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4 жыл бұрын

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@lynnanthony2403

3 жыл бұрын

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3 жыл бұрын

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3 жыл бұрын

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3 жыл бұрын

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Great talk. I’ve been a Relationship Coach for the past 20 years. One of the first questions I started asking my clients and couples was: “Would you date yourself?” They always laugh and then admit they wouldn’t. That is where we start.

@Lizzyphxx

3 жыл бұрын

This ✨

@luvsuneja

2 жыл бұрын

I sure would… I’m one of the coolest people out there 😉

@coreymahoney2610

Жыл бұрын

Fuck…I wouldn’t either lol

@IntuitiveHealingLife

Жыл бұрын

I would. I’m not perfect but willing and wanting to work together and grow. I am ready to unravel what is happening in the dynamics and heal those wounds. I had this realization after a huge fight that I acted so badly, but I knew that it is already forgiven and I’m ready to work on it. And that’s how I show up for myself.

@regisbritto2607

Жыл бұрын

Shalom! Eye opener! Hahahaha

We were outliers, my husband and I. After two combative first years, and leaving the fourth visit to our marriage counselor, I stopped in the hall leading away from her office, looked up at my husband and said, “I see. It’s me. I’ll do what I can to change this behavior.” We spent 33 more blissful, conflict-free years together until he passed away. Self-awareness can be quite valuable.

@ketant3339

2 жыл бұрын

Wow me and my husband are having so much trouble, no intimacy, no talk nothing except kids or mil related stuff. He does not share anything. He just come to me for his physical needs( that’s what I feel). I am so pissed at him. I have enrolled myself in to therapy but did not think couple therapy would be this helpful.

@strangelillas

Жыл бұрын

I had this realization last night

Absolutely powerful. This is the reason I have been single for so long. So few people want to do the work or even understand that they are not whole. I refuse to be a rehabilitation centre for a broken soul who is not on the same path of enlightenment as I.

@dolphiner21

3 жыл бұрын

I thought I understood Dr. Shefali to say we just need to rehabilitate our selves with or without the other person joining in. We can control our responses. So it need not be "bad" if he/she is not ready to evolve.

@sublimebeing

3 жыл бұрын

@@dolphiner21 exactly what I'm trying to say...

@BrutalAmericana

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Can You Explain A Little More on this?Surely There are Multitudes Of people who R whole?????? aND Not screqwded up up LIKE THE REST of U>S>>>>????HMMMM???? Answer me this....why do we choose to live in a world with only two choices ...good/bad etc....u got me???...also by refusing .. is it possible that you are prolonging what u need or what ur soul is calling u 2 do.......when someone ask's for help it is the universe calling YOU THRU THAT Individual/.........yes/// NO????? ...Eternal Blessings To You!!!

@sholaebofin6090

3 жыл бұрын

Well said 👏 👏

@ms.turquoise6341

3 жыл бұрын

@@dolphiner21 Amen

"Culture tells us to get married, but culture doesn't tell us to 'marry your truth, marry your authentic self, marry your inner liberation, and become your freedom before you seek it outside'. If I am going to be consciously intimate with another, it can only mean one thing: FREEDOM" 👏👏👏 You are magnificent, Dr. Shefali!

@MulattoMovement

2 жыл бұрын

Just another anti-heteronormative masculine radical feminist

@MulattoMovement

2 жыл бұрын

culture doesn't tell you to get married nor is there a secret conspiracy

I am now ready for the next phase of my journey. Freedom, Liberation and unequivocal unconditional wholeness of my soul.

"Capitalism is predicted on unworthiness... Don't you think we should be so terrified of something called.. artificial? We don't even have natural intelligence." MIC DROP. 👏🏽

Learned more in 37 minutes from her speech, than I ever have from school

This is the most intelligent talk I have ever heard about relationship .....

@karenconnell4878

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, it's brilliant!

@RontschDaPontsch

3 жыл бұрын

You must not know Esther yet. ;)

@MulattoMovement

2 жыл бұрын

Just another anti-heteronormative masculine radical feminist

@natashabahler174

2 жыл бұрын

@@MulattoMovement that is a statement of labels. Labels are all a construction of the mind to make a concept of good or bad. She’s being her authentic self, she’s not being what someone decides she is of labeling of good or bad. I think you are missing the point. There are barriers in language that prevent understanding as well as our ability to hear and see without our mind chiming in with a label with of what already is.

