I make over 6 figures and I live with my parents, that's how I'm able to afford luxury goods. I'm straight up, and these questions are not uncomfortable to me. People are curious about what you do for work. I work as a corporate manager, nothing special and I have investments on the side. Another question people ask is why do I live with my parents? Im single AF and I have bad anxiety living alone. Done and done.

@JasonLuxLover

Жыл бұрын

Work on that anxiety girl life is so much better living alone. I’m sorry you need to experience life baby girl have some sleepovers with boys or girls and stay up as late as you want and do whatever you want. It Hass to be uncomfortable in some settings with mom and dad.❤

@rozsakyshki1930

Жыл бұрын

Wow I like your honesty! It’s a power

My intention for asking people how they can afford luxury because im trying to figure out how i can replicate their success or im looking for ideas on how I, too can afford luxury like them

I don’t think it’s a bad question to ask. There are plenty of young people who aspire to have the things you have and other people with luxury have. They want to advice on how to get there. And I think it’s fair for people to know the honest truth whether it’s “I bought all of this because… my husband is rich, I come from a family with money, I am in severe credit card debt but have a bag addiction, KZread supports my bag buying, I got a masters and now work in big tech, I’m committing fraud, these are all replicas, etc”. The internet is so full of lies and half truths, I think if we are honestly not ashamed there is no reason to be dishonest.

@juniorcasemiro

Жыл бұрын

It would be more honest to ask “hey, I really want to afford a bag like yours one day, can you give me tips?” Asking “how can you afford xxxxxx” is just rude, they’re basically asking how much money you make.

@maybird8112

Жыл бұрын

@@juniorcasemiro I don’t think “how much money do you make” (particularly with more conversation or context) is a bad question either. Wage transparency is beneficial to people inside and outside of your field. Fiscal conversations are helpful and honestly a positive to discuss particularly for people with platforms who are advertising and/or promoting purchasing of luxury goods. I personally don’t see a problem with someone saying “hey how much money do you make I see you have so many nice things”, and responding “thanks, I actually don’t make a lot around $50k but my husband makes significantly more/ I completed a masters and just got a raise to $90k so I’m celebrating with a Chanel bag/ I actually don’t make much just under $45k but I prioritize bags/ I only use the money I make from KZread and with X thousand of subscribers I typically make ~10k a year)”. Someone is obviously able to say “I don’t feel comfortable talking about it” but I don’t think it’s inherently a rude question to ask

@Mahora.

Жыл бұрын

@@maybird8112 ok so how much do you make Maybirb?

@maybird8112

Жыл бұрын

@@Mahora. I come from an upper middle class family. I use to make $50k working as a research associate. I am working on my doctorate and make ~$35 a year but my tuition is covered. My husband works for the government and makes $80k. I prioritize bags (have ~15) and have zero debt.

@eminao.2589

Жыл бұрын

@@Mahora. right? I’m glad you asked it, I wanted to do the same but it felt rude somehow 😂😂😂😂

My neighbor, who I know makes more than me because she’s always telling people how much she makes, asked me how I can afford my bags when she couldn’t possibly afford them. She absolutely can afford them and I told her as much. She would just rather shop excessively on Amazon, so I let her know that we have different money spending priorities.

@bellissima78

Жыл бұрын

Yes, everything is a matter of priority! Some travel, some buy cars, some buy heaps of cheap stuff.

@ginamorris4520

Жыл бұрын

This is a really good reply no fuss, I will use this thanks l!

@beazerthesneeze

Жыл бұрын

Very true! We all have different places we budget our time and money. Also, One nice bag will last a long time and can add life to a neutral wardrobe. I’m not into bags but I like to save money up for good shoes

@stephp7778

7 ай бұрын

That's a smart response

I think some people are genuinely curious because they want to obtain luxury too.

When at the peak of my earning in my company, my income was awkwardly public information and I was perpetually asked “why don’t I buy a more fancy car or a boat etc” … and (to me) the answer is obvious: I could care less about cars, but I LOVE my purses and shoes. People are not allowed to judge you for who you love and they should not judge you for what you love. I spend my money on what I love and what brings me joy … that seems like that should be the point.

