How to attract a pious spouse (from an unmarried muslim)

Assalamu Allaykum, This video is targeted at both the brothers and the sisters but being a brother, some points will be more relevant towards the brothers but overall should be helpful to both. There are some videos linked below that allowed me to make this video so please check them out also. Enjoy 😃
Disclaimer: I am NOT a scholar, sheikh, imam, scientist, advisor, priest, rabbi, doctor OR FORKLIFT LICENSED… ANY OF THOSE. I’m just a guy who’s learning (just like you) and sharing what I’m learning and doing with you.
Big shoutout to jallow_xp! His video helped me make mine, go watch it below:
• Video
Found this video by Nouman Ali Khan also pretty helpful:
• The Most Important Qua...
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Thanks for watching :)
00:00 - Would you marry yourself?
03:45 - Don't betray your future spouse
08:03 - Take Responsibility
10:57 - What steps to take now
15:20 - Closing Statements
20:07 - REMEMBER! REMEMBER!

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  • @kadraabdulkader9059
    @kadraabdulkader90595 ай бұрын

    Sadly , my parents prioritize my academic studies more than marriage or learning the deen! But Insha’Allah will do what pleases Allah at the end of the day . Can’t make everyone happy

  • @sidraniaz6260

    @sidraniaz6260

    5 ай бұрын

    learning skills or in these days academic studies are important too..But deen can b runned side by side.. Hopefully u would make it IA.

  • @justafrogdrinkingboba

    @justafrogdrinkingboba

    5 ай бұрын

    you need to have a balance at the end of the day.

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    5 ай бұрын

    May Allah reward you for your efforts to both please your parents and to learn the deen! A lot of parents tend to prioritise academics these days, try not to be too disheartened and pray for them to be guided. None of us are perfect, parents and children alike, so practice patience with them and insha'Allah they'll come around.

  • @Jenyuryuji05

    @Jenyuryuji05

    5 ай бұрын

    Same thing for me my grandfather forbid me from getting married till i get a degree

  • @KadershaN-ou2sj

    @KadershaN-ou2sj

    5 ай бұрын

    ​@@sidraniaz6260I proud to see Afghanees they priorities their Islamic knowledge than any academic knowledge...

  • @nuraynurymbet1910
    @nuraynurymbet19105 ай бұрын

    Allahumma Barak, brother. Such an underrated channel, inshallah you reach and educate more and more people.

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    5 ай бұрын

    Wafika Barakallah! Thank you so much, insha'Allah 💙

  • @justafrogdrinkingboba
    @justafrogdrinkingboba5 ай бұрын

    I love this video. Underrated fr

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks so much! Your comment will help the video reach more people 💙

  • @akhi_hadi
    @akhi_hadi5 ай бұрын

    Amazing video man. May Allah swt reward you for trying.

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks man! Ameen and May Allah swt reward you for the support 💙💙

  • @salmanabdurbegum1181
    @salmanabdurbegum11815 ай бұрын

    This video was MAJESTIC!! Learnt sooo much through this video TYSM and keep up the content I LOVE IT 💙💙💙

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks bro 🥲🥲🥲 Nah thank you for this comment!!!!! A new video coming soon insha'Allah :))

  • @TheGeopill
    @TheGeopill5 ай бұрын

    Amazing video bro taught me a lot

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    5 ай бұрын

    Thanks bro! Can't wait for your next video to come out 😆

  • @zarailyas7739
    @zarailyas77394 ай бұрын

    Great advice brother

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    Jazakallah Khair!

  • @bisz3774
    @bisz37744 ай бұрын

    may Allah swt reward you for this video and help your channel grow!! ameen

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    Ameen! May Allah reward you for your kindness! 💙

  • @Study-30
    @Study-302 ай бұрын

    Well said Masha'Allah

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    Ай бұрын

    Jazakallah Khair :)

  • @mohamedhendy5556
    @mohamedhendy55565 ай бұрын

    mashAllah brother, very informative!

