1. Validate yourself 1:15 2. Say no 2:05 3. Take time for yourself 2:40 4. Know where you're going 3:11 5. Remove toxic people from your life 3:42 6. Stop apologizing 4:11 I hope I could help! :)

@hibasalam3978

3 жыл бұрын

I'm a time traveler too👀

@athena_the_avocado

3 жыл бұрын

Hello fellow time travelers 👀

@Psych2go

3 жыл бұрын

Hello :)

@athena_the_avocado

3 жыл бұрын

Also ty 😁

@supermichaelssecondchannel4342

3 жыл бұрын

Keep up the good work.

“When you say yes to others, make sure you arent saying no to yourself.” -Paulo Coehlo

@NenaLavonne

3 жыл бұрын

♥️♥️♥️

@avymationz7024

3 жыл бұрын

That's why I love Paulo Coelho ❤️

@GoldenMushroom64

3 жыл бұрын

Love that author

@xela5974

3 жыл бұрын

@ HIXHAM Great advice. Thank you for this! 😊🥰❤️

@pammccloskey3633

3 жыл бұрын

So true!

"Putting your wants above someone's needs is selfish.Putting your needs above someone's wants is self-care."

@DragonCat4874

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah it’s true. There is a fine line between unconsciously wielding power in a thoughtless and hurtful way ie ‘I’ll see you when I want!’ and compromise. It can be very upsetting when people close to you suddenly don’t appear to care about having friends, except when it suits them. In this case they are now simply using you, as and when it suits them. Diplomacy and considerate compromise goes a long way, whereas cruel rejection leaves damaged souls in its wake. People pleasers might need to take extra care, not to go to the other extreme and blame their previous agreeableness on the other person - especially if that person could never be considered toxic, was always open to compromise, but had never been made aware they were ever unwelcome in the first place.

@rosegladville1935

3 жыл бұрын

Wow, that's actually pretty clever.

@DragonCat4874

3 жыл бұрын

@@rosegladville1935 Thank you 😊

@rosegladville1935

3 жыл бұрын

@@DragonCat4874 I was talking about what avidha haldar said...no offence but I didn't read your comment. 😅

@DragonCat4874

3 жыл бұрын

@@rosegladville1935 😂 Damn! I was hoping you were a ‘people pleaser!’ 😂 Seriously though, I wasn’t being a ‘narcissist’ (everything has a name these days!) 😂 It was only because it popped up in correspondence to my comment - technical glitch I guess.

“Slowly losing friends is a part of growing up. It’s ok to have less but real ones.” 🙏🏽

@princemichael9128

3 жыл бұрын

You got that right!

@georgianagheorghe8848

3 жыл бұрын

I agree. Nowadays, people like to take advantage of the gullible people pleasers to gain what they want, to manipulate and possess them.

@Moon_lulu

3 жыл бұрын

thank uu

@rosiesarered7433

3 жыл бұрын

It’s ok to have less real friends than more fake ones.

@GamingPIPI

3 жыл бұрын

True and there's only one person left now

When she said you’re just as important as anyone else, I cried

@GamingPIPI

3 жыл бұрын

It's true should always keep it in mind :)

@bmags4188

2 жыл бұрын

Love you ❤️

@simplethings4683

Жыл бұрын

It tugged at my heart too. I have others in my life tell me the same thing but I find that I can't really soak it in to believe what they say. Sometimes, it hits hard when you least expect someone to say "you matter".

@user-op8cg2gu9u

7 ай бұрын

Mee

I’ve been a people pleaser for as long as I can remember. I think part of it is from me being terrified of negative reactions/criticism and not being able to handle them well, so I end up doing what would make others happy to avoid it. I’ve tried getting better at prioritizing myself but it’s really hard…..I feel like my progress always gets reset when the slightest thing goes wrong. Plus my anxiety makes me imagine all kinds of scenarios where someone yells at me for doing something wrong….it’s a pain in the ass and I hate it.

@seanm7539

2 жыл бұрын

I understand

@jenny7380

2 жыл бұрын

Same here..

