Never use or think the word "pain". Each contraction has "power" that brings the birth nearer. Power not pain.

@AlliyScott

3 жыл бұрын

I LOVE this!

@MoreSereinWu

3 жыл бұрын

YES! My birth class talks about this and uses the word "surge" vs. contractions

@heathertaylor6315

3 жыл бұрын

I heard a lady call it a "wave." I liked that term as well

@GodisInYourJobSearch

2 жыл бұрын

Love that.

@robinswims4769

2 жыл бұрын

I have a question if u have your baby natural with or without epidural will the doctor still cut you down below

I've had 4 kids (pregnant with #5). 3 epidurals, one unmedicated. Unmedicated was FAR AND AWAY the best experience! Does it hurt? Yes, in a way. It's extreme pressure. I've been sprayed in the face with OC spray (required for my deployment) and I can genuinely tell ou give me childbirth any day over that. It's all about preparation. Take the time to learn the labor stages. Watch videos of unmedicated labors. Most of all, practice. I prepared by each time I had round ligament pain, each time I had Braxton Hicks, or even real contractions while I had prodromal labor, I would focus as if it was full on labor. Stop entirely, move, breathe deeply (in for four, out for six). I listened to music I find calming. When the time came, I did all those things out of habit. I labored at home, in the middle of the night, silently (4 year old was crashed out next to me in the living room). I was an 8 by the time I got to the hospital, and really the only thing that caused me real pain was the anxiety induced by the very unsupportive hospital staff. Don't fight the pain. Let it be. Embrace it andnfocus entirely on your breathing.

@LeilaniMarie1

Жыл бұрын

Your comment really helped me. I’ve always said OC spray was worse than childbirth. I had my first with an epidural and my second was an emergency c-section. I’m pregnant with #3 and I plan to do it unmedicated. Thank you for your comment!

@lucialight6096

5 ай бұрын

This truly calmed me down. I’m 34 weeks pregnant and planning on having a VBAC. My midwife I feel like is trying to scare me by telling me my son is growing large,therefore pushing me into a c-section. But I’m tuning into my body and I believe I can deliver my son into this world.

@talyja16

4 ай бұрын

​@lucialight6096 please let me know how everything goes, mama! I'm also aiming for a VBAC and I've been watching a ton of videos on this same subject to prepare myself for my unmedicated birth ❤️ currently 24 weeks! Wishing you all the luck & praise in the world!

@talyja16

4 ай бұрын

This comment was truly helpful, calming, & oddly enough.. reassuring! Thanks so much for the advice! It's truly a "mind thing" that can be worked through 🙏🏽

This was incredibly helpful. I'm 30 weeks and confident I'll have a epidural free birth. It is so surprising how little support you receive from friends/family when you mention this topic so this was super refreshing!:)

@Pathrissia

Жыл бұрын

How did it to?

@rimg6075

10 ай бұрын

Did you end up having it with or without epidural ?

@sparklyralph

10 ай бұрын

@@rimg6075 No epidural!! I was induced at 38 weeks and had pitocin and waters broken. There was no changes/progress for 12+hours and we were about to do csection when the OB checked and found I had a second pocket of amniotic fluid. Once he broke that; I went from 2.5cm to 10cm in an hour and then I pushed for 1 hour. Didnt even have a tylenol haha!

@abigailsy2129

7 ай бұрын

How was it

@sparklyralph

7 ай бұрын

@@abigailsy2129 difficult but amazing! I had back labor so had to push in positions other than laying on my back which was exhausting but in the end totally worth it

I’ve done in three times now and it’s honestly so empowering 🙌🏻 The medical staff is always super impressed and tells me how amazing I’m doing working through those contractions, which also helps keep me going through that transition stage. I’m also stubborn and love proving to people that birth can totally be done with no epidural.

I’m 36 weeks with my first and I relate so much to this, everyone has told me I am crazy and that I will change my mind once the contractions start but it’s definitely not what I want. My body was made for this and I can and will do it!

