You changed my life. I exercise. I live alone. I get out of bed and make my bed everyday. Thank you.

My ten rules for a happy life: 1 - Accept the life you’ve been given. 2 - Strive to make the things you can’t do, happen. 3 - Learn to seek out and enjoy “down” times 4 - Breathe. 5 - Celebrate the little things because the big things take too long to come, if ever. 6 - Realize and accept things you can’t do. 7 - If you fall, get up, dust yourself off, and try to do it another way. 8 - There will be times of deep sorrow and wanting to give up. Let those times happen, Cry, stomp, punch, get angry, and then move forward. Don’t remain in the sadness. 9 - Realize there are many things you can still do, that you may think you can’t. 10 - Laugh, a lot.

@HighTen_Melanie

4 жыл бұрын

Matthew Wilson Breathing should always be at the top of the list for obvious reasons. 😉 x

@adityamohan85

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you, god bless you. Lots of love and respect from india.

@tanishxox

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this Mr. Wilson really brightened my day!

@matthewwilson9749

3 жыл бұрын

@@tanishxox it works for me. I am really happy it made you have a better day

@sanusafalya4335

3 жыл бұрын

Great

Richard I suffer from treatment resistant depression. It has really gotten worse in the past two weeks. I find making myself go outside for at least 30 minutes every day helps. It doesn't matter if it is only to the porch. I have started taking Vitamin D.

I really appreciate your videos like this. Being kind to yourself is very important, yet sometimes so hard. Especially when you're tired, during this quarantine my sleep patterns have been all over the place, midday naps happen daily and lack of motivation and increased screen time have all been adding to the difficulties, I'm sure I'm not alone. At least we have great content like this to inspire us, thanks Richard 😊

I don't even know how I discovered your channel, I'm not in a wheelchair but I do suffer from mental health issues. I just love your videos, for so many reasons: you have a way of talking that is incredibly clear (English is not my first language), you talk about mental health without taboos, you comfortable talking about your body, you have a personality that is just really charming. You're the representation of healthy manhood.

Someth8ng that has always gotten me through is finding one thing to hold on to. A dream, a person, a hobby, a memory. Anything. Just find something, and hold onto it

Thank you for the great advice! I thought I was the "only" one with such bad major depression symptoms and even kept it from my therapist out of embarrassment. Extreme lack of self-care, hiding away in bed for months, extreme sadness and anger, not feeling anything at all. Anything and everything negative. June 19, 2020 will be 35 years in a wheelchair, lost a good friend this month, and this year, I'm turning 50. These must have been triggers for this depression "come back." I'd like to offer some examples from experience. 1- Although depression seems permanent, it is not. Some thing, big or small, therapy, medication, or even a sudden realization will eventually break the cycle. 2- Depression is not you. It is a disorder that is affecting you. It is probably normal to not be happy about a major life loss. Many people will experience clinical depression without a negative event. Realize the depression is not who you ARE but is like any other disorder, something affecting your functioning. 3 - It may come back, even years later. But you'll know it's fleeting and something breakable, whatever your strategy. 4 - Don't compare yourself to others. Experience your own life in your own context. People, out of good intent, will say things that will make you feel worse. Take it with a grain of salt. Some examples: 1- "There's always someone worse off than you." This statement depreciates YOUR feelings. You are the who feels like sh*t. (Does thinking about people worse than them make them feel better? I doubt it.) 2 - "You just have to try harder." You are already doing the best you can. If you could do better, you wouldn't have depression. 3 - "You look good." They are either not observant or straight out lying in attempt to make you feel better. But again, it trivializes your suffering. Take this only as my personal experience. It may or may not apply to you.

Dude, it’s a crime that this video is hidden in the old vlogs section, this is a gem, one of your best! I find myself back here again, listening to a solid bit of advice, from a dude who’s been through some tough times. Perfect video. Thanks again

What really helped me to change the way I think from a negative way to a more positive way towards myself is to journal. I started it as a way to get my emotions out and break that endless cycle of the same thoughts going around in my head, and I found myself writing myself out of it and coming to a (more) positive conclusion. Then I would write one page every day about something I’d learned about myself or something I did well from a mental health standpoint, always in a positive way, writing to myself in an encouraging way, a bit like reparenting, so what would I have wanted a parent to have told me. I’ve been doing that for nearly half a year and it has really changed how I think and that change has been a huge help for me in this crisis, I was surprised and so grateful at how well I was handling all this. Hope this helps someone.

