The fact that he praised his son, makes all the difference! Love this

@he8535

6 ай бұрын

Bro y'all's got dads?

@krilous2755

6 ай бұрын

@@he8535 My mom did this when I grew up. Don't think Dads are the only ones can raise a kid.

@lachlanhenry486

6 ай бұрын

I think he was lying.

@lachlanhenry486

6 ай бұрын

​@@he8535yeah, one obsessed with toys.

@MSB-sn1md

6 ай бұрын

If he hadn’t praised him this would’ve just been cruel, but praising him and allowing him to try to fix it and just giving support is beautiful

To me the key is not just praise, but what he praised. He praised his effort.

@Timelordbeast14

6 ай бұрын

True 😀

@evilwizardtherapist

6 ай бұрын

No, he praised his accomplishment.

@NameWitheldByRequest

6 ай бұрын

@@evilwizardtherapist this whole fricking video video was about effort dummy

@ruffuls4212

6 ай бұрын

It's both.

@stillagamer3603

6 ай бұрын

​@@evilwizardtherapist no. It's a key difference, by praising his effort you encourage your children to try, if you only praise success you raise a kid with an unhealthy attachment to success and kids who don't take any risks

THIS is how a child DISCOVERS themselves. And it’s fucking beautiful.

@IamArji

4 күн бұрын

Ikr?

@Drilight984

3 күн бұрын

But it way past that time. And I doubt parent gonna change now. Well maybe for the better in the future or worse but it'll change somehow

@loxgaming6867

2 күн бұрын

Kids these days can't make up what's between their legs

Haven't seen this short in so long. Thank you for making me cry with a smile on my face.

@kathleenredick275

17 күн бұрын

Ditto. I'm female. And my dad did the same type of thing. Taught me skills and to be indepenedent.

@jananpatel9030

16 күн бұрын

Hah same here. I remember seeing this years ago, not sure why I haven’t seen this in so long

If it was something simple, my dad would say, you figure it out. If it was complex, he'd show me ONE time. 41 years and I still miss him.

@dekonfrost7

6 ай бұрын

Ditto. One human to another.

@warlord1873

6 ай бұрын

Rest in power dad

@tompurchase7466

6 ай бұрын

Lol you could show him once the first time not just chuck it away lol

@crldnlc

6 ай бұрын

❤❤❤

@silvestri5440

6 ай бұрын

Nah man my dad didnt even trust me to rake the leaves from the driveway

And making him feel like he accomplished something massive is the best part. Having your parents feel proud of you is one of the best feelings ever

@user-zg8fk3yv7r

6 ай бұрын

Never

@veqxh

6 ай бұрын

​@@user-zg8fk3yv7rkeep yourself safe, slug.

@Emry65

6 ай бұрын

Gonna

@CS-bd5of

6 ай бұрын

Give

@BlackCat-mq5sb

6 ай бұрын

You

I am amazed to see this brilliant person in shorts. For whoever is interested, the name of this person was actually Jacque Fresco. He was a humanitarian above all, an innovator, architect and futurist. His work is brilliant and his contributions are foundational on child education, social structure and problem-solving culture. I strongly encourage to check out his lectures and his “Venus project”, an architectural project based on his utopia. A true humanitarian that every school in this planet should show its kids. Rest in peace Jacque❤

@deborahdavis4150

5 күн бұрын

Yes - I borrowed a DVD - 'Future by Design' - from my library long time ago. Many medical instruments used today were invented by him also. Extending patents on his inventions (I recall) was problematic, so he missed out on great wealth.

@scottiiiejames

4 сағат бұрын

His vision of what our society should become is priceless.

I spoke to my nephew and nieces like little adults...no dumbing down. No sugar coating. I never lied nor deceived them.

@BrokenInBeauty

9 күн бұрын

🍀 They are incredibly lucky to have you! I never experienced that growing up, not once. I’m not religious rather spiritual and I’d like to say bless you and your nieces and nephews 😊 💕

The key here too is the praise. Your child is literally just a person who is starting from 0. Getting mad or frustrated with a kid for not knowing something is stupid, you have to let them know that the things they are figuring out on their own are *hard* to learn for the first time! And that it is good that they are trying! Everyone forgets they were a child once they have one

@austinthomas1465

6 ай бұрын

Your mindset is so beautiful

@jackwood107

6 ай бұрын

Also praising them for hard work makes them more likely to reproduce that behaviour, praising them for being clever can cause laziness. So be wise.

@spidermilkxx

6 ай бұрын

this is based asf

@duhJaank

6 ай бұрын

I remind myself and the misses of this daily. They are learning everything for the first time. Experiencing everything for the first time. We HAVE to stay patient ans reassuring.

@christinkle

6 ай бұрын

⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠@@jackwood107work harder not smarter

Kids need to learn how to deal with frustration and how to solve problems. This man is a great dad.

