Homophobia at Christmas
Christmas 2017 will be one for the record books in my personal life as being one of the saddest Christmases ever. I have come to the conclusion that my oldest sister is a homophobe after the many years of off-the-cuff remarks and sly digs aimed at my sexuality. This video documents what was said and what happened over the festive period, reducing me to tears in some moments.
One thing I can finally say, now that I am in my 30's is that being part of the LGBTQ Community has saved me in a lot of ways. It also has been a main obstacle for my family to accept it. I would say they have been tolerate of the lifestyle; never showing interest or wanting to know much about our history, but now, in a new chapter of my life, I can confidently say that I am proud to be who I am, no apologies.
Stay strong young LGBTQ people out there. You are loved.
Family are family, but friends are the family you choose. Surround yourself with love and admiration, and never forget who you are and how strong you can be.
I am disappointed in my Mum and twin-sister for not even checking in afterwards but my loyalties lie with myself now. Time to put Kyle first and be my best self for 2018.
Stop Homophobia Now!
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My heart goes out to you. What a bloody awful time you went through on what was supposed to be a day of families getting together and celebrating the fact that you are all together! Glad that you've staying strong and determind not to tolerate this level of abuse. xAlex
@kyleeccleston9596
6 жыл бұрын
FARMECROSS thank you! Means the world x
I’m sorry you had a shit Christmas, that’s not nice for anyone. Are you expecting too much? I didn’t hear anything your Sister said as homophobic. It’s nice that she calls your Nan everyday, I would if I could. I moved to London, I chose this life. I don’t expect my family to visit me, it’s a different lifestyle; I make the effort and I’m happy to do so. I don’t know if gifting a gay/self help book in retaliation is good for anyone. I’ve read that book, it’s a LONG read 😂 Your Mum doesn’t care what you spend on her, you shouldn’t compare your offerings that way. Mum’s are just happy to see you. My Mum doesn’t really mention my relationships because it’s my business, she knows what she needs to and I don’t crave a relationship. Hope you sort things.
@kyleeccleston9596
6 жыл бұрын
Hey darling. Yeah, me and my Grandma did realise that I do have high expectations and over the course of 15 years, the digs and treatment my sister has given me is homophobic. Saying I don't belong in my family because of me being gay is not acceptable in any situation, nor is it necessary. I believe she is homophobic because otherwise, what could it be? You wouldn't constantly throw shade at me being gay for so many years. Over the course of 2 and half years, I have gone up 67 times, and I mention that because my big sister has come down a fair few times without even telling me, not even a simple text. Its just very strange. The gay/self help book wasn't in retaliation, it was merely to get my point across that my family should educate themselves a little. My grandma asked to borrow the book so if a 86 year old shows interest, then it just shows something. I think you have missed the point of the "mum doesn't care what you spend on her". My sister throws this sort of shade at me all the time saying "why haven't you got mum more, or I can see you go out in London so you could have spent more" etc...this sort of attitude never helps anyone if you pit yourself against one another and throw nasty comments. I guess I am over sensitive about the situation. Maybe thats my problem, I craved for a relationship that in the end, broke it. But referring back to your comment about the comments my sister said not being homophobic; I believe they are, why else bring up my sexuality as an insult constantly. Thanks, I guess time will tell how this works out!
Omg! Kyle, that was absolutely awful and sad! You didn't deserve those horrible abuse! Stay strong and sending you hugs x
@kyleeccleston9596
6 жыл бұрын
Will William thank you beaut! I really appreciate it!! x
First time I've cried a little in a while. I feel nothing but pride in you! Revealing an attempt a suicide is something I can't do....yet! Guess I can say I really do understand at least that!You're Grandma,cousins ,nephews & nieces aside,I'm afraid that you're older sister does have something buried deep inside against you. To use it,like a weapon,against you splitting the family apart is wrong on all levels.I will always fight for LGBTQ people,yeah we all don't get along,even fight,but we are a family apart! You're Mom,all said & done,is alone,with her eldest children fighting,must be hard. Made worse by a simple fact,you have done nothing wrong!!! Hate to be the one to say it,even if you block me,but if you don't place Kyle Eccleston first,ABOVE ALL OTHERS!!!,including that sister,I dread to think what you'll do! Be kind Be love Be positive.
Kyle, petal, you have been the subject of a hate crime, and you should report it. Yes, I appreciate its hard, especially when it involves a member of your own family, but if you had a family member who was involved in domestic violence, you would not think twice about reporting it to the police. Homophobia is no different. Derogatory language and humiliation, are often viewed by people as "soft crimes", but when used as a hate crime, they are anything but "soft". Don't suffer in silence. If you DM me on Twitter, I'll give you contact details of a friendly LGBT officer for the Oval area. Remember, petal, its your life, and be proud of it.