Yep. I actually wrote my thesis on the conceptualization of femininity and there are literally studies tht talk about how men will go for women who are dressed more scantily for sex but not for a long-term relationship. The women they sought out for long-term relationships were usually modestly dressed and carried themselves differently than those who dressed immodestly. It sucks but hey! It’s real. I’ve noticed a difference between the guys that approach me based on whether I’m wearing my natural Afro-textured hair vs a wig or braids, too.

@bkgangstashawtii

27 күн бұрын

I would like to read your thesis! Where can I read it?

@SareBear2000

26 күн бұрын

Very true

@Itslanii

26 күн бұрын

@@bkgangstashawtiime tooo!!

@nitishjmanning8753

8 күн бұрын

me three! lol

@Callisto-pz5pg

6 күн бұрын

​@@bkgangstashawtiime too

People are superficial. This is nothing new. I’m someone who likes alt fashions, Lolita, kawaii, etc. I don’t get approached a lot but I’ve loved fashion for years and won’t change for some potential date who probably won’t appreciate the true me.

@AmandaUpnext

Ай бұрын

mmm! Love this! let’s start a podcast!😍☺️!! But no seriously people are so fake these days and they don’t know what they are truly missing out on.

@SwearWerdDebris

29 күн бұрын

Honestly its ALL about what you thing and YOUR perception of yourself and what youre wearing. If youre wearing liwcut tops and youre attracting low quality men based on that.. it's a reflection of a belief that you probably heard from other people/society. Change the beliefs and it don't matter if you walk around with a string on... You'll be considered a classy, elegant goddess. Y'all really need to clock this for your own good lol

@desireesmith862

28 күн бұрын

@@SwearWerdDebris Thank you! That is exactly what I’m trying to say.

“The type of guys that like low cut tops are low quality” 😮‍💨 sooo true

@SwearWerdDebris

29 күн бұрын

Honestly its ALL about what you thing and YOUR perception of yourself and what youre wearing. If youre wearing liwcut tops and youre attracting low quality men based on that.. it's a reflection of a belief that you probably heard from other people/society. Change the beliefs and it don't matter if you walk around with a string on... You'll be considered a classy, elegant goddess. Y'all really need to clock this for your own good lol

@Karlisa

28 күн бұрын

@@SwearWerdDebris I hear you but to a certain extent, no man of integrity is approaching a woman wearing a string.. because she doesn’t respect her own body. The Bible tells us to treat our bodies as the Temple because if you respect yourself inwardly, it shows in what you adorn yourself in outwardly. While yess some men pray on women who have low confidence because they can tell, what you wear can often speak to others whether you feel that way about yourself or not.

I just dress in my own style. It might be revealing it might not, might hug the curves or might be baggy. Doesn’t matter as long as I think it’s cute and it feels like me. Type of guy that’ll be attracted to that? Idk I guess the same type of guy that would be attracted to me, cuz my style is me 🤷🏽‍♀️

Girl has the pandering worked? Because I have done this and honestly it doesn't matter. Only difference is the men that try to talk to me try to use different means to finesse you.

This is 100% accurate. I struggle with this myself. My body type needs form fitting clothes or I look boxy and it makes me feel less feminine. So I try to balance it out with simple hair styles, jewelry, nails and no makeup. Most times I go out in sweat pants and a t shirt tho 😂 I got a man but I still like feeling cute some days.

@SwearWerdDebris

29 күн бұрын

Honestly its ALL about what you thing and YOUR perception of yourself and what youre wearing. If youre wearing liwcut tops and youre attracting low quality men based on that.. it's a reflection of a belief that you probably heard from other people/society. Change the beliefs and it don't matter if you walk around with a string on... You'll be considered a classy, elegant goddess. Y'all really need to clock this for your own good lol

@Katiee0592

27 күн бұрын

@@SwearWerdDebris yeah, no. You can be “classy” and carry yourself well but if you’re dressed in revealing clothing people will judge you based off that alone. I’ll continue to dress how I’m comfortable and what I feel good in. I couldn’t care any less about other people’s opinions of me, and I’m one of very few people who means that. People who judge other people by their clothing have deep insecurities and inadequacies and are attempting to project them onto someone else. And I have zero desire to attract the opposite sex, so regardless of who approaches me (which is men from all backgrounds and lifestyles) I’m gonna keep it moving. I get dressed for myself, no one else. Not even my man.

