Yep. I actually wrote my thesis on the conceptualization of femininity and there are literally studies tht talk about how men will go for women who are dressed more scantily for sex but not for a long-term relationship. The women they sought out for long-term relationships were usually modestly dressed and carried themselves differently than those who dressed immodestly. It sucks but hey! It’s real. I’ve noticed a difference between the guys that approach me based on whether I’m wearing my natural Afro-textured hair vs a wig or braids, too.

@bkgangstashawtii

7 күн бұрын

I would like to read your thesis! Where can I read it?

@SareBear2000

6 күн бұрын

Very true

@Itslanii

6 күн бұрын

@@bkgangstashawtiime tooo!!

Girl has the pandering worked? Because I have done this and honestly it doesn't matter. Only difference is the men that try to talk to me try to use different means to finesse you.

People are superficial. This is nothing new. I’m someone who likes alt fashions, Lolita, kawaii, etc. I don’t get approached a lot but I’ve loved fashion for years and won’t change for some potential date who probably won’t appreciate the true me.

@AmandaUpnext

24 күн бұрын

mmm! Love this! let’s start a podcast!😍☺️!! But no seriously people are so fake these days and they don’t know what they are truly missing out on.

@SwearWerdDebris

9 күн бұрын

Honestly its ALL about what you thing and YOUR perception of yourself and what youre wearing. If youre wearing liwcut tops and youre attracting low quality men based on that.. it's a reflection of a belief that you probably heard from other people/society. Change the beliefs and it don't matter if you walk around with a string on... You'll be considered a classy, elegant goddess. Y'all really need to clock this for your own good lol

@desireesmith862

9 күн бұрын

@@SwearWerdDebris Thank you! That is exactly what I’m trying to say.

“The type of guys that like low cut tops are low quality” 😮‍💨 sooo true

@SwearWerdDebris

9 күн бұрын

Honestly its ALL about what you thing and YOUR perception of yourself and what youre wearing. If youre wearing liwcut tops and youre attracting low quality men based on that.. it's a reflection of a belief that you probably heard from other people/society. Change the beliefs and it don't matter if you walk around with a string on... You'll be considered a classy, elegant goddess. Y'all really need to clock this for your own good lol

@Karlisa

9 күн бұрын

@@SwearWerdDebris I hear you but to a certain extent, no man of integrity is approaching a woman wearing a string.. because she doesn’t respect her own body. The Bible tells us to treat our bodies as the Temple because if you respect yourself inwardly, it shows in what you adorn yourself in outwardly. While yess some men pray on women who have low confidence because they can tell, what you wear can often speak to others whether you feel that way about yourself or not.

This is 100% accurate. I struggle with this myself. My body type needs form fitting clothes or I look boxy and it makes me feel less feminine. So I try to balance it out with simple hair styles, jewelry, nails and no makeup. Most times I go out in sweat pants and a t shirt tho 😂 I got a man but I still like feeling cute some days.

@SwearWerdDebris

9 күн бұрын

Honestly its ALL about what you thing and YOUR perception of yourself and what youre wearing. If youre wearing liwcut tops and youre attracting low quality men based on that.. it's a reflection of a belief that you probably heard from other people/society. Change the beliefs and it don't matter if you walk around with a string on... You'll be considered a classy, elegant goddess. Y'all really need to clock this for your own good lol

@Katiee0592

8 күн бұрын

@@SwearWerdDebris yeah, no. You can be “classy” and carry yourself well but if you’re dressed in revealing clothing people will judge you based off that alone. I’ll continue to dress how I’m comfortable and what I feel good in. I couldn’t care any less about other people’s opinions of me, and I’m one of very few people who means that. People who judge other people by their clothing have deep insecurities and inadequacies and are attempting to project them onto someone else. And I have zero desire to attract the opposite sex, so regardless of who approaches me (which is men from all backgrounds and lifestyles) I’m gonna keep it moving. I get dressed for myself, no one else. Not even my man.

@SwearWerdDebris

7 күн бұрын

@@Katiee0592 people will only judge YOUR perception tbh. You believe that, so that's exactly what you'll get. You're right about people seeing things through a filter of their insecurities/religions/colonial mindsets etc.... but even that can be looked past by those people if they see you long enough. Trust me... Not only am I speaking from personal experience..(I LOVE very deep v necks, fishnets, thigh high boots short skirts etc.. and even though I had obvious cleavage showing, people always address me with the utmost respect, believing I'm an elegant, regal, even innocent woman.) I'm also speaking from the perspective of others I've given this device to. It's always what you believe that gets reflected back to you. (This also spills into other things in life).

