👋 Hello! Thanks for watching. Here's some more twenties videos to feast your eyes on: ○ Renting in your twenties: what they don't tell you: kzread.info/dash/bejne/qqior8qmaKaxj7g.html ○ Stop saying this in your twenties (and what to say instead): kzread.info/dash/bejne/kausyJSsdLWpodI.html ○ Being honest with my boyfriend: relationships in your twenties: kzread.info/dash/bejne/jHVm0siygqWdkdY.html Or watch the full series: kzread.info/head/PLb1-lu-abhnXUN45sj2ur8lmnY-s5YnQn

top tip i learned in my twenties: if you don't like a thing you're allowed to leave. Could be a job, a city, a relationship, a marriage (all of the above for me!) you're not doing anyone any favors by staying in a situation that makes you miserable. It may be hard, it may take some planning especially financially, you may disappoint people. But if you really want to leave, you're allowed to leave.

@PortraitofAsha

5 жыл бұрын

Amen. I suffered for five years in a hellish job and I'm still trying to forgive myself for doing so.

@beautybygita2917

5 жыл бұрын

i love your videos, and currently in the process of leaving all three as well (my marriage, city and job) and it is very scary and hard, but i'm thankful to have finally given myself permission to make those decisions and very excited for what comes next.

@pinkunicornglitter

5 жыл бұрын

What an excellent piece of advice.

@sahonysanchez392

5 жыл бұрын

Wow. Thank you. I needed to read this.

@givemeprimelaughter

3 жыл бұрын

THIS !!!! Which is why I now live in a city and have forever left my tiny, small minded, hometown behind.

Advice from an over 30: 1. 30s are way more satisfying than 20s get ready to enjoy knowing who you are, what you want, and gaining confidence. Your 20s are like the foundation of learning. Your 30s are the pay out. 2. I did this in my 20s but if you haven’t yet worked with a therapist do that. As soon as possible. 3. Spend 1-10 years of your 20s dedicated to learning to love and attend to YOU. Take as long as you take because you’re worth the time and energy. 4. Knowing someone a long time does not mean you have to keep giving them your time and energy. People ebb and flow. Friendships change. Relationships change. Let them go with as much grace and kindness as you can but leave the guilt. 5. Don’t do the things you’ve learned you don’t like because of the fear of missing out. I do not and have not ever enjoyed clubbing, Bars, or night life. I spent so much of my 20s doing those things because I didn’t wanna miss out. Sometimes missing out is the RIGHT choice. And finally 6. Life is not a to do list. You don’t have to own a home, have kids, get married, get a car, upgrade your job to get it done. Pursue happiness as you find it not a pre imposed status check list.

@leenanorms

5 жыл бұрын

YES, all of this is fab. Particularly like no 4. x

@smoothbrain3742

3 жыл бұрын

Late to the party but I’m 22 and I think that last bit hit hard Someone’s cutting onions Thank you

@jelenag6112

3 жыл бұрын

just turned 24 a week ago, I really appreciate this list. This years made me reevaluate my life in a big way, ty!

@sammysstart.8169

3 жыл бұрын

Woah🤯...that was good👏👏👏

@christinehollermann1806

3 жыл бұрын

Pauline Moira that was true for me and for many of the people I know and love which is why it was my number 1. Of course that may not be applicable to everyone. Take what serves you and leave the rest. ❤️

I appreciate the various angles for my short attention span bless

Learn when to be selfish. Prioritising yourself is not a bad thing as you are the one person who’s guaranteed to stick with you in the long run. If you’re burning yourself out for others, reprioritise and question why.

'ignore your past self' oh boy this is a BIG ONE.

