Talking or trying to reason with any narcissist is bad advice because they do NOT want resolution.

@tnt01

3 жыл бұрын

100%.

@nana23ac

2 жыл бұрын

Completely agree

@brandybauska7741

2 жыл бұрын

They only want DRAMA and Chaos! They live to create issues with others.

@Keithbythesea

2 жыл бұрын

You are absolutely right! They feed on causing chaos and mayhem. It's "sport" to them

@darrenmcintosh8471

2 жыл бұрын

no they want you to become the main character in the drama they created the trick is to learn to surrender to what ever others say to you your inner peace hold more value than any words so dont trade it for words they damaged goods at the end of the day looking for someone eelse to take on there pain as if its there smile in the face of narcisist use reverse psychologically let them be the one to get trigger by doing the opposite to what they want which is reacting that give them supply cut there supply off

One huge clue that you have a Narcissist as a neighbor is that they ALWAYS mimic you!! They demean and dramatize things behind your back, their extremely lazy and always trying to outdo you or get you in trouble for petty shit. Their rude and Hypocritical. Their always the victims or the hero. Never the "bad guy". They have zero shame. THEY SUCK!

@woodenleaves

3 жыл бұрын

That's crazy, I'm dealing with such one too. She even bought a dog and mimic my behavoiur and tone of voice the way I treat "my" dog. She's insane.

@justincardwell1303

2 жыл бұрын

"he's always brushing his hair!" That's what my neighbors say. "He's always watching something" like wwtf I feel like they're watching me.

@suebill8456

2 жыл бұрын

Wow what you said is so on point my neighbor is just like that what ever I do she ends up doing the next day

@woodenleaves

2 жыл бұрын

@@suebill8456 I feel you. Mine has just put the same vitraj deco on windows like ours. She stalked me with drone when I go for dogwalk, and now takes walkdogs at the same time and area where I walk my dog.

@brandybauska7741

2 жыл бұрын

@@suebill8456 if you want to have some fun with neighbor narcy, speak loudly outside like your on the phone and make the neighbor think your building or buying something. Has to be something funny or ridiculous. They will jump on an opportunity to up stage you.. then sit back and laugh while they take the bait 🤣

I love the picture of the nosy neighbor. It’s so on point. I never stick my head over the fence, because that’s invasive. Narcissists have a poor sense of boundaries. They have an entitlement attitude that makes them think everyone owes them everything.

@rafaeldelgado4985

3 жыл бұрын

My neighbor pretty much has peeping little tiny square windows just above my fence line It's uncomfortable knowing someone is watching everything you do.

@brandybauska7741

3 жыл бұрын

@@rafaeldelgado4985 I feel for you! I guarantee that my neighbor reads all of my comments on you tube and any other social media platform. I found out that she's been stalking me online on at lease 6 different sites! How much creepier can you get??!!.. fml.. she even went as far as trying to get me kicked out for playing music mid day, in my back yard while I gardened. Pure evil. I swear, every narcissist is exactly the same!

@emotown1

2 жыл бұрын

@@brandybauska7741 Is that even possible? I mean, i get a bit paranoid my arrogant neighbors might be watching whatever i type on the comments in youtube. But surely that's just paranoia? They would need my google password and even if they had that I'd have received some message from google "your account has been accessed from another device" (or to that effect). Which I haven't. Anyway (here's the empathy bit), I'm sure she is an evil you-know-what and your feelings about did not just come out of nowhere, but don't let her make you paranoid. Hell, I went through a phase of thinking my neighbors must be tracking my car somehow - their house lights often went out (and I mean from all on to all off!) when I pulled in to my drive at night! Very creepy. It happened that often that it drove me a bit nuts, you know? Don't get paranoid - it's the pits. It's a waste of your precious time.

@halloweenville1

2 жыл бұрын

That was one of the major red flags for me, The day i met my new neighbour at my front door, it was the first time the boundaries were broken.. Her tiny dog rushed in and ran up my stairs. and without even a laugh or a sorry, the woman just marched into my home, and travelled halfway up the stairs and grabbed her dog as if it were a rag doll. I was so shocked that she didn't ask my permission to enter my home to get her dog, and that immediately set the alarm bells going. And from then on, she continued to invade my boundaries in the form of complaining, banging, reporting. until finally i moved house and got away from her,.. Best thing i ever did.

@flexiveganc7441

Жыл бұрын

yes this i also feel with my neighbour. its horrible

Being real, some people are just assholes and you can't reason with them. The best thing you can do is ignore them.

@desireebryant9523

Жыл бұрын

Unfortunately it doesn’t work

@Olando89

Жыл бұрын

@@desireebryant9523 Noise canceling headphones my man, noise canceling headphones. People only control you if you let them have power over you.

@yana212

5 ай бұрын

​@@Olando89what about my neighbor who keeps moving my trash can to another neighbors yard to put theirs in my yard and I keep moving them back? What would you do especially when I tried to talk to them and they ignored me and the HOAs email about moving cans

@Olando89

5 ай бұрын

I would consult with whoever is in charge and try to reason with them first. Let me provide an example of my situation: I am a Black Latino man, and I happen to be the only Black Latino man in the area. My neighbor creates racist Wi-Fi names and attempts to provoke conflicts with me. He also insults me by insinuating that I am gay simply because I prioritize fitness and self-care. I want to clarify that I am not gay. Nevertheless, the solution I found was to install cameras on my property and block all Wi-Fi connections from appearing on my Mac except for my own. I could choose to engage in a constant battle and waste my life being angry every day, or I could simply ignore it and focus on living my life. Look in any living situation where you have to see the person the best solution always is to minimize contact with them. Police and fighting just makes more negative vibes. Don't get sucked into their mess. You got this!!!!! @@yana212

@Olando89

5 ай бұрын

You have to consider whether it's worth engaging in conflict and dealing with the stress and drama it brings into your life. Attempt to minimize all interactions with them. Only resort to physical confrontation if your life is in danger, and contact the police only if absolutely necessary. Courts are often focused on generating revenue and do not effectively address the underlying issues in many cases. @@desireebryant9523

Wow 🙄 I really needed this video today. I've been harassed by my neighbours more than once. I've tried to move, with the result that my next neighbour was even worse 😣 Where I'm living now, I've also had problems. But after reporting to the police, it's been quiet. They let their children play football in my garden. Their kids were running around all the way up to my house. I tried talking to them, telling them to stop. Didn't happen. One Saturday night, around 2 AM they sent their almost grown up son out, kicking the football into my garden. And the parents just stood there waiting for my reaction. I finally had enough of them and called the police. To be left alone I had to put up a fence between our properties. Now they are probably bad mouthing me in the neighbourhood. Because people who used to say hello suddenly stopped. But I don't give a crap... If they want to believe in everything they hear, then they are not worthy of me.

@ilovemybeard3394

4 жыл бұрын

Omg same, but my situation is more life threatening and it sucks It feels like my neighbors in my apt complex are spying on my every move and not only that constant loud banging until 2:00, 3:00 or 4:00am in the morning So I was like...meh why not? So as soon as I do the dishes by hand there was a very loud roaring stomp Ooooh I had enough!!! So i decided to take notes and record the sounds just in case shit hits the fan I want to move out, but unfortunately I have to save a lot 😒 Constant noisey neighbor...ughh! They have an agenda and I do not know what their intentions are what they will do next...it is threatening

@scottndawn

4 жыл бұрын

You cant have good without pure evil. Everything involves balance. Its a test. To go to prison or to not go to prison

@paradigmarson9586

4 жыл бұрын

To be honest, if you have two bad neighbours in a row, it's probably you not them.

@publicname60

4 жыл бұрын

@@scottndawn hahaha, crosses my mind, lol!

@publicname60

4 жыл бұрын

@@paradigmarson9586 But there is a chance when you're passive like my dear sweet grandma ran into. You could do a lot of damage to an already victim saying that. There are as many or more bullies than narcs out there.

Confronting a narc is dangerous! I asked nicely and they went balistic, threw acusations that were not true and threatened me. Telling someone to confront a narc unless u have back up with you can get u in dangerous situation

@flexiveganc7441

Жыл бұрын

exactly there are different kind of narcistic volumes./ categories. the woman from the video, I understand what she saying and she is right. But there is also another (higher/ more difficult) level for persons who already stood up but talking to a wall. (also when they work for selflove etc). I know this. I am living next a woman with that (high level narcistic(. I mean she dont like it when i got more selfsure. she wear a nice mask for other neighbuors. that is something else then the categrotie the woman from video is talking about. thats about submisisve and assertive. and yes also when you worked abou tyourself to be more selfsure. then still the narcisitc with high level (not visible for others) still can give you a very unsure feeling. because she have persons for example autority who wil not believe me. she is very 'over social' with other neighbours. so I knwo my place/ reality when i confrotn her I just can do this with my eyes and say 'hi'... i wil never ask her anything anymore or tell my bounderies. because when she know the bounderies she has again something to walk over. its a sick woman what you can not see if you not experienced this. i also worked to myself 'maybe I am also a narcist for example she is maybe a mirror'.... no its not I knwo after all those years.

@mleecthulhu

6 ай бұрын

Yup. Coverts, overts, grandioses, sociopatathics, DARK TRIAD TYPES..

@willowtree73

4 ай бұрын

I agree, and often they will gaslight you and the harassment get’s worse!

@jenbodhi1133

3 ай бұрын

This is what happened to me too, I asked nicely and he went insane, screaming, frothing at the mouth- all I asked was for him and his kids to stay off my property

@teresahudson-lk7dw

3 ай бұрын

It is a bad idea to confront them ever.

I need this today, my neighbour has been terrorizing me, I finally called the police and they took me seriously and are giving me a restraining order and charging him with criminal harassment

I had one narcissistic neighbor, I reported her eleven times to the police for disturbing the peace. I called her landlord and showed her the police complaints. I got her evicted and she was history.

@corsicanlulu

5 жыл бұрын

yay! i love success stories!

