I wanted to share something that I did that I think others would benefit from. My mother was living alone for a period of time with her disease. I contacted the police/fire department and let them know her name, address, condition and added myself as her emergency contact. I also put a key lock box there and provided them with the code. I cant tell you how many times she called the police during her hallucination periods even though I told her to call me first. As things got worse she could no longer figure out how to unlock the door for them and they had to use the lock box key to enter the home. They were so companionate, patient and caring with her. I would get a call each time from the officers letting me know what happened and that she was ok. They never once complained about them having to go there to help ease her mind. As I would apologize about the situation they would tell me that there was no need to and that is what they signed up to do. They enjoyed helping people like my mother. Most in my moms journey did not deal with her (or me) with any compassion, concern or humanity. The police, fire department, and EMS people represent one of the few positive things I can discuss with about her situation during her decline.

I am CNA, and I know ive learned to throughout the years, to agree no matter what, i also get involved on there level, and i never argue, tone of voice is huge to and eye contact.

My mom suddenly sprang up from her chair n demanded a decision about selling her house. My aunt instantly said , your son agreed to do whatever you decide or wish to ". Instantly she calmed down. Thanks dr. Love your tips .

I'm in bits ..heart broken this isn't my mum any more, I hate dementia for taking away my best friend...I can't cope with this...don't know what to do besides watching your channel 💔❤

@agathaleon9826

5 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry for your situation

@lovesupreme6154

4 жыл бұрын

Once a man, twice a baby. It's the cycle of life. I'm going through the same thing now. Here's what I say to people that want to feel bad for me: Seeing the demise of your parents is actually a blessing. Not seeing the demise of your parents means either you don't know them/they are not in your life or that you have demised first. Make laughter your companion and give thanks that you can assist them in their vulnerable state like they did for you when you were a helpless baby.

@bligit384

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you it happened to me today for the first came on this post help me alot😂

@goldencheese7247

3 жыл бұрын

Man I know your feelings. My dad is getting convinced the family is stealing from him also that there are regular parties at the house etc. It's really stressing me out.

@adventurenana

2 жыл бұрын

The disease of a million deaths. I feel for you. 💕

If my mom told me someone was after her and I told her the cops found and put him in jail she wouldn’t believe me. Sometimes it’s not that simple. Her delusions are stubborn. She would still think someone is after her and then continue to argue. Also, if it involves a fear like someone is trying to kick her out of her home and I try to comfort her, it makes it worse. She will sense that and just start crying and fussing more. This is how it goes with her delusions. When she starts up with a delusion, I immediately make up an “emergency” excuse like, “oh my gosh I have something boiling on the stove I have to check” or “hold on, my Dr is going to call me and I have to answer or he will bill me” or “I have to use the restroom”, etc. Then I walk away for a few minutes. I decided to never engage in her delusions. It’s futile and will wear on you to no return.

@veneciaporter9015

5 ай бұрын

Hello, my mother is the same with her delusions. She doesn't trust any of us and is constantly telling us we're treating her like she is crazy. As of typing this it is 1am and my mother thinks she has to get a cab to the doctor for a "shot" and telling my dad he's making her do a bunch of "shit" to not get sued. My dad takes care of nothing financial and knows nothing about that kind of stuff. He takes care of her 24/7. I just wanted to ask you how are you handling your situation? Do you have any advice for me? The people who talk about dementia don't usually have aggressive ones like my family does. So it'd be nice to get advice from someone who's loved one is stubborn and doesn't listen to others.

@pippy2157

5 ай бұрын

@@veneciaporter9015 my mom has delusional jealousy and paranoia. I have put her on a ketovore diet and increased her Omega 3s. She is on oregano oil, garlic oil & Berberine and Amoxicillin for a Klebsiella UTI overgrowth. We are also going to start her on the pysch meds in hopes of it calming her mind so that we can keep her at home with us longer. Soon I plan to use the Joe Tippen Protocol for parasites on her too. I have heard it will really help.

"The boss called, you're doing such a great job you can take the day off?".... EXCELLENT! 👍🏾😃

Thank you for your great work! i'm so happy for discovering this channel! I just wanted to add that a hug, holding hands, aromatherapy, a snack, shifting attention towards things involving other areas of the brain are calming beyond words. Keep up the good work!

This is such good advice, I get frustrated with my mum because I know she’s delusional and want her to snap out of it. Every time I tell her she’s wrong, but that approach never ends well. I will try to play along next time but that’s going to be so difficult. 😔

@jeanestewart6439

2 жыл бұрын

I have this same issue. Hope it gets better for you.

@off-gridhillbillystyle3735

2 жыл бұрын

same I was going to try catching the issues on camera and showing her. I want my mom back😢

@onthehill3381

11 ай бұрын

@@off-gridhillbillystyle3735 I did that and it didn’t work. Now, when she starts up with a delusion I immediately make up some emergency like, “hold on a minute, I’m expecting an important call from my doctor” etc. and then leave for a bit. It’s futile to convince them of anything and it will wear you out to no return.

@abrnat4403

4 ай бұрын

I’m in the same boat as you 😢. My mom accused my son of stealing from her. No matter what I said, it didn’t matter and ended up in several arguments. Two weeks later she still believes it. I’m at a loss. My son understands where it’s coming from but it’s just so difficult when she is demanding the return of her stuff and he doesn’t have it. 🤷‍♀️

Thank you for your response regarding the disappearance of my Sister. She finally returned home and promises never to leave that way again. Though she has lost several cell phones, I purchased her a Trac phone and minutes and she was very pleased. I have spoken to so many Doctors and other experts and have learned more from your videos than from any other source. Thanks again and never stop posting - you are helping so many Careblazers!

