3:09 timestamp for anyone revisiting the video who just wants to rewatch the D.O.P.A. menu tutorial : )

@crystalabarr

4 жыл бұрын

omg thank you. torture for add/adhd brain to take so long to get to the menu.

@andrew4635

4 жыл бұрын

THANK YOU. I was hoping a mini overview would be in the description, but it wasn't :p

@isharanmusic1080

4 жыл бұрын

@@crystalabarr lol I know right?😂😂😂

@isharanmusic1080

4 жыл бұрын

@@andrew4635 here's the next best thing :)

@amy-bethtaylor2656

4 жыл бұрын

❤❤❤

So having 37 tabs open, with 5 KZread tabs, a Twitch tab, a Netflix tab, with 3 videos playing at the same time is not the way to go??? Asking for myself!

@HowtoADHD

4 жыл бұрын

I mean, it's a super common way of coping. Can't just write it off entirely. Is it satisfying? Is it working for you? Sometimes for some people it's not really, but it holds attention well *enough* that they don't need to wander off and find something more satisfying. It's SO individual though. I have friends who are incredibly content doing that at the end of the night to unwind.

@teigjie

3 жыл бұрын

But hey, I have to read all those tabs! .. One day ... Not now .. One day when I feel bored and in the mood for concentrating on old tabs?! One day that day will come! And I'm prepared!

@nytmare3448

3 жыл бұрын

@@teigjie I will probably never be that kind of bored, but I am ready!

@teigjie

3 жыл бұрын

@@nytmare3448 We're ready! 💪

@CR24601

3 жыл бұрын

Ha ha ha...so true

Tip: a fun thing to do with ADHD is to learn languages. try to focus on one or two at a time. it even helps memory

@TheZenytram

3 жыл бұрын

till you get at b1 level and start to get super hard to progress and you stop completely, story of my life.

@MoistDelta.

3 жыл бұрын

I would but I have a problem with giving up when it gets too hard to understand

@annak6962

3 жыл бұрын

I started this 3 weeks ago! When I'm working on that launguage learning, I feel engaged and I'm learning useful skills for work!

@mikebasketball11

3 жыл бұрын

@@itsMARIKO that’s awesome! I’m gonna give it a try. How is your French now? 😊

@itsMARIKO

3 жыл бұрын

@@mikebasketball11 I’ve learned so much! I definitely recommend it, gonna start watching French movies (with english subtitles) in 2021 😊

entrées - exciting/fulfilling activities desserts - overdone go tos appetizers - quick dopamine/low effort sides - things to add to activities specials - occaisonal high dopamime things (temporarily omit unrealistic ones) BONUS: - prep your surroundings by setting up what you need to start activities (decrease steps) - set barriers for unwanted desserts (increase steps)

@eduardogarcia6318

12 күн бұрын

I wish KZreadrs could pin more than one comment, because this one is really deserving. ADHD doesn't help with rewatching the video to find these points easily without rewatching a thousand times. Thanks!!!

Erick's change in tone when she asked "what if nothing is fun?" Oof, he knows the horrible lows of comorbid depression it sounds like. Definitely anyone out there who feels like they have ADHD and depression be careful and realize it's not healthy to feel like nothing is enjoyable. You deserve better as well 💜

@Acacius1992

Жыл бұрын

Sadly i`m exactly such a case. NOTHING makes fun for me.

@pianocorpse8565

Жыл бұрын

@@Acacius1992 same here :/ got also the diagnosis bipolar 2 (which can be common alongside ADHD), so that kinda explains it for me

@RICDirector

Жыл бұрын

Speaking from experience here....I have major depressive disorder, and am probably undiagnosed adhd or autistic, who knows. Depression is not always something that hits physically, by any means. It can be sneaky as heck, and you have to know your normal self to catch it. No one else can, at least not as quickly or effectively as you. So be aware of yourself and of whats going on in your head. See a good doctor, and change if this one doesnt click or doesnt listen. Definitely avoid drs or therapists who have their own issues, for they can tend to be biased in their outlooks. If you feel down, weepy, like nothing is worth the effort....or that fun things arent fun anymore....please, go find a counselor. Someone who does not judge, who listens, who can and will refer you to doctors who may be able to help you with medications. Oh and btw...it is perfectly okay not to 'love yourself', as long as you know yourself well enough to ACCEPT yourself for who and what you are, good and bad both. Then you can respect the good, and work past or around the bad to minimize its influence in your life.

@Acacius1992

Жыл бұрын

@@RICDirector I sadly have tomorrow endure the shame having to go to a therapist for this...

@ravensong9030

Жыл бұрын

That moment hit me as well, I had to pause the video for a few seconds a take a few deep breaths

I think my brain just exploded. You mean 3 hour social media binges is not just me being lazy? It's actual boredom? And I can help myself not do this. I have GOT to try this. This is genius.

@mamemckee2190

2 жыл бұрын

How did that work out

@carlosguevara.realtor

2 жыл бұрын

@@mamemckee2190 Also Wondering... lol

@TeresaMorgan1965

2 жыл бұрын

I take the facebook app of my phone when I need to work. I also limit myself to ONLY ONE social media platform.

@wodmarach

2 жыл бұрын

@@TeresaMorgan1965 You know what? I think I'm going to drop twitter I only hate scroll it nowadays anyway so it might not be the worst idea.... (and it'll stop 4 hour scroll sessions)

@UnicornGuru

Ай бұрын

KZread shorts are what kills me. Start with one then it's 4 hours later and the sun is gone. 🤦‍♂️

"Hes a professional" "Will these tomatoes fit in my nose?"

@tiddlypom2097

3 жыл бұрын

😂

@aurorakarabua-stysiak6233

2 жыл бұрын

Professional ADHDer 😅

@cherylmaryland4726

Жыл бұрын

...The kind of professional I insist on having in my life

@agris9071

Жыл бұрын

@@cherylmaryland4726 for real!!!!

No ADHD here, but prone to depression. That change of tone is the greatest thing to remind yourself this : when the world seems to lose its colours and interest... Don't ignore the alert. Thank you so much for this video, so helpful even if you're not directly concerned by the ADHD problem.

@YourCapybaraAmigo_17yrsago

4 ай бұрын

I wonder if a mild stimulant could help you?? I also can be prone to depression at times. I try to help myself minimize these times by using OTC nootropics and useful supplements and better quality energy drinks like yerba mate or Arizona's energy teas (seems to work well for me). I hope to try out an adult adhd med soon. I feel moderately adhd due to pretty persistent focus issues. Also you might have a thyroid issue that OTC iodine/selenium supplementation and possibly other OTC hormone balance methods could help. I noticed a positive effect after I started using a progesterone cream. Edit: I almost forgot to include suggesting a good vitamin D supplement. A lot of people are deficient and don't know it. Not saying it'll fix everyone's problems but if there is a hormonal lack due to that deficiency, supplementation can help.

@MaestroBerry

2 ай бұрын

I have ADHD and am recovering from severe depression. Really happy that the work I have done with my therapist and doctor have lead to some good results, but damn. That tone shift hit, and it was really necessary to leave the impact to take those steps to take care of yourself. 💜

As a person with ADHD, I feel like a ferret living in a world designed and occupied by desert tortoises. Great video, love your channel!

@sararamonajohansson

Жыл бұрын

This is the best description I've read thus far.