@optimistprime6497

4 жыл бұрын

I have a neighbor that is harassing me by calling the cops. I got a noise complaint at 7:47 pm for loud noise when the music was kept at a minimum. The apartment has a curfew for noise at 10:30 pm. I try to be as respectful as possible and have put felt pads on all my doors cu-bards etc. People like you who complain over a little noise and get people evicted are a scourge to mankind. I hope you weren't being unreasonable.

@xxxexxxeamsmith5819

4 жыл бұрын

stephen coleman I don’t know my neighbours landlord I need to do something she’s called police saying I threatened her called social services saying my son nearly got hit by a car and loads more lies called rspca and done untold more I’m no contact now she’s knocking the fence down every night when I’m in bed I hear her out there some nights I hear the fence fall then I hear her back door close. She’s pretending to her friends and family it’s me knocking it down I’m getting so sick if picking the fence up everyday. I called my letting agency to say can you put cctv and they said no to call the police but last time I called them they said to write everything down I’ve taken pics of the fence down and me picking it up again on video. I don’t know what else to do now. I know it’s only a fence but it makes me see straight through to her garden every time it’s flat in the floor it’s a horrible atmosphere

@annas4182

4 жыл бұрын

@@xxxexxxeamsmith5819 you just have to film it yourself

@AbsoluteMdot

4 жыл бұрын

I wish it was that easy for me.

I hope that someday i will be able to put my 3 narcissistic neighbors somewhere in a mental hospital or prison. I live in an appartment and i don't talk or care about anyone, i just say hi whenever i see them. But because of that they are CONSTANTLY chasing me and doing things that are very bad. Unfortunately, when the cops arrive i seem like the devil accusing them and they are angels from the sky. So frustrating...

@beaulieuc8910

3 жыл бұрын

same here, fortunately the cops are on my side, but it is unpleasant to have groups of flying monkeys as neighbours.

@yukiruikuta6500

3 жыл бұрын

Better start gathering evidence.

@RealSaturn

3 жыл бұрын

I feel you. Mine are even worse than that, way worse. But that part of you being the devil and they are the angels from the sky who do nothing wrong, I totally feel you

@Brightestlightt

3 жыл бұрын

I have only 3 close Neighbord and they all male from hell I can relate im the only female

@cindylong624

2 жыл бұрын

@@yukiruikuta6500 yes, take pictures, get a body cam-so if you are outside you can have video evidence that you did not instigate the neighbors,etc..it's crazy to have to interact with these nuts

1. Get CCTV 2. Get boundaries Enforced 3. Burn the bridge grey rock them 4. Keep contact to a minimum 5. Get authorities involved if you have to even Anomously if you can

@zooshehooshespreadonlyposi8031

4 жыл бұрын

What is grey rock?

@Katharine888

4 жыл бұрын

All good except for number 4. You should go no-contact. Send them a no-contact letter via certified mail. You will have documentation that they received the letter. Be ready for them to throw a temper tantrum when they realize you're not going to enable their crap.

@CloroxBleach-kf8ql

4 жыл бұрын

@@zooshehooshespreadonlyposi8031 Grey rock is basically not showing them a reaction

@CloroxBleach-kf8ql

4 жыл бұрын

@@Katharine888 :P

@juliechurch1799

3 жыл бұрын

Zooshe . It's a technique where you behave like rock to them to bore them . They lose interest in you . Yes no answers etc

Much needed video! I too had the narc neighbors from hell. Once, I just pointed out about their child’s destructive damage to our property. That was it, she badmouthed me to the neighborhood for 15 years. She was a bully to her children also. They moved 2 years ago and it’s been a breath of fresh air!

@zazikiali6361

4 жыл бұрын

i made the last narc fam move haha destroyed my ex gfs dad restaurant and they appearently found out me being a savage not having the narc abuse psalm 35 58 108

When they go low... you go high ... a lot of the time when neighbours move in and just start arsehole behaviour , no matter how to try to speak to people in the nicest possible way, some people will just go lower. If you just live your life in a smart beautiful way, your life will just improve and chances are they’ll carry on acting like trash. I would hope that people will listen to reason, but some people are here on this earth, just to make others’ lives difficult are NOT worth the effort.

@glasscut4880

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah but that advice wouldn’t go far when people live above you waking you up (jolt)late night/early mornings

@theaccidentalcook8557

2 жыл бұрын

absolutely GREAT advice. I soooo needed to hear this right now. Thank goodness before I ended up giving them Reaction. LOL! life saver. thank you

My neighbor is a sociopath she stares at my balcony like a creepy stalker and her daughter from the time they get up till the time they go to sleep they stare all day and half of the night if I have friends over they open their balcony windows and blinds to listen to us and to see what we're saying and stare at us constantly she makes me feel very uncomfortable and my friends too if I'm in the hallway or where in the hallway all they do is look down at the ground but when they're in their apartment they will stare me and my friends like a creepy stalker it's disturbing I feel very violated in my own space and she's not even at my apartment

@Altamisal

5 жыл бұрын

Wouldn't blinds/curtains work to block them out?

@marylynmchoul8665

5 жыл бұрын

They don't have curtains they just sit in their chair in front of the window and the television every time I go outside or if I had friends over and we go outside to smoke or sit enjoy the weather on the balcony because their balcony is on the right to mine they just stare and make it very obvious they're staring and curtains wouldn't do no good because they keep their blinds open all day and night

@Altamisal

5 жыл бұрын

@@marylynmchoul8665 Yes I see. I thought you meant they were staring at you while in your apartment, I see this is about when you go out on balcony. Do you think it could work to invite them over and see if you can open up communication about this in a friendly way? Maybe you are right and they have malicious intent, but possibly they are lonely and curious. In any case, it can't hurt?

@marylynmchoul8665

5 жыл бұрын

Oh no I would not invite them over there's more to it than what I'm explaining but what I'm talking about happened many years ago like in 2007 so there is a past but it's like they blame me for what happened in the past instead of moving on and leaving me alone they just stare at my balcony night and day and if I'm in the hallway they look down at the ground like they're shunning me for something I had nothing to do with they are clearly stalking me like a creepy sociopath because they cannot let go of what happened in the past that had nothing to do with me

@Altamisal

5 жыл бұрын

@@marylynmchoul8665 Sorry you have to deal with this. There are a lot of troubled people out there, for sure! :(

I played this video as loud as I could for my neighbor to hear it. I hope she liked it as much as I did. Thank you 💖

@msnix1084

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly what I'm doing now 😅🙌🏾

@battleground5336

Жыл бұрын

I am doing this too

@flexiveganc7441

Жыл бұрын

i wnat to put it on fb :-)

@mleecthulhu

6 ай бұрын

🤣

@nessaboo20

6 ай бұрын

Lol I did that before 😂

... thankgod they seem to be everywhere 😂🥰

@yana212

5 ай бұрын

You're not alone lol

My neighbour has turned everyone in my area against me . She plays the victim and no one in the street talks to me due to her lies and her friends in the street they agree with her lies . They throw trash over the front of my house and slander me continuously. I am just at breaking point.

@flexiveganc7441

Жыл бұрын

Youre not alone. Persons here understand you and me

@144code

2 ай бұрын

Me too!

Interestingly once someone stands up for themselves finally and defends their property from abuse, disregard, disrespect and usage from the abusers. Abusers will try and label the defender as the crazy weird narcissist and gather the neighborhood as allies in this belief to continue to try and prevail in their sense of self entitlement even if they don't own any part of your property. Seems like its a lose lose scenario with disrespectful neighbors.

@beaulieuonnp593

2 жыл бұрын

That's very true. One neighbour allowed one of her guests to park for good while in front of my driveway. So I asked the driver to politely move the vehicle. The driver said Oh someone hasn't got the Christmas Spirit... as I if I had no right to question anti social behaviour during Christmas... and I said Likewise lol I will be putting a big sign Please keep clear 24/7 and when the driver stops for a long chat with the neighbour, I will put a loud personal alarm until they move the car lol Also this means that I don't have to interract with them and be gaslight. They also have a lot of flying monkeys who will think I am being petty by asking them to not block my driveway

@cassiebennet4262

2 жыл бұрын

@@beaulieuonnp593 Wow that behavior absolutely absurd. Acting like your a jerk because you want to park in your own driveway.

@theaccidentalcook8557

2 жыл бұрын

yikes! yeah, these types have no sense of boundaries

@MissyMuthaTruckiN

5 ай бұрын

Are you me!? That same scenario is happening to me! Sht's been going on Over 3 Years! I'm bout to move, this guy is mental. even his FB is nothing but close ups of his ugly head 🙄

"Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the mouth." - Mike Tyson

@monachaalida-ul7nf

10 ай бұрын

ooo

It's sad that often fabricated complaints, accusations and distorted images of an innocent person are entertained by the authorities but when people come with genuine grievances nobody is interested to resolve the issue. So, better learn about narcissism if you are not a born narcissist. You become a trained narcissist and that's not bad!!!

My neighbors is a former constable and thinks he is entitled to do whatever he wants. When they moved in, they blocked my driveway from across the street and I had trouble getting out. I asked them politely one time to park in another spot since they have both sides of their property completely open. Shorten the story. They keyed my car about 55 times. Painted the side of my white house with gray paint. Threw my wreaths on the ground. Took signs off my lawn . Screamed at me from inside their home or out of their cars. I finally got cameras and everything stopped. But they got away with it. I filed 7 police reports but the police said I had no proof. That was before the cameras. So they got away with it. To top it off they are in and out of foreclosure. They don't pay any HOA fees. They are still psychologically harassing me. I did confront them but they are covert and got back at me for standing up for myself. I had to go for counseling with the Crime Victims Council in my town. I live alone which is why I think they targeted me. My son lives in another town. I have been distraught waiting for their foreclosed house to be taken from them. They are disgusting, pathetic morons.