@MulattoMovement

2 жыл бұрын

@@natashabahler174 No markers or tags we used to organize information in our minds and our represented of reality to some degree.

Damn, this girl can preach!!! One of the best speeches I’ve heard in awhile! We need more of this type of message sent out into that world for people to hear 👏

Wow, this woman has clarified "the pattern" in a matter of fact way that knocked me off my self pitying thrown! We are all such works in progress or in stagnation.

@ryanwalker3076

3 жыл бұрын

Hello dear I would have loved us to chat and become friends, Hope to hear from you soon

I’ve connected at so many levels, I had to go back several times to feel her words in the moment. So glad I came across this. 💕

This video changed my whole day. In the last year I’ve started to understand how my mind and body feels when I feel like I’m lacking intimacy or connection, and I’ve learned that the feeling comes when I’m not taking care of myself (rather than pointing at someone and having a tantrum because “you’re not taking care of me”). So I sought out more content on intimacy so I can go inward and this was perfectttt. I am mastering connectedness to myself. Thank you for helping with the journey!!!

"We are not in a relationship with others until we wake up! Who are we in a relationship with? With pieces of your unresolved, unfulfilled broken part of you, seeking for completion...you are seeking for completion in the outside world, yearning to be unified with yourself integrated into the whole." Amazing Dr. Shefali, have been learning a lot from you. Big admirer of your work. Thank you Mindvalley :)

Be kind to yourself when taking this in. Do not be so hard one yourself. Do not judge urself, love yourself. I am leaving divorcing my husband, I will never say it was right for him to abuse me , it was not my fault. But moving forward I am filling up my soul full of love and light, you are I am enough. Your happy ending rely's in you :). Mother urself, love u and give urself allowance to be loved, love that inner child. We are all a work in progress. God Bless you

@emmanuelmlay5482

3 жыл бұрын

well said

@devinashetty4934

3 жыл бұрын

Good luck on your journey to healing and growth, sorry to hear about your divorce, you can thank this chapter in your life for how strong you'll become.

@jenniferanand3306

3 жыл бұрын

Thank very much everyone:)

@mekonnenatsbaha1283

3 жыл бұрын

Amen i am there

@raewynurwin4256

3 жыл бұрын

Jennifer Anand, my mother taught me " we teach people how to treat us". So therefore we have to take some responsibility in fault if we have been abused in any relationship.

They’re a place of refuge and nourishment, deep connection and understanding. They make life easier, not harder. And even through the tough times, the strongest relationships weather the inevitable ups and downs with a sense of purpose and meaning. The problem is, very few of us are experiencing this. We’re simply not taught how. Instead, we stumble our way through, trying to work it out as we go along. With plenty of heartbreak, disappointment, and conflict along the way.

@CocoNut1997

3 жыл бұрын

Can something like this be taught or is this learned through trials and tribulation?

we want to listen her so more often,we need her,at least for confrontation of us with ourselves .

I am living this discovery after divorce. She put it together so eloquently

@normaelias7251

3 жыл бұрын

Same here 3rd relationship. I realize though over a year ago that I have attrack that type of person because of who I am. she is so right about our childhood plays big role in our decisions as an adult. But definitely I am on the path of growth self-acceptance and self-love for 5 years already my view of life has changed 90 degrees. I accept my husband for who he is. I can't change him. I strive everyday to improve myself. blessings to you my dear.

@Wildchile

3 жыл бұрын

Yes amazing

She is so beyond wise, and amazing perspective I am fan-girling hard right now

I would like to see an interview with Teal Swan and Dr. Shefali.

@mandamank6846

3 жыл бұрын

Yes!! I love Teal swan ❤️

@Klmop136

3 жыл бұрын

Oh that would be sooo interesting!! Love both of them!

@jrhawk

3 жыл бұрын

This woman is way more

@jamiecee4960

3 жыл бұрын

That would be cool. I like Teal Swan.

@emiliacarlotta7074

3 жыл бұрын

TRUE!!