So listen I'll just leave this here to get it out of my chest. THE ADULTS DON'T DO BETTER THAN YOU. So as a younger version of myself I always thought that adults were so in control of stuff and had sooo much knowledge about everything. It turns out they're just trying their best like everyone else and that people you thought were so amazing are really not. So it doesn't matter which age are you really, everyone struggles with themselves in different degrees of course, but we all do. It may sound silly but it hit me so hard when I realized that no one have any fucking clue of what they're doing and we're all just trying to survive. So just chill, do the best you can and don't fight others people fights :)

@shockingheaven

3 жыл бұрын

Now that's something I really needed to hear

@sarasadiq6918

2 жыл бұрын

As someone who turns 18 next month and feels like all my friends and older family members have got it together, thank you! I needed to hear this! And it makes a lot of sense

I forgot that in England people call underwear pants and they call pants trousers so the tights tip had me very confused hahaha. Great advice all around though 👍🏻

@clover3124

3 жыл бұрын

i imagined her wearing 2 pairs of jeans with tights in the middle and was also confused 😂

@heresalook

3 жыл бұрын

@@clover3124 same here 😂😂 glad I found KatzRtheBest’s comment! lol

@katethegreat4918

3 жыл бұрын

I totally forgot that as well and I’m so glad I found your comment so that I could understand.

I wish I had really understood that the pressure of becoming a 'finished person' by the end of your 20s is not only damaging - it's so fucking ridiculously WRONG! If you do life correctly and well, you will never stop growing as a person. Ever. I didn't have a clear plan for my future and for said reason never felt good enough for... well, life. But I tried my best to ignore the pressure from around me and finally got to a place where I can enjoy growing at my very own pace. IT IS EMPOWERING.

“Don’t be beholden to your past self, they wanted the best for you” yes absolutely, this is it. This is the one. The pressure to think you have to do everything you’ve ever wanted to do?? Like we don’t change and grow as people and who you were when you were 16 is now a moment of the past. This was so important, and so well explained. You’re incredible x

@leenanorms

5 жыл бұрын

xxx

Nothing in the world makes me feel as great in my own skin as DANCING! I don't mean proper dancing, I mean putting on some banging tunes and dancing around the kitchen and wiggling as much as possible. Honestly, my life has improved so much since I discovered this.

@leenanorms

5 жыл бұрын

YES! Asante the Artist does a daily dance out on Instagram stories and I live for it. I should totally start doing that in the morning before everyone else wakes up x

Joyously abandon with a sigh of relief the laughable notion that you'll ever feel "grown up."

@milaknowslight6307

5 жыл бұрын

T MC beautifully written 😊

@leenanorms

5 жыл бұрын

very very well said

@kristelfae5054

5 жыл бұрын

T MC So much yes !

@sentienttapioca5409

3 жыл бұрын

Do you write for School of Life? Lmao

@Marie-jz1qw

3 жыл бұрын

Yeeeesss! I'm turning 25 in a few weeks, I've been in a serious relationship for 3 years and we moved together more than a year ago, everything is going super well and yet I'm like "But I am still a kid... I'm clearly not an adult yet." ahah

this whole phase an exercise of data collection is so hugely helpful to use as a framework or approach to these weird and scary years

@leenanorms

5 жыл бұрын

haha yeah it's the phrase I whip out whenever anything goes wrong - 'IT'S RESEARCH, THIS IS FINE. NOTHING IS ON FIRE.'

My top thing: everything is a negotiation until someone says that it's not (for them). Ask for what you need.

Advice: -If you like drinking alcohol, always intersperse every two drinks with a very quick glass of water. If you're too drunk it will save you from regret. If you're not too drunk it will hydrate you. Win win. - There are two parts to being good with money. Budget realistically: take 3 months (or less) to monitor your spending and document it. Then make a budget from that. It is important at this point not to judge yourself harshly for what you spent! Then use that spending as a baseline and stick to it. Small pieces of advice but i hope they help. Thanks for the great video!

@vallentinac9513

5 жыл бұрын

great advice!

@miiasiin

3 жыл бұрын

Truly second the budgeting topic, was a big one for me!

haha i needed to hear the first one

@leenanorms

5 жыл бұрын

Tessa Violet APART FROM I AM THINKING ABOUT YOU TESSA CUS YOU’RE WONDERFUL. X

@EngineeringAndGlitter

3 жыл бұрын

Samesies. I'm also thinking about you. Have I met you, no. Do I love you, absolutely.

I think jealousy is ok, but just because I'm jealous of someone doesn't mean I actually want to be them. I was in theater but couldn't get my foot in the door and when I see other people in plays or musical theater I'm terribly jealous but I'm not willing to make all the sacrifices I know they had to make. A lot of my friends struggle to finds jobs, are just hanging between gigs all the time and I just couldn't do that. Letting go of dreams is hard but sometimes you have to realize that maybe your dream is not working for you in the real world. And that's ok.