@beaulieuc8910

3 жыл бұрын

that sounds horrible. I think you are right, there is something about 'being alone' or 'living alone' that seems to attract narc people. I find whenever I have a male chaperone, then I get less hassle but as soon as I am alone in the street or at home, I am seen as a target. I even had a woman aged 29 or so, shout Coronavirus to me in the street, when I was just shopping though was out with my mask with must have triggered her narc abuse. I take a pad and pen with me now when I am alone (as my mobile battery keep running out) so I at least get records of reg nos, and details of incidents quickly. If people do things to me, then I want to be ready quickly with time, dates, description, car plate etc.

@ellencecilia1605

3 жыл бұрын

@@beaulieuc8910 Yes they do target one living alone.

@melissagreen_

Жыл бұрын

@@beaulieuc8910 Well said, narcs are nothing but predators and they pick on the vulnerable. It's always a good idea to make sure they know you have support and allies and try to avoid them knowing you are alone wherever possible. It's sad we have to do this, but you have to take care of yourself at the end of the day and be realistic about the kinds of people that walk amongst us.

Never get involved with neighbors when you own a condo or house as it's a large investment as some people might be nice at first but then become very needy or demanding when you say NO. As I love my privacy! I have these neighbors who are a couple and for many years they have been trying desperately to get together but they come off way to aggressive, which makes me uncomfortable and they just don't get it.

@morissabuckminster1790

3 жыл бұрын

Yes!!! I did not create nearly enough boundaries with my current neighbor who is in the duplex building next to mine (not attached). Her daughter has gotten so comfortable coming to our house every day that when my son had a playdate with two friends and her daughter expected to come play, he told her politely but that he is sorry he does not want to play today. her mother caught wind of this and thought it was appropriate to reprimand my child and say that he has no right to tell her no because they so often. she spoke so loudly to him that I heard her from inside my living room! when I stepped outside and asked what was going on she even lied to me about what he had said! She has since then made up several lies and nasty posts on social media. It's almost emotionally draining to even deal with her.

@Vixinaful

3 жыл бұрын

Tell them straight out "Its not you, Im just not a very social person" Hope it helps.

@captainpotato6856

3 жыл бұрын

@Shadow Play in the Woods people are THE WORSE FREAKS ON THIS HUGE ROCK OF A PLANET....TALK TO LESS PEOPLE AND YOU WILL LEARN THAT YOUR STRESS STARTS TO VANNISH...

@Babesinthewood97

2 жыл бұрын

@@Vixinaful they will probably go around telling everyone you have no friends, after saying that :) But yeah, you can’t change a narcissist

@Babesinthewood97

2 жыл бұрын

@@captainpotato6856 actually true. I’ve started keeping to myself more. It’s great, except for it makes you vulnerable to predators too, being alone.

I really thought my wife and I were alone with this. We have been dealing with nightmare neighbors (next-door) since literally the 1st day we moved in. When we bought this house my wife and I came to the house to clean it before we moved everything in and we were confronted by the next-door neighbor. She didn't greet us or anything she just started ranting about how unsafe the neighborhood is and she asked if we have an alarm system. A couple weeks after we moved everything in she came over and basically laid out the rules on how she doesn't want any of our grass clippings in her yard and then established where the property lines were. 3 years later we are still here and it has been getting worse. Everything from them blowing leaves and grass into our yard and parking extremely close to the bumpers of our cars on the street. We tried to bury the hatchet and be bigger people trying to be nice and even bring them Christmas cookies and they continue to do passive aggressive things to us for no reason. We were first warned by the previous owners of this house that they had issues with them but we couldn't do anything because we had already closed on the house. Yesterday, one of them cut off several overhanging tree limbs that were extending into our yard and poked at least 15 or 20 of the limbs purposely into the fence where our property lines meet. Not only that, they are extremely nosey and often try to look into our house from the sidewalk and around our privacy fence. It has been a nightmare

@Jennifer951

2 жыл бұрын

I feel your pain. We bought our dream house on 2020 in a very small community and right away our neighbor targeted us. Not only did she target us, but she also goes after our 8 year old daughter The even sadder part is, she has a clique of neighbors who follow her blindly. We can't move right now, but we will as soon as we can.

@octaviahh8774

2 жыл бұрын

Wow, just wow. The audacity of these people. I have an old guy living at the back of my house. The very first day, the day I was moving in he came over to tell me about the fence, how it's thin material and it's expensive to replace if it gets broken. He also mentioned that he's very friendly with the local cops and he hope I like bagpipes because he's in a band. That was two years ago. Since then he has stood at the end of his driveway and pokes his head around to look down mine, if he can hear me outside to talking with my visitors he calls me from over the fence to tell me he wants to talk to me. He stops my teenages girls on the street to tell them to tell me he wants to talk to me. He brings other people into my property to "fix" his fence because it's on his property line he thinks he has the right. Some of the behaviours you described sound similar to my neighbours behaviour.

@jenbodhi1133

3 ай бұрын

I’m dealing with the same thing

@jay12035

3 ай бұрын

@@jenbodhi1133 Have you tried talking your neighbors about the issues you've been having?

@jenbodhi1133

3 ай бұрын

@@jay12035 yes, he had a temper tantrum and started screaming in my face and then throwing garbage in my yard and stalking me, I ended up having to call police, one more incident and I’m filing a restraining order. I’m a single woman lives alone, he became fixated on me and obsessive, it doesn’t seem to matter to him that his wife and kids are right there

I found using my iPhone voice recorder in my pocket, when having to engage with narcissists, very useful. It helps remind me to keep calm and becomes my witness/evidence should I need it. It also helps me to reflect on what triggers their rages.

I deal with a evil evil neighbor cameras are on my front door that’s how bad it is my home is monitored by him

I've lived in an apartment building for 8 years. In all that time I've had the most wonderful neighbors! Last year, I ran into a new tenant living downstairs from me in my building who turned on the charm, shook my hand, and introduced himself. As he continued out of the building, he suddenly turned back to me and out of the blue complained about my squeaky floor. The rooms are carpeted. The buildings are old but well-kept, but he told me "Shouldn't you have that repaired?" I was annoyed when sometime later he complained to the office about my "noise." Nothing came of it, but I'm a woman in my 70s with arthritis, I'm not jumping around my apartment! I did not confront him but explained to the office manager that the only "noise" there could be is perhaps a nocturnal trip to the bathroom. I avoid him now and do not speak to him. I don't know what else I can do. But there have been no further complaints so far. I think he saw a pudgy, older woman he thought he could.bully. Maybe I'm wrong, but he does sound like a narcissist.

@beaulieuc8910

3 жыл бұрын

well spotted. I had the same sort of thing. My friend had a new flatmate and when we met I was friendly and made polite small talk, recommended nearby restaurants, a few weeks later they started moaning about everything (no one moaned at all previously) and I keep clear of him now, as he only speaks to complain about something. It is horrible when they are friendly at first and catch you unawares. I think you are right, they think some older women ' are vulnerable' and can be bullied and nothing will happen. I am now in my mid 50s and I already noticing people trying to 'take advantage of me', and they get annoyed when they get rumbled. As an older woman we have to be alert but these people forget that some of older people are experienced, and are pretty savvy with such people. I have had to learn that I am a woman 'who will stand no nonsense from people' so generally most keep clear of me now. I learned this from my loud narc elderly mother, if you are loud and stand up for yourself, people keep keep away although there are some narcs who will unfortunately fight back, trying to pick your battles is what I have learned. I just don't want to grow up to be a target by scumbags...

My apartment neighbors have been harassing us for almost 5 years. But they do it in a very passive way. So we can’t really report them to management or the authorities. I have actually developed anxiety, heart problems, and insomnia because of it. But I can’t afford to move to another apartment. It’s literally hell.

@tnt01

3 жыл бұрын

get another neighbour as a witness and complain to the management, you have to set a firm boundary or it will never end.

@Ummmmmkay88

3 жыл бұрын

@@tnt01 The main problem is the apartment management does not want to do anything about it. We’ve talked to them multiple times about the issues and they only give slap on the wrist type warnings because they don’t want to get involved.

@tnt01

3 жыл бұрын

@@Ummmmmkay88 so annoying.

@Ummmmmkay88

3 жыл бұрын

@@tnt01 Yeah unfortunately most apartment management companies will not get involved. They will just sit back until they can evict someone or wait for someone to move out. That’s what I found out after doing more research.

@tnt01

3 жыл бұрын

@@Ummmmmkay88 I went through the same thing once. It was horrible.

I received 3 serves of narc rage loud enough for all to hear. I have ptsd and keep to myself. He accused me of leaving his hose running, which I neer touched, and being a liar and trouble maker. He threatened my little pet dog and has been putting meat scraps in my bin. Vile being. Fortunately after a couple of hours, because of your videos Mel, I asked myself why he was triggering such terror in me. I concluded rejection, persecution and tribal abandonment fears. I see him now as a toxic child with whom I will never interact again.

My narcissist neighbors= fair weather friends, when I'm about to make a person breakthrough here they are. When life is average or not going well I don't exist, but when things are going great, their like oh how have you been. 😂

@paulzedx636ninja7

3 жыл бұрын

@@D00MSLAYER Yep, I bet their hoping I fail because narcs think, that's the only way they can succeed. 😝

Safety first around narcissistic neighbors these days. It isn't easy even though they may act like bullies in the neighborhood even though many people think that they need to go mental facilities or prison. 👍🏻 if you agree with plenty of courage.

Never buy in an HOA community. Covert narcs thrive in HOAs.

@donmulder8061

3 жыл бұрын

@Scape Goat Homeowner's Association

@invisableobserver

3 жыл бұрын

So true, narcs often become involved in HOA meetings to manipulate HOA members so they can control the HOA to do their dirty work. Many narcs try to become HOA presidents & security guards.

Boundaries being broken, were the first major red flags for me, The day i met my new neighbour at my front door, was the first time the boundaries were over-stepped... Her tiny dog rushed in and ran up my stairs. and without even a laugh or a sorry, the woman just marched into my home, and travelled halfway up the stairs and grabbed her dog as if it were a rag doll. I was so shocked that she didn't ask my permission to enter my home to get her dog, and that immediately set the alarm bells going. And from then on, she continued to invade my boundaries in the form of complaining, banging, reporting. until finally i moved house and got away from her,.. Best thing i ever did.

