i lost my aunt recently to alcoholism and in order to 'honor' her, some of her family and friends took a shot of her favorite drink (fireball) and i know they were trying to cope with the pain of loss but it just feels so so so wrong. imagine shooting up heroin to commemorate someone you lost to heroin, it just feels insanely disrespectful despite the good intentions. thanks for this video -- i wish alcoholism wasn't so demonized/lighthearted and instead treated with more sympathy

@LusciousTwinkle

3 жыл бұрын

Lots of heroin users do just that...and hopefully remind themselves that using alone leads to death. one of the things decriminalisation will lead to is addicts not having to be so secret about their habits. Not that we want it done in public...just that they need a buddy system, quality testing etc. There would be so many less deaths.

@vomotorium

3 жыл бұрын

@@LusciousTwinkle agreed, alienating addicts is the worst thing to do and i hope one day we can have like. reliable support systems for any kind of addict cuz they need that care desperately

@xXHireneXx

3 жыл бұрын

@Null, I was reading this and I thought you were going to state the swore to never drink again.... My hopes were to high and wholesome for this.

@vomotorium

3 жыл бұрын

@@xXHireneXx im so sorry hahah, i do wish they at least held off drinking for a bit just out of respect for her but , nope....just another excuse to take a shot lol

@hannabarbarawojcik

3 жыл бұрын

UGH i have SOOO been there

The availability of alcohol is one of the biggest obstacles. Imagine everytime you went out to eat as a heroin addict you were given a selection of different types of heroin at varying strengths and purities to go with your burger. Alcoholics that manage sobriety have to have more self control than other addicts imo. The fact you can't get a prescription for managed heroin addiction is ridiculous. Hospitals keep booze on site for people so they don't relapse. There's a clear double standard

@josephsmith3908

2 жыл бұрын

Heroin is actually as available as booze in my city it's crazy

@profleapstrum506

2 жыл бұрын

@Joseph Smith Damn thats rough.

@K4inan

2 жыл бұрын

In my country you can't buy it on Sundays, and it closes much earlier on Saturdays... I remember getting super wasted three weeks ago, Saturday, did an all-nighter and wanted more booze. I waited to leave at 9:30 AM so I would be there when it opens at 10 AM, and when I arrive it's closed, cuz it's always closed on Sundays... It actually made my heart sink, and I almost called a friend to ask if he can ''lend'' me some alcohol but then I was like ''wtf am I doing?'' Haven't had a drop since that day.

@nos9784

2 жыл бұрын

@@K4inan I don't know you and I don't know enough about problematic alcohol consumption. I just hope you'll always feel that strength, and I hope you live the life you want to live in the long run! :) I wish all the best to all you strangers on the internet!

@damianjones6546

2 жыл бұрын

It's really tough staying sober from alcohol. It's everywhere, and everyone drinks it.

"why is this poison so socially acceptable?" --something i ask myself everyday as i get closer and closer to quitting my liquor store job cause seeing the misery and suffering in peoples' eyes is getting to be too much for me

@Strange9952

2 жыл бұрын

Glad i'm not the only one lol

@ADevilFromHeaven

2 жыл бұрын

@Kamil S i dont think anyone is saying heroin is a good thing. Its poison as well, and its a sweet tricky poison, but the way alcohol is normalised in society when it so changes someones personality, and people get weird and aggressiv when it affects others as well as your self (not saying H using doesnt affect others because you need money for it etc) but on alcohol people become evil, on H... Its just a calmness.. Both should be illegal because both are addictive poison, but the double standards about alcohol compared to other drugs are crazy.

@ilayawolf7143

2 жыл бұрын

it’s also because it has been illegal back in the days but people still drank and they thought the law didn’t change much anyway so why make it illegal

@ADevilFromHeaven

2 жыл бұрын

@Kamil S yeah i

@AYUCMax

2 жыл бұрын

every drug should be socially acceptable my body my choice

I’m an alcoholic, I’ve been sober for 13 months. The way alcohol is promoted is frightening. Thank you for sharing your experience, strength and hope

@mindsigh4

2 жыл бұрын

ur coming up on ur 2 year mark.🙏🏼🌎🕊️

@rachelwease6210

2 жыл бұрын

@@mindsigh4 I am 🙏🏼 thank you Carl ❤️

@noxtinoxti5525

2 жыл бұрын

@@rachelwease6210 Im an alcoholic and about to be in rehab for 3 months. :( Until then I'll just keep drinking as apparently it's dangerous for me to stop without medication and treatment.

@rachelwease6210

2 жыл бұрын

@@noxtinoxti5525 best of luck in rehab 🙏🏼🙏🏼 giving up alcohol was the best thing I ever did

@OldTerrible

2 жыл бұрын

Great work stay strong. Change your whole way of living try to find happiness in the small things in life.the more years of sobriety you get the easier it is eventually you will completely change the way you feel about drinking and will want nothing to do with it you will associate it with all the problems it caused. I've been sober 15 years drank a 5th of vodka + a day for years. Good luck you can do it but it requires a lot of change in your life and thinking.