I clicked on this at the exact moment that I need to hear this the most. Thanks for the wise words and enlightenment you've helped me achieve.

This was really eye opening for me....becoming your own parent and learning to love yourself the way you were never loved. I loved the presenter, she was eloquent.

@oscarwilliamson1264

3 жыл бұрын

Gypsy Girl Tarot,your pretty smile ☺️ can make the news!

Genuinely one of the best talks I’ve ever heard. The answer to any “problem” is to walk the path of truly knowing thyself ❤

This is TRULY the best speech/talk/information I have come across in the last couple of years. I keep shaking my head in astonishment, I REALLY needed every word she expressed!! Thank you mindvalley and the incredible Dr.Shefali!!✨

Wow! One of the best mindvalley talks. Thank you Dr.Shefali. 💖

Mind blown. I do this work (I'm a therapist) and she NAILED it. 💕😊🙏♥️

What Dr. Shefali said was so deep. I may not fully understand it right now, but it makes me yearn to know who I truly am and be it. I feel that this is exactly what we need in the world today. “If you truly loved another you would truly liberate the other, because when you love another what you really mean by that, in the transcendent sense, is that you so honor their being because you so honor your being.”

Fantastic message! Now I can walk around and ask each person I meet “ have you done your inner healing”? Staying home alone during Covid for 4 months in Italy, forced me into that inner work and it’s ongoing, but it is a beautiful feeling. I had to be happy alone. That was so scary!! Thank you your message really hit me right on!

I try to understand and put perspective with word “unconditional love” and I think this talked represent the true meaning of unconditional love. You are such a amazing soul and way you speak is beautiful! Thank you

That was truly amazing, insightful and a reevaluation of who we truly are. Thank you so much Dr. Shefali, more please!

Some of us have evolved ..She is only really saying what you will learn on a gut level if you stay alone long enough to heal . Then this just becomes awareness . It is just growing up .. you can listen to this all day long but to gain that awareness will mean treading your own difficult path .

“It’s all about you “ so true, when I finally come to admit everything cone to place! Thank you 🙏

Wow. Greatest Mindvalley talk I’ve ever watched. Thank you so much Dr. Shefali! So many gems dropped in such a short period of time! 🙏🏾❤️

She describes very well what my marriage was all about and what I've come to conclusion regarding societies. Excellent talk 👍 thank you💕

@oscarwilliamson1264

3 жыл бұрын

GenL, you deserve a better man!🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

Luv it, it really show me how disconectes people are in these day and I am not so crazy to aware of this culturescape and find way to liberate myself as a human being :). Thank you so much Mindvalley.

As a practitioner of Nichiren Buddhism Dr Shefali's thoughts are very familiar, but presented in a very thought provoking style. It is the manner of her presentation that makes me shudder about how broken we all are especially my own self. We must undertake this journey of self awareness and understand our wholeness and beauty to be able to liberate ourselves and others in our life.

@ryanwalker3076

3 жыл бұрын

Hello dear I would have loved us to chat and become friends, Hope to hear from you soon

After many years of inner turmoil and working very hard in searching for the way out, I came to this wisdom. I just saw this video and dr. Shefali explains it absolutely excellent and with great integrity. I am deeply impressed of someone so capable of explaining this so well in shape and content, I haven't seen someone do this before. I am so very impressed, strong deliverance and her passion to spread the word of Truth is so very commendable. Thank you 🌼🦗

It's woww........a mind-blowing session. This is exactly what I believe 🙌, I follow.......it's wowwwwwwww......just left with no words 💞

@LawOfAttraction-ed2mx

3 жыл бұрын

So true

@Khushi-ve3bx

3 жыл бұрын

Ikr

She is the best. So many podcasts are very little substance. This one is just truth

I really enjoyed this wonderful and utterly truthful talk, thank you! Dr Shefali was absolutely on point. And how stunningly beautiful she looks, by the way. One thing I would say is that I clicked on this talk because of the 'how to' in the title. From watching this, however, I'd call it a 'what is' true intimacy. And it certainly is what she says it is. Namaste xox

Now I see why I feel like I’m CONSTANTLY parenting ❤️. THIS IS GREAT. Authentic SELF❤️

I absolutely adore how my mum and dad blessed the earth each other walked upon. Tino rangatiratanga

Wow. One of the best talks on relationships I’ve heard in a long long time. 💛 Makes total sense. Love it.