@kelly-ux8zy

Жыл бұрын

Lol great mental image

@soybeanstudies4837

11 ай бұрын

factual

@jimicunningable

9 ай бұрын

I am stealing your analogy, tyvvm. lols.

@fleurpeffer5212

14 күн бұрын

Hahaha that is hilarious

The problem isn’t that I don’t have fun activities, it’s that I can think about it but I can’t actually get my body to get up and do it 🙄

@BubblesBear17

3 жыл бұрын

That's a motivation issue. There's maaaany video's on that as well. so, maybe put a specific motivation video tab seperately open for the moment you wanna do something but your but isn't moving. Makes it easier to start.

@MolecularMachine

3 жыл бұрын

Could be the leaden limb syndrome of depression.

@aprilford4906

3 жыл бұрын

Also could be executive dysfunction, which frequently goes hand in hand with ADHD. Look up advice specific to executive dysfunction and see if any of those tips sound more helpful to you. Good luck!

@ptitenoli9219

2 жыл бұрын

I set up alarms for fun things and chores. It helps.

@justme-qd6qb

2 жыл бұрын

@@dandygardner9404 oh that's interesting, could you explain why that could be the case?

As someone who wasn't diagnosed till college, I'm glad there's more resources coming out on dealing with ADHD that isn't exclusively targeted for parents of elementary schoolers.

@SlothDaan

2 жыл бұрын

Or boys.

@LieutenantSheep

2 жыл бұрын

ugh I wasnt diagnosed until AFTER college. Trust me, I really feel your pain with that. I've been in therapy trying to figure out what's "wrong" with me and hitting what feels like a brick wall. I saw a psychiatrist to try to help address my eating issues only to realize that what it is is a lack of stimulation because I had adhd. It's a crazy revelation and now I have so much to learn about it and catch up on and teach my family and loved ones about it.

@SlothDaan

2 жыл бұрын

@@LieutenantSheep same here, I was diagnosed on my 27th. Went to the doctor because I thought I had a burn out. I was sent to a great therapist who in her own practise specialized in ADHD and she regocnized it immediatly. It's almost as if you get a manual for your own mind! It was really liberating for me 😁

@YourCapybaraAmigo_17yrsago

2 жыл бұрын

Tell me about it 🙄 It can be hard trying to be your best with this as a full-grown adult Esp 35+

@YourCapybaraAmigo_17yrsago

2 жыл бұрын

I'm saving up for two full protocols of neurofeedback. After that I expect to be fully cured. I will report back with my results!

For "adding a challenge" I just wanted to share one my therapist suggested when I'm writing, which is to sit/bounce on an exercise ball. She said some progressive schools will let ADHD kids sit on them instead of at a desk and it helps with focus. It definitely helped me.

@panthercat38

2 жыл бұрын

I wish work would let me do this. It would be better on my joints, too. Office chairs are not...humane

@teacherdenise5502

2 жыл бұрын

@@panthercat38 They really aren't!

@jeannefourie4704

Жыл бұрын

So that's why I love sitting on a yoga ball

@PixelGamer05HD

Жыл бұрын

I spend my childhood playing with those on the trampolin. Always helped me think and I never knew why :)

@couchpotato-eb8pe

Жыл бұрын

I always end up in the weirdest positions and it's really uncomfortable lol xD

Sometimes when I am struggling to be productive I have a saying: "Do anything other than nothing". And relatedly: "if you get stuck, start with the easy stuff". I find the mere act of having done something, anything productive really helps me feel like I have started my day, because I can be an Olympic-level procrastinator if I am not careful.

@dsnow6578

2 жыл бұрын

clean one plate, and the rest don't seem so difficult

@willbephore3086

2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes I make a list of things to do, just to trick myself into being productive by doing other stuff that's NOT on the list. 😂

@victoriamclachlan4596

2 жыл бұрын

@@willbephore3086 Examples, please?! Just a few examples, to get my mind working - I can't think of anything when I actually want to!

@willbephore3086

2 жыл бұрын

@@victoriamclachlan4596 like, deep clean the fridge/sink, or take donations to the thrift store, or email that person back, or complete that art project - just any of the hundred things that pops into my brain when I'm "supposed" to be thinking about the day's top priorities 😅

@user-vn9sh6hv8r

Жыл бұрын

I say to myself: "SWE" - Start With Easy! I pick the absolute easiest thing on my list to do - that's better than the self-shaming of doing nothing. Also: "BTJ" - Boil The Jug! - because it feels like you have done something by flicking that switch and in the 2-3mins that it takes for the jug to boil you may have decided what it is you are going to do next - even if that is having a cup of tea/coffee/herbal, or doing the dishes. It's about snapping yourself out of that mental rut. 😊

6:41 I have Inattentive ADHD and Depression and it's a crazy 1-2 punch. Basically, if my brain isn't constantly stimulated, then I "fall out" and it can't be stimulated again by anything, so I just fall asleep. If I can't be stimulated, my brain's like "So.....why am I conscious, then?" I used to think that's what "boredom" meant. Apparently "boredom" is agitation that you want to do stuff but can't. I thought it referred to that physical feeling of having nothing you WANT to do. So I'd tell my mom "I'm bored" and she would give me extra chores. I'd be like "how tf is that supposed to help? Nothing seems interesting, so you give me something uninteresting?"

@MythosMen

3 жыл бұрын

This is completely right, this is the holy grail of things

@RachelSongBK

3 жыл бұрын

YESSS! I know write I hate it when you say you are bored trying to get some sort of way to not feel depressed but then they pile on more things in your way to do and when you finish you just feel more empty

@sweetness9356

3 жыл бұрын

This was my childhood too. Of course I never did chores to entertain my brain. 😂

@scooterwango

3 жыл бұрын

I feel your pain, although I don't have depression anymore. I get that feeling even before doing something that will give me a mental boost. It's quite the struggle.

@therealfinnaspring8585

3 жыл бұрын

@@scooterwango your depression went away? I was told mine will never really go away :/

I never realized sending too many texts message is brain seeking stimulation. Or realized how many things my own ADHD impacts my life

@cmcolfax1

3 жыл бұрын

That hit home for me too. Watching Jessica "type" her "texts" on screen felt like I was looking at my own phone.

@myaimagines5475

3 жыл бұрын

I’m pretty sure I’m ADHD and I’ve just begun realizing how many of the things I’m struggling with and medicated for are actually symptoms of it. It really is both relieving and infuriating to have a single answer staring at you while you’re on 6 different medications.

I love this menu idea, I also added a section to my menu called nightcap for things that help quiet my racing thoughts or buzzing energy so I can relax or sleep

@brokenbutworthy308

2 жыл бұрын

I love this idea!

@omen8491

Жыл бұрын

For me ASMR has helped a lot with that! It's engaging enough to stop my brain from churning out thoughts, but at the same time not interesting enough to wake me up or coherent enough to make be scared of missing anything. "Follow my instructions" videos or tapping on different objects are good ones. There are even ones labeled especially for those with ADHD.