Yes I did ask them to stop loud music and dog noise! I told them I’m going through chemo therapy and I needed their understanding and compassion and the couple rejected my request! And have bullied me ever since! What now ! I can’t move I am sick 😷 I can’t believe these people are so cruel !! Help New Mexico….

@cassiebennet4262

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you are ok.

Yea but why confront someone who is deliberately harrassing you. They want you to confront them.

@milissaatwood4799

2 жыл бұрын

That's what I'm almost thinking. I feel like some of them are looking for exactly that attention. Giving the narc as little attention in my mind gives u better chances for them to not keep using you as their "supply"

@jackiemendez38

2 жыл бұрын

@@milissaatwood4799 Exactly, these people are narcissist they get off on whatever reaction you give them and when you do they don't stop, they're evil. My neighbor is like that

@annberlin5811

13 күн бұрын

​@@milissaatwood4799especially unattractive woman. Any attention is good attention

I share a driveway with my Narc I am at the back. She is violent! I am basically a prisoner in my own home.

@dontbelongherefromanotherp9807

4 жыл бұрын

I feel the same. Isn't it ridiculous?

@peaceofmindofpeace1650

4 жыл бұрын

They push others into the corner, have no manners at all and do not respect others territory except their own. Horrible creatures and they project every ugly thing they do on relaxed, normal people until they are not so relaxed anymore. I just closed my door to the terrace to stop hearing their voices and therefore their bad vibes. In my case it's all subtle but I don't feel free or any room for myself when they are also on their terrace.

@dontbelongherefromanotherp9807

4 жыл бұрын

@@peaceofmindofpeace1650 they lack a sense of boundaries. Narcs have emotional and psychological issues that make it difficult for them to respect others

@CloroxBleach-kf8ql

4 жыл бұрын

Get Cameras worst comes to worst build A Fence lol I know Narcissists r scared of dogs

@dmcguire70

3 жыл бұрын

I am in the same situation with a shared property and old couple both narcissistic . My daughter gets shouted at when her ball hits the fence And I I’ve received nasty letters put in my mailbox . It’s horrible I hate living here but I’m not in a situation where I can just move house.

CCTV and cameras r a nessesity protect urselves with boundaries too

@Tasha.b89

3 жыл бұрын

I did this last year, now one year later my narcissist neighbour is accusing me of using them to spy on them 😂 it's to protect my property.

@CloroxBleach-kf8ql

3 жыл бұрын

@@Tasha.b89 so a Narcisist told you that you are spying on them. They must really be paranoid lol, further more why are they paranoid if they didn't do anything wrong. You did the right thing to take the step to protect yourself and your property. Thanks for sharing your experience sister.

@lillylaw8301

3 жыл бұрын

CeAsE yOuR iNvEsTiGaTiOnS

@Tasha.b89

3 жыл бұрын

@@lillylaw8301 how cool...said nobody

@hereaface

3 жыл бұрын

Imagine a cctv being able to see you garden would you feel comfortable sunbathing I doubt it you would feel you couldn’t use your own garden without a real narcissist spying on them. I wonder how many of you think how your actions effect others

Re: beginning of video. This isn't narcissistic, this is a person with trust and/or boundary issues. The Narc is the guy who always assumed you shouldn't mind if their dog poops on your lawn, but your cat better not sit on thier grass; the Narc constantly oversteps their boundaries and is infuriated when you politely ask them to stop.

@jenbodhi1133

3 ай бұрын

Exactly

The woman who lives in the same duplex as me keeps parking her car in my assigned parking stall. Once she had her car parked in my stall and her car broke down. She ended up keeping her broke down car there for over a month. Today she was parked in my stall. There was a lot of other close by areas she could've parked but she wanted to pick an argument and try to bully me. When I knock on her door she said she will move her car and if I have it towed it will be a problem. We argued and she said I wasn't "neighborly". 🙄 I just called HOA and the manager today. Hopefully people leave me alone and give me peace around here.

"Bev" has been my neighbor for over 20 years, she has been dubbed Mrs. Cravitz by all neighbors adjacent to her property, she and her creepy son would peer over the fences on all sides of her property, the son would come into my yard and steal yard decor, he would peer into windows after dark. Mrs. Cravitz started a campaign complaining about porch lights, there was not a neighbor who was not turned in to community code enforcer. After all how could she and her creepy son stalk around if there were lights on...? The enforcer heard about weeds, fences, deep lawns, finally she was advised that she would be charged with harrassment, using local government to terrorize your neighbors is a chargable offense. She has not moved, but, she is old... The neighbors will all celebrate when the day comes. Edit: our neighborhood has quiet respectful residents, lawn mowing is done at a decent hour, gatherings are quiet, no loud music. Her creepy son carries a gun. He is scary.

@vibekes2416

5 жыл бұрын

Prugne Tramonto It's with neighbours like that we consider getting our selfs a bodyguard 😨

@AbsoluteMdot

4 жыл бұрын

The Illegals that moved in next door to my husband and I have been harassing us non-stop, We have reported them to the borough multiply times because they have other random illegals living in their home and renting rooms to these people who they do not know and they have a kid that screams all time. Of course the borough does nothing. I guess it's time to lawyer up and start calling the police.

How to deal with narcissistic neighbors - Don't.

I began to look like the narcissistic neighbour myself, like having a spouse it’s important to stay calm.

@beaulieuc8910

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, I know what you feel, I am made to feel bad when the narc accidently nearly runs me over and blocks the driveway

@flexiveganc7441

Жыл бұрын

Me too also the way i watcth to her when i walk outsite. I can not smile to her anymore

@tammyfitzgerald5336

Жыл бұрын

Get cameras 🎉❤

This person enjoys hurting me. He thinks its flirtation. When Ive confronted him it gets worse. He got other people involved in bullting me.

@peaceofmindofpeace1650

4 жыл бұрын

Yes if you reject them they start to seek negative attention. I also started to ignore my neighbor bc he was constantly seeking attention whenever I opened the door to my terrace. This was some years ago. After that the attitudes and remarks began. He probably thinks I am an unhappy bitch but I am perfectly happy and spontaneous and kind to my other normal neighbors, I am very happy as long as I don't hear or see him 😊

@SamuelBlack84

3 жыл бұрын

Encouraging others to do it is incredibly pathetic and childish. We only have one life and it is incredibly brief. Why can't we just get on with each other and enjoy being alive instead of pissing about?

I've been living in a duplex for the past 5 years in a small town. I moved down from the city hoping to make a new start. Unfortunately what I've been dealing with is extremely nosy neighbors living in the same duplex. They spy on us, peeking in our windows, listening to our conversations through the walls and have spread gossip all through the neighborhood destroying our reputations. The walls are very thin, you can even hear when we use the bathroom or take showers. There what i would call bullies, calling us idiots and laughing at us and it seems they have nothing better to do but stick their nose in other people's business. They literally just sit at their front window watching us come and go and who we have over. Like I said they've spread gossip and have got the other neighbors involved and have smeared our reputation with the landlord. W'ere honestly not doing anything that's deserving of this kind of harassment. The only solution I can think of is moving.

@SpiritualSoldier144

4 жыл бұрын

Omg! I’ve been dealing with the same exact issues with my neighbors for years now! Crazy I’ve gotten used to it, but I did have to show out a few times against the bullying and smear campaign in the neighborhood. Can’t wait to move soon. These people are nutcases!

@scottc4206

4 жыл бұрын

@@SpiritualSoldier144 it's horrible dealing with this issue. Your home should be a place of privacy and security and it feels so violating when strangers or narcissistic neighbors intrude on your business and use it for their own entertainment with the purpose of slander. In many ways it feels like stalking. I believe the issue of narcissism, bullies, and busy body neighbors is increasing and is another sign of the moral decay happening to our country.

@nancya5923

4 жыл бұрын

Yes violated makes you feel like the way they spend so much time watching you is like why????

@captainpotato6856

3 жыл бұрын

LOCKDOWN FREAKS HAVE NO LIMITS...HATERS GO LOWER AND TALK LOUDER BUT NEVER ABOUT THELSELVES OF COURSE....

@vala7125

2 жыл бұрын

I m going trought same thing right now cant wait to move

As soon as i moved into my condo, these narcissistic neighbors (tenants) from hell moved at the exact same time into the unit above me. i realized that I had bought a shitty quality place because the floors and walls were so thin and I could hear their heavy walking and stomping and yelling and screaming all night long. I tried calling the police, texting the neighbors when they were being too loud (for which I received their sarcastic or lewd responses), contacting the owners, contacting the property manager, contacting the home owners association. Nothing has worked. I feel very trapped. The neighbors from hell are college students and decided that they didn't need sleep throughout the night and were constantly making horrible noise and I could barely sleep. I tried complaining, keeping a log, etc. but the property manager was a narcissist himself and so was the owner of the unit above me. So none of them did much of anything to help me. If anything, they were snickering at my suffering. it seems like I've been suffering alone with this problem (I live alone) and no one else even understands. When guests come over, the noise doesn't happen. The owners even said that the tenants from hell would move out in a month, but they never did and they continued to throw their frat parties and dragging furniture around. It has been a very frustrating 2 years. I call this place the "karma house" because it brings up all of my issues, wounds, and pains deep within me. This place really triggers me and I want to move somewhere else. But i don't know where I'd go. I feel like everything is at a standstill (job, house, finances, family, relationships) and I wish that something would just shift. But I know that this neighbor situation was no coincidence and that this was tied to the wounds (mainly anger and feeling of powerlessness) of my psyche. I need to do NARP work specifically for this. They are stomping and banging around as I write this.