@Amongtheterminalgeneration

2 жыл бұрын

How did it go? 🙂

@bash9032

2 жыл бұрын

Yes how did it go!!? Not pregnant yet, but more open to natural childbirth than I ever expected I would be! Our own self limiting beliefs seem like the biggest obstacle

I had two unmedicated births, 9lbs 11oz and 10lbs 2 oz!! 😬 It was so beautiful and so painful. But the pain is so temporary and the high after birth is out of this world. I was lucky to have fast births and didn’t need any interventions. The pain of birth is kind of traumatizing in the moment. But it made me realize how strong the women’s body is. I will always remember my births, and I’m grateful for the experience. ❤️

@marilourun

3 жыл бұрын

I like the acronym about pain.

@lilymciver5169

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks be to God!

@Elizabeth-gb2tk

2 жыл бұрын

If you don't mind me asking, did you tear a lot with your first baby? Our baby is measuring in the 95th percentile, and it's making me really scared to give birth.

@marilourun

2 жыл бұрын

@@Elizabeth-gb2tk congrats on the pregnancy. I’m actually pregnant too with my third and due in March. Here is my experience with tearing. I did have a severe 3rd degree tear with my first but he was not only 9lbs 11oz but he also had a big head. But the recovery was super easy and I didn’t have any issues. While some people will have a first or second degree tear and really struggle with recovery so it’s all very individualized. I had a second degree tear with my second who was 10lbs 2 oz and once again didn’t have any problems with recovery. Don’t worry too much about things you cannot control, some have 7lbs babies and end up with 3 rd or 4th degree tears. It also depends on positioning of baby etc. Now about your baby measuring 95 % tile, it’s all just a best estimate. My babies were always measuring very average 7 lbs babies and would come out as 10 lbs babies so they really had no clue. It’s not worth getting anxious about, my third baby now is measuring 2 weeks behind and I can guarantee you this little girl will be above 8 lbs. I just have a long torso and make big babies. No matter the size of the baby, giving birth without an epidural will be the worst pain you have ever experienced BUT it’s all temporary and we will survive and have a beautiful baby in the end.

@marilourun

2 жыл бұрын

And yes I do use the word “pain” because to me that’s what it was. I don’t want to sugar coat it because it is what it is. So many people are surprised by the intensity of labor because they had only listened to natural, calm and controlled birth stories but for the majority of us it will not be the case. Most of the time it feels out of control because your body takes over BUT it is doing what it’s suppose to do.

I’m 39 weeks and 2 days and I am SO ready to meet my baby boy! First time mama going for an all natural birth and I am SO excited.

@katxhunter

3 жыл бұрын

How did it go?

@monicacalvert1273

Жыл бұрын

God bless your new family!

@bananasmatter1321

Жыл бұрын

Update please!!!

@CrowsBlood

5 ай бұрын

This comment is 3 years old but I am in the exact same position today- first time momma to a baby boy, 39 weeks 2 days and wanting all natural birth 💜

As someone building my birth plan for my first baby now, I really appreciate your positive attitude facing your birth complications and having to change your birth plan but still being able to be empowered through your birth experience

This video was so empowering and helpful to me!! I’m 28 weeks pregnant with my first baby and planning for a natural childbirth. Thank you so much for sharing!

@bellaevans4488

2 жыл бұрын

How did it go?! 💕

I've had 3 unmedicated natural labours, and am due any day with my 4th (they were great and smooth experiences, but I'm still preparing for this labour by watching positive videos like this one). I agree with everything you said - your body knows what it's doing and will birth your baby no matter what; it really is more of a mental game than anything. I fought the contractions with my first (and even third) but welcomed them with my second and after his birth I experienced all the amazing endorphins and hormones. I'll have to remind myself to welcome them again this time because they're actually helping you and your baby, not harming/damaging you, and are therefore not to be feared. I will add a "YES, thank you" this time as per your tip! Also, the tub really helped me relax and distract myself a bit, I highly recommend water birth or at least labouring in the tub!

