she was happy yo serve him. If you're working in a cubicle or some dumb shit like influencer , and she also works a very similar job, she's not going to see how hard you're working and won't feel happy to help

Great stuff Rich........

Just do what I did 40 years ago. Bring your laundry over and you do it together. She does hers at the same time as well.

Great video!! really genius idea on gauging devotion. Sounds reminiscent of the orange peel garbage on Tik Tok except females absolutely feel better when they support and are there for their man.

See how quickly the tone changes when you lower how much you spoil them.

This a useful subject.

Very helpful video just maintain the standard absolutely correct

The problem is women don’t communicate. They don’t say why they stopped. And there’s usually a reason. (Feeling unheard, unnoticed, taken for granted) I agree with you that she should care and nurture her man. These small tests are spot on. I agree don’t bargain, it’s sexy when men just tell you! It gives me the chance to report how I feel. What I need Women need to speak up and not just shut down and move on!! Men are too valuable to a woman’s life to discard like that

Excellent!🙏👌👍

Just tell her you lost your job for one whole month so for that time no meals outside, no diners, no restaurants and no money coming from your pocket. If she stays and doesn't care paying because she values yonbe with you then she is worthy from your time and effort.

We do fall for the guy when we get to do thinks for him... So true❤

Smart women will know it’s a test. Women can pretend for years. Masters of the long game.

@user-un6hq1hc8o

4 ай бұрын

Whoa

@theoneandonly3499

4 ай бұрын

Exactly! Your comment is the best I've seen so far. Thumbs up from me to you! It's all just a chess game to them. Goal, strategy, tactics, overt/covert manipulation techniques and long-term planning. Especially today with guaranteed lifetime alimony and full custody of your children. She just have to fool you with "love/romance" enough to get you to sign the marriage contract then you literally marry the state for life. After that it's only a matter of time before the mask comes off and you realize what you have married to and she starts manufacturing bullshit reasons to divorce you. After the divorce you can find her on social media in perfect shape again after giving birth hooking up in a bath tub orgie with Chad and Tyrone drinking champagne over what easy target you were.

@user-un6hq1hc8o

3 ай бұрын

Dude u cant trust anyone

Do the Door Test! Forget the Mario test!

Rich's test is brilliant; however, if she does not bring the thing (coffee, ice cream, etc) with a smile/joy/happiness, dump her immediately. That is a behavior that is part of her personality and there ain't nothing you are going to do to change that. She is showing you her true personality.

The clues are right at the start of dating . She also needs to pay for meals and not just offer when she sees you with your wallet out . Ever notice how many women can sit at the table all night getting wined and dined yet when it’s time to pay they all suddenly feel the need to go to the toilet . They come back knowing you must have paid and suddenly reach for their purse knowing you will say it’s done . We have all put up with crap from a woman but as you age there should be zero excuses to hang in there with a woman who has low value to you .

Any updates?

My wife would never even stop at the store ON HER WAY HOME FROM WORK! But then ask me to go to the grocery store later on. Very self centered.

John man cool dude

Similar to living in the USA, good until you get ill.

Doing laundry is not low level. A woman should get that and be supportive. And occasional cooking can give satisfaction. And a man should also throw in some complimenting.

Bro, if she's not contributing positively to your life and is just along for the ride, DUMP HER. She needs to bring at least as much to the party as you do. If she isn't willing or - just as bad - is incapable of doing so, then she's just a drain on your time and resources.

You pay a young buck to hit on her and she takes the bait, you drop a crab cake on the relationship!

6 weeks dating? Barly knows the chick

@vsperatos

3 ай бұрын

Exactly already asking for labor!! So much fun

Just say "can you wash the dishes please" If she says no Then say, oh really? Well sorry i don't date women who don't cook / wash the dishes

@vsperatos

3 ай бұрын

Who does this when they just met someone??? Who asks for labor , youre suppose to be light hearted and fun.

@bobbie750

3 ай бұрын

How far has that got you 😂😂😂😂😂

@varmastiko2908

3 ай бұрын

@@vsperatos Light hearted and fun - to whose benefit? As a man you need to keep aware of what you're involved in. Never give your brain a day off. Furthermore, the whole thought of "supposed to" is not a masculine concept. A man sets the rules and boundaries - not follow those that others set for him.

you don't bring it up you pull back. Instead of taking her out what ever it is cut that back to be with your friends or go to the library. She'll see it and ask what's wrong if she is interested.When she notices you tell her you don't want to or won't do this or that. You don't cook me anything. Ramen noodles isn't that hard or take that much time. Just say I'm a simple guy and you can't or won't even do that. You need to step it up in that area. then take her to the bedroom and give her a really good time so she sees what she might lose.🤣😂

Careful many cluster b women will pass this test with flying colors.