@sheryllknapp9803

5 жыл бұрын

That's so wonderful that she is home safe! This world isn't the same as in their youth. My aunt kept leaving her home until my uncle had heart problems so they wanted to give her a gps bracelet. For the love of mercy (!) please , if they want to give your sister a bracelet with a gps and she is violent like my aunt, tell them NOT to tell her what it is but that it is just a nice bracelet. I've worked around people with dementia and Alzheimer's so I have a good idea of what might be a good idea ok, my cousin and my uncle did not listen to me. I said tell her it is a bracelet from her boyfriend (her husband) but I'm younger and therefore stupid so when they the fire department told her what id was, she freaked out and thought is was some sort of cold war thing! They put her in a home after that. I think they made things worse and she could have stayed home longer if they would've have listened to me. She continues to hit but is doing better on her meds. Does she know how to use that trac phone? my mother forgets how to use hers. I'm afraid for my mom. Maybe with what they've said above, also add things like "these things happen", "you've been there for me so please let me help you" being a caregiver is hard, my daughter takes care of others. With my aunt and mother, their pride is acute--we can go a little while without our pride while we are around them. God bless you and your family during this trying time!

your spot on everything my mum thinks my dad is still alive and wants to go and find him in there old house its so sad it breaks my heart. this is the best youtube channel I have seen on dementia thank you

@DementiaCareblazers

6 жыл бұрын

alison caudery you are so welcome! I’m glad my channel is helping you. 💕

Thank you for your video. It really is very helpful. It hasn’t been easy. It has been very difficult at times and I have lost it a few times and thought I was going crazy myself. Thank you

So its a bit like when a toddler wakes up with a nightmare, screaming that there is a crocodile in the room. Which they apparently can see. Don't bother telling them that they are wrong. It is much more effective to open the window, do a little mime & say 'there I've thrown that crocodile out & the zoo people will come & collect it directly' & firmly shut the window.

Thank you do much for all your help! I loved how short this was. Easier to understand, digest and apply.

New subscriber here. My mom was recently diagnosed with dementia, your channel has been such a blessing to my siblings and I. I thank you from the bottom of my heart❤️ sure wish there was a cure for this awful and sorrowful disease!

@off-gridhillbillystyle3735

2 жыл бұрын

how did she get tested ??? did someone send her or did she send her self in to check on it?

Lots of music and joy.

Great information. Comfort the emotion behind the delusion, find a solution, and redirect. I love that!

Thank you Dr Natalie!

A great help to me , thank you for yr support and info , x from Wales uk.

Thank you so much for answering my question from the other videos. I’m not sure if you made this video because I asked about delusions or it’s a coincidence but regardless it was very helpful! I am actually putting to use everything that you are suggesting and it is really helping for both of us. I will be meeting with a care navigator on Wednesday I think that’s the new terminology for social worker and I’m going to tell her about your videos I think they’re fantastic. Have a great day

I have seen several of these vids and the Dr. is 100% accurate in explaining these issues. Thanks so much for creating these vids and is helpful to cope after the death of a loved one with this terrible disease. Wish i had known about this series when my dad had this terrible condition.

Thanks for this video, my mom is having delusions this will help me how to handle this because I did not know.

Thank you so much. Theses videos have helped me a lot . I care for a elderly retired minister who has dementia. He thinks we live in a different place sometimes or even a different state, ant tips? I do get into the delusion with him to show him I am safe and I am here for him no matter what happens.

I appreciate your information. I have become a caregiver for a friend that has been diagnosed with dementia 2 years ago and although I am a certified CNA, I couldn't find training for caring of dementia patient where I live. I do have the mentoring of RN, but most of time I'm ony own. I have built a good relationship with my patient in the last 2 years, (rocky at first)) and for the most we are ok. What I learn from you has givien me lots of heads up.😊

Thank you Doctor Natalie.

Thank you for this. My loved one is convinced a girl is sun bathing in her backyard naked and disrupting the peace and that the neighbor is flooding her front yard with water. 😫 these were all great tips! I’ll have to definitely be creative on how to find a solution to her problem. The thing is, she only tells me about these delusions when I’m not there.

@carolynnr.6409

4 жыл бұрын

Tell her you are calling the police with your other phone, pretend talking to them, and tell her they will be there after lunch or dinner or breakfast. Or the water hose has just be turned off and it will take sometime for the water to go down. ????

@t.h.8475

4 жыл бұрын

My mom lives with me and complains I moved her bedroom and that's why she couldn't find it. She has had the same bedroom for 7 years and will argue up and down with me.

Helpful info!

Great advice and very helpful! Please keep your videos going! Thank you!

@DementiaCareblazers

2 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

Thanks for the suggestion to run it by the doctor. I've messaged mom's doctor to see if she wants to know about delusions and hallucinations when they happen.

Our first event and being included with a running movie on the Tv was a shock. This involved with my wife talking to the actors and explaining that she could help out if only they would listen to her, and to take her advice. Having got over that hurdle partially by freezing the frames, (which didnt seem to be a problem for my wife) I found that the wife had set the table for an extra six people, (all plates, knives and forks, water, place mats), and when I was allowed to be in the conversation, to be told that she had invited them all over for a meal. so back to learninmg how to cope again!... I yearn for the days when instant communication in a linear form was the norm. I just havent learnt to be that flexible yet! Being a realist, you just have to accept the fact that it's never going to be like it was for the last 50 yhears.

Thanks very helpful

Dang I'm so happy I found you! I've been doing everything wrong.

@DementiaCareblazers

4 жыл бұрын

It's definitely a learning process and you make changes as you go! I'm glad you found the channel. :)

This video was so helpful and explained what is happening to a friend. Thank you . Allan Nicholls

What about delusions that stem from past trauma? Ex: woman with dementia in a care facility reporting she is being raped every night by a caregiver - it is not actually happening, it’s from past trauma in her younger years. Add to that that because it’s not actually happening “no one believes me.” Or Man who believes someone- could be anyone standing in front of him- kidnapped his niece and he’s desperate to get her back. What about the delusions based in very real past trauma? How do we help them cope?