Alcohol has definitely destroyed more lives/families.

@auntmaddie

3 жыл бұрын

It's WAY more accessible/acceptable. My Mom was a junkie but it was the alcohol that killed her at 52 overall. You name it she shot it. We had money to a fault, really. I just turned 50 yesterday, I smoke weed, that's it. Herion/oxy also alters your brain (receptors) from the minute you take it.

@donaldboughton8686

3 жыл бұрын

50,000 deaths per annum in the UK.

@justagirpup

3 жыл бұрын

For me at least has affected 6 members of my family that i know of from alcohol.... Zero heroin addicts personally

@kimberlymejia2070

3 жыл бұрын

My dad was an alcoholic for as long as I know. He died a year ago from cirrhosis of the liver, not only does it affect physical health but also mental health. We had a complicated relationship because of his addiction, but its very much real and its very much serious. Worst part was he never accepted his addiction

@smeckledorffed1120

3 жыл бұрын

I feel like if heroin was as normalized as alcohol, the opposite would be true. Heroin ravages communities. I’ve never seen alcohol do the same.

As a pharmacist who's struggled with addiction myself, I completely support the legalisation and regulation of drugs. The idea that substance dependence is something that can be "fixed", with a goal of no substance use completely, is hurting more people than it's helping.

@BreezyBlank

3 жыл бұрын

I agree. Also sending people to jail for drug use is barbaric too. They’d be better sent to detox and rehab than jail/prison. Ugh. It’s ludicrous.

@mophead7759

3 жыл бұрын

@@BreezyBlank exactly. addiction is a medical condition, not a crime

@aggresivesushili4445

3 жыл бұрын

It is the same with sex education, stop preaching abstinence

@sadiepeterson1756

3 жыл бұрын

I so agree i hope i can happen soon

@susannebuchholz785

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely true!In Germany it is possible since 2003 to get heroine as a medicine for people who are addicted (after you examined by doctors and psychologists because they want to avoid that non addicted people come into the program).And the majority of the people became healthier and looked much better. I was one of the first addicts who came into the program (I used methadone before but it didn't work, I don't like it).For me it was a good experience.

To any former alcoholics out there, don't let yourself get into a false sense of security. The way she talks about how she views alcohol now is exactly how I felt for years. When I got sober even the smell of alcohol made me, no joke, heave. For around 3-4 years I thought I was completely done with alcohol. Maybe every once in a while I thought about it, but that was immediately overshadowed by all of the times that shit nearly killed me. All the times in hospital. All the times in rehab. I thought there was no way I would ever touch it again. Then, I experienced one of the worst losses of my life. Now I drink even more than I did many years ago. It's ironic, I used to say I did it because I was just "young and stupid", yet here I am again. My point is, don't let your guard down, as it were. Because that's the moment your world will change.

@relight6931

Жыл бұрын

Hang in there, reach out for help. The world is better with you in it.

@diddles3383

Жыл бұрын

Dorian's pronouns are he/they for future reference

@maes2644

Жыл бұрын

I hope you're able to get well again. You're worth it!

@christelhain

Жыл бұрын

Khoros-Mythos: Try naltrexone injections. They are miraculous. It takes addiction out of the equation.

@80islandia

8 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing. I am six years sober and feel that same lack of desire/borderline disgust for alcohol. I am considering dating someone new and wondered at the back of my mind, “could I have the occasional drink with them since alcohol “has lost its power” over me?” Your words shut those thoughts right down. Please know that there’s always a way back. It’s taken me a long time and many tries to break my various cycles of addiction. You will find your way out of this. ❤

My ex boyfriend is a recovering alcoholic and the nights I couldn’t find him were some of the scariest. It is a drug we just forget because it’s so accessible.

Alcohol is INSANELY normalized. In such formative years as well. People will drink with their parents at 15. It's acceptable to drink and get drunk. And it's such a dangerous DEADLY addiction. We need to take alcohol a lot more seriously because people think that it's JUST alcohol. Alcohol is a deadly drug. And people need to be careful with it. The fact that it's so available and that it's legal definitely makes people not think of it as a drug as well. People think drugs are bad and taboo. But they're just drugs. Substances that can alter the mind or body. What makes them "bad" is what you do with them.