Loved this exercise! Now I just have to remember to do it 😅

@poyobunny8508

Жыл бұрын

This is a friendly reminder 😆

@ravensong9030

Жыл бұрын

And here's another. Just bookmark the video or something :P

@viletone84

Жыл бұрын

Hope you did it❤

@zebracakez2168

Жыл бұрын

another annoying reminder for ya 🤭

@RQLexi

Жыл бұрын

This is another friendly reminder, but this one is meant for the people who have already replied so that they'll remember, too ^^

if i could add on to this idea: menu pricing. for example, i like painting, but i know that each time i paint it'll take at least 30 minutes, so that entrée "costs" 30 minutes

@ADHDreWired

3 жыл бұрын

I love that idea. Brilliant.

@rev.rachel

3 жыл бұрын

Oooh, that's a really good one.

@In_a_mode

3 жыл бұрын

That is so well-thought out! I like it!!

@MindyZielfelderArt

3 жыл бұрын

Or...... can you also break it down into smaller painting sessions? I find that if I go too long on something, I get stuck, and then start to feel guilty as a swarm of other things I should be doing overwhelms me.

@namaste_charlei

3 жыл бұрын

@@montannatilton9114 awesome! Thanks!

I just want to take a moment to appreciate the animations in this

@sirhissboi6100

3 жыл бұрын

Wiggy waggy brain

@FenexTheFox

3 жыл бұрын

The overall writing, too. It's extremely funny, I can't help but feel engaged.

@zipotete

3 жыл бұрын

Totally agree. This channel is awesome

What if you're just starting on ADHD treatment and you've been depressed for so long you have no idea what activities bring you joy or make you feel fulfilled? It's improved immensely since I started treatment, but it feels like I've spent so much time guilty and blaming myself that I don't really know what actually feels good.

@herothr33gaming45

Жыл бұрын

Start doing random hobbies until something sticks

@lajoyeusetroupe

Жыл бұрын

To help you choose random hobbies, maybe start with hobbies of people you like, or at least people you think are good people (in case you're at a level of depression when finding someone you like is difficult).

@kalenwilliams6633

Жыл бұрын

Reconnect with things that brought you joy in childhood. Do they still do that now? Does it feel different? This is grounding but it also helps you find the trajectory of your life in the time since and understand what brought the anhedonia and how it may be addressed.

@vanessachan1562

Жыл бұрын

I gave anything that piqued my interest a chance and tried things with friends that did have established hobbies. Good luck on your journey!!

@Wonton4000-9

Жыл бұрын

Go on a hike somewhere the wilderness is good for humans and research indicates it improves mental health also eat eggs they do the same eat healthy and go outside

6:50 I know it was edited this way, but the speed and tone with which Eric responds with "call your doctor" was so powerful. Like...of course thats an issue. Thats what depression is. No judgement, no beating around the bush. I wish someone had said that to me 7 years ago.

"We feel it physically when it's depression" Mind blown. This is so helpful.

@TheZenytram

3 жыл бұрын

like how?

@lxcky21

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheZenytram For me it’s in the tear ducts... 😅

@aleksmania4480

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheZenytram you just lay around uninterested in anything, not even social media, not sleeping well, not being bothered about eating or washing your teeth, just darkness and emptiness for days

@whisperinmyearputmeinatran2852

3 жыл бұрын

Zenytram Searom for me it is like this: my body feels really heavy and it’s harder to move and everything seems kind of grey and silent and sad

@jimcrants7517

2 жыл бұрын

@@TheZenytram It can be headaches, muscle aches, muscle tension, back aches, indigestion, or physical fatigue, just as some examples. Everyone gets these symptoms, but not combined with a lack of interest in everything.

I wonder where I’d put “watching ADHD videos” on the menu.

@RachelSongBK

3 жыл бұрын

Well it takes a bit for the videos to come out so I'd put it on specials

@kameliaamar1978

3 жыл бұрын

As I just discovered this channel (who changed my life btw) I would put it in entrees (main dishes for me)

@eileensnow6153

3 жыл бұрын

@@kameliaamar1978 Keep an eye on it-it’ll become a dessert before you know it! I’m hyperfocusing rn too 😅

@aq9714

3 жыл бұрын

I have just started watching these, so I just let them arrive on the KZread homepage. I sometimes give one a pass, but then scrolling again I realize I want to watch it. This was one of those videos....hmm I wonder if a menu list works on post it notes on the bathroom mirror?

@MichaelBoyer213

3 жыл бұрын

I haven't been following her for long. Found her through Anthony Padilla's ADHD video. So for me, I'd probably go with dessert - since I'm currently putting off work to watch videos... >.>

I’m so glad I found your channel. I kept questioning if I actually have ADHD and it’s like every video I watch I’m like “yep! That’s me!” Things about why or how I do what I do makes so much more sense. I have a million crafts/interests and I will often go all out for a week or month then poof no motivation for that activity. This menu seems like a great idea to just do multiple interests for a smaller amount of time so I don’t get burnt out and bored. 🤗🤗

@vhirsch4270

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly the same for me.

@TheBaumcm

2 жыл бұрын

THIS! I have bins of crafting and half finished projects. Seems like when it gets to a more boring or less satisfying step, I get stuck. Apparently though, it’s not the worst thing so I’m following g your lead and making it dessert rather than entree.

@goob748

2 жыл бұрын

This is me too! I spent so much money on crafts that I eventually try & pick it back up. Even after a year.

@n000dle

Жыл бұрын

Same!! I've been making my boyfriend a scarf for nearly 3 years now 😅 and that's ignoring my dozen other projects..

@cynthiapowers8139

4 ай бұрын

@@goob748 you may want to check out some videos on aspirational clutter or fantasy clutter. Look for the things you have for "aspirational goob" that are bringing down 'reality goob.'

5:35 "I put my guitar on a stand by the couch" (to make it easily accessible) Me looking at the MIDI Keyboard (Piano) that's always connected on my side while I'm sitting at my desk (where I work) in awe... I keep discovering ways where I had subconsciously fixed some of my adhd issues. I often take music-playing breaks while working from home at it's great!

Oh my gosh that transition at 4:38 from the specials menu being up on screen to a physical piece of paper was SO SMOOTH!

@justmonika8713

3 жыл бұрын

Ben Saltz ikr

@thankyoudearjesus1

3 жыл бұрын

Great comment.... I almost backed that up to see it again!

@Midoriel

3 жыл бұрын

I wanted to see it in more detail so I put it on 0.25 playback speed and oh my god : DD

@annafantasia

3 жыл бұрын

LOL yes! I watched it twice

@jennygisborne6546

3 жыл бұрын

@@annafantasia I wish i could say I only watch it twice 😂

The moment I started watching this, I started a game of computer chess for more stimulation. I finished the game precisely when the video ended. I have no idea what she said...

@janabroflovski2572

3 жыл бұрын

did u won tho?

@crazzyflynn2433

2 жыл бұрын

@@janabroflovski2572 That's important thing to be asked

@janabroflovski2572

2 жыл бұрын

@@crazzyflynn2433 exactly

@hilly8705

2 жыл бұрын

lmaooo I gave it 4 minutes before I was looking for the next "hit"

@jaylynessa1406

2 жыл бұрын

I put it on 1.25x speed bc it was too slow, spaced out looking at the wall and only got the very last point of the video 😅

I was officially diagnosed with ADHD back in 2019, but I've had it since childhood. I've watched hundreds of videos, read dozens of books, guides, articles, and blog posts about ADHD. Your channel, and especially this video, is the first piece of media that I've ever felt was truly, actually helpful to me, and not just written to sell me something or explain ADHD to me without offering any solutions. From the bottom of my heart, thank you very much for doing what you do, may God bless you a thousand times over for your kindheartedness.

my depressions been on and off walling me and I just want to do anything that will get me to a better tomorrow. your videos help me to feel not so frustrated. here's to breaking out of my mind and getting active!

