I have decided to move out of my comfort zone. This is my first comment on youtube. I will overcome my fears and i hope everyone else does so... great video.

@rejacksa7231

7 жыл бұрын

congrats man i wish u best of luck :)

@mybatteryislow9999

7 жыл бұрын

nicu, how's it going?

@deeptibhardwaj5726

7 жыл бұрын

congrats dear

@dy3640

7 жыл бұрын

you suck just like your comment.. never do that again

@nievescarretero2152

7 жыл бұрын

I feel you, this is my second comment, you are awesome

Someone gave me a challenge which was "Go 24 hours without complaining and see how much your life improves". Im currently one day 7...awesome feeling.

@Warsie

8 жыл бұрын

+Elite I barely complain and I still feel shitty, no this stupid insipid fucking advice does not work.

@roughryder5

8 жыл бұрын

Lol you sound grumpy, dude. Lighten up.

@pekkapaco5333

8 жыл бұрын

+Elite I think he's joking.

@Jorjioo

8 жыл бұрын

+Elite It was definitelyt a joke bro. "I barely complain" he says as he complains alot :P Just think about it.

@ELdASenSei

8 жыл бұрын

+Elite he got you :P

A few years ago on Valentine's day I bought 6 red roses and decided I would give one to a random set of people in the streets of Bangkok. I started with an old lady, next a man with his girlfriend, then a couple of pretty girls. I had one left. I was in a taxi and got the driver to stop at a busy intersection where there was a policewoman directing traffic. I got out and I presented her with a rose and she was so happy she kissed me on the cheek. It was a lovely experience doing something a bit daring but not dangerous.

@killadog84

7 жыл бұрын

you should have given it to the taxi driver

@samehsam5905

7 жыл бұрын

+Wreck Tard thé same thought

@beckasmith6302

7 жыл бұрын

What a wonderful thing to do! Sounds like you had a great experience with that.

@joelsweeney4024

7 жыл бұрын

aw that's so cute xD I wish I read this comment last night, Valentines just ended, id love to have done that

@FilmFrontiers982

5 жыл бұрын

your lucky instead hitting with sandals, she kissed you xd.

Got suspended for going to school naked. Thanks a lot Till!

@rishabhkatoch2945

7 жыл бұрын

razielx7 lol

@sinait8191

7 жыл бұрын

Maybe I should try this too.

@erickguilherme5081

7 жыл бұрын

Robert hahaha this i will not try.

@malte2467

7 жыл бұрын

Hahaha :D :D I hope thats a joke.

@reema9913

7 жыл бұрын

Robert what !!! Did u really do that or was that a JK?? 😂😂😂😂😂

15 minutes of my life well spent.

@anmolphutela

8 жыл бұрын

really good one, I'll definitely try this laying down on street.

@ayakoganei7946

8 жыл бұрын

***** I love you Till :)

@usmanahmad8882

7 жыл бұрын

23 hours and 45 minutes wasted. Excellent.

"I'm so familiar with fear and nervousness right now. It doesn't hold me back anymore." Powerful.

@ALIVE.Offical

3 жыл бұрын

Great to hear!

Omg at the end I thought he was going to say my favorite Eleanor Roosevelt quote, and I darn near spazzed. "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent" - Eleanor Roosevelt

@KnuckleHeadMusicUK

3 жыл бұрын

Snap! And the whole talk reminded me of a poem, 'masks' by Shel Silverstein, or this quote by Marianne Williamson, "As we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence actually liberates others."

@meherk3322

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly, same here. I thought he will quote the famous inferiority quote

I DID THIS TODAY! Ahhh I feel good. It was more like 20 seconds but I did it at my school on the main walkway with tons of people walking by and staring. I'm finally free. I'll keep doing things that scare me. Trust me, I have terrible social anxiety so if I can do it you can do it too. Cheers.

@rachelkarengreen99

9 жыл бұрын

***** Thanks man! In the past 2/3 weeks I've done a challenge every day, from howling in the library to singing as loud as I can in front of a hundred people (my school food court) to talking to girls (and getting numbers), all things I never thought I would be able to do. In a short time, my life has been filled with so much more happiness and confidence, it's amazing. I can literally say that this video changed my life.

@jifyum07

9 жыл бұрын

Wait why are u howling?

@rachelkarengreen99

9 жыл бұрын

jifyum07 It's a comfort zone challenge! Look on his website and sign up for his e-mails they're very helpful.

@jifyum07

9 жыл бұрын

I have to agree with that. Maybe not take it to such an extreme. Kids will take your actions as a desperate attempt to get attention.

@RobotAlienGaming

9 жыл бұрын

xxbluejay21 You sir,are an amazing person!

I did a challenge myself. I was on a cruise vacation and there was like a karaoke party... litterally everyone on the boat was with their family and friends together in groups and enjoying their time while watching people sing karaoke songs... I was alone, my parents and grandma were at the casino. At first I thought shit I am alone here !!! Then I thought fuck it. I just have to have fun and just ignore the fact that I am alone. Everyone was singing and family cheering for them.. I wanted to sing too but I was so super super nervous to sing alone and I was afraid I would look weird or whatsoever. Then I just decided to JUST DO IT! and i picked a song.. stand there in the middle of the room and I sang White flag form Dido.. and before I knew it people came and stand with me and sang with me together! I will never forget this experience! It had made me so much more confident. People DO appreciate when others are alone or solo having fun! They just want to support you and join your fun.

@shingeki-_-1704

8 жыл бұрын

congrats! im very nervous about starting comfort challenges!

