“Talk to someone about themselves and they'll listen for hours.” ― Dale Carnegie

@SNinjaQK

3 жыл бұрын

how to win friends

@SourceExclusive

3 жыл бұрын

@@SNinjaQK True, but don't let that create the dynamic or else the conversations will only center around them and they won't be interested in your situation

@skcrd6816

3 жыл бұрын

How to win friends and influence people, my fav book of all time.

@SNinjaQK

3 жыл бұрын

@@skcrd6816 I didn't apply any of it's information cos I don't even like people

@skcrd6816

3 жыл бұрын

@@SNinjaQK I don't think you don't like people ,I think you're just scared of connecting with them which in this case we're on the same side of life.

Silent confidence will take you along way. Showing your confident without saying a word is an extremely powerful tool.

@raspberrymist

3 жыл бұрын

But first you have to be confident.

@miklosernoehazy8678

3 жыл бұрын

... realizing this is the first step in mastering the "The Quiet Swagger"...

@kzkzlzkzlz7337

3 жыл бұрын

@@miklosernoehazy8678 hhh

@jaxx-inspiregrowcreate2862

3 жыл бұрын

@@miklosernoehazy8678 that's right!

@user-lb5ph5ke7d

3 жыл бұрын

How to be that?

0:43 - #1: Set a playful tone from the start. 2:45 - #2: Use a self burn with no heat. 4:23 - #3: Tell present tense stories with a variety of voices. 6:00 - #4: Use a "cliffhanger" pause. 7:50 - #5: Be a likeable listener.

@siljanen1554

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!!

@LaLaBlahBlahh

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!!!

@wt_neptune54

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks, 'that guy'

@allarkuus7661

2 жыл бұрын

And now add the context also :)

@kongmyles978

2 жыл бұрын

I love when people do that I don’t have to watch the full video

“No one cares if he has small legs” Gym bros: “SHAAAME

@gabrielkaam2

3 жыл бұрын

do you even lift Broooo

@righteousmasculine

2 жыл бұрын

@@gabrielkaam2 lol ion know but I do lol

@qtommyb

2 жыл бұрын

"lift with your legs"

@michaelcraig9449

2 жыл бұрын

But they would only get on his case, and it would possibly mean something to him, if he was known for lifting, or trying to lift in contests, or be a big time pro in some sports, or something. If he was known for something totally different it would not matter

This channel is so valuable for people who struggle with being around others. My daughter is super socially awkward and watches these and has really come out of her shell a lot.

@lemonwater7169

3 жыл бұрын

The Amazing Bacon aww that’s super nice 😊

@joyces1365

3 жыл бұрын

I can totally relate. I feel like these videos help because they people to think of charisma like a science, rather than an intrinsic characteristic. If it's a characteristic it feels like something I can't control and it makes me nervous.

@homad9531

3 жыл бұрын

Good to hear dude, hope she overcomes her social awkwardness

@AmazingBacon

3 жыл бұрын

@@homad9531 she's 13, so im sure that's part of it as well. Watching these with her though, I've seen her confidence grow a lot because she's a very analytical type person. Like the person above said, these videos make it more of a problem to overcome and not as much an emotional barrier to face.

@homad9531

3 жыл бұрын

@@AmazingBacon wish I can be as her,I watch these vids I gain confidence and boom back to normal lol, good for her

This channel gives you the answers to questions you’re too afraid to ask.

@sheepgray08

3 жыл бұрын

Dude I see you commenting everywhere hahaha Had to say something.

@CaseyBurnsInvesting

3 жыл бұрын

sheepgray08 omnipresence 👁

@animationboy1565

3 жыл бұрын

2 MINUTES AGO

@animationboy1565

3 жыл бұрын

Wow

@migo7741

3 жыл бұрын

LIKE WHAT

Funny enough, I learned some of this in a communications class in college. The professor was a failed comedian and joked about it. The class loved him for his lessons on life and honesty in communication. At the end of the semester I asked about his style of teaching and comedy. He replied: “use FUNNY, not damaging, self deprecating humor to get the audience on your side.” I’ve also heard Kurtis Conner say this too on his channel as well.

