Carla, I really appreciate you talking about the "middle." No one ever seems to talk about that part of the journey. Great video! ❤️👄

1.) Be aware the journey is finite 2.) Know your why's (and write them down) 3.) Break down the main goal into tiny little goals (and reward yourself when meeting the goal) 4.) Stop comparing yourself to others 5.) You cannot control the outcome or output, you can only control the input (how often do I walk, how many calories do I put in etc) 6.) It's not about motivation, it's about consistency (motivation will lack in the middle) 7.) Look for inspiration and don't fall into the comparison trap (unfollow channels that make you feel negative) 8.) Pick up a routine you can stick to 9.) It's OK and valid to feel upset / to feel any emotion So insightful and well explained, thank you for that!!

@donna3675

4 ай бұрын

Thanks for the notes. These are excellent(and so is Carla). I’m gonna write these down.❤❤❤❤❤

I’ve never seen a video talking about the “middle” before so thank you for addressing this. I’m at the beginning of my journey (again). One thing I would add is celebrating the NSVs. My sister has lost 60ish pounds so far and tells me that those moments mean so much; being able to cross your legs, wrapping a towel around you, etc. ❤👄

@HalfofCarla

Жыл бұрын

They are the best part because they represent the actual loss, otherwise it’s just a number but the nsv shows you what your hard work represents cxx

@Bambisgf77

Жыл бұрын

What does NSV stand for? 🙈

@HalfofCarla

Жыл бұрын

@@Bambisgf77 non scale victory xx

@SLees-tv7gh

4 ай бұрын

I've been in the middle SO many times. My trick to pass the middle was blue jeans. When I was a size 24 I brought 1 pair that was a size 22. I took a video of myself once a week until I could fit them. Then I brought a size 20, then 18 , and so on until I reached my goal. Weight loss isn't easy, but it is doable once you find out what works for you. 💕

The middle is so hard....I'm always derailed by the middle. Hearing you say "it's finite...it's not forever" felt like a huge relief. I never thought about it like that.

Never thought about it this way. Even though I don't feel like working, I show up everyday to my job. Same thing with weightloss. Brilliant, Carla ✨

@user-jy3zl2vp4b

Жыл бұрын

I agree...every day we show up to work and do a few things we don't like......so every two weeks we get a pay out! Just like the weight loss. I love the analogy!

I'm 40 pounds away from my 70 pound goal weight loss and it's taking longer than I anticipated, and I been on a plateu for 3 months . Thank you for motivating me to keep going

@StonesAndSand

Жыл бұрын

Make sure you keep a good daily journal. It'll really help you with those dreaded plateaus.

@Tnc874

Жыл бұрын

Make sure your logging everything you eat

@cringeproof100

Жыл бұрын

It’s ok to maintain for a time. As long as you don’t give up. Sometimes the mind& body need to catch up.

@VHale-yz7hc

10 ай бұрын

Honestly I think it’s good to plateau for a bit I feel like it licks that weight in as your base before you keep moving down

This made me think of my why.. To lower my cancer risk Live longer for my girls Be confident and comfortable in my body For physical energy Mental health 💙 hope this helps someone

@myafreeton9431

Жыл бұрын

It does...Almost as if I wrote it myself ❤

@melaninathan

11 ай бұрын

It does. It's a reminder.

This clicked for me, you’re right about weight being a temporary struggle. I am so tired of this journey, i’m ready to finally cross the finish line and move on with my life. Thank you for the reminder ❤

I am 80 lbs down and have 40 lbs to go. I appreciate this video so much. Thank you.

@farleyboy1968

Жыл бұрын

And I am down 40 lbs and have 80 more to go. Best of luck on your journey!

I am in the middle right now. I started at 387lbs and I weight 296 lbs right now. I break it down to smaller goals.My most recent goal was to weigh under 300lbs. So I bought myself some cute spring PJs when I reached that goal.

The middle is a b*tch but I won't quit this time. I'll get to a point where I won't have to lose weight again ❤ Thank you for the video!!

@Theblackbumblebee

Жыл бұрын

Thank you posting this, l needed to see this.

❤ I’m in the middle … for the 9,999,999th time … but this time feels different and I’ve had more success. Life is trying me from so many angles, but this time I’m gonna methodically stay in the middle instead of reversing back and making this journey even harder for me. Thanks for acknowledging the dreaded middle and providing some MOTIVATION. Here from April Lauren’s YT channel.

@HalfofCarla

Жыл бұрын

Awe welcome Laura xx

I’ve lost 85 lbs and still have 40 to go. I want to say thank you for this video because I felt like I was alone. I’m so close but still far. People have started treating me differently, still feel like I’m 270 lbs. I haven’t been under 200 since middle school. This is so weird.