@sophiachin1262

4 жыл бұрын

Their demonized. Period! Their behaviour and unwelcomed 'wannabe' interactions with you (that you clearly reject) are all the evidence you need. God sees n knows their wicked intent. Time for the Blood of Jesus and Mighty Warring Angels to be invoked against them. So called bad neighbors are common especially in generally known as unGodly territories, ghettos, hoods or low income atmospheres striving beneath the status quo. Its the 'End Times' written of in every Holy Book known to mankind. All has been forewarned n foretold. Repent n confess all your sins focus inward on your own desires not on the contrary psychos. Learn about Our Lord Jesus Christ n God's Kingdom come. Work on your own salvation n eternal life. Focus on your own health, wealth n happiness not on some lost desperate toxic n parasitic neighbors. Start spiritual warfare against these devils and do not stop until they repent or die. God will surely advance you far beyond these low vibrationals location and abilities to ever even fathom about you much less come near or be distruptive toward you like abused and problematic people are. They are trying to make their unworthiness, insecurities, failures n troubles your problem. Tell them Hell No n go to the pit in Jesus Name! Bind them imps and perps up real well n abyss them in Jesus name. Don't make any time for a wicked person or enemy lest to pray about them. Its all a test. Let God hone you during these trials. Making you a better n more powerful person in the Lord and spiritually. Narcs n jezebels are destroyers not us. We are blessed n virtuous, go create n succeed even more. Shine, shine, shine ever more. Your enemies will be put to shame. #Trust God

@trees8240

4 жыл бұрын

I've been where you are. The real problem is the building structure. There is possibly not much insulation or space between your ceiling and their floor. The only solution is to move.

@beaulieuc8910

3 жыл бұрын

I hate the feeling powerlessness with these people. Hopefully Covid19 managed to stop a lot of these parties.

@user-lt3yb4fm6q

3 жыл бұрын

I am in the exact same position. Have to stay one more year before I can sell and go elsewhere. The situation made me physically ill at a point. The solution for me has been headphones with active noisecancellation. I started out wearing earplugs 24/7 for months but developed allergy. Now I am wearing a set of Jabra Elite 85 h, and I can finally live and sleep like before. Can't hear the angry screaming/furniture moving at all anymore. When I walk the stairs I am no contact. At first I got different reactions, but now they seem to accept I have become a stone wall. I hope this is helpful :)

@JohannaPalmer-uy3fz

4 ай бұрын

Are you still living there or did they move

I keep coming up to see this video time and time again. My neighbour thinks she does no wrong, always gaslighting and triangulating. Time and time again she has blocked my obvious right of way and today her timber delivery driver dumped a whole loads of timber on my driveway. She even nearly ran me over with her speeding on the shared driveway and started gaslighting. I keep a diary of her behaviour. My narc neighbour tries to take advantage of me, but no way will I put up with it. I've learned not to be people pleaser. In the UK, if you are a 'bad neighbour' it can stop neighbours selling their house as they have to declare it!

They people will not leave me alone I wish they would just go about their business.

@quettalogan3295

3 жыл бұрын

They Don't Have Any

Currently being accused of spying on my neighbors 14 yr old daughter. They are always accusing me of things I don't do. I know its their envy and jealousy making them hateful and contentious. It's been 12 years of dealing with them but I refuse to be run out of my home. A home on the water my husband and I have always wanted. Listening to you and other you tube vids help on how to just ignore and don't react emotionally to their tricks. Thank you.

I searched for 'narcissistic neighbors'. After a very mean remark just now from my neighbor next to me. I'm about to move and this was another incident confirming the good decision. Just started watching, curious if I will find some relatable stuff here 🙂 Horrible, dominating people especially the male. He is loud, rude, sometimes aggressive and I feel they are mocking me because I ignore them completely. Asocial bully. They don't complain but it's about indirect insults. Subtle laughter, gossiping etc. I'm happy and content with my house and terrace but it feels like they are childish or jealous I have no idea. I just felt my heart aching after his remark just an hour ago as I was removing my shadow sail from the terrace, I had to stand on a chair so they could see me and he said something sarcastic. She, his gf said something softly so I truly think it was about me. Ulgh. I have no problems and it also feels like he wants me to feel minor that I am alone. He is aggressive when they argue, she screams as well. Well I am about to move I guess I did the right thing!!

@zooshehooshespreadonlyposi8031

4 жыл бұрын

That sounds like what I'm going through now. They also have tv, music on until 2 am if lucky then music at 7 am. This started when another neighbour said we owned house, a lot on my street rent (what does it matter?) Council, and the arguing and the shouting through wall at us. Our lounge is joined onto their's, I hate sitting in my lounge. The music boom boom boom is there when I leave house to when I comeback. He does not work. His partner works part time. It is making me ill, no sleep. I hear the music in my bedroom. And its loud. We messed up buying here. I am so tired. I just want some peace at sleeping time.

@flexiveganc7441

Жыл бұрын

@@zooshehooshespreadonlyposi8031 i feel you. You are not alone. I know this feelings. Believe and pray. And selflove. I so say to myself. Thank god we have good days

What if your neighbour is trying to gaslight you. We have had our neighbour break our car mirror and then also our dividing fence....unfortunately we don't have proof but they have done this kind of thing before...

@jessicabates1223

3 жыл бұрын

Mnight: Get cameras. £16 Amazon for a small cctv camera links to your phone. Place that outside for a few weeks and bingo !! you have evidence, you can get authorities involved.

I have been dealing with a female narcissist for 4 years !!! she lives above me and has tried to ruin me mentally. I hated coming home fear of what might happen. I started to ignore her and not retaliate, this has calmed down. She reported me for all sorts things, very sneaky watching me all the time you could almost feel her staring. She would put feaces in my bag that was on my mobility scooter, generally just intimidate. All of a sudden she has no child anymore, he was a sweet child, haven't seen her husband either. She comes back at odd times and then goes at odd times. So all very quiet at the moment. Now I know what I'm dealing with I have done a lot of reading on narcissist and learnt a lot, so I feel stronger in dealing with this crazy women!!! I know longer supply her!!!!!!!

Once I installed a Ring Smart Flood Light Camera (audio/alarm/motion-detection lights), life has been a bit better. But my narc neighbor family still tries to annoy and harass. Do not give up the right fight, fight on!

How can you still a younger female neighbor to mind her business? I moved into my apt in Nov she moved in with her bf...and I live with my husband. They both eavesdrop our conversations..spy on us and everytime my husband is at work and I'm home alone they make fun of me say nasty things...and apparently me being makeup less and in pjs while at home not going out makes me a slob...I love my place but I'm just done with them...everytime I go out to do laundry they just sit in their balcony n talk shit about how cheap my hampers are...my makeup wearing my clothes my cleaning products everything. I've never seen the lady eye to eye but they both live upstairs and you can hear them just talking crap. About how they are younger and own better stuff cars ...furniture than us...and how bad they feel for us having to work out of home. While they can stay home...all day together n work..I've recently lost my job my company closed and due to the pandemic I feel they doing it on purpose to piss me off and make it seem like I'm having issues...My next door neighbor that just moved away was the same way...now they are doing it...and spreading rumors about me to maintenance and my new neighbors about how much of a slob and poor hygiene I have...I shower everyday and if I decide to not wear makeup if I'm not going out its my business...I had maintenance fix my ac a wk ago n there they were both of them being nosey just watching and talking about what I was wearing behind my back from the balcony..Do I confront them verbally n ask them to stop or contact leasing? I'm feeling uncomfortable and judged in my own home...my blinds are closed I don't go out to avoid drama...but it pisses me off with the lack of respect and criticism.

@MelanieToniaEvans

4 жыл бұрын

Hi Paola, have a look at this resource sweetheart, it may help ... blog.melanietoniaevans.com/smearing-how-to-defeat-a-narcissist-who-makes-you-out-to-be-crazy/ xoxox

@peaceofmindofpeace1650

4 жыл бұрын

I have the same behavior next to me, they are talking about me, especially the guy. I am about to sell my house and I know they will be jealous as hell. Tbh I will enjoy the moment that the for sale plate will be on my balcony 😊 They are childish and I try to stay mature but I can't help enjoying that moment...I will be gone. Out of sight. Everywhere is something, I don't expect perfection but at least this energy will be out of my life. Edit, respect is exactly what I mentioned just now after another mean remark. In called my friend and deliberately said it for the neighbors to hear: some people can't respect others and and have no manners at all. It's no use to react to the this guy directly because he intimidates and in these immature minds they are always true. Controlling people.... I hope it will get better for you and your husband and a miracle happens like them moving out for example. Bless you.

@milissaatwood4799

2 жыл бұрын

God bless you! Prayers

Wow, perfect timing for this. Been dealing with this situation for over a year now and so glad you are doing this topic. Mine have used me as a free babysitter yet refuses to return favors. They have slandered me, and look down on me. They act like they're better than us and the list goes on and on. Thanks Melanie! ❤️

Totally love this Mel!!! You are INCREDIBLE! I had a neighbour like this a few years ago and I began practising Buddhism. I was chanting every day for my amazing self worth and value and was also chanting for her happiness. A few months later she moved out and left me a little note thanking me for being the best neighbour ever! Haha! It’s all about US! xxx

@optimistprime6497

4 жыл бұрын

Congratulations. Nothing is worse than a narc neighbor that uses you as a target for their lifes woes. Neighbor harrasment is horrible. No one should have to deal with people creating drama over nothing just to harras you and try to make your life stressful.

@beaulieuc8910

3 жыл бұрын

I wonder if the best neighbour means that 'we are a neighbour' who never questions anything and ignores everything. Lots of criminal neighbours love to have a neighbour 'who minds their own business'. I don't mix with my neighbour as it is generally safer and in most cases, they keep clear of me, unless they block my driveway when I am force to come out.

Narcissism is the reason people behave like complete assholes in this day and age.

KNOCKING ON THEIR FRONT DOOR DOSEN'T WORK. THEY TELL YOU TO LEAVE AND GET OFF THEIR PROPERTY 😂

The bible says to expose evil, so exposing those kinds of people is the best thing to do. There gig becomes over with when they are exposed so they have to move on.