@pihumatho2289

Жыл бұрын

Yaa I can relate with you

@yemio1005

Жыл бұрын

It’s really hard to shake it, I completely relate. Therapy has helped, it takes time but it really is a great tool

@allacotoi1755

Жыл бұрын

Keep fighting and do not give up. I know it's hard but it's worth fighting for. Growth is never linear.

When I think about myself for 1 second over someone else, I feel selfish.

@Psych2go

3 жыл бұрын

Any advice for someone in your shoes?

@Fatasswatermelon36

3 жыл бұрын

same

@martinaschauvinhold9033

3 жыл бұрын

i feel the same. but now thinking about it I would say that it's okey to put yourself as a top priority sometimes, that does not make u a bad person. Of course it isn't very good being selfish, but sometimes giving some time to yourself can be really helpful.

@bleoof.1011

3 жыл бұрын

Pretty sure there is a thick line between selfishness and self-consciousness 😁. I'm also feeling selfish of my ignorance toward others these days. But when I ask them, to my surprize, they totally understood. It's just different when you're selfless in the first place I guess

@tobz6779

3 жыл бұрын

Same

My social anxiety causes me to worry a lot about the worst possible outcomes of saying "no" to others. It sucks because I end up being treated like a doormat 😢

@221BSam

3 жыл бұрын

Same! 😔

@dlull3539

3 жыл бұрын

Hmm.. I dont have the best advice or qualifications to say that my advice is okay, but... Have you tried, perhaps, listing down all the outcomes you are thinking of on two pieces of paper, on the first one, begin to cross out the ones you wouldnt do, and the second, go through it with someone else you trust and are comfortable with, to see how many outcomes are just you worrying. I hope it helps you to gain confidence to say no ;;

@himinakearokata2228

2 жыл бұрын

same

@jaybomb5638

2 жыл бұрын

I feel the same

@tj3064

8 ай бұрын

Make the decision/choice non biased by using a completely random technique to make your response.. i.e. FLIP A COIN! you place accountability on chance rather than yourself & there's at least a 50/50 chance you'll get to say No rather than 100% chance of saying yes. 😊

“remove toxic people from your life” oh so, basically my whole family?

@Moon_lulu

3 жыл бұрын

both of my parents are toxic.. especially my mom. I really wanted to go outside the house, and breath fresh air...

@itsjjoy

3 жыл бұрын

Same problem here. My mother won't let me do any of those things the video mentioned

@Nobody.Animash

3 жыл бұрын

@@Moon_lulu Samee, but stay strong, you're amazing ❤

@NoRevengeNeeded

3 жыл бұрын

It's hard for teens and young kids but as an adult learn and do not repeat.

@Longliv_resistance

3 жыл бұрын

☹️

Just words of advice: There is only one of you. Don’t change that rare personality to please someone you won’t spend a month with. And you should never have to give up anything that you need to please others! Burt Curtis out!

@natashamudford4011

3 жыл бұрын

Interesting. Ever considered Who you will spend eternity with, and whether or not it would be a good idea to please Him? If you are not a believer in Yahshua (Jesus), if your faith is not in Him as your Lord and Savior, you are failing to please YHWH, the Almighty God. There's going to be a SHTF moment soon. Be ready.

@WhyHeEepy

3 жыл бұрын

@@natashamudford4011 What I’m trying to say is literally take care of/be yourself.

@natashamudford4011

3 жыл бұрын

@@WhyHeEepy Ok, but you mentioned "a person you won't spend a month with," and that's why I brought up eternity. You will be spending eternity somewhere, with someone. These videos are very interesting, but they are very self-focused. I just wanted to take this opportunity to encourage you (and anyone else reading this) to be eternity focused. And there is a sense of urgency to my message. Don't wait.

@GoldenMushroom64

3 жыл бұрын

@@natashamudford4011 tf are you on about? That already happened with COVID

@natashamudford4011

3 жыл бұрын

@@GoldenMushroom64 Covid is a big cluster f*ck. It is a "pull-the-wool-over-their-eyes" moment, not a shtf moment.