@justonegoodvideo

2 жыл бұрын

That's a good point. I just found it quite to apply it practically though, but O guess you gotta start slow

@greg_216

2 жыл бұрын

If it's something you would tell your closest friend without shame, then let it rip. It absolutely helps if you're not a piece-of-crap person who harms or abuses others (not damaging material). As an old fart, I have to say that life is short, and beating around the bush or trying to hide imperfections is a silly exercise. The sooner you get over that, and the more honestly you can interact with your world, the more you'll attract genuine people.

@aaronsmith4806

2 жыл бұрын

I get that but I have made comments that are jabs at my weaknesses but I can tell it came off as being insecure or self esteem being low. I never utilize it well. I feel I know what I’m very good at and know where I’m weak and unfortunately a lot of things I am weak in are things I need to do daily at work but I balance it with also being able to showcase where I bring value

@Romon111

2 жыл бұрын

How to differentiate between funny and self deprecating humour?

@imhere653

2 жыл бұрын

@@Romon111 Ask yourself this: Would you make the comment/joke you have in mind about another person to that same person's face? If the answer is "No way!"-don't use it. You'll find you're hyper-diligent about potentially hurtful comments when it comes to other people. The self policing is built in with this exercise.

What helped me a lot when telling a story to people is telling the story not just in events that happened but also what was going through my mind. Like instead of saying something like ''I jumped over the fence, saw a guard dog and started running'' which would be what happened, you say ''So I jump over this fence, not thinking much of it, you know easy done this since primary school, I land and I hear something. In my mind I was thinking about all the possibilities of what it could've been, then I see a dog walking towards me, and in my mind this the biggest more scary looking dog I've ever seen, So I have a quick second of realization and then I start running like my life depends on it'' Same story through events, but one is so much better to listen to because it makes you feel like you're there because the listener knows the emotions that were going on throughout the story.

@aaronsmith4806

2 жыл бұрын

That was a great explanation. I think I need to use this more with story telling.

@CJ-xe2wi

2 жыл бұрын

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@southpark645

2 жыл бұрын

That can work but my father does that a lot and I often get irritated with him pretty quickly lol

@LiveHappy76

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for taking the time to make and share this fantastic, practical example!

@CJ-xe2wi

Жыл бұрын

And people think I give too much detail!

By eating a lot of iron and shocking myself I became magnetic

@davecullins1606

3 жыл бұрын

For like 2 seconds 'cause that's how long you were electrocuted xD

@kyleholland9923

3 жыл бұрын

Get electric eels to bite you

@annwalker8907

2 ай бұрын

IS THAT YOU BELUGA?

A self burn has no heat. Ahh... I’ve been doing it wrong the whole time.

@AndrewAleSininingFajardo1

3 жыл бұрын

HAHAHA! Ironic.

@CalculusDaddy

3 жыл бұрын

Good example!

@miguelohara9534

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, me too! Sometimes I'll make a joke like "maybe thats why I'm so lonley/boring/ugly ect" and jokes like that doesn't usually get me huge laughs

@ojalara3937

2 жыл бұрын

Lmao. But see... your getting it

@thelegacyofgaming2928

2 жыл бұрын

@@miguelohara9534 Because people can relate to those jokes a bit too well and it doesn't feel good to laugh at themselves.

My mother was/is a very socially awkward and she used me as her shield…as a result I always walk into rooms with a smile, my presence is immediately known! Once I went to a fb group football party with people I only knew from fb and never met in person! I was so nervous but when I walked through the door I was smiling and I began clapping and stomping my feet saying “ the champ is here” like Muhammad Ali 🤣🤣 that got everyone smiling and laughing and my presence actually got the party started ! Little do people know I’m always terrified when I enter an already filled room!

@LiveHappy76

Жыл бұрын

Awesome story! Thank you for the honesty and for sharing :)

@digitalmarketingsupply

Жыл бұрын

Nice🙌🥰

@MyB1AncestorsWantMe2SPELLitOut

Жыл бұрын

👑 🙌🏽❤️ 👑

One thing about Jamie is that he is a naturally funny guy. He doesnt have to force it like some other people do.

@jobiazgarza9571

2 жыл бұрын

My thoughts exactly. He is literally a comedian, so his ability to tell captivating stories and hold your attention is very strong.

@SKYSAW59

2 жыл бұрын

So you know him personally then??