@SecretWeaponShow

4 жыл бұрын

Theresa Andrade amen

@SpiritualSoldier144

4 жыл бұрын

Amen

Definitely been harassed. They won't leave me alone. But they have not spoke to me face to face. I wish they would 💕

Sorry for the length of my story. I am currently dealing with this bad neighbours. We can't even walk in our home without them complaining. I live in an apartment with my wife and child. The building is quite old so u can hear anything that goes in any apartment if u pay close attention. The apartment has a wooden floor which makes squicky sound whenever u walk around. My downstairs neighbour complains about the little things that we do, from taking a simple shower to walking to the fridge. My kid is just 18months, keeps jumping around a lot, drops things around the house. I understand he's just being a kid. To avoid any noise complaint from them, i usually tell him to stop or find a better way to make him stop. As u know a child can cry for no reason sometimes. He cries whenever i tell him to be quiet a little or simply taking his play toy. Just yesterday, we had a call from child protection services (CPS) that someone filed an anonymous complaint that our son is being abused. That the parents are beating him alot which makes him cry everyday. He's not being fed well. The complaint went on to say that I have been physically and verbally abusing my wife which is blatantly false. I have a very deep voice so sometimes when talking, it might seem that a fight is going on or something. The complainant went on to say how my wife and I are creating a bad environment for the child. They are scared for my son's safety as he is not allowed to even come out to play with other kids in the neighborhood during this pandemic and lockdown period. I said to the social worker " How sick can the person be to suggest I let me kid out to play during these times". Whilst talking to the social worker, I realized it was my downstairs neighbour who made such allegations against us based on some of the statements that were in the original complaint. I explained to them exactly what has been happening, how they have been frustrating our lives. Even, the health visitors were appalled by the allegations. They have been to our house several times and they keep commending us of the good work we are doing in taking care of our son. After talking for about 15mins, the personnel told us "I now understand why someone will make such false accusations.". He told us to just let the child play as much as he wants so long as he is not going to hurt himself. Right now my wife and I have decided to do just that, we allowed him to do whatever he wants so long as its safe. He seem soo happy now. Now whenever he cries, i talk aloud so that who ever made the false accusations will hear and know why he is crying. This is because my neighbours have told us that they can hear everything that goes on in our apartment. My son hates taking his bath, brushing his teeth or changing his nappy. So yesterday while brushing his teeth, i was telling who ever was listening that "if you can hear him crying, it because i am brushing his teeth. " . I am going to keep announcing to my "nice" neighbours who cares soo much about my child the reason for his cries every single time. Since they are soo worried and care deeply about him, I think I have to let them know. They don't know the struggles of raising a child since they don't seem to have any. The funny thing here, they have never even tried to interact with or get to know our son. Yet they called the CPS acting like they cared soo much for my son. In the same neighborhood, we have met many amazing people. It sad that our downstairs neighbours planned to destroy our lives my having our son taken away from us. The funny thing here is that, we do hear a lot of activities going on in their apartment but we have decided not to complain about that. I see those sounds are normal day to day human activities. I don't want to play the race card here but I think, it might be a hidden reason for their actions. We are the only black family in our neighborhood.

@MelanieToniaEvans

4 жыл бұрын

Hi Isaac, goodness dear man, my heart so goes out to you and your family. It is appalling that you have been going through this and I salute you for standing solidly in your truths, that's great that you're being backed up. I would love to invite you to come into my free healing webinar if my work is resonating with you. I explain in more detail about how we can heal to powerfully breakthrough the toxicity so you no will longer need to 'dance the dance' and move out of this for real. melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar Much love to you xoxox

My narcissistic neighbour makes it very difficult for me to park on my own drive - she blocks me in or parks in such a way that it is hard to get out of my own drive. I now park on the road Infront of my house. She gets her dogs to bark outside - either at the front or back at unsociable hours - this is aimed at a different neighbour. She doesn't tend to complain - she annoys people so that they will complain to her. Her only response is to say "that wasnt my intention" she has been doing this for a long long time.

@captainpotato6856

3 жыл бұрын

The dogs barking,just record it and send the footage.....early morning or in the night it is not on at all and will upset a lot of people not just close neighbours too but other streets even half a mile away at night noise travels further ...

Your former neighbor was probably jealous of you; you are an attractive woman.

Mine are: racist, narcissistic, agist, and once even broke into my flat yet the authorities did NOTHING to help me. They are being enabled. I am not moving, I came from a refuge, I have no support systems. These people are vile! I am a young, disabled, disadvantaged, diseased, isolated, young lady living alone, currently in another bout of period pain and this is what I'm having to put up with as a recently bereaved daughter on Father's Day. Please help me. Well done for speaking up about such people. Many thanks

Im here because , recently a neighbor two doors down has been causing problems by complainin, gossiping, an when I confronted her she denied it , two days later she tried to verbally attack me Infront of my 2 year old son , that was the final straw for me, I told her her what I thought of her an went indoors... I been trying to ignore her when I see her , but she mutters insults when other people arnt around , them when I react she makes out I've attacked her ... She point blank lied Infront of her family an other neighbors about what she's been doing ... An I just wanted to burst with shock!!! That's when I knew she is clearly a narcissist..... So tomorrow , I'm going to start to record anything an not speak... Because it's driving me crazy an I don't need this stress , I need to feel grounded an connected again... But I feel like she's taken it all away 😭

Thank you for this video, I'm living in hell with the narcissist neighbour next door, I've never came across a person ever, with this controlling, obsessed jealous obnoxious behaviour, I have ignored my neighbour over 5 years now, it's made things worse for me, its like ive given her the power to hurt me more mentally, from damaging my property to pathological lie spreading, sending family around who harassed me in a sexually aggressive way, what hurt the most is my mentally unhinged neighbour made my 8year old innocent grandchild cry, she even got away with this, when I made yet another report, she laughed the next day calling my grandchild nasty awful names, (grandchild want visit me now,) my other neighbours are lovely, I am a private person who dont go around gossiping for attention, i think this is why she has become so obsessed with me & family, it's like I've given her a licence to bully me, it's awful.

I'm an onsite building manager and have the great misfortune of having 2 narcissistic tenants living in the building next door. They live in separate apartments but to no surprise are buddies. They each individually have vandalized the front of our apt building and are throwing trash and bottles in our planters weekly-to-monthly or whenever they have the notion to. One of these upstanding gents is even urinating into water bottles and leaving the containers in our planters whenever that notion strikes him! It started 5 years ago when the other was throwing his bags of dog crap in our side planter near his front gate whenever he returned from walking his dog. When I confronted the jerk and started throwing the bags of crap back on his side, he pulled a full throttle and started trashing our front lawn and planters from that point on. He also threatened to beat the crap out of me and told my landlord to fire me. The other narcissistic jerk crashed his drone into one of our 3rd-floor windows last year, which cost us a little over $400 to replace. I gave him the bill and thought I was being more than fair when I asked him to pay $200 toward the replacement cost and that we would cover the other half. He told me because the 3rd-floor window was open, it caused his drone to crash, so I actually needed to reimburse him for the total replacement cost of his damaged drone? I called him a jerk and told him what a real upstanding guy he was. I haven’t talked to him since until this morning. My 25’ of border fencing (to keep dogs off our front lawn) was ripped out and stolen. One of my tenants told me he saw “drone guy” smiling as he was looking at our lawn with the missing fencing and that’s when my tenant noticed it was missing. While I have no proof that he did it, I have no doubt whatsoever that he did! I confronted him and told him we’re installing night vision video surveillance cameras and that I know he did it. He denied it and called me a POS. I responded by calling him a narcissistic jerk! I now regret speaking to him because he may retaliate by dumping more trash or doing something worse. I have an appointment this week with a surveillance guy. I’m hoping cameras put an end to this nightmare. 🙏

Thank you for this video. I don't feel alone in this. When you have a neighbor who literally complains about dogs barking , children laughing or if another neighbor plays music. We even an one neighbor who asked everyone if it was ok if they played music because they were having a back yard wedding. Surprise!!!she wasn't happy about it. This self entitled nightmare thinks she's the only one whose allowed to entertain. I know I shouldn't let it stress me out but I guess I'm worried that the new neighbors might believe her gossip before knowing me and worse fear - them starting to acting like her too. Narcissistic neighbors think their ALWAYS right and think their entitled to everything. I'm starting to love the winter now only because she make every other season absolutel hell😞

I've been harrassed by mine the last 7 years. Finally I got so sick from the stress I had heart failiure. Am recovering now but it's still going on. Have talked to the landlord, the security guard, reported it to the police and been up in the housing board. The housing board said I was right but noone does anything. I finally found another apartment, then my landlord didnt let me leave a month earlier so I would have been stuck with double rents so had to say no. Now I'm still stuck here and day by day the breakdown continues. Honestly it's better to be dead than to live this way. But the worst part was when my cat came home with his head swelled up double its size. had to put him down due to the pain being neuropathic. Am still wondering if that was the neighbour..

@nancya5923

4 жыл бұрын

I feel your pain I complain to rental office and they say well you live in a community if you want privacy you should buy some land somewhere what ??? I have lived many places I have never been harassed like this and can't move yet I can't understand why they are bothering me so badly.

@jessicabates1223

3 жыл бұрын

@@nancya5923 Sad to say they may want something you have OR you just dont fit into their "clique"...try to ignore it- they KNOW it gets to you and thrive off that daily. Try another tac tic and ignore them, head up, whisling or singing to your earphones..never show them distress.

@fridaybird377

3 жыл бұрын

Probably, my neighbour killed mine.I found her with smashed head. We had some quarrel earlier in the morning, in the night I found my cat dead.

@Vixinaful

3 жыл бұрын

@@nancya5923 Thats basically what happened to me. I noised back until he finally had enough and moved. But doing this you have to be VERY careful it doesnt strike back on you. There can be no way of proving youre doing that. And if its a dangerous neighbour it could get worse. As you ay I have lived many places but this level is something different. Noone lived here for more than 2 years before me, its so bad and its right in the city with a low rent AND a garden so you can imagine. Whatever you choose to do, sister, be CAREFUL; these people are bat shit effin' CRAZY.