Legend says he's still looking for the tomato

@HowtoADHD

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@stm7810

3 жыл бұрын

Dang it, now I can't stop thinking about the tomato.

@franziphia2380

3 жыл бұрын

Any news on the runaway-tomato yet?

@user-wc6jw6hb8z

3 жыл бұрын

The sun dried tomato!!!

@truthmerchant1

3 жыл бұрын

I kept thinking he's going to tread on it.

This is probably more to do with my depression, but I'm thinking of adding something like "leafy greens" to my menu - things I don't necessarily *want* to do but feel fulfilled once I finish the task. For me, that's like...folding my laundry or doing dishes.

@tigana

2 жыл бұрын

For sure I noticed a big improvement in my mood after trippling my intake of raw greens

@mckenaroberts689

2 жыл бұрын

for me one would be going on a walk outside!

@jeng6786

2 жыл бұрын

Totally get that!!!! And same. I don't want to do dishes or clean or laundry and will even procrastinate them. But once they're done it feels really good. Of course they don't get done often because... 😕

@dandywaysofliving

2 жыл бұрын

Creating kindness in this world takes a lot of effort but its never forgotten. i think u can achieve your dream while helping others but make sure you never forget yourself.

@marcusnorton9373

2 жыл бұрын

The only way I get myself to eat leafy greens is via green smoothies. Figured out a decent method too.. 1. Steam the Green ( I got with Kale because don't want to worry about oxalates ) 2. After steamed you can use a measuring cup ( I use 1/3 cup ) to turn the kale in kale balls 3. Stick the Kale balls on a cookie sheet 4. Freeze and then stick them into a freezer bag. I usually stick 1 frozen kale ball in with 1 cup of frozen pineapple but steaming the kale actually helps improve the flavor. Raw Kale is like eating grass but steamed I am able to do a green smoothie with just the Kale. I know ya didn't ask but thought I'd share the idea with someone.

I am grateful for this channel and for this video. After watching your channel for a year, I finally found the courage to be tested and was just recently diagnosed with ADHD combined type. This channel really has been a life saver. I am looking forward to using this menu. I have realized that I have fallen back to relying on my desserts and have been ignoring my entrees far too often when they bring me far more joy.

I'm so so grateful for your work here. This channel is helping me so much to understand my own coping mechanisms. I'm not diagnosed (yet?) but quite determined to find what would help me achieve my goals and my potential better. And not in a performance and productivity way, but rather not to suffer so much from feeling so limited. Thank you to you and your team!

We are doing this for the kids as we're headed into summer. "Daaaaad, I'm bored" check the menu! Brilliant!

@HowtoADHD

4 жыл бұрын

OMG I hadn't even thought of that. YES!

@heatherstock4491

4 жыл бұрын

Brilliant!

@stm7810

3 жыл бұрын

Hi bored I'm Dad

@brittanygoodrich1927

3 жыл бұрын

Yes great idea!

@cmcolfax1

3 жыл бұрын

@@stm7810 I've already used that one on my kids. 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣

Definitely right about physically feeling it when it's depression. Boredom is annoying, but depression just sucks the life out of me; ADHD wants me to find things to do, depression wants to do nothing for hours and hours at a time.

@crazylittleangel

2 жыл бұрын

This is a really good explanation of the difference. As someone who has been treated for depression for years, but is undiagnosed ADHD, I was really worried at the end of this video that I was confusing the two (and that my depression meds weren't working!!). But you've reassured me that the feeling I get, the paralysis of movement, where I feel the need to do something but can't make myself do it, is definitely an ADHD thing.

I can't watch this, I'm gonna cry at work. Watching one of your heroes be vulnerable like this hits home. Especially when talking about family. Much love Jon, from my family to yours.

Autistic, not ADHD (though I do have friends and family with ADHD) and your videos are always enjoyable and sometimes helpful. This is an interesting idea. The one barrier I can see for my autism here is that sometimes the activities I do are self-soothing rather than fighting boredom and it's not always obvious to me which is which. Some boredom busting activities won't work if I need to self-soothe and vice versa.

@knotsoangelic

Жыл бұрын

Both autistic and ADHD here and same, the conflict is so real

@kalenwilliams6633

Жыл бұрын

Perhaps a sampler platter appetizer with the quick hits that target different areas and when you see which ones are working you know what's up. Like dim sum or table order sushi.

When he said you feel it physically when it’s depression, my heart just sank. 😢

@OceansOnFireMusic

3 жыл бұрын

Same here

@miimows

3 жыл бұрын

"what do you do when nothing feels interesting?" *perks up*

@thevalkyri

3 жыл бұрын

It doesn't have to - it might not be. I have no trouble keeping myself amused, I pick up new hobbies regularly, and every time I do it feels like my life's calling, until it's not. Something else will replace it, but never on the heels of the last, and those times in between really do feel like depression. But they're not, they're just a time to open up to new possibilities. Ask me when I'm in one and I'll tell you I'm terribly out of sorts, but only until I find my new source of dopamine.

@beglitchery

3 жыл бұрын

thevalkyri so much this

@TheZenytram

3 жыл бұрын

and what is that feel? cuz i feel something and i wanna compare it.

Remarkable metaphor!!! I love this so much, especially that you went beyond just a standard menu and added sides, desserts, specials, prep, etc. Just genius!

Not me crying again with your videos omg I am 25 and I was diagnosed two weeks ago, but I feel I have saved years of therapy with this channel. Thank you so much for this

*KIDS IN 20 YEARS* : Why'd she rip up the Specials? *ME* : _Bruh._

@debeeday5400

3 жыл бұрын

Such an underrated coment here

@Nino-pn4vc

2 жыл бұрын

Corona lol 😆

@cornylovesnature

2 жыл бұрын

Literally the best part of this video I had to rewatch it a couple times :D

@crazzyflynn2433

2 жыл бұрын

Their History and Science books gonna be so bulky

@bookwyrmneducator

2 жыл бұрын

Not looking forward to teaching history of 2020 to future students. . . .

Putting the dopamenu on the phone lock screen is brilliant, to remind us we could be doing something else just as cool. Thanks Jessica

@Roanmonster

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! My jaw dropped when she said that! It's so simple yet so brilliant!

@ScrapySweet

3 жыл бұрын

Sounds helpfull, though I think I'd turn to "static clutter", like I won't even notice it anymore and just forget about it...

Making to-do lists is often considered a good habit, but my ADHD/autistic brain turns that into a rabbit hole as deep as social media, if not deeper, since list and schedule making are as addictive to me as Tetris or Sudoku. I have organizational OCD as well...My friends who I took classes with years ago always told me I was a master of "locker Tetris" because of how well I optimized my usage of space.