@yehhshhs

8 жыл бұрын

Shingeki -_- thanks!!!!!!! let's do this challenge: lie on the ground for 10 seconds on a random crowded public place. example: in the mall or at a train station :) are you down for it? im fucking scared for this

@shingeki-_-1704

8 жыл бұрын

+euphoriassy bloom i got anxiety just thinking about this challenge! but next time i am in a crowded area i will be trying it

@yehhshhs

8 жыл бұрын

+Neo Karn thanks^^

@bingolingo405

8 жыл бұрын

+euphoriassy bloom hey man one of the best KZread comment ever ever ever

remember fight club? pick a fight with a stranger and lose. like he said, deal with rejection, confront anxiety and take control of your body, mind and surroundings. from doing these comfort zone challenges i'm beginning to see the earth as my comfort zone, not just my bedroom walls :)

@nerad1994

7 жыл бұрын

+Xhahahaha lol

@invoker6624

7 жыл бұрын

you're comment says the you have anxiety and paranoia

@sebastian_6922

7 жыл бұрын

That's a movie...this is real life, don't compare the two...ever...

@WeezZ1337

7 жыл бұрын

why not? Movies/books are interpretations of the authors perspective on real life. btw. you can compare literally everything, you just need to find the right context ;)

@agustin4741

7 жыл бұрын

That is how i got stabbed

I once did 10 pushups in the middle of a crowded street.. Felt awesome

@vitemrious4

8 жыл бұрын

wish I could do 10 push ups :D

@bloodie6284

6 жыл бұрын

That one is amazing. I did it for about 2 months every day :D Insane results

@aaronmaloney8282

5 жыл бұрын

Bloodi e .. wtf , really? Insane results

Interesting... I did this the other day. I didn't know about this video or technique. I wanted to lie down because I had to wait a long time and I knew about going outside my comfort zone to become better, but I hesitated because nobody else was doing it and so many people were walking right next to me... it was absolutely crowded. As soon as I lied down I felt so uncomfortable and my heart was pounding because I never did anything like this before. But after 5-10 minutes it went away, I got relaxed and nearly fell asleep. I got up 30 minutes later and people were looking at me and smiling. The old me would get extremely nervous in a crowd of people and I would over analyze everything when I got home. I actually felt relaxed and didn't give a shit what other people thought. I was actually proud of my self.

@haykav

7 жыл бұрын

Your profile picture and name explain it all :D

@Dominik-kl2re

7 жыл бұрын

Username checks out.

@Kinobambino

7 жыл бұрын

also pics or it didn't happen😐

@bowball-sports7571

6 жыл бұрын

FeelinGood I would be freaking out

@lolacariad

6 жыл бұрын

thats awesome!!!

I watched this video about a year or a year and a half ago, like most of you, I desperately wanted to be more confident. And I did, I can honestly say I've become more confident with myself but I didn't lay down in the street in order to gain it. I learned to accept myself and not give a damn about what other people think. I realized my self-worth and that you shouldn't base that on someone else's opinion, but yourself. I used to be so insecure about my weight and how I wished I was skinnier, but as the years went by, I've learned to love myself and my imperfections. I mean, who is going to love you more than yourself? Since society is already doing a good job at trying to bring you down, why not try to be easy on yourself instead and go against it. I swear I felt like a heavy burden was lifted off of my shoulders and I promise it feels really good to be free of that burden.

@ABrokenStar

7 жыл бұрын

beautiful comment and thought...

@ikraamouifqi7092

7 жыл бұрын

I'm so happy for you ...I hope I can reach this stage of accepting myself, and go out from my comfort zone. I'm really fed up with what happens to me, and how people treat me as the lonely, uncomfortable girl 😢😢

@SwiiGenesis

7 жыл бұрын

ikraam ouifqi It honestly came with age as well, as I grew older, I realized that other people's opinion of me didn't matter, what mattered was how I perceived myself and those who are important to me. Don't let it get you down, there's so much more out there waiting for you :)

@aldorbakiaj3592

7 жыл бұрын

I gave Up smoking by learning self confidece ...this therapy works on everything :)

@Joel-js2gk

7 жыл бұрын

+Sui 100% agreed. As you get older you'll realize 'fuck everybody else.' You'll never be able to please everyone, so don't bother even trying. You know who you're friends are and who'll be there for you. If you meet someone else you want in your life, great. If you meet someone who doesn't like you, then they can fuck off because you don't need that kind of negativity in your life.

Probably the most helpful KZread video I've ever seen

@phoebekemp6484

8 жыл бұрын

+Logan Wiliiams *This Video Reveals One Weird Trick My Therapist Quickly Taught Me To Cure Panic Attacks And Anxiety In Less Than 60 Seconds - Guaranteed! >>>* t.co/j0hTwV9SK4

@YanuX_kchero

8 жыл бұрын

+Logan Wiliiams seems a copy of simple pickup

@anfro18

8 жыл бұрын

+Logan Wiliiams I was thinking the same thing. Great perspective

@richardshar9616

8 жыл бұрын

+Comfort Zone Crusher thank you very much ,bro:)

@faiz8569

8 жыл бұрын

+Logan Wiliiams Rsd JULIEN or RSD TYLER they go in much more depth

First time posting a comment on youtube! Gonna start moving out of my comfort zone with those comfort zone challenges, starting today!

@countdracula2861

8 жыл бұрын

Good luck

@VengeanceBG

8 жыл бұрын

The power of erection.

@XD8DISTURBED8XD

7 жыл бұрын

Wanna get high?

@adamkhalifa6009

7 жыл бұрын

Vengeance BG

@AineDonnellan

7 жыл бұрын

Marya Liu Me too! 😍🙌

i walk in the street naked once a week for my confidence

@himanshubaluni524

7 жыл бұрын

lol😂😂😂

@sreynoy7389

7 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@sportsworld912

7 жыл бұрын

jack ? hahahaah

@ALIVE.Offical

3 жыл бұрын

Lol what in the world are you talking about ^^

@bobthebuilder545

2 жыл бұрын

Honestly that’s prolly be fire for confidence but you’d get arrested

well homeless people must be super confident...

