Narcissists nr 1 feature is LOW EMPATHY. Nr 2: They use you.They see people as either USEFUL or USELESS.

@davidsprott3216

Жыл бұрын

i am a narcissist. i always felt like there was a disconnect but nothing ever made sense. people have called me a narcissist for staring every time i see my reflection, but i always played it off. i think everyone is a little narcissistic but i am off the deep end, and always have been.

@Lupo32

Жыл бұрын

Like a sociopath

@getgood386

Жыл бұрын

You explained it better then the wannabe professional in the video . Thank u

@sandradalton1611

Жыл бұрын

​@@Siennajs Because like he stated, "he's a narcissist. "

@synopsis5480

Жыл бұрын

@@davidsprott3216very human has narcissistic traits it’s part of being human if you have all the traits of narcissism then you have might have narcissistic personality disorder which is in people who like to manipulate i wouldn’t say you are a full blown narcissist from looking at yourself

1. Lack of empathy 2. Lack of real love 3. Lack of trust in others 4. Lack of real respect for others

It's a demonic spirit stemming from unhealed traumas.

@dittehompoth1469

Жыл бұрын

@Pascaline Adom I know narcissist who had nőt any trauma he was just his mother,s golden child and put ön the thron, and got everything what ha wanted,, surrounded by only servants .Mostly he traumatised the world and note viceversa, só any empathy for his type of trauma. Is it traumatizing if you can do what you want and have what you want, and to be above the low.?

@Wildanimal864.

Жыл бұрын

No excuse……it’s called poor emotional management and bloated ego…….you can deal with trauma by your choice…..they choose that route..

@m.h6858

Жыл бұрын

@@Wildanimal864. this is correct.

@hoodhippychick

Жыл бұрын

💯

@willtroy1986

Жыл бұрын

IMHO, exterternalizing traumas as demons is distracting and unhelpful for healing.

People abused have symptoms of unstable connections as well if they keep meeting narcs also

Navigating the maze of deceit spun by a narcissist really shakes you to your core, doesn't it? Their mind games are designed to break you down, making everything, even seeking help, feel like a betrayal to your own sanity. It’s a level of emotional exhaustion that’s hard to put into words.

@lucydragneel7212

2 ай бұрын

💯

It’s the getting bullied at a young age, the “I’m never good enough” self talk for years and years. Then one day you realize your worth and you start using your trauma to fuel your drive. You become so confident, you just don’t need anyone but yourself.

@AV-kr6gc

Жыл бұрын

Sounds more like a motivational uplifting story than a negative narcissistic one 😂

@rachelsimbhu3965

Жыл бұрын

This response is excellent and extremely eye-opening , thanks for sharing

@seaweedeater3104

9 ай бұрын

That’s too simplistic. Why the abuse, hatred, jealousy then? Lots who suffered horrendous trauma have cptsd instead

@summerbreeze5360

6 ай бұрын

Totally agree, I had experienced low sense of self worth and was suicidal after years of abuse, and I also gambled to block it out, they misdiagnosed me with BPD based on that. How stigmatizing, now I'm fighting a new fight. There are definitely problems with the DSM 5 . You only need to meet 5 symptoms , I have none of the other 9. ​@@seaweedeater3104

@Funkyatel

6 ай бұрын

@@seaweedeater3104exactly what he described isn’t even narcissistic. People these days bluntly call everything narcissistic without knowing what narcism even is. Thats called healthy dose of narcissism mist most people have. And that person could also have ADHD or use that fuel to gym and help others such as creating a KZread channel for example. Narcism in my opinion are extreme black pilled indifference or people who loves to be a boss and shows it by the admiration she/he loves and then manipulating and damaging the co workers if they deem them to be un useful rather than trying to help them out. And true narcissism isn’t as common as people like to believe but you could tell unless you’re in an inexperienced relationship or inexperienced in psychology.

Wrong mate 👎👎 this is misinformation. Not unstable relationships... A lot of narcs have loads of "friends " superficial friendships perhaps. The signs are lack of empathy, superficial charm, habitual lying, gas lighting, triangulation tactics, future faking, making up stories of fake success, emotional abusers, users or takers, self inflated ego , self absorbed. They are all there if you pay enough attention

@katherineshulgan2913

Жыл бұрын

Damn 🤦🏻‍♀️… I’m pretty sure the guy I just broke up with has most of the traits you mentioned. I suspected he has a personality disorder just wasn’t sure which kind. I think I have my answer, thank you.