@mgreene300

2 жыл бұрын

An incredible comedian, actor, singer, dancer, athlete, super smart, a good looking dude. The list goes on. Most of us don't even have one thing going for us that's anywhere near his level

@alienator4684

2 жыл бұрын

@@SKYSAW59 How does what they said even remotely imply that? Just stop. 😂

@Fm25duytorsch

2 жыл бұрын

That's the thing, if I try emulating any of this, it probably will come out forced and awkward

"If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart." -Nelson Mandela

@darkspeed62

3 жыл бұрын

Not the best quote really. The second part could be one and the same as the first part.

@darkspeed62

2 жыл бұрын

@@brrodyy HIS language would surely come under being a language that he understands unless you're willing to admit that a man wouldn't understand HIS language. Therefore, the quote isn't that good.

@tyriqcollier5509

2 жыл бұрын

@@darkspeed62 people who are eager to complain and argue to prove you're intelligence are ignorant . Just to act smart you make noncritical negative commentary on one of the greatest speakers in modern history and add no bit of anything

@wordsculpt

2 жыл бұрын

@@darkspeed62 Nuancé is not your strong point, is it? There is a significant difference. Think about it!

@Speedster189

2 жыл бұрын

I speak three languages all fluently so I don't understand the quote.

Just remember, he’s doing all that naturally, there’s no conscious physiological decisions here, just him being him. We shouldn’t overthink so much ✌🏻

@buzzard720

Жыл бұрын

No, its all planned mate, you totally miss the point.

@tnt7594

Жыл бұрын

@@buzzard720 lol agreed and if anything it is simply his thought process behind/about the conversation.

@Brickwilliams

Жыл бұрын

it’s okay to overthink, just make sure you stay rational and logical.

Many forget or don’t know Jamie Foxx started off as a comedian. This is a result of years hone his skill of storytelling for comedic effect.

#1: Set a playful tone from the start. (Be louder, more high energy, start by smiling every time you enter a new room) but remember to switch to being genuine and back to playful Great storytelling: #2: Use a self burn with no heat. (Stay away from major insecurities) #3: present tense stories #4: a variety of voices (exaggeration to increase humour helps too!) #5: smile priming (smile with your eyes etc.) #6: punchline pauses #7: Use a "cliffhanger" pause. (Mid sentence) - to not get cut off, have your hand up #8: Be a likeable listener. (“Talk about)

As an introvert, this is the exact opposite of what I want. But I like these videos, so I'll watch.

@bingchilling4717

3 жыл бұрын

Yea but being a better storyteller or being funnier are traits that are useful in life and i think everyone should aim for them

@intj_5398

3 жыл бұрын

Its so hard to be "normal".

@sosickandtiredofalltheneed568

3 жыл бұрын

This is my nightmare.

@cevcena6692

3 жыл бұрын

You should emulate guys like Keanu Reeves then.

@codyh9155

3 жыл бұрын

"Introvert" is just a label, almost nobody is completely introverted or completely extroverted, its a spectrum. Too many people use the label "introvert" to put themsleves into a tiny box that they have to exist inside. They use it as an excuse every time the get nervous. Guess what? Extroverts are nervous too, they just force themselves to do it until the skill develops, just like it would for any classic "introvert". If you dont want to be the comedian center of attention like Jamie thats fine, but dont expect to become a charismatic magnetic individual if you cant talk, listen, and tell stories with confidence.

I've been using these tips, especially the hand gesture ones, in my KZread videos and I have felt a huge boost in my confidence and energy. It's much more draining to fake energy than being actually active and in the moment.

This guys channel is way better than any “self help pickup artist romance guru”

@codemiesterbeats

Жыл бұрын

It is sound advice it seems. I am usually skeptical about 'self help' type gurus but this channel and Coach Corey Wayne are the only ones I really watch

Instead of asking things like "did that feel good?" Ask "how did that feel?" Open ended questions about people's feelings on certain things, especially positive things, will bring a lot more interest and emotion to your conversations.