@tommytucker5464

9 жыл бұрын

Or just have no self esteem to worry about sleeping on the ground

@vest0079

9 жыл бұрын

I think confidence isn't they're biggest problem.....

@lucabrasi8284

9 жыл бұрын

If you think about that, they really are. Never seen an homeless guy who's not confident. They just don't care about what society thinks of them. That's a good thing.

@stefanManiak262011

9 жыл бұрын

JusticeObligationKindnessEmpathyRespect a homeless man stay on streets because he doesn't have where to live,so is a dumb afirmation!!

@DCshoescompany99

9 жыл бұрын

i know dude i was just joking

First time I've heard the speaker of a sudden Ted talk say fuck

@Lara1717171717

7 жыл бұрын

PultOfCat It's so normal to say that in germany, even on tv XD

@TheM00h

7 жыл бұрын

you are confusing tv shows and ted talks, while german tv has no standards at all, ted has some

"Fuck it, I'll do it tomorrow." xD

Knees weak, arms are sweaty, moms spagetti! :D

@ealnag9856

7 жыл бұрын

Wtf I listened to the remix just before this o.O coincidenceeees

@kkanda5893

7 жыл бұрын

lols!! reminds me of 8 miles..Eminem!!

@grahmn886

7 жыл бұрын

XD

@jorgeherrera1074

7 жыл бұрын

George Boots you just dont get it...

@nikitamiskovets7100

7 жыл бұрын

he's nervous, but on the surface he looks calm and ready. Sick song man

I'm making it my mission to do everything i have an irrational fear of. It started the other day when i was at a 60 birthday party and there was a table full of younger people my own age, rather then avoiding them like i normally do i decided to walk on over and take a seat. Rather then the table giving me a dirty look, they wanted to get to to know me and made me feel welcome, i realize that maybe some of those people had the same fear as i did.

@tillhelgegro2433

9 жыл бұрын

Great!!!

@QrayzHD

9 жыл бұрын

***** Thanks : )

Its not mean u just need to lie on ground in crowded place, but to challenge ur biggest fears around most pressure places. More the fear more is confident

I just did it !! Farted loud in the Class..You are right it feels awesome!! :D

@malixyx

8 жыл бұрын

+Varun Raju you are fucking funny man.

@interestingvids7332

8 жыл бұрын

sushil hari

@macdoniaski7955

8 жыл бұрын

Lol😂😂😂😂😂 you made my night

@Funwinxpixee

8 жыл бұрын

+Varun Raju lol nice holding it back is unhealthy anyways

@katharinapavlin6068

8 жыл бұрын

way to go bro!! :)

I always did comfort zone challenges when I was drunk - just for fun. Now I know that I boosted my confidence unknowingly!

Absolutely loved your talk. I accidentally started doing comfort crushers about a year ago. As a very petite girl I really wanted to get some upper body strength but I was too scared to work out in the weight section of my gym as it is mostly big burly men lifting huge weights! One day I forced myself to do it. I didn't have a clue what I was doing but by the end of the session I had two guys showing me how to lift and use the weights. Over the past year I've gone and the guys who work out there always cheer me on. After this happened it dawned on me that the fear and anxiety thinking about the act is worse than the act itself. After watching your talk I'm going to be doing more comfort crushers and applying this philosophy to many aspects of my life. I have found this inspiring!

@1st_Julianna

8 жыл бұрын

+Abigail Gladstone BE the Lizbeth Salander you want to be!!!

@CaptJofaz

8 жыл бұрын

+pbshelleygirl Don't think Lizbeth Salander has ever lifted weights

@1st_Julianna

8 жыл бұрын

+CaptJofaz Dunno. She was a trained boxer. Could have lifted some.

@CaptJofaz

8 жыл бұрын

pbshelleygirl she's practically anorexic

@1st_Julianna

8 жыл бұрын

+CaptJofaz we must have read different books/seen different movies. In the Swedish version of the movie and in the books, Lisbeth ate whenever she was hungry. Certainly Noomi Rapace couldn't be seen as anorexic. Never saw the movie version with Rooney Mara (apologies if I misspelled her name), so I don't know how she was portrayed in that one.

Ok, so I go out and do a comfort zone challenge. bitch had me arrested.

@LucidTeFlon180

9 жыл бұрын

Hard to believe?

@FBIRyan

9 жыл бұрын

That's another one of those good excuses the mind makes up. There's many uncomfortable things you can do that's legal. And most people don't even care anyways.

@Thetwinkly

9 жыл бұрын

Duke Ofhesse Someone is gonna arrest you for laying down on the ground? You live in North Korea?

@namewithheld7835

9 жыл бұрын

Wth?😅 Were you nervous about groping people?

@LucidTeFlon180

9 жыл бұрын

Nname Withheld I believe it was meant to be a joke.

this is exactly what i needed. gonna do something everyday that scares me. eventually i'll break free from the chains of anxiety and fear of rejection and embarrassment! thank you, till!

This reminds me of a story I heard about Stephen Colbert. Apparently, he would walk across crosswalks and dance in front of the cars in a very strange manner. Long story short, he now can make a total ass of himself on television and it's really entertaining and funny because he's confident.

@tillhelgegro2433

9 жыл бұрын

Great reference! Nick Winter, the CEO of CodeCombat, actually does something very similar. He implemented comfort zone challenges in his daily routine by having the following rule: every time he crosses the street and the traffic light turns red, he throws his arms in the air and runs to the other side of the street like a headless chicken!