@Renduhh

11 күн бұрын

Omg same!!! I’ve lost about 82 pounds (293 > 211) and I’m starting to feel this way too. I want to lose around 30lbs more, but I feel like it’s rapidly slowed down the last couple months and I can feel my enthusiasm dissipating. Remembering the “why” of it all is a good motivator though. Best of luck to you!

Definitely needed this. I’ve lost 20kg (44lbs) and still need to lose another 20kg to reach normal weight. Thank you Carla ✌🏻

I'm struggling in the middle now. I'm down 45 pounds, but still have 100 to go. Thanks so much for your encouragement. ❤😘

@uitninonstuin

Жыл бұрын

How are you doing now?

@kristinanne6534

Жыл бұрын

@@uitninonstuin I'm down 78! Still in the middle, but I'm getting there!

@uitninonstuin

Жыл бұрын

@@kristinanne6534 I love it!!! I don’t know you but I am so proud of you!!!

@kristinanne6534

Жыл бұрын

@@uitninonstuin Thank you so much!!! It's so rare to meet someone nice and supportive in a KZread message! Are you on a weight loss journey as well?

@uitninonstuin

Жыл бұрын

@@kristinanne6534 I am surprised that’s rare! We should all be supporting of eachother! ❤️ you are doing an incredible job… I am just starting in my journey and its just a little one - I gained about 10 kilo’s after I got married 🙈 but I find it VERY hard to stay consistent… I have never had any issues with my weight so this is new, lol!! These video’s really help me!

20:50 is YOU for me, Carla! Thank you! 🥰

My concern about viewing weight loss as a finite state is that some people might take that to mean that once you get to your goal you can go back to your old ways. I prefer to look at it as a lifestyle I can live with even when I get to maintenance. When I get to the middle ( or a stall) I think that this is what maintenance will look like.

@HalfofCarla

Жыл бұрын

I think the reason that the odds are stacked up against us to regain the weight after weight loss is that people don't address the habits/reasons why they became overweight and in turn white knuckle it through weight loss. Absolutely, I agree that it's a lifestyle change and by addressing those habits, you'll be able to life your life again in maintenance.

@DesireeStamat

2 ай бұрын

I was going to state this sentiment. As we go down in weight gradually our calorie needs will lower as well and eventually it all events out into maintenance. I never had a "finite" situation that you described. I just got used to eating less and less in the process. I have maintained about 40% of my weight loss for over 10 years, but having to re-lose a big chunk of it again unfortunately. Got to work on the entire package.

My highest (known) weight was 323 lbs, too! 🥺😭 I feel like I've been "in the middle" for y e a r s. Thank you for this video! Very helpful. (Edited to add the requested ❤️😁)

I am in the middle right now. I’ve lost 10kg and still have about 10-13kg to go. But for a month now the scale won’t budge and my mental health took a nosedive. Never in my life have I felt so self conscious. This is my 4th weight loss attempt and even five years ago at almost 100kg I had a better body image than now at 83kg. My negative self talk just got worse and worse. I am envious of my friends because they achieve their goals and I do not. I hate that I can no longer celebrate with them. And I have started to ask myself if the goal is even worth it if I am hating myself so much now. Two days ago I decided to look up on youtube if anybody else is experiencing the same problems and I found you. You are describing it so perfectly and you have reminded me of my own strength and shown me that I can pull myself out of that hole I've dug myself into. Thank You! ❤👄

I'm always trying to think of ways to motivate myself, lately I've been using a hot air balloon imagery. In fact i made a model. The analogy is: my life is the balloon, it wants to fly but it is tethered to the ground by ropes attached to sand bags. Every sand bag is a kilo of weight. Every time i lose a kilo, I cut one of the ropes, and one day I will fly.

@lifewithhope6274

Ай бұрын

This is beautiful! I love it❤

Thank you so much Carla. I appreciate your honesty and sharing your journey. I have lost 97 pounds. I want to lose 38 more pounds. You are so right the middle is frustrating. I have made my mind to do whatever I need to do to get to "greatest". Thank you for giving me hope. ❤💋

❤💋 Thank you for sharing this message about the middle of the journey. I have started and quit every program I've tried. No one ever talks about the middle. You are a true inspiration for me to finally do this and get through the middle and make it HOME! ❤❤❤

@HalfofCarla

Жыл бұрын

Yes Teresa 🙌🏻🙌🏻

I started at 182. Over 8 months Ive slowly lost 20 pounds. I'm at 162. My first goal is 155. And my second goal is 130. I do weight lifting and been at a calorie deficit and then go back to maintenance and then go back into my deficit. I look soooo much better. I'm so proud of myself. Though I feel little discouraged because I seen a drastic change but now I'm use to my new body. And the new excitement of changes and new habits are over because it's all normal part of my life now. Just like brushing my teeth and showering is normal for everyone else.