I stop pleasing people by: - Having no facebook since Dec 2020 - Doing what I love, and loving what I do - I accept unfavorable circumstances

@adeleisnamedafterme

3 жыл бұрын

Good for you!! Keep it up 💕💕

@Wandaatje12

2 жыл бұрын

Will write your list in my journal and work on it

@jaybomb5638

2 жыл бұрын

Yep

My father had a stupid saying: "You decrease so that others can increase." It led me to do such things as bend over backwards for the wrong people.

@princemichael9128

3 жыл бұрын

You're right, that's stupid!

@Moon_lulu

3 жыл бұрын

the thing is, they don't further explain their "sayings" *sigh. My parents too gave us advices tho some of them worked by 90% of it didn't. I just wished they explained it more rather than just saying their advice.

@princemichael9128

3 жыл бұрын

@@Moon_lulu This is so true. When I questioned my parents, I was told "just do what I tell you."

@Ejejesksjs

3 жыл бұрын

😂 What the heck?! Does he mean that you be "nice" to others by putting them a step forward than you?

@Moon_lulu

3 жыл бұрын

@@princemichael9128 oh so truue :/

Some people are still mad at you because they failed at destroying you. They believe everything is a competition, and will try to sabotage anyone that they perceive as doing or achieving more than them. Be careful who you open up to. Not everyone has the same heart as you. Hope our channel can help you find yourself 🙏

@Moon_lulu

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the reminder!

@shanialindsay7420

3 жыл бұрын

Wow facts. Thanks.

@Katsuco

3 жыл бұрын

Sounds really like me comparing myself to too many people and can't stop anymore

@_nichi_2270

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you 💗

@HowellConsultations

2 жыл бұрын

@@Moon_lulu Pleasure!

Toxic people almost ruined my life completely. Im happy that i got them out of my life :D

@Moon_lulu

3 жыл бұрын

Happy for you!

@mandyarns3856

3 жыл бұрын

Better be alone or in a small circle than be around people who don't take me how i am. Im sooo done with that kinda person's or energy.. The same with a romantic relationship i want someone who really want me like they see me and want mine number or take me out. I want people to look at me as a gift not just a other energy/person. Amen 🙏⚡♥️♥️💯

@amanpreet2005

3 жыл бұрын

👍👍

People pleasing is so exhausting. Glad I can finally realize this and move on from it.

I was a people pleaser when I was younger. I forgot that I had the power all along. I just didn't show it at the time. Gradually, I started to set boundaries and said no more often. I stopped apologizing as well. I cut off all the toxic people after graduating. I decided that I had enough, and I wasn't going to continue to be taken advantage of. I set boundaries. I know when to speak up and say no. I protect my boundaries. I know how to stand up for myself to prevent resentment from building up. Don't be so nice that others start to use your good nature against you.

@perryh.5306

2 жыл бұрын

Great job! Your the type of person I'd actually enjoy to please daily!

Yes! There is a huge difference between doing something out of generosity and sincere desire than obligation and need for approval 🙏

@kingdedede2432

3 жыл бұрын

Well, my problem is that I can't distinguish whether I'm being genuine or if I'm just seeking approval

@katarinabozovic5601

3 жыл бұрын

In my opinion, wanting to please someone in the sense that you want to make them happy even if you have to make some kind of a sacrifice can be genuine, too. Also, being sincerely altruistic doesn't make you immune to people who just want to use that for their own benefit and who ignore your feelings along the way. Speaking from personal experience 😅 While it's always best to be there for others because you truly want to, I think it's also important to keep in mind that there are people who will still appreciate and respect you even if you can't do something for them. On the other hand, there are people who won't actually appreciate you even if you help them, but will like keeping you around just because it's convenient for them. Those people only care about their own feelings and will gaslight you when you try to focus on taking care of yourself. I need to keep reminding myself this in order to stop that kind of people pleasing which leaves me hurt and manipulated by others, no matter how sincere that desire to help others might be.