This is very interesting because I am totally honest when people ask me this question (usually because I know it is not malicious). “I work very hard. I have made smart decisions throughout my life that have allowed me to spend money in ways that I see fit.” I have the car, house, and savings. If someone asked me what my salary was I would tell them honestly. I feel like it all boils down to how you grew up and how money was spoken about in your house. My parents didn’t share much and I feel like that is a disservice to your children. I also believe that the more people talk about their salaries both with friends and maybe even coworkers, it allows us to gauge what “fair market value” is of our own work. It also allows us to recognize when we’re being slighted. When I worked in retail I would readily tell newer employees what I was making which would prompt them to ask for a raise when the time was right. I understand why some believe these questions are rude but to me it’s like meh if you must know I’m actually very smart lololol

Just yesterday I asked my friend "is that a LV?" She said it was her grandmother's. I wonder if I stepped over the line now. In my world luxury is rare so I was so delighted to see one in real life.

Some years back my boyfriend got involved in a similar conversation with some colleagues at work.The lady colleagues were talking about their handbags collections and spending money in general and they asked him about my spending habits. He said : ooh she collects Miu Miu and Prada (which i do , but 90% of the time they're preloved /vintage pieces). It was shock horror on the ladies part. One even said: but they're 4 figures bags and you let her buy them! . To which he replied: actually I don't care. It's her money, she earns it. She spends it on what she wants. That's why i love him!🥰

@mercedesvelasquez8781

10 ай бұрын

Let's say he gives you money to spend that is his business and no one else. I hate nosy Karen's lol

I'm guilty at looking at other peoples food in restaurants mainly when it's a new restaurant I haven't dined out before to see what the foods like or to give me ideas of what to order .

@jordynn55

Жыл бұрын

Same lol

@Val_Blu

Жыл бұрын

I do the same. I always look, but not because how much they eat, but to see if it will inspire me. I have a hard time with menus 😔

@paulmahoney6313

Жыл бұрын

@@Val_Blu yeah me too I don't see anything wrong with it at all

@bellissima78

Жыл бұрын

Me too! I love looking at what others order to get an idea for future dishes myself. Lol

I'll be honest - I sometimes want to ask that question mostly out of genuine curiosity and a desire to make more money (because can you ever have enough?). I've never asked of course, but I think maybe it's not coming from a judgemental place, but more of a 'how can I do it too?' place. Maybe. Also imagine telling someone you inherited an "old" LV bag... with pristine vachetta. LOL So funny!

I say “it was a gift.” Then inwardly say to myself “from me” and smile.

@SuperDacob

Жыл бұрын

Hahah great one 😂💖

@marianordenvald

Ай бұрын

🥰👍

Interestingly not many people ask me how I afford my bags but rather if I am a hoarder or a “bag addict.” I tell them I prefer the term “collector” lol

Buying pre owned works for me. I also sell and use the money for a “new” pre owned bag. Dedicate an amount to spend and stay within your budget. Saving for a dream bag works too!!!

People will always have something to say about everything. I had a super tacky yet snotty boss years ago in NYC who once told me "you should stop buying multiple inexpensive bags and instead buy ONE expensive designer bag that looks great and lasts forever." I rolled my eyes so hard and hate to admit she was right!!! hahaha and she got me hooked on luxury ever since. Fast forward years later to a different job, this time in Michigan, a younger and very fashionable and friendly coworker who i came to adore saw my gorgeous blue saffiano leather Prada briefcase on my desk only to have her say "I love your Prada bag, is it real?" I found the question to be so earnest and innocent and I replied, in earnest, "is there any other choice?" I think it's all perspective, and I love answering these questions because I love and believe in luxury goods and love talking about luxury craftsmanship and its longevity. All in all I LOVE fashion and love explaining it and exposing people to it! I love ur videos btw! ❤️❤️❤️

At 10:20 it just came in my mind: ‚Joey doesn’t share food!!!!!‘ 🤣🤣🤣🤣

@mamaocillian

Жыл бұрын

Same! I totally came here for this comment! 😂

What an inexhaustible topic Dacob! Reg. Luxury handbags...if I say I bought the bag myself with my own money, they get judgmental, however if I say that is a gift from my husband, it's absolutely ok and it gets lots of appreciation. XxxC

@SuperDacob

Жыл бұрын

Its definitely a topic that I feel we all can relate to because we have been through this question asking at some point in our lives. 💖

I always say it ether cost a pretty penny or it wasn’t that expensive, they usually get the hint and it’s not too uncomfortable.

