I definitely feel this way right now. I’m about 5 months into a new job and questioning everything. Your videos are very helpful!

@erinMfoley

4 жыл бұрын

So glad you tuned in! Another helpful tip is to shift out of telling yourself that you lack confidence and instead just admit that you feel uncertain because you are learning. The feeling of being uncertain often feels less negative to the brain then lacking confidence. You will feel uncertain and that's okay. We all feel uncertain when we are learning. That feeling can actually serve you in being open to gathering the information you need to gain the certainty that comes with experience.

@ctw213

3 жыл бұрын

I know how you feel. Every job I’ve had, I start to panic around the 3-5 month mark.

@ellenvaas7208

3 жыл бұрын

@carlybb same

@ccash4nj

2 жыл бұрын

Erin - thank you. You have helped me so much

@simplezeesights3314

Жыл бұрын

Omg... Im 3 months i feel the same!!!

Your videos are life saving. Some of us actually want to end our life because work situations are so overwhelming. But u give us the blessed tools to navigate

@STUPIDYOUTUBE_HIDINGMSGS

2 жыл бұрын

This is true, sometime I'm overwhelmed with anxiety and self-doubt that ending it all crosses my mind, but I don't want to appear as coward or weak to my daughter and extended family for running away from life's challenges, but my confidence is really nowhere to be found these days due to a lack of support from anyone...

@myrealself2905

Жыл бұрын

You're so not alone!!

@alycebagnath464

11 ай бұрын

Definitely not alone! 🤍 we need to show more love and patience with ourselves

@chandrikadas9163

7 ай бұрын

How are you all now? I pray things get better because I'm really struggling 😢

@gabrielladiaz3573

4 ай бұрын

@@chandrikadas9163hi, I’m in the same position. How are you doing now?

I'm a month in at a new job after working my previous one for 7 years and struggling very much with my confidence and the new workload expectations. So much so, that the daily anxiety overwhelms my ability to eat, sleep, enjoy my time off and my performance at the job. I'll try to keep your advice in the back of my head :)

@symphonykelly8242

8 ай бұрын

Me too. Let’s hang in there

I just started a new job after working at my previous job for 10 years. I’ve been dealing with so many different emotions and tons of anxiety. The new job isn’t even bad. I was lucky to find a very supportive environment, where the training is actually really good. The problem is me and my negative thinking. It’s like I’m fighting with myself everyday just to show up and be uncomfortable. I can’t wait to get to the point where I can actually enjoy this job more, but rn I’m so anxious that I’m not even enjoying it. It makes me feel ungrateful

@sohinimukherjee4838

Жыл бұрын

Hey! I can relate to this😅 .My negative thoughts are making me feel dumb for the things that I am confident enough to pull off

When your Confidence is shaken.... 1. Have the courage to step into the thing you want to feel confident in. 2. Be confident in your ability to be confident. 3. Ask yourself why it is worth it to show up and become confident.

I’m admitting that I’m not confident with my new job position because I’ve been making small to big mistakes. On the bright side I appreciate the feedback on one of my coworkers, but I did upset my manager and I made other mistakes today.

@fluffy00123x

Жыл бұрын

Bless you hope you found your feet eventually x

Wow! It’s day three of a new job. First new job in years. I was listening to this video to stop myself from just not turning up today. It’s too new and I don’t feel, didn’t feel, up to it. I DO believe in my ability to get confident. I just forgot. Thank you Erin.

@jessjenkins5474

2 жыл бұрын

How are you now? 🙂

@simplezeesights3314

Жыл бұрын

I would love to how are you now?

This was great! It really helped me understand why I was feeling overwhelmed at my new job/promotion and how to reignite my confidence in my confidence. Thank you!

I was feeling overwhelmed after work today and your video really helped me. I am so ashamed of the mistakes I have done that I completely forget about the times I showed up and stood through the uncertainty and discomfort of learning something new. Thank you!!

You have no clue how much I needed to hear this.