@MiguelGarcia-gy6nb

5 ай бұрын

As a dad, I can appreciate the life lesson but the way it was taught was silly. Could’ve just as easily back fired and taught the kid to discard things as soon as they lose their value.

@elly3359

5 ай бұрын

​@@MiguelGarcia-gy6nb I agree. He must have had great interactions with his child beforehand, the child had trust in his dad and in himself, that's why it worked well for them

@JohnnyAquaholic

5 ай бұрын

​@MiguelGarcia-gy6nb So if it backfired, you face that situation when it occurs. He gave the child an opportunity from a problem, and the child responded. The way was not silly. It worked. If it didn't, who's to say that this man wouldn't have found another way? Your comment is silly for assuming things.

@user-vw1ld7vj9s

5 ай бұрын

yes this dad is a great father. to let a child deal with a problem and not be sheltered all the time. then as they grow older they will become a better version of themselves. how many of the new generation can appreciate a father like these. 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

@amounica8485

5 ай бұрын

Well said. May be that's what we all need to learn even as adults.

I wish I had learned how to be a parent from him. My kids are far from ruined but having such a hard life as a kid made me want to solve all their problems until I saw the damage I was doing. Blessed are teachers like him and us for being able to learn these lessons from them instead of our mistakes.

"You produce a blob!" words of a wise man

Its good that not only did he push the kid to solve the problem, but he also gave praise when the child figured it out. Pressure without encouragement might crush a child, but this level of support and praise makes the child want to succeed.

@VexingWeeb

6 ай бұрын

He didn’t really encourage him. He just gave him a reason to fix it himself. If anything he did the opposite. He said he’d buy him another one that doesn’t break . Don’t get me wrong tho I really liked the video. But tbh now a days if he did what he did, I feel like most kids would just be like “okay” and let it go and expected another toy. Personally I feel he should’ve encouraged him to fix it and if he’s unable to, show him how (and not just do it in front of him, but specifically show and make sure he understands how it is fixed )

@h-pp9uo

6 ай бұрын

​@@VexingWeebok "vexing weeb"😂😂

@VexingWeeb

6 ай бұрын

​@@h-pp9uo what? i'm not wrong. he literally did not encourage him to fix it ,if anything he told him he'd just buy him another one

@nonenoneguy

6 ай бұрын

​@@VexingWeeb Idk most kids feel emotionally attached to their toys they've had for a while so even if the parent says that they will buy them another one the kid probably would prefer if they fixed it instead

@nonenoneguy

6 ай бұрын

​@@VexingWeeb I'm not saying you are but your comment gives off privileged rich kid vibes

Learning to problem solve and shoulder responsibility/accountability for yourself are probably the biggest building blocks for a person at any age

@0hleg

Ай бұрын

Yea I’m tired of the life old attitude that you cannot fix these things when you get older. Probably the worst thing about modern society is that we seem to preach that we can’t change our situation. “Oh I’m not handy” “oh that’s not something id do” “I don’t like social events” “I can’t fix the tv” “I can’t workout alone” “I’m to old to fix my back swing in golf”. People need to stop locking themselves in these narratives. You can do exactly what you want.

@JenniferJohnson-jt8eb

Ай бұрын

Agreed 1000%

@shawnbear112

Ай бұрын

It's vital to survive

He didn't praise his kid, he praised his ambition to repair his toy

That's a good man, who lived and grew wise, his teaching upon his children. I hope everyone lived that way

The most difficult part of giving tough love is knowing when to balance the tough part with the love part.

@guitarflori

6 ай бұрын

Nothing about this is tough love. It is just guidance. Tough love is terrible.

@DoctorBluestattoos5150

6 ай бұрын

@@guitarfloritough love is not terrible. It forms you and gives you discipline.

@empassmore8311

6 ай бұрын

TRUTH

@Smokey.07

6 ай бұрын

​@@guitarfloritough love is not terrible. If we had more of it maybe there wouldnt be so many people strung out on drugs ect. Instead of people enabling bad behavior.

@dUBfROMwATERHOUSE

6 ай бұрын

@@guitarfloriThrowing the toy in the trash was the tough part.

The fact that he didn't say something like 'see you can do it on your own'. Instead he said ' How did you do that?! That's wonderful!'. It brings so much encouragement for a kid to do things on their own without making them feel stupid or like they should never come to you. It's like a reminder to them that they are smart and can figure things out and you will support them emotionally by reminding them they can do awesome things on their own❤❤

He really has a good point😊

Absolutely true. As parents you think that by doing things for your children your helping them what you don't know is that your making them useless 😊

Makes me feel good as a father because I do the same thing to my son. His mother and her family say things like “ he’s to young to understand”. It makes me so happy to see his face light up because of how proud he is of himself. My baby boy turning 5 this Sunday ☺️

@xerxesman1

6 ай бұрын

Happy birthday to your little boy :)