I was diagnosed with ADHD last year at 23 years old. Since then I have poured through thousands of articles and videos about ADHD and common symptoms.. and all of them have the same general theme. I identify with the symptoms described and then the article is over... And I'm left there thinking "okay.. what the hell do I do now?" Watching your videos... (I've been watched about 10 of them now and I found you 2 hours ago...)Has made me feel more seen, heard, understood, hopeful, and capable than I ever have in my whole entire life. I have cried several times just from feeling such intense camaraderie with what you're expressing. Thank you so much for putting this out into the world. You have quite literally changed my life. I'm currently writing a dopamenu! I've never felt so hopeful about my life being manageable in a neurotypical world. I feel more prepared for conversations with friends and family who don't understand, and I have overcome "walls of awful" simply because they have a name now. Thank you thank you thank you thank you. I don't even think this long ass comment can describe the joy and gratitude you have given me. ✨❤️🧠✨

My girlfriend has ADHD so I like watching your videos to better understand her, and in turn be a better partner. The awesome thing about a lot of the advice is that it works just as well for people without ADHD too. I always look forward to experimenting with the different techniques you suggest and seeing if it will improve both our lives ! Thank you for creating high quality videos !

@goob748

2 жыл бұрын

You’re a keeper. I love that you watch these videos so you can learn to help your girlfriend or yourself. Being & showing Support like these creates a strong relationship.

@shabditarajesingh6945

2 жыл бұрын

That's something that makes me cry. Your girlfriend is lucky to have you. I don't think anyone has tried to learn me like that. You're a good person. A very good person. Oh god my eyes are pouring, I can't see the keypad properly.

@Violencejunkie

Жыл бұрын

omg ur amazing trying to understand ur partner 😭

@Adam-ui3yn

Жыл бұрын

@@Violencejunkie Haha thanks but before you guys praise me too much I had to end up breaking up with her. She had some really serious issues that I didn't find out about until later. I did learn a lot more about ADHD in the process and read a whole book so I can empathize with friends and family that have it a lot better now.

@ktwhimsy6946

Жыл бұрын

@@Adam-ui3yn I think the act of trying to understand your loved one, so that you can better support & encourage them, absolutely deserves praise! Regardless of how it ended, that was a very kind/thoughtful thing for you to do. I am always tempted to send these types of videos to friends and family who’ve never really taken the time to try and understand ADHD (I wasn’t diagnosed until 36, after my 10 year old son was) - I would be floored if someone actually took the initiative to learn on their own! I’m sorry to hear things didn’t work out, but it sounds like you are still making good use of the info 🤗

I've been really sick of doing nothing or not what i want to be doing lately. This is awesome. And, the best part is, i think i can actually complete this... it doesn't look overwhelming. It looks fun.

@aloosecannon2982

4 жыл бұрын

I have subbed to you by the way. I'm just on a public account for some reason here. I've known you since i found out about your ted talk in September and started looking into adhd way more seriously than before. You've been an awesome source of information and someone who understands and speaks things that make sense to me. Thank you and keep pushing forward. You're helping lives of many struggling. Lots silently.

@keshav_p

4 жыл бұрын

Stick it up somewhere.. not just on phone..(a tip more for myself..😋)

@tutejshaja

4 жыл бұрын

I have literally started a list titled "How to stop doing nothing" some time this year. It's not a dopa-menu, but I will try to integrate it there 🙂

@cobalius

4 жыл бұрын

I'm thinking the same and actually encourage me to use this tutorial to make this for me. Oh boi, but it would be the first creative thing since a long time.. i don't know if i can make it.. Anyhow. Today i'm calm and kinda happy anyways, sun and stuff. Maybe today is the best day i'll have for that kind of fun

@LKBeatbox

3 жыл бұрын

It looks very tiring to my eyes 😭

I am just so grateful to have stumbled apon this channel. I always knew I had adhd, but was never loud or hyper in class so it never got much notice. But in quarantine I was having a such a hard time getting off my phone and doing thing I actually liked, and I found this video. Omg am I so lucky. This not only helped me to stimulate my brain, but the whole channel helped understand myself so much. It made me feel so seen and understood in a way Ive never feel before. So thanks jessica for this amazing channel ❤

There's always that self-help post or video that helps ya snap out of a social media break. Well this is it. Thank you kindly!

I've learned over the years that setting a timer for small increments of doing things really helps me to feel less overwhelmed. Like 1 minute cleaning, followed by 1 minute of watching, followed by 1 minute of art....(Or 5 mins, or 10 mins or whatever...) The tiny increments are weirdly stimulating.

@graceisland573

3 жыл бұрын

Doing this with different subjects/assignments is how I survived high school

@dandywaysofliving

2 жыл бұрын

living life 1 hour at a time helps too. in 1 hour I have 3 20 min chances to passively complete a task.

@rebeccabilly7466

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, and when I have multiple projects that I can't seem to make myself want to do, I can rotate them, working on one for a few minutes and then switching to another, then another. By the time I've gone through 10-15 minutes of 5 different things, the first one doesn't seem as boring and I can start from the beginning again.

@thedenimchefsews

2 жыл бұрын

I have found that I work best when I clean 3 rooms at once in a rotating cycle of either 5 or 10 minutes at a time. When one room gets cleaned, I add a new one to the rotation. I can get so much done that way.

@SamirCCat

2 жыл бұрын

I find it difficult to not ignore my timers :-( I have ones that doesn't require me turning it off, it goes quiet on it's own. Useless. If I have alarm on my phone I put them off and then continue. If I put on timer on my phone and then 3 minutes repeats I eventually get up. Being stuck is more of a problem for me than anything else. I can't seem to stop whatever I do. Hyperfocus is NOT a super power...

I have a "bored box" that is filled with activities that don't need planning, and have all the materials needed for when I'm bored so I don't end up mindlessly scrolling through social media. I wish that I could then actually do those activities! I think I need to make it more accessible

@brittanybowles5032

3 жыл бұрын

What sort of activities do you add to it? I'm at a loss - it seems like everything I enjoy is on the desserts menu.

@annafantasia

3 жыл бұрын

@@brittanybowles5032 What I understood from the video is: if you really genuinely enjoy it, it's not on the desserts menu :) If you only sort of enjoy it, and keep chasing more, but never feel fulfilled, it's dessert. :)

@eileensnow6153

3 жыл бұрын

@@brittanybowles5032 I added cooking and writing to mine

@arieluv615

3 жыл бұрын

I want a bored box now!

Thank you so much for what you do for us ADHD'ers! I cannot begin to express my appreciation in feeling seen, but also the tools you share/provide are so helpful and hopeful!

I love your channel so much - KZread is a quick and easy dopamine menu item for me but when I click on one of your videos I also get the added benefit of either feeling validation or learning a new coping skill that I hadn't yet thought of. Thank you so much for what you do ❤️❤️❤️

I was just having a text conversation with some an hour ago about how I tend to be doing multiple things at once to fill the attention void haha. I do try to be mindful with my tasks sometimes, but when I get bored I feel like I wander aimlessly from unsatisfying thing to unsatisfying thing!

@HowtoADHD

4 жыл бұрын

SAME. I'm like a SIMS character when they don't have tasks lined up and end up sitting on the couch and missing work.

@katetoolate234

4 жыл бұрын

@@HowtoADHD That's a very good analogy for it! 😄 (And thanks for making this, and all your other, videos! 😊 I shall try to allow for more fulfilling things in my personal Sim queue using these tips.. and a pinch of mindfulness!)