I said "Amen" so many times during this talk...🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾💜

Simply amazing!!! No words to describe how brilliantly dr. Shefali explained every thing .

Much Love to you Dr Shifali, you're bringing so much wisdom and spice to this fieeld!

Wow! Loved it! She's an amazing presenter and speaker. She knows her stuff. Thank you so much

It’s hard to hear that I was the problem during my marriage by enabling how my ex treated me. However, I have been working on myself so much that I already have taken ownership of my silence. I was taught early on to be silent and not defend myself. I carried this into adulthood and did not speak up for myself once I was put in my place multiple times and realized that my voice was neither heard nor desired. I then set out to try and honor my commitment and hoped that if I allowed him to do as he wished, he’d be happy, and then treat me well. This didn’t work and in my stubbornness and desire not to fail, I wasted many years in silence. I have slowly become more vocal but still will fall back into this pattern. On my own path now, I am finding myself, taking time for myself, and carefully allowing others into my life.

You have really touched me with your talk...Yes it is very TRUE. Thank you deeply from my heart. I am Who I am.

What an eye opener, I have some work to do. I have learnt so much, I really needed to hear this today. I have been using others to fill the void. Thank you for sharing 💛

this. speaks. volumes.

Remember "Culture" is merely an operating system.

Beautiful!! Thank you for this!!

Love this! Celebrate that you hv divorced your false self! We are not taught to be whole when seeking a partner, love the concept of marrying your authentic self and marrying your truth. Certainly was not aware of that at 28 years old.

She is beautiful inside and out. It's refreshing to listen to her wisdom packed talk...Lucky are those children who benefit from her work.

I have blamed myself many times & still dont have the help!! Is so difficult getting the correct help!!!! Who am I?? This is brilliant THANKYOU!! somebody gets its!! 🙏❤

@kre8iveingenuity228

3 жыл бұрын

Has your x stolen your creative identity that makes you unique? Was he/she jealous of you, jerked you around, made you believe in their reality, rather then your own? It may explain why you've gone missing. Study Narcissism, which she mentions for it is a deeper subject, then that which is defined in the DSM-5 book, or the definition. There is plenty of info online via you-tube. Grow as the awesome person that you are & get to know yourself better. ~Enjoy!!

Broken connections with others is often where we discover our true selves.

Wow this talk is so brilliant. Im completely blown away by her intelligence and her unique message. Thank you Mindvalley & Dr. Shefali for spreading the wisdom.

This is an awesome video. As a Relationship Coach this is giving me more of what I need to help move couples in a better direction. I knew it was the self, but the extent of it...I understand better now. Thank you Dr.

I love her message so much. Everything she says resonates so deeply in my being that I crave her word.

YOU ARE AWESOME!! Love everything about you and the wonderful way you share your wisdom!! Thanks for all and best wishes in all you do...

Thanks Dr. Shefali. ♥️🙏🏻💐

Thank y’all so much dearest 🌹 Y’all such an inspiration 🥰 Be Blissful Eternally 🙏😇🌈

This is my first one with dr. Shefali and I LOVE it! What a vise and profound woman

The most important conversation I could hear today 🙏🏼🤍

What a woman! Her wisdom and her words..salute her!

Yesss!!!!! Greatest life experience is knowing yourself!!! 💜🕊🦄 I always hear people say that the greatest experiences involve others, but being a meditator, yogi & teacher for the last couple of decades, I can say 1st hand that there's nothing like living totally aligned with yourself & your soul's true expression. Let's keep talking about these things!!!

Some people are legitimately abused in relationships, though. Narcissists are actually dangerous. You definitely shouldn't blame their victims. No one should be beaten or killed by their partner. there is a difference between having issues ( no one is perfect) and being dangerous.

@MLHJ07

3 жыл бұрын

I don't think that's what she meant.