@ishootfaces722

6 ай бұрын

Congrats mine is 2 and I do the same cause that's how I learned alot

@robertparrinello1687

6 ай бұрын

Happy bday glad your there for him

@alexanderdiaz6396

6 ай бұрын

@@xerxesman1 thank you! 🙏🏼

@alexanderdiaz6396

6 ай бұрын

@@robertparrinello1687 thank you! 🙏🏼

Growing up, from the age of about 5, I watched my dad fix everything. He always had me by his side so I could watch and learn and hand him tools he'd ask me to pass to him. Got to the point he didn't ask anymore, I just knew, he'd hold up his hand and I'd hand him whatever he needed, no words, just in sync with the motions from years of being his little helper. As an adult i fix everything myself because of him. Greatest teacher I ever had.

@CivilizedWarrior

5 ай бұрын

@@lanimalioat4395 no, what?

@Vanessa-xc7be

5 ай бұрын

So happy for you! Your dad did a good job. How wonderfull to have these kind of childhood memories.

@SN-hg6bx

5 ай бұрын

That s how you re pre trained for OR😂😉

@primroseroberts2349

5 ай бұрын

I loved reading this, such a great childhood experience. Your dad was spot on. 😊

@YaNeK92

5 ай бұрын

That's wonderful, made my day better reading that and also made me think and miss my Dad who's on the other side of the World 🥲

Exactly right! People need to learn how to fix problems themselves and it starts when they're young. Let them try to figure it out first.

Such a good father, respect!

The wisdom of a loving elder is worth a lifetime of lessons

@engelrivera-torres979

6 ай бұрын

Well until their mental health starts deteriorating

@inkedsin

6 ай бұрын

@engelrivera-torres979 how does that take away from what @garchafpv said? You still learned so much from said elder before their mental health deteriorated.

@engelrivera-torres979

6 ай бұрын

@@inkedsin because their always should be limits to when and who to seek "wisdom" from, cause let's be honest we wouldn't have half the problem we do on a grander scale of society today if we didn't listen to every old person. Besides if the old dude in the video had to teach y'all something it is to figure your own shit out, which is genuinely good advice because the majority of people are and remain fools their whole lives, not very few elders are loving as well.

@christyjo5126

6 ай бұрын

Beautiful advice. To often younger people dismiss elders as just old and feeble when in reality they are full of wisdom and have an amazing sense humor. ......

@garchafpv

6 ай бұрын

@@engelrivera-torres979 u must be a hit at parties 🎉, but since we are getting technical even when their mental health declines that itself is also a lesson. You reflect on the person's achievements, mistakes and then realize that you not only have 1 life to live but also that even though you can make it to old age there is still your health you need to keep in mind. See?

This is real tough love, there’s a clear purpose behind it and there’s real love to balance the toughness

You described the modern kid, minus feeding him way too much food.

As someone raised by my grandparents, he's correct. I feel horrible bad mouthing my sister but you can immediately tell she was raised by my parents, just from our core values. It hurts sometimes because people don't think we're related.

I’m 23 but content like this will 100% help me in the future when the first one is coming.

@zawarudo75

6 ай бұрын

A sad fact that this man's son died at the age of 23 for a reason, gone too soon and his daughter also died before him in 2010, it must be tough to see ur kids die before u

@geekypicky810

6 ай бұрын

​@@zawarudo75dude when somebody says "I'm 23" you shouldn't proceed to say "his son died at 23.."...😂😂😂

@zawarudo75

6 ай бұрын

@@geekypicky810 uh sorry about that 😅but I meant it as a coincidence

@Ryza05

6 ай бұрын

Somehow I think that might be worse lol

@kooffire

6 ай бұрын

​@@zawarudo75Yooo😂😂😂😂nah you're about to scare someone 😂

thats how u raise a confident and happy child!!! And not a brat

We need more people like him❌ We need more people to be like him✅

My granny use to say "ungahlulwa yinto engakhulumi" which losely translates to "don't be beaten by things that cannot talk"... She use to really challenge me. I'm quite impressed of the levels I reached.

Without doing anything, this man taught his kid to think for himself and take the initiative to fix his own problems.

@ritaseifridsberger4922

5 ай бұрын

❤

@loverofhumanity

5 ай бұрын

What's wild is just doing that one time for the first will actually mold the kid for life. It's kinda wild when you think about it because it's the difference between creating an independent or dependent human being but most people never ponder it.

@thelonelyboner4060

5 ай бұрын

@loverofhumanity yeah exactly, that and giving praise to your child for a job well done, easily promotes or encourages critical thinking from a young age.

