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Thank you for providing this much needed video for the bed-sharing community as it is the most natural solution for those early weeks of life when exclusively breastfeeding baby who is co-dependent on Mama. Even those with separate surfaces will find that at some point, they will bed share with baby so educating all families with this information is super important.

Thank you so much for sharing. From day 1 back at home, I’ve been bed-sharing with my baby, just because I was so exhausted and she didn’t want to be left in her crib even right next to me. I felt guilty and started to research more about that subject, and there is not a lot of support, so I’m very thankful to all the moms that are sharing their experiences. It sounds like the best and most natural way to me and I’m glad I’m not alone ❤

I’m here not because I want to bed share, but because I’m feeling like I have no choice. I have an almost 2 week old that refuses to sleep unless he is held or near someone. 20 minutes of sleep a night is not something I could do anymore.

@shawanawatt9555

7 ай бұрын

Same here my son literally sleeps 4 hours in my bed and 2 hours in his crib

@alexiatrott2714

7 ай бұрын

Same. I got a bedside bassinet thinking it would be great and it ended up being not only useless but a big pain in the butt trying to scoot out of bed! My baby only ever wants to be held :/ she’ll sleep on my chest and so I started propping myself up so that both of us weren’t going anywhere and now at 1 month, shes been sleeping 4-5 hours when we go to bed which is CRAZY. I have to wake up to pump, but she’s been just so content. If I didn’t sleep with her, I’d be getting no sleep at all 😢

@angelabeckett3350

2 ай бұрын

I'm exactly the same. My son, 4weeks old won't seep in moses b or ntm crib at all. I'm terrified of sids and ppl keep telling me it's 50 times more likely even with him sat up right on me. I can't do zero sleep anymore. Even if I sleep in day time my body clocks off during night. I feel like no one gets it. All I here is it won't last forever and you'll get used to it. Well I'm not coping with zero sleep and I'm only 4 weeks in.

@jadesheppard7703

24 күн бұрын

Babies need to be with mom to feel safe

Such a good and important video Sophie, thank you so much for tackling such a tricky subject so well. With my first I was so fearful of cosleeping because of messaging I had received that I would sit for hours on end over night on the sofa with her. With my second- I safely coslept the first few months and she and I both got SO much more quality sleep and were both calmer because I was so intune and responsive to her needs. Instead of shaming mums about cosleeping- teaching safe cosleeping seems a much better route to me and I applaud you!

@SophiePickles

Жыл бұрын

You're exactly right. Tired mums need to be taught a way to sleep safely with their babies, because they are going to do it either way! ❤️

@Iene6227

4 ай бұрын

I actually see no shame in cosleeping. Quite the opposite!

@wriggleandroll

4 ай бұрын

I couldn't agree more. And I think in a lot of countries it isn't shamed, but in the UK it definitely is, which is sad, and why this video is so important@@Iene6227

I’m from pakistan. In my culture bed sharing is a norm. People even sleep with babies till they are toddler, or till their children wants to sleep with mummy. And I have never heard of SIDS, or baby suffocating while bed sharing before internet showed me. And that’s exactly how mummies sleep with baby here. They don’t drink. Mostly exclusively breastfeed their little one. And everything said in this video is like a norm in my country. I used to wonder why such videos are made, because for us, this is normal, this is what everyone does. We as grown adult likes to sleep with our partners. I don’t know why west forces us to make baby sleep alone in their own bed although that tiny baby is the one who need someone to be held, someone to cuddle, even when he is sleeping I have been sleeping with my eleven month old form the day he was born. And these are the best sleeps. I snuggle with my baby. He likes to hold me and kiss me while sleeping. And breastfeeding is just so easy this way.

@jenkenway

4 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing. I'm stuck on one of the safety rules that the mattress has to be firm in order for it to be safe. Do you find this rule is followed in your country? Or do people sleep with their babies on soft mattresses? I would think people use whatever matress they have available.