I’m at the middle and things are harder than I thought they would be. I’ve hit a plateau and due to regular life challenges, my motivation has left 😢 thank you for these videos, they have truly been helpful

I've always had trouble losing weight through the winter but I'm definitely in THE MIDDLE I've lost 70lbs so far with 80 more to go and this is one hell of a plateau. I'm back down toy middle school weight which is amazing (I've always been a big kid) but now here I am ready to achieve the figure ive always wanted and this is the first weight loss KZreadr I've found that is actually real and not trying to shove products down our throats or ngo overboard with the click bait and unrealistic promises. Thank you Carla for everything you do and please don't ever stop. We need your help and it's easy to see that YOU GET IT!!!

@HalfofCarla

2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!! You have done amazing so far, never forget that xx

Perfect timing for me to catch this video! I am 2 months in and 15 lbs down, 35 lbs to go. I am on the struggle bus this week! I have quit my night time binge eating but I have been indulging more this week than I should have. Thank you for the motivation!

@debmi8839

Жыл бұрын

Hi Brittany- I am also on the current course and plan on doing at least 2 more, maybe three. I have had three binges this course and I really don't know how to stop them once the urges start. What worked for you?

@brittanybrown273

Жыл бұрын

@@debmi8839 I went full carnivore for about 6 weeks and then to keto, now I'm trying out Paleo. I think I needed that drastic change to help me and to also stop shaming myself so much. For me it more about the mental aspect vs the actual food when it comes to binging. I think it only worked because I have been working on my mental health as well. I'm an incest survivor, my oldest son had cancer as a baby, and another of my kids has another life threatening illness. So I have really been focusing on mental health lately. I think all the fat from eating carnivore and keto helped me to think more clearly and to be able to handle my emotions better. I think it all kinda tied in to be the perfect storm for me. I've not been super dogmatic about any diet. I know if I restrict too much I will fall and binge. I love the Christmas tree Debbie cakes so instead of telling myself no I will have a few of them and call it a day. Not everyday but if I want one really bad I'll go for it now. I don't have emotions towards it and shame myself, I just make the choice and move on. It's better than binging after my kids go to bed every night! Progress over perfection. I do have a video that helped me a whole lot. I'll try to post the link. It's a bariatric surgeon being interviewed and talking about food crutches while transitioning. For example, diet coke isn't good for you but it's better than a regular coke that will add calories. So I do have mini cans of diet coke and I keep life savers mints in my purse for when I have cravings. Once I get to a comfortable place I will try to remove those too but for now I think that's a huge help and keeps me from crashing and burning.

This is one of the best videos on KZread in my opinion. I began my weight loss in August 2023 and I've lost 30 pounds. I have about 40-50 more to go. But the past 3 months have been such a struggle because I've been stuck, and not for a lack of trying. I just couldn't figure out what I was doing wrong. I got burnt out. But I keep telling myself that as long as I've still maintained my loss, I'm not starting over, I'm still in "The Middle." I've been rewatching this video over and over this month and it's helping me keep trying, even when I want to quit. Thank you Carla. ❤

Just in case “it’s not forever” doesn’t work for you, as it wasn’t always enough for me, I told myself “it’s for as long as you make it take” and that picked me up when finite wasn’t sating my brain

❤😘 Until this video, I thought I always got stuck at the 40-50 pounds lost point. I never acknowledged that that was roughly halfway - the dreaded middle. Thank you for opening my eyes to this for myself and, by you talking about it, recognizing that it's not just me. The middle is a b****. And now I feel more prepared to kick that b**** right out of my way!❤😘

As always I agree with you SO strongly. Now that I have lost 60 pounds I have learned how to eat correctly and doing it is SO much easier knowing I will never have to go through “the middle” ever again. ❤💋

Same here. 70 pounds gone and 56-60 yet to go. Dealing with the fears and anxieties of losing the rest. There are many good reasons to keep going.