My dad didnt do it all for me, but he did help me, show me things and encourage me. When I was in the hospital when I was 4, had surgery for my hip, the doctors and women in my life made me feel like a victim, and some docs said I wouldnt walk again. One night my dad had bought me Incredibles the movie, and I saw dash, and I said I wanna run like him. My dad said then why dont you try. I was quick with the I cants and so on. But my dad, taught me how walk, encouraging me, ready to help. I am 23 now, I still got leg problems but I am strong because when I start thinking of the I cants. I remember that I could, and I just needed his voice in the back of my head saying you can. Just keep pushing keep trying. Im tearing up typing this.

that's what i keep telling my mother, she worries way too much it's an illness!! she solves every one of her kids problems and now they need to learn all over again when they grew older

Spend time with elderly, the amount of wisdom they impart for free, u become a better person for it, it's inevitable

I think the problem comes when parents scolds kids for messing up. I think it's important to teach kids how to fix their problems rather than not have problems.

@Cricket0021

6 ай бұрын

Snowflake alert

@tylermccandless925

6 ай бұрын

It just depends on how bad they mess up like what if your kids started physically getting violent with somebody else and wouldn't stop no matter how much you scolded or praised them and you'd never talk them how to do that they just started doing it there would be an issue and it would deal with physical violence

@Hades.666

6 ай бұрын

​@@tylermccandless925indeed. Took the words from me. There's a balance to parenting. Can't be too harsh, can't be too nice. But true love is real. Never had a dad or a son for that matter but.... This just got to real. Imma smoke

@tylermccandless925

6 ай бұрын

@@Hades.666 same

@disturbedpyro4511

6 ай бұрын

He could have shown his son how to fix it, but he wanted his son to figure it out on his own and be self reliant. Yes accepting and asking for help is ok, but sometimes you won’t have any help around and will need to solve problems on you own

Not only put things upon them. The key is what he said after the child had success. He praised the accomplishment in a way that would make the child swell with pride. That is the key ... but you must wait until the accomplishment is successful. The more you do that, the more success you'll see.

@JACpotatos

6 ай бұрын

This is how you raise kids to hate you.... The dude is just randomly throwing their shit away

@JACpotatos

6 ай бұрын

@Sin41255 seems like a great way to raise kids with victim mentalities if you're constantly making them feel like victims

@drewhempwood2113

6 ай бұрын

​@@JACpotatos if you think that way, you'll be friends with your kid and they'll love you, but they'll never learn how to properly love themselves. As a verb.

@orangutanxremix510

6 ай бұрын

@@JACpotatosthis is why your parents hate you 😂

@TheRepublicOfJohn

6 ай бұрын

​@JACpotatos I get why you feel that way... but I'm gonna push back on you a little bit... true life-long growth and true learning in that stage of childhood is essentially a series of small, manageable, slightly traumatic events and when a parent facilitates opportunities for growth and problem-solving in the way this man did for his son, the child learns to be a problem solver and becomes a resilient, confident, capable, internally-happy human being. I think a few tears and a moment of emotional pain and a feeling of loss is a totally healthy way to empower a child when followed up with the love and attention of this father

I don’t just toss my kid’s stuff in the garbage, but I do show them how to fix things themselves. Empowering kids is one of the greatest things you can do for them! Teach them, explain to them, let them figure things out for themselves and you’ve created ability, confidence and self worth 👍🏼

I want to hear this man keep talking. He is wise.

Jacque Fresco was/is an amazing human being and someone I hope more people can get inspired by. Miss you Jacque ❤

@makhnothecossack4948

6 ай бұрын

His son (Richard Fresco) died when he was 23. I don't know how and I don't know why. *Hint hint*

@PatDefLeg

6 ай бұрын

@@makhnothecossack4948 I had no idea. Thank you for the wormhole

@tyfenrir

6 ай бұрын

I emailed him once and got a response, we chatted back and forth with ideas for the Venus Project of his. I still have the email thread in my inbox.

@WholesomePotato1

6 ай бұрын

Yes, he was. He really behaved like he spoke. Each of his lectures and videos are informative like this. Please look him up!

@GothamandGomorrah

5 ай бұрын

​@@makhnothecossack4948couldn't get the wheel back on his car and got trapped in a snowstorm. Froze to death.

He's teaching us while telling us about how he taught his son. A gem.

@norfolkdash9

20 күн бұрын

He is a gem. I'm 30 years old no kids, but I get put into situations with kids where I have the same mentality as this lovely old man. Let them learn it, don't coddle them and let them come to you asking for kisses

@craigcombes

13 күн бұрын

Im guilty of being the "let daddy do it" guess I like being needed, I'll have to change that.

@craigcombes

13 күн бұрын

Abit.

@ZyroPapuchon18

13 күн бұрын

Just wanted to share this. JESUS CHRIST died for you on a cross for our sins. 3 days after his death he resurrected and was, is, and will be The TRUE LIVING GOD. In a prayer repent from your sins and accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and also ask for the HOLY SPIRIT to come into you in that same prayer as well. Have FAITH in CHRIST. You could come to Jesus Christ as you are, but once you accept Him, you have to become new, change, and be born again, and turn away from all wicked ways. Jesus Christ is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. God Bless You. Praise only be to God. JESUS CHRIST IS COMING BACK SOON.