@C_The_Guy

2 жыл бұрын

dont be afraid to spice up your questions by injecting your opinion or observation. say for instance, if you were to say “thats crazy! that must have felt good right?” you give the person the impression that you are actively listening and in tune with the mood of the story, and that you are engaged in the conversation. and one of the easiest ways to build this reflex as a listener and engage people effortlessly is by putting yourself in the person’s shoe’s within the story, and it will automatically begin to trigger your own reaction to the situation. like, if a person is telling a story about being late for work, try to imagine yourself in their position, also being late for work, and you’ll be more in tune with the story as its told, giving more engaging responses. there is right time to do this, and a right time to leave responses and questions more open ended, and knowing the right times just comes from experiencez

@ABandCalledStoned

2 жыл бұрын

If you have to ask...know that you failed. ;)

Good Energy is Contagious. Your energy introduces you before you speak 🖖

@TylerTheMonk

3 жыл бұрын

100%

LOOOOOOOOOVE JAMIE!!! I’ve met him a few times in my lifetime and he’s the most consistent human I’ve ever met!

The burn with no heat thing is interesting... I’ve definitely said things before which have had too much heat and wondered why the convo took a weird turn where people have to say ‘noo that’s not true ’ or something 😅 love these videos

@BlackMarketBaby

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, agreed. If the 'no heat' part wasn't emphasized so much I guarantee that many people (including myself) would have attempted this with a comment that either came across as fishing for a compliment or self-hatred, both of which can make people very uncomfortable instead of at ease.

@ABandCalledStoned

2 жыл бұрын

I usually agree. :) Lol

Successful people don't become that way overnight. What most people see at a glance-wealth, a great career, purpose-is the result of hard work and hustle over time.

@tianalucas8147

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah! I agree with you sir.If you want to be successful have the mindset of the rich, spend less and invest More. Don't give up your dreams.

@juliagoncalves4082

2 жыл бұрын

@@tianalucas8147 People come here with the aim of chasing money more than knowledge and that will damage your progress, trust me. Chase knowledge first and I promise! The money will follow you just like it's following some of us now.

@sabrinaslime4493

2 жыл бұрын

@@juliagoncalves4082 That's very correct And that is why most of them end up losing they money don't be in a haste to invest. Know what and who you are investing to and be sure that the person will deliver before I n v e s t I n g. Learn and get the knowledge first before investing..

@sabrinaslime4493

2 жыл бұрын

People wants to do what the 99% does but wants to get results that are fit for the 1%, but it doesn't work that way

@JuanVillegas.

2 жыл бұрын

@@sabrinaslime4493 Investment is the quickest path to financial freedom, the rich stays rich by spending like the poor yet investing! While the poor stays poor by spending like the rich yet not investing.

I used to be a very naturally charismatic person. I nearly completely forgot about all the slight mannerisms I had, thanks to depression, covid, a lot of hard things that a lot of hard people face. I’ve been going through your videos like pringles haha. But really, good stuff from y’all thank you; I see improvements already!

@camhaw

Жыл бұрын

You can get back to your old self, Alec! That's who you truly is, a naturally charismatic person! Remember that!! Live life fully, funny, and beautifully! Be well!

@alecrodriguez5037

Жыл бұрын

@@camhaw aww thank you random person, that’s so sweet! 🥲

@cycy9154

4 ай бұрын

Hard people need not proclaim themselves as such.

Radiating gratitude is the strongest force there is ❤️🌟

The snap of the Spanx at 3:37 was when I remember losing it when I originally saw this interview. Jamie is one of the most talented people in the world; stand up comedian, improv comedian, producer, singer, songwriter, Oscar-level actor, and one of the best storytellers I've ever heard. What I like most about him is no matter how big he is, he treats other celebrities like he is a fan of theirs. He never takes himself too seriously and is not afraid to fan-boy in front of his peers whose work he really enjoys.

The hand expression technique is genius because I get cut off so frequently so I’m used to the habit of saying less. Now I’m confident enough to hold out my stories and explanations longer, thanks 😎

@aktp4796

2 жыл бұрын

For me it’s a balancing act between this and also keeping your points concise and not feel like you’re just rambling.

@tperk

2 жыл бұрын

Keep your hand out there so you can reach out and slap the person trying to interrupt you

@abbyd254

Жыл бұрын

@@tperk This made me actually laugh out loud 😂

@HayStellEm

10 ай бұрын

​@@abbyd254Same 😂

1. Set a Playful tone 2. Use self Burns (but nothing that can hurt you feelings) 3. Tell stories with different voices (Don't forget to use a story gap first.) 4. Use Cliffhanger Pauses (in the middle of the sentence, and leave your hand up to let them know you're not done.) 5. Be a likeable listener, (ask Talk About Questions, Mirror)