Shes not yours. It's just your turn.... mabey/monkey branch.

Yeah, when you have to keep asking, you’re not truly getting a help mate, you’re getting a child instead.

Test paper for women leaked 😅

Is she's not offering to make your life easy she's not in to you man

let’s get something straight tho. a girl that will pass all those “tests” will do those things because SHE is a nice woman not because YOU are a great man

I can’t believe the amount of “men” who need advice about females from another man. Damn, I missed another market niche!

Nope. Let them come to you

Only a month in big dawg. Relax. She will say anything to agree with you and bring you in. Let’s see if that is still the case in a year. Then it may be promising.

😂

So I get where Rich is coming from but on the other hand I feel a lot of attributes that make a woman a bad wife are inherently there and can’t be “trained” away. Being selective in the type of woman you decide to date, make sure she’s at an appropriate level and have the conversations of what you both expect out of life and from a partner. Yes, it’ll be hard, and yes, you’ll have to dig and pry multiple times to get a real answer but it’s the rest of your life if you choose right so don’t be afraid to do the work. If she can’t handle a conversation that may carry a little shame or reveal her true character with the man she wants to be with then she’s not the one. Just remember, she should tell you everything, and want to do everything with you….

A month and a half of dating and she's already living in his house?

If you have to nag a woman to do things for you and negotiate with her then you are not that high on her list of priority. It makes a man look weak/needy when you have to list the benefits you bring to her and tell her that she needs to return the favor. And stop making excuses for a woman when you see red flags but you still afraid of letting her go. Red flags are time bombs.

Never test her devotion to you. Invariably they will fail - like 99% they fail their test

The fact that this podcast is this number of men listening to it tells me this world is doomed 😂 it’s over. Just fuck who you can and spend your money because one thing you will never have is legacy following this man.

Rich, your audio is way to low in this video.

@Erick-di9gm

4 ай бұрын

Turn up the volume on your phone.

@TheMultiGunMan

3 ай бұрын

@@Erick-di9gm Mind your own business

What. . You can't use the word devotion and women in the same situation.. She'll just charge her mind.. next

If you were george clooney she would do anything for you. If she doesnt want to do something for you then you are not her #1 option meaning that your relationship is a time bomb

@Ajc606

3 ай бұрын

Bars!

Sounds like a good one. She knows gender roles

Once you give most women “the contract” you’ve passed the phase of testing-as now she knows she has the upper hand. Even if she passes every test before that point she will be inclined to change her mind and her behaviors-and the guy will be on the financial hook for it!

@yourstarbucksorder4828

4 ай бұрын

Facts it’s not will they do it , it’s when

@GBU61

4 ай бұрын

Sadly modern relationships are when she gets the leverage so she can start to use it against him.

If she bring nothing to the table she ain't the one

And this guy wonders why he’s alone and only a decade or so away from death

Omg! A month and a half in? He wants her to do his laundry? Of course those are things we do, but come on.. men, this is what you should do.. just pay attention to how she takes care of her household. Pay attention to how she maintains her life. Do you have similar values and goals . Have conversations about what you want out of life and see if it matches up. Watch what she does. most likely after you commit to her and take care of her she will take care of your household the way she takes care of hers. Do not ask her to do laundry unless you are married or at least living together or have been committed to each other for a while. I’m assuming she has her own life to take care of and as of right now you are just courting her. I feel like him asking her to do laundry is the equivalent of her asking him to pay her bills. He did say he was paying for everything and I’m going to assume he means dates. I doubt he’s paying her bills. Now, if he is paying all her bills then I think yeah, ask her to help you with laundry . Because in reality men and women need each other for more than just chores and money and sex. If you would not choose her because she doesn’t do your laundry, then she’s not the one for you. Remember , healthy women will make your life better in reciprocation to you adding to their lives.

@varmastiko2908

3 ай бұрын

Astounding ignorance. But hey, let's play your game. Let's pretend you're making sense. Now on that basis, what do you think the man would be getting out of the woman in the first place? Say he's willing to do things the way you write here. What's in in for him? Why get involved at all?