Just hearing some of his comfort challenges gives me anxiety xD

@kingcatsper1878

7 жыл бұрын

S Shabbir You need help

I saw your video last year and got motivated af for a whole 1hr and here I am back again still looking for excuses not to do the challenges 😢😢

@countdracula2861

8 жыл бұрын

FUCK EXCUSES. Simply take step by step and you will notice some improvements. Good Luck :)

one of the most motivating and influential talks..will definitely try out

@ALIVE.Offical

3 жыл бұрын

It´s been five years now. What have you done since then?

This is one of the best TED talks videos I've ever seen. Thanks for your experiences and wisdom Till :)

I will get out of my comfort zone during my upcoming trip to Miami, Madrid, and Trzcianka. I will lie down in the cities, take pix, and post on my fb. You have inspired me Till!!

"The excuses and fear will always be there", such a great point :)

this is best tedX talk.EVER. Time to kill fears!

I am afraid some asshole is going to step on me or run me over if I try to do this.

@1212zeek1212

9 жыл бұрын

That might happen. Live your life and take risks or hide and do nothing. I'd rather die if it means the chance to live.

@matszz

9 жыл бұрын

Good, confront the fear of being stepped on =)

@mrjixk

9 жыл бұрын

MrKohlenstoff Right, you are.

@ArmisHart

9 жыл бұрын

***** well most were not in the actual street in those pictures. he also said only 30 seconds i think. not long enough to get in trouble

@ArmisHart

9 жыл бұрын

***** not..that kind of trouble. you would obviously get in trouble for lying in the middle of the street for 30 minutes.

The guy had a horrible english and spoke for 15 mins, Respect... No fucks were given

@lindawhitfield7582

8 жыл бұрын

He was confident and did not care what others thought! lol

@Mutantcy1992

8 жыл бұрын

+Aquas Gamer I really wouldn't say that was horrible English. There were only a few words I didn't understand.

@shashank2791991

8 жыл бұрын

+Linda Whitfield omg that's awesome

@user-ep4jo1ev3j

8 жыл бұрын

His English was fine especially how it's his second language.

@kw12784

8 жыл бұрын

+Aquas Gamer yes, this guy had a few errors in his speech. But it's obviously not his first language and it wasn't exactly hard to understand. You, on the other hand. You said this.. "...had a horrible english and..." I do love irony

did he say "f*ck it" in a ted talk

@SerAbiotico

9 жыл бұрын

which part?

@robcarvalho9640

9 жыл бұрын

***** 7.53

@SerAbiotico

9 жыл бұрын

Roberto Carvalho glol, well it's almost indiscernible among the deep accent, and even if it wasn't, isn't big deal

@karnak333

9 жыл бұрын

Yes. Refreshing that he did. Fuck it!

@wadjo1

9 жыл бұрын

Yea i heard he payed a fine for that

Great talk thank you! Usually I don't even comment on videos that I enjoy because I'm worried that someone I know might see my comment and think it's weird or strange (specifically the idea of giving feedback to a speaker who might never actually see my post). But after seeing this, you inspired me to ignore those fears. Thanks for the inspiration.

@grinfcked

9 жыл бұрын

hahah lol and I thought I was the only one who had that worry.

@MHagen41

9 жыл бұрын

I thought i was the only one too haha. Glad im not crazy

comfort zone challenge for me - 1) Answer a question in class 2) Showing up in practical with calmness. 3) To speak in front of people like speech in interesting topics. 4) Doing madness everyday

@espoirjohn1130

5 жыл бұрын

I can relate that damn 😂

This is a wonderful topic. A guy named Steve Kardynal came to mind, for those that don't know he makes videos of himself fearlessly singing in public, (the naked guy swinging on a wrecking ball)even though he looks and sounds ridiculous. The silly nature of his videos aside, I remember being blown away at how impervious he was to anyone else around him and what they might be thinking, whereas you or I would never imagine being able to do such a thing. I saw something beautiful in that ability to be fully immersed in what he was doing, and how he is proof it is possible to not be held back by fear of what other people think. Fear defeats more people than any other one thing in the world- Ralph Waldo Emerson

@alexlackner1945

9 жыл бұрын

couldn't have summed it up any better. and thanks for the great Emerson quote... :)

Honestly this was one of my favorite ted talks because i have many fears about what people think of me (mainly presentations,socializing with people) and im really not confident like insecure to the max tht it always brings me down.But rn im really grateful to see videos like this bc they honestly make me feel so much better and i would love to get the courage to do one of the comfort zone challenges to help myself to gain a lot more confidence.

I won't lay down in the street...but I will definitely approach a beautiful stranger on the road.

@stratos788

7 жыл бұрын

blingximus look up rsd ( real social dynamics) they will change your life ;)

@blingximus

7 жыл бұрын

way ahead of you.

@stratos788

7 жыл бұрын

blingximus completly enlightening shit, both inner and outer game

It's just one of the most amazing things I've ever heard. I'm just going through such low self confidence and nobody needed this advice more than I did.

Nice TED talk. It kinda provokes the "fuck it" mentality, which is exactly what the world needs right now. Too many people are so stuck up in their head worrying about what others may think of them...and that includes me as well. I am tired of being so suggestible, without zero original opinion. Only listen to what the majority think and follow that, today i say fuck it. I wont have a blurry view on subjects anymore. This talk has inspired me to take back my life, be more aware of what we human are. Thank you.