@hg77777

3 жыл бұрын

So true !

*Ha, um, just got told I'm a people pleaser, then this video shows up. I'm terrified.*

I don’t NEED to be liked, it’s almost like I dislike people so much that I’ll do anything for them to not bother me... basically bullying myself at this point. 😖

@happygailsart4049

3 жыл бұрын

You put it into words!😱

I’m going to stop being a people pleaser and I’ll prioritize myself more often.

@fatematharoo7537

3 жыл бұрын

Yesss!!!! Im so proud of uuuu!!! U can do it!!!

@miirasaika6437

3 жыл бұрын

Amen. I'm rooting for you!

I didn’t realize being the peacemaker between my mom and sister would make me end up with this trait. Also didn’t help my parents only ever cared about me when I accomplished something.

@nicolegenerale

3 жыл бұрын

oh my gosh! same here, now i understand how i got this trait. i was the constant peacemaker between my dad and brother growing up. now it all makes sense....

@himinakearokata2228

2 жыл бұрын

same except with all my friends, no matter the group, the person it was always me and they only cared about me when they either were lonely or needed something

"learn to separate what others think about you from what you think about you" i've been a people pleaser for so long i don't even know how to think for myself. every opinion i've had, i've made, has been based off what other people think. im an empath and that makes it even worse cause i constantly change myself to fit into peoples standards. the more i know someone, the more detailed this "persona" will get. i've kinda forgotten what it feels like to be myself so much so that i don't even know if i have my own personality anymore.

@sakurakushinada3694

2 жыл бұрын

yeah same here tbh 😅

@Christian-kr8ur

Жыл бұрын

I feel this! I actually plan on talking with my therapist about this all today. I very much am someone who goes above and beyond for others and am an empathetic person. If the people in my life aren't happy I am not happy. If people in my life are sad I am sad, etc... I struggle to say no to the people I love out of fear of angering them and or being rejected or both or worse... I am on a path to be kinder to myself and find myself again. I come from a broken home myself and have dealt with physical and verbal abuse. I moved out at 17, I packed all my things into garbage bags and moved in with my grandparents and I have been here since. I am now 24 and have been diagnosed with autism and bipolar disorder as well as with anxiety and chronic depression. I take medication and am a big advocate for self love and just love in general. I always call out gaslighting and manipulation when I see it in play. I firmly believe that everyone is deserving of love. I hope that any of you who are reading this can find the courage and respect to love yourselves and put yourselves first again as I am trying to do so. We need more people encouraging others rather than tearing them down! Much love to you all! Stay strong!

@aisyahsulaiman4424

8 ай бұрын

omg LITERALLY ME

@harmonirivers201

2 ай бұрын

i relate to this so badddd

my people pleasing behaviour is because of child hood trauma , emotional neglect , comparing my self with others , people's criticism, and my sensitive nature 😓

@h.nicolejorgensen2077

2 ай бұрын

AMEN! Same here. Grew up feeling like I was never enough unless I bent over backwards to try to earn love from family. I try still goes on, but maybe if we tell ourselves that we’re enough and important, then maybe eventually we’ll learn we don’t need to give ourselves away to be valued by others? Maybe 🤔??

Another tip i heard: say thank you instead of apologizing For example "thank you for listening to me" instead of "i'm sorry i spam you so much". It changes perspective!

Number 5 really hit home for me. If you’re in a situation where you are surrounded by toxic or negative people, don’t be afraid to step away. Don’t listen to anything negative they say to you. Also, look after yourself. Is there something you’ve wanted to do for a while, but were too nervous or scared to do? Do it. Also, don’t think about the people trying to bring you down. Try to see the positive side in every situation. Change ‘I don’t have many friends’ to ‘I don’t need lots of friends, I just need a few really good ones’. The smallest things can make the biggest difference.