This was so amazing ❤️ Loved it! Dr. Shefali touched upon so many vital aspects of life, love and relationships. The thoughts resonated with me on some deeper level. Every word and every thought was powerful. Thank you so much for such an enlightening and insightful session.❤️ So wanted to hear this. 😊👏👏

Awesome lecture. That makes so much sense. No wonder that my life is not fulfilled, yet. Wow! I'm going to learn about the true me .

@chilloften

3 жыл бұрын

What makes you feel happy? Sexy? Fit? Stable? Others will try and tell you you are not right. Keep going.

You are just so mind blowing on this subject. I love hearing you over and again. So powerful and clear.

Thank y'all so much dearest 🌹 Y'all such an inspiration 🥰 Be Blissful Eternally 🙏👼🌈

So profound and an eye and ear opening. Absolutely sensible

Beautiful words from a beautiful soul. This helped me tremendously. Thank you for your gift 🙏🏼💛

I can listen to this all day long

Wow! Its you who allows the other to blossom!

A Wonderful speak, thank you so much

Such a great video!!!! Thank you dr Shefali. I feel like this was an important step in my self journey. I also shared it with my four daughters and all my closest friends! So great!

@ryanwalker3076

3 жыл бұрын

Hello dear I would have loved us to chat and become friends, Hope to hear from you soon

Wow!! This was wonderful and insightful talk🎈💕

Dr. Shefali thank you for your enlightening speech.

Marry your Authentic Self & Marry your truth & Your inner liberation & become your freedom: Good information!!

Dr. Shefali.....thank you so much for this session...learned a lot of new things...

❤️❤️So revolutionary. Thank you!

She reminds me of Esther Perel

@mellyg_ljc

3 жыл бұрын

Theres some good stuff and truth mixed with some bs... beware.

@raewynurwin4256

3 жыл бұрын

@@mellyg_ljc aye the BS is in the ear of the beholder. I didnt hear any Melissa.

She speaks so beautifully!

I have learned so much about relationships in my own. I have been divorced and then in a narcissistic relationship to find someone who taught me that I need to work on myself and let go of the past. I have seen that there is no point in being in a relationship unless it is a team dynamic. I am going to school to be a counselor and I have thought about couples therapy as one of my directions. It is really interesting in the different dynamics and how when we have blinders on we see ourselves as the victim until we open our eyes and see what we created.

"It's All YOU" 😂💕 Brilliant DrShefali

"To be authentically free .." Dr Shefali

Thank you for the truth, thank you for sharing this in the most powerful and real way possible for so many to hear and understand! I am aligned with everything you share. Thank you!

Love this! ❤️ Dr. Shafeli your so right!💯 Especially about being that mother as a mother of 7 blessings being that mom is so important!

Wow I feel that power. So much wisdom and practicality and such a beautiful soul. Thank you Dr. Shefali for this early morning inspiration!

Best Talk i have ever heard!!! I can't stop hearing it

Thank you, thank you for light

Dr Shefali wonderfully expressing the great truth! that’s IT 🎯

She's right on the money with a good vantage point of observing this over and over again in her practice. Once you start searching for ways to heal yourself, to know yourself, etc., there are many paths to awakening.... it is a journey and you have to trust your intuition upon who to open to -- Careful of people wanting to trap you into expensive processes/series/sessions, in order to get free --- doesn't have to go that way --

@ibrahimhamada5751

3 жыл бұрын

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Thank you! On point with everything! 💗

Great talk. Hard to absorb.. I don't know how many can survive watching this to the end but.. I'm glad there is this video for many of us to watch today because I believe our older generations did not come across these issues in our modern world. Great Wisdom and Sharing.. Thank You sincerely.

DIVINE HONESTY is ENFOLDED with DIVINE WISDOM. RosELyn O'Laughlin Small

I encountered this talk a moment ago (30 minutes ago). I am listening to this talk right now and I find it very helpful for all of humanity in today society regarding finding your authentic self through relationships. Tôi gặp phải cuộc nói chuyện này một lúc trước (30 phút trước). Tôi đang nghe bài nói chuyện này ngay bây giờ và tôi thấy nó rất hữu ích cho toàn thể nhân loại trong xã hội ngày nay về việc tìm ra con người đích thực của bạn thông qua các mối quan hệ.

So much truth that its soo overwhelming!