@margaretle8798

3 жыл бұрын

I think that if you’re jealous you want to do or be that thing BUT what you’re talking about I think is about whether or not you SHOULD put time and effort to chase that particular dream

@anab5248

3 жыл бұрын

Thats me with ballet. Its gorgeous and majestic. But it physically hurts too much, there is way too much competition and its so stressful.

As a 27 year old, I heartily concur with this advice EXCEPT regarding rice. Why is anyone still cooking rice in a pot when rice cookers are super cheap, fool proof, take less than a minute of work on your part, and are one of the great inventions of our time??!! I'll also add, stop putting off the things you really want to do or being the person you want to be until some vague future, because it'll never happen that way. Want to be a person who volunteers time with charities? Start now. Gets in shape? Start working on it now. Calls your parents regularly? Do it now. You'll be busy your whole life and never have unlimited time that makes it easy to do the things you want. You have to decide to make time for them.

I'm 23 and on my second "big girl" job out of university--some things I've learned over the past few months: -Know my worth and value in all aspects: monetary, emotional, mental, etc. If I am putting more into something than I am getting out of it, reevaluate why I'm doing what I'm doing and if I think it's worth staying. -Just because something is meant for pleasure, does not mean it should be a no-effort ordeal. Traveling, creative pursuits, and food all take a bit of effort and grit. -Know when you're being the toxic one. This is hard and something I'm constantly working on. The biggest challenge of my 20s so far is maintaining the balance between being a good daughter to my traditional Filipino-Catholic family and staying true to my individual values. I am trying to find ways to communicate with my parents on my own beliefs when it comes to religion and traditions and am constantly struggling to communicate myself in a way that they understand (with cultural, language, and generational barriers) so any advice would be amazing!

Something that I needed to learn in my twenties: it's okay to do nothing sometimes. Just sit, chill, drink tea. You don't have to be busy every minute of your existence.

Beat laziness by starting working/studying etc. You have to start somehow. I wish I knew that

@rebornvenus

5 жыл бұрын

needed to see this, currently procrastinating right now yikes

im turning 23 this week and this was a nice reminder to be reflective. One thing I'm learning in my 20s is that my friends/other people around me are growing at different rates than me and obvi trying to figure out who they are (just like me) and that it's not always going to be cohesive. I have some friends still in uni, some are working, im living in a different country currently, etc, and people are v much influenced by their environments and new friend groups in their early 20s so tdlr I don't feel close to a lot of my closest friends from school rn but that's fine and I'm sure it will make more sense to me someday.

WASH YOUR RICE sorry for the capslock but please wash your rice and also get a rice cooker they're not that expensive and will save your life

As a still-twenties that's working through severe sh*t: perfectionism is often a defense mechanism. You're trying to control the outcome because if you are imperfect, you are vulnerable. If you are feeling unsafe to be imperfect, seriously think about what needs to change to make you feel safe and supported, other than "I just need to do better" My perfectionism arose from heavy emotional isolation and disconnection, as well as suddenly having way more responsibility and things I needed to manage, and managed to turn an already unhealthy tendency to obsess and spiral and freak out into a severe anxiety disorder that almost lost me my job and had severe physical health ramifications.

"just because you don't like reading fiction books, doesn't mean you'll never read any books" i've never reallly been into books but recently selfhelp books and psychology books are really my thing and i power through them. whereas fiction books take me months

27, things I wish I knew: You won't have time do to everything you can do - prioritize. Not sharing is caring - does this info about a random fact/event help in any way anyone involved in this convo? No? Maybe silence helps more. Sugar will mess with your health in unseen ways. Take care of that intake and EXERCISE. Just because someone has flaws and they share them with you, don't expect them to accept the same flaws in you! Off-topic: been following since 'the space you take up' vid, long before setting up my own channel. I am always happy to see how your energy, and how comfortable you are with yourself, translate on camera.