So as a young boy and well into my early 20s, I used to be shy around new people and would have a difficult time "braking the ice" and starting up a conversation. I would actually become very defensive and would push people away...but the truth was, I wanted to relate to people and be more social...then, one day I decided to just be more spontaneous and use humor as a way to start up a conversation, I also developed the ability to "adjust on the fly" and change my tone or how "serious" I was given a particular scenario. I'd also poke some fun at myself and that was my way to say "hey, it's all good, we probably have more in common than we may think...let's talk." I noticed changes immediate and I now am able to relate to others, I am more confident, etc...little did I know that those "tricks" are actually taught and used by even celebrities. I can totally relate to this video and how Mr. Fox is able to engage others with just his "silliness."

Great Person as well away from the cameras. he offered a passenger or asked for a passenger to get an upgrade like they airlines were going to do for him. He didn't ask for one and he was on his way home from Vegas show. We all were in line and when the crew asked him if he would want to go with them he can have first class, but then for a few minutes when Jamie asked for that request, they ended up, upgrading the both of them. I did hear that he doesn't like to fly and rather have a limo ride for 5-hours to Vegas, it was cool to see him twice on a flight and not screaming: I AM JAMIE FOX. just seems he wants to fit into the crowed for conversations. Great Man, Great Comedian, Great Singer, Great Actor and even a better family man. I am blessed to know in my lifetime people that really care for people. One if them is Jamie Fox. Now if he could just learn to ride a bicycle, maybe I wouldn't mind riding with him. Ha Ha

@keiraadolph442

2 жыл бұрын

Hello Steve you can manifest anything,with the help of Dr James, Mr James techniques are the best in Manifesting and blockage of negative energy..

@keiraadolph442

2 жыл бұрын

Send him a message on hang out

@keiraadolph442

2 жыл бұрын

Drjamesspellz 65

Man i just found this channel and this is DOPE! These are the EXACT things I do when I talk to people but I've learned wayyyy more tips that I will implement. Good job fam. 👊🏾

I love these videos. They're my daily go-to to feel good and hope I can be a stronger person. Thanks for bringing me this feeling 💚

He also makes immediate eye contact. He never puts his head down unless he is joking or laughing. This puts you at ease right away because it takes away the element of being surprised by your audience through head down and up approaches.

I’ve been so lonely for the past 2 years and I’m tearing up because I think this video has given me hope I’m being able to talk with people again, wish me luck :)

Man I've just came upon your channel in the last few hours and I've went on a binge watch since then. Love your channel and advice !! It definitely helps me and I enjoy watching and hearing your ideas and perspective of how to do things. I can have super bad anxiety traits when it comes to conversation and I find your advice very relieving and enjoyable! Any videos on how to act correctly and charismatic around those you're attracted to? When you have horrible social skills and are anxiety ridden?

@ErinGtruthteller

Жыл бұрын

I also need this. Pretty sure I just messed stuff up with my crush due to this 🤣

I love your channel! I love learning about psychology, and your channel is so amazing. Helps me a lot in my daily life ♡

i've always liked jamie foxx but he really does seem like a charismatic genius here

@Senju__

3 жыл бұрын

Seriously agreed

@paulwitmer4611

2 жыл бұрын

I think this is more important today because our young people have submerged conversational skills I guess due to texting and emailing?

@thelegenda8462

2 жыл бұрын

@@paulwitmer4611 this...

@thelegenda8462

2 жыл бұрын

how are young people going to improve their social skills if they don't put themselves out there?

I’m watching this and noticing my speaking habits, and how I could change and add things to it from this video. KZread really got people out here learning

Bruh how Jamie not have a prime time nightly talk show. He’d easily be the best since early Conan.

@lorianderson7205

Жыл бұрын

Love Jamie 💓

@bogdanalindaragiu1314

Жыл бұрын

they never push forward someone that is too good, because it puts others into a mediocre light.

@kathifuller5332

Жыл бұрын

@@bogdanalindaragiu1314 That makes no sense. The networks will push anyone they think will drive ratings, which Jamie certainly would. But why would he walk away from a profitable, multi-million-dollar career as a movie star, singer, and comedian to become a nightly talk show host? The pay and prestige would be significantly lower. It would be career suicide for someone like Jamie.

@buzzard720

Жыл бұрын

@@kathifuller5332... Take a few mins to reach the realisation... no rush..,.