@ZyroPapuchon18

13 күн бұрын

@@norfolkdash9 Just wanted to share this. JESUS CHRIST died for you on a cross for our sins. 3 days after his death he resurrected and was, is, and will be The TRUE LIVING GOD. In a prayer repent from your sins and accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and also ask for the HOLY SPIRIT to come into you in that same prayer as well. Have FAITH in CHRIST. You could come to Jesus Christ as you are, but once you accept Him, you have to become new, change, and be born again, and turn away from all wicked ways. Jesus Christ is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. God Bless You. Praise only be to God. JESUS CHRIST IS COMING BACK SOON.

This man is absolutely correct 👏 some parents today are trying to fix their kids problems but the problem in future is the kids can't fix their own problems because they haven't faced any.

This man’s a genius

My father used to parent us this way, and we never appreciated it or thanked him while he was alive, i hope he knows that we loved him everyday

@IsraelCountryCube

5 ай бұрын

LMAO wtf damn you females were a holes frr LMAO no cap 🧢 wheeze!!! 😂😂😂😂 So you never appreciated and thanked him and you thought he was evil father LoLz! If you didn't show your father appreciate gratefulness love grace thanks. I highly doubt you loved him. Sounds like you should start regretting lotta things so much that it pains your little heart so you can know the *PAIN OF REGRET* and the pain of discipline. Smh you sound like saying bullwhit fr fr. I don't believe that for one second. Should've hugged him with he was alive.

Dads are SO important. Men are SO important.

@saucypeanuts9745

20 күн бұрын

Thank you. A lot.

I love that he taught the son how to teach and verbalize his thoughts, and how to explain what he did to improve his critical thinking skills. But I would never let my son grow up to think he could lecture me or knows more than everyone around him. There is an art to teaching humility and respect. Those lessons can wait until a child is older though.

Right, not like some parents who pamper you all life and then criticise you for not being bold and independent when the time comes.

That's probably the best way someone could have told me how to teach a child, it may be common sense for some people but I'm always for learning and improving.

My dad was career military, 31 years RAF pathfinder special forces, I always believed he was hard on me as a child, making me do things for myself, allowing me to fail and not letting me give up until I got it right, now I see he was preparing me to be a man, sadly he lost his battle with cancer 3 years ago, he will forever be my hero

@roofingservicespro9668

Ай бұрын

Real man ❤❤❤❤love for him

@cumsteak

Ай бұрын

I’m a latchkey kid and couldn’t have had a different childhood

@kristine146

Ай бұрын

I lost my military dad 11 years ago. I had to find a husband who lived up to his example. I knew I found one when my dad asked my now husband when he would finally propose. Now my husband raises our boys just like this, with honor, courage, and commitment.

@JonathanThorlandFlanneryII

Ай бұрын

My father always told me “You’ll thank me later” Now I’m thanking him. Sorry to hear of the loss of your father. A tough day for any son. He is still guiding and protecting you. 💪

@calebmoore1861

Ай бұрын

Sorry for your loss

Praising critical thinking and practical skills is so right on so many different levels, social skills, motor skills, and a mind set to try in the first place.

Jacque Fresco. A great person with a great mind. R.I.P

I enjoy telling my daughter "let me show you how" then I show her step by step what to do, and how to do it. After it is fixed, I try to unfix it in the same manner so she can do it herself too. She has picked up how to just fix alot herself. It's amazing watching her grow😊

@eel.vigintiquintuple

6 ай бұрын

Im gonna be a father one day man is that crazy

@pricy69

6 ай бұрын

comments like this give me hope. sending love and blessings your way man

@j-davis7290

6 ай бұрын

As she gets older I recommend getting her to experiment on solutions instead and only if she gives up do you show her, it's a great way to encourage growth and exploration (and find out how smart she really is)

@gtALIEN

6 ай бұрын

u should try to let her try to figure it out herself, helps with critical thinking and when it doesn't go well u can always jump in and help

@benjaminlang6

6 ай бұрын

Thats the right way!!

Gentle encouragement. No yelling, cussing, or screaming required. Encourage them to problem solve, point them in the direction they need to go.

Comforting a child is mom, challenging a child is dad. When they work together, damn that kid will go far.. Maybe even the farthest..

The missing link here is the praise for the child learning how to problem solve. If you don’t encourage or positively reinforce their growth then they won’t want to try that way again and now they’re worse off. They’ll think no matter how much I try, no one will appreciate it. His encouragement of his son’s problem solving is the crucial step.

You can never expect your children to have self confidence if you cannot show your confidence in them.

@johnnyhellsink6124

6 ай бұрын

Something I wish I had growing up, or even today. I make sure my daughter knows I do. I'm so proud of her. Her mother left us and she is 3 now. Such an intelligent little girl. Thrives on encouragement. Takes the sting away for not having any because I can see the benefit of my encouragement and confidence in her.

