as a detrans teenage girl i can definitely see myself in parts of your story, thank you so much for sharing 💕

@GNCCentric

5 жыл бұрын

robin millwood Im glad my vids are relatable for you! If you ever need to talk, give me a shout on social media 💕

"I'm kind of nerdy about wood"--Ben. ... More stories about transwomen hitting on transmen at the youth center please! And I've heard a lot of women link eating disorders to trans issues. My treatment team was really pro-reproduction and assumed i wanted to be curvy. Oh, and i am so happy that i could easily use a male nickname with my name.

Cool mic! Now I want one too. LOL

Thank you for your work, Ben. For sharing your story so honestly. As a retired high school teacher, your ability to inform and educate adults, like teachers and parents, is unique. This last 10 years of the internet & social media, no adult knows what it must be like to grow through puberty under those conditions. We need voices like yours to try and stop this happening. Thanks. (Australian, February 2021)

Lovely vid. Nice to hear someone’s experience. In my case, I did all of the things I could without medically transitioning. But it simply isn’t enough. I tried to convince myself that I don’t need to medically transition and I’d still be able to do all the things I want. But at the end of the day my identity has nothing to do with gender roles, gender expression, patriarchy. It’s something very intrinsic within my mind and body. In my country there’s no tumblr. Never even heard of any trans people growing up. No youth group. No nothing. But do I think young kids nowadays are influenced by internet glorifying trans identity? Yes. Anyways. I enjoyed your vid, I just want to give a different perspective.

I've watched most /all your vids, this is the best yet technically yay.

Ben, you mentioned 'cotton ceiling'. Idea for a future video: (if you wouldn't mind going there) what is your opinion on that, did your opinion change?

@clarebear764

5 жыл бұрын

@@GNCCentric yup my friends don't believe this is a thing xx

Just became a Patreon. Great content. Found you after a young person in my life whom I love very much starting questioning. Such helpful info. Thank You.

Thank you thank you thank you! Your experience is valuable to share. I loved hearing you. Hugs from Portugal

Ben I love your honesty and confidence. I am in my 40s now. So grew up in the 90s in a very abusive and troubled home and could identify with your struggles but didn’t act on them at all out of fear. Anyway thank you xxx

I love your videos - thank you for sharing all this.

Yay just found this. Thanks Ben xxxx

At 17:42 when you said some of the older transwomen hit on younger transmen, that stuck out to me about that conference. I’m trying to think of how to put this tactfully so no one would falsely think it’s some transphobic observation (because it is not at all)… When one thinks of “who does the hitting on” in social gatherings, it tends to be men who hit on women… even younger women. Obviously, gals can hit on guys, vice versa, and all different combos, but in a mixed setting, it’s just biology that guys tend to be “the hunters.” So hearing about transwomen who were older going after younger transmen is definitely interesting. Especially considering if they’re older, they’re more likely to be on estrogen by then, so even less likely to be aggressive in social situations. It further brings to light how a subset of transwomen still remain aggressive, much more like stereotypical men. Not all of course, but people just need to go to corners of the net for transwomen to see how they often talk and think, and you’ll see many of them are not like cis women at all, even after being on estrogen for a long time. I know this was just told briefly by Ben in this video, and I don’t know more details, but even pointing out that it was “weird” was pretty telling. It would probably look weird just for the fact this was supposed to be a safe place for LGBTQ+, and a bunch of older transwomen were treating it like a fix up! I wonder if Ben noticed anything else odd about the encounters at this work shop among the older transwomen.

@GNCCentric

5 жыл бұрын

Back then I saw and felt it but couldn’t articulate: these were hetero males, acting like hetero males do. Regardless of hormones or social transition and even surgery, male and female socialization are usually visible. I didn’t realize this till I was 18, when I started to question the concept of gender.

@katvtay

5 жыл бұрын

GNC Centric Thank you so much for replying. Terrific channel too.

@rd9065

4 жыл бұрын

As someone who is trans this is interesting to see, but linking the male instincts of hunting to modern social behavior is just dishonest, older trans women hitting on younger trans man is not a show of biological behavior, it's more likely to just be the way that they were taught to socialize or did socialize before transitioning, it's the same reason many trans men talking with their hands is seen as feminine in some places, but in countries where talking with your hands is normal with men it's not feminine, like obviously y'all are stuck on biology but modern social behavior and our older natural instincts have very little to do with each other.

Thank you for sharing

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How did you go from being anorexic to not carrying about your body image (related to weight). I mean... you said you needed to feel some control, how did you let go? Or did the transition made you change focus?!

How are your family relationships now? Do your parents know any of your story that you’re sharing here?

@GNCCentric

5 жыл бұрын

I might a vlog about this today, that's a good idea thanks!

@GNCCentric

5 жыл бұрын

I did the vlog about this! kzread.info/dash/bejne/X62AmrhuoZSTmZs.html

A 16 years old boy living with a 38 years old man ??? Is that allowed in Canada ? Here that man would be considered a pedophile and would risk jail .

@GNCCentric

4 жыл бұрын

No its not legal, but this kid was thrown on the street so his alternative was a group home, we hung out with kids from group homes so we know how bad they were. I think we all realized this kid at least had some control over his living environment and we should leave that to him. I wish someone had done something to really reach him.

With respect, you didn't transition. Not based on what you related. You were a butch lesbian who didn't know she was a butch lesbian. You went to LGBT groups and said you were trans, but all you did was dress like a boy, in other words like a butch lesbian. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. You were in many of the same places you'd have been if you'd known you were a lesbian. If you had known the right word for what you were from the outset, you'd be on youtube talking about something different. What lasting negative effects do you feel you experience from this period of your life?