I have been a people pleaser since forever. Last year my teacher showed me a video like this one and said that I had several passive tendencies that she could help me move past. I didn’t think being a people pleaser was bad so I said that it wasn’t a problem. She asked me if I would sacrifice myself to save someone else and I said absolutely. Yesterday I lost a friend that had been taking advantage of me for 6 years and for some reason I feel like I’m in the wrong. Being a people pleaser is my addiction that I can’t get rid of and it’s killing me from the inside out.

@cheersfeb

3 жыл бұрын

Hi, just want to say that you deserve better self love than how you're loving yourself. There's no one else like you in the world, so please cherish yourself. I hope you can healthy way of dealing with other people. All the best

I grew up in a Christian home where I constantly felt like I had to act a certain way to keep my parents happy with me or to make sure they still loved me or was proud of me... now I know why I struggle with people pleasing so damn much. I'm on the journey to recovery. Peace!!

for so long I've mostly said and done things that would make others happy. I always told others and myself that if they are happy, I am happy. I always tried being an uplifter for people and I never wanted to be the reason someone felt sad or any sort of inconvenience. watching this made me realize how much of myself I have put off for the sake of other's happiness. I never really cared much for myself or my well being and mostly just focused on how to make others feel good. I'm still learning and working towards improving myself and finding who I am, but I just wanted to say thank you for helping me recognize my habits. Thank you psych2go

Fun fact: most of Psych2go's viewers are introvert 👉💌👈

@Psych2go

3 жыл бұрын

That's kind of true of majority on KZread!

@eletgres519

3 жыл бұрын

Im a extrovert :P

@AngelA-ym2jz

3 жыл бұрын

Im an ambivert

@MeowMeow-nd3db

3 жыл бұрын

@@eletgres519 cool ^_^

@MeowMeow-nd3db

3 жыл бұрын

@@Psych2go I knew it!💖

POV: You are seeing time travelers

Definitely needed this for a refresher, since sometimes I fall back on old habits 😅

I definitely grew up with a caretaker who didn’t care about me unless I had an accomplishment, did well in school, etc and I was CONSTANTLY trying to make them proud. Of course nothing I did was ever enough ans now I have that people pleasing trait

@tommygunn6901

3 жыл бұрын

Are you bringing this to life in therapy? This was something I too worked on...well continue to improve

@SamElle

3 жыл бұрын

@@tommygunn6901 yess I’m working on it!!!

@tommygunn6901

3 жыл бұрын

@@SamElle great to hear! It's like a never ending nightmare when you try to accomplish everything, make everyone proud, yet some will just make you feel it wasn't good enough. Even when I became a Marine, it still wasn't good enough for my family. Hell, to this day, they don't even know I'm close to getting my Bachelor's degree

@joanhoffman3702

3 жыл бұрын

@@tommygunn6901 You were a Marine and they were meh about it? That's awful! Unfortunately, sometimes one's family is not the loving, supportive entity it should be, and you need to walk away. Congrats on your future degree and thank you for your service!

@tommygunn6901

3 жыл бұрын

@@joanhoffman3702 not one person thought I could do it! The second they found out, they just couldn't admit they were wrong. The knew they underestimated me. Hell even now that I'm closing in on a bachelor's degree, they just show up when I'm successful, never cared to ask how school is going or whatever...SUNSHINE FANS is all they are

I am a people pleaser... A friend pointed it out recently. It was absolutely serial watching this as I tick every box especially apologizing unnecessarily. I am definitely going to practice these steps and I've already started when I realised that I have a problem it has made me aware of myself. Honestly amazing.

I had a great childhood, I just had a rough teenage experience due to a series of poor decisions. I've struggled with people pleasing for 15+ years. My biggest desire is to end this terrible cycle for good. I'm working towards it each day, one day at a time. 🦋

I’ve always been a people pleaser, it’s like embedded in my brain. For me saying no makes my heart drop, it makes me feel like I’m taking away from that person, so it’s really hard to say no. I’ll try to say no and with this channel I might get through it. Pray for me guys

HELLO TIME TRAVELERS :D although it isnt neccessary to time travel, please become a member

@saenahunny.