@sarahdublin3906

3 жыл бұрын

Curious as well

@djondjon

3 жыл бұрын

I would like to know, as well.

You are wonderful

my husband has Lewy body dementia and I go thru this a lot. I am his primary caregiver. His delusions are that he needs to go home, even though he is home. Another one is that I"m keeping him hostage and tied up. This one is a doozy for I don't know what to do. This could last for at least 3/4 hours. It is exhausting. Last night we were in a car with his nephew and then nephew was driving too fast. With this one I played along and told the nephew to slow down. LOL

Thank you for this video, had to advise my mom about Medicare scams this week. She watches tv and gets advertising in the mail that is sometimes legit. I have to remind her that she already has insurance and most of her needs are addressed.

I might have done both, boy it’s shocking! Will let the dr know.

My sister's and I "play along" as much as we can with our LO. Most of the time it works and serves to settle down the anxiety. This was not the case a few years ago, however when our LO accused them of stealing her money, and even tried to call the police!!

Is it only me or do others find the snack redirects putting on excess pounds on the caregiver? Why is it that food is the sure guarantor in calming our anxious LOWD?

Thank you

@DementiaCareblazers

Жыл бұрын

You're welcome

my mother thinks my son steals from her and she hates him since she believes that he takes all of the stuff she misplaces and it really bothers me and him. any advice?

I have a patient who has delusions regarding the food and is refusing to eat. Can you help me support the family?

Finally someone who understands what I've been dealing with and what Grandma is going through. Our poor grandma has had on and off delusions of me and some visiting family members for 4yrs now. Just recently as of 2 months ago she now has developed hallucinations. She sees more dogs than our own and has at times became convinced that although the dog looked just like our 6yr pet she was highly convinced that it wasn't and walked out the house looking for him down the street while I wasn't home (happen twice)but not again. EXTREAMLY concerning to me. Heartbreaking on all accounts. Other than this she's to me the highest functioning and able 94yr old lady in the world. Baths on her own, dresses, puts make up, feeds dog at times, cleans dishes at times, makes tea at times, folds clothes, makes her own bed everyday and walks up and down the stairs with no trouble. She's utterly amazing and it hurts to see my best friend not trust me when I say to her that the visions she sees aren't there in hopes of not losing her going outside wondering. Praying it doesn't worsen. Telling her that the dog couldn't have locked the door behind him is the only thing I think has kept her from walking back out again. I see now that I got lucky because she's still able to reason like 80 percent of the times. But as the dementia gets stronger I would imagine I would need to do what you advise and join in on her theory of seeing the dog in the house sorta like a twin to our dog 'Buddy'. Sad to think I would need to do that but I'll do anything you say is effective to keep her happy. Thank you very much!

@DementiaCareblazers

6 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear about your Grandma. It sounds like you are keeping an open mind and know that you might need to change your approach as the disease advances. If she doesn't already have an ID bracelet or necklace with emergency information that may be helpful. Have you seen any of my videos on wandering? kzread.info/dash/bejne/ioOCrNqpcqa9qrA.html and kzread.info/dash/bejne/k2umkq-fiZWalLA.html

Well don't know how you will address this one but my mother has been in the hospital twice 8 months apart both times she thinks she's upside down and that the walls are closing in on her and that the shelves and cabinets on the wall or on the floor that one's kind of hard to resolve and all I want to do is find a Jack Daniels

@rnmkr71

4 жыл бұрын

So sorry to hear. I will be praying for you

@djondjon

3 жыл бұрын

I know that has to be hard on you, and I can only imagine how your mom must feel petrified.

My mom has been wearing the same shoes for a couple years. Last week she started telling us she's wearing two different shoes. She is positive they are different, different colors, styles, etc. Nothing we've said or done has helped.

Hi,I l lo very to listen to your videos. My mum is 86 years old, suffering from progressive dementia. It's really difficult to handle her . Everyday is a new experience for me. I don't have a caretaker to look after her. Every evening she wants walk out of the house, it's a Herculean task to calm her down as she starts arguing with me. Please let me know some remedy to calm her mind. She does not take any medication

very informative...my mother with dementia started having delusions recently after taking some anti-psychotic medicine....very strange. Anyone with this experience ?

It truly hurts me to see how many people have here dealing with somebody they know or a loved one. My grandmother is right next to me as I type and she is seeing people and objects and it makes me feel hopeless right now. Yes some days are ok but today is just a continuous hallucination ride, that what gets me the most.

I wish my siblings understood the importance of this instead of irritating, angering, and emotionally harming our parent.

My nan sometimes sees a mean looking face in the window or worried about lights, thinking it’s WW 2, she also thinks I’m back at high school, I am a lot older than that. She’s always been there for me, as tough as it can be at times I’ll always be there for my grandparents x