@SwearWerdDebris

26 күн бұрын

@@Katiee0592 people will only judge YOUR perception tbh. You believe that, so that's exactly what you'll get. You're right about people seeing things through a filter of their insecurities/religions/colonial mindsets etc.... but even that can be looked past by those people if they see you long enough. Trust me... Not only am I speaking from personal experience..(I LOVE very deep v necks, fishnets, thigh high boots short skirts etc.. and even though I had obvious cleavage showing, people always address me with the utmost respect, believing I'm an elegant, regal, even innocent woman.) I'm also speaking from the perspective of others I've given this device to. It's always what you believe that gets reflected back to you. (This also spills into other things in life).

@Katiee0592

26 күн бұрын

@@SwearWerdDebris I would really love to delve deep into this topic and cover multiple aspects, but i don’t feel like doing it on a yt comment lol so to simplify what I’d like to say- yes, overall I would agree with you. What you believe about yourself is how other people will view you. Personal biases can initially get in the way, but overtime and with more interactions it gets corrected. It’s why it’s so important to just love who you are and not what you look like. If you present yourself strongly and love yourself, so will everyone else. It’s human nature.

Just dress how you want girl dont let men that dress like trash make you feel bad 😬 loud pick me energy

@yasgumah417

Ай бұрын

Right

@aghasearmyshawolblinkonce8039

Ай бұрын

right???

@desireesmith862

Ай бұрын

Right!! And she sounds like she’s attracting superficial men!! But she’s happy about it??!!

@AmandaUpnext

Ай бұрын

Idk I just think it’s weird that we judge each other based off what we wear but it’s a real thing and I just wanna talk about it!! 🫖 😭

@AnimeNerdX

Ай бұрын

Nah- I get what you mean, I have a more conservative style, though some things can be tight just less skin shown but one girl I knew wore lowcut and tight and she preached about wearing her own clothes but then got with her boyfriend and switches up around him and his family but had no problems around her neighbours and their kids with her style 😭 I'd never tell someone what to wear unless it really doesn't suit them or they forgot colour theory 😅 And I do believe most people see what others look like first before approaching 🤔

This is somewhat true but how you carry yourself is much more important. 2 different people could wear the exact same outfit and look different.

I like to wear longer clothes for modesty but i cant with the baggy clothes. Im really curvy and baggy clothes add like 20 pounds to me 😭

@AmandaUpnext

Ай бұрын

im starting to like more modest stuff too☺️ such as wearing nice pair of pants as oppose to wearing jeans all the time. but to me baggy is more of an aesthetic and looks great depending on the mood

@roznichols371

25 күн бұрын

Me too, and I'm short on top of that, so I think baggy clothes make me look shorter and wider.

Modesty is the new way, babes. I dress like I want to be addressed: loose pants, oversized clothes, and less is more.

@AmandaUpnext

Ай бұрын

Yessss. Clean girl aesthetic with class bc I’m tired of the clownery😆🤭 I just wish I would know sooner

Who you are will attract who you're going to get- looks only get you in the door for most. There's powerful, successful "high value" men that like women who wear almost nothing, and there's "low value" men who will approach ya in ANYTHING- being dressed nicely isn't going to save ya from attracting an abusive person or just a bad one in general. Dress however it makes ya happy- because at the end of the day, you being happy in what you're wearing is what matters!

@AmandaUpnext

Ай бұрын

but I haven’t been getting what I want when I dress how I want 😀 so do I just say f it imma do me!?!?!!