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    Jazakallah Khair brother 💙

  • @mohamedhendy5556

    @mohamedhendy5556

    4 ай бұрын

    @MuslimahSlaveofAllah yes, I agree. I quit instagram once in a while; I just like to see how my distant friends have been doing recently.

  • @mohamedhendy5556

    @mohamedhendy5556

    4 ай бұрын

    @MuslimahSlaveofAllah you are right... Thanks for the reminder. Walykum Assalm Warahmt Allah Wbarakatu

  • @hocinekaddourhocine4534
    @hocinekaddourhocine45344 ай бұрын

    Well said brother

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    Jazakallah Khair 💙💙

  • @Proactive-Muslimah
    @Proactive-Muslimah4 ай бұрын

    Sheer truth brother 😊 Btw your content is truly appreciable kudos to you 😊 May Allah swt bless you ❤

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    I'm glad you found it useful, Jazakallah Khair and May Allah SWT bless you as well 💙💙 More content like this is coming soon insha'Allah :)

  • @cinarelmas4979
    @cinarelmas49794 ай бұрын

    MashaAllah this is great advice, You deserve more subs ❤

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much! Allah Huma Barik 💙

  • @bobwadiwala4219
    @bobwadiwala42194 ай бұрын

    This guy is the GOAT 🐐 👏🏽

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    Nah bro that's all YOUUU!!!!

  • @Tambdubillota
    @Tambdubillota4 ай бұрын

    Absolutely right brother

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    💙💙

  • @Jenyuryuji05
    @Jenyuryuji055 ай бұрын

    Can’t believe you only have 162 subs. Jazakallah khayran

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    5 ай бұрын

    I don't even have that 😂 I'm just kidding, Alhamdulillah I am really happy with the 150 subscribers that I do have, I had only 35 a few weeks ago. Allah swt has blessed me plenty with success on this channel so far, insha'allah I continue to grow and encouraging comments such as yours only make the videos do better so Jazakallah khair to you 💙💙

  • @Jenyuryuji05

    @Jenyuryuji05

    5 ай бұрын

    @@ihsaan3 could’ve sworn i saw 162

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    5 ай бұрын

    @@Jenyuryuji05 Haha if I lost 10 subs in an hour that would be crazy 😂😂

  • @Jenyuryuji05

    @Jenyuryuji05

    5 ай бұрын

    @@ihsaan3 nah i probably saw wrong 😌😂

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    5 ай бұрын

    @@Jenyuryuji05 Hahaha nws bro, appreciate the support regardless 💙

  • @user-et6ri2jo9g
    @user-et6ri2jo9g4 ай бұрын

    Listened to this podcast style in the gym lol mashallah you're a really engaging speaker had my attention the whole time!

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    Jazakallah Khair, that is a very motivating compliment, I really appreciate it! I hope you enjoyed your workout and I'll try my best to make more engaging content soon in sha allah :)

  • @user-et6ri2jo9g

    @user-et6ri2jo9g

    4 ай бұрын

    @@ihsaan3looking forward to it! no pressure at all, I think people connect to the authenticity more than anything :)

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    @@user-et6ri2jo9g Haha nws, that's good then because I only aim to be as authentic as possible with every video (even to a fault 😅)

  • @NoorMohammed-me9lg
    @NoorMohammed-me9lgАй бұрын

    I believe allah is using you to guide me. Because it is exactly what I needed to hear.

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    Ай бұрын

    Alhamdulillah I'm really glad I could help!

  • @abdulrahmantheqonqerer
    @abdulrahmantheqonqerer4 ай бұрын

    All love to you my brother from Egypt

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    Allah Huma Barik 💙

  • @nusratjamy7621
    @nusratjamy76214 ай бұрын

    Assalamualaikum, brother!! I am your 367no. subscriber🌼

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    Walaikum Assalam, Thank you for subscribing! 😄

  • @whereismaspahgeti2675
    @whereismaspahgeti26755 ай бұрын

    Basically ask ourself would you marry yourself if you are a girl looking for a SO.Mirror ourself first.This is what I learnt from this video.Thank you!