Hello Natali, and thank you for your informative videos. On the topic of delusions in dementia, I wanted to hear if you may have any insight, experience or information regarding the pharmacological treatment of dementia. My mother has developed a vascular dementia due to strokes, and along with her dementia, she has also developed a delusional jealousy. She suspects her husband of cheating on her. Her delusion is quite complex, and it is omnipresent. For this, she takes a low dosage of risperidone (risperdal). I have read more than I should have about anti-psychotics, and I am aware that most all atypical anti-psychotics do not allow an opening for dealing with a delusional jealousy in dementia. I have, however, read about one drug that has been shown to somehow be more effective in treating delusional jealousy. It is called tiapridal (tiapride), and it targets different dopamine receptors in the limbic area of the brain. Problem is, it is not approved for usage in the US (which may explain why her psychiatrist hasn't heard of it). It is widely used throughout Europe, Asia and elsewhere, but sadly, not here. I would imagine it may be a big pharma monopoly or insurance issue or some other nefarious motive behind its unavailability, but perhaps you can elucidate me some more on your thoughts of considering using this drug for treating delusional jealousy in vascular dementia. I know that a drug will not somehow magically lift the veil of delusion; and we simultaneously encourage other kinds of therapy (talk therapy) and methods to ease this delusion (validation, redirection, distraction), the 'yes...and...' approach adopted from improv comedy ('yes, I hear you. And tell me more'.). But I am gravely concerned that her constant accusations and vitriol spewed at her husband are breaking him down...so much so that he may leave...for the sake of saving his own health. So I guess my question is: how common are alternative pharmacological methods of treatment that stray from the conventional when dealing with dementia? The situation is approaching desperate. Thanks for your consideration with this. And thank you for holding the gaze of this sinister leech: dementia.

Hey they’re thanks for the videos I would really like some advice on what do if my loved one is screaming and seeing negative things how can I help her with out her scratching me or hitting me if u have any advice that would be great thank u very much I would really like to just calm her down.?

My grandmother is deadset on the idea that she’s being wiretapped and that she’s in big trouble financially like she was involves with something that involved a lot of money and she keeps saying suicidal things like “I’m old let me die” or “they’re poisoning me with their pills and they’re going to kill me”. Most recently she threw her phone and the charger I just ordered her in the trash and may have broken them, again being afraid that she’s being followed and someone’s listening on our conversations, always asking where we are and if we’re okay every time we get her on the phone. The worst and hardest bit is that we’re miles away from her and can’t come see her, not just because of Covid-19 but because we gotta get to her by plane. Even worse, she believes we’re simply trying to calm her down and no longer believes us when we tell her we’re okay and home. How do we comfort her and help her from 3,000 miles away? please help

Hi Dr Natalie my family is going on a cruise for six days do you think husband who has dementia should be able to go? Please help!!

My mom thinks we have a basement or something on our house with a whole new set of big, beautiful rooms that only she knows about. She keeps taking us all around outside, trying to find the door to the rooms. Of course, there is no door and we don’t have a basement. She keeps taking us to look. So frustrating, because she can’t figure out why she can’t find the way to these rooms.

My husband told me that I told him that I was having an affair. Thank you for all that you do.

I didnt know my mother had dementia and she told a great lie on me and my family believed her.None of us knew she had dementia and today i dont talk to 90 percent of them because it was really bad.i am still hurt.

My husband was getting really restless and by 2 a.m got up to go to work. It was a bad night I managed to get him back to bed but had to help him get his body in the correct position. He's moderate FTD. Rang his psych next day and psych suggested it wasn't a delusion but confusion and he was trying to find a way to make sense of it by saying he had to go to work. Being on an antipsychotic and having restless leg syndrome is already a fine balancing act, so we upped the Gabapentin (neurontin) to hopefully take the edge off his restlessness. Thankfully it worked. It made sense not jump to the conclusion that it was delusions because many a time it might just have been his way of making sense of his confusion.......but then I wonder if that is what a delusion is........them trying to make sense of their confusion.

@DementiaCareblazers

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad you found what works best for your loved one! 💖

Thank you. Your recommendations are very helpful. But I have a question, what you mean when you say "underlying infection"? (3:46). Thank you.

@jenniferwyatt8945

Жыл бұрын

An underlying infection in this case would be a medical issue that has not been or isn't part of what your previous or current condition involves- Urinary tract infections can create and /or cause all types of non related symptoms & problems.

My mother is a "take action" person, so when she thought there was an elephant on her patio, she called the police. She called them other times too and they responded. She won't believe that I am taking care of a situation - she likes to do it herself. She believed that she still owned some property that she had 45 yrs. ago and that the man (now very successful attorney) that purchased it from her wasn't making payments. She was trying her best to contact him and I really had to do some fast talking. This delusion went on for a couple of months. This is when I put her in a care facility with no access to a phone. Is there a way to handle these types of situations without taking such drastic actions?

What medication will help decrease this from happening

Hello just wanted to know what to do or say when my loved one see people in the backyard she's insist to call 911 I don't want the police out falsely any tips please. I truly love your videos on KZread thank you.

@Lauren-mh9pt

5 жыл бұрын

You could try and offer to go out there and "shoo" them away, first. I know someone with a similar situation and if I actively tell them the people are gone, usually the person is calmed down. If the person says they came back, I just shoo them away again.

@sarahstrong7174

4 жыл бұрын

You could say you have already called the police, then distract them.

What are things that I could say to my loved one with dementia who accuses me of the delusions that they are having? I am my grandmother's caretaker. She blames me for shining lasers (blue lights) in the house that burns her and makes her bones hurt. I get blamed for stealing from her (items as small as a magazine to something as large as her bedroom furniture, etc.). Additionally, I get blamed for putting people in and outside of the house to scare her. I get blamed for all delusions that she is having.

@annaQosl

6 жыл бұрын

Glenda Matthis I too would like to know how to tackle something similar. My dad thinks mum has blackouts when she changes into something resembling a monster that wants to kill him. He resents me for not taking her to the dr and reveal her sickness, and they saving his life. It's horrible to see a loved one changed so badly. Hope all is well with you both.

@nikkiderringer

6 жыл бұрын

Glenda Matthis I know how you feel. I live with my grandma and am going through the same thing. It's so hard to live with.