My top tip: Invest in a rice cooker 🙌 1 part rice (rinse it first), 2 parts water, press the on button, perfection every time 😍

@kaddelicious

5 жыл бұрын

And you don't have to worry abot timing, as the rice cooker keeps the rice warm and fluffy if the rice is done but the rest of the meal isn't yet :-)

@leenanorms

5 жыл бұрын

I don't know anyone that has a rice cooker, I can't get my head around having an appliance that can only make one thing, but I'm willing to open my mind lol x

@kittynekocat

5 жыл бұрын

@@leenanorms I guess it's only worth it if you eat rice on a very regular basis. I'm living in Japan atm (side note: Lex was in my city a few days ago!!!!!!!😄) and every household has one because most people eat rice at least once a day 😊

@sugarcanelemon

5 жыл бұрын

@@leenanorms I have one and it has truly changed my life. You don't only make rice in it that's the beauty of it!!! I make my morning porridge in it and yes, rice of course, but they often come with a top shelf bit thing that you put vegetables in to steam them yay! you don't have to put rice at the bottom if you don't want to just put water and voila your veg is steamed. So it is a rice cooker/steamer/porridge maker !

@kittynekocat

4 жыл бұрын

@@leenanorms I am back a year later, having discovered that rice cookers can also be used as a general hot pot 🙌 So you can make stews, curries, mac&cheese, pulled pork etc in it too 😄

I am 30! About to turn 31, which is oddly more scary. I loved the video, I was laughing for most of it. When I turned 30 I thought something would change for me, like I would transform somehow but nope... It's a bit of an anticlimax 😂 Maybe that is what I wish I had known - you are always you, you always have good moments, crap moments, revelations etc so you may as well live life now because you won't get to a higher lifeform state and you will always learn and improve (I won't lie, I hoped 30 year old me would be calm, sophisticated and glam 😂). The other thing I wish I had known was 'don't people please' - I spent so much of my 20s trying to be what everyone else wanted and, for a start, you can't, but also... You don't need to. Once people know you are who you are and you have standards and limits and will stand up for yourself, they tend to stop trying to force you to be things you don't want to be.

@leenanorms

5 жыл бұрын

YES that is such a good point - state yourself and people will leave you alone. Hopefully x

Loved all of the advice, think it should be obligatory for everyone to watch thison their first day of uni/first year of their twenties. Being nearly 25 (😭) my advice would be: 1. Only YOU can live YOUR life. 2. Thoughts are just thoughts - they don't actually mean anything unless you act upon them 3. Try and stay in the present not the past or the future 😎

would love a video about what to do when you've just finished uni! to beat the post grad blues, move out of home, make steps towards a career etc xx

Leena: Pair of tights, pair of pants, pair of tights Me, an American: Uhhhhhhh sounds uncomfortable but okay?

This back to back with the unicorn store is A LOT OF 20 SOMETHING EXISTENTIAL CRISIS CONTENT

@leenanorms

5 жыл бұрын

YES, loved the Unicorn Store, a proper gem of a film.

My favourite video on this platform in 2019. I agree with ALL of this. Especially the future thing. I was offered the "dream" marketing job in the "dream" city/country with all expenses paid to move there and I didn't want it. And that's okay. Past me, wanted that, but now me doesn't. And so instead, I'm doing things for free and that makes me happier! And, I told no one about it until it was happening, so they had no say :)

@leenanorms

5 жыл бұрын

SO WISE, WE STAN ROXANNE x

That I didn’t procrastinate just because I was lazy and I didn’t worry I had anxiety because I wanted attention- I had anxiety and life might have been easier if I’d found help sooner

@hanzib31

5 жыл бұрын

This resonates so hard. ❤️

you started saying the whole "you ARE 'that' person" and i started sweating in the million of cabin life videos i've watched this year

I would love to see a more in depth video about how you use trello!

@leenanorms

5 жыл бұрын

On it!

@roxannejoncas

5 жыл бұрын

@@leenanorms And Google Keep!

today a slightly older lady who i used to work with at our local corner shop came knocking on our door while leafletting (for the labour party, bonus points) just to ask if she could pull her tights up because they were falling down and the first thing my mum said was "do you want to borrow an extra pair to keep them up?" so this is a mother approved theorem

I JUST TURNED 20, and i'm kind of terrified, THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS GIFT!