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    I'm glad you learnt this important message! No problem :))

  • @Jay-mu9cf
    @Jay-mu9cf5 ай бұрын

    🗣️ Preach

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    5 ай бұрын

    Hahaha thanks bro 😂💙

  • @anneanne488
    @anneanne4884 ай бұрын

    JazakAllah khair ❤ Yes, make more vids like this or maybe start a series of vids about this topic. Coz this is one of the major problems of today’s generation. I have a playlist on KZread in which I save all the vids I find helpful related to marriage and stuff. The name of the playlist is ( All about marriage and love) The purpose of sharing this is to give you an idea to start a series like this. It would be really helpful for everyone 😃 ( this vid is going in that playlist 😁✌🏻)

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    Wa iyyaka, I have a few more ideas about videos similar to this, I'm not sure if it's enough to create a series however 😅 if you have any suggestions of topics you'd like me to cover or videos you'd like to see please let me know and I'll try my best to make them :) Yeah it's quite a misunderstood topic amongst young people so I thought I'd make this video for other young people as well as myself :) Haha I have the exact same playlist 😂 I think mine is called "Islamic Marriage Guidance" and the videos I watched for research to make this video are in there 😂 Jazakallah Khair, I will definitely take note of that and try and make more videos like this in the future, I'm glad it helped you :) Haha I appreciate that 💙 maybe if I was a little more narcissistic, I'd add my own video to my own marriage playlist 😂😂 joking ofc Allah Huma Barik

  • @anneanne488

    @anneanne488

    4 ай бұрын

    I don't know a lot of Arabic greetings, so I'll just start with "hiiiii." And yeah, I've got a few ideas about the series. Maybe you could provide your email so that people can reach out to you for ideas! Actually, I'm also interested in doing dawah work, but I don't like posting videos or even my voice on social media because, you know, I'm a girl, and at the end of the day it's sinful. I can send you some of my ideas related to the series. I was thinking about asking my brother to be the face of my KZread channel, but he's pretty young, so I dropped that idea. But I'd be super happy to help you create the series and get involved in dawah work. 😃

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    @@anneanne488 A Salaam would have probably worked well 😂 Yes, I most definitely need to create a business email and add it to my channel, thanks for reminding me! I'd be super happy to help you in doing dawah work through this channel, I guess because I would be the face and voice, you could help me with idea generation, research etc. which would be really helpful and it means you earn all the reward without having to show your face or anything :) I'll make the email now and put it here: ihsaan.business11@gmail.com (fixed)

  • @anneanne488

    @anneanne488

    4 ай бұрын

    Assalamualaikum 😅 I tried to contact you but my message wasn’t delivered. It says your email address couldn’t be found or is unable to receive email.

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    @@anneanne488 Walaikum Assalam Yeah sorry about that, google just randomly decided to shutdown my email address 😓 I made another one, hopefully this one doesn't get shutdown as well. Here it is: ihsaan.business11@gmail.com

  • @thecasualmuslim
    @thecasualmuslim5 ай бұрын

    Great video mashaAllah

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    5 ай бұрын

    Jazakallah Khair! I checked out your channel as well and saw some great videos, Allah huma barik! May Allah swt reward you spreading knowledge and grant you more success on your channel!

  • @thecasualmuslim

    @thecasualmuslim

    5 ай бұрын

    @@ihsaan3Barakallahu feek, may Allah accept it from us.

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    @@thecasualmuslim Ameen, I came across a video yesterday made for people like us posting islamic content. I linked it below just in case you'd like to watch it :) kzread.info/dash/bejne/gISB15mQn9nYibA.html

  • @thecasualmuslim

    @thecasualmuslim

    4 ай бұрын

    @@ihsaan3 Subhanallah, may Allah keep us sincere and protect us from having the wrong intentions. Jazakallahu kheiran for sharing this with me brother.

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    ​@@thecasualmuslim Ameen! Wa iyyaka! 💙

  • @fahimaih
    @fahimaih5 ай бұрын

    If I had a child and he or she grows up to be exactly me when it comes to deen (in THIS generation) then although there is definitely room for improvement, I’d be so happy.