You can go with what you said at 4:36; "I have a job and I earn money," with a smile on your face. It's not obnoxious or a zinger, but it will make your coworker feel stupid.

Hi Dacob: When someone asks me a rude or impertinent question, I immediately respond with, "Why do you ask?" Shift the focus back to them, and make them explain their rude behaviour!

@SuperDacob

Жыл бұрын

Good response Patricia 💖

@patriciatowe5753

Жыл бұрын

I absolutely love your channel. You have charm, class, and integrity. Don't let the bastards grind you down.

People who ask dumb/rude questions like that don’t deserve a respectful answer. Clearly, they don’t respect you enough to ask that. It’s none of their business.

@SuperDacob

Жыл бұрын

I agree 💖

I know people who spend $60,000 to $80,000 on Dodge Challengers or Ram pickups but buy their clothes at JCPenney and Macys. I also knew a family who drove a ten year old Toyota but had antiques and nice clothes from Nordstrom, It is all about what their priorities are.

To me it depends on who’s asking and how they are asking it. If it’s with a condescending manner, I will just tell them straight up - “I don’t feel comfortable answering this question”. And if the question is asked without malicious intent - I’ll just say the same as you said. “Oh my Aunty left this to me” or “oh this old thing, it’s been in my wardrobe for years” Thankfully though, I’ve not had anyone ask me this. My family don’t really care and nor do my friends. Once again, amazing video Dacob and great topic

Honestly, when I’m asked questions like this, I am always inclined to make a joke. It’s like perfect fodder! Then I say something light hearted like “I saved my Pennies” or “I had some gift cards”, or “I sold an older bag online” and then I kind of go into why I like to buy certain brands because I can resell them and buy more. This isn’t the whole truth and nothing but the truth but it’s enough truth.

I have had people on occassion say that to me about clothes, shoes, bags, and of course perfumes. I just say what my mum use to say "Why have one, when you can have 50!". Its nobodys business Dacob, but I understand its a pain in the proverbial! Xoxo

I think sometimes people want to just know so maybe the can do the same so they can save for it the same way and get the lux goods too.

I always get this question 😬😝 But I always answer you like to_____ I love bags and shoes 😂😂, I prefer making food at home and save the money for things that I love then just go to a restaurant for 1 hour(the bag last forever😝)

@SuperDacob

Жыл бұрын

Yasss hahah 💖

I just don’t eat for three months!

thank you! this is so helpful :,)

I love those mini bags, so cute!!!!

@SuperDacob

Жыл бұрын

Thanks Torey 🙏🏻💖

@torey4322

Жыл бұрын

@@SuperDacob you’re welcome ☺️

Omg! This just happened to me when my Uber driver was taking me home from the airport. They entered my community and started asking how much homes here cost! I was so uncomfortable!

@SuperDacob

Жыл бұрын

Oh wow that is really uncomfortable. I would have wanted to exit that ride asap. I feel for you. 💖

I’m like that too, I’m not witty at the moment cuz I don’t think badly of people. Ur mind is free & loving. ❤️ thanks for sharing some comebacks my love. 🙏🏼😆😘😘😘Sandy

This was so interesting Dacob. "Oh, I'm really good at saving" and change the subject. Love your shirt x

Learn so much from your channel. Thank you for an other great video.

I have a family member that can ask me "how much did that cost?"; "do you really need more bags" etc. It's so disrespectful. I have the right to have my own interests, I'm an adult, I make my own money and can pay for it. Meanwhile, this person who criticizes me, has a husband who buys lots of expensive cars... She never asks him if he "really needs more cars". 🙄I just don't get why people have to comment on what we do with our own money. I don't comment other people and don't care what they do as long as they don't hurt others.

I love this! I'm the same I always think later on if the come back or would I sound have said but in the moment can be hard for me.