@amirahabdi

2 ай бұрын

Just gave birth 2 weeks ago with my third child, the end stages of labour was so painful and it’s the thought of how long will this last which feared me cus I just couldn’t do it anymore….i was surprised that it didn’t last long before my body forced pushing baby out

Love this video!! But remember, don't be ashamed if this doesn't work for you and your body. I was on the brink of c-section with my first after 12 hours of 0 progress and broken water. We got the epidural (since I would have needed it placed for c-section anyways) 3cm-10 and baby out within 30 minutes. This being said, I absolutely did love the experience I had of those 12 hours laboring without it. I'm also not ashamed that my body needed further help, and I'm beyond excited to see how this labor goes within the next couple of weeks

@suseq949

3 жыл бұрын

It seems epidurals actually relax the mom and speeds up dilation. The stress from the agonizing pain tenses body and impedes dilation. She many stories of women who dilate quickly after their epidural. They rest, sleep and before they know it are fully dilated

@deepconvos1

2 жыл бұрын

Epidural helps a lot specially with long labors! I am a nurse and I don't like this social pressure of having natural births, do it if your body handles and still progress in a steady speed but there are reasons for hospital interventions. Hundreds years ago people gave births st homes and died much much more then today because no, labor is not always natural for everybody. Your body built for it is not %100 mean you would not get complications and maybe might lose your life!!

@elke3789

Жыл бұрын

Labor nurse here. This actually happens quite often. As much as I love unmedicated birth sometimes something comes up for people (there are a lot of things that can affect labor) that causes a body to be unable to relax. Better to try an epidural before going straight to a section if lack of progress is the reason a provider is encouraging a surgical birth.

@kleinemaus6094

Жыл бұрын

First is usually the hardest. I had a epi with mine, 38 hours total, and same situation, 12 hours with no progress at all. Finally had unmedicated with my fourth, and will be doing so again in about 3 months with my 5th!

33 weeks pregnant // first baby // natural birth 🌺 this video definitely helped me mentally ! Cant wait for our miracle hopefully in 7 weeks! God bless!!!

I’m pregnant with my first and want to do an unmedicated birth. When I say that, I get the same reactions. People straight up laughing or just saying I won’t be able to do it. It’s SO disheartening but makes me want to do it so much more

I LOVE THIS SO MUCH! 🥰 After giving birth to my son last November I fell IN LOVE with labor and delivery. And I am officially going back to school in January to start my RN for Labor & Delivery! 💙 I cannot wait to be there for mamas, and be their advocate, and help other women get through labor how they desire🥰 Thanks a million for all your openness and honestly about pregnancy/delivery/motherhood 💙💙

This is hands down the best video on this subject I’ve seen so far. Your experience of being rushed to the hospital with preeclampsia is so inspiring. The stages of labor are so helpful.

Thank you for making this video!! I feel like I’m going to watch it again while I’m in labor! Lol very empowering and nice to hear someone encouraging us instead of laughing at you for wanting to do it natural! It really means so much!

I’m 38 weeks and 1 day and this is the exact pep talk I needed to reinforce my wants and desires for birth. Thank you so much for sharing! 🙏🏼

Wow this was one of the MOST USEFUL videos I watched on KZread! Thank you Alliy!

Glad you had that positive natural birth! Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers as you approach your second labor and delivery!

@AlliyScott

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!!!

Really impressed with your ability to “see” your thoughts vs “being” your thoughts 🥂 well done I’m so excited for this journey

This video was very helpful. I am due with my first born son October 23rd 2021. I thought I was prepared, but watching this video was SO helpful. Your son is so adorable and you are gorgeous! ♥️

Getting ready to have my second baby in about 2 weeks, this video couldn’t have come at a better time. I’ve been so anxious and scared the second time around because now I know what to expect and I’ve just been so scared and stressed out about L&D... thank you so much for this video, just hearing that the pain of contractions is purposeful & normal makes me feel 10000 times better♥️😭

@AlliyScott

3 жыл бұрын

Knowing what to expect makes preparing for number 2 easier and harder at the same time 😅you're going to do great! ❤️

This is the best video I’ve seen on this! So informative and helpful - thank you so much!

I just found you but I love all of your content I’ve watched. So calming & relatable!😌

This was so helpful. Thanks so much for posting! I’m like you, the more people doubt me, the more determined I become.