@nezaroobest7139

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you

As someone who gets depressed bcause they have a hard time work out due to heart related issues and has to lay in the floor after every shower they take because they will faint. This video has reminded me to take life one day at a time.

i needed this a rough few weeks being alone your advice really helps lv the painting in the background depression is a huge demon it helps knowing your not alone great advice

I am battling with Apple to use two devices. I lost all contact nearly with my 2300 followers and all games. No access to gmail or cash app. Today I found this iPod, broken screen but I saved it. What kept me going was my roommate singing to me Nd my few friends encouraging me. I am Aunt Churchy and I lost all hope and faith. People need to look for us who are sad or depressed. It may take many tries but we can change. Thank God for those who never lost faith.

This is the best l've ever heard! I'm a nurse, for psychic healthy especially! My teachers didn't know to tell what depression is half as well than what l heard from you! To have hygiene in psychic is as important as in physical things! And to smile to oneself is right, too! One muse have a number of a person you can call day and night if needed! That can be a lifesaver! And: away with wearing only black clothes! That . makes . sad! Colours, fresh colours for the best, help, too! And: talk to someone! Doen't matter what, but talk! Move! Sports in any way help! And, last not least: go on fresh air every day, min. 15 minutes! Best is in every day! You are not alone! Don't hide, show you are there! And find the people ho love you. There are some! See a do! Be blessed!

Awe thanks I got really bad recently and started to make bad choices and I got threatened to get the cops and get put into the hospital. I need someone like this thanks

Thank you! I can connect with everything you spoke about. A shower a day really helps me too, both with depression and anxiety, but also with chronic pain, which exacerbates everything else.

My one tip for surviving depression? Watching awesome people like you kick life's ass. #win

What helped me through one of my lowest points was supernatural’s you are not alone campaign, as well as the always keep fighting one, I come from an environment where people rarely talk about their feelings and I struggled to identify and talk about mine, so seeing people open up about depression, anxiety and their daily struggles in general really helped me accept my own. Thank you for this video.

Can so relate. A year ago i rolled out of the clinic after a bad 6 year depression and 4 suïcide atempts, i whent in for 6 months. I hold on to the same rules u do and 2 more. 1) walk a dog. I have a boxer and it helps me to get out,get active and get some vitamine D 2) cook a Nice healthy meal even if its just ones or twice a week.

i litteraly went throufg the same thing living in filth etc. im glad to see that im not the only one and it CAN change. thank you for this.

I’ve been through shit idk why I’m like thsi I just am. Every day I wanna die- My tips? 1:don’t cut trust me it makes it worse 2:it’s ok to cry about it 3:pray it doesn’t have to be to god even to just your past/future self works 4: music- just put on some music lay down and breathe it calms you 5: don’t keep it I’m Ik Ik it’s hard I didn’t tell anyone for 3 years talk to someone please anyone even someone you met online

Learn to love the small/simple things in life. Stop having unrealistic expectations.

Thank you Richard. This is very encouraging. I’ve been dealing with pretty serious depression and was diagnosed with Manic Depression. Thank you for making these videos.

I got super depressed after my back surgery in 2017. Medically, I couldn’t sweat everyday or do much of the stuff in this video because I could barely move. However, one thing I found helps is feeding yourself well. I found if I had just one meal with good nutritious food in it every day my spirits would lift and I would feel much more ready to face the day, even though it was just lying on the sofa filling time. Once I realised this I would ask whoever was in the house that day to look after me for some good food at lunchtime, usually it was some chicken with a salad on the side. It really helped me. My depression probably had an intense period of about 4 months (it lasted about a month after I returned to school and started being able to actually participate in life again) but I was definitely still depressed and numb/sad for about 9 months. I struggled a lot with the trauma of surgery as a lot of fuck ups by the hospital and being only 13 made the 18 month hellish lead up and the surgery and hospital stay itself a lot more challenging than it should have been. I dealt with my surgery being cancelled, my views as a patient being ignored, a psychologically abusive physiotherapist, other hospital staff putting me in physical pain, and a whole bunch of other things. The surgery situation was still all I could think about for about 2 years after the surgery, it was like my mind was obsessed with it, looking back I don’t think I could process what had happened to me, I would have nightmares and flashbacks. Luckily after about 2 years I began to move forwards a bit, and at around 2.5 years I realised I no longer thought about it everyday and that I finally had some freedom. Sometimes I still get stuck in a rut and the trauma comes back, particularly when my chronic pain flairs up, but it is no longer at the front of my mind. I only began getting access to services this year, the surgery lead to me getting anxious and then due to multiple things I developed a phobia of school and started struggling with school refusal and developed a severe anxiety disorder. I only got six therapy sessions in January from someone who didn’t seem to know what they are doing, I’m now on another waiting list for a better service who are going to try and work out exactly what is going on and get me the relevant diagnosis’s to get the right support and treatment so I guess we will wait and see.

@silkedavid8876

4 жыл бұрын

So sorry to read your story. Sounds like you have PTSD. Glad that you are getting better and I hope the new service will be able to help you.