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    5 ай бұрын

    Mashallah that is beautiful, I'm really happy for you! Allah huma barik, May Allah swt bless you with pious children 💙

  • @fahimaih

    @fahimaih

    5 ай бұрын

    @ihsaan3 You too

  • @Anon-uv9mj

    @Anon-uv9mj

    4 ай бұрын

    May Allah bless you, but be careful of safe amazement.

  • @RedaReda-vl9ff
    @RedaReda-vl9ff4 ай бұрын

    I wish to have a son like you my brother,peace be upon you

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    Hahaha 😭 That is too kind, Peace be upon you as well :)

  • @lostnlistless
    @lostnlistless5 ай бұрын

    Assalamualaikum brother, i am your 158 subscriber, also i wanted to ask a question what is your mbti type? It's nothing just that I'm looking for someone who's mbti is similar and gives advice that is yk applicable to me. Your video has great advice, please keep up the good work! May Allah bless you!

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    5 ай бұрын

    Walaikum Assalam, Jazakallah Khair for subscribing to my channel! I am an ENFJ, that is what I got when I did that test a few years back out of curiosity 😅 I'm not sure if it corresponds to what I am today or if it is accurate but I hope you're happy with that answer :) Thank you again, I will try my best! May Allah swt bless you as well!

  • @ShamaiemKhan12
    @ShamaiemKhan122 ай бұрын

    “Our Lord! Grant unto us spouses and offspring who will be the coolness of our eyes.” (25:74), ameen

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    2 ай бұрын

    Mashallah, what a beautiful dua 💙 May Allah accept your dua and keep you steadfast!

  • @krabbypatty6996
    @krabbypatty69964 ай бұрын

    Im wondering if in the future your spouse gets to see this video ..she might be really impressed by your mindset before your marriage..subhanallah..anyways..im a new subscriber ❤. Keep doing the good work

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    SubhanAllah that would actually be amazing as I'd imagine it would be quite reassuring to her. Thank you for subscribing and I will try my best 💙😁

  • @kadraabdulkader9059
    @kadraabdulkader90595 ай бұрын

    Barakallahu fik

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    5 ай бұрын

    Wa feeki baarak-allaahu

  • @jihadbadejo4732
    @jihadbadejo47324 ай бұрын

    May Allah reward you for this message I just have a very brief question. The place where you talked about our image on social media, I happen to be a very reserved person with regards image display on social media. But something made me use my picture for my social media, I think you should be able to see that with this comment. That that's how it is all over the social media. Something like personal branding for ones career. And especially on LinkedIn ( a professional networking app for jobs, connecting and learning) Posting there sometimes require us using our pictures. What do you suggest Akhi? 😢😢😢😢😢

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    Salaam brother, I really am not qualified to give advice on these things, all I wanted to highlight in this video was that if you were someone who specifically wanted someone who didn't show their face online then it would be hypocritical to keep one yourself. Please do some research online if you want to be certain for yourself. As you can see my face is on the branding for this channel, and my face is in every video. At the end of the day I think it is a matter of intention that is the most important. It seems we're both using our face for our careers and so I hope that Allah accepts this and blesses us with success and it is not something that is against his commands.

  • @jihadbadejo4732

    @jihadbadejo4732

    4 ай бұрын

    @@ihsaan3 Jazakallahu khayran Thank you very much

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    @@jihadbadejo4732 Wa iyyaka, No problem :))

  • @K11NG-GTI

    @K11NG-GTI

    2 ай бұрын

    @@ihsaan3 Asslamu alykum brother what do you think of taking pictures in general? I've heard a lot of mixed views on the matter and I would like to know what your say on the matter would be I myself don't take a lot of pictures only sometimes on certain occasions with family on EID etc

  • @Nemoshaikh8
    @Nemoshaikh84 ай бұрын

    Off topic you are from which country ?

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    England :)

  • @AimanAlnnfan
    @AimanAlnnfan5 ай бұрын

    I don't want to get married, is that fine?