@ismush8

Жыл бұрын

You are right, and he is mistaken. Because unstable relationships are more a sign of emotional damage coused by trauma and all types of mental issues

@synopsis5480

Жыл бұрын

Exactly this guy said a whole bunch of nothing

@katherineirons6245

11 ай бұрын

@@katherineshulgan2913good thing you broke up with him!!

@gjone1

10 ай бұрын

Agreed...why did my intuition go off and intuit that HE is a narcissist 🤷🏾‍♂️😮

theres this friend im friends with and always seem to have no empathy for others. everything is about them. if i give them an answer that they dont want to hear at any moment, they will give me the silent treatment and say im “acting weird”

Thank you for not shaming someone like they are a monster because they have narrisistic traits but truly understanding their situation .

thats more like Anti social personality disorder than narcissism .. most narcissists do very well at their jobs and either become part of management or sole provider for the family

@aprilmonique7639

Жыл бұрын

Not all Narcissists become part of management, some of them will never have the chance to move up because they've offended or pissed off their boss with their narcissistic speech.

@essentialseastar7853

Жыл бұрын

Yeah the only reason they Don move up is because their boss is a bigger narc In ranking. Corporate narcs will fire you if you show too many signs of narcissism and then you become a threat to their position.

@Funkyatel

6 ай бұрын

Sole providers for the family? How is that even narcissism? Sounds like you’re the one who is a narcissist and trying to warp the idea that a healthy dose of narcissism and normal individuals such as immigrants who are the main business management family providers are some narcissists such as middle easterns of indian Americas. No, most actual narcissists are the ones who are movie celebrities, extreme looksmaxers, business managers, not wners, managers, who only provide for themselves and their relationship “partner”, in art field such as jewelry sculpting or pottery business, OF model, etc.

@harumiayame8586

6 ай бұрын

Exactly! Narcissists are charming, they have lots of friends. That's why it's a buzzword. If it was associated with loners and not vapid, popular, attractive types, it would not be so widely used.

@SiriusGrifindor-yd4to

5 ай бұрын

Narcissistic they say are lonely,angry all the time,with moments of fear and anger,not charming and amazing! You know nothing. But still,no one is a narcissistic,cuz that makes you all narcissistic. Done!​@@harumiayame8586

A history of unstable relationships does not mean someone is a narcissist. There are around 5 established character traits of narcissists and this man didn't list any. Odd.

@Eleventyeleventh

Жыл бұрын

Do you have a history of unstable relationships?

@SamStone1964

Жыл бұрын

@@Eleventyeleventh With people high on the narcissistic spectrum - yes. With everyone else - no. These days I keep well away from people with strong narcissistic traits.

@Frugal637

Жыл бұрын

I think he just naming some of the traits.

@SamStone1964

Жыл бұрын

​@@Eleventyeleventh I know people very high on the narcissism spectrum who have stable friendships going back many decades. It's just not a trait I'd mention as it's not peculiar to narcissists.

@KingofgraceSARA

Жыл бұрын

I thought it was odd,too.

Sounds like literally everyone

There’s lots of Narcissists in the work Environment. I think the Scapegoat has trouble w Work and friendships due to Narcissistic Abuse. Narcissists I know were able to Keep a Stable job and go to work. This is why No one Suspected them. ESP, the covert type. They check the boxes in Society and wear a mask . But, behind closed doors…..

I agree 200% My husband is a narcissist His father died at the age of 13.He had to quit school and find work to provide for his family.My mother in law isn’t the type to hug her children or show them effection.She was very tough on him and his brothers and sisters.He is right about saying they had a tough childhood

@80sbaby90

Жыл бұрын

It doesn't apply to all some narcissists are created because they were spoiled and favored. Then they turn into adult brats

@Hananofny

Жыл бұрын

@@80sbaby90 your right most narcissist have a ego problem.They think they should always be the center of attention

@essentialseastar7853

Жыл бұрын

Correct!! Their parents mold them into brats and support their bs from childhood, that’s how their personalities are formed

@0xsergy

11 ай бұрын

​@@80sbaby90her dad story is basically what happened to my dad..