@purple0hairstreak

3 ай бұрын

I’m from India and same! I’ve never heard of SIDS in India either. Doctors here have started recommending NOT bed sharing, which I find so odd. I tried putting my newborn in a crib but she just sleeps better next to me so I’ve stopped doing that. So many generations of kids have been brought up with bed sharing (including me!) so I’m just trying to trust the old ways and being careful. And to the commenter above-our beds tend to be on the harder side (at least traditionally in India) but modern beds can also be soft. And I haven’t heard of it being a problem.

@jenkenway

3 ай бұрын

@@purple0hairstreak thank you!

Thank you for this video! I like the idea of tucking the blanket between your legs, but I would say that’s the only thing about this video that seems risky to me. The duvet you use seems too heavy. I would swap it for a light weight flat sheet just to be safe. Another thing I do is have a dim nightlight on so that I can see the baby’s position and just ensure everything remains safe throughout the light. I sleep on the floor in a twin mattress with the baby, so no bumpers needed. That’s a great option for those of you who might be worried about the baby falling. That has worked well for us. My husband stays in the big bed so he’s close by to help change diapers or hold baby if she’s extra fussy. Even if my baby rolled off the floor bed it would be a 4-5 inch drop so not a big deal.

This is the best content I've come across. Thank you for making this video.

This should have more views, great video

Thank you so much for this video. As a first time mum that reads a lot of studies on co sleeping, I've scared myself into not enjoying this time with my babe. Instead you receive judgement often being called selfish too. It's awful being worried to speak out.

@ng38477

Ай бұрын

You absolutely should receive judgement because you're risking killing your kid.

Very useful tips indeed. Thanks for sharing

@SophiePickles

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching! Glad you found it useful ❤️

I tried this and ended up with numb arm, aching back and hip 😭 but at least some sleep! Can’t win!

So helpful! Thanks!

@SophiePickles

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for watching! Glad you found it helpful xx

I’d strongly advise a low bed our one is a low platform bed baby no2 rolls So much my 1st never fell off but 2 has. Maybe I just have a very rolly baby but I’d just advise that incase you end up with a baby like mine! Even though our bed is low I still Put a cot mattress next to it just so she lands on a soft surface and a rolled up towel under the sheets on the other side as a bumper.

You are amazing! Your video helped me

@SophiePickles

Жыл бұрын

That's so kind of you. Happy to help!

I really don’t like bedsharing but I want to be able to hear my baby right away when he needs me. Plus I nurse him to sleep.

Is this assuming baby will just fall asleep next to you or am i missing something? My baby will only sleep while being rocked in my arms, so how do i transfer her to the bed without waking her up?

What if you want to change positions and shift throughout the night? Does your arm ever get numb? :(

Thank you for this video!! Do you burp baby after breastfeeding in bed/

Mesh bed guards aren't recommended until 18 months because of being a trap risk down the side of the bed

@SophiePickles

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing! They are definitely not the best option. 👍🏻

Im a dad. In what world do you think that we wont wake up if something is wrong with baby and moms will? Because i do it everynigjt and literally wakeup at any noise while my fiance is snoring. Be more inclusive your videos arent just for moms

@SophiePickles

11 ай бұрын

This is just what the evidence and research says, it's not my personal opinion. 👍🏻

@bbtbeatsbyt6601

11 ай бұрын

@SophiePickles statistically, moms kill their infant more often than dads, so maybe we should put that in your video? No because that makes someone feel like a terrible parent that the odds of their child dying increases because of gender. I'm just saying alot of your viewers are men. Say "partner" if you want but we know you mean the men

@pausaenzder.9977

10 ай бұрын

I think she is generally speaking-- it's amazing you're light sleeper but all the men I have known-- my dad. Brother and hubby are heavy sleepers...and with my baby even if he moves I'm already awake....my husband needs to hear him crying out loud to wake up.

@Sam-qt5ff

9 ай бұрын

In particular, Dr. James Mckenna who has studied cosleeping in many different cultures says that it is most safe for breastfeeding mothers to bedshare. I don’t know of any breastfeeding dads.

@Frankyjaeger

9 ай бұрын

@@bbtbeatsbyt6601 I'm a dad my self and found her video perfect regardless of the gender she targeted. Let's be real here, this video is mainly targeting the mothers due to their capacity to breastfeed and therefore react to the baby's needs faster than a dad can say " I'll warm up the bottle of formula ".