3 жыл бұрын

Oh..

being a people pleaser is sometimes mentally exhausting. I didn't choose to be a people pleaser but I am one and the hardest thing is the people you please don't even care about you in any way. by the end of this year, we all need to stop people-pleasing asap hope yall great,thank you Psycho2Go

@miirasaika6437

3 жыл бұрын

I used to be a hardcore people pleaser. Your words : "the people you please don't even care about you in any way" has become my standard now when to stop pleasing the wrong people. I use that energy on myself or to people who truly appreciate me instead. Hope you're getting better.

@silvershades6081

3 жыл бұрын

@@miirasaika6437 yeah we should give love to the people who love us :) yeah im getting better,hope you are doingg fine

YES finally i have attained time travel

@user-eh3vn1qg6b

3 жыл бұрын

H o w

@kuma9314

3 жыл бұрын

TELL ME YOUR SECRET

@saenahunny.

3 жыл бұрын

What the hell..

@twt8369

3 жыл бұрын

Four days?!

@fatematharoo7537

3 жыл бұрын

@@user-eh3vn1qg6b the ppl who like pay to be members of the channel

Love the calming voice of the narrator! Removing toxic people is one of the keys to stop people pleasing - if the toxic person is not in your life, you don't have to worry about people pleasing them!

I have NEVER once cared for myself. I had to start caring for my dad at a very young age due to his alcoholism. And I was always the outcast from everyone and wanted to please them to like me. It never worked. Ugh.

I feel like I’ve improved a lot since childhood, but I still feel internally guilty/egoistic for standing up for myself.

I have been a people pleaser all my life. And I started realising it now. Earlier I just to believe it was ok, it was necessary to keep others first because otherwise they will not accept me. But now are started realising that it wasn't like that. I think for others, they become happy, just one mistake or just once if I want to think about myself, they start calling me selfish. I have given away my self respect, confidence, mental health, to please other who are never satisfied. No matter what you do for others, they are still gonna talk behind your back. I don't know how to say no. If someone is harming me, and I know it, I still don't wanna hurt that person the same way and continue let them hurt me. I am so tired of all this now. I have given away my life and priorities to satisfy those people who'll never become happy. Maybe because I was taught this way from childhood that prioritising yourself is selfish. And now I have become a people pleaser and now my parents wonder why I never care about myself or speak for myself😔

Now I realize my family and my parents are the main reason I grew into a people pleaser.

Every time my life becomes more fragile my go to is people pleasing and I lose myself completely. Confusion is one of the hardest to battle. The way back is hard.

To be honest. Ever since this lockdown there really havent been many "people" to "please" lately

@miirasaika6437

3 жыл бұрын

lol isn't that good news for you? Now you can focus that people-pleasing energy on yourself and transform into a healthier version of you :)

@freshappleseed6966

3 жыл бұрын

@@miirasaika6437 nah not rlly. I was nvr rlly much of a "ppl pleaser" to begin with so I wasn't actually very concerned with that. At this point I just miss my friends. We're nearly a year into quarantine now and I'm kind of sick of only having myself to think abt. Feels like I'm missing out on life.

There's no doubt that this channel has helped a lot of people. God bless, stay healthy!

Good advice. I struggle with this issue so I need to try this. Thank you for the advice! 😄

I thought I stopped being a people pleaser when i was able to cut all toxic people from my life, learned to say no and stopped apologising, but since getting my first real job where I work alone and without a supervisor (i sell ice cream) I've found myself having to deal with customers who don't respect my authority when I tell them to wear a mask and personally attack me. It's come to the point where I've had panic attacks at work because I can't stand being made into a bad person. I don't know what to do, it feels like there's no way to control it and it's made me dislike my job just because I have so many regulars which means i have to serve people who have called me rude every day. I'm able to set boundaries and say no in my personal life, but at work or with strangers in general i really struggle.

I've started to slowly accept the fact there is alwasy going to be one person that dislikes you for no reason. So why bother stress over it. Its taken me a really long time to accept that but I am learning a lot as I get older.