@ruthanyasi8290

Ай бұрын

​@@AmandaUpnextI think it depends on how important getting a man is to you. But bear in mind that changing your style of dressing for a man doesn't guarantee a happy ever after.

Make a part 2 please! I love this topic! I feel like modesty is how you do it.

Men, yes. "People.." YESSS.

Everyone should feel free to do what they feel is best for them without judgement but I don’t want someone who wouldn’t like me for the real me.

It's what's on the inside that matters to me... If you are not a good person it makes you unattractive...

@AmandaUpnext

Ай бұрын

I 100% agree with u! Unfortunately we’re judged from the outside tho 😭

Great voice.

Absolutely correct sis. I feel so uncomfortable in my old wardrobe these days. I promise you only 3 shirts out of 60 cover my full stomach and I can't stand it but I have no extra money to shop for more appropriate clothes😂😂😂. That's wth I get when my mom told me better before passing smh.

I totally agree so I mix it up 😂😂😂I’m torn in between a nerdy jock, a hood romantic and a Nigerian stern lover boy .. 😂😂I know I’m all over the place nd I’ll get it together one day !! But def a great topic .. where is part two ..

Girl you are so talented, the hair is GIVING. and you broke down the process into easy to follow steps. Amazing ✨🔥🔥✨

Shera Seven would be so proud

Bro said «what if … the way I dress…. Determines what ppl see🤯🤯 »

@AmandaUpnext

Ай бұрын

dead ass tho😂

Always been true

I wear clothes that make me comfortable. Idgaf what other people say or think. You get what you see 🤷🏽‍♀️

As a Muslimah who regularly wears abaya and hijab - this is what we’ve been telling y’all for like decades now!!! Screaming at the rooftops, we are not oppressed and y’all still didn’t listen. I am African American from the roughest parts of Brooklyn, NY. I am full figured and grew up wearing the most scandalous clothes everrrr. I pulled the biggest losers everrr. However, I met my husband of now 16 years on my way to a job interview 😅 Love y’all 💋

Girl, you are 1000% correct. It also shows whether or not you respect yourself. At least, that's what people think when you dress very revealing. I wish all women and young ladies would come to this realization. Remember the saying, "Tell me who your friends are, and I'll tell you who you are." Well, the same goes for how we present ourselves to the world. I don't want to hear the "oh, that's not fair" or any other reason for why anyone thinks that it shouldn't be that way or that they shouldn't care because your feelings don't matter. You can't stop people from thinking what they think about us women, so get over it. Take this young ladies' experience as a lesson while you're young to spare you all the bs that come with presenting yourself in a "slutty" way.

I just get stares 😂 was told by a complete stranger im intimidating, me and all of my 5'2 glory

Listen to her Ladies! I’m 50 and have been saying this for yyyyyeeeeeeeeEEAAARS! As messed up as it is what you wear and WHO you associate with will and does reflect on you! Men will look at who you associate with and if those women are let’s say of low morals and dress provocative and you dress provocatively (even if you are of high moral character), people will assume you are like those you associate yourself with…the old birds of a feather flock together. And there’s not a man out there that wants to settle down with that type of woman.

No matter what I wear, nobody tries to talk to me 😂😂😂

This is very true.

I’m very conservative and I dress as such and I feel attract low quality, unhealed, toxic men sadly🤦🏼‍♀️🙄

Honestly, your less likely to give a flying fig about others perceptions of how you dress, let alone a male, when you dress for youself, and develop a sense of self that leaves you not caring about whose approaching you, who's looking at you, etc. It's ok to wear what you want to wear, even if it's tight, short, not everyone's cup of tea, shows skin, doesn't show skin, what ever the case is IF YOU LIKE IT. Your Intentions behind how you want to adorn yourself should reside interally versus seeking external praise and approval.

Very 👍 True.