@Katiee0592

6 күн бұрын

@@SwearWerdDebris I would really love to delve deep into this topic and cover multiple aspects, but i don’t feel like doing it on a yt comment lol so to simplify what I’d like to say- yes, overall I would agree with you. What you believe about yourself is how other people will view you. Personal biases can initially get in the way, but overtime and with more interactions it gets corrected. It’s why it’s so important to just love who you are and not what you look like. If you present yourself strongly and love yourself, so will everyone else. It’s human nature.

This is somewhat true but how you carry yourself is much more important. 2 different people could wear the exact same outfit and look different.

Just dress how you want girl dont let men that dress like trash make you feel bad 😬 loud pick me energy

@yasgumah417

24 күн бұрын

Right

@aghasearmyshawolblinkonce8039

24 күн бұрын

right???

@desireesmith862

24 күн бұрын

Right!! And she sounds like she’s attracting superficial men!! But she’s happy about it??!!

@AmandaUpnext

24 күн бұрын

Idk I just think it’s weird that we judge each other based off what we wear but it’s a real thing and I just wanna talk about it!! 🫖 😭

@AnimeNerdX

22 күн бұрын

Nah- I get what you mean, I have a more conservative style, though some things can be tight just less skin shown but one girl I knew wore lowcut and tight and she preached about wearing her own clothes but then got with her boyfriend and switches up around him and his family but had no problems around her neighbours and their kids with her style 😭 I'd never tell someone what to wear unless it really doesn't suit them or they forgot colour theory 😅 And I do believe most people see what others look like first before approaching 🤔

Who you are will attract who you're going to get- looks only get you in the door for most. There's powerful, successful "high value" men that like women who wear almost nothing, and there's "low value" men who will approach ya in ANYTHING- being dressed nicely isn't going to save ya from attracting an abusive person or just a bad one in general. Dress however it makes ya happy- because at the end of the day, you being happy in what you're wearing is what matters!

@AmandaUpnext

24 күн бұрын

but I haven’t been getting what I want when I dress how I want 😀 so do I just say f it imma do me!?!?!!

@ruthanyasi8290

14 күн бұрын

​@@AmandaUpnextI think it depends on how important getting a man is to you. But bear in mind that changing your style of dressing for a man doesn't guarantee a happy ever after.

I like to wear longer clothes for modesty but i cant with the baggy clothes. Im really curvy and baggy clothes add like 20 pounds to me 😭

@AmandaUpnext

24 күн бұрын

im starting to like more modest stuff too☺️ such as wearing nice pair of pants as oppose to wearing jeans all the time. but to me baggy is more of an aesthetic and looks great depending on the mood

@roznichols371

6 күн бұрын

Me too, and I'm short on top of that, so I think baggy clothes make me look shorter and wider.

Modesty is the new way, babes. I dress like I want to be addressed: loose pants, oversized clothes, and less is more.

@AmandaUpnext

25 күн бұрын

Yessss. Clean girl aesthetic with class bc I’m tired of the clownery😆🤭 I just wish I would know sooner

Make a part 2 please! I love this topic! I feel like modesty is how you do it.

Men, yes. "People.." YESSS.

Great voice.

I totally agree so I mix it up 😂😂😂I’m torn in between a nerdy jock, a hood romantic and a Nigerian stern lover boy .. 😂😂I know I’m all over the place nd I’ll get it together one day !! But def a great topic .. where is part two ..

Absolutely correct sis. I feel so uncomfortable in my old wardrobe these days. I promise you only 3 shirts out of 60 cover my full stomach and I can't stand it but I have no extra money to shop for more appropriate clothes😂😂😂. That's wth I get when my mom told me better before passing smh.

Shera Seven would be so proud

I’m very conservative and I dress as such and I feel attract low quality, unhealed, toxic men sadly🤦🏼‍♀️🙄

Girl you are so talented, the hair is GIVING. and you broke down the process into easy to follow steps. Amazing ✨🔥🔥✨

Always been true

No matter what I wear, nobody tries to talk to me 😂😂😂

It's what's on the inside that matters to me... If you are not a good person it makes you unattractive...

@AmandaUpnext

24 күн бұрын

I 100% agree with u! Unfortunately we’re judged from the outside tho 😭

When younger I wore whatever I wanted i was approached by high quality men and low they are the same😂

Bro said «what if … the way I dress…. Determines what ppl see🤯🤯 »

@AmandaUpnext

24 күн бұрын

dead ass tho😂

Listen to her Ladies! I’m 50 and have been saying this for yyyyyeeeeeeeeEEAAARS! As messed up as it is what you wear and WHO you associate with will and does reflect on you! Men will look at who you associate with and if those women are let’s say of low morals and dress provocative and you dress provocatively (even if you are of high moral character), people will assume you are like those you associate yourself with…the old birds of a feather flock together. And there’s not a man out there that wants to settle down with that type of woman.