Godh i just started a new job and i just feel like the confident me that they saw in the interview is GONE😭My inexperience in this particular role makes me feel so insecure and anxious! It’s like my mind just freezes! The mental shaming is so real and am struggling to assert myself cause i haven’t grasped the ropes yet. PS: Ranting to a total group of strangers feels sooo therapeutic and cathartic! ALSO: Thank you so much for this video! It was EVERYTHING i needed to hear today!🙏

@crazykaitlyn

Жыл бұрын

I felt this 100% except i wasn't confident in my interview either and I think my resume is what sold me lol how are you doing?

@sonianunez2916

11 ай бұрын

I just started a new job myself. Today will be my 3rd day, and my anxiety is through the roof. It’s so nice Ito know am not alone!

@cocoanne7242

5 ай бұрын

Exactly what I'm going through right now..today is my fifth day at an internship..and I'm too anxious..hope it will get better, cause I was really excited to get this opportunity.

I never had a mom that truly helped me with tough emotions. This left me feeling scrambled when something major happens and I feel insecure and depressed. I changed jobs one month ago after being an expert and the top of the ladder at my old one. I'm totally uncertain and very depressed. I've been internally beating myself up for not being as confident as I wish I was. Thank you so much for this video, I can't express how much this has helped me right now.

I feel less alone or less broken. Thank you 💞

Trudey Henley I'm 3 months into a new job after being laid off 1 year ago. Most days I wake up feeling that it's not, I can't, and just want to walk away. Virtually onboarding to a new job without any physical resources and limited online assistance is not easy. I feel like I'm one of the Guinea pigs who can explain firsthand why it's not working.

Its my 1st month of my new job I feel like im drowning, its so overwhelming, i dont want to ask but i dont want to make mistake. I feel so dumb and useless. But when watch your videos i undestand my self im beaing aware of my actions and decision. I dont put my self too much stress, i zoom out, burned out the moment i talk to customer. My brain dont fuction very well. Its sad, its frustrating. I need to pay my bills. What a life

I just started a job in accounting and I came in very confident but after today I’m not. Only my second day but I had a hard time understanding something, so much so I couldn’t complete one task on my own without help. Huge hit to my confidence.. I hope this can change. I want to deliver and meet the expectations of the company

@jessjenkins5474

2 жыл бұрын

How are you now? Tomorrow is my 4th week into my new job. 7 years at my last job so it's a shock

@kennah3140

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely awful. My advice is to pay attention to red flags, I definitely had a confidence crisis however it wasn’t all my imagination. I’m working in a very rigid corporate environment with very vague and passive communication. I hate it!

@dedasab

2 жыл бұрын

@@kennah3140 I wish it got better for you. I hear you, it's my second month in a new job and the passive behavior of my boss and colleagues is really shaking me to the core. I hope it gets better for all of us.

@chaii_latte

2 жыл бұрын

@@kennah3140 do you still work there?

@JoeBidenIsAClown

Жыл бұрын

@@kennah3140 How was it for you? What happened?

It's nerve-wrecking when thinking that I'll be starting a new job in 2 weeks, I'm losing sleep fearing the unknown and how high the expectations of me with the position I have. Darn, it's been 4 days since I slept...

My mom passed away. I have no more family left. No support system. Im moving in with a stranger soon. If I ever can't find a place to live, I have no one to help me. I'm starting a new job. I will be starting school again at 32. I work customer service and have no career. living paycheck to paycheck, dont make enough money for rent. I'm terrified by life so far. And tbh barely holding on...

@tracyocalllaghan

Жыл бұрын

You got this, one step at a time. You are brave and you are capable & you are not alone. Sending positive vibes. 💖

@SayItKey

Жыл бұрын

Deepest condolence you got this..❤

I've just found your videos today. Thanks so much. I needed to be reminded that I've never been confident at the start of any job. I have always ended up being good at my job. This is a good job in a good company and that's my motivation for sticking with it. I don't expect other people to be great at a new job straight away I need to remember that when it comes to myself..