Yo psych... I just wanna say thank you for all the help you've given me over the last year... It was the time I've gotten into my first relationship and all of your videos really helped all the way until today. Your channel is a lifesaver and it's really one of my fav channels. I know you're gonna keep it up and I'm glad :)

This was so soothing. I'd love a video where you just talked to the viewer about how worthy of love and happiness they are.

They always say self love but it is so hard to love yourself especially nowadays

This is one of the things I can't stop... like I can't at all

Have I achieved the time travel? ALAS

@polandball8877

3 жыл бұрын

Yes

@lesliemwangi

3 жыл бұрын

wtf

@GachaSam11107

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@saenahunny.

3 жыл бұрын

What-

@pugsley4441

3 жыл бұрын

😦

I'm a huge people-pleaser and it's stronger than me. Recently, I started living with my friends and I'm so tired because I'm the only person that cleans, does laundry or cooks, I sometimes cook even for 5 people and I can't even cook well. I don't know how to stop it, sometimes I'm sooo tired and have no power to clean or do one more thing but I still do it

@sarah8579

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Julianna! It sounds like your love language might be acts of service, which is a beautiful thing! Be sure to place some boundaries to conserve your energy. Your friends might think you enjoy doing these things, and quite frankly - it is rare that someone will question or stop someone from doing chores. I am a people pleaser, too!

This video came out at a good time. Really been needing some reassurance so it’s nice to hear it.

But I just want to keep people happy...even if it means not being happy...

@larirodrigues25

3 жыл бұрын

I guess you need to ask yourself why is that, in healthy relationships you give up somethings but also have boundaries, so does the other person, people who truly love you are not going to be happy if you're not happy too, just as you're not happy when the people you love are unhappy, there's a difference between being selfless and being dependent of other people's validation, hope that helps 😊💙

@vaishnavi5070

3 жыл бұрын

You can never give anyone true happiness when you are not happy yourself😁

@avymationz7024

3 жыл бұрын

It's not necessary that you are a people pleaser then..You might just love making people happy

@alainaarnold5530

3 жыл бұрын

I hear you loud and clear, don't you worry. You're not the only one feelin that way

@shadowwolfyt7698

3 жыл бұрын

Same

Thank you for this. I was just talking to a friend about this last night. Your post is such a great timing.

i love how soft and polite your voice is

I have definitely been a people pleaser, and still can be at times. It started as a kid, partly from bullying, and partly trying to overcompensate for my volatile; violent temper. Nowadays, it's more an attempt to draw negative attention away from me, because I don't really fit in at work. I tend to fight it by refusing to do things that go against my goals, or moral standards. Great video, and keep up the wonderful work 😊

This video is so helpful ❤️ Please do make more videos like this to help overcome other issues as well 🙏🏼 Knowing how to overcome the issues are as important as identifying the underlying issues a person has.

Holy crap.... this is exactly what I needed. The timing for this video was impeccable

Thank you for having such a calming healing voice

I remember clearly as a child saying straight up "No." To other ppl & they would always persuade me into thinking that I should be more polite or open to what they ask. The only ppl that I could never say no to was my family, it's been a long journey & 50% says no & 50% says yes. It's a long journey that the Lord has helped me w/ in the short span of 2yrs. I'm here w/ God ready to stop ppl pleasing 💟✝️

Please yourself first! Always be your #1 priority.

Definitely something I needed to watch as I turn a new corner in my life.

Just in time! I was looking for the source of the major conflicts I have in all that I do, and it happened to be so pleaser with people... thanks for your advices and your videos!!! Now I'm going to practice them every day

5:15 "Stop seeking your worth from others and learn to live free of other people's expectations" Thank you for this reminder.