@moxxy3565

6 ай бұрын

I love my mom but she never let me do anything as a kid and it was a rough wakeup call going Into the real world. I see her do it with my nieces now and sometimes I have to remind her they're capable too

@HISWorldNeedsMen

6 ай бұрын

Wow! Great

@-bird-

6 ай бұрын

@@johnnyhellsink6124 I salute you sir single dads don’t get enough praise as single mums do.

@OGBACKFIN

6 ай бұрын

Well said. Indeed

My mom passed away 4 years ago and I miss her she was a single mother I never knew my dad my mom was the only good thing I had in life and she taught me how to take care of myself and she did the best for me I bought my first house and I don't have a mortgage I paid for the hole house it is a five bedroom two bathroom home and three garage and half acker back yard I paid 92 grand I have solar so I pay 83 dollars for utilities and don't have to pay a electric bill, all because my mom loved me and taught me how to be strong I miss her every day and I can't wait to see her again someday god bless everyone and stay strong.

@nazeemsultan1038

Ай бұрын

Wow, I am so amazed. You know, in my religion, every time somebody does good for the sake of Allah, He will reward your parents in the grave by turning the grave into one of the gardens of Paradise

@snehagadge1922

Ай бұрын

I wish u so much strength

@user-zb2yt3fw5k

Ай бұрын

R.I.P.🪦🕊️I'm sorry for your loss

@brucecastillo2481

Ай бұрын

Rest her soul and peace be on your heart

@BrokeAssCollector

Ай бұрын

I miss my mom too it never stops

This man knows what he’s talking about! You have to encourage children to use their own creativity!

When i have a hypothetical child i will look back at this.

So true. I pestered my Dad for a motorbike for my 14th birthday. I got one. It was in pieces. Took me 6 months to get it done. James frame with a 197 Villiers engine. Same thing at 17. Got 2 minis. Engine blown in one, shell right off on the other. What a man he was. Miss him every day. My hero ❤

@ohyeahyeah1068

6 ай бұрын

I didn’t get shit

@Incredible_Mr.E

6 ай бұрын

@@ohyeahyeah1068no one cares. we’re all dealt different hands, go cry somewhere else.

@daavidloco8374

6 ай бұрын

​@@ohyeahyeah1068me too but I give a fuck I had good time with my parents,enough I even cook since I'm 13 for myself and love to know to cook You can be more positive, I wish you luck in future for you and your family

@network735

6 ай бұрын

Awsome story thanks for sharing

@kikisekscotermann5332

6 ай бұрын

Yeah nice, I got myself a Honda to ride it safe and enjoyably. And it works fine 😀

I tell my kids it's not my job to remove adversity from them but rather to help guide them through it. The confidence and pride we get through overcoming a challenge is unmatched with anything else.

@empunktatze4331

6 ай бұрын

Exactly 👍

@redactedredacted6205

6 ай бұрын

2 year old wondering wtf adversity means

@Fuziboi

6 ай бұрын

You’re a very wise person and this world could do with a lot more altruistic forward thinking people rather than selfish. So thank you.

@hreade8772

6 ай бұрын

@redactedredacted6205 LOL but in all seriousness for a 2 year old it's allowing them to struggle with age appropriate challenges. Such as saying words correctly and being diligent in correcting their pronunciation versus allowing them to mis pronounce words and adapting to them; versus teaching them to adapt. Don't be overbearing about it of course but diligent and patience in enforcement.

@batsardcat3285

6 ай бұрын

I'm sure they know all those big words

Parenting is about teaching your kids to prove you wrong in the best way possible

Jacques Fresco, genius. Look him up.

So right....good lessons learned...problem solving. Independence. And got praised for figuring it out.. self esteem....wonderful dad

This man makes a great point. My parents had me later in their age and they would always say to me, you better think for yourself because mommy and daddy won't always be around. So, I learned to figure things out for myself. Today, ideas and solutions come instantaneously to me. It's the best advice they could have given me.

@finlandguy427

Ай бұрын

That is admirable that you try to solve things on your own, i do too but even so, my parents are always ready to lend a hand if something is too difficult to handle it by yourself, heck i even ask my older brother's help sometimes. There is no shame on asking help, wheter you ask from your parent or not so you could sometimes try to ask their help or advices if neccesary.

As a kid my dad used to stop my mother from interrupting me when i used to open up anything and ive grown up to have more and more interest and gather more knowledge about mechanical stuff and even computer in which im pursuing a degree and have plans. My old man says that till date saying "never stop kids from trying things and figuring them out"

Yes this is true even in adults. People start stand alone when no one you can depends on.