@leenanorms

5 жыл бұрын

Hhaha GOOD LUCK, you're gunna have so much fun, your twenties are the best x

The Relationship one yes! I've been a high school teacher, and I'm always wanting to tell my teenagers how overrated having things in common with a potential partner is. I think the traits you listed are super important.

As a 22 year old who is so indecisive and passionate about so many things and dreaming and thinking about what to do next in this world, I feel so happy and thankful to have found your channel today! 💕

@catarinalauralaranja1326

3 жыл бұрын

I'm 19 and feeling the same! Glad to know I'm not alone, seems like everyone knows what they want and I I'm the only one indecisive

The "jealously is useful" transition is a cinematic masterpiece

The recognition of brazilian rice rubs my brazilian ego so much. Just a note, "wash" the rice before cooking.

The rice thing though- I feel attacked and seen. I am still not convinced there is anything between burnt or soggy. Except maybe burnt AND soggy???

@leenanorms

5 жыл бұрын

True that .

I am 23 and I found all of this valuable but THE TIGHTS SUGGESTION!! Life changing. If you're concerned about people seeing your undergarments, black spandex shorts layered over black tights is a pretty good combo imo!

When it comes to people I love, I've learned the hard way that being brave does not mean not to be scared. It means to be scared and be honest with them anyway. Trust on their own capacity to understand your side instead of 'protecting' them from the truth. It sounds almost stupid when I write it down, but it's waaaaaay easier said than done.

The one about curiosity as a thing in relationships hit so hard for me. I just remember feeling like I was in a prison with my boyfriend. Like he took my wings and broke them, because every time I wanted to fly and take him with me, he'd hold me and stop me from doing that instead 😭

One more excellent reason to get a kindle if like me you're studying a foreign language (Native Spanish speaker studying English): If you press a word you don't know you get its meaning, translation or Wikipedia article. That feature saved my life in my literature courses. Also, Google Keep is the best thing ever. I'm still halfway through my twenties so it's good that I'm already doing some of these.

Wow, these were actually useful! So happy to see an advice video that doesn't start with 'drink water' and 'meditate' aha. I'm entering my 20s soon and honestly don't know what is to some, both excited and scared to death

@leenanorms

5 жыл бұрын

hahah I hate that advice too. I would assume that if people have made it to 20 they at least know how to drink some water ;) x

Great video My favourite part was “I like big books and I cannot lie” 😂 brilliant

The jealously thing doesn't ring for me because jealousy isn't a huge emotion for me. But the other thing is that for me it's super important to be happy and excited for other people and not make everything a competition.

Number 13: children are exempt from this, I cut my hair and had multiple kids tell me it was better before (I worked at a school).

Would also recommend "surviving your 20's " by StarPuppy :)

@bethblr

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you! 💕

TELL ME THE THINGS YOU WISH YOU'D KNOWN IN YOUR TWENTIES, let's make this comment section an extensive catalogue of top-notch advice.

@mahavishnustravinskij

5 жыл бұрын

Have you seen StarPuppy's videos?

@lindseymp6897

5 жыл бұрын

About checking out library ebooks and putting them onto Kindle and sending PDFs to the Kindle - LIFE CHANGED. My mom got me a Kindle for my birthday this past year as she knows I want to read more. I wasn't sure how much I would use it because I'm currently in college and don't exactly have money to buy all the books I want. I had no idea you could put library books on the Kindle!!!! I'm so glad you added this in the video!

@madelineanderson96

5 жыл бұрын

Just because you seem happy at the moment, doesn't mean that this is you at your happiest, making the best decisions for yourself E X A M I N E

@leenanorms

5 жыл бұрын

xxxx

@zoe4706

4 жыл бұрын

Please add to the tool kit a video on making friends as an adult!

Yesss thank you for this !!!

This is THE video and advice I have needed for so long

This is a video I didn't know I needed. Thank you!