@Vixinaful

3 жыл бұрын

@@fridaybird377 Oh my god.. I have no words.. :'( Thats psychopathic, killing a little animal. And if he can do that to the cat what can he do to you? Dangerous person. Do u have any form of protection in a friend or someone?

Some of the things you are describing isn't narcissistic, rather it may be a drug addiction! Playing loud music all hours of night sounds like a drug addict on speed... even a narcissist need sleep.

This is my life and it’s been going on for 11 years, I’m single so I don’t have any witnesses even when the husband spat in my face he ran to the police first and they just dismissed it🤦🏾‍♀️ I’m drained

@flexiveganc7441

Жыл бұрын

you are not alone pray to god also. and rest when the possibility is there.

Ive been dealing with one for 2 years now. He taps overhead to let me know he knows my location in the apt. He started this after he was told he could not make loud obscene noises at me at night. Now the whole building is sheltering so it's miserable. I feel I have no privacy and that my apt came complete with an obnoxious exe husband.

@azra5648

4 жыл бұрын

That's sickening. I use to have a neighbor who spied on me and talked to me and my ex husband through the walls. He would follow us in every room. He would make sexual comments to me. People really have demons in them and they just need to be ignored.

@raphaellavelasquez8144

4 жыл бұрын

@@azra5648 thank you for commenting. I feel very alone with this. I am not taken seriously.

@peaceofmindofpeace1650

4 жыл бұрын

@@azra5648 wow 😱

@peaceofmindofpeace1650

4 жыл бұрын

@@raphaellavelasquez8144 You are not alone there are many idiots projecting their evil minds on innocent civil people. I wish freedom and room to live for all of us. It's blocking creativity and joy. Well eventually they lose bc they are the low lives on the inside but it's still ashame we had to suffer from it any hour of the day and not even in a close relation.

I have a neighbor that causes problems with others. She asks questions about other neighbors and tries to get you to say something negative about them, then she uses that in gossip. She also “one-ups.” My husband had back surgery, her father had worse situation. Etc. I tested her one day after I realized she was doing that. Told her I was completely remodeling my house, and it stumped her. She said, “You are?” Then walked on by. lol A little revenge is sweet, but I continue to be “neighborly” to her. I figure her deeds will catch up to her.

Sometimes its two narcissists clashing. smh

My neighbour 2 doors up is a psychopath. I did the speaking in person thing first, and that brought me to his attention. Now he blames me for everything that pisses him off. He has left an old car of his outside the neighbour between us. I complained to the council after several months and they sent someone to speak with him. Months later the car is still there and he told a friend of mine he didn't move it because he wants to get back at the person who reported him to the council. I haven't contacted the landlord as my latest strategy has been to pretend he doesn't exist. But a few days ago he bullied me as I was trying to drive down the street. It took me enormous strength not to ram him with my car. Next step is to contact the tennancies tribunal, as I fear his landlord would side with him.

@tnt01

3 жыл бұрын

what an asshole. stay strong and do not react to him, he wants to see you blow up.

I didn’t set enough boundaries for my neighbour. Unfortunately, it’s just me and him on one floor of an apartment complex and I’m extremely uncomfortable.He started by stopping me every time he saw me and asking me to walk his dog. Showing no respect for my time, my work or my spare time. I said yes as I like dogs, but I said he needs to ask me in advance so we can plan ahead. He ignored what I said and just kept knocking on my door for me to walk his dog again. Unpaid, of course. He asked me mid breakfast and I got so stunned I said yes. I got angry but didn’t say anything about it. Just this time. I went to his work place to pick up his dog. Although it was during my working hours. When I arrived he started saying how much he hates feminists. And how some woman not wanting to get in his car, was upsetting to him. I replied that all women must be a bit weary of men to protect themselves, don’t take it personally. How else would we survive one day in this world? This made him furious and he started yelling about man hating women. I was shocked. Also he said that the end of the world is near only because genetically defective women practice ivf and have genetically defective children. I replied calmly that it’s not the case which fuelled his anger and shouting. I was stunned. Despite this I proceeded to take the dog for a walk. Just as I walked out the door he shouted “Take him the whole day!”. I still didn’t say anything but took note of this mans utter stupidity and entitlement. I didn’t get much work done this day. I should have said no to begin with. However. This man always seems to peer at me from his window and linger outside my door. I can’t prove anything but I feel as if he’s monitoring me and listening in. You can sense the bad energy. I feel very unsafe and It’s difficult for me to work from home. I’m an illustrator and my studio is at home. Also, I’m quite alone in a small town of mostly pensioners. I’ve come from abuse, violence, bullying and slander before so not being able to feel safe here either, is devastating. When I leave my flat he sometimes comes running after and pretend to check his empty mailbox, meanwhile peering at me and saying “oops, no mail “. This is the problem with small towns and being single. People don’t leave you alone and you’re vulnerable when you don’t have friends around you

@cassiebennet4262

2 жыл бұрын

Don't ever walk that man's dog again. Go no contact. Never put up with that kind of abuse.

Hello all, after hearing Melanie's excellent advice on how to deal with narcisists, I was going to suggest we start a support group to help strengthen each other as we go through. But after reading some of your comments, I feel somewhat comforted...I knew I wasn't alone in this situation, but by hearing your comments, strangely enough it has empowered me to not only deal with the narcissist more confidently, but to stay focused on my plan of attack. This includes but not limited to, no contact, documentation, seeking help from law enforcement and other authoritative organizations, and pray continually (I'm a faith-based girl). Don't be shakened to move if you like where you live (as I do like where I live).

My problems are a few creepy man neighbors...and even a guy living the next street over comes up to the fence to peek in!! And the neighbors behind us peek into the back fence. It's REALLY WEIRD!! If the guy heard that I am out in the yard, he will instanly come out in his yard with his barky little loud dogs.

@beaulieuc8910

3 жыл бұрын

creepy, follow your gut instinct, maybe he even deliberately moved to be near you...

@heatherhartman6474

2 жыл бұрын

@@beaulieuc8910 We moved. Not because of the creepies. And we are about to move again. Lol 😂

I agree with some of this. A Narc can definitely trigger unresolved traumas in our life signalling the need to work on our own stuff so we stop becoming a target of these types...BUT I do not agree that it is a one-size-fits-all approach. Your example is unique to your situation and am happy for you that standing up to your nasty neighbor worked for you. I had an 8 year history beside a nasty couple who were a tag team in their narcissistic games and I chose to move to save my sanity. I did not want to move as I had a lovely home in a beautiful area so I fought for years to protect myself and to work of my issues so I could cope without personalizing the crazy-making behavior of these two sick puppies. I tried reasoning with these people, confronting them on occasion, and when that didn't work, I enlisted the help of authorities including police and the management of our building, victim services, a legal aid advocate all of which told me to document, document, document and I got therapy to help me to work on my stuff and to cope with the onslaught of vandalism, their illegal entry into my premises, being overrun by bugs not native to our area....the bug spray tech said in the history of his employ he had NEVER run into my particular issue & his supervisor in her 30-yr career had never dealt with my type of issue. I'm not talking about bedbugs & it was for the last 18 month period before I finally decided my health was becoming compromised and I had to move...the verbal threats and name calling etc & trashing me to neighbors was a walk in the park until the more invasive, creepy stuff began to happen. And any & all attempts I made to bring this to some type of resolution just seemed to fuel their sick need of revenge....my unprofessional opinion is that I did something to offend them (in their estimation, not mine) and for some narcs there is never enough payback....I do not believe that anything I did could have stopped these two and if I had continued to live there, they would have just found some other way to spew their demented stuff on me. There is NO shame in moving...It is a choice not a defeat!!! The whole experience was a learning lesson for me and I have moved on to peace.

@MissAstorDancer

4 жыл бұрын

I absolutely feel your pain! I thought my narc neighbor was a nightmare! Your situation sounds much worse than mine. However, I have only been dealing with this neighbor since he moved into the house next door in late 2017. Unfortunately, I am 66 years old with severe chronic health problems, and for several reasons, I CANNOT move. Have to say also that I am very disappointed that the maker of this video did not respond to your post.

@flexiveganc7441

Жыл бұрын

@@MissAstorDancer exactly I also saw. I also think that videomakr have somethign narcistic in her. I already saw when i watch the video. because i will never make a video abou tmy neighbours (also not when they are narcistic). its nice she did to help others but i see things where i got a doubt feeling about. but because the commence I feel we undersnad eachother and that helps.

@flexiveganc7441

Жыл бұрын

i totaly understand you and nice you wrote defeat and choice. Because i also want to move but also that will be not like this (this looks better).

This does not work with someone that is so mentally ill that they threaten to harm you, kill your pets, vandalize your cars , stalk you, steal your mail, This is only a small part of the behavior my family has been dealing with. There is so much more. We get very little help from law enforcement. What you are talking about is Mild compared to what can be going on in other peoples lives. I have no intention of trying to reason with a out of control bully.. I can not afford to move and also do not want them to do this to the next innocent person that might live here. If you have a solution to this mess , Please help me out.

Great story !! Unbelievable synchronicity with the new neighbor. A true wink from God. It took me my entire adult life but when I finally coldly and calmly confronted and revealed my borderline mom she also unraveled completely and everyone finally saw what I had been dealing with all this time. I didn’t believe it until I experienced it but they really are cowards at heart.

@MelanieToniaEvans

5 жыл бұрын

It is so true Stef - they really are! Well done xoxo

@vibekes2416

5 жыл бұрын

Stef Doyle I understand what you have been through 😣 I have a sister who probably has Borderline

I play music to drown out the noise of my obnoxiously loud neighbours gossiping about a smorgasbord of people. They complained to my estate agent about the noise, several times. I stopped playing music (🤷🏻‍♀️) and today recorded them screaming away in their garden as evidence of the noise for my security.. here's a little snippet of the conversation "she has a regional accent 🤭" "is it thaaat bad?!" "Ooh I don't know about that bad, it's awful". Are these people actually real? Please help me. 😭

your inner peace hold more value than any words so dont ever trade it for the words of someone who does nothing for you learn to stand in your power by smiling in the face of bs everything others say is none of your bussines so dont take it on board as your own what they bring to the table is there reflections how you reacted to it is yours learn the life lession in the experence remeber victimhood stop your growing the power in your hands not some damage narcissit who looking for you to take on there pain

Stay calm, document everything and expose.