Omg thank you! I had a lot of lightbulbs listening to you! I’m definitely in the middle for me and now I’ve recognised where my “good” and “great” are, I’m closer than I’d thought. Thank you ❤

Finally some reliable middle weightloss content, it’s so hard to find this, lots of just getting started and some I’m at maintenance now but few middle phase reference points

Such a timely video! I'm approaching the halfway mark toward my goal (100 lbs)/45 kg/7.1 stone) and am starting to struggle. This is exactly what I needed to hear today! A wonderful reminder to break the big goal down into more manageable chunks. I was doing that, but then looked at how much more I still have to go and started to get discouraged. I'm doing BodySlims , and have signed up for January as well. One foot in front of the other....one day at a time. 💋❤

Wow & thanks! ❤ I'm in the middle but on my way. Your ideas about THE MIDDLE are refreshing, helpful & encouraging. When feeling frustrated, I've learned to re-focus on progress instead of perfection. Then I try to immediately make several healthy choices in a row: cup of broth, glass of water, short walk, prepare something healthy for next meal, savor a small peace of dark chocolate with a good cup of coffee. Doing 3 or 4 healthy things helps me feel more positive, like I'm getting off the struggle bus.

I just want to thank you for putting out videos like this. I’ve been watching your videos since I started my own journey last year and find myself returning to this specific video time and time again, especially now that I’m down just over 70 lbs and have roughly 45 left to go, I replay this video whenever I get in my head and just keep reminding myself that this is something that I’m doing for myself. So thank you!!

@pravdaamo

2 ай бұрын

I do the very same thing with this video! I'm here watching this video for probably the 20th time. 107 pounds down, 50 more to go. Best wishes on your journey!

I found you in my middle and I’m so glad I stuck with it with your encouragement. That dark red shirt and dark lip looks AMAZING on you btw, Carla.🌹

@HalfofCarla

Жыл бұрын

Thanks Laura xx

I love this discussion. It is likely true that nearly all of us striving are currently in the middle (otherwise we would all be beginners and enders) and that middle is like a huge wall in front of my face. That is, if I choose to see it that way. Now I am reframing my middle as a long journey towards the horizon and I know that path will take me towards that horizon which is grace. I am absolutely in the middle but I am also absolutely committed to this path I am on. My amount to lose needs to be around 30 lbs (which for me has been a very high barrier since it has never been lower since menopause a decade ago) and committing to my plan, I have so far lost 12 of those 30 lbs. And even if it seems at times like I am circling instead of progressing, I know with complete certainty that I will get there. In fact, there are a few things I can add in that will boost my progress and I look forward to starting to do those things (a daily walk, say) that will amplify my results. I am already dedicated to recording my calorie intake and have done so since I started this journey in late July 2022 from which those 12 lbs are definitely now gone. My big why is having gotten breast cancer in 2021 that I am sure having gained excess post-menopausal weight contributed to. Now I am motivated with the fire of 10,000 suns to rid myself of all that weight and reach for health. I am doing it and I am opting not to care about the length of the time the middle takes since every single day is another day of betterment and that is what keeps my motivation high. Thank you, Carla!💋❤

@HalfofCarla

Жыл бұрын

Wonderful Andrea!! Well done to you!! Xx

This is marvelous and insightful. I’m at the beginning of my middle (-50 lbs, 85 more to go.). You are such an inspiration and your words are encouraging.

Thank you so much for posting this video. I’ve had a really hard week and I’ve struggled so much, and I really needed to hear everything you’ve just said. Thank you so much for putting this out there, because the middle really is so so hard to push through.

Yes! You're my inspiration!!! Thank you so much for sharing your story! 💋❤

Thank you for reminding us that we all CAN achieve this goal. I might not become the world's oldest astronaut but I CAN reach my goal weight and never diet again. ❤❤

@marye.fox-grimm6541

Ай бұрын

👨‍🚀👩‍🚀👍 Might not be an astronaut, but your attitude soars. Congrats🎉

You are so right!! This is so true, important and eye-opening!! 🥰😍💋❤️

I'm so glad finding your video. I really didn't know what commitment meant and you are right I was less motivated. But I've been meal planning ahead of time for these past 21 days and it has been helping me so much.

❤ thanks Carla so motivating x

Perfect topic for me at the perfect time! Thanks for being you, Carla! 😙😗❤💋

❤️💋 Great words of encouragement! It makes sense that being stuck in maintenance is a season.

Thanks so much for this video ❤. I’m in my middle and trying to motivate myself again! Perfect timing!

You are so motivating as you are talking about everything I have been feeling. Thank you so much for sharing your journey ❤

You are such an inspiration Carla ❤ great video!

Thank u. I cope with food for years. After my daughters were born 40 years ago I lost myself in weight. Now doing Weight Watchers in my sixties. I’m struggling but found you yesterday and a new found push to do it this time for real!! Thank you! Best for holiday season

Thank you so much Carla for sharing your journey. Your videos are very motivating. Blessings to you.