@theresalayton9286

3 жыл бұрын

Wow VERY WELL SAID!!!👏👏👏👏👏

@SebastianSeanCrow

3 жыл бұрын

I totally agree! I’m fine with kids drinking with their parents but only when their parents do it as a special occasion and when they make them drink responsibly (I had alcohol at New Years at 17 but I was only allowed 1 drink and I had to wait until I was 20 before my mom allowed any more than that). Some drugs are def more harmful than others but a lot of it boils down to safety and self control etc

@Gingersnaps_the_pumpkin_kitty

3 жыл бұрын

Then the issue is that we moralize substances instead of teaching people better. Alcohol is only really a problem when you misuse it. It's not a bad thing, it is a thing. A thing you need to use responsibly. A thing that can get out of hand if you try to rely on it too much. These addictions are symptoms of our views on mental health as a society. If people were taught how to live healthy lives MENTALLY from a young age, we would make it less of a "needed" coping mechanism and easier to break a reliance on. This isn't about good and bad, it's about responsibilities and how frankly we tend to neglect them as a society. I'm making this distinction because people think banning things works and is the solution, prohibition just makes it worse because it furthers and even tries to justify our neglect. It should be normal. It's a normal substance. But so should be good mental health care and self discipline.

@cheycheyfriend247

3 жыл бұрын

@@Gingersnaps_the_pumpkin_kitty yeah I know that's what I said maaaaan.

@cheycheyfriend247

3 жыл бұрын

@@Gingersnaps_the_pumpkin_kitty people enjoy moralizing things though. I think it helps them feel superior in a way.

My family doesn’t understand alcoholism. My aunt is an alcoholic and everyone in our family gets mad at her for the way she acts and how much she drinks. But they enable the fuck out of it. They always bring alcohol to her house, they always drink with her. They just get mad that she can’t control herself. They think she is capable of controlling it and is just unwilling to.

@rachelchatlosh5264

3 жыл бұрын

😥

@nilspochat8665

2 жыл бұрын

If you'd bring a rock at my place i sure as hell know i'm going to put it in a spoon. And fast. That's actually a good comparison now yhat i think about it. How about using that analogy on your family members?

@mindsigh4

2 жыл бұрын

in the A.A.12 step program, step 1 says" we admitted we were powerless over alcohol----that our lives had become unmanageable." well, i balked at that part "...we were POWERLESS over alcohol..." i didn't like saying i was powerless, i could DECIDE not to drink, or on some days i could just take it easy on the drink, i mean, that's not POWER-LESS, so, to be honest, i realized that it was more accurate to say that "when i drink, at some point, the effects of alcohol were MORE POWERFUL than my will to control the drinking"& so i see it like leverage on a teeter totter, if im 180 lbs, sitting on one side, then it takes more than 180 on the other side to be more powerful (more weight) than me, my will. so, my new improved, rigorously honest, EDITED step ONE now reads," i admitted i was less powerful than the effects of alcohol" now, to some people, that may seem like nit-picking or denial, but i think it's important to be rigorously honest with myself, & not to say words that i don't fully mean.

@emilypayne5751

2 жыл бұрын

it can be incredibly hard to tell an alcoholic you won't bring them alcohol or won't be around them when they're drinking. you'd think it would be straightforward to set a boundary and stick to it but they bring out the full arsenal of manipulation and guilt trips to make you change your mind. Don't know if that's the case in your family but it's really frustrating to deal with

@errrkt

Жыл бұрын

Bro, I went out the other night to party with some friends. One of my friends kept trying to peer pressure me and my other friend (former alcoholic) to take shots with him. I told him no like 3 times, finally I said I was sober and never wanna touch that stuff again, he blew it off as a joke and kept asking for us to take shots with him. It really blew my mind that he didn't stop urging after I mentioned that me and my other friend were sober. It was like he didn't take our addiction and all the struggles we had because of the addiction seriously. Like being an addicted to alcohol is a joke.

@rhondamiller9209

11 ай бұрын

I hope you realize that that is not really your friend , if he was, he would not pressure you in the beginning to take a drink. I think you need to reevaluate that friendship and let him go.

You are the only content creator I have found that is talking about addiction and eating disorders. I struggle with both. I have been clean for years but the eating disorder started before and is definately present in the back of my mind. It's nice to see people who have recovered.

@ThatBlondeRecluse

Жыл бұрын

I, too, am recovering from both & appreciate this place. I’ve been substance-sober, but the ED was there first & it’s the most difficult…gotta eat every day, after all 😓

The fact that alcohol is so normalised makes it hard for alcoholics to recognise when it's a problem too, especially if they're around others who are also heavy drinkers. Thanks for such an insightful video.

@guyrose2350

2 жыл бұрын

@Kamil S literally no, there’s plenty of heroine “recreational users” just like their are plenty of alcohol users who are only recreational. Not al heroine users are addicts, just like all alcohol users are alcoholics, but alcoholism is a normalised issue, I’ve had friends tell me they have issues and most other people shut them down saying it’s normal, when it’s not. It’s so hard for them to get help because unless you’re doing a shot of vodka when you wake up, people don’t think you need help. There’s a spectrum of addiction, not everyone is a daily user, some just can’t control themselves when they start.