@bogdanalindaragiu1314

Жыл бұрын

@@kathifuller5332 you would think it makes no sense, but on the bigger picture it does. It's like all stores have one type of snickers and one of them decides to add multiple types to his store and only he has a provider for it. Others would be getting angry for lack of clientele.

Great breakdown, now let’s see who’s gonna apply this information irl. Gonna be some serious script planning for what Jamie and many others do naturally. You get good at what ever you’re focused on most of the time. Jamie is focused on friendships and good vibes in social experiences. That’s where charisma begins. It’s not forced, it’s genuine.

I ALWAYS enter every meeting with ‘Hello Beautiful People!’. All the way up to the owner, they love it and it sets the tone for the day. I’m not a manager but people look to me for guidance. But that’s a whole other story, learning to defer to those with knowledge

@8675-__

2 жыл бұрын

You stold that! From "Leave Everything and wander"....Italian couple about to have first baby in Italy.

@izzojoseph2

2 жыл бұрын

@@8675-__ - no. I don't even know that movie but I assure you, at 55, unless it's a friggin' old movie, they got it from me. I've been doing that for decades, since around 1994 or 5.

@izzojoseph2

2 жыл бұрын

@@8675-__ I wrote '...at 55...' - meaning I'm 55 and have been doing it since my early 20's

CAN I ADD ONE? ☺️ look at his eyes and lips. He always speaks with humor in his eyes and a slight smile like he’s holding back laughing. Psychology shows, if someone is holding emotion, it causes the audience to feel the emotion more (most of the time). That’s why comedians hold themselves back. Or seeing someone’s face twitch before crying makes the audience cry. Fox’s eyes have a stare, and the way he positions his mouth, is great for voice and tone for maximum effect. Great video

I wasn’t looking for this type of video but I loved it! I have many of these behaviors already but I could fine tune them. Thank you for this🙌💞

you do a really great job of explaining what is on screen. I like it because I can clean or do other daily chores while listening to very clear explanations.

Jamie Foxx was a sponsor for my overseas (american) football team. He gave us the greatest pep talk before our playoff game. Really awesome guy and i think you have his public persona down to a T

@truthseeker881

3 жыл бұрын

Did you win the game ?

@FloJoBurger

3 жыл бұрын

@@truthseeker881 yes but not the final :(

it's funny how being an introvert I managed to develop all these things and are instictive now just because I paid attention to reactions and facial expressions. I always had to overcome my anxiety and in time it got to a point now where it is instinctive. Reading a lot of books helped as well, not for their knowledge per se, but the multitude of words that stuck in my brain help a lot towards expressing myself better.

As I'm normally the center of attention in parties this is a great place to check myself, reflect on myself, be a more true person, I haven't been listening too much last half year. Thanks for reminding me I should. It's not only for introverts. Extroverts, like me, can check themselves if they want to please other people and have everybody involved in the conversation. Having a good story with some good skills, like me, doesn't make your charismatic imho. Listening, like you just reminded me of, does that more. Being interested is more interesting then trying to be interesting. Thanks for the reminder, humility and what not.

If you ask me what's better than Jamie's social kills, id tell you the editing on this video. This is impressive work.

As a fellow comedian with a background in sales and giving love presentations, this is all true and good information. I do this naturally but I also studied, and still study comedian’s delivery.

Jamie Foxx is a walking genius that is humble. Here's a guy that's got so much talent that you could be intimidated and he makes you feel like you're at home in this house in his presence. Freaking amazing

I so agree with this video. Never really thought about it but I've been practicing some of the things spoken about in this video for many years.

Remember he was a comedian first on In Living Color so this all comes naturally to him. Mega talented man

Once I tried to be the person I want to be, rather than doing what I thought others would respond to, I became much more popular. We can't control others but be can control ourselves. Take thier thoughts, which you don't know anyway, out of the equation. See your life as a series of funny stories, a few bad ones, and life is so much more fun and interesting that " THEY" will be drawn to your energy. But who cared what they think, right? Almost every time I feel bored or frustrated, I ask myself if I am doing this because I want to , or am I people pleasing. Spot checking teaches you how much of your life you life for strangers.

I think it's a great idea you included that commented problem about applying what you talk about but also going over success stories

Could you do a charisma breakdown of Ali Plumb of BBC1? He is always commended by the celebrities he interviews and his conversations are always fun to watch.