@pierowmania2775

3 жыл бұрын

@@HowtoADHD WOW! This is so me! Thank you for your incredible content. My sister introduced me to your channel through your video on "The wall of awful." I wish I had that sort of analogy 30 years ago. It would have changed my life.

this is brilliant, thank you! I realized recently that ADHD might be the reason behind my lifelong sense of guilt, failure, and flakiness...I've found your channel really helpful.

@eileensnow6153

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. I told my mom yesterday, “I don’t hate myself anymore.” Powerful stuff.

@andieluke1366

3 жыл бұрын

Welcome to the tribe :)

@misaandcoart

3 жыл бұрын

Same here! Years of being told I'm great when I'm not lazy and bashing myself over not physically being able to bring myself to do tasks may actually have a cause. I have an adhd psychiatrist referral but I've been procrastinating because I'm scared that maybe I'm just being lazy or a hypochondriac.

@sarahdonaldson8960

2 жыл бұрын

Same. I've cried happy tears watching her videos and reading comments such as this one. I feel like the pieces of the puzzle of how my brain works is coming together :')

@MP-kv3fo

2 жыл бұрын

I feel the same way :(

I just finished watching the video so I can't say how much this has helped me yet, but everything was so relatable and everything you presented seems like a perfect solution to a lot of my problems. So thank you so much!!!! I was literally taking notes during the video and I plan to implement everything asap, thanks again :DDDD

As someone who has had clinical depression for years in the past and only recently has been diagnosed with ADHD, I can confirm, you feel a difference with bored of your (conscious) options, and depression, if you're depressed everything just feels gray, and pointless, bored feels more like "I wanna do something, but not these". Anyway, nice video and interesting idea

"What do you do if nothing seems enjoyable?" "Call your doctor, maybe that's depression" Oh :

@peteheggie6028

2 жыл бұрын

Ooooohhh! 😬

@saggytheclown9101

2 жыл бұрын

Hit hard

@dark_baphomet

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah would be useful to have more on that tbh, I had depression for years, probably still do and nothing was enjoyable for like 10 years of my life. And I went to lots of doctors but no one could tell me how to fix that. I’m only just starting to be able to enjoy things again now tbh, and I got diagnosed with severe depression because it was so bad at 15 and now I’m 27. I feel like there needs to be more help than just go see your doctor, cause sure that helps the underlying issues but what do you do until the day that you feel semi ok again especially if that might not be for a really long time? Cause the world doesn’t just stop for you, you still have to do everything everyone else does.

@marcusnorton9373

2 жыл бұрын

@@dark_baphomet Did they prescribe you ADHD medication? If so...did that help with boredom? If it did... how much? Not trying to delve too deeply. I deal with depression and I feel like boredom / apathy is a big issue. Not completely sure if I have ADHD though. It was identified as a child but as an adult I don't necessarily fit the mold of a person with ADHD but not sure if that is the depression possibly masking it or what.

@FeyPax

2 жыл бұрын

I was like yes a tip finally! Then oh. Okay.

Is it sleeping, crying, then cursing the skies with the excess energy until I angry myself back to sleep? Becaaaaaaause... That's all I got 🤣😭❤️

@HowtoADHD

4 жыл бұрын

Thankfully, Eric had a better idea. Cauuuse I needed it too. 😅

@Xiph1980

4 жыл бұрын

My psych once handed me a list of about 500 activities, and asked me to make a list of 100 of them, or other activities, that are fun to do for me. Of course I have by now lost that list, but it was surprising what that helper list brought out. Things I've never thought of anymore, like flying a kite, etc. 😀

@HowtoADHD

4 жыл бұрын

@@Xiph1980 Right?? It's amazing how much this kind of thing can help even if we don't finish, or lose it, or whatever.

@Xiph1980

4 жыл бұрын

@@HowtoADHD yes! and it's stupidly simple things too that you just have forgotten over time, being caught up in adulting etc. Hahahaha I already forgot about the tomato! 😂🤣

@whyamiwastingmytimeonthis

4 жыл бұрын

@@Xiph1980 heyy, that sounds awesome, I need that li... oh😅

I added some fun component to it: Effort-level. It may be similar to the spicyness-level you get in some restaurants with spicy food, since not everyone can handle very hot food. This way you know how much effort something takes to get started. You can also add a difficulty level for how difficult whatever you add on the menu can be to do. For instance, I love to learn things. But, learning things can be difficult as it requires focus. So, playing a game will have an easier difficulty level. You can also do this for moving. Add a movement level. Playing with my cats requires some physical movement when watching a movie doesn't. I tend to forget these kinds of things very easily whenever I wanna do something. This often demotivates me. So, seeing how much effort things take in different types of areas help me decide what I'm up for in that moment

I can’t express how much you have helped me. I know what I’m thinking, but don’t know how to say it. You have such a great mind. You always provide me he boost of confidence that I need, when I’m feeling low.

1. Design 3:14 2. Omit 4:35 3. Prep 5:11 (+ Barriers 5:42) 4. Advertise 6:08

I have a similar "menu" for when I'm dealing with a depressive episode. Things that require very little exectuvie function, but can have a big impact on my mood.

@Scalemailmailmail

4 жыл бұрын

I should do this. I mean, I'm gonna do this :-)

@g.y.perelechow3587

4 жыл бұрын

Petting my rabbits always seals the deal 😅

@lemmetalkaboutthis

4 жыл бұрын

funny, I kinda have that too - it's weird it never occurred to me before to do this for boredom as well

@bp24911

4 жыл бұрын

@@Scalemailmailmail 🤣🤣🤣 great comment. Love your sense of humor.

@user-wc6jw6hb8z

3 жыл бұрын

Need a tutorial or steps for this!! Haha

Love this. Have tried to come up with something like this for myself to cure boredom, but it wasn’t very successful. I think your tweaks will help a lot!

I just heard about your video in a podcast. I opened up youtube to find your channel then spent 2 hours scrolling through my front page, then found this channel by accident while scrolling, had a lightbulb moment. ADHD is a trip

It hit so close to home when he said "call your doctor". I did. I'll have to wait at least another 2 months before I get a place on a treatment program.

@pierowmania2775

3 жыл бұрын

I hear you. I called in February just to get "an assessment." Still waiting for the call back to set up the appointment...

@BlueMusicFan

3 жыл бұрын

@@pierowmania2775 Maybe try calling again to show them you're still interested? I heard that in some programs you get a place faster if you show commitment.

@dianam152

3 жыл бұрын

I'm also waiting, ETA 5 months..

@samasencios

3 жыл бұрын

may i recommend a site called donefirst.com

@bearwynn

3 жыл бұрын

I've been trying to get help the last year, had to move towards the end, so called my new doctor only to get told there's no help for adult ADHD in the area through the NHS. Phoned the private psychiatrists in my area and the initial consultation is £500 with £160 sessions thereafter. ADHD really takes a backseat to other mental health issues huh

Wow this timing is insane, I've been absolutely unproductive lately (probably due to continuously scrolling KZread instead of sleeping like a normal person 🙄😅)

@heyloh9863

4 жыл бұрын

@Maartjie Mulder, I can relate. My sleep schedule has also gone out the window. XD

@CallMeAlice818

4 жыл бұрын

Are you me?

@firstclassstupid97

4 жыл бұрын

Jij bent ook nederlands?