@DementiaCareblazers

6 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, with delusions and dementia, it is difficult to get rid of their delusions. HOWEVER, the goal is to find ways to respond to them that don't lead to arguments and allow them to move one quicker when they bring up their delusions without getting into an argument. For example, when you mom accuses you of stealing something, rather than saying you didn't steal it, you could say, I am so sorry, let's look for that together or I will get you another one as soon as possible. Then, try to lead her into something else as soon as possible like offering her a snack. I know this is difficult. If you haven't seen my video on 3 things to not to do with your loved one with dementia, this video may also help. kzread.info/dash/bejne/dYuiq66Oms7NiMo.html Sending all of you all the best!

@DementiaCareblazers

6 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear this, Jessie. Wishing you all the best.

@DementiaCareblazers

6 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry to hear this. Sending you all the best, Anna.

How do you know when you’re loved one is getting close to the end? My husband was diagnosed with server Alzheimer’s confirmed by a PET scan in January of 2017. There are days when I feel as though he isn’t going to be around for very much longer. Then he’ll have a few days to a week when he appears to pick back up. The original diagnosis was in 20008. At that time it was mild cognitive impairment.

@amberbamber8509

4 жыл бұрын

It's a year later and I hope your husband is doing ok. Prayers for you and him.

Many years ago I was privileged to be tasked with taking my husband’s aunt with dementia to her doctor’s appts. She never wanted nor understood about going and would threaten me with a spanking and resist as I fumbled through trying to get her unwilling self washed and dressed the first time I took her. Until I brought out her sweater to put on to leave. Suddenly she brightened up and became almost excited. “Oh,” she said “ you’re taking me to school!” Every time after that I brought out her sweater first, then got her willingly ready to go! She still became confused and anxious in the car ride there ( had to make sure her door was locked so she wouldn’t open it while I was driving); but her wonderful doctor and nurse would make such a fuss over how pretty she looked in her sweater and how happy they were she came that her whole mood for the rest of the day was happy!

What can i do or say when they accuse me of stealing? They now think im stealing random things everyday and want me to move out

@djondjon

3 жыл бұрын

I would like to know this, too. I am not being accused of stealing, but my siblings are, and I don't know how to handle it. If I agree, I am promoting problems between my parent and siblings, but if I disagree, then I am angering my parent (who is sure my siblings are guilty ... especially one of them) and my parent thinks I am joining forces with them. I have tried to remain neutral.

Any advice for when they start hiding their poop and potty accidents. Or throwing away their clothes away thinking they can't be washed. Can't afford to buy new clothes all the time

I'm interested to know.... do delusions have a root cause of past memories or experiences? Thank you

@renehay77

5 жыл бұрын

90% of my mom's delusions are from her past. She was a talented cook if pies and soup and often has delusions about needing to find certain ingredients, or that she's at work or waiting for a bus togoto work.

@miker4all

4 жыл бұрын

My grandmother is deadset on the idea that she’s being wiretapped and that she’s in big trouble financially like she was involves with something that involved a lot of money and she keeps saying suicidal things like “I’m old let me die” or “they’re poisoning me with their pills and they’re going to kill me”. Most recently she threw her phone and the charger I just ordered her in the trash and may have broken them, again being afraid that she’s being followed and someone’s listening on our conversations, always asking where we are and if we’re okay every time we get her on the phone. The worst and hardest bit is that we’re miles away from her and can’t come see her, not just because of Covid-19 but because we gotta get to her by plane. Even worse, she believes we’re simply trying to calm her down and no longer believes us when we tell her we’re okay and home. How do we comfort her and help her from 3,000 miles away? please help

@carolynnr.6409

4 жыл бұрын

@@miker4all have you tried sending her letters with pictures in them?

@shan22777

3 жыл бұрын

My grandpas are from his past, he was a cop

@suzannewhitaker3507

Ай бұрын

My grandpa was in a nursing home and he thought he was supposed to paint the place. He had been a house painter.

My mom (with Dementia) accuses my dad of buying their home without her (they bought together and they have lived in for many many years.) Because he did this, she doesn’t want to stay there. She also thinks she has never been there before. This conversation comes up at least 3-5 times a week. How should my dad handle this conversation. How should I handle this when my mom calls me to “come and get her, to get her out of there because he bought the house without her.”

My roommate has dementia. He accused me of stealing his money. What should I say to calm him down?

I was diagnosed with delusion bipolar 2 and PTSD what could I do to get this under control because I don't like it ??

@sarahstrong7174

4 жыл бұрын

Practising Tai Chi, Chi kung, Ki Aikido or Yoga will help balance you in the long term but it may take a while before you begin to experience substantial benefits. In the meantime at least you would be participating in a new, healthy & sociable interest. It will be best if you can find a skilled teacher but if not you could start by learning some gentle yoga poses & stretches & breathing exercises from the internet. Also you might learn some Tai Chi or Chi Kung from the internet. Try to set aside some time to practice each day.

My grandma has dementia and most of her delusions are about a family member being killed, we often say its fine or the police/hopsital saw him and its okay should we say repeat that same phrase everyday? Because I am worried she will get mad at me and say that I always say that, (dementia is more early stage so she remembers a little bit more)

@EdWilsonPhoto

4 жыл бұрын

Don't forget (irony noted) that grandma won't remember the conversation 5 minutes from now. Your response is (should be) geared towards guiding her into a happier train of thought, not setting the facts straight. Facts are not your friends in this situation.

My mum has the early stages of dementia, and was diagnosed in January 2017. She has friend staying with her, and she has been a really big help to us as a family. Her name is Dawn. For the last few months my mum is having times when she cannot find Dawn, even though she is right there. She goes round the house calling for her. I have her on the phone to me crying, saying that she cannot find her and wondering when she is coming back, but Dawn is right there with her. This is very distressing for both Dawn and myself. I would appreciate some tips on how I should deal with this, I am not sure what to say. This is normally in the evening, after dark, so I try to calm her and try to say that Dawn is with you, and that the other Dawn will be back with you soon and to maybe have some sleep and in the morning they will be back. Not sure if this is correct, is there other tips you can give me?