@sistergoldenhair119

3 ай бұрын

@@varmastiko2908 Astounding ingnorance😂 ok. It’s not a game. There is more to relationships than the physical things you do for each other. That is a part of it , but this guy has only been dating this woman for 1 month and a half. I don’t understand how paying attention to how another person lives their life is a game. That is the about the best way to vet if that person will be right for you, by their actions of what they do without you having to ask, the man says he gets laid all the time and that’s she’s cool and traditional like he likes.. why would he ruin it by expecting laundry done when they are just dating. I’m just saying. I think this is how men and women should vet potential mates. By observing how the person is naturally. A man in his receiving energy is feminine. Pure and simple. I grew up with tons of masculine men in my family and they are absolutely not like this. They take of shit and get shit done. They are not out here worried about if they are getting their laundry done. Tit for tat. If a man is in his masculine and he’s with the right woman she will reciprocate naturally. In my opinion (everybody is different) He should wait until she wants to do it naturally. And if she doesn’t do what he thinks he needs in a timely manner, then he should move on like a man and find another woman who will.

@varmastiko2908

3 ай бұрын

@@sistergoldenhair119 Your last two sentences make perfect sense. This is the main thing. A woman is only worth investing in if there is benefit in it for the man. Ironically the woman will also not truly benefit when this is not so.

WTF is score ? Mcflurries are from McDonald's.

Complex theme. Can happen that she does everything and he doesn't appreciate a thing or even more frustrating for a female he thinks she OWES him. There is nothing more repulsive (to me) as a male demanding like a toddler or trying to train me like a dog to do things for him - because it has to come NATURALLY. (will admit, didn't happen to me as am very pleasing by nature but saw it many times and .... Boy it sparked my darkest anger out how some females were treated) You know, females need to be smart. They shouldn't get away guys with job and trash only, he'll have way too much free time to do stupidities, cheat and all that junk. Be smart. You ain't his made. Get him to be busy equally.

Having a woman pick up something on the way home or whatever early on in dating is not a good “test” Even narcissists will go above and beyond for someone in the beginning of relationships. These little tasks are nothing in the first 1-5 months of dating. Not a good vetting strategy.

@zzFishstick

3 ай бұрын

True it should be a regular test but trust me there are girls that wouldnt even do it in first 5 months or give attitude

@JohnSkyLey

3 ай бұрын

You’re wrong. This is a good test

Why do dudes listen to concrete blockhead?

Rich why is the audio pretty much unlistenable on this clip when you're paying a fucking editor to make it? Dude's voice is 20x louder than yours, could almost not hear you whilst other dude's was blastingly loud. Seems like your editor is not making a dent in the universe & can't do his job properly.....

Men being scared to align a woman is the difference between having a scarcity mindset vs an abundance mindset

You don't bring it up. You just walk away. Pointless to trying to change a human. If you walk into the dealership to buy a Mercedes, and all they have is Toyota's , you just leave.

I should clean my boyfriends house??? And do his laundry??? I don’t live with him, & he’s not paying my bills.

@ModelJames13

4 ай бұрын

Don't listen to these try hards. You don't do that stuff until you marry him. But if you want to make him a sandwich sometime I'm sure he'd appreciate it. 😎

@alexisc7565

4 ай бұрын

No.

@stanlyqbrick1621

3 ай бұрын

yes, or get cats and leave him be. Women who are fat, demanding and useless 304'S are to common now.

@Ian-zj1bu

3 ай бұрын

No.

@Frankaye

3 ай бұрын

Depends. Do you want to marry him and have kids? If not, why are you with him? If you do, put in some effort when you go visit him at his house. Show him how thoughtful and caring you are.

Don’t be ridiculous. Dating woman DOES NOT HAVE to make your laundry. ONLY A MARRIED WOMAN does have. You r paying for dates and u r getting her beauty and her company. That is what u r paying for. She even DOES NOT HAVE to have intimate relations with u at the stage of dating. Point. So sad this world has become such a sad place.

@crazymonkeyVII

2 ай бұрын

The problem is, if she does none of those things before getting the unconscionable contract that will reward her for breaking up, why would she do it after? She needs to demonstrate that she's the type of person that would do that for her man. If she's not, there's even less of a point in marrying her. When we marry a woman we risk everything we've worked for and everything we will work for. If doing a simple task is already too much for her, why would we take the ultimate risk? It would be cheaper and less risky to just get a maid...