When younger I wore whatever I wanted i was approached by high quality men and low they are the same😂

I think it's all about keeping it balanced, and what you're comfortable in. You don't have to go to either extreme (wearing shirts that go up to the neck, baggy everything. Or shorts that are basically underwear, wearing crop tops with under boob. Unless you want to. But yes you'll get certain attention from certain guys.) But you can wear shirts that have lower cuts than something up to your neck. Summers are hot, it's uncomfortable. I sincerely doubt a lower cut top is going to attract a lower quality man. You can be classy and comfortable. Ultimately It's about how you carry yourself. You could look like the most classy woman on gods green ass earth and still give off gross if you don't know how to carry yourself. Anyway, I live in the most plain and boring clothes so what do I know.

Yep ❤ you dress cheap, you get cheap!!!

Idk the attire says a lot about you and attract different personalities but honestly men will find a woman in ho3 clothes enjoyable but they won’t never cuff a girl like that but y’all can say I’m wrong but I’m 22 and I’m getting married my man wanted to talk to me in my work clothes glad I didn’t let my bad day chase away the man god sent me😂

@AmandaUpnext

Ай бұрын

wow!! Seee! Ugh! I wish I would have known these things sooner 😂😂😂 no body talks about it 😭

@leliajones587

Ай бұрын

@@AmandaUpnext aww me too girl I learned from my man he made me realize my value and hold high standards just ask a man if you want more answers they’ll tell it better

@ivyrose779

8 күн бұрын

Girl, you’re 22. Your brain isn’t even all the way developed yet. 😁

Girl, I'm 41 years old and I figured this out just now. I used to dress in the most extreme way. Now I stick to my linens 😅

Yep ❤

I purposely wear sweatpants a lot 😂

I agree, it sounds dumb but is true true

Yup 👍👍

Yup I stopped wearing pants. Gave them all away and started wearing dresses. Baby the men that I get these days. They want to give me money. They just want to feed me and take care of me. I have a fupa by the way. Not fit according to he red pill. I'm a size 14/16 with a fupa. One guy left his car in the middle of the road and was like" Listen I'm married. I love my wife but I want you to be my second wife. I won't play with you😢" Obviously I said No😂

I absolutely love to find a great outfit that is sleek without showing any skin. ❤ It’s good to know how to dress proper or when you get older it will be more of a struggle to age. Just wear tight turtle necks with nice pants and stuff. It’s still form fitting but looks classy. Then when you age no one will snicker behind your back that you look too old to wear that or inappropriate in any way. Learn all ways to dress. ❤

@charityrocks

Ай бұрын

Notice I did not mention MEN once too! Dress for yourself still. Just do it classy because it feels good.

Welcome to being an adult ❤

Honestly its ALL about what you think and YOUR perception of yourself and what youre wearing. If you're wearing low cut tops and youre attracting low quality men based on that.. it's a reflection of a belief that you probably heard from other people/society. Change the beliefs and it don't matter if you walk around with a string on... You'll be considered a classy, elegant goddess. Y'all really need to clock this for your own good lol

women do the same thing, it's crazy !!

@AmandaUpnext

Ай бұрын

Omgg I never thought about the reverse !! That’s good stuff

I can't imagine changing the way I dress for random males. I've been with my boyfriend and he's lovely and doesn't care

You can still wear tight bottoms and look classy though ❤

Sorry you guys have to go through all that

@AmandaUpnext

Ай бұрын

thanks 🫶but guys go through it too!???

She been watching Shera 😅

@AmandaUpnext

Ай бұрын

who is Shera? Tell me moreeee🥺😄

What mic do you use?

@AmandaUpnext

Ай бұрын

RODE mic from Amazon or target ❤

Sounds like you simply grew up and that's okay. However if you want to wear low cut tops again it's your business too.

Off Topic but your bangs look cut off😭

What happened to your eyebrows.

@AmandaUpnext

Ай бұрын

I tattooed them 😆