@cns9265

7 ай бұрын

@@Hananofnycuz they are u guys jst proved it

That could be anybody with any problem

@pragyankakati3092

Жыл бұрын

Now you're a narcissist as you are trying to protect yourself by saying this

@KortCam1

Жыл бұрын

Exactly, he should be more specific. This could be anyone.

@80sbaby90

Жыл бұрын

Exactly I agree with you

The work and relationship history of the target of a narcissist will look the same...

My narcissist friend is never happy unless he's complaining

I have to deal with narcissists every day

Most mental disorders cause unstable relationships, this is almost the definition of mental disorder. Here's some useful hints to detect a narcissist: - Doesn't take accountability for anything and never apologises. - Is obsessed with appearences. - Can't comprehend the concept of an equal relationship. It's all about power for a narcissist. - Is full of resentment - Constantly bitches about others, neves praises anyone. - Loves to virtue signal and believes he/she is an angel. - Seems perfect and charming at first sight but deep down is extremely insecure. - Will be extremely cruel at times and then either deny it or blame it on you. You're welcome.

You said nothing of how to recognize a narcissist (in your title).

Seems rather vague. And not an easy thing to find out about someone unless you’re already in too deep. You didn’t mention any of the more common traits, or diagnostic criteria. I’d say lack of empathy, pathological lying, manipulative behaviour, sense of entitlement, victim mentality, disrespect of boundaries - all pretty reliable signs.

The easiest way to tell if someone is a narcissist it’s just to plainly ask them: ‘are you a narcissist?’ because narcissists love to tell you you are instead

@neonmangoz

Жыл бұрын

I don't know man, I kinda question myself and my mind at this point. It's not as easy as asking yourself a question, or being asked it by someone else. A lot of shit happened in my life, so I don't even know where I'm at mentally.

@realtfa

Жыл бұрын

@@neonmangoz it’s a proven researched fact I just simplified it a lot. Im sorry for you

@80sbaby90

Жыл бұрын

No I don't think so at all they will usually turn around point the finger back at you and call you the narcissist

@realtfa

Жыл бұрын

@@80sbaby90 yes, that’s what I meant, sorry for the bad wording 🗿😅

@80sbaby90

Жыл бұрын

@@realtfa oh im sorry lol I reread it and got what you meant this time 😆

This Dr. should say #1 sign is lack of empathy.

I definitely agree with him. The statement giving is they actually become that's because development is all about environmental factors so it's hard to diagnose children (kids) however when you begin to notice it in kids help steer in the right directions however adults it's hard to steer adults they set in ways which helps mole them into NPD

it is said to begin at a child age such as between 8 to 12 , I have done alot of research, and every therapist so far has said it comes from thier home as a child by thier main caregiver, it is a way to keep themselves safe emotionally. so what your saying is that is not true???

Thank you for sharing this 😽 GOD BLESS YOU 🙏🤲

@markeyosef1579

Жыл бұрын

More like thanking him for sharing nonsense. What he described wasn't narcissistic behavior.

the art of saying a lot without going to the point

This is wrong. MISINFORMATION. Lots of non-narcissists are emotionally unregulated and have unstable relationships such as adults that were abused for years by a narc parent(s) and therefore have CPTSD. These poor people are targets for all the narcs around them.

Hahaha man I am living and sorrounded by narcissist people, my parents, my friends, my classmates are all narcissists. Belittling is just like bullying it depends. For me their belittling attitude is hurting me and making me feel bad. Also they are making me have a low self-esteem. They are making me so uncomfortable. God why this world is so cruel.

Basically an adult who acts like a teenager forever ...

i'm happy i actually turn to be apeoppe who respect peoples😍

they are very manipulative and they live in a fantasy world

@cns9265

7 ай бұрын

Which is better than living life like u guys

@briannall6232

6 ай бұрын

​ Your thinking is odd and crazy..... Reality is Reality... Even if you live in a fantasy world.

The description given can be applied to so many other disorders. It was entirely too vague. Borderline fall into this description, even abuse victims.

@summerbreeze5360

6 ай бұрын

Ironically bpds are abuse victims - usually the child scapegoat. And I agree with you fully.