I’m a feminist, and if my BF asked me to do a favor, and I’m already out, of course I would do it. I’d be deeply self absorbed if I did not. Especially if he’s making time to see me. (Yes the man should pay for dates, but giving me his TIME means far more to me.) And actually if he didn’t ask me, or he asked someone else, I’d feel disappointed that he didn’t think I’d be happy to do this for him. However, the “soft order” to throw in laundry would be concerning. Because it’s an order. Not because it’s laundry. (How difficult is a washing machine?) But an order speaks volumes and creates doubt, and thereby creates drama, where drama is not necessary. Why would you create drama? If you create drama to break her spirit, to force her into submission, then you’re deliberately building a transactional relationship. A woman can take care of her man from a position of dedication and connection, i.e., nurturing femininity. Or, she can take care of him from a transactional position. I wouldn’t want a transactional relationship because they’re cheap junk. I don’t have time to add crap into my schedule. Part and parcel of a transactional relationship is that when he can no longer “pay” his end of the deal, the contract is breached, and she would be foolish to stay. Which creates drama. Just what you do not need as you hit a rough patch. Also, a woman tolerating orders will always be a sense of degradation hiding in her heart, and that will surface when you’re giving less - for example, you’re paying less attention to her because you’re up against a deadline or a crisis, and therefore busy or stressed. You don’t need that emotional complexity to surface then. Lastly, in a transactional relationship, you’re taking the risk that she’s not actually there for YOU, the person who you are, the man she SEES, ADMIRES, WANTS to be with. What’s a woman for, if not to have your back and be the ace in your pocket? She should know what you need from a look. She should be all about you, and only you, your ride or die. You can’t get any of that from a transactional relationship. Don’t pressure a good girl into being a gold digger. A transactional relationship is not what a top level man needs. You deserve the world’s greatest love story. (You absolutely do…) And none of this means she won’t help when she’s around. Just as if she needs someone to look at her furnace, she’ll ask you. But not because you owe her. Rather, because you’re teammates. You two against the world.

What if she makes more money than you?

@nightfangs2910

4 ай бұрын

What do you want to do to change that dynamic??? so you can have the leverage in the relationship not her

@lionaljodoin5291

4 ай бұрын

@nightfangs2910 It hasn't been used as leverage. Yet. I understand that the exception doesn't make the rule, but isn't that what we're telling higher Earning women to do? Get with men that earn less?

@nightfangs2910

4 ай бұрын

@@lionaljodoin5291 ask yourself, if she has nothing to lose, what if she finds someone she wants over you, and leaves you or cheats on you , she will say whatever to anything you say about her cheating or leaving you, that's the cost to you if you don't have the leverage in a relationship, don't be that guy that regrets his life decisions years down the road, and you find yourself burnt hard and alone

@wyleecoyotee4252

3 ай бұрын

Then you should clean her house and cook for her.

@wyleecoyotee4252

3 ай бұрын

​@@lionaljodoin5291 Good luck in telling a high earning woman what to do. She will just laugh at you.

Just marry your cleaning lady .

@Ian-zj1bu

3 ай бұрын

Come clean my house?

@wyleecoyotee4252

3 ай бұрын

Exactly

I land on Cooper's channel from time to time and I can see that this man does not change. His unfounded love with his self-ordained wisdom is nauseating to me and temporal and dangerous....I am 9:48 into this entry and his "test" for his date is manipulative and contrived because there is NO REASON for this girl to do him phony 'favors' . Would HE do that for HER ? I think not. He acts like he is a bull elk with a harem. The people that vacuum up his words in subservience are gullible and weak . They have problems that are deeper than 10 minutes with this preening Sage of counterfeit advice.

Rich, I must express my disagreement with your repeated example in your videos, where you mention that your girlfriend doing laundry for you "complements your life". While I get your point about the McFlurry test, it is degrading to portray women as akin to a cleaning lady, especially since you often mention that you don't share living spaces, as you have separate houses. As a high-value man, surely you can afford to hire a cleaning service. Just some thoughts from another man.

@crazymonkeyVII

2 ай бұрын

As dr. Orion Taraban puts it: Yes he could hire a cleaner, but that would be one less thing she can do for him. It's fine to come up with other ways of showing your appreciation and investment, but some show of appreciation and some investment is necessary. Women leave when they lack either or both. Also, it's YOU who characterizes cleaning as degrading work. I consider it very valuable when a woman offers to cook/clean for me, exactly because it's an indicator of appreciation/investment. Yes I can do those things myself or order out or get a professional cleaner to do it for me, but the fact that I'll have to pay them to do it makes those actions just as valuable as a pr0stitute's "desire" for a customer: not valuable at all.