Do you remember the movie You’ve got Mail? The zinger thing reminded me of that. And in the restaurant scenario, I’ve looked at someone staring and asked if they wanted a bite. 😂

Light colours really suit you well!

@SuperDacob

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Marila 🙏🏻💖

We got tired of a few judgy "friends". "Must be nice to be rich." Uh, no, not rich, just careful with our money and not buying a bunch of junk at Walmart we don't need. Needless to say, they aren't friends anymore. I am waiting for the day when someone informs me that one of my fake bags is fake so I can say "No sh*t Sherlock!" None of this is anyone else's business.

Haha On work lunches, I SPECIFICALLY order food that is unshareable or very hard/awkward to divide into reasonable portions. If we’re doing family style, we set up serving utensils and plates. My team members are really close and I trust them a lot but the food is the line I draw lol.

I always say I save my money to buy these things . find that answer satisfies that curiosity

You could also say you inherited a relative's entire bag collection to skirt the questions on multiple luxury bags. I personally see nothing wrong with that. It's not a deep lie, it's an easy answer and you don't owe an explanation to most people asking these kinds of questions anyway. My Great Aunt gave me her vintage cream beige Burberry trenchcoat as a Christmas present. It's gorgeous. First few weeks of wearing it I had a stranger ask me if it was Burberry and where I got it, and if I paid full price 😒 Whatever happened to just giving compliments? Hey, what a great bag! What a nice coat! And leave it at that? I'd never imagine asking personal questions on how someone has acquired their goods, I think its rude in many circumstances. I agree, little lies in these situations is sometimes just easier to deal with.

This is so relatable!!

That question always comes from a place of judgment I have found, but it often comes from people who don’t appreciate fashion. Luxury pieces are not things they deem valuable or wise, so it comes with an air of disapproval. I have family members who clearly have feelings towards my love for fashion, I invest in my wardrobe as I love style. To me it is an art form, to them it’s shallow… but that’s up to them if they wanna feel that way🙏❤️ I just say I work hard and I spend my money the way I want ❤️

@natl0426

Жыл бұрын

Agreed, I don't think it's a bad question to ask but unless it's a "how much was it" being asked around other friends that also purchases luxury bags to compare (e.g. preloved market) then it's definitely coming from a place of judgement. I don't get ask that often because I really only hang out with close friends who aren't like that, but I feel that it's great to ask back "what is your intention/goal of asking me that question?"

@seattlegirl2077

Жыл бұрын

Everyone who earns more than survival level of money has some discretionary money to spend on what brings them enjoyment and that is just fine. What gets me is when my students don't have money for educational items and lunch but they have iPhones and expensive shoes. Or in the case of my neighbors, no retirement funds - they told me.

I just HATE HATE HATE when u introduce to someone and they ask “what do you do for job?” WTF.

Come on I grew up poor and had no clue how someone could afford a Jag. Now I can tell people how I can pay cash for a car. Many poor people do not know how to move up. How did I do it? I have a master's degree and I work in IT. Not everyone is trying to be nosey.

My unemployed friend just had the nerve to ask me that last week and I answered “oh well… you know me, I’m a workaholic ☺️” PS: I know that many many people are desperately unemployed but that’s absolutely NOT his case 🤭

I’ve gotten this so much. And like, if someone is close enough to ask those questions, they’ve already made an assumption. I hate it. I used to explain myself but I just let them make their assumptions now.

@SuperDacob

Жыл бұрын

I agree. If they ask then they are already judging you. Nothing you can say in my opinion would make them change their critical opinion of you 🤷🏻‍♂️

I just don’t care. I carry my bags and I tell people not to count my money. ❤

@SuperDacob

Жыл бұрын

💖🧚‍♀️🙌

@parishers6351

Жыл бұрын

📌

I think the tone of how they ask matters. Some people might wanna know if it’s attainable for them as well. Id rather be asked to my face then have it talked about behind my back. And that’s happened and it hurt me. I think the gift lie is fabulous. I always say I thrifted it or bought it at auction or in clearance lol 😂

Usually my answer is I work hard and I deserve this bag ))