Currently staying in hotels, my situation got so bad I had to leave. This is an unemployed single mother would not leave me alone ever and dedicated all her time to stalking and terrorising me. Our houses are adjoined and the walls are basically cardboard cut-outs. This is someone who'd never leave the house, she would have these angry outbursts everyday which always sounded as if she was smashing furniture up, this would go on at least 8/9 times a day, it was hell. she'd deliberately wake me up 4/5 times a night, it was continuous opening and slamming the front door at 4/5am, the microwave, wash spin and tumble dryer on together from 11pm-4am sending vibrations through the house, knocking on walls loudly. Then she formed an alliance with some of the other narc neighbours, sit outside or park directly outside the house and try to intimidate me. Always go out when I'm about to leave, arrive just when I'm getting back. Following me whenever I'd go out in my car. A few times they have tried to drive into me or break very suddenly in front of me. They tried to Bluetooth connect to all my devices. I tried sleeping in different rooms in the house just to get away from her, each room I slept in she'd just hang around the adjoined area and start banging walls. I had zero privacy, none whatsoever. If I opened my window, she'd open hers, if I did my laundry, she'd do hers, I coloured my hair she'd colour hers. I work from home and it really started to affect my life very badly to the point I was always drained. I never stops, as soon as I walk into I'd book hotel rooms, but then they became very costly which lead me to sleep and work inside my car just for some peace.

I don’t agree with your examples at all The people blocking driveways, walking dogs across others’ lawns, and putting bins in the way are typically the narcissistic ones

@starlightlake9666

5 жыл бұрын

It's the ones who have no respect for your boundaries that are the problem. I have had a lot of neighbors like this and they don't care about your quality of life at all, but if you encroach on theirs in any small way you are seen as the arch criminal. This has cost me money moving several times.

@theresaandrade5708

5 жыл бұрын

The fact that you spent money moving several times shows you that's not the solution, doing the inner work is.

@starlightlake9666

5 жыл бұрын

@@theresaandrade5708 You know me not, nor my circumstances. Look to the the beam in thine own eye rather than projecting it onto the convenient blank screen of someone you know nothing about.

@MissAstorDancer

4 жыл бұрын

@@starlightlake9666 Well said!

@optimistprime6497

4 жыл бұрын

@@starlightlake9666 Spot on.

Your suggestion is great. Unfortunately my narcissistic evil neighbour is illiterate, drunk and violent.. The girlfriend or wife doesn't work or only works parttime hollers all day all night and the man is a part time lorry driver. So they have nothing to do all day except cause drama and noise in the streets to attract attention to themselves otherwise no one will notice they even exist. He has a couple of junk cars which are so broken down they can't be driven and he's parked them on either side of his rented house, using space that is essentially not on their side of the property. I don't know how these neighbours are coping with this. On his left side, his broken van is parked on grass. I believe his left side neighbour doesn't mind. But on the right side, he parks his broken down car in front of his neighbours gate. That's encroaching on other people's space. I don't know how the other neighbour is dealing with this. And then he has this lorry from the company. It's a very huge truck used for delivering items. He uses it to block up the whole road so all the neighbours cannot move in our out of the road. We don't have a residents association we can turn to. I haven't even begun on the wife but I'll skip that or this comment is gonna get too long. I think she has mental illness. She's also short, fat and dumpy. (I say this as a fact. I don't think she's even 5ft tall and she is obese) -- which explains why she loathes herself and needs validation. I am hoping for divine intervention because human ones are not forthcoming. I am wondering how they are paying their rent. I pity the house owner. I hope they get evicted. That would get rid of rubbish from the neighbourhood. I am hoping

Yeah, I talked to one and they said no. Talked to another and they threw a patio block at me. Did not talk to two or three because they already showed signs of violence, drug abuse, or simply of getting off on stalking my every move. Why would I talk to a narcissist neighbor?

I have. It backfired big time. Made them even more ruthless. Unfortunately, the only way this stops is if we move or they move. Either way whoever their next neighbor is, will get the same treatment. These people are evil to their core. I feel like I'm living inside a lifetime movie network movie.

Well I've been standing in my truth but they still getting away with it

I have narcissistic naighbours - I have tried to talk to them and write e-mails but the naighbourg get even more crazy and agressive, shouts and threatens.. has no effect unfortunately.. :(

@beaulieuc8910

3 жыл бұрын

I keep a diary and let the police know 'for their information'

We had a couple move next door 3 years ago and they made a complaint to the county THE FIRST DAY I guarantee they hadn't even finished moving their furniture in. They accused us of stealing a package (we didn't) they complain about our RV on the side lot (NOT EVEN ON THEIR SIDE OF OUR HOUSE) They got all the neighbors who are nosy together and gave my dad a time limit to move my totaled car off OUR DRIVEWAY! A TIME LIMIT! lol... Who do these people think they are? And now they are suing us in civil court with several other neighbors who never had a problem with us until they moved in. This is blatant harassment and some kind of slander to convince others to join in the suit. We have lived here 23 years without problems and these people moved in knowing we owned an RV for trips. They could have moved ANYWHERE in the U.S. but the wife just sits at home gossiping and controlling her poor child and husband. I couldn't imagine being married to or the child of such a crock. We don't know what to do because these neighbors ganged up to pay a lawyer and we cant afford one to simply defend our home... we are terrified to even go outside for fear they may complain about god knows what.

@beaulieuc8910

3 жыл бұрын

that is horrible, the first day too..

I wouldn't recommend having a conversation with a narcissist about what they're doing they're doing it purposely I had a conversation a surrender conversation a truce conversation and after that conversation the abuse started up again the only thing that happened is that they got fuel

So people came to you telling you honestly what’s bothering them, and you refuse to acknowledge any of that but call them narcissistic, but then say: you should go and tell them what’s bothering you and if THEY refuse to acknowledge any of it THEY are the narcissistic ones again... Do you see that “something” is wrong with this analogy? 🤔

Haha, happy to hear it is not only a problem Downunder. I also had to deal with my neighbour who always has problems and issues. I was so fed up the last time he came complaining. I showed him the door medio september last and since that time I have no contact anymore. Problem solved and I feel great.

@dontbelongherefromanotherp9807

4 жыл бұрын

That's what I did, went no contact for my sanity

Yeah I have complained to her but she would then go out of her way to make the situation worse . I think my only comfort at the moment is my security cameras because she can't lie to the authorities and make false accusations but it has triggered her to find other ways of making my life a living nightmare

We have a neighbor who complains about us just walking in our condo (wood frame, ugh). But she plays loud music so loud but won’t turn it down. We called the police once and she kept it loud until the police walked around the corner and she turned it off. I knew she was doing it on purpose because I saw her looking out the window

I'm dealing with a situation like this at our apartment. This tenant has a history of this behavior but has not been dealt with, instead the rental office send us a warning letter detail with lies and allegations of assault. We have lived on this property for over five years with no complaints of any kind. We did confront her asking why she was acting this way towards us (b/c my mom was friends with her prior to all this) and she called the cops accusing my mom who is disabled of assault. I will try the email thing with the rental office though. thanks!

Gang stalking I'm going thru this ATM

@target7507

3 жыл бұрын

same are you still giimg through it?

@julieevans2858

3 жыл бұрын

Same here

@juliechurch1799

3 жыл бұрын

Had that . Not nice . Creepy

When I first moved in I thought my neighbors were awesome and laid back. About 6 months in, I’ve seen him abuse his wife several times physically, he’s hit me with a cane and broke my glasses I cannot see without, always has his friends completely block my driveway, takes his RZR out at 2am, starts his loud cars past midnight, and just last weekend hit my car with a firework mortar telling me I shouldn’t have parked in front of my own house. I’ve only been here a little over a year. I feel it’s only going to get worse. I want to move sooooo bad, but California is an expensive place trying to move. I have lost all my patience with this neighbor and there’s no reasoning with him he’s crazy. And they’re children are beyond out of control letting themselves into my yard to play in my pool while I’m not home. Which is by far the worst part. What happens if they drowned?! Any advice is welcome!!!!

@MelanieToniaEvans

4 жыл бұрын

Hi Nicole, my suggestion would be to turn inwards, always, to heal the triggers. Here's a video I made relating to this to help you ... blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-i-deal-with-triggers/ When you are no longer triggered you will know what actions you need to take. I'd love you to join me in the next free healing webinar to experience what turning inwards feels like - www.youcanthrivebook.com/3keys xoxox

@jessicabates1223

3 жыл бұрын

Niclole: I do feel for you. awful people. that advice i can give is ignore them, show them no reaction (remember these bottom burps are feeding from your stress). as for the pool= what a nerve!! perhaps a sign up saying the water has chemicals for cleaning and not fit for swimming "at your own risk" type of thing? it may work.

@beaulieuc8910

3 жыл бұрын

your neighbour sounds similar to mine. I had to report my neighbour for a welfare check as I over heard screams and shouting and they had 3 small kids. Many people are killed by those close to them . I had the narc woman knock on my door and tell me to mind your own business and 'don't you row. ? Haha they really hated the police being there for an hour. Anyone in the community has the right to call police for a welfare check. What I should have done is let the police know what she did after they came, but I forgot. My neighblocks my my driveway regularly and apparently I am the bad one for asking her to keep it free.

I’m going through what you went through I’m so glad you made this video.

My neighbours think they own the street and make comments about everyone but they behave the most obnoxiously. I think they just like the drama tbh

Sometimes you cannot negotiate ( with a terrorist!) After failed communication/ negotiations over some years and their refusal to stop controlling shared space, etc. I’ve chosen to document / take it to the landlord while I look for another place to live. It’s not so simple and each situation is unique. In thus case , the neighbor lives in my building and is related to other chaotic, noisy boundary busting residents on the block !😂😮😅😊