This was actually one of my biggest problem..I always want to please people so that they'll like me like I can't say no when someone want me to do something that I don't really want to do...Now I'm trying to do all this things and hoping this will change myself and learn to love myself💗

I’m going to challenge myself to be less of a people pleaser and instead be more of myself. Growing up I was definitely the one always trying to keep the peace, and it was so emotionally draining. Since I got to college I’ve been trying to be more open about who I am and not what others want me to be, but it’s been hard to break the habit and be myself when I hardly know who I really am. But it’s worth all of the trying and learning once I look back and see my improvement. Videos like this r so encouraging and I love the practical help they give, thank u! ☺️

Thank you so much! Congrats on 6million subscribers as well!!

I've definitely gotten better at this over the past year or two. I used to always do everything to please everyone else..but neglected myself. I make sure that I know that I'm worthy and I matter. As well as saying no to things and not always saying yes to avoid a potentially stressful situation. I make sure that I do things for myself and things that bring me pleasure. Having myself in position to be where I want to be in the future. Let go of people that were taking advantage of my niceness and willingness to give my all. Lastly, to not be sorry when I stand my ground and not allow ANYONE to take advantage of me as a person. I will always look for my family, friends and partner. But will never stop looking out for me as well. I am just as important.

i’m doing some of these right now so i’m glad i’m on the right track. thanks!

Never heard such soothing voice and so much to the point. I subscribed and thank u

When it said to stop apologizing i literally said "I don't think I can, im sorry". I then realized what I just did. I don't know how stop even when I'm talking to myself....

Yes. I know someone who is a pleaser. This video helps a lot! 🙏🏼

I didn't realize for years when I speak to others I always refer to myself last or in third person. I didn't know I'd immediately disregard my own thoughts first without even stopping to consider. Apologies first always. It's my 2021 goal to stop saying I'm sorry. Thank you for helping me see this. It's so easy to just shrug it off.

Literally looked up videos on this topic a couple weeks ago and now here it is by one of my favorite channels! Yay!

Wow. I'm just amazed. Your video just come in the right time. I really need a remainder that I don't need to be a people pleaser.

I struggled with this for a long time, and I still am. I sometimes actually wonder if I was like majority of people who’re into all these pop culture stuff, maybe I’ll have more friends. It even got to a point where I had to just stop myself because I caught myself going above and beyond just to be liked and or fit in.

Amazing video.

I'm glad this video exists ... man people pleasing has changed me into someone I don't really understand and for so long too. Its kinda scary and I feel like I'm only being my true self when I'm alone ... never with others. I wonder what its like to feel totally comfortable with others, without worrying what they think and their happiness all the time ... it sure does sound nice tho.

I have been a people pleaser all of my life. It’s probably in my nature because I’m an only child and my whole life has been about satisfying my parents’s needs. I have always been hypersensitive to what other people think about how I present myself and the decisions I make. It has majorly damaged me socially. Even though a big part of me doesn’t really care, I feel very lonely. Thanks to videos like this, I can carry on my life understanding that I am not alone and I can’t satisfy everyone all the time. I know myself and no one else knows me like me.

Thank you for sharing. Very helpful

OMG THANK YOU I NEEDED THIS SO MUCH

Honestly this channel has helped me a lot. And I found some new things about myself.

I needed this, thank you for uploading this video😊

I love how this channel answers all my questions 😁

well said, validation of our own needs comes first. What other people think is a follow-up

"Stop apologizing" my British Brain does not comprehend...

these videos are getting scarily accurate by the day

This is so informative!

Thank you this helped me, I just had a bad day today because my friend made me go against my values I thought it was alright because she needs me and as a friend I need to be by her side, but no it was definitely wrong. I should have prioritized myself regardless of what she say and I am not selfish for choosing myself.

I did people pleasing when I was young, and it effected me a lot in my life. I always insist on doing stuff for people, and say sorry too much. I feel like I can’t do anything and my confidence level is very low. Don’t try people pleasing please.

@animegothvampire1999

3 жыл бұрын

I feel that way

_This is very helpful_ thank you so much, Keep up the FIRE

Awwwhhh psych2go really posts everything I go through. That's so incredible !!!

Ur voice is so soothing

Great video

I needed this video! Thank you so much.

Thank you so much this was very helpful