@peaceonearth351

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, PTSD. Me too. What level of injury are you?

@dan5721

4 жыл бұрын

Papillon I’m not an SCI injury, surgery was fusion to fix a mod/severe scoliosis. It was caused by a condition I have called Marfans syndrome, causes issues with the connective tissue which in my case (because I have Marfans more severely than most people) has caused severe hypermobility. I injure myself very easily, and have picked up quite a few bad injuries in my 16 years particularly in my knees but also my ankles and hips, so they are not as good as they used to be. Due to this I hire a wheelchair if I go to somewhere like Disneyland, because walking and standing for periods like that is very fatiguing and I end up in a lot of pain, but there is a good chance my wheelchair use will increase as I get older because my joints will likely get worse because of the strain they are under every day, it will probably reach a point where I need a wheelchair a lot more often due to pain and movement issues. There is also a chance I will hit more problems with my back because my fusion wasn’t all of my vertebrae (I’m not quite sure which vertebrae are fused) in order to let me grow a little bit more in my torso, and any back surgery I have after these rods does carry an increased risk of a spinal cord injury.

@dan5721

4 жыл бұрын

Silke David thanks, it might have been a diagnosis I would have received during the 2 years after my surgery, I’m lucky in the sense I have been able to progress and get mostly back into life without the help because it just wasn’t there.

When i became a t10 paraplegic, it didnt really seem bad to me as im one who accepts whatever is thrown at me. Was it hard ? yes. Did i get depressed ? Yea, maybe a little. But i was just busy with my business. That was tough. And i knew no one else in a chair. So years later i found and joined a few local groups. I got involved in ada and accessable issues. But to be honest, whenever i felt sorry for myself i just thought of those who were worse off than myself. I didnt like doing it but it kept me straight. Once i was at a forum at the state capital at a rally. You really see what disabled really covers. Stunning. Then at the forum i saw an indiviidual who was really disabled. I started to cry and i felt a huge massive wave of shame come over me. Since then i dont have pitty parties. I dont get deppressed. I dont get anything but thankfullness im alive. Being alive should be enough. You are doing well and i hope you continue to be posative. Also continue to help others, this is priceless !

Comment number 100... its a very apropriate and needed name for a video. Dishes. Bedding. Communicating. And i matter. I needed this video at 3 am . At minimum i can say tips are on point. This really made me feel good Thank You

I love your outlook on depression. This video honestly helps. I also have never heard it described so accurately. One thing that most people tend to overlook when talking about depression is the fact that you immediately stop doing the little things like taking care of your self properly. I can't realy "make" my bed every morning because I sleep Japanese style. I think ill substitute #1 with cleaning my room.

Keeping a daily routine helps me stay positive. Stay safe and keep pushing!

I sometimes use a SAD light, even if it is now nice weather and sunny outside, if I cannot motivate myself to go out. Or people might not be able to go and be in direct sunlight during this time. I can literally feel my mood lift and smile.

Wow ! Congratulations !!!

I get depressed. My husband tells me to get over it. He doesn’t realize it’s not easy. So many people take there life for granted. He can get up anytime and go somewhere. I can’t. I’m also half blind and my husband made me quit driving several years ago. And he made me give my car away. Now even if I had a car I wouldn’t drive I don’t feel safe now. It’s difficult when your hurting and can’t walk. I hope once it warms up outside and my husband get me a wheelchair I will be able to go outside for awhile. I need to try and do some exercises so I can gain some strength. I do need to get out of this funk.

@danavalent1588

4 жыл бұрын

I Joan if you don’t mind me asking what state do you live in? If your somewhat near me I can help you with a Wheelchair.

@joanmcgilton5075

4 жыл бұрын

Dana Valent It’s my husbands job to help with things like this. Thank you anyway. He gets side tract and I have to keep reminding him.

One thing I like to do is run a hot bath with lots of nice smelling bubbles light a couple candles (scented if possible) out on some soft music quietly and soak in the bath with my eyes closed and just allow the water wash away the depression

Back again. Not sure you even read these comments anymore, but this video is evergreen ❤

I am not depressed but I have some really bad moments. I feel that nobody cares about me. I don't have any friends. People never call me. If I did not call people I would never talk to anyone. Sometimes I'm wondering what's wrong with me. Why do people not reach out but I am the person who has to take the first step ALL THE TIME?

@revnv590

4 жыл бұрын

@@elliekusa65 Thank you so much for your reply. It meant the world to me.

The biggest advice I can give is your emotions your feeling is valid you shouldn't feel ashamed of them. Your body is trying to communicate to you. Listen to it, it's not a weakness its your greatest strength. Have a wonderful day/afternoon/night. Stay safe.

All great tips Richard.

I'm on Lexapro. It takes selfcare. Making your bed is crucial.