Notes - Comfort Zone Challenges > We have also experienced FEAR > We have also acted despite fear 1- Not as scary as you thought 2- You did so many times that it stopped being scaring How to become more confident? How to stop caring thinking what other people think of you? How not to be hold back by fear? Answer: Lay down on the street for 30 seconds. > Background In high school, speaker appeared to be confident from the outside, but from the inside he was very nervous. Why? Huge fear of rejection, not being cool, and exposed as weak. His old strategy: avoidance. For example, not go to party that he didn’t know anybody. Or he would drag his friends along with him so that he can get approval. After high school, he started to get into psychology. He started to learn from the best psychotherapists. Came across with Comfort Zone Challenges. Fast way to progress in business. Definition: challenges that you consciously put yourself in situations that make you feel embarrassed or insecure. You do it over and over until you stop thinking what other people think. [Similar to exposure therapy.] Explanation why it works: autonomic nervous system fires a fear response. You cannot control it consciously. This system learns to respond anxiously to situations that are not dangerous. So you STAY with the feeling until your autonomic nervous system learns that it is not dangerous. First comfort zone challenge (lay down on the subway station): he was procrastinating because he had a fear response, but then had an a-ha moment: “those really good excuses will always be there.” If he allowed those rationalizations to hold him back, he would never do it. Three things he noticed: 1- Weird looks (Not as scary as he thought) 2- Confused people 3- Majority of people didn’t even look Got more relaxed. After 1 minute, all anxiety vanished. Got in the train with a big smile on his face. > Made a list of all fears and tapped into them. Some went away quickly, others took long to overcome. Online community: comfort zone crusher. International movement 3 three things he learned > Consciously doing comfort zone challenge make you get into the habit of doing the uncomfortable Ignore excuses Go through discomfort Bleeds into other areas (gym, studying) > Relationship to fear completely changed He still has fears It is not a magic pill Even if he wants to do something but has fear, he still does it. > Happiness Unhappiness usually comes from: 1- From comparison CZC makes you care less about others. 2- From “perfect self” If you do CZC, you’re in the process of getting there. End of the day: “I have made a step closer to this perfect version.” Conclusion > Exposure therapy comes from the 50’s > Vision: make this knowledge accessible to people > Fear and anxiety connects us. And this is a comforting thought. Do something outside of your auto-pilot. This gives an adventure spice to your life. “Do one thing everyday that scares you.” Thanks for the awesome talk =)

@NguyenVo2011

3 жыл бұрын

Can’t believe that this doesn’t get more likes. Thanks for sharing your notes. 😊

Brilliant. Must have watched it 20 times today as I believe it will sink in so deeply in my head that I won't be able to back down from the comfort zone challenge.

“Do one thing every day that scares you.” Brilliant. I’ve also heard “let fear be an invitation to grow”.

I got a friend with social anxiety, so maybe this help. Thanks for posting!

This is probably one of the more creative ideas brought forward at TED and it was well done. Will definitely remind myself of this everytime!

The reason this was so excellent is because his presentation was pragmatic he gave tips that one can actually utilize to overcome insecurities instead of just stating a bunch of cliches like speakers usually do when talking about self confidence. Superb speech.

@tillhelgegro2433

9 жыл бұрын

Hey Donnolee, your comment made me so happy!!! My goal is always to put my knowledge or experience into actionable advice. So happy that it worked out and you appreciate it :)

TEDx is a show that I just recently started watching. Earlier I used to waste my time but now am almost addicted to it. Have seen a couple of videos and I genuinely think this is one of the best ever video I have come across.

This is one of my favorite tedx ever !!! I loved it ..I am a very shy person and I often let my fear of rejection hold me back ..it made me regret a lit of things along the years ...I loved the idea of comfort zone challenges so I'll try to do some :) .. a promise ...

I'm getting nervous at the mere thought of a comfort zone challenge hahahaha

i really enjoyed your talk! it brought back many memories. about 3 years ago i started doing these comfort zone challenges, probably unconsciesly. but they helped me a lot to develop my personality and accept myself. like you said in a earlier comment, i think fear is a trigger that allowes us to do something in a certain situation. its our choice wether we want to panic, or tu embrace that fear. so thanks a lot for that reminder! keep it up

I'ma amazed! Not only this guy is very sincere and real and great person, but his knowledge has so much wisdom! Really inspirational! One of the most enjoyable talk on TEDx. Thank you so much!

Very insightful and excellently delivered. Mister Gross is absolutely correct when he says that we live our lives largely on auto pilot. Deep down we find comfort in the familiar, so we tend to seek a certain level of mindlessness in habitual behaviors that dull authentic participation in life. It's good for us to snap out of that zombie state and to really see the broader spectrum that we inhabit.

@tillhelgegro2433

9 жыл бұрын

Well said Noe!! And it is so true. Comfort zone challenge can make you more courageous, of course. But as I said in the talk it also can spice up your life and push you out of zombie state as you call it.

I have to perform at a concert tomorrow. The time I had done it last year, I was very nervous and I had butterflies in me even three months before the concert! Now, not so much. But I'm still nervous. The reason I was so scared is I have a condition called erb's palsy which makes me hold the violin bow differently. I was extremely scared about how the audience will receive me. What I did just before the performance was to remove my glasses so I won't be able look at their faces. Ha ha ha! It helped me sail through easily... And in the end nobody actually cared, one or two persons came to me and congratulated me! I hope it goes well tomorrow! All the best to everyone who is facing such things!

@miriami7

9 жыл бұрын

Good luck.

@roxy2812

9 жыл бұрын

good luck! :)

@anthonyramirez9601

9 жыл бұрын

You could hold it with your feet. as long as it sounds good... Awesome!