@fukcensorship9395

2 жыл бұрын

@@guyrose2350 That is really rare people that do that or people that don't have addicted personality I've been around all kinds of drugs And I could tell you there are more people that can drink just every weekend compared to somebody that uses heroin That would be said something like cocaine or math there is more people that can do that occasionally without getting super addicted Most People that are alcoholics or people that drink all the time Most at a time have anxiety or depression So they self medicate But people that just like to drink occasionally can go days those days without drinking You're acting like if you just had a few drinks on a Saturday that you're alcoholic lmfao

@k80_

Жыл бұрын

Especially for women, especially especially for older/ parenting age women. This has been happening since the 50s when women were encouraged to drink to get through the day and through sex, to now when they are told to drink “mommy juice” in order to get through parenting. These all stem from the fact that being a wife or mother can be extremely isolating, especially in the US where homes are single family and single generation. Independence is also romanticized but can quickly turn to isolation when you don’t have a support system or close relationships outside your family The alcoholics in my life who have gotten treatment have had their lives enriched just by the fact that they are forced to go hang out with people they have a bunch in common with at least once a week

probably the scariest thing is that if you want, you can get addicted to anything. hunger, excercise, internet, alcohol, drugs. every illness is valid, so is every addiction. I am glad, You are still around, Dorian. Wishing You all the best and more years in staying sober. Sending a virtual hug to You from Poland.

@Gingersnaps_the_pumpkin_kitty

3 жыл бұрын

But just because it's valid doesn't make you an immoral or moral person. You're ability to be a good or bad person doesn't ride on these factors, which I think is another discussion we need to have as a society. That these topics and problems are *amoral.*

@zuzannakluk-zajkowska3863

3 жыл бұрын

@@Gingersnaps_the_pumpkin_kitty I agree that the stigma is not really helping the ones who are seeking help in coping and overcoming addictions. The fact you seek help should not make you someone you are not.

@barbarahren5208

3 жыл бұрын

I just asked for her name, its amazing thats Dorian, it was meant for my baby, bt last week I changed it. Now he is 5 years old Dominik.

@lobaetoile8440

3 жыл бұрын

@@Gingersnaps_the_pumpkin_kitty That's a weird thing to say... What do you mean with "these topics are amoral"? We're talking about addictions, addictions have to do with obsessive human behaviors... And human behaviors can be morally questioned. Now, I'm not saying "all addicts are bad people", I don't believe that. I think it's far more complicated, and also, it's hard to classify people as "good" or "bad", because we all do good and bad things and our intentions and circumstances behind the same actions also vary a lot. Anyways, what do you mean with "amoral"??

@Gingersnaps_the_pumpkin_kitty

3 жыл бұрын

@@lobaetoile8440 the action of taking or not taking a drug isn't moral or immoral. And the substance it's self isn't immoral or moral. Neither make you a better person or a worse person. And the substance isn't good or evil, it's just that substance. Whether or not you're a good person relies on other factors and the substance can be used for both good and evil. So drugs aren't bad but abusing them is and being someone who took/tried that drug doesn't make you bad, how you treat others on or off of them would. So the drugs *themselves* are amoral, as in lacking inherently morality. It's what you do with them that's good or bad. And using them isn't inherently one way or the other. Like making medicine or drugging someone. One's good the other is bad, not because drugs were involved but because of what you did with them. (And btw that was a good question, I've been dealing with people much less polite and much less interested in discussion than you blowing up my inbox with hate comments. So this was more appreciated than you'll probably ever know ☺️)

I just need to write this: your experiences are and were valid as fuck. Totally. But they are anecdotal. And I’ve seen the reverse. I’ve seen alcoholics who are more or less functional. I’ve seen heroin nearly kill one friend and killing another friend.

@aurora_skye

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear that :(

@freedomdude5420

2 жыл бұрын

I smell environment and genetics in play. I think addiction is more complex then people give it credit. I think preferences involved, too.

@thetinglessasmrtist

Жыл бұрын

Agreed that they're anecdotal. This is the first time I've heard someone being an heroin addict who was functional and their overall experience was positive.

@freedomdude5420

Жыл бұрын

@@thetinglessasmrtist The problem is they make it into a black and white situation and that’s exactly what causes more problems and leads to more drug addiction down the road that’s why I’m not a big fan of making it mythical as far as crime and stuff though there are some things that should be an absolute no, but drugs are a little more complex than just being addicted.

I'm a young early-stage alcoholic from a family of alcoholics. I just relapsed last night. thank you for this video.