Great tips! This is a very important thing to talk about especially with this virus! For people with disabilities like me, this time can be hard!

This video is one of your best Richard! Highly underrated and I find myself revisiting it every now and again, even when I’m not depressed, just for a daily motivation boost. Thanks man ❤️

@Wheels2Walking

4 жыл бұрын

🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻

Thanks for this. I am struggling to get through these steps but I will try to get started and make these a daily habit.

Great advise man!

Thanks for the tips. I find it difficult at times and just don't feel like doing anything. You're right, just doing the little things do make you fell better!

Thank you for your words of advice Richard, great video :)

You're an amazing guy to have come through this you're a true inspiration xx

Thank you so much for the tips on dealing with depression I know they will help me 😌

Totally needed this tonight.

I love you man, you're absolutely right!

Great tips 👍 thank you for making this video

Hey Richard, thanks for the video

Leaving my fourth comment on this video, as I always revisit it when needed. Such easy tips, why are they so hard to follow sometimes? Appreciate you my dude, I hope you are well ❤

You are so impressive and important for motivation.

Ty 🙏

Cant wait another video

Sorry, made it to step two before my WTF, chronically ill!-alarms went off. Making my bed is spoons I’d reserve for bette things. Showering/taking a bath is way too many so it’s mostly washing myself in the sink. Jokes aside, my main tip for kicking depressions butt is setting tiny goals that come with a reward. Like playing that silly Facebookgame where you have to get up at 7am to pick your tomatoes or they go rotten. Or play pokemon go on your mobile and make sure you do all the things on your daily list to get your rewards. They little things that kickstarta a routine. Because in order to be have energy to catch that first darn Chansey each morning you need coffee to get awake. And to make coffee you need to put on clothes or you’ll freak the neighbours out.. Small things and the domino effect.

What to go Richard ,think positive

At the moment my depression is ok and I think it's because my depression is worse around other people and in places like school etc. I think I have been diagnosed with clinical depression a and some sought of anxiety but the main focus of my psychology sessions was to get me out of a dark patch. Idk maybe me not having left the house for 2-3 weeks is a sign of deep depression but I have been so relieved by the expectation to socialize that is desguises it. I think I'm realizing that being introverted doesn't help with depressing and I guess you could call it social anxiety. It interesting because atleast the people that I know or watch are not liking quarantine and feeling depressed by it but for me it's more anxiety that's drives me at the moment not depression, makes it hard to navigate life in a completely different way at the moment. Oh and I'm meaning covid-19 related anxiety, it's different.

I also sustained a spinal cord injury just like you. I know exactly what your talking about

Music always helps me get out of a funk......

For some like me I find making my bed more stressful!

You are doing perfect. If to put it all in a few words The way is olways close to you, just look around 🤗🤗

Good job; succint. Probably the tip I would add you did subconciously and that was to do something Creative. Being creative is a left turn out of the funk and is that vacation from the chores of life and finding something you are in control of, your view, your choice. It can be super small or big; built mastered over time and personal. Pick your own colors, medium, scale, thought you can/can't maybe get out any other way.

Im watching this video because im madly in love with a guy i meet twice, on a disabled mate dating sight, i want to try to understand hm , because he seems to of given up , and thinks he cant do anything,

yo guys living the crisis well done - you survived yourself Sleep on the floor, listen to gamma (40hz) and eat healthy food. Good luck friends

Have you ever thought of going to rehab places and talking to newbie wheelchair users ?

What are some anti depressants that work.? Ty Richie

I was just thinking about a "Wheels2Walking" Facebook Group where we can communicate with each other and encourage each other as well as ask questions. Thoughts?

💢If you (or someone you know) needs help immediately, please contact 💢 www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org 800-273-8255

I think the gut is very important also. Take care of the bowels and what one puts in their bodies.

Please put subtitles on your video to make it accessible to everyone.

@Wheels2Walking

4 жыл бұрын

Sorry about that, the caption company took a little bit longer this time. They’re ready now 👍🏻

@gracet4444

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you

Hey there buddy I have also a perfect merch for you to put on your website if they try to put like a phone cases of temporary could be iPhone 8 Old bunch of phones that whatever you can come up with if my idea but I'm sharing it for you to help you out

Can i ask why my post was deleted ??

I love your videos so much but you only talk about wheelchair users that have spinal cord injuries like I am a wheelchair user and I have Ehlers-danlos syndrome so causes chronic pain and chronic dislocations so I have a hard time talking for a while but I never had a traumatic experience to cause me to be in my wheelchair so I just think you should be a little more inclusive especially because you make educational videos

A reminder for all of you: if you have a bad day, it‘s ok but even on the worst day ever get your „Top 3 things“ done which are: eat a good meal, drink enough and get in the shower! That helped me through the worst days.