Love how positive this video is! 31 weeks & I can’t wait 🙏🏼 Your baby is so cute! Love how he took a peek 😍😍💕

This video truly eased my fear! (I’m 30 weeks with my first baby) THANK YOU FOR SHARING ALL THIS GOOD INFORMATION! 🙏🏼✨

This is one of the most helpful video about natural birth ive ever watched, I felt your passion!🤍🤍loved your voice its calming lol!🤍 im due in February too!!!!

This was the best video I’ve watched thus far on this topic. All the books and videos I’ve consumed & this was hands down the best! Thank you babe!

Thanks mama! I just found out I have to be induced Sunday, Mother’s Day, and was really not happy about it. It’s nice to hear you were still successful in not getting the epidural. And your descriptions of coping mechanisms were very helpful and encouraging 💕 Wish me luck!

This was such an insightful and inspiring video, thank you so much for sharing!! ❤ I'm 37 weeks tomorrow and stories like these give me so much hope for my own labour!

This is the most practical and helpful video I have found to prepare for labor. Expecting my first in February and I honestly feel like your video is going to make a world of a difference in my experience so thank you.

girl, you're a champ ❤ thx for the inspo 🙏

This is literally such a helpful video, I’m almost close to having my first baby & before I was pregnant and during my whole pregnancy I planned for a natural labor and I will keep telling myself that! This video is just such an encouraging message/ tips for anybody that wants to go natural. I know I can do it & all of us women are made for this! Thank you so much!

Such a HELPFUL video!! Thank you so much for sharing! Blessings!

Thank you so SO much love your videos and how you don’t try to give all the answers, you put it back on us the audience to do the research and find the answers we need to make the right choice for us. Thank you Alliy!

This is empowering and reassuring thank you for your help!! Birth is a beautiful experience congratulations!!

This was a very helpful video! Thank you. I appreciated you talking about the stages even though I was familiar. 😊

You’re a rockstar and this video gave me so much peace and to be honest excitement about my natural birth this June!

This was so helpful! Thanks for sharing your tips and advice!

Thank you for this video. extremely helpful and informative!!! Im 32 weeks and i feel a lot more confident with those pointers. Ive created an affirmation list based off the advice you gave. this was awesome. thank you!!!!!!!

First comment❤️ and natural birth without any drugs is a beautiful experience from personal experience but every birth is beautiful

Thank u so much for makin this video 🥹 i’m currently 20weeks pregnant with my first baby and I knew from the beginning I wanted a natural birth but wanted to do my research and see other women’s stories. People are typically very negative about natural birth’s. This video was not only inspiring but empowering!!! Thanks for sharing ur experience!❤️❤️

Thank you for sharing this! I’ve been afraid that induction would be the start of the cascade of interventions, so it is good to hear from someone for whom it was not, who was able to nonetheless go without an epidural as desired!

Thanks so much for sharing. This was everything positive I needed to hear today!

Thank you so much for sharing with your birth experience! It's so valuable and informative. I'm expecting my first child this winter and I'm learning a lot about natural birth.

Great video, so so helpful!! Thank you so much for sharing your experience and tips!

Hawk peeking in the camera and his little laughs are the cutest!

ive passed many kidney stones and my aunt told me that stones are way worse than labor and delivery. so thats what helping me with the mental game haha

Wow what a great and helpful video! Thank you so much for making it ❤

I love this! I’d never heard of women giving birth in a coma. That’s absolutely incredible. I really appreciate your video here.

God bless all the women who can do it. I just gave birth last Friday and as someone who has no pain tolerance I needed the extra help.

Great advice! I’m having my third baby in a couple months and going to try it naturally. Also love your makeup!

I'm currently 39 weeks with my first baby and hope to have an epidural free labor and delivery. My why is very similar to yours and I don't want the cascade of interventions if possible. Thank you for sharing your birth experience and how you prepped.