I agree, it sounds dumb but is true true

Yep ❤

Yup 👍👍

This is very true.

Girl, I'm 41 years old and I figured this out just now. I used to dress in the most extreme way. Now I stick to my linens 😅

Very 👍 True.

Honestly, your less likely to give a flying fig about others perceptions of how you dress, let alone a male, when you dress for youself, and develop a sense of self that leaves you not caring about whose approaching you, who's looking at you, etc. It's ok to wear what you want to wear, even if it's tight, short, not everyone's cup of tea, shows skin, doesn't show skin, what ever the case is IF YOU LIKE IT. Your Intentions behind how you want to adorn yourself should reside interally versus seeking external praise and approval.

Idk the attire says a lot about you and attract different personalities but honestly men will find a woman in ho3 clothes enjoyable but they won’t never cuff a girl like that but y’all can say I’m wrong but I’m 22 and I’m getting married my man wanted to talk to me in my work clothes glad I didn’t let my bad day chase away the man god sent me😂

@AmandaUpnext

24 күн бұрын

wow!! Seee! Ugh! I wish I would have known these things sooner 😂😂😂 no body talks about it 😭

@leliajones587

24 күн бұрын

@@AmandaUpnext aww me too girl I learned from my man he made me realize my value and hold high standards just ask a man if you want more answers they’ll tell it better

I think it's all about keeping it balanced, and what you're comfortable in. You don't have to go to either extreme (wearing shirts that go up to the neck, baggy everything. Or shorts that are basically underwear, wearing crop tops with under boob. Unless you want to. But yes you'll get certain attention from certain guys.) But you can wear shirts that have lower cuts than something up to your neck. Summers are hot, it's uncomfortable. I sincerely doubt a lower cut top is going to attract a lower quality man. You can be classy and comfortable. Ultimately It's about how you carry yourself. You could look like the most classy woman on gods green ass earth and still give off gross if you don't know how to carry yourself. Anyway, I live in the most plain and boring clothes so what do I know.

I purposely wear sweatpants a lot 😂

Yep ❤ you dress cheap, you get cheap!!!

I wear clothes that make me comfortable. Idgaf what other people say or think. You get what you see 🤷🏽‍♀️

Yup I stopped wearing pants. Gave them all away and started wearing dresses. Baby the men that I get these days. They want to give me money. They just want to feed me and take care of me. I have a fupa by the way. Not fit according to he red pill. I'm a size 14/16 with a fupa. One guy left his car in the middle of the road and was like" Listen I'm married. I love my wife but I want you to be my second wife. I won't play with you😢" Obviously I said No😂

Welcome to being an adult ❤

I absolutely love to find a great outfit that is sleek without showing any skin. ❤ It’s good to know how to dress proper or when you get older it will be more of a struggle to age. Just wear tight turtle necks with nice pants and stuff. It’s still form fitting but looks classy. Then when you age no one will snicker behind your back that you look too old to wear that or inappropriate in any way. Learn all ways to dress. ❤

@charityrocks

24 күн бұрын

Notice I did not mention MEN once too! Dress for yourself still. Just do it classy because it feels good.

women do the same thing, it's crazy !!

@AmandaUpnext

25 күн бұрын

Omgg I never thought about the reverse !! That’s good stuff

She been watching Shera 😅

@AmandaUpnext

24 күн бұрын

who is Shera? Tell me moreeee🥺😄

Sorry you guys have to go through all that

@AmandaUpnext

24 күн бұрын

thanks 🫶but guys go through it too!???

What mic do you use?

@AmandaUpnext

24 күн бұрын

RODE mic from Amazon or target ❤

Sounds like you simply grew up and that's okay. However if you want to wear low cut tops again it's your business too.

Off Topic but your bangs look cut off😭

Honestly its ALL about what you thing and YOUR perception of yourself and what youre wearing. If youre wearing liwcut tops and youre attracting low quality men based on that.. it's a reflection of a belief that you probably heard from other people/society. Change the beliefs and it don't matter if you walk around with a string on... You'll be considered a classy, elegant goddess. Y'all really need to clock this for your own good lol

What happened to your eyebrows.

@AmandaUpnext

24 күн бұрын

I tattooed them 😆