@DementiaCareblazers

6 жыл бұрын

This is so stressful. I'm sorry. It sounds like she is sundowning. Perhaps the video link I am including below will be helpful to you and Dawn. My biggest suggestion would be for Dawn to start interacting with your mom and letting her know she is there just before the time she usually starts to show signs of concern about Dawn being gone. Be proactive in the approach in letting her know she is not alone. Consider a snack time or game time or talk time just before the time she starts to think Dawn is missing. Best of luck to you, your mum, and Dawn. kzread.info/dash/bejne/qKNrxtueZJjde6g.html

@philgryntus6614

6 жыл бұрын

Thanks Natali. My mum is now getting a lot of confusion. She is now trying to find her husband (my dad) although my dad died in 1999. Also, seeing other people in the house. My mum has lived in her current house since 1963. She is now saying that she is not living in her correct house. She thinks that she should be living in a house that she has not owned since 1963. Not sure if I am dealing with this in the correct way. Trying to explain that she has not lived there since 1963, she seems to understand that, but still insists that she is not in the correct house, if you know what I mean? Is this Lewy Bodies Dementia?

I'm here because my 60 year old mom is and has been slipping for years. we live on a farm and her dogs keep killing her animals . and we've caught them in the act doing so. she's watched it happened. yet.... she still will not accept reality. I'm not sure how to help her. I need help. please. anyone??? she might be putting herself in danger and I don't know what to do .😢

My mother keeps seeing someone on the roof of the shed on the house on the next street which I have took pictures of the roof and there is no one there that's one of several things the other one is that she thinks I am her husband which was my Dad Arnold who passed away aug 31 2018 I am her oldest son and me and my wife moved in with my mother and ungest Brother to help take care of her and with my mother thinking I am my dad it creates her being rude and angry to my wife because she thinks I am sleeping with some winch. What do I do????

@t.h.8475

4 жыл бұрын

It's exhausting.

My grandpa is in the hospital with Covid and he thinks his wife Marie is mad at him and that’s why she hasnT called, but In truth she died years ago. He’s been getting stuck in a loop why he gets agitated thinking Marie doesn’t love him anymore because she isn’t taking care of him and why doesn’t she visit or call.

My husband 83 fears for his life every day, that Hell’s angels know him. Should I stay with him 24 hours a day high he finds comforting or just let him deal with it. I feel like I should be here for him but wonder if others would understand why I no longer attend church etc

My mom talks to her reflection in the bathroom mirror. Do I go along with it? She also sometimes thinks the people on the TV are talking to her. Not sure how to handle it. I usually tell her there's nobody in the bathroom, it's her reflection. TV, i tell her mom, it's a TV show, they can't talk to you.

@DementiaCareblazers

5 жыл бұрын

You typically know the best way to respond to your mom based on how she responds to you. If she becomes upset when you tell her no one is there or that it's her reflection, then you may want to change your approach. If she seems okay with it when you tell her no one is there, then you can keep doing what you are doing. Usually, distracting your mom, getting her to leave the area to do something else is a good technique. Many times, you want to avoid arguing or telling them something is not there since they will still believe it no matter what you say. Of course, no situation is exactly the same.

@EdWilsonPhoto

4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely! I'd welcome a conversation with a cabbage for a few minutes off the front lines. Don't try to torture what's happening into a logical sensible box...doesn't help!

My mom has delusions like that too. Occasionally she will say that she has to go to work. She has been retired for years. And she still thinks my dad is alive. He passed away almost 25 years ago.

My LOWD gets convinced that shes being held captive against her will. Calls me evil for not taking her home. We are in her home. But she still thinks Berkeley is her home. I usually handle things ok, but this one really gets to me. I have no clue what to do.

@EdWilsonPhoto

4 жыл бұрын

Distraction:...Hey! Look! a squirrel!!!

@connieestabrook5954

4 жыл бұрын

@@EdWilsonPhoto Tried that. Doesn't work

Just found your channel, my mum is at a nursing home and thinks she was kidnaped by an armed group and kept prisioner at her old house, and says people go to the bathroom and don't return because they are being killed 😔. I can't visit because of covid, she says don't go there because I'll also be made a prisioner. Help... 😔

@DementiaCareblazers

2 жыл бұрын

HI Mini, This is Trisha. Dr. Natali's social media manager. I'm sorry to hear about your situation;. Here is a KZread video she made that I hope can help you with your situation. 💖 kzread.info/dash/bejne/am2FuaeRpMa0ebA.html

I am confused because our doctor said to always tell my mom the reality (truth), then divert her attention. For instance she has been seeing spirits and people in her house for several years now. He said to remind her that no one else is there, that she is safe (very important) and then to go on to something else. My mom also retired 21 years ago and just recently thinks she is working again. I was told to tell her the truth, then tell her all of the wonderful things she has done during her retirement. Are we wrong to do this?

@DementiaCareblazers

5 жыл бұрын

pam112061 hi Pam. There is more than one way to respond to someone with dementia. If your mom responds well to telling her the truth, then continue telling her the truth. The way you respond is better decided by how your loved one responds and not a “one size fits all” approach. I hope that helps!

@agathaleon9826

5 жыл бұрын

My dad has been insisting for 3 days that he has received an important business invitation that he has to lead and organize. This is specially worse at night an I am having a hard time trying to reorient him. It is emotionally exhausting for all.. 😥😥😥

@sarahstrong7174

4 жыл бұрын

Some elderly people genuinely see & talk to spirits. Its O.K. as long as the spirits are not upsetting or frightening them. If they are upset or frightened you may need to invoke a few friendly spirits or Angels of your own.