Thank you for this chat ❤

You are amazing. I only recently discovered your channel but am slowing watching as I have time. You are inspiring and so refreshing. Thank you for sharing your journey. ❤💋

❤️👄 this was super helpful, facing my middle and hearing your thoughts on it, is just what I need.

❤Found your channel and this video right when I needed it!

💋❤️ Carla, your self reflection and insight is so valuable. Thank you for sharing. I really appreciate you.

❤💋 once again - oh so timely and very helpful! Thank you Carla!

💋❤️Instead of binging food, I'm binging your videos soaking in your wisdom. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. You are truly an inspiration.

This was hands down the absolute most inspiring video for me personally of all times! Thank you so much for sharing your journey! ❤

One of the best video & words about the whole process. Thank you so much for being so honest. I truly appreciate this💝🇨🇦

Perfect timing. Thanks you. Heading toward great!

Thank you, you are wonderful! Your videos are an inspiration.

so genuine & honestly spoken ❤ thank you so much 💁🏻‍♀️🇨🇦

You literally have me in silent tears thank you ❤

I’ve been watching your videos for quite some time now & have to tell you, ( in my opinion) This video post is one of the most helpful ones you’ve made. These tips are the ground work for success & I keep going back & rewatching this video, it helps keep me on track so well. Thank you, Carla, for these awesome videos!😊

@HalfofCarla

7 ай бұрын

Thank you Diana, it’s the video I’m most proud of I think. I wish KZread would pick it up more to share it 🖤🖤🖤

Your posts are amazing & I strongly resonate with all you talk about. Thank you so much for being authentic & compassionate. You truly are beautiful inside & out ❤

❤ YOU are my inspiration! Thank you for another great video.

❤️💋 thank you, Carla!!!

Brilliant! I think the spreadsheet will really keep me focused during the middle. Awesome! ❤💋

💋 Thank you very much for this video. I'm just starting to feel "The Middle" and really appreciate knowing it's normal.

❤️💋I am exactly in the middle right now. I needed this video thank you!

❣💋I can totally relate! I always fall of the wagon when i still have around 8 kgs to loose, and then I gain the weight back and more. so frustrating... thanks for the inspiration!

Thank you, Carla!!!

Thank you so much for your inspiration and good advice it keeps me going through tough times ❤❤❤

Thank you . Your advice has been very helpful for me.

Carla, thank you for being one of the major inspiration people for me. Truly!!!

❤ really important topic, thanks

❤ Thank you. I am in the middle now. Your video is truly inspiring.

❤ thank you! I’m stuck in the middle now… still so far to go and trying to get my habits back into gear again. It’s nice to acknowledge this frustrating stage and get this motivation to keep pushing forward 😊

this is such a helpful video thank you

Great content. Karla you don't miss a thing because you've lived it. You're great at putting very complex feelings into simple language that resonates with anyone who also struggled' through weight issues. Thank you ❤️. S.

@HalfofCarla

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Sylvia xx

I like that u compare it To going to work...... U do it weather u want to or not

Love this video. I find myself needing to watch it every time I am losing motivation.

Thanks for sharing what you've learned 😘❤️

I’m just starting. I’ve also had periods where I lost and then regained or I quit. I like the way you’ve framed things. ❤️💋

This is so helpful thank you 💚

♥ Thanks so much for this!

The story of my life (losing to 'good!', gaining it back PLUS more) over & over. This video was very helpful to put it necessary perspective and realizing what it is!

❤marvelous advice, authentic since you lived it. I think this will help so many people! Thank you Carla!

I made small goals along the way too and it was my saving grace! It can get daunting to think about the total amount. I also agree to treat yourself but not with food! Get a piece of jewelry, a facial, mani or pedi 😊

@HalfofCarla

Жыл бұрын

That's exactly how I did it, makeup, skincare, get your hair done, sunglasses etc xx

❤ I’m saving this to come back to in my middles

I didn't realize that I did everyone of your habits! Thanks for highlighting!

I’m only 2 months in but I’ve found this video so helpful. Its the only video I’ve found that talks about this longggg awkward middle part and I wish more people talked about it! Thank you ❤️

such an amazing video thank you Carla

Thank you Carla. Doing my second bodyslims and having a though time. ❤

I love your nail color! 💚😊 Thank you for this video ✨😁

Oh my gosh this video is a godsend today, I am in this exact spot right now. I try to deal with 5 lbs segments I am down 20lb . Thank you for this video

Great video...Thanks for talking about the middle...That's the part I hope, strike that, actually intend to get through this go round

Thank goodness…. I am smack dab in that ‘middle’ area, TODAY, and this video came by. Very helpful. Thank you 🫶🏻🫶🏻