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Hi Mona. I'm Robert from Malaysia. I just came across your channel about Chinese Wedding Tea ceremony , and view your video with great interest. I wish to ask you a very personal question. I have my TKR (Total Knee Replacement ) done many years ago and I have a problem to kneel down . When comes to performing Tea Ceremony , I will have difficulty to kneel down and it will certainly look bad on me. Can you suggest what should I do under such circumstances?

@monachung-chao2033

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Robert, Congratulations on your upcoming celebrations! My first advice would be to talk to the parents and grandparents on all sides so they are all aware of the restrictions of your knees. (and any aunties or uncles who may be offended) Consider beforehand what you can offer to do instead. For example, can you kneel with one knee. Or if not, then a deep bow. (Or a handshake or hug if your family members are more westernised) For elderlies who really need your respect to be shown, it would be lovely if you could be given an opportunity to speak at the start whilst the parents/grandparents are seated. Standing in front of them, express your happiness and gratitude and explain your deepest regret in not being able to kneel because of your operation to show them your appreciation, then ask them to formally accept this bow. (or words to that effect - if you think you will be too nervous to speak, ask the person leading the tea ceremony to speak on your behalf) Hence relatives understand why you cannot kneel. However, some parents/grandparents might be happy with no kneeling. If they are more relaxed, I would still make a comment publicly saying "I wish I could kneel for you" So communication is key :) Hope this is helpful and wishing you lots of love and laughter on your wedding day and marriage!

@robertcstan

3 жыл бұрын

@@monachung-chao2033 Hi Mona. Thank you for your response and advice on my issue. Today I received a very supportive reply too from my wife-to-be. I apologized to her for not telling her earlier about my TKR (Total Knee Replacement) . Nevertheless she was very supportive of me and told me not to worry over it and assured me she would stand by me , thick and thin. Unfortunately due to this covid-19 pandemic, she is unable to fly over here from China to give me her full moral support and to take care of me. Your advice certainly will be discussed with her and I believe it is a good idea to hold an open discussion with her grand parents , parents and family members prior to our tea ceremony . When I went to my temple recently to offer my prayers to the deities , my sifu who is a medium in this temple , went into a trance when the deities arrived. Before I could explain about my inability to kneel down to receive his blessings, he seemed to know and told me It was alright for me to stand and receive his blessings! Coming back to my future tea ceremony, my future wife was very supportive and understanding, and that gives me the will to carry on. With the current covid-19 situation here in Malaysia being on the rise, we may have to put on hold all our wedding plans until a vaccine is found and developed. Thanks anyway.