It started as kids and they come out of pubety as these personality disorders. Since a child they had an unhealthy response to some kind of trauma and develop mental defense mechanism to disassociate them selves.

There’s way more to it than this

a narcissist can tangle us up in lies is just wild, isn't it? Their tactics can make us question our very sanity, seeding doubt in every corner of our lives. It's this kind of emotional turmoil that feels like an endless storm. But then, a real game-changer called PEATOOLS. They were a quiet beacon of truth for me, revealing the hidden layers of my own relationship. Suddenly, all those secret conversations came to light, and I could finally see the reality of it all.

How would one know about their history of relationships? Narcissists seldom, if ever, divulge information and even if they do, it mostly bs.

Correct 💯

I have trouble in relationships work and family but im definitely nit a narcissist

@cautiontothewind277

Жыл бұрын

A lot of these ppl like him are agents putting a twist on what narcissisism is...

@NaturalTi

Жыл бұрын

Right that wasn’t a good example at all.

@stezze

Жыл бұрын

Not all problems are traumatic

@grasweg3

Жыл бұрын

Tbh what he describes also 100% applies to bpd and probably other personality disorders too. It doesn't really characterise narcissism.

@summerbreeze5360

6 ай бұрын

​​@@grasweg3it does you're right, and it makes more sense because we're slowly finding out BPD are usually abuse victims and cptsd and BPD are the closest on the diagnostic criteria.

Yes! That's my take. Who knows if he is a narcissist and trying to make a very professional impression while disinforming people? God knows.

What about anger all the time and explosions of unexplained and unexpected outbursts of aggression over something that is innocuous as asking about a train timetable

But honestly, there has to be a cure? Right?

@Maki-qw8he

9 ай бұрын

Yeah fix yo damn self

THANK YOUUUU SO-O MUCH! I AM NOT IMAGINING ANY of this.. he's had MULTIPLE failed marriages and apparently his own SON hates him and won't talk to him... I can see why and I'm quite certain it's NPD from multiple of the 9 irremovable traits... I just also got sucked In by ironically someone else.. a completely different person.. who I now realise is also acting in a symilar way as an NPD sufferer but I never had thought she could be so I let her slightly in .. fucking regret... Only regret

Wrong, he just described a psychopath, not a narcissist

They get jealous of you simply looking at another man. I'm single and I can do that...

A disorder?! Our society is getting over diagnosed.

This clip was not helpful at all. :/ "SME": A narcissist is pretty much someone who...breathes air. Everyone: 😳

PLEASE ANSWER. can a Narcissist be attached to one SP only ??? And don’t be avoidant? 💯?

@_Matilde96

Жыл бұрын

@@Nicolecooper961 I’m talking about the begining lovebombing stages . I wasn’t even interested at 1st at all. and you can’t fake it- to be crazy obsessed. Calling me stalking me texting me u could feel the obsession for sureeeee . So that was my question.

@BLIQUEMIST26

Жыл бұрын

I’m sure they can that’s why when I move I have to be full on no contact. New everything

How do u heal when u still have to communicate to the person because we have a child together?

Doctor is describing an OVERT NARCISSIST

Think I’m an expert now!

Most of their unstable relationships are off charts from their history not a good identification trait

Narcs are often very popular types...watch any highschool tv shows? So the bullied and disenchised are more likely to be narcissistic? Do you hear yourself?

Not always, sir. Not always.

Work - Home - Relationships

It’s sad as my dad has called me my mom and my sister that

@Ed.Miller

Жыл бұрын

They project.

Seems to me like this isn’t particularly descriptive of what the disorder actually is.

The ones I know are all lazy. The shunt others to do the work. When they do physical work, they get angered

Omg I've been handing out narcissistic disorder for free to children and teens alike 😮 wtf

This feels like me but dr keep diagnosing me with BPD. I grew up in a family of codependents and narcissists no wonder I’m so screwed up 🤷‍♀️🙄

@summerbreeze5360

6 ай бұрын

Bpd is better than narcissistic diagnosis. BPD are usually victims of abuse and close to c PTSD.

Sorry this is not true. Unstable relationships can be a result of all kinds of personality disorders, mental issues and ptsd. Also Narcsisits can have stable relationships or seem to be stable mariges, and still be one. This is misleading and causing the hype of modern times when you diagnose everyone as narcsisist.