As someone who's a few years into my twenties and having learned this helped me a lot was I would say in terms of being attractive to other people, your height and body type doesn't matter, if you click with someone then it won't matter to anyone involved, if you find people do care about that or put you down for that then take that as a red flag and address it, if it's something they can't get past then cut them out. On dating apps i know from women on the other side some men say they're taller than they are and it's better just to broadcast it like I'm 5'7 and I'm only gunna match with people that are fine with shorter guys. I'm not saying having your own insecurities about your height and body type can just go away but it's something that you have to deal with yourself and confront and it's a separate thing to what someone else is going to find attractive. If anything I've found things I've previously thought were flaws in my appearance were things people found attractive.

I'm 17 and even I found this useful and informative!

Thank you! I really needed to hear some of these

Thank you for the advice on how to cook rice. I needed that :D

I love this video 😌♥️ thank you Leena

What a brilliant video - thank you.

Thus is the best flippin video ever, thanks Leena 👍😊

I really needed this video today. 10/10 for timing.

Who trained me to say I'm not that kind of person, who says what kind of person I'm, why do I have this imprinted idea of what I'm, that so far contradicts what I like and I'm interested in, because what is a self if is not your interests and passions. I make decisions in the person and the moment that I'm in not because the person who I think "I'm". - Leena Norms That was epic I think that was what I needed to hear right now, I'm a work in progress and not a finished work, thank you very much Leena ❤️

@leenanorms

5 жыл бұрын

xxxx

This was genuinely useful advice

Best advice I’ve gotten....don’t compare yourself to anyone or anything. Comparison is the thief of joy.

I really needed to see this today! Thankyou Leena💜

Many, many wise words! Also, I love the different locations and the editing style of this video!

You in the bath made my day. You also said amazing and helpful things! But come on, that bath moment :)

this tights thing is legit gonna save my life

LOVE YOUR T SHIRT!

As a 19 year old, this is v much appreciated (particularly your rice cooking tips bc I swear I do it differently every time)

Love the honesty and the advice, keep up the awesome!!

Actually useful and insightful advice. Thanks, Lena!

I’m gonna turn 20 this year and I absolutely LOVED this video! Thank you so so so much for making this :D

Have been feeling quite lost recently - genuinely love this video. Thank you ❤️

I’m 16 and this was very helpful!! Thanks for being my youtube big sister :)

such great advice already starting from number 1! thanks so much for this awesome vid leena, 30 is gonna be amazing for you😊💖

This video has was soooooo good. Thank you so much for your great advice ✨✨✨

Think this might have just saved my 20s thank u queen 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

This is such a creative and fun, yet super helpful video! thanks Leena!

I have just stumbled across your channel and omg is it golden! I'm binging my way through videos and not only are you wildly delightful, you have some of the most thoughtful and genuinely useful advice I have ever heard! Thank you so much!!!

I just rewatched this video and as a student I honestly cannot thank you enough for the emailing PDF's to a kindle tip!

I love your channel!

You're so lovely, thank you for your content

i turned 20 three months ago. and this, i see, is (and will be) very helpful. thank you, leena!

An in-depth video on kindle would be lovely. You blew my mind with the convert tip!

This is some of the best advice I’ve heard lately

WHAT A WISE WOMAN YOU ARE, LEENA. THANKS FOR SHARING YOUR WISDOM WITH US. ❤

"it will go SCHHHHHHHHHH!" - I knew exactly what you meant. That's how cooking instructions should always be done. Thanks :) Loved the video

This is the first video I have seen of yours and let’s be honest this was bloody brilliant

such WISDOM thank you this.

Wow I love your attitude! I just found your channel, I read a Norwegian article about publishing and they had featured one of your videos in it. So glad I found you, you just gained a subscriber!

So glad you’re here to hold my hand through life, Leena. You’re like the very cool, slightly mad aunt I never had ❤️

13:20 I really needed to hear that, thank you so much!!

I cant believe how much i need this video at this very point in time. This week has me thinking about this kind of topic as an unemployed (and embarassed about it) 24 year old!!!!!! 😍😍😍😍

I'm turning 20 this year and I think I just got a great head start thank u for sharing!

would like to say a huge huge thank you for this! I'm 19 & i fully expect all of this advice to come in very handy in the future, but more immediately, I'm at uni & that kindle trick is life-changing! Thank you so much !!

This was the best 20s advice video ive ever seen. Spewin straight wisdom. Thank you, i subscribed