OMG.. That happen to me too!! May be we are too nice . So, we don’t expect to be hit with a rude question like that!! Sorry for an off topic question. I too love my Chanel perfume!! But I’m heartbroken cause the spray head of my beautiful Chance bottle is broken!! Have it happen to you? If so, what do you do? 😢😢😢 Thank you for great content as alway!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

I have a very vintage Hermes 1950's handbag and matching purse from my grandmother

@SuperDacob

11 ай бұрын

Vintage Hermes is so dreamy 🥰

I want to say great LIVE show last night & congrats on record views. It was a fun night. I love this topic of conversation. This subject is annoyingly funny but NOT when you're in it. If I see them coming my instinct is to walk to the other side of the street if I'm lucky to have a head start. I have a feeling they like to see my discomfort also as the questions roll on. This goes for family members "How can you afford question"? Oh please! I could never do that to anyone but I can laugh about it bc they have issues not me. My mail packages also seem to be all the rage among a few silly tenants. Hugs 😘

@SuperDacob

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Tina 🙏🏻💖 I too tend to rush across the street to avoid certain people I know and their embarrassing questions. Haha

I tell them I bought it with my hard earned cash; you should see my wishlist, more to come!!

I understand totally...sometimes I wish I was quicker with the right response to offensive or intrusive comments...but this is because we are not expecting such inappropriate questions.

@SuperDacob

7 ай бұрын

So true. We are usually not expecting this so our reactions are a bit delayed.

With uncomfortable questions I simply smile or laugh as if to say that their question is so out of place that it is very funny or amusing and then I change the subject, if they have a working neuron they will understand it and if their neurons do not work well and they will insist on the topic then I will answer without answering the question

I don't think it is a unreasonable question for people to ask how you afford these beautiful luxury bags, clothes and jewelry. Most people do not have disposable income even with good jobs to purchase all these fabulous luxury items. I watch and enjoy your perfume reviews and have always wondered how you afford to purchase all your amazing frags, designer clothes, accessories and jewelry. I am not personally jealous, I love fashion and bags but even if I had a lot of disposable income to buy luxury pieces I would not buy or want all these things. I think it is only natural for people to wonder, especially when you have a channel dedicated to showing off all your luxury merchandise. I would never ask but eventaully knew it the question would be asked by curious minds that wanna know. I just figured you were a "Rich Kid" and your family had lots of money. I think it is great that careers in fashion and luxury retail pays this well and has allowed you these beautiful things. Enjoy them but understand it is normal if people wonder how you afford all these things.

@xhoticqtee

Жыл бұрын

They can wonder and want to know, but I believe this is an issue with ones upbringing. It is inappropriate to ask.

@ConquerTheEgo

Жыл бұрын

@@xhoticqtee Not sure if it matter of how your brought up. Especially if your own family members are asking how you afford these things. You would think co- workers and family would be aware of potential salary and lifestyle that a particular career could afford someone. Obviously it might be rude if random strangers asked this question about your clothes, car or bags but when you have a channel sharing all your luxury items, I think it is a perfectly reasonable question and that even if not asked to assume people are going to wonder "Wow I wonder what they do to afford all these beautiful bags" ?

@xhoticqtee

Жыл бұрын

@@ConquerTheEgo I understand. The truth is people will ask, whether you have a channel or not, and it IS a matter of upbringing. As you stated, "if your own family members are asking how you afford these things" then somehow they arrived at the conclusion that it was acceptable to ask, or they somehow feel emboldened to cross a boundary that should not be crossed. With these people, it typically doesn't stop at the bag. They will also ask other questions that are private and personal that they truly have no business to ask, or know the answers to.

@ConquerTheEgo

Жыл бұрын

@@xhoticqtee If your parents or family is asking about how you afford luxury items it would be a big indication that things are not matching up. Usaully your family would know you had a successful career and could afford nice things. If my children pulled up in my driveway in a Ferrari I would definately ask how the hell did you afford this car ?

@xhoticqtee

Жыл бұрын

@@ConquerTheEgo I understand, but a Ferrari and a handbag are 1) totally different price points and 2) I'm speaking from a context of known affordability. A family member or stranger may still ask in a way to pass judgment simply because they don't believe in spending that kind of money on a bag (even if you can afford it). Other than a parent/child context where a child cannot clearly afford, many people understand that it is crossing a boundary that shouldn't be crossed and it IS a question of upbringing. Some people may even say it shows no class. The example you gave of a parent asking a child, who they know cannot afford said item, is a different context.