Ummmm that isn't correct, people with BPD have those issues, people with CPTSD and PTSD have those issues....there are 15 marks and someone has go have the majority of them. This includes subtypes...

If you feel like they trash

Knowing is half the battle. I think it’s a inheritable genetic trait

Is there an echo?

I disagree with this. A lot of people are narcissists and they show up in relationships and work environments so just because you've had difficulties in relationships in work environments and in relationships doesnt mean you're the narcissist. It could very well mean that they were the narcissists and you just didn't put up with them.

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

I don’t agree with that because you have some narcissist that stay in long-term relationships and the person that they’re abusing don’t even realize they’re being emotionally sometimes physically and psychologically abused so I won’t agree with unstable relationships because they can be in a relationship for 2030 years and putting a person through abuse for 20 to 30 years being a narcissist

Actually a pure narcist will have good history😅😅😅

I am one

what about a stealth narcissist? whos not a full blown narcissist or showing obvious signs. just little things all the time.

@davidsprott3216

Жыл бұрын

because they still crave affirmation in an unhealthy way, and they become vindictive when they feel they dont get it. it's destructive in relationships.

@Hustle.central

Жыл бұрын

@@davidsprott3216 how would someone like me change this cycle i really wanna improve my mental health very hard to find ways

@davidsprott3216

Жыл бұрын

@@Hustle.central idk, time and effort. it's hard. being concious of it and trying is the first step. a big part of it for me is taking life more seriously and taking myself less seriously. just work on helping yourself while being less self involved. idk try and fail and learn and try. that's all there is.

@Hustle.central

Жыл бұрын

@@davidsprott3216 aight thank you that actually helps appreciate it

@SamStone1964

Жыл бұрын

​@@Hustle.central Meditation. Spend time alone in nature. Bring your attention back to the here and now moment. Pay close attention to the way people respond to you. And give them plenty of space to talk.

Sir that’s not good sign people with healthy mind sets have problem finding the right person and anyone can have employment problems

Me me me me attitude.

Her work environment is actually the one place she “thrives”. I’ve seen her mood instantly change when the hospital (her work) calls asking her to come in. Almost like it saved her from having to be at home with her family. I’m obviously not disagreeing with your statement. They come in all shapes sizes colors.

Wtf is this guy talking about 😅

@essentialseastar7853

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely nothing

@tjfSIM

Жыл бұрын

I don’t think he has a clue

Kids can have a disorder

I'd rather be a Narcissistic than a self conscious loser Saying from personal experience

@bexatronxexe2670

Жыл бұрын

Narcissists are self conscious loser

@theguywhoasked2957

Жыл бұрын

@@rogerdawson3675 as long as I don't harm others it's perfectly fine Always put yourself before others This is coming from a previous people pleaser My father helped everyone and was the nicest guy I know but at his death bed no one came to visit him or at his funeral It's because he wasn't respected He never gave his own opinions and never lived while focusing on himself His last words were that always life for yourself and then think about others after that Just because you do good doesn't mean you're gonna Live good Happiest guys I know are narcissistic and that's a clear sign pleasing others is not the way to live a fulfilling life

@sthengidi4363

8 ай бұрын

Narcissist do please friends they can't say no to their friends. But hate their kids always don't wanna support and also devalue their kids.

Naw a lot of them got jobs and are ruining people in the work force.

I can't stand ppl saying weak shit about these devils

This is largely inaccurate information

It has nothing to do with what you are saying

This is BS. What you describing is not narcissistic behavior. Although you described someone who may be disabled or severely unstable. You put up a good front though.

This is a bad video. It doesnt tell us what it is.

"Mister", you're paid to tell those lies. From whom, that's the main question here. ???? Go, lie to your dog. But, dog knows it too. So, lie to a fish, it can't hear you. That was going on 50 yeaes ago, today is a totally different story. You're out of time, betrayers.

False. This is highly misinformed information. Lots of charming, charismatic, seemingly successful managers and CEOs are narcissists. Narcissists can also maintain romantic relationships for years or decades as long as they find some self serving benefit to the relationship. So you couldn’t be more wrong.

Dangerous misinformation. Guy is talking pish

need to delete this video

Doctor or not dude this shit is a lie.

possibly the most useless explanation I've ever heard - of anything! ever!