I love love loved this video! As a brand new mother to be, never having a child in my life, but always wanting to do it completely without mediccation, because I believe that's what you're meant to do as a woman, this video litterly was a huge confidence booster for me. thus far the midwife I've had so far has been amazing. Oh yeah, I'm not that far along in my pregnancy journey either, lol. I just loved looking at this video. I'm also a huge I wanna prove everyone wrong person as well, and I seriously want to do this! I don't care where I have the birth, but I've made it clear already to close friends that I want a midwife and I do not under any circumstances want an epidural. I loved your tips on the transition phase because I know that will be the hardest, but I'm already practicing little afrimations in my head for the entire period. Hopefully I can remember to use them haha. Please everyone enlighten me! I am beyond excited to be a mom and my husband and I have long awaited to go on this journey! I know some people will judge me just like they judfed you when you first did this with your first child, but I'm so glad you stuck with it and are the exact kind of person I am, because I really really needed this video! Thank you so much for taking the time to make it! I feel like it really spoke to me and who I am as a woman! Also, as a sidenote, you don't have to see to know how cute your little boy was in that video. That's right, I'm also totally blind and doing this as well for the first time!

Love this, so encouraging ❤

Rewatched this since I am 38+ weeks with my second! Love it😍

Loved watching your video. 39+5 and very ready to meet my little guy (my 3rd). Had epidural for my last two pregnancies and docs that forced me to lie on my back for most of the time. This time around I’ll be doing anything but being on my back. That’s my biggest reason for no epidural to be able to move around as much as I like and to push and give birth in whatever position will feel comfortable to me at that time. And kudos to you momma for getting this video done with your little helper by your side 😁👍🏻

This was the best video I’ve watched about drug free birth. SO positive and reassuring! I’m only 5 weeks pregnant but trying to figure out which route I want to take for the birth, I’ve always wanted a drug free, but of course the pain scares me. This has made me so much better about my decision!

@jessicaholland6796

7 ай бұрын

Have you looked at Bradley childbirth classes?

Major props!! You’re pretty amazing if you give birth naturally.

@AlliyScott

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!! ❤️ Birth is amazing no matter what! 💪

Just gave birth on Sunday to my first. I labored at home for 12 hours. Once I got to the hospital I was 5.5 cm. Within 2 hours I was 8cm and couldn't control my breathing from the pain and decided to get an epidural so I could relax and not put the baby in stress. I wanted an all natural, maybe next time

I'm 37 weeks pregnant and want to do a natural birth and I just want to say thank you for this video!! I find it extremely helpful, I'm so excited for my labor! Thanks!

@janesi9613

2 жыл бұрын

How did this video help you ? I’m 38 and I’m nervous to do this

Thank you Alliy, I am looking forward to my birth experience, I intend to be present throughout, to feel everything that God and nature intended me to feel. Your words are amazing

Amazing focus and staying on topic! Some other videos drive me crazy when people start apologizing and talking about unrelated things. I’m sure this focus helped you during birth will try to do same.

I had an epidural with my first and it was fine. But I'm expecting baby number 2 now and I'd really like to do it unmedicated! My ob was very cool about it when I brought it up so I'm hopeful that I can make it through. This video was very encouraging!

I believe I can do this! This was so inspiring, honestly I would tell everyone that I wanted a natural birth and they would laugh at me or sarcastically say “good luck” If the women from back then could do it, so can I ! Honestly my teen mom cat gave birth to 3 kittens right by feet in bed. I think about all these animals of how natural birth is. There is nothing wrong with natural birth and of course nothing to brag about.

Loved loved loved this talk😘

Thank you for sharing, you are such a blessing. I had natural birth and I couldn’t have explained the experience better. What a great video for expectant mamas❤

LOL @ 21:04 when your son peaked his head in the camera, I lost it!! That was just so cute and funny to me 🤣😍

Wow. This was soooo helpful 🙏💕🙏 thank you

This was such a helpful video!

This was really encouraging! Thank you for sharing!

@ryleeanfinson2693

3 ай бұрын

I'm 38 weeks with my 4th baby, and she has a PAC and I have to switch from a home birth to a hospital birth, and I'm just trying to prepare mentally for this switch of plans.

Super helpful and to the point!! Thanks

Thank you so much, this is the most helpful video ever.

Omg this was so helpful, thank you ❤

For becoming a first time mom and due next month this is really helpful cause this is exactly what I want to do for my first pregnancy ❤️ and this is a really helpful video thankyou for posting your opinions and being helpful much appreciated ❤

Thanku for sharing all this info , extremely helpful!