That Talula looks like a Speedy 45 for my Barbie ❤️

Hi Dacob❤ hope your enjoying 🌞🌊 me: none off your f… business and if they think I’m a b…. Well bad luck… I’m almost 61yrs and definitely don’t need to explain myself to anyone..I’m sick off explaining myself to these people that have nothing else better to do then stick their nose in my affairs… let them wonder want I buy and how 🤷‍♀️

@SuperDacob

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Anna 💖🧚‍♀️

Dacob! I just had a similar convo today in work. And I really did feel like that. They want you to “be yourself” but not really. It’s painful. Please teach us how to do KZread 😂

That question or comment never makes me feel bad LMAO.. I ask "why do you want to know" and usually they will either a) ask a more in-depth question or b) leave me the heck alone.

I would be thinking "it's none of your biz"!

Dacob, darling, I, like you, are champions of peoples success, however; we are a dying breed. I have been, and am, so happy for friends when they buy a new car, and i'm driving a wreck. I have been, and am, so happy for friends when they buy a new home, even when I have struggled to make rent. I have been so happy for friends to buy a gorgeous Chanel bag or accessory, when I am thoughtfully shopping at Walmart. Now, for the grace of God I can comfortably feed my handbag addiction, lol. I have an option for answering how I can afford these things, I simply say, I make enough to cover my needs and some wants. 😊 Also, I had just clicked on the live discussion when, again, the boss came in. This time she asked why I wasn't working, I responded.....because I didn't see you coming. 🤣❤

@SuperDacob

Жыл бұрын

Hahaha oh gee… the boss has a thing for barging in in the wrong moments. I hope all is good with the boss though. 💖💖

(Not that I've ever asked someone that) I would only ask such a direct question if it was an intervention/ I was truly worried and they were a close friend. I have heard of some (few) cases of people who starve themselves and go into debt just to chase more luxury items. 😓 And maybe it's strange, but in Singapore/SEA, things that are considered extremely personal questions (where do you stay, how much you pay for rent, are you dating, do you have kids/ why not have more kids, how much you weigh/ oh you gained weight etc etc) are such "normal" questions. It was definitely a culture shock for a lot of my friends and colleagues who moved here from Europe/US. With that, I can totally imagine getting a lot of judgement/ questions/ wrong attention if using luxury goods, so I NEVER ever use anything expensive or with a logo to office. It's just not worth it.

@jq77

Жыл бұрын

@M M mainly Western and Central Europe. I am not writing a white paper so am not going to go into specifics. Are you from Eastern Europe? Curious if those topics are considered ok to ask in a work environment?

OMG the food sharing! I tried dating someone from a food sharing culture; they literally would split both entrees in half and re-plate and would never order the same things as me (I tried copying their order once to avoid sharing and they changed their order quickly). I liked the person, but I was like, I can't do this for the rest of my life

Asking how you can afford something is rather raw. It needs to be rephrased or seek the pricing yourself. The latter is labor intensive is the reason why people would jump to ask.

A veces me da curiosidad cuando veo que alguna persona tiene algo lujoso, pero soy incapaz de preguntar cómo puede pagarlo o cuánto costó porque sé que es de mala educación. Pero siendo sincera secretamente siempre me interesa escuchar de temas financieros para yo ponerlos en práctica. 😅

I tell them the same way you afford your wine! We have different vises 😂

When did life become so hard a minefield!!! Spot on

People are annoying. I bought a few Coach, Kate Spade, and Rebecca Minkoff bags when I was at my entry level job. They aren't even that expensive and I still have most of them over a decade later (I shopped on sale and was able to get employee pricing on Coach through a friend). My coworkers gave me so much shit about it. Yet one of the same people spent $50 at H&M etc every day during lunch without thinking. It's called budgeting, geez

@CandleAshes

Жыл бұрын

I just remembered a coworker recently asking me if a piece of jewelry I had was from a specific luxury brand or not, but it wasn't irritating, they asked in an admiring kind of way. It's s simple piece, so it could have easily been from a different jeweler without necessarily being considered to be a fake. I've also seen this coworker with several luxury pieces before, so I just appreciated that she could tell what the design was. I love that luxury pieces are not a big deal at my current office, but not everyone dresses up like that, it's not a devil wears Prada kind of a situation, everyone just does their own thing

I look at the food of people sometimes when it looks so good that stands out (and sometimes ask the same 😂) or if I don’t know the dishes , sorry, and I don’t mind if people look at my food to check it out, why should I ?!