@diamondangel3442

2 жыл бұрын

Hope you're better now and staying sober. Or if you're at low, I'm sure it'll get better soon :) Keep the good people around you and take care of your physical and mental health. Eat healthy, pet animals, talk to loved ones, go out on a walk whenever you can. I'm sure you can do it! Much love to you :)

@imcomingforyou.3245

2 жыл бұрын

Healing isn’t linear. You’re doing a great job

@AtibaVV

2 жыл бұрын

Svck4L be aware protect yourself gvng

@diddles3383

Жыл бұрын

Stay strong buddy!

@averagezyzzenjoyer5630

Жыл бұрын

Do you like weed ? Because my number one Tipp would be to replace your addiction with a weed addiction which won't ruin you that much

People think it’s weird that I DON’T drink. Like, I’ve been made fun of for not wanting to drink. It’s insanely normalized.

@Jill4ChrisRedfeild

3 жыл бұрын

I'm a light drinker (one or two drinks every 3 months? maybe?) and its because I saw my dad pound 40-50 cans per weekend before driving to work during the week (he never drove drunk, he just worked in a different part of the UK so he'd use the weekends when he was home to "catch up" on his drink) and suffer diabetes type 2 because of it as well as being a short tempered prick at times. He and my mum would have shouting matches all the time, there was infidelity, it was nasty. He doesnt drink as much anymore since mum died. But because of this I drink very lightly. I had a friend in uni who was teatotal and didn't drink at all because of a similar but more extreme issue, and when we went out on nights out or for dinner with friends she'd get *hounded* for not drinking as if her not drinking was making other people not have fun? It was disgusting. I had to back her up a ton and tell people off so many times and I'd usually do it in a joking way so their already-drunk-ass wouldn't get violent or anything towards us sober girls. I just wanted to scream at them like, "If someone not partaking in your drug of choice makes you upset mate, maybe you're the one with a problem?" Afterall, insecurity speaks loud. Like how some people judge others by how they look and gossip because they themselves are insecure and think other people are doing the same to them. You do you Sileena

@dannydarkense5500

2 жыл бұрын

I don't know if this will help you but my sis has never drunk alcohol because her stepfather drank and she wanted to be nothing like him, but her 'drink of choice' was orange jiuce with ONE ice cube. That was her thing, and that one ice cube totally took people's attention away from the lack of alcohol. It's worth a try.

@lumik.l4693

2 жыл бұрын

same, gets annoying having to say "no" 11 times because an entire group of people won't give up on trying to persuade you to drink. Saying its because of my meds doesn't help either. Had someone offer me 5 bucks to drink after I told them that. (i dont meet or talk to anyone anymore so its not a problem now)

@Lily-wl2pu

2 жыл бұрын

I rarely drink, I don't even like the taste of alcohol.. and people think it's absurd or impossible not to drink it. Unfortunately it's considered a good way to socialise.

@ADevilFromHeaven

2 жыл бұрын

Its good you dont. Alcohol is poison.

My uncle who was a life long heroine addict recently passed away. The job of clearing out his house was put onto my brother and I, which was oddly exciting because I'd regrettably not really known him that well as an adult. His house was absolutely packed, and we found a lot of weird stuff. One of the most interesting things we found was a book/essay he'd written on his old typewriter about how prescription heroine is the only way to solve "the heroine problem." I read the whole thing and completely agreed with everything he'd written. Sadly, the next thing I found was a brief case completely full of rejection letters from every newspaper, magazine and TV news show stating that it was not a topic they were willing to cover.

@suedeheadd

Жыл бұрын

i know this is a comment that's well over a year old, but i think that it'd be interesting if you manage to post it online, even if it's just a link on a tweet to a google doc with scans of his essay. i hope you and your family are doing well nowadays after the loss of your uncle

@sackedpotatoes4170

Жыл бұрын

You could publish it in his honor and maybe use a portion/entirety of each sale to donate a charity that helps with heroin addiction. It could be really powerful. Hope you’re doing ok! :)

@stephaniepantalonie

Жыл бұрын

Publish posthumously ❤

I cried as soon as you mentioned seizures. At the peak of my alcoholism I would be having seizures at work or on public transport once or twice a month and I was in complete denial about it being tied to my drinking. These seizures nearly ruined my life, and I have a long term shoulder problem as a result. Thank you for highlighting this issue that isn’t talked about enough!!

@Irgendwelche5

2 жыл бұрын

Me too. Had a seizure at work once. Lost my job bc of it. Thats when I first realized I really need to stop with this stupid alcohol shit lol

The way she speaks… she has so much self awareness. Her comprehensive knowledge about the subject would make her an amazing therapist

I grew up around family members who did harder drugs like meth and heroin and I feel like my childhood was much nicer than some of my friends who grew up around alcoholics, and that sounds crazy to say because of societal ideas of alcohol

@ipek2556

3 жыл бұрын

wow,, how would you describe growing up like this? also sorry I don't wanna be nosy,, i just saw this kind of statement for the first time so if you don't feel comfortable its totally cool!