@soejrd24978

4 жыл бұрын

Help ons allemaal

@gabbyperez8450

3 жыл бұрын

Omg same yesterday i stood up until four binging how to ADHD videos...

Just wanted to thank you, I have a stepson with ADHD and also on the spectrum, Your videos have given me insight into his behavior that helps me understand him better

Oh man... this is so helpful! I was struggling for a while scrolling through social media, youtube, etc... but it wasn't really doing anything for me. I almost felt "icky" after realizing how much time I spent on them, yet I couldn't seem to stop? But it wasn't even something I entirely enjoyed. When I looked inwards, I noticed something I can only describe as a HUGE "craving". And this whole DOPA-Menu idea makes so much sense! I was craving something that was engaging, entertaining, maybe even educational! Something wholesome and tasty my brain could munch on! Social media has its perks, but it's nothing near that feeling you get when doing something you really enjoy AND that brings you fulfillment! Thank you for the vids!

Nerotypicals: I should decrease my videogame budget, when I get bored of them quickly. Jessica: Increases the budget, because she gets board of them quickly. I love it! My Dopa Menu has on the fontpage: Are you thirsty? Are you hungry? Are you actually tired? Those feel a lot like a dopamin need when it is not😁

@juanelvy2666

2 жыл бұрын

So true! Good idea

@Josephiene

2 жыл бұрын

When you feel like everyone hates you, sleep. When you feel like you hate everyone, eat. When you feel like you hate yourself, shower. This helps me a lot as well. Most of the time I’m just tired and I should sleep.

@theblooprint

2 жыл бұрын

@@Josephiene I love this!!!!

@user-vn9sh6hv8r

Жыл бұрын

There's an acronym used in AA to ask yourself: HALT: Are you Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired? I also like to add Cold! (CHALT?!). Because when i am cold i don't work, and i often don't realise i AM cold because i'm too in my head... Absolutely love Josephiene's questions too - copying those! 🙏💕😊

@marikaschorer310

Жыл бұрын

@@Josephiene ol9ä

This video is exactly what I've been needing lately; at least once a week it seems, I'll spend an entire day in a cycle of needing stimulation but not having the energy to decide on or start anything. I'm definitely spending the rest of the night working on my Dopa Menu!

This is incredible! I was already doing haphazardly attempting this on my own, I can't wait to try this more organized and comprehensive approach!!!

Thanks for this. You're my primary source to understanding myself after getting diagnosed at 36. This video will hopefully make me do more things than watching Netflix og being on Facebook while getting more and more restless.

I don’t have ADHD but I found this really helpful living in such a stimulating world with so many quick dopamine hits that aren’t good for you in the long run.

And now I know what I'm doing tomorrow instead of spending 8 hours switching between Facebook, Instagram, and reddit. Thank you Jessica!

I spend so much time on KZread but finding your channel showed me that i can also learn about managing ADHD and "stem" at the same time.

I just got diagnosed a week ago and even though medication has a long wait time, I'm really excited to start it. I also really hope that moving from my small flat to a house will really help me organise and compartmentalize my life so I can access things without being overwhelmed and shutting down so easily

I see that you've also been playing a lot of DnD during the quarantine!

@HowtoADHD

4 жыл бұрын

Yes! Games are honestly getting me through!

@toni2309

4 жыл бұрын

More people online to play DnD is one of the positives of the whole crisis, isn't it?

@taetems2536

4 жыл бұрын

D&D is the best - and I have learned that it's perfect for my ADHD brain. :)

@katetoolate234

4 жыл бұрын

@@toni2309 Six months ago, I had barely ever played DnD. Now, I am in three campaigns! 😄

@toni2309

4 жыл бұрын

@@katetoolate234 I'm in a DnD and in a Star Wars tabletop RPG campaign. Also, the droid I am playing in Star Wars definitely has ADHD. However that is supposed to work for machines.

The setup part is so key! I love these activities but the effort of starting puts me off sometimes! Brill advice 👏🏻

@nevilpadayachee9227

2 жыл бұрын

Am with u on that one

@recklessmermaid

2 жыл бұрын

i swear i'm not stalking you on the internet on purpose but i keep seeing everywhere....i'm not mad

@Diniecita

2 жыл бұрын

YES! I like to sew and I have to set up for sessions. It helps me a lot.

@goirkens

2 жыл бұрын

Especially when my creative area is already messy from a previous project, so I have to put stuff away before I can set up the next one.

@Alyzzardo

Жыл бұрын

I’m lucky my hobby is drawing and painting because my iPad has made clean-up /set-up obsolete. I can create anything I want and just lock my iPad when I’m done. I might make my menu this way also. It’s just having to come up and organize my entrees and stuff that make it not so enticing lol

"What if you don't find anything enjoyable?" I was thinking the same thing throughout the video and the answer just hit me like a truck I've been lately having emotional meltdowns practically on a daily basis and I'm overall pretty unstable Although I was pushing away the idea of needing professional help. I've been to many psychologist in my past but none have really helped me in the long run with my depression but I didn't know at that time I probably have ADHD. And because I wasn't treating my ADHD my treatment about my depression could only go that far. Next week I'm going to seek professional help but with someone who specializes in ADHD Thank you This was the reminder I needed ❤️

@natlikenature

5 ай бұрын

Depression and/or anxiety can often present similarly to ADHD.

Less than a month ago, I came to the realization that I have ADHD (28f and I've set up an appointment with my doc to see what I can do to get an official diagnosis). What he said at 6:48 hit me like a freakin' semitruck. I'm usually a happy-go-lucky person, but this gave me another tool in watching out if depression is hitting in me again. Thank you so much for your videos, and I'm looking forward to watching more to help me in my new journey!

I don’t have ADHD, yet I continue to find your content entertaining, educational and relatable. Thanks, Jess. 😁

My whole life had been dictated by horrible highs and lows from depression up until recently. The depression has gotten better, but then something else took over that i will have a chance to speak to a professional about on tuesday. This overriding boredom that makes me feel awful. Im never paying full attention to my friends when they're talking even though i try. I find what should be easy tasks completely agonizing. I can't sit still. I make poor decisions and take risks trying to shout over the deafening static in my head. All i can say is, these videos have made it so much easier. Im nearly brought to tears by how simple it is to just have somebody understand and know what can help. Thank you so much.

I think this is going to be my one degree of change. It will be a great stepping stone to help maintain optimal levels of stimulation so I can move forward with other goals. This is great.

the "grocery shopping when youre hungry" metaphor is GENIUS

"-or sending too many texts." Oof I feel called out...

@tristaw2965

3 жыл бұрын

Me too

@JG.Fierstar

3 жыл бұрын

Me too

@Taylor_5724

3 жыл бұрын

I don't have enough friends to send lots of texts qwq

@bideoman8509

3 жыл бұрын

Me too

Can you please make a video on how other mental illnesses interact with ADHD brains? As a teen who struggles with Tourette's, ODC, SPD, ADHD, panic disorder, and depression, I think that would be super helpful!