Work for it…..save for it….urn it……point…….❤

@SuperDacob

Жыл бұрын

Period 😉💖

Interesting topic. Personally I do not receive these questions from people who are current in my life (family, close friends, etc.) I only get these questions from people who are from my “deep past” like old classmates, childhood friends, etc. I grew up in a small town and the trend seems to be from people who have stayed living there. It seems they are coming from a genuine place of curiosity and I think some cannot comprehend spending that amount of money (which they also have little gauge how much the bag costs) on something like a handbag. They also do not understand how I could make the salary I do because people living there generally do not make anything close to that much money, and assume because we both come from the “same place” so we must all be on the same level nearly 30 years later which just simply isn’t the case.

I only have 1 preloved.Others just Italian leather bags

And ppl who always notice your new bags or new whatever are keeping a watch on you, so the i dont know someone bought it for me only works once on them

I always says it's from my new suga Dada that owns a diamond mine in Arkansas!

@SuperDacob

Жыл бұрын

Yasss 💖🙌

Good idea for a response! Also, I totally watch plates at restaurants. 😂 sorry!

I would simply say.... Oh huney, I got it at the outlets 🤣

@SuperDacob

Жыл бұрын

😂💖

Sorry but I look at ppls food at the restaurant. If it looks good, I want to order it too!! Lol I might ask you what it is to order 🤷🏽‍♀️

Question: Wow You got ANOTHER bag? Answer: Yes I did, isn’t it cute?!!!!!! 😀 Q: How are you able to purchase ALL those bags? A: I’m a wizard 🧙🏼‍♂️ at managing money. I have absolutely no need to explain my self to anyone. It’s very freeing. AND generally I could NOT care less what other people think b/c I know who I am.

@SuperDacob

Жыл бұрын

🙌🙌🙌💖

@rozsakyshki1930

Жыл бұрын

This! 🎉

I needed that. Sometimes I feel very uncomfortable buying things that I like just because of the judgmental questions. One of them came to my husband saying that I had too much.

My Husband and I decided to fulfill our lux dreams( his are watches)! when we celebrated our 10th anniversary and we also travelled Europe, it was the best times of our lives. But.. I noticed some FB friends posts shading/shaming people that do lux😂. Some friends have a change in their demeanor towards me( not in a good way). Like what did I do to you?? I didn't stoop down to it and I don't need to explain myself.I want to have a clever retort just in case they will say it to my face tho😂. Like seriously,it's not your money I spent dude. I always admire those that carry lux like dreaming eventually I will carry my dream lux bags but the envy and jealousy are strong around us.

“If I tell you I would have to kill you.”, “It’s a secret.” Or just “I budget according to my means and prioritize what’s important to me”.

That what I always said it was a gift my parents.

I would not be insulted. I would happily explain how I worked hard, invested, saved. It is more like how do you manage your money?

I think the proper response is, “I’m sure if I can afford it you can as well!”…. How do they then respond to that?!

@SuperDacob

Жыл бұрын

Oh thats a really good one Elizabeth 💖🙏🏻

Some of us have asked that of ppl in the past to learn how to afford them for ourselves. The snotty "another bag" is bad.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with people asking you how you make your money because they want to figure out how they can change their situation to have a similar lifestyle and I respect that. What I don’t respect is when they don’t believe you.