My parents kinda had the reverse problem. Their problem was trying to keep my brother and me from taking important machines apart. We had a habit of wanting to know how things worked and putting them back together. We also ran into a problem with the extra piece left over after we put it back together, which Dad had to take apart and fix what we had done and explain along the way how and why things work. Those were the days.

@gzus1482

6 ай бұрын

So in the end, your dad fixed you broken wheel after all. 🤦‍♂️😂

@Tempestan

6 ай бұрын

@@gzus1482 No, lawn mowers, clocks, toasters, kitchen mixers, really complicated machines with electronics and motors. For 6 and 5-year-olds I thought we did really well, of course none of them were broken before we started. Never had a problem fixing small things like toys, bikes, and nonelectrical things. Nor any problem "inventing" things like an improvised "hang glider" out of two umbrellas and some aluminum tubing and wire to hold it together. Mom was sure pissed about her umbrellas and the big knot on my brother's forehead, thou.

@f7744dread388

6 ай бұрын

​@@Tempestan Sounds like some good times

He didn't praise the child, he praised the work he did.

@ndeeziandrew

Ай бұрын

Underrated comment 💪🏾

@raheemabdul1066

Ай бұрын

whats the difference? ffs the the kid became a problem solver and got praised for it.

@Vase94

Ай бұрын

​@raheemabdul1066 As he should've been. You're reading way too deeply Raheem.

@spelsey228

Ай бұрын

Zero difference, dont believe everything you read.

This man is the goat!!! I wish everyone would study his life

NOBODY knows how to raise children until you understand that the two of you are raising eachother …

I'm a homemaker and 4th generation Idaho farmer, and this is exactly right!! We do this with our boys. Sometimes we don't have dinner ready and they are hungry but we are exhausted so we say make dinner then and they do. Same with laundry when they don't have clean clothes. They do them as part of their chores along with dishes and cleaning their own bathroom. I couldn't imagine having kids any other way! Kids need to be raised with good work ethic and I see a lot of lacking in the near by cities. My boys don't even enjoy conversations with those kids that just get everything handed to them and they can tell the difference. Our boys do not get big commercial presents at Christmas or for birthday. If they want something big they are to work for the money to buy it. Not sure why people don't see the character building way of raising kids. We are so close and we wouldn't have it any other way:)

@adeteforevermore5900

5 ай бұрын

They have to earn money for big commercial presents . From where ? Working on a farm you probably inherited. When you are too exhausted they have to cook , you were not to exhausted to lay down and have them . Cook your children dinner . And I’m sure you claim them on your tax return as well, earn this , earn that , that’s what your kids will have to do until they retire , you don’t have children you have tax write offs .

@MH3GL

5 ай бұрын

​@@adeteforevermore5900congratulations on sounding exactly like the spoiled city kids lacking work ethic he describes. 👍

@codyboyce7905

Ай бұрын

Work ethic is important, but kids have to have time to think and be a kid

@danielcrossley9386

Ай бұрын

I guess it all comes down to balance really

I raised my kids in a similar way. And I didn’t just buy them a new toy when something broke either. My kids learned to cherish what they have and to solve their problems without me as much as possible. Only when they were stumped did they come to me. They learned resilience, responsibility, and independence. And I’m so proud of them! ❤

@carmelitajones7779

5 ай бұрын

You're right. This type of parenting does teach resilience and persistence. You work the problem until you find the solution.

@thebesttheworst2277

5 ай бұрын

... *and we're all proud of you. Sounds like you did a stellar job*

@ASmith-jn7kf

5 ай бұрын

I'm sure they did, I would like to talk to their spouses. That's the biggest determination if you did a good job or not.

@WorkerBeesUnite

5 ай бұрын

@@ASmith-jn7kfand biggest indicator of how she interacted with them

@briana14333

5 ай бұрын

Great parenting♥️

I'm almost 30 now. This would've made things so much easier and meaningful. I'll remember this when it's time to raise my kids.

He's absolutely correct it also makes them tougher

Not only did he toughen Him up but also gave him praise. He did 2 very important lessons in one lesson. Props to him bro

I’m so happy I was raised right, my parents always told me “hate me now, love me later” and to this day I love them for raising me the way they did.

@HankiMaus

5 ай бұрын

Love your comment. What did your parents do, that you hated when you were young but come to truly appreciate and be thankful for as an adult? Would love to know.

@nickthompson1812

5 ай бұрын

That’s great; for you. I loved my parents throughout childhood and throughout my current young adult life.

@Mackenzie002

5 ай бұрын

@@HankiMauswell when your a teen you get up to mischief and they stop you so you hate them once you grow up you respect them for making you a better person

@irmakalember9403

5 ай бұрын

Nowadays people do not know how to raise their children.

@TheTheboss00

2 ай бұрын

My son told me “ok” when i tried this, might be screwed

Facts❤ we're to soft as parents 😊. Setting them up for failure 😢

How he praised him after fixing is the motivation

FACT!!! I wish more parents did that.