Hawk's little eye peeping in around 21 mins 😂 so cute!

I watched the entire video. Very helpful and empowering. Thinking of doing natural birth and this video has convinced me more to go on to my plan. Thanks for the positive thoughts and insights! 👍👍👍

I actually wanted epidurals for both pregnancy but I went natural.. and iam so happy i did.

I absolutely love this video ❤

So informational! Thank you

This is the best encouraging video ever. Honestly everybody laughs at me when I tell them that I want unmedicated birth so now I stopped telling people. They are not helpful and only tell you scary stories. I m no super women but I only want to hear positive stories so I m encouraged and not discouraged. So thank you for being for positive 🙏🏽 PS: ur baby is super adorable

@ericadoan233

Жыл бұрын

I don’t tell anyone either 😂

This so helpful 💗 thank you

This is a great video !

This video is so helpful and beautiful. Have you ever considered becoming a doula? I feel like you would be so great at it.

@AlliyScott

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! And NO lol I love pregnancy, birth, and everything but I don't think I could handle that and I hate touching other people 😂😂😂

@JaJa1023

3 жыл бұрын

Alliy Scott 😂😂 I totally understand that. That would make that job pretty difficult 😂

About to have my son any day ❤Thank you very much for this. I feel and extra sense of empowerment now and I know I can do this 😊

@nataliamirochnitchenko8152

9 ай бұрын

were you able to do it epidural free?

Great video. I love your point of view.

Thank you for this wonderful video ❤

WHAT WAS THIS AMAZING BIRTH CLASS THAT YOU TOOK?!

I remember when I had an abscessed tooth, I told my husband that I would rather give birth to 10 babies instead of this tooth pain

Love 💘, guys so much and hope everything is going well for you and your family and your pregnancy and hope your unborn baby is healthy and growing and my thoughts and prayers are with you for a safe and healthy pregnancy and God bless you all and stay safe and healthy. Love 💘, 💘

Love this video 😊

Thank you for this video!!

Thank you for this empowering video 🙏

Very good video, very useful!!!!

Great tips!

I like the idea of visualizing what is happening inside, telling myself that my baby is on her way, my body is making a way for her, she is coming, etc. when those strong contractions come. Tbh, other types of visualizations would probably not work for me. The typical affirmations and visualizations with blue skies and rainbows terribly annoy me. I cannot take them seriously so I think they would anger me rather than calm me. So, I will try to think of what is actually happening and why it is good and important. I hope this will help get me through. I get the idea of not using the word pain, so MAYBE I will try not to use that word, but it also feels a bit untrue. So, I think it's also fine to just remind myself that the pain is benefitting me and the baby, that it is necessary, that it's a sign of her coming, good things are happening. It is OKAY that labor and pain are necessary so that on the other side we can find liberation and joy.

@kwkelsey

Жыл бұрын

Agreed

I’m due in Feb with my 2nd & a girl too!

Saving this for once I get pregnant! Definitely scared to get an epidural because of my fear of needles and I’ve watched videos of how they insert it. (probably shouldn’t have😂) I’m really wanting to go as natural as possible though!

@AlliyScott

3 жыл бұрын

Girl same 😅 I watched a video of how they do it and that was scarier than natural labor lol

@dominikam5141

3 жыл бұрын

Even though I love the thought of a natural birth. I was induced and was 'in pain' for longest 2 days of my life. I was given drugs to sleep for few hours as I couldn't even sleep myself. So when it came to my active labour and they broke my water. I simply couldn't not anymore. I was exhausted and as much as I didn't want an epidural I asked for it. It gave me a night of sleep whilst my husband was topping up epidural so I could get some rest before pushing. And the needle which I was so afraid of was totally nothing.

@KaylaNatalie

3 жыл бұрын

@@dominikam5141 I agree. I had 2 epidurals (1 stopped working) but the IV hurt more than the epidural lol

@Im-wk6vw

2 жыл бұрын

I was a high school student shadowing anesthesiologists in the hospital. One of the docs I shadowed had me place the epidural. Seeing how long the needle is, and knowing they let someone with absolutely no medical knowledge place it made me terrified to ever have one placed.