What about when they are talking to thier dead loved ones like thier brothers and sisters.

@carolynnr.6409

4 жыл бұрын

How are they talking about them?

@sdbelland

3 жыл бұрын

What is it about that do you want to know? They talk to them, and for me, that's ok. I don't see a problem with that. Maybe for me, it's because I've interacted with "spirit" all my life, so I find it easy to handle it when my mom does. Many Blessings to you and your LO.

What if the resident ask when her husband is going to get me and he husband is dead for 10 years,? What to tell her?

@thetape5657

5 жыл бұрын

tommasini bafford this is an amazing question. I’ve never found a “correct” or “good answer.” I’m curious as to if there is a proper response to this. Many times, I’ve been able to distract someone by saying, “Oh, do you want to get some lunch?” And “tell me about him.” I would also love some input. It’s never easy.

@sdbelland

3 жыл бұрын

Tell her he's working out the details about when would be best, and he'll let you know. Then try to redirect to something else.

How do you tell them they don't have money to give away when they're adamant about doing so?

my son has dementia and thinks people are trying to kill him and every night he calls afraid they are out there trying to kill me.

@DementiaCareblazers

2 жыл бұрын

kzread.info/dash/bejne/iaWI1dFuYrKwkps.html

I am a live in caretaker for a 95-year-old woman that’s dealing with progressive dementia, as well as losing her sight & hearing. The last couple of weeks have shown some very obvious paranoia & delusional behaviors. I feel like everything I try has an expiration date on the attempt, when it comes to it working or not. She gets an idea in her mind, she gets fixed on it & then she becomes immediately aggressive over whatever it is that she believes. I don’t try to argue with her, I don’t yell at her. There’s been times recently where she’s been calling me names. I’ve gotten to the point where I’ll tell her, “please don’t talk to me like that” & she will respond with comments like “I don’t care how you feel about it!”. At that point, depending on whether it’s day or night, I will tell her either “OK, I’m leaving, have a good day, I’ll see you later”. Or at night “OK sleep well, I’ll see you in the morning”... in previous months, when she would voice something that she was thinking, even if it was just pieces of different stories, she would be pretty calm initially & I would be able to balance things out. Now, she leads her expression of 98% of everything that is in her mind with a very frustrated, aggressive tone. it’s tough to bring her to a calm place, when she’s decided that she’s frustrated or pissed off about something right away, that she really doesn’t need to be. I try to put the ball in her court & ask her how I can help her with this or how I can fix that & it’s like those comments frustrate her even more. Agreeing with the delusion or paranoia doesn’t necessarily work with her. I say this because when she gets an idea or story in her mind & starts to address it with me, & I have no clue what she’s talking about, so I’ll say something like, “what do you mean about this?” Or “I don’t know what you’re talking about with that, could you explain”... & that adds to her annoyance or agitation. It gets tougher when it involves a physical object that she believes is real, or exists or has been placed somewhere & if I know nothing about this object, then I don’t know what to do about it. she talks down to me like I should know about random things that I genuinely don’t know where she’s coming from with it, like it’s out of left field at times, where I have no explanation or knowledge of whatever she’s referencing in her delusion. She defaults to being firm about every paranoid or delusional belief she has. It really makes you feel sometimes like YOU’RE the one going crazy! What make it tough is when the name calling & talking down to aka verbal abuse comes into play. I observe her patterns & she still has this level of conscious behavior where she knows what she’s doing & it makes me feel like she’s a reincarnation of my last 2 ex’s; one a narcissist & another got mysteriously sick & became verbally abusive on a daily basis with very similar behavior to this woman’s; just being quick to anger about most things, especially related to me. Her kids don’t want to beleive or have a hard time believing certain things I tell them, because they are not seeing her behavior on a daily basis while they’re not here. Her daughter lives next door on the property, but only comes by to bring her over for dinner twice a week, yet out of all 4, she is my main contact. Yet she she doesn’t want to deal with her mother, so it’s like so much is lying in my hands to deal with, unless her kids are there. Her oldest son comes by the most but he gets angry with her easily & I can understand, because he has a lot more responsibility with the estate & I feel like all things accounted for, he’s feeling a lot of resentment for the whole situation & his mom being how she is.

I am 70 and am concerned about getting dementia. My 28 year old daughter lives with me. I would not want to put her through taking care of me. We do not have the money for quality care - so, my question is; since assisted suicide is legal in California and dementia is an incurable disease, can one get assisted suicide? I can't imagine living like a walking veggie and not know anyone around me. What's the point in living like that? To me that's not living, just surviving. It's one party I would not want to participate in!

@EdWilsonPhoto

4 жыл бұрын

Based on your use of language and your obvious sensible thought processes you are FINE. My dad was a doctor...one of his favorite sayings was " if you are worried you have Alzheimers, you don't"!

My mother has vascular dementia, she sees hallucinations and is delusional even worst in the evening time.

@DementiaCareblazers

6 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry to hear this. It is difficult to handle.

@stevendunn8197

6 жыл бұрын

Careblazers: dementia care heroes (Sad Face) yes it is

My husband has been very delusional during the last 3-4 days.

My dad makes up the wildest stories. I know they are not true. He gets an idea in his head and believes it happened. It has hurt many family members feelings. He will make up stuff then tell every one he knows about it. If I'm present, I will shake my head no at the person he is confiding in. He told my daughter he bought her a piece of property next door to him for her to build a house on. She was very appreciative and excited. Then after researching, this was only in his head. He was so convincing we all believed him. We did the wrong thing, we questioned him to no end. Then he realized his story was wrong, so he went on to say he got scammed. He is a narcissist and only cares about himself looking good to other people. I think this is why he makes up this stuff, to make him look like such a good man. Help me to understand this behavior and move on.