@rajivkrishnatr

9 жыл бұрын

Thank you all! I did well... Surprisingly I couldn't help but smile in the end, all went smoothly... There was just a brief moment of nervousness at the start, it subsided eventually... :)

@roxy2812

9 жыл бұрын

wohoo! nice! and it will go even better the next time ;)

Thankyou Till. I currently work in a weighbridge (for harvested crops) and I felt this anxiety from a group of guys in the distance. SO I started to stand on one leg for a while. Then I skipped to the maize pile like a girl and laid in it. It feels truly liberating (also may liberate me from my job) but I'm really loving it. Thankyou for sharing your message and your individual essence. I especially like the anecdote in the train station, we often delay what we truly want to do because we let the fear overpower. Carpe Diem!! You have lit a fire within my heart. So much love to you brother!!

PROBABLY THE BEST tedtalk I have heard, awesome!

I've been through all this anxiety shit , after having a panic attack or some sort of heart attack , nerves wreck'ed up , pain felt in my heart , in my lungs , in my chest , on my spine , i was thinking off all this diseases that could cause death .. and so on .. pain was freaking me out , which was never confirmed by the doctors anyway, they were all saying "you are healthy" , "your heart is ok" , "no signs" .. i don't know why you are having extrasistoles and pain and etc. God knows what the fuck happened to me , after all i've been through i learned to control myself .. this guy is saying the truth !! I can say i'm 90% recovered .. now , i've changed my life drastly in the last period .. i've changed my job , i'm working as a web developer now .. a thing which i was doing as a hobby , so its something i love to do now , i've started eating healthy , doing sport , i've also changed the country :D , because the job offer was abroad so yeah , you can make all those changes too so keep your trust and never give up ! Keep on changing things !

time to lay down on the street :D

@jesus145

3 жыл бұрын

Yes lol 😆

A lot of respect for this guy just going out and finding mentors in his field of interest. It definitely takes balls and certainty in what you want to do right off the bat.

Till, the true definition of perfection is continually moving toward that which serves the ultimately best version of you, the situation, or environment, etc. So by you being the now you with as much clarity and calm as possible is perfect. And so it is for all. Thank you.

WHEN I M DRUNK I DO ALL THAT CONFORT ZONE CHALLENGE STUFF. BUT WHEN I M NOT DRUNK I JUST CAN T SPEAK TO A RANDOM GIRL...

@truckingwithwim8039

3 жыл бұрын

True this, lol

This is seriously amazing... Just the thought of trying this makes me shiver but also buzz with excitement... Thank you!!! :D

I'm glad I found this video, especially at this moment of my life. This is what I've been looking for.

great talk! I have been practicing this sub-consciously! I have always had the problem of the fear of public speaking or doing presentations, and what I have been doing is making myself speak in public more, or overcome my fear of asking questions in a huge lecture theatre more often, and basically just not be afraid of speaking what's on my mind. it has worked out so well, and now I just enjoy speaking in front of a crowd so much that I no longer fear what others think, and just focus on what I am saying and whether it makes sense! Everyone should try this- Do something you fear more often!

I actually did that lying on metro platform. And I seriously feel too much positiveness in myself. My confidence grew to a whole new dimension.

Took 45 years to learn this. Wish I saw this when I was 15.

Watched the video yesterday, subbed for the 7 day challenge after that, laid on the street 3 times today. Thanks for the great insights Till, amazing thing you did here, it is def a very important thing for a lot of people. Amazing that you stood up and did a crazy thing like this. It takes balls to bring a strange concept like this, but that is the power of it, because it goes strictly to the (no bullshit)- core of it. Can't applaud you more for this, and very much looking forward for the next days! Thank you.

My favorite Ted Talk to date. Thank you so much Till for sharing. I was already trying to step out of my comfort zone but this talk really inspired me and at the same time give us easy practical advice that we can all apply. I can't thank you enough!!

tbh I'm so insecure I hardly play Pokemon Go except for when nobody else is around or on the bus. But this video's gonna change that. This Friday, I'm gonna lie down on the sidewalk next to my school, where all my friends could see me, and I'm gonna stay there lying until I feel comfortable. A lot of videos are inspirational but without much substance, this video is actually extremely helpful and will hopefully actually change my life for the better.

@DJ-ud6zy

6 жыл бұрын

did you do it?

A 6'4" thin athlete explaining how to be confident is like a Bill Gates explaining how to budget your income.

@DChris3

7 жыл бұрын

And there go the excuses...hahaha just as he said.

@0wnij

7 жыл бұрын

There's more to confidence than how someone looks. Good looking people can have low confidence

@TheBosama

7 жыл бұрын

MickyAvStickyHands // Yeah I was looking for someone who agreed. The source is not very credible

@JakeSkellington1

7 жыл бұрын

MickyAvStickyHands I am 6'4", I wouldn't consider myself good looking but I am an athlete. I only weigh 140 so I'm skinny af and I'm self conscious about everything and there's a hot girl at my job id like to date but every time I talk to her I get all flushed and nervous. just because you'd think he shouldnt have confidence issues doesn't mean he doesnt.

@SashaWtheweirdoanimallover

7 жыл бұрын

Eh..But the way he's presented it was pretty useful. I am pretty sure average looking people can be self-confident and stop giving damns about what others might think. I think this talk was really amazing.

I am pursuing my MBA this year and i dont feel that confient about myself same as he told about other people, but after watching this video i am feeling very postive and confident,the most useful video on youtube ever.

loved this video. I've made my comfort zone challenge list.