@Clementine416

25 күн бұрын

no you dont

@My_Cal

24 күн бұрын

Whats the problem🤨

@justse7963

21 күн бұрын

Sorry, but Gen z don't gonna have that kinda IQ..

This just restored my faith in some parts of humanity. There are still people who know better than most, may god bless you with a long and happy life ✝️

@anirudh.t8413

6 ай бұрын

JC

@mikeyates7931

6 ай бұрын

AMEN 🙏 ✝️🙏

I frequently tell my kids to solve their own problems. Problem solving is a hugely valuable skill, and kids are good at _learning_ it, given the right motivation and opportunity. If your response to "I have a problem" is "Let me fix it for you", you'll end up with children who can't do anything for themselves. If you encourage them to fix their own problems and give them some praise (but not too much, and recognize when they need praise and when the benefits to them of their effort is sufficient that they don't need praise) when they figure it out, they will be far more capable. (That said, sometimes they need _some_ guidance, but ideally only _barely_ enough to get them on the right path, and less and less over time.)

That's exactly how my father is. I have so much respect for the man, and now I work in the trades as an electrician (apprentice at the moment), following his footsteps. Prompt kids to think for themselves, and praise them well when they figure it out. Thinking for yourself is the biggest, most important thing you can teach a child.

Miss my grand pa he was just like this man !! And I’m the man I am because of my grand pa . Miss him daily

This makes so much sense! Kids being motivated to solve problems, and being praised afterwards :)

He has the most unique and soothing accent, I love it

Amen to that. Teach children responsibility, appreciation and belief in themselves! Always with love and kindness.

My 5 year old asked me how can we solve the problem of rising rents, inflation and economic turmoil.. I told him to go away and figure it out. 6 months later he's running a successful business and supporting the whole family 😆👌🏽

This is a wise man..always listen to the old fellas

Words of wisdom 💯

“Figure it out” most common phrase used in our household. It teaches responsibility, creativity, problem solving, and personal pride/confidence just to name a few. Now as an adult I can stand back and see the way to fix issues and am able to foresee potential problems when planning projects. Unfortunately kids don’t make anything with their hands anymore, and many have no idea how to be creative.

@ZetaReticuli1.

Ай бұрын

Aren't you generalizing a bit? Tons of kids/minors draw online. That's definitely a form of creativity

@GoTfan108

Ай бұрын

Very powerful I agree with this 100 percent

@uqxitt

Ай бұрын

That's a fair point, but you shouldn't have kids learning or being online all the time. The internet is a plague. Drawing online makes you see things you shouldn't ever see as a kid. But hey, everything's a learning experience in a sense, but I say until your kids are old enough to be responsible on the internet, keep them drawing in notebooks and coloring books or whatever.

A taste of how I grew up. I'm so grateful I had me grandparents there to help raise me. This is exactly how easy it is to fix this!!! Lovely video

This is a great lesson. I've grown up doing almost everything for myself fixing everything that i broke or anything my friends or family needed fixing, if i couldn't fix it i felt bad. I grew up trying to help anyone my best i could but in school i was told that i was "retarded", "wired wrong" or "broken" so i continued to try my best but couldnt understand where i was wrong and people wouldnt believe me when i said i dont understand failing at almost all my education i got all the way to university (doing art because i wasnt much good at anything else) and i found out i have several learning disabilities but it was a little late to this day i still feel "broken" but i still fix things for people. Remember "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" its a wrong saying they will and do hurt you if youre unlucky they destroy you to the core. Remember to always have kindness and a bit of heart when learning with and teaching kids. Much love from a man that can't be fixed

True, teach them, praise them and express your love for them

A great lesson learned. With age comes wisdom, collect it whenever possible.

Wonderful! I taught my children that they can't say, "I can't do that." They could only say, "I can't do it yet."

@WordsAreYou

5 ай бұрын

I LOVE love this ❤

@DinoBryce

5 ай бұрын

❤

@vuyelwajeanettdikane372

5 ай бұрын

I'm stealing this 😂

@justshar7215

5 ай бұрын

Beautiful❤

@wescald

5 ай бұрын

Terrible parent you are

This is perfect.. from getting his child to think for himself, use problem solving skills, asking him what he did to fix it, praising him.. just everything

Praise is the key, reward accomplishment, dont punish incompetence

I’ve always been told a good parents is constantly testing their kid. Especially when talking about a father-son relationship. You either give your son problems to solve himself, or you see how reacts to the unavoidable. And you test him. If he fails, however, you teach him. You teach him to not give up when life gets touch. You teach him that sometimes he’ll be alone. Then, when the next situation arises, you watch and be proud when he passes your tests and the tests of life.

@BansheeKing22

5 ай бұрын

Big difference between not giving up and a battle of futility. I gave up on getting a wife because it was a battle of futility. When theres no point in trying when the result is always the same you prevent yourself from going down the path of insanity.