I don't have confidence in my job because they are always making me like what I do isn't enough. No matter hard I work I'm always getting yelled at about something . This job has put my mental and anxiety at stack . I've been working at this job for almost two years . I show at this job because I know that there are people here that I can help . My service is needed . I love helping people.

I will be starting a brand new job (at 57 years old!) later this month and this was very helpful - I'm going to watch it again and take some notes and quotes!! Thank you!

@erinMfoley

4 жыл бұрын

So glad you tuned in Anne! Best of luck as you start your new job. I always tell people to anticipate that your mind will have a meltdown when you first start. Don't trust what it says. It's kinda like a toddler kicking and screaming:) Be sure to hop over to my website for more videos and articles on this if you want more support! ErinMFoley.com. Happy New Year!

I am always worried i am going to losse my job. My overthinking.

your point that something shifted 100% identified what I couldn’t put my finger on. I’ve been on a medical leave for one month and it had been extended which lead to me not knowing when I was able to go back. Couple that with an extremely nosy coworker who keeps telling me how busy they are which lead me to feel guilty for taking care of myself and not being there for the “team”. I’m excellent at my job and I’ve been a month without all of the validation my customers give me. I’ve overthought every single thing and questioned the validity of me being off, only for this coworker to reinforce it. Your video was exactly what I needed. I’m going too walk in confident and self assured. I took the time my doctor said I needed and I don’t need to prove myself to my coworkers I’ll just keep doing the great work I’m known for. New sub here. Thank you!

I’m so happy that I found your channel, I wish I found it sooner

This video helped me stop feeling shame of “my capabilities” and it’s helping me focus on building confidence. Thank you so much !!

Some of us are unable to feel all emotions. I am unable to feel joy for more than a fleeting moment.

This seems to have affirmed that I need to quit my job 😂 I guess I am confident that it would be better for me to leave.

This is exactly what I’m going through. Have to complete an externship for school in a clinic and the environment is very unfamiliar to me. After sticking around in the same job for years (comfortability), I built up the confidence to make a change and go back to college. Thank you for putting things into perspective!

Going through all of your videos since starting my new jobs and experiencing terrifying anxiety! Thanks so much for the content it truly helps me each day!! 💜💜

I so needed this❤️Starting a new position tomorrow after being at my previous job for 3 years. I’m feeling so many emotions....trying to find every reason not to show up. Lol! Thank you Erin❤️

@katherinekacarab3357

3 жыл бұрын

How is it going?

Thank you. 6 days in a new job as a Skills Coach to teachers and educators I decided I wanna leave lol. They thankfully said stop and offered to change my role abit. It's still stressful but I am working on this feeling of worrying and have recognised its a negative way of reacting to something critical or self defense for my brain by running away. I must stop and overcome this fear. It's the only way I will learn and the lesson will not keep repeating in my life. 2 months in and I'm thinking ...keep trying. You will get there. Its a new role and a new programme too.

This was an amazing video and I needed this more than you know. I love your thought about being confident in becoming confident. I will remember that! Thank you for sharing.

I cannot thank you enough for your support and advice

Amazing advice! Struggling is real ... realizing the struggle and helping yourself through is the way and with sound expert advice it will happen!

love this. I am about to start a new job for the first time in 3 months and i am at a new different place in life, and i have been feeling so scared. but this makes me feel seen, and it gives me tools that i can use. thank you for using your time to give us this

I needed to hear this today. Thank you

Clear delivery on work around with practical experience Thanks

I really like this women the reasons she mentioned it very very accurate I’m suffering from these issues related to job only so I’m watching all her videos and learning and perceiving allowing myself to reprogramm my mind

This was so helpful! I can now understand what’s happening to me. Thanks!

The problem isn’t my confidence or my ability to do the job, it’s the manager who micromanages and I don’t get a good impression and want to quit.

