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Remember to also look at this from the side of "How can I be a true friend?"

@DougsDharma

6 ай бұрын

Great point!

I also think it is worth reflecting on why friendships are often not quite up to the ideal, the obvious point that nothing and nobody is perfect aside. The interesting point is that the friends we encounter are enduring dukkha as well. If we understand this, and the shared experience we realise when practicing, then we can see that our own attitudes and skillful means profoundly influence our friends; the relationship could even be considered symbiotic. Perfecting practice and living the dharma every minute we remember to can gain and improve friendships immeasurably.

@DougsDharma

6 ай бұрын

Yes very important points! Sometimes kindness can shade over into compassion too.

Good points, Doug. True friendship is such a treasure in this life. It is indeed rare and, like anything else, conditioned by one's karma.

@DougsDharma

5 ай бұрын

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I love the teachings on friendship as it makes the path very clear. Inner development is all well and good, but it is in the presence of others where the real work is done.

@DougsDharma

6 ай бұрын

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Thank you Doug. You are a good Dharma friend to us all.

@DougsDharma

4 ай бұрын

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Very interesting subject, Doug! 🐱🙏 For a long time I've underestimated the importance - or at least the helpfulness - of a "dharma-friend". Now I'm very grateful and glad that I have at least one on the other side of the world. Since I'm living in a very rural area without any people who might be interested in Buddhist practice, without monasteries or centers, I have to resort to modern technology in order to communicate and keep contact, but that's better than nothing. 😅

@DougsDharma

6 ай бұрын

Yes! True for many of us, I imagine.

It's really quite hard to define friendship. It comes in many flavours. I'm 75 and I'd say I only have one 'true' friend, someone who will see me through thick and thin without question, and vice versa. I have other 'friends' in all shades of that word. And I agree that often, it can be better to take life's journeyon your own than have a false friend who is undermining you surreptitiously or doesn't really have your best interests at heart. My close, lifelong friend, is not Buddhist, she is a staunch Roman Catholic Christian but we can make way for each other's faith views without falling out about them. Our views often don't match up in this regard, with very differing ideas of what's 'good' for us. But that makes no difference to us. I don't think we are based on attachment but it's an excellent point Doug and I look forward to your next video on that topic.

@DougsDharma

6 ай бұрын

Wonderful, even one true friend can be enough. 🙏

I don’t know how you do it Doug, I was just thinking about this subject a day or so a go. It’s like magic you seem come up with a talk just when I need it. Thanks again sir for your service and wonderful talks.☸️🙏🤔👍

@DougsDharma

6 ай бұрын

Great, glad to hear it was useful for you!

Thank you for wonderful video

@DougsDharma

6 ай бұрын

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Ananda is my favorite ❤

@DougsDharma

6 ай бұрын

Yes, he’s wonderful. I did a video on him awhile back.

Great topic, a video on the view of the buddha on romantic love and mariage in lay people would be great, same with childrens in lay people families

@DougsDharma

6 ай бұрын

Yes I'll put it on the list, though there isn't a whole lot on that topic, I'll have to see. Meanwhile I did this related video awhile back: kzread.info/dash/bejne/pqiBpcdmfsvHnpM.html

@jazn271

6 ай бұрын

@@DougsDharma nice ty !

Thanks Doug 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 when i reflect on my teenage years back in the dark ages, i reflect on the projections and so on and how I'd identified and how it coloured my perception in adverse ways

@DougsDharma

6 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing! 🙏😊

Very good video my friend !

@DougsDharma

6 ай бұрын

Thank you! Cheers!

Hold the space then put the kettle on

This is one of my favourite teachings from the World-Honoured One. Good and faithful friends who attain this standard however are hard to come by these days of superficial relationships. It's been a while since I commented, hope you have been well Doug 🙏

@DougsDharma

6 ай бұрын

Thank you, and thanks for commenting! Be well. 🙏😊

Great video to remind people to stop wasting their time with terrible "friends" and to focus all energy on true friends. Life is soooo much easier when you focus on the true friends :)

@DougsDharma

6 ай бұрын

Well said!

Hard tô find friends...

@be1tube

6 ай бұрын

True friends are hard to find but you can make that easier by being one.

@DougsDharma

6 ай бұрын

Yes, particularly for those of us who are more introverted. Still, there are things we can do, as these great comments suggest!

Thank you Doug!

@DougsDharma

6 ай бұрын

My pleasure!

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@DougsDharma

6 ай бұрын

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@DougsDharma

6 ай бұрын

Ha! Monty Python fan I see! 😄

@anandaji4075

6 ай бұрын

ah, yes, however deeper than that would be best! Aristophanes revealed the truth in satire plays and a book when you read Dhamma Wheel thread it will unravel your bed

why the sky full of chemtrails in the back, that is Mara 2.0

@saralamuni

6 ай бұрын

Contrails, short for "condensation trails," are the visible line-shaped clouds formed by water vapor freezing around particles in aircraft exhaust in the upper atmosphere.