I love Jamie Foxx, love to watch him talk, he is extremely charismatic and his interviews show he is amazingly talented

It's awesome channel. Every time I watch these videos I'm inspired and charged to try all these things. Thank you for your work!

Awesome. Love people like Jamie Fox. I'm learning that I already possess these skills naturally and I'm curious to learn more and improve on them. Much appreciation. Thank you my friend. Peace, Love, Namaste

You do the best personality analysis down there bro.

I love your videos! For someone who has struggled with social anxiety from childhood, your advice is invaluable. I do wish you used more examples from charismatic women. Please consider looking into that.

Eye contact and listening. Really listening. For example, if someone at work mentioned their dog's health, ask again later down the road how their dog is doing? Like be present to people, be engaged. Treat everything like their life is important to you as well. Being non judgemental is also a good way to connect with people. Be well friendos.

Great video! Just being genuine and listening intently will have the biggest impact, in my opinion.

Jamie Foxx is an incredible actor. Very profound and inspirational. Shout out from Jamaica.

Bro, this content is simply amazing. Keep it up.

Wow! I just happened across your video with Jamie Fox. I am impressed with him and his approach with people (I always saw him, not as a clown, but acting to get a laugh. I am glad that I learned he has much more depth). Also impressed with YOUR explanations and tips throughout the video. One of the best uses of KZread that I have seen. Looking into your Charisma University. I wish I knew about you 30 years ago..

This video is just plain awesome!!!! Simple things that can be improved on just by practicing. Thank you very much for this !!!!!!

I do the cliffhanger thing all the time in conversations purposely for dramatic effect, but I find people start acting like “spit it out girl!” 😂 I think it’s different if you are an influencer.

@joshuabryan7451

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Maybe it's the timing and frequency.

@Leo_de_janeiro

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its a classic manipulation tool, but its tricky, it doesnt works "invisible"... there are other tools i would prefer.

Just sprayed a canister of dry ice onto my left arm, didn’t improve my charisma even though I now have a massive cold burn. Wtf man?

@AxxLAfriku

3 жыл бұрын

I don't have any friends because they are ashamed of the videos I upload. Are they really that bad, dear monju

@jalenhackett2480

3 жыл бұрын

@Monju Inc. Bruh that joke was straight Boo Boo water how long did it take to come up with it because that joke wasn't it 🤔🤔🤔

@josephcrespo7822

3 жыл бұрын

@@AxxLAfriku I really wish i hadn't clicked on your channel. I went on a song marathon and now i cant get he she me bee out of my head

@AA-xb2zm

3 жыл бұрын

But you do have a nice conversation starter

@paulwitmer4611

2 жыл бұрын

Explain?

A couple years ago my life completely changed and suddenly people began reacting to me differently. Aside from learning to be self-loving and self-confident without being an arrogant person (took me almost 4 decades to learn the difference), I found myself being crazy magnetic to people like never before. I'm almost 40! 😳 But this helps me to understand what I was doing right. I thought I was just learning to really love myself and other people. But I still believe that's a main foundational factor. But understanding what is that play helps me a lot.

Thanks for your work and especially final part, even it wasn't the main theme.

When you invite people to talk about themselves - carte blanch, they tend to take control and assume thereafter that you're passive. And they will subsequently talk over and interrupt you. You have to become quite assertive to compete with them. I've never found this to be a good tactic.

I think these videos are fab. Thank you so much for helping people understand that we all have the power, somewhere or other, and we are more confident than we think. I would like to see a few more examples using ladies as there is still, unfortunately, a slight difference in our approaches to confidence and the expectation of our audiences. Aside from this, well done and thank you again, positivity is the best medicine.

@LiveHappy76

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Marry me, Lisa! Lol...aw, just trying to use a fun way to say that you made and shared a great comment. Thank you!

Is Jamie watching this? Cuz this is so true. I always wondered why I liked him so much without him being a Dave Chappelle or Bruno Mars or Denzel Washington, but just ever so close competition to all of them. Just amazing

Thanks, this reminds me just to be more positive and happy and share that more. Covid really locked down my joy and confidence.

It seems as if most of these tactics require a decent ability to “read a room” upon entering. Like the “Talk about” questions... you are going to have to be able sit back for a few mins to how people react to a variety of topics....then get them to expand on key points of theirs in a nonchalant way.