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    5 ай бұрын

    There are many videos and articles online about this topic, I have not done my research so it wouldn't be wise for me to advise you. Please do some research and insha'Allah you find your answer 💙

  • @umarwisy
    @umarwisy5 ай бұрын

    bruv U got a tiktok page?? growing Ur audience over there can scale up Ur KZread fast

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    5 ай бұрын

    Nah I don't unfortunately, insha'Allah I may make one in the future :)

  • @saniyaahmad3153
    @saniyaahmad31535 ай бұрын

    I think only marriage is the only thing in which we don't have to do hardwork to get it is already destined

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    In my opinion, There is hard work that is needed to go into everything especially preparing yourself for marriage and within marriage to keep your marriage prosperous :)

  • @saniyaahmad3153

    @saniyaahmad3153

    4 ай бұрын

    @@ihsaan3 what is somebody prayed from childhood not to be married. May be my destiny is not marriage .

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    @@saniyaahmad3153 I know a few people who have prayed since a long time ago that they were to not get married because they don't want to or for other reasons. I always recommend to them that they pray for what is best for them, if it is marriage then let it be, if it isn't marriage then it won't happen. We as humans don't have the foresight of Allah swt to know what is good and bad for us so if we just pray for what is best for us and our happiness and our deen then marriage or not, we can have comfort that Allah swt will take care of us and our futures. I hope this helped :)

  • @DARTH-R3VAN
    @DARTH-R3VAN4 ай бұрын

    Revealing kneecaps is alright according to one opinion. The shafies allow it. The Hanblais allow even the thigh to show based on the evidence that when Abu Bakr and Umar came to the Prophet, they saw the Prophet's thighs, and the Prophet didn't make an effort to cover up only until Uthman came.

  • @kamellolz7
    @kamellolz75 ай бұрын

    Dont forget tl looksmax bro , get a better haircut

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    5 ай бұрын

    Hahaha this comment made me laugh out loud 😭😭 Thank you for the reminder brother, I will definitely speak to my barber 😂💙

  • @anzajamaa5001
    @anzajamaa50015 ай бұрын

    Leave marriage advice to those married for many years.

  • @Behhhe

    @Behhhe

    4 ай бұрын

    Why ?? Married people are getting divorced because they didn't think about the things he's saying I'm glad he's saying all this n preparing himself before marrying which actually shows his seriousness sis 😊

  • @anzajamaa5001

    @anzajamaa5001

    4 ай бұрын

    @@Behhhe then divorced ppl should say them

  • @faay8912

    @faay8912

    4 ай бұрын

    The title is how to attract a pious spouse. Pretty sure he didn’t need to be married to talk about. Some of us are happy to listen to what he has to say there’s a niche of people trying to find a pious wife/husband.

  • @Quranic.arabic410
    @Quranic.arabic4104 ай бұрын

    Allahumma barik..thank u.🤍 The key is praying tahajjud consistently and making dua for a pious spouse

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    4 ай бұрын

    Wafika Barakallah! Yes, May Allah make that easy for you 💙

  • @sidraniaz6260
    @sidraniaz62605 ай бұрын

    for d first time i heard such a young man talking completely needed stuff. I am a maxillofacial surgeon from Pak. but sadly ppl arnt interested in pleasing Allah and its really hard to find one who acknwledges Allah. i follow all points u said accept Tajahud n thats my goal.

  • @ihsaan3

    @ihsaan3

    5 ай бұрын

    Mashallah, May Allah grant you more success in your career! Yes it's unfortunate how distracted people are these days away from what really matters. Mashallah that's really good, May Allah make praying Tahajjud easy for you!

  • @sidraniaz6260

    @sidraniaz6260

    4 ай бұрын

    @MuslimahSlaveofAllah that's true..i do realize that..and i admit reverts are much more Spiritually Better than born Muslims

  • @Muichiro001

    @Muichiro001

    4 ай бұрын

    ​@MuslimahSlaveofAllahI think it depends on family background for *born* *muslims* If the family is religious then the person will be religious