@DementiaCareblazers

6 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry. What a difficult situation. I do think what you describe above is one of the hardest things about caring for someone with dementia. If someone you've known has always been a bit "narcissistic" or rude, then when they get dementia it feels like they are continuing to be their old self and makes it even harder to continue to provide care for someone who continues to be hurtful. The disease does often make someone's previous personality more pronounced. It tends to put their previous personality on steroids. My biggest recommendation is to consider his current stories as part of the dementia and not part of the narcissism. The fact that when he was questioned "to no end" and then realized he was wrong, makes me think there is a part of the dementia that is playing a role in this. Family may need to remind themselves not to take any super promising or exciting information as truth immediately. Sadly, I think your family found this out the hard way. There is a part of your dad that wants and needs to feel important and telling these stories may be his way of doing that. Keep reminding yourself it is the dementia and he is not doing this to purposefully hurt you. If you believe he is doing this to purposefully be rude and mean then you are in for a really difficult road ahead. Thank you for sharing your story, I will add this topic to my lineup of future videos as I think many people experience similar struggles.

@EdWilsonPhoto

4 жыл бұрын

Many Demented folks bring their personality disorders with them into dementia. My brother is an accomplished liar and grifter who has scammed thousands from his siblings. Fortunately dementia erases most of the skills required to do the theft.

What do I tell mom every time she thinks her son has died?

@DementiaCareblazers

6 жыл бұрын

What have you been saying to her and how has she been responding? Has her son actually died or does she just think that? Typically, reminding someone with dementia about a death they have forgotten about can be painful for the person with dementia. If the son is around and she just doesn't remember, you can console her and tell her that her son is fine and doing well and will be visiting soon. If her son is actually away somewhere, you can say that her son loves her very much but is away on vacation, work, etc. Your response will depend on how impaired her memory is.

My step grandpa had dementia. He accused my dad and cousin of having sexual relations with his wife and he woke up at 2am running around with a bat thinking someone was trying to harm him. He passed away 2 weeks later.

My 93 year old mother has stage 4 Alzheimers and is rapidly declining. She has lived alone for the last 31 years since my dad died. Mother is not yet suffering from delusions but her anxiety and confusion levels are off the scale. Mother cannot cope with small changes to her daily tedium of routine and has few visitors. Her cleaner, hairdresser and carers cause her distress because mother thinks that she has no money to pay them. She constantly asks where her cheque book and bank card are and who has got her money. My brother and I are her POA's. She rings my sister constantly and forgets what she is ringing for. Mother craves her own company and is unable to converse for long,due to her deteriorating memory. At this stage and with all her problems, we absolutely dread the thought of her becoming delusional. Mother is cared for now but the future for her is filled with more concern and uncertainties. She refuses to go onto a Care Home but her stubborn attitude, stoic denial of her condition and general attitude has seen Care Home admission denied.

My mom has dementia. Is all way thinking that the cops are watching her. Swears that her apartment is bugged. That the cable company has bugs in all the electronics so they can here everything she says. This has been going on for several years. For the last 8 or 9 months she thinks they are going up in the attic and she says they talk to her through the vents. While I was there the other day she says watch this. She went over in the corner of the room where a bent is in the ceiling and was trying to get them to talk to her. She did this for several minutes. Then she turns around and says to me. They're not gonna talk to me because they know you are here. It's heart breaking, to see her go down hill like this.

@DementiaCareblazers

6 жыл бұрын

It is heartbreaking. If your mother seems to be really bothered by her beliefs and spending a lot of time in her day focused on this, you can talk to her doctor about possible medication that might be able to help.

@lorraincassesso1611

5 жыл бұрын

Joyce Youngblood my mother does exactly the same thing she thinks "their " watching her and shes being filmed or watched on camera, thinks shes going to be arrested. I asked " did we do something wrong for us to be arrested and she did say no. But its always on her mind, people are talking about her, its awful, its seems as thought its a form of paranoid schizophrenic I don't have the answer but I just try to reassure my mother that no one is watching us noone is is taping her I just wish the anxiety would go away we are going to talk to her doctor and see if there is some type of an anxiety medication she can take she takes a low dose of Ativan but I think she need something stronger we seem to be in the same boat good luck oh shes has vascular dementia

@AWanderingEye

5 жыл бұрын

What do you think of trying this? Bring an object that is unique to her environment and say this will disrupt the rays, etc. You got it on good authority, it's the latest, someone she admires recommended it, etc. It may need to be moved to different locations but it can interrupt her thought. A statuette, fake plant, even an old ashtray might do the trick. But you need to believe it works too and give her comfort that it will help. Of course if she is alone most of the time with no one reinforing this it won't stick. Continue to reassure that she is safe. Also add more activities to her day, little outings, exercise and sunshine what feels good to her.

@EdWilsonPhoto

4 жыл бұрын

Sounds like schizophrenia layered onto dementia..bad combo. Definitely seek medical help!

Unfortunately a lot of folks are delusional and they arent even demented, and they arent old...i know very young people who are delusional..

What about hobos in the basement?

I've binge watched a lot of your videos. I need help with my sister. But it seems your primary solution to all types of behavioral issues is to lie to them. I can't see that as a solution.

@DementiaCareblazers

3 жыл бұрын

The other option is redirection.

@barrycrook5995

3 жыл бұрын

Your feelings are quite natural for a healthy person. Perhaps you should look at it from your sisters position, as the afflicted one, and what you consider a lie.. actually satisfies her,,, and after all isnt it important to make her satisfied,

@mindfuldrone

3 жыл бұрын

Linda, your opinion is wrong and stupid... See? Did that help? How did you respond to that? Exactly. Now, why not try what the nice doctor is suggesting rather than being up in your own importance?

Someone in the family is hurt or dead

My mom is convinced that 10foot aliens are going to get her. HELP