@LiveHappy76

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With Jimmy Kimmel, it looks like he deliberately read up on Kimmel before appearing on his show, unless just by chance through generic news, he got that personal information....

Power pauses and making people talk about themselves is key. Also, that slightly self-deprecating humor is disarming to others, allows the slightest dash of humblebrag without being overt, and makes others feel confident. Win-win.

Enlightening. Numerous, powerful lessons and skills for me to practice. I have a whole new level of respect for him and interest in observing him far more than I ever have. HOWEVER, I wouldn’t be mentioning these things if the breakdown wasn’t made as well as it is! It made powerful points backed with specific examples that even I could grasp, as well as making it very interesting to keep my attention (difficult for me with ADD). Thanks for another meaningful video!🙏🏻

7:18 Dude that raising the palm gesture for giving the listeners a hint that the pause doesn't mean that m done speaking, its such a hack!.Amazing that is definitely coming in handy

Seriously man, you've helped me a lot.

This is beyond charisma. This is a way of life. Love this channel.

@LiveHappy76

Жыл бұрын

Love your screen name!

Thank you. Your content is full of useful knowledge.

I bet you Jamie will watch this video and be like....."Oh, I do that? Cool!"

smiling when you enter a room helps so much. if you won’t do anything else, do this

The most underrated person in Hollywood, Jamie Fox.

One very important thing which isn't even mentioned: Jamie is totally in the experience -> meaning his gestures are like being in this experience. What for oneself may seem a bit 'overacting' in that very second of telling a story is actually very helpful.

I know this is Charlie's' channel but it sounded (almost, vocally) and felt like a Sean Evans (First we Feast) masterclass... as Sean blows away his guests, even ones who KNOW his MO, by his ability to lead his guests into places not often spoken about but fun... not drab or difficult spots... great listeners mostly keep quiet, make eye contact... and then feed off the story and in moments when the "guest" gives a pause... can play off of what what just said with a genuine excitement/appreciation for the reveal. I do think "comedian first" and improvisational actors have a still that is partly natural and definitely also honed. Also, I used to lose people until I did hard, mid sentence pauses and used my hands and gestures... helps keep interest stoked in a longer story. Nice vid!

Jamie is 90% goofy and 10% serious. Unless you are an entertainer, going anywhere near that level of charisma that often, is gonna fail. So embrace your inner Jamie, but reign it in. :)

@evanbelton1297

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Exactly. Same thing applies to Ryan Reynaolds. I'm more in line with Ryan naturally. I've always had that way of speaking since a child before I ever seen him in a movie. Very few people like it.

@paulvicentevcurimao5596

Жыл бұрын

I've done the silent confidence, face your interviewee and maintain eye contact and use talk about. However, for me, its is so hard to do this on a constant/ daily basis. Even now, after many years, i still struggle to apply these. It actually works but i still struggle.

So I’m a people person and I love meeting new people, talking etc but my entire childhood I was really shy and although I’ve broken out of most of that. I still have moments where I’m not 100% confident when I’m in public settings with others who I may not be close with. These tips might just be my lifesaver into helping me become comfortable faster :)

This was a GREAT VIDEO!!! Highly Inspiring and Magnetic. Thanks For Sharing.

You have no idea how much I have learnt from this channel, Thank You so much

Love this breakdown! How about one on Hank Moody from Californication . He’s hilarious and very charismatic!

I need to say this again... this podcast is gold.

I'm subscribing just because I already have so many of these skills but feel like I lost practice during pandemic times. It's a good reminder!

Love this video! Can't wait to binge watch them all

These points are exactly on point. I'm extremely charismatic, and these points work time and time again. Excellent video!

@MsDancer5000

2 жыл бұрын

Saying "I'm extremely charismatic" is the exact opposite of being charismatic 🤮 Or is it irony? 😂

These tricks definitely work! Don’t need to be a master in every single aspect, but as long as you know how to implement them.

Oh brother. “In our next video, becomes more like Superman. 1. Leap tall buildings in a single bound. 2. Use your X-ray vision. 3. Bend steel in your bare hands”

you guys chose great clips to showcase his personality, all of a sudden i want to get up and walk around and get the people going !

Thank you. Really appreciate seeing this with Jamie as the subject. And even with all of his accolades, I still think he is not appreciated for the amazing human, flaws and all, he is.