How to Stop Seeking Male Validation Part 2.
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As human beings, seeking validation and acceptance from others is a natural inclination, especially from those we admire or respect. Women, in particular, often rely on male approval as a measure of their worth and value. Society has conditioned us to believe that our self-esteem is tied to the opinions and attention of men. However, seeking validation from others is not a sustainable or healthy way to build self-esteem.
To break free from this dependency on male validation, it's important to practice self-love and self-care. Take care of your physical, emotional, and mental health by engaging in activities that make you feel good about yourself. Surround yourself with positive influences, and stay away from toxic relationships and environments that make you feel unworthy or undervalued. Focus on your strengths and accomplishments, recognize your own worth and value, and don't let anyone else define it for you. Remember that true validation comes from within. Believe in yourself and trust your own instincts, and you will find that the need for external validation diminishes over time. By doing so, you can build a strong sense of self-worth and confidence without relying on external validation.
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I'll tell my daughter some day that validation from a man is like a McDonald's burger: cheap, unhealthy and available everywhere. Genius!
Very important for all women but especially young women to hear this. Smh 20yr old me needed this talk.
@charliestoolbox
11 ай бұрын
Totally agree!
That’s my goal this year is to start making REAL friends, so tired of worrying about a man & a relationship, so so tired been seeking male validation since 13 now 32 im tired of my own crap 😓. & your so beautiful by the way ❤
@charliestoolbox
5 ай бұрын
Yes, it makes life so much happier, and thank you!
Our mother is mothering ❤
@charliestoolbox
10 ай бұрын
As always!
yo.....you are really good omg😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 the mcdonalds hamburger analogy spot on!!! lmfao. making friends and building community yes yes yes!!!! "sometimes youre not craving male validation youre craving kindness!" I say this all the time omg!!!! get a hobby ldkmkfmkfdmfk omg!!!! i made the worst decisions when i was bored (and depressed.) It's hard to get to this place but the key is not giving up and being imaginative. Your inner child/teenager will thank you!!! Thank you once again for this video and how much thought and care you put into this💞💞💞💞
@charliestoolbox
Жыл бұрын
haha!! yes girl, I lived it and know it. So, I am only giving yall the truth. Hopefully, it will click with more people. Also, I know your friends love you because you give them this wisdom too!!
@nakishawest6263
3 ай бұрын
Cold turkey brought me to your video! I am tied! 😂 thank you Queen for this video ❤.
I’ve been following your IG for the longest and had no idea what you look like. You’re sooo pretty!!! I comment quite a bit on your posts about decentering men. And now that I have done this, I find men very annoying. Lol so at this point, it’s definitely not hard for me to stop seeking their validation because they don’t interest me like they used to.
@charliestoolbox
Жыл бұрын
thank you and welcome!!
I love your content.. it’s so calm and very much needed today for us women
@charliestoolbox
Жыл бұрын
Thank you, truly!
I'm 43 but I'm sit here listening to you like you're my big sis. You have a very wise and comforting vibe. Love the channel. Everything if the best to you sis ❤
@charliestoolbox
10 ай бұрын
Wow, thank you
I can tell you for real that action builds self-confidence. I am still a shy person as I was in high school but in my last 2 years of high school I said that's not what I am going to continue to do (such as not talk to the boys that I like as an example). And I started ACTING the way I wanted. I did that again when I was doing my PhD and had a resident advisor position and had to do a lot more social events. And basically I just did the damn thing. Now when I tell people I AM A SHY PERSON they don't believe. I am still shy but I don't let that stop me and I have developed a lot more self confidence in social situations over the last 20 years.
Some women feel validated when a man makes them feel better than other women.
@charliestoolbox
10 ай бұрын
They shouldn't!
I definitely needed this video. Part 1 as well. I've done some very "pick me" things lately that I'm not proud of. I did start journaling and painting as a hobby. I will get there eventually!
@charliestoolbox
10 ай бұрын
You got this!
So glad I found this channel ❤ I practice validation daily by creating daily voice memo diary recordings. Sometimes the act of saying your feelings out loud has a profound effect on you. Even if you don’t listen to them later, it still feels good to get it out safely without judgement 😊
@charliestoolbox
5 ай бұрын
So happy we are building this community! I love doing this! it's so therapeutic and when I listen to it I realize how what I want or need is purely humanity
You are god sent 😢 you truly are. Thank you so much! I wish you a life of happiness, peace, wealth and everything your heart desires.
@charliestoolbox
Жыл бұрын
I appreciate this a lot!
You are so bomb! I’ve just been binge watching your content & it’s so helpful
@charliestoolbox
7 ай бұрын
I hope it helps! Be on the look out for more content.
Queen you are absolutely phenomenal! Thank you for sharing this! I’m looking forward to watching your other videos. Continued blessings to you!
@charliestoolbox
Жыл бұрын
Thank you, sister! sending you all the love and I am excited to debut more content.
@ajeedapoetreincarnatedquee1431
Жыл бұрын
@@charliestoolbox Thank you for being you!
I loved this video. Men will never be able to tear me down again.
@charliestoolbox
5 ай бұрын
I love this for you!
This was so wonderfully put together. Thankyou💕
You're hands down one of the wisest women I've ever listened to! So spot on... that level of introspection is rare. Thank you.
@charliestoolbox
2 ай бұрын
Wow, thank you!
Thank you so much! I’m happy that for some of them I was already doing them but seeing some new suggestions helps too 💕✨
@charliestoolbox
Жыл бұрын
ayyy!! you are already on it and I love it!
This is the first video that actually helped me
@charliestoolbox
6 ай бұрын
I'm not going to lie, this makes me extremely happy! Keep going!
Thank you
@charliestoolbox
2 ай бұрын
No problem
This had to be the best video on this topic! Very well presented, great and valid points, plus a calming atmosphere. Can you be my therapist?? Lol
@charliestoolbox
9 ай бұрын
haha thank you so much! If I was certified, yes! lol
Thank you for this video! I have a question though. What would you say to a person who has not gotton friends yet or who finds it hard to attach themselves to other girls (and boys😅) and therefore feels lonely most of the time?
@charliestoolbox
Жыл бұрын
Apologies for the late response, I did not see this comment. I would say that you will have to start building the skill of self-reliance until friends gravitate towards you. When I moved to a new city, I would make everything an adventure and eventually I developed so many connections by just being out. Hope that helps!
I have hobbies but am unable to continue these hobbies as they take up too much time and money and I don’t have a car and I can’t make friends..I’m 45..I’m tired..no woman wants to “make friends” at this age..
@charliestoolbox
5 ай бұрын
so...would you like me to confirm your world? because I can and you can stay in that place.
Calling women "guys" is contributing to patriarchy
@charliestoolbox
10 ай бұрын
ok