@carolinefake9920

3 жыл бұрын

A lot of alcoholics are sooo angry. It’s a very dangerous dangerous addiction.

@angelwings381

3 жыл бұрын

@@ipek2556 the people partaking were very self involved and I spent a lot of my childhood with different family members to try and shelter me from it. But even if they were out of it or jittery, they still loved me and tried to care for me the best they could. Alternatively, I’ve seen many alcoholics have anger streaks or get very emotional, which is a lot more affecting. For the most part the bad part for me was emotional distance instead of being in a more, what I would call “abusive” relationship with the people.

@liska7872

3 жыл бұрын

my mom is alcoholic and it was a nightmare, i still to this day like heroin energy more, its more peaceful,alcohol is dark and awful IMO

@ON-qy1ou

3 жыл бұрын

@@carolinefake9920 definitely! Im recovering from booze addiction and I was a super angry drunk. I'm not an angry person sober at all and how I acted was not actually (despite the common saying) true to how I felt. It really did feel like Dr.Jekyll and Mr.Hyde. Alcohol can be terrifying.

My dad has been an alcoholic my entire life. He isn't a mean drunk or anything, and tries his hardest to not drink, but it was really difficult growing up. As an adult, you realize your parents aren't superheroes and they have their own demons. It's dangerous how desensitized society is to alcohol/alcoholism in general.

@shroomshroom5945

3 жыл бұрын

It’s truly a disease. So sad that people can’t see that and blame that person.

@tiffanymcnerlin157

3 жыл бұрын

@@decomposingdiamond7355 yessss even speaking for myself who has a normal relationship with alcohol, if I was to go to a party and NOT drink then at least one person would try to pressure me to drink. Not to be mean, but just to party. However, if the same thing was to happen, except this time with drugs and I said no, then no one would likely press the issue. I'm sorry you had to experience alcoholism in your family. It's really tough, and should be taken much more seriously by society.

@carolinahuerta7408

3 жыл бұрын

I thought I was the only one with a drunk father that is not necessarily mean. He is a good person on the inside. But his addiction is taking the best of him. I'm sending you support and good vibes.

Congrats on 3 years sober!! 🎉🎉🌟 In America in the early 90s, when my mom was in residency (to be a doctor), apparently they could prescribe a beer for alcoholics when they were concerned about seizures/death, but they stopped BECAUSE OF THE OPTICS. People are literally dying from withdrawal bc hospitals don't want to look bad.

@hotpocket_42o

2 жыл бұрын

how ironic cause wouldn’t they look better if less people died in their beds??

@TheGrandGamers

2 жыл бұрын

They still provide alcohol to people with withdrawals in hospitals. Maybe not all of them, but this is still very common practice as it's pretty much the only way to help an alcoholic in withdrawal. It's not like cigarettes, you cannot quit alcohol cold turkey or you can die. My ex was in the hospital with DT's and they gave her beer.

@modshroom

2 жыл бұрын

@@TheGrandGamers its funny you can quit painkillers/opiates/literal heroin cold turkey and be perfectly fine (you'll just want it really bad and feel uncomftrouble without it) but there are no negative health effects and you definitely won't die. Meanwhile quit alchohol cold turkey and you will die. crazy

@samperry1443

2 жыл бұрын

@@TheGrandGamers they don't give alcohol, they give benzos

@WABP860

2 жыл бұрын

@@TheGrandGamers maybe in some countries. In Austria and Italy they're ahead in pharmacological treatment of alcohol withdrawal, they don't prescribe or give alcohol

You're so lucky that your heroin addiction was as functional and..... positive? I suppose..... I come from a tough background and I started when I was 12. I'm almost 26 and it's the worst it's ever been. Like $500 a day. I know a lot of people who got sick from heroin cut with morphine (gives you the worst itchy pins and needles feeling too), or heroin cut with benzos.

Methadone while still using can save lives honestly, because getting sick is what makes you go nuts and lose everything.

@thedrugthatkilled

3 жыл бұрын

That's some harm minimisation right there!

@LusciousTwinkle

3 жыл бұрын

Actually MANY people die while using meth because its so strong. Its way more addictive than heroin (try a month short term withdrawals rather than a week and a year of long term withdrawals rather than a month). Its expensive and people still use heroin while on it...making it harder to gauge how close you are to ODing. Heroin is cheaper and addicts should just be prescribed it.

@toesrus9852

3 жыл бұрын

@@LusciousTwinkle are you talking about methadone or methamphetamine?

@LusciousTwinkle

3 жыл бұрын

@@toesrus9852 What do you think?