@itsmeyaar0007

8 жыл бұрын

Can u share some of them which r not personal please

Thank you! I have always had issues with different, irrational, or, "over-rationalized" (Good excuses, and fear!) fears, and anxieties, and have, since a young age, without even knowing it, really, practiced, comfort zone challenges, and the like... But it was not until recently, during my bachelor studies in Psychology, that I really decided I needed to get over my irrational fears once and for all! I feared public-speaking, and socializing, even though I knew I was "good" at it... I particularly felt odd approaching people by myself, and would, like you, take friends, and whatnot, but found that not all my friends were into the same things I am, or had even found their path or set-goals in life. And the people I wanted to interact with, who WERE interested in the same topics, and had lots to teach me, were mostly strangers... I was in a pickle... I knew I wanted to be the best Me, possible, and to become successful doing something on my own terms, and change my life for the better! But, I knew to do this, I would need to get over my fear of public speaking, and reaching out to people, and found, that, by using my knowledge of exposure therapy, and practicing progressive levels of exposure, I have been able to do so, and found myself all over again! Thank you for your techniques, philosophy, passion, and inspiration! It has motivated me, even more, to do and be better, and to face my "demons", because, if we don't face our demons head-on, they will haunt us, building the fear, and fear-response, until it can become crippling. I had lost myself to fear for long enough, and it has been hard, but invigorating, and joyful, to squash my demons, even if it's just something like laying on the ground in a crowded area for 30 seconds... It took a while! But now, I am really starting to see scary moments, as moments of opportunity! To test my metal against the fire! I've learned to use my automatic nervous system responses to my benefit, as signs of exhilaration, instead of fear. Life is a roller-coaster, buy the ticket, take the ride... Learn to enjoy and anticipate it, and you will have more and more control over its projectory/your destiny. Live in fear, huddled down safely in your harnessed seat, and you'll miss the beauty all around, and you'll never see the next drop coming. I say, throw your hands up, and smile! You never know when that picture will be taken, and do you want to be remembered as the person who was having the most fun, and making that roller-coaster their own, or the one who was huddled down, with their eyes closed, and "FEAR" stamped across their forehead...? Thanks for the inspiration, and newly-empowered motivation!

@tillhelgegro2433

9 жыл бұрын

Thank you!!! You perfectly described the process one goes through. I really liked your roller coaster metaphor and that you never know when the photo will be taken :)

THIS IS SO GOOD. It's true, I'm already thinking of doing what he suggested BUT at the same time my fear and excuses just started popping up. Wow.

so, profound. Gonna move beyond my comfort zone from now... this Talk motivated me..especially, the way he speaks on public... I do like to speak on public, but although I am presenting in classes almost every week, I am still feeling anxious and not confident when I start to speak on public.Solution:practice,practice and practice.Practice makes perfect

This is creepy. Just yesterday while helping a basketball player improve his shooting percentage I had him lie down for about 30 seconds. When he got back on his feet he began to hit 80% rather than about 45%. I do understand what is going on here. Issues in our nervous system are so subtle that we are clueless, yet this consciousness is the soul of success. WASP

I am terrified of public speaking, it's to the point where I sacrifice a good grade on a speech or presentation just to get back to my seat and out of the spotlight. I have wanted to get over this fear for years, but have no idea how to do it. After watching your talk I know I have to first become more comfortable with myself, but I was wondering how to take the first step?

@LIVE2RACE2

9 жыл бұрын

lay down on the street for 30 secs :) i have the same kind of fear and i just watched this video and i really want to lay down on the street. Doing this kind of thing will help with public speaking as well because it is the same kind of anxiety

@rza139

9 жыл бұрын

Do you really wanna know what it takes? It takes some dedication, but its achieveable. First, use positive thinking and affirmations to yourself. Second, learn from the best like he said. Books, videos, classes, seminars, etc. Third, practice, practice, practice. And fourth, get rid of or distance yourself from any negative friends or people in your life. Trust me. It works. Goodluck to you.

@SerAbiotico

9 жыл бұрын

You can try to avoid your confort zone little by little. Instead of directly lay down on the street, sit down on the stairs, stop to lean on a wall, up your head to see the sky/roof in the middle of a crowd. Ask 'what time it is?' to strangers. Let drop something small on purpose (a pen, a paper) and ask gently for it. Then you can go for more 'challenging' tasks.

@peterwa10

9 жыл бұрын

I have a fear of public speaking too, I've been working alot with just positive thoughts about myself. My fear stems from poor self image I have, and a insecurities on my looks. I've remedied it alot with 1: changing the way I look, loosing weight and working out helped ALOT. but thats only one step, 2: I am learning to focus on all of the good things about myself, and how awesome I am. If I KNOW I am awesome, everyone will too. (different than being cocky/ego)

@rza139

9 жыл бұрын

There is a great exercise here on KZread from the channel - Earlytorise. It's a journal entry for 21 days. Look up the video. In the entries you write 5 things everyday for 21 days.

this is great! I have experienced all those discomforting experiences Till H. Groß has pitched in this video. the suggested solution is perfect! Looking forward to working with TEDx!

This has changed the way I felt about my anxious personality and I really want to change that by finding a better hope of confidence in myself so I can do things in life that I would never have the courage to do in the first place.

Why would you dislike this video, what is there to dislike?

@anukritsharma1798

8 жыл бұрын

jeaLous

@shingeki-_-1704

8 жыл бұрын

i guess those ppl are "fearless" lol. i thought this was incredible

@asasbs1411

8 жыл бұрын

+KiwiGaming can't understand his English

@laurensolomons6175

8 жыл бұрын

+SD91 that's just pure arrogance and stupidity. he speaks English 2 best the best of his ability

@TheKiwiColonel

8 жыл бұрын

SD91 clearly you're bad at english in some aspects yourself if you can't interpret people from other cultures speaking the language.

"I said 'fuck it'."

@blattlicht

8 жыл бұрын

good for you :)

@osabossa

8 жыл бұрын

+Mawkayla Blat (Aktínes) Bad for him

@collegoflustandfear

8 жыл бұрын

Oskar Siemieniuk No. Mawkayla Blat It has quotes around it for a reason.