I love how you explained the thought processes that we go through in our brains. "Erase the shame" is such a good reminder. Many thanks!

@erinMfoley

11 ай бұрын

You're welcome!

Brilliant, thank you Erin.xx

First I see someone is talking about my case 😢❤ thanks a lot ❤

Thank you for this, viewing your vid 2021 and this is the situation I'm currently in because I have to move to a different line of business with a highet position and this vid helps me identifying my doubts

Great advice I will use these techniques thank you

Thanks for your helpful content!

Thank you soon much, this was helpful❤

This really helped my situation. Thank you❤️

@erinMfoley

4 жыл бұрын

You're welcome Mia! So glad it helped!

Thank you !!

Amazing advice

This is so helpful - ❤Thanku

I sure hope you are still offering your programs. Cuz I am def signing up!

Excellent thank you

Thank you.

Yeap I've got some feedback which has affected even my transfer to other jobs

New job, but overloaded with tasks, (responsibilities have me looking after reception for 2 floors). Multitasking has me anxious cause if I drop a ball, it will be a big deal. Even though there has been no training. Answer to everything is look in the manual.

thanks!

I am fine but at the same time I question why I want to continue working in a place where I feel so insecure. It is a coworker who has decided I do not belong and is bullying and gossiping. I asked to be separated but the environment is very small. I believe I will find a place where I can work more autonomously.

Point is that I don’t really know much yet but I’m an eager student… unfortunately the person who trains me isn’t always very kind…she’s rather a bit condescending when I don’t immediately get it, or when i make a mistake its like “look how dumb you are”… maybe that’s all in my head I don’t know? I do like the job but it’s though as an introvert to be exposed to so many people all day long,… it’s actually pretty overwhelming to be honest but the people who work there do this for yeas so they forgot how difficult it was in the beginning… i just question if I’ll ever be good enough to have a voice in that company? Why should anyone listen to the inexperienced one… how can i ever be confident enough if you know that your coworkers have so much more experience? Its like I’ll always be in a submissive position, which doesn’t actually feels good

Thank you so much for making these videos, I am so deep in a crisis with anxiety

At my lowest ebb at work. Feeling worthless and scared every day. 60 days into my new and the fear of my boss is palpable.

I would love information on your coaching.

I just flew out for training. Been with the company for 5 months then I failed the knowledge test and now I'm scared they are gonna fire me. And it sucks because I work good I show up I go early I stay late and I just feel so left behind and it kills me the way they talk to me and having to defend myself it sucks because I didn't get to do alot of stuff I do now so i don't know alot and it's like they want me to know

brazil 🇧🇷💕 thanks for the video

It’s too bad you only help woman. This video spoke directly to me!

I love this video is 11:11 minutes long 😍🙏😇💫🌟✨👑🌻💙👏

Thanks from the buttom of my heart.

Two weeks into a new job and im struggling with confidence and my capabilities 😢

I used fear for motivating myself to prepare for exam as I had issues in learning. So two days before exam I was doing things in a slow pace and lagging the timelines but the night before exam my anxiety and fear reaches at its height and I hardly finish revising the stuff just before sitting the exam. Though I got good grades but the pain I endured was awful as my fear make this whole process a matter of life and death for me. My slow learning was due to obsession for perfectionism, low self confidence and attention deficiency. I still suffer in similar manner in professional life and this puts me so low emotionally and gets depression and anxiety attacks. Can anyone please help me.

Could ypu explain this to my trainer ? Cos she sacked me after 9 days of on the job training done via Zoom .

This issue has become anxiety for me.

Trying to find you to connect for some coaching..not having any success.

@erinMfoley

7 ай бұрын

Sorry you are having trouble connecting. You can grab a consultation session. Here is the link to my 1:1 coaching program description. If this aligns just click on the consultation link and it will take you to a link to book a time. I look forward to connecting! www.erinmfoley.com/new-job-or-role

I don't support content creators that have no correspondence with their channel supporters and commentators. It just comes off as disingenuous.