@noodlecatcountry

3 жыл бұрын

@@LusciousTwinkle I agree, I wrote another comment saying prescription heroin should definitely be a thing. FYI I'm on methadone, I know how bad it sucks, but it did help me out of homelessness because I didn't need to focus on staying well constantly.

the way people romanticize alcohol abuse as something that only the cool kids do while demonizing hard drug usage doesn't sit right with me. if you're going to shit on one, shit on the other as well.

@venus67venus

3 жыл бұрын

I agree! In one way I felt like Dorian did the opposite and that’s very harmful as well. She did not have a typical experience with heroin at all

@Milenaiguess

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly, keep the same energy, people are dying because of both and addiction isn’t fun or quirky & edgy.

@kormendymatyas8667

2 жыл бұрын

not like alcohol isnt hard drug lol

Lost my dad to alcoholism. I lost him three times, actually. Once when we had to move away from him, once when he couldn't live with himself and went to live abroad homeless, and the final time when he finally killed himself with it, developing incurable throat cancer that took away all his teeth, his ability to speak and finally his ability to eat. He was 48 when he died, 2 weeks after I had seen and hugged him for the last time and told him I would visit again. He never knew he wouldn't make it but all the doctors did and never told him.

I’ve been addicted to both, I had to do horrendos things to fund my heroin addiction otherwise I would be violently ill but I also had to do those same things to fund my alcohol addiction otherwise I would end up having a seizure and could possibly die. Not a lot of people know this but alcohol and benzo withdrawals are the only two that can actually kill you. Alcohol addiction is on the same playing field as heroin addiction in my eyes, they’re both serious and they both require professional help, I’ve been clean 3 years in August by the Grace of my God ❤️

@craigg5410

2 жыл бұрын

Well done on your recovery! That's excellent 😊

@baxterbunch

2 жыл бұрын

@@craigg5410 thank you 😄😄

@craigg5410

2 жыл бұрын

@@baxterbunch I cold turkeyed from morphine last year and it was one of the most frightening things I've ever endured. Opiate withdrawal attacks you in all ways. People just cannot begin to comprehend the total horror. The worst part is the psychological part in my opinion. But the physical part is horrific too. I still have to take morphine and tramadol for a degenerative back condition but now I only use it 3 days a week to avoid addiction. My tolerance and use had escalated to incredible amounts. I was weaning off for 7 months which was hell and in the end I just cold turkeyed because I couldnt handle it anymore. So I empathise. Again well done ❤

@lorichaudhry7290

Жыл бұрын

@@craigg5410 been there but not by choice. That’s it’s own special type of nightmare. Losing 70 pounds and introducing medical marijuana allowed me to reduce my morphine intake massively. Just don’t end up in Florida when you’re in between pain management clinics. 🫵🏻

@bunnybtv

Жыл бұрын

My ex stepmoms grandfather died in our house when I was 10 because he got so sick he had to quit drinking and ended up passing away in my ex step brothers room

As someone who lost my mother to alcoholism, seeing alcoholism being treated like a joke is really hurtful. Thank you for discussing this.

Whenever I tell someone that I don't drink the reaction is always insinuating that there is something wrong with me. If we are having a get together with some colleagues there is always pressure to drink (I just bring my own non alcoholic drinks.) What the fuck is wrong with people? Alcohol is literally poison, no matter how many times I explain that it hurts my sensitive stomach people brush it off and insist I drink.

@Gingersnaps_the_pumpkin_kitty

3 жыл бұрын

Frankly? It's an experience much like something like sex where a majority of people like it. It can bring people closer together and can make thing more fun. And yes while it can be dangerous if you do so responsibly then those are minimized/negated. Most people just aren't educated well enough on what "safe" is. And also, it doesn't help that with the way you worded it you sound rather narrow minded about it. Like you're the kind of person whose never tried it and heard one bad thing and just decided it was "poison". Anything is a poison in large enough dose. And it doesn't really matter even if you have tried it before, because of how you express yourself about it. When you wall yourself off from others tonally they're going to try and get you to let them in. So rather than coming up with excuses or being dismissive, you need to open up a bit and say what REALLY hold you back. And if you haven't tried it, you should. (* As in, this is a way to understand the "hype" better and yourself better through your reaction not just because someone told you to.) It's not really something you can explain, no book or person is ever going to be able to tell you how that feels for you. You may find that it doesn't even affect you in normal dosages. Making it pointless to fear. And if you have then explain that you've tried it, you just don't like whatever it is you didn't like about it. And also avoid situations and people involving alcohol because if you don't like to drink I HIGHLY doubt you like drunk people. Either way, you should change your tone and mindset to sound and be more open minded and experienced. When you admit you literally don't know why others like some thing, they're going to try and show you. Especially when you're this adversarial about it. Like it or not, this is how it is. And I'm not going to fight with you and "change your mind", I'm just answering your question. If you have more, feel free to ask.

@SavvyNitro

3 жыл бұрын

@@Gingersnaps_the_pumpkin_kitty Or maybe people should just respect other people’s preferences?

@Angelina-vg8zu

3 жыл бұрын

I always get the same reaction! Here where I live alcohol is almost always a must at gatherings of all sorts and as a person who doesn't drink I always get so many comments about it. It's honestly extremely annoying, no matter how much people would force me into drinking I always refuse and because of it I was seen as a fun killer which is just ridiculous. Some people I know even were betting on who will finally make me drink lol

@happythekatt8419

3 жыл бұрын

@@SavvyNitro Yeah, lmao- I don’t drink and I will never drink because alcohol isn’t just something worth starting for me due to all my health problems. I don’t have to have a good reason to not want to drink anyways- just saying “no thanks” should be a good enough answer to people. I’m just lucky that I’m still underage in my country- or people would be pushy about it. Alcohol is a drug and it complicates things that I would rather just not be complicated in the first place.

@cai3886

3 жыл бұрын

@@Gingersnaps_the_pumpkin_kitty No....no. It's really up to them, if they don't feel like they like it then what's the point..? 'Oh- you don't like sex?? Well everyone else does, so maybe you should just try it even though you have no compulsion to.' Nah.

I managed to stay sober for 14 months from alcohol, but I have severe chronic pain that makes me want to end my life everyday. September 14th of 2021 a close lifelong friend of mine took his own life. A week later I relapsed and haven't even wanted to stop since then. My mother is very supportive of me, but literally nobody else around me understands how serious this addiction is. I appreciate your video so much, thank you seriously.

@Loyal.Laika.Dog13

Жыл бұрын

I struggle with chronic debilitating pain as well. That's what kept me going back to heroin over and over again. Suboxone was a game changer for me because it helps my pain & I don't feel high and it contains an opiate blocker to prevent you from being able to get high.

Absolutely. I was watching a home-makeover show where they had installed a wine cooler and beer tap and I just thought how odd that was...to fill their home with "paraphernalia" like that. This substance is so accepted and embraced yet it wreaks just as much havoc as many other illicit drug. We have decades of backward thinking to undo.

You described alcoholism beautifully. It truly is a horrific existence. I have 20 years sober. Congrats on yours.

@lydmch2770

3 жыл бұрын

I’m proud of you

Alcoholism is a truly evil disease. Dorian, I’m so so grateful you’re still with us, you have no idea

Been addicted to basically every drug, under the sun, and managed to stop them. Alcohol is so difficult, it’s everywhere and socially acceptable. Despite making me physically and mentally the sickest! Over a year and a half year sober from other drugs but alcohol just 9 days. 😔 Thank you for this video! People really don’t know how damaging alcohol is, definitely worse than heroin for me too. 🙏🏻

as a 15yr old trying to recover from being an alcoholic, this really helped.

@yeahnah3145

3 жыл бұрын

Hugo?

@onuspromis7166

Ай бұрын

​@@yeahnah3145 you know them

About the joke gifts, I’m an active alcoholic and my Christmas gifts from my sister were a bottle of wine and a bottle of gin.

@tri-angel

3 жыл бұрын

My boyfriend is recovering rn, but a lot of his Christmas and birthday gifts have been alcohol related in the past few years. Bottle of vodka, brewery passport, bottle of whiskey, moscow mule cups, etc. Confusing as well, bc a couple of these came from his mom, who is a former alcoholic herself. Drinking is made to be so normal but these kinds of things can do a lot of harm and I think people just choose not to see it

@angelsmokee

3 жыл бұрын

Wow that's crazy ! Both of your guys stories.. People just don't get it. .I'm sure they mean well ,they probably just didn't know what to buy for gift for them and the first thought was oh well he likes to drink,let's get a drink related gift! Not noticing that the word likes, is not valid atm ,no one enjoys being addicted to alcohol or anything really. .unless it's in the beginning and they have a long way to go. .

@margueritedepompadour7031

2 жыл бұрын

@@tri-angel my roommate´s mom also is an alcoholic who literally drank herself disabled and she gifted a bottle of rum to roommate when she was 17 and asked a few days later why she hasn´t drunk it yet... wtf

Yeah you're heroin experience is definitely NOT a typical. I have no veins left, had constant infections, and robbed my own mother to not be sick. So yeah, typical junkies are not a pretty picture.

@CaveWomen88

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah I’ve had many friends / acquaintances die of heroin overdoes..... It’s extremely destructive for most people in every way. Her experience was an aberration. Glad she is okay and can live to tell her story.🖤

@CaveWomen88

3 жыл бұрын

BTW I hope you are doing okay also!!💙

@christineschaefer8216

3 жыл бұрын

@@CaveWomen88 I am great, actually. 3 years and almost 4 months with no heroin. I'm 41