I definitely agree. One has to get out of his/her comfort zone and do what it is unusual for him/her to do. When you do it once and twice and many times you become more confident about it. You just make the first step and all will come smoothly!

By far the best ted talk , I have ever heard ! Simple yet elegant ! Cheers TILL ....

I really need to study. so im doing the challenge by now getting off youtube and start studying :)

Truly epiphanic and inspirational yet so simple. Thanks Till! Keep up the good work!

@grammarnazi4050

8 жыл бұрын

+Nick Harms Is "epiphanic" an actual word? If so, you have taught Grammar Nazi and won a few internets.

@selahman1074

8 жыл бұрын

Its authenticity is a perhapsability!

@deathmasterheartsnap1537

8 жыл бұрын

+Nick Harms Prick Damages

Thanks for giving credit to Tim Ferris for the core concept, I remember hearing him talk about it somewhere. I liked how your talk addressed how exposure therapy is similar and has been done for over 50 years. I'll definitely have to try this stuff!

Spiced up my life! Great talk, loved the feeling you brought over. Really inspiring.

i was hoping for someone to lay down in front of him hahaha,

@YoloMonstaaa

8 жыл бұрын

Same! lol

@BrokenG-String

8 жыл бұрын

+Alberto Romo That would have been badass

I love this video. Glad I stumbled upon it!

@tillhelgegro2433

9 жыл бұрын

thank you :)

What a full audience.. Bravo for your newly founded online community and for overcoming your fears! This is something I need to apply to my life. Thank you!

@blessedhandsasmr7550

7 жыл бұрын

*dull

wow, he is so great! he nailed it in 15 minutes, he's good! yeah, i hate this feeling of fear, but once you've done that scary thing and understood that you still alive after all- the feeling of satisfaction of overcoming your own insecurities is so freaking amazinggg! :) this what drives you keep going with the other scary things you need to do!

I'm a public speaker and still get serious nerves. To combat those nerves, I deliberately give speeches in public areas like mall courtyards, parks, tennis courts, you name it, to make myself uncomfortable and get over that discomfort. Yes, people look at me and think I'm a nut case who is talking to herself. Some people have even asked me if I'm ok. People say to my husband "I think I saw your wife the other day in the supermarket parking lot talking to herself." "Yeah, that's just Paula practising her speech." he says. I call it Avery Drilling after Ryan Avery, the 2012 World Champ of Public Speaking who used this technique to prep for the Worlds. It still scares the hell out of me sometimes but MAN, is it exhilarating. And effective.

@RemotePossibilities1

9 жыл бұрын

Hi Paula - I thought of you and your Avery Drilling when I saw this video! Keep up the good work!

@PaulaHowley

9 жыл бұрын

Craig, that is really cool that you remembered! Seems we were on to something eh?

@RemotePossibilities1

9 жыл бұрын

Paula Howley You bet! And for speaking confidently, have you seen this great 6½-minute clip by Christine Clapp? bitly.com/1Fkcx63 (I copped a bit of troll-wrath in the comments, but what can you do?)

@foreverparadise

9 жыл бұрын

I love that! Well done you! You just really made me giggle...

@tillhelgegro2433

9 жыл бұрын

haha great!!

It would be cool if he weren't a young tall good looking blonde guy. They already have it easier. I would love to hear how an unattractive ethnic person who is older is facing their fears.

@paulicas1

9 жыл бұрын

what you are saying sounds like an excuse not to do the tasks.

@robbert-4039

9 жыл бұрын

***** Sorry mate, but now you're doing the same thing. You're saying that he has it easier than the 'rest', that may comes handy is some situations but not all. Maybe, if, you have the fear of stepping to an attractive person and your hands are sweating and you're getting nervous and start to come up with excuse then this will be one. You will say to yourself: I heard that guy from Ted saying: 'Do it, everyday, overcome your fears." But he's tall, blonde and an athletic person, so he has it much easier!'. And you won't do it, you won't be able to take that step to overcome your fear by doing it. Please mate, see this as a positive feedback from me and go for it!

@paulicas1

9 жыл бұрын

it does not matter what you look like. For example if you are fat, bald and not fit , the satisfaction after doing this type of tasks should be even higher than tall, blonde, good looking guy. The topic here is not about the looks. If you want to do the task but you ''cant'' do it because you aren't good looking enough then that is just a lame excuse that you tell yourself. That's how I see things :)

@angelnunez6631

9 жыл бұрын

what you need my friend is some "RSDTodd" . You will thank me later

@tillhelgegro2433

9 жыл бұрын

I agree with you. It would be interesting if a person as you described would do these things. Though we had a couple of people in our workshops and online course who were over 40 and had different backgrounds and it still worked for them. But I agree the people responded differently to them than they did towards me.

Loved it! Thankyou for sharing your amazing experience instead of just keeping it to yourself. I feel better already!

wonderful stuff Till. You have made a difference in how I perceive things now. Thank you for doing this TEDtalk

To be honest, part of the problem is your surrounding. People don't really ask: "what is wrong with the world?" Instead they look at themselves and look for the problems in their own shortcoming. Then they get insecure and lose their confidence and get anxiety problems. Maybe, it is true that you are surrounded by negative nancies constantly putting you down and make your life worse off than it should be.

@richl9268

8 жыл бұрын

+Enoch H Yea. Just keep changing surroundings until you find the right one, is what I say.

@psykonauttija2012

8 жыл бұрын

+Rich L Embrace solitude.

@pushthetempo2

8 жыл бұрын

+Enoch H "before you declare yourself depressed, first check you are not surrounded by idiots" Cant remember who's quote that is.