I started saying: “You dad get it for me 😏😉” They kind of have stop asking though lol

@SuperDacob

Жыл бұрын

The sugar daddy

I don't mind this question at all, but do I really have to answer the question?. I only discussed this sensitive topic with a good friend who will share their thoughts and no judgement in the discussion. I agree with you about saying that you didn't pay for it. 😉 At work, I normally say "It's my mom" I borrowed or she gave me. This is really work and the topic is closed 😊 A girlfriend said to me that she will never ever afford the chanel which we have talked about it. I said "You can". However, she is a type who shops at Zara, spend at least 200 everyweek and have lunch at a restaurant everyday. I pack my lunch and shop in Chanel 4 times a year. In the end, we probably spent the same amount of money in shopping. So, don't judge!

I have noticed that Americans are always prying to know your financial status or job title. Other cultures are more reserved in this aspect. You do raise a good point that you have to lie to hide what you can afford. It is so sad that friends can't be happy with what you have. Are they even true friends?! I've met plenty of rich people that don't care about high fashion but let me tell ya everyone is drooling to be with them.

@SuperDacob

Жыл бұрын

Great points R N 🙏🏻💖

@bellissima78

Жыл бұрын

Another KZreadr I watch is a fellow expat and vlogs about her travels or daily life, events, restaurants etc . She happens to have a Cartier ring, some nice luxury and higher end bags, frequents fashion week (for her job) and cue the comments: "Your parents must give you money" "How dare you show this stuff when many people can't pay for gas or rent!" It's RIDICULOUS. The envy is insane.

@R.N.19

Жыл бұрын

@@bellissima78 True, envy is a vice. However if the KZreadr can't stand the comments no one is forcing her to show her life. When you invite the whole world to look into your life, you are welcoming kind people and crazy people- the good and the bad alike.

They say the richer you are , the less luxury products you buy. Wealthy people don’t have to flaunt their wealth .

@fi-train8961

Жыл бұрын

This is simplistic. It’s more that most luxury shoppers are the aspirational class who earn middle to above average incomes (could be well above average like $500kUSD) but aren’t millionaires in terms of their networth/ wealth yet. Many are keeping up with the Joneses as their are almost always wealthier people.

I love that shirt you’re wearing 😊❤❤❤

@SuperDacob

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Cheri 🥹🙏🏻🥰💖

It's rude to ask, especially to people you aren't close with, but natural to wonder. Luxury goods are widely conceived of as 'rich people things' in a way that, say, paying for food delivery services all the time is not (though that can add up!). It would be the same for a million dollar house, or a $100k+ car, perceived of as something for the wealthy. And wealthy people are rare. So you wonder "wow, are they wealthy? or is there some secret way non-wealthy people can have these things too?" If being honest is important as well as remaining friendly, one could say "I prioritize these things in my spending because they make me happy", or if you don't have to prioritize anything because you have all the money in the world, to say "I've been fortunate in life". But it is an impolite question, especially from people you aren't close to, so if you want to offer a slightly rude response, 'turn around is fair play'

HI Dacob, can you help me upgrade to Tier 2? I tried following the instructions per youtube but I don’t see the “change your level” option after going to “see perks”. My sister always asks me how I pay for my luxury bags. She KNOWS I literally got a 2nd job just for additional discretionary money. I hate when people count other people’s money. Especially when she herself gets new designer clothes every week. I don’t care how she can afford it. I’m just happy for her and look forward to her fashion shows.

@deeplyerring

Жыл бұрын

Oh, youtube livechat was able to help me figure out. I had to turn on desktop mode on my ipad.

@SuperDacob

Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for your support and love Erring 🙏🏻💖💖💖 From your second comment I gather that the tier upping worked out? Let me know in case it hasn’t. 🌅🌅🌅

@deeplyerring

Жыл бұрын

@@SuperDacob yes, KZread customer service live chat was very helpful. Looking forward to the pre-shows!

I would love to know more about your former fashion career :)

Nice video Dacob. My answer when a person asks questions. That I do not wish to answer. I reply. WHAT Is Your NEED. To KNOW ..? 😊.

I would like to know in the sense that maybe im in the wrong career and can get a suggestion on how to improve my financial situation...But to be honest most people are not as considerate as me. I had a former friend call me out for getti g coffer everyday... I was getting Mcdonalds $1 coffee and splittingvit with a family member

Guest in my home: "How did you afford this house?" Me: "I saved my money!" 🤑

@kitrivers979

9 ай бұрын

hahahaa i say" not my money, the bank's money"