@KatShaw

4 жыл бұрын

I hope you don't mind if I poke in on this one. There are parts of this that I, obviously, can't address because I don't struggle with them myself. However, as a person with ADHD, general anxiety, and major depression I wanted to kind of point out how they love to feed off one another. There are a lot of times that I've noticed myself doing one of my bored... need something to do activities... or I forgot about something... or heck the wall to get to the thing was hard today. And I feel horrible about it. I start feeling anxious about my ability or if it's the right choice or if I'll ever be able to do the thing and then when I realize I failed at it my depression kicks me in the teeth. It can be really rough to keep all of that from spiraling because the depression makes it hard to do the things you wanted to do making you feel more and more like a failure and like your totally unable to get a handle on it. Which in turn feeds that anxiety. What I've found helps is my own kind of flavor of meditation. Don't worry about trying to clear your mind, but grab some music. Something... anything you can use as a kind of mental reset button. Get yourself out of that feeling so you can kind of analyze it. Don't worry if it's hard the first few times. The whole point of this is teaching yourself how to recognize when you are being unfair to yourself about expectations. Yea, you didn't have enough spoons or maybe today an activity took more spoons than it usually would. That's okay. It can be really hard to forgive ourselves because of our challenges when we see other people who don't struggle with it. Learn to accept that aspect and try again later when you feel like you can. Much love and I hope this helped

@isharanmusic1080

4 жыл бұрын

@@KatShaw Thank you for this!!

@HowtoADHD

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, that's a project I'd really like to tackle. Thank you!

@Jacques80120

3 жыл бұрын

@@KatShaw What a lovely comment.

@dianadrepper3716

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah I'd find that super helpful as well! Lately, I've been trying to find aout more about ADHD & Bipolar Disorder. I suspect that I may have Bipolar II or Cyclothemia on top of my ADHD-C and am going to do Diagnostics after talking to my therapist. I found it extremely difficult to find good info on the subject that a) delineates ADHD from Bipolar and discusses overlaps and when it is likely when it is both. In general I think it is tought to find out if it is either or and and when not (also with Anxiety, depression, ocd, autism etc.. there are so many symptoms that could be reasonably explained by either one or both. I don't 100% trust my mental health provider either, I feel like they just take the direction I point them in, and I think I can get biased so easily. It is just a bit tough to navigate this and to decide what is even useful here. For anyone also looking for info on bipolar/adhd, this is the best video I found on the topic: kzread.info/dash/bejne/onuJ2LqJfJidkdY.html

Thank you so much for this channel, other ADHD content creators I get bored easy between your visuals and your personality I’m never bored here 💙

Thank you so much. I just found out I have adhd at 30. Before I tried to force myself do thing when dopamine run out and after that I am so exhausted. After knowing about ADHD I feel more control, at ease. It is so hard when it come to dopamine feast like game, movie, youtube and social media.

This is so cool! I am making mine now with a special "breakfast menu" of short things I can do that will get me out of bed without falling into rabbit holes.

@Jacques80120

3 жыл бұрын

That's a very cool idea/ useful addition!

@hollypusheen7651

3 жыл бұрын

Now I want breakfast.

@lisat9707

3 жыл бұрын

Love love love this idea!!! Thank you!!!

When my children were little I would do a very similar thing on the first day of the school holidays. We would sit around the kitchen table and talk about the things we really enjoy doing. We'd also add a star beside the activities that could be done by one person, and a raindrop if it could be done on a rainy day. It was so handy to have this list available. I'd have a second list, cleaning and tidying, and if someone said everything on the first list was boring they would be assigned a task from the cleaning/tidying one. :o) Almost every time there was a hasty retreat and a suitable first list activity was found.

@queeny5613

3 жыл бұрын

Thats genius

@francescafrancesca3554

2 жыл бұрын

That's so sweet and cool. I want to do that too. Thanks for sharing!!

Dude I realized when I watched this video that's exactly what I've been doing this whole time thank you so much your videos are truly amazing

I almost didn't watch this video but I'm literally crying because I'm so happy. For one, I'm not alone, and for two, this would actually work! You are amazing! Thank you so much!

I lol’d at rolling a D20 for a snack, I just started playing D&D this week!

"But did he ever find the tomato?" I died laughing from this, I rarely watch past the first millisecond of end part, and I laughed super hard from this. Worth it.

@daxafer

4 жыл бұрын

I’m in a couple of groups run by Eric Tivers ..... and I was on a planning session with him today - so, I’m going to be mean and go ask about that tomato now.

@annak3325

3 жыл бұрын

@@daxafer BUT DID EVER FIND THE TOMATO

@seamuspikey

3 жыл бұрын

@@daxafer Seriously, though. I laughed about the lost tomato during the video, but then the rest of the video distracted me. Then she reminded me at the end of the video, and now I NEED TO KNOW!

Such lovely advices. Idk if i have adhd but i am way too often dragged by my phone to go on social media or to go eat some chips and neither are very good for my self-esteem, so making a dopamenu of things that actually makes me happy is just a wonderful idea

kinda unrelated but i really love and appreciate how u have metaphors or examples for nearly every topic on ur videos😭 bc unless it's through an example given of the thing applied in a real life situation then it's quite hard for me to get it so thankss

Wow now I really understand why I’ve been so miserable without the gym. That was my number one, favorite stimulation activity every single day. Makes perfect sense.

@dsnow6578

2 жыл бұрын

how do you motivate for the gym? I need your secrets lol

@kleb42

Жыл бұрын

Working out helps me so much throughout the day!

@kleb42

Жыл бұрын

@@dsnow6578 throw on sneakers and pick a fun KZread video or dance around the house. Then progress to the gym. Make it easy for yourself in the beginning. I also used to ONLY allow myself to watch Netflix While on the elliptical!

At least 6+ months ago I could still feel excited about doing stuff, even if I would have at least a couple of days each week of feeling "off". Now my stress, anxiety, etc is probably the worst it has ever been and everything just feels like I need to do a mental packet of paperwork to even get myself to go work on my own business that I used to get a lot of joy from. You and your channel are great, by the way!

@HowtoADHD

4 жыл бұрын

yeahhh I'm having a harder time too, I think a lot of people are. Do you have the support you need to get through it? Can you adjust your expectations a bit?

@AdamKing60

4 жыл бұрын

@@HowtoADHD I'm sorry to hear that you are having a tougher time now too. I live alone, which makes everything much worse, although I do have friends I can talk to on a regular basis and weekly therapy sessions via video phone app, I think I need to make an adjustment to medication and/or reduce the overwhelming amount of stuff I need to do.

@waffleman21

4 жыл бұрын

I too live alone, and I don't that combined with recent world events is helping my mental health any. Not that anyone really wants to know, but I have tried nearly every ADHD medicine on the market and none of them seem to make things much better, and, if anything, just make things worse.

This is such a great idea! I'm gonna do this tonight! One thing I've found helpful is putting a timer on my social media apps. My Android has a feature to do this through its "Digital Wellness" setting. I've alloted for 20 minutes of IG and 20 minutes of FB, which are my main ones. Now I'm forced to do other things! And difference between depression and ADHD: For me, depression manifested in no joy in doing *anything*. I didn't wanna do anything, I felt hopeless, etc. ADHD boredom for me is I don't wanna play video games right now, but I wanna knit something instead, or bake a bunch of pies, etc. With ADHD something will feel interesting even if it's not the usual stuff

thank you for the inspiration! The menu planning also gives me an activity for now. And I finally ordered that felting kit I've been dreaming of since I first tried it 3 years ago so I have something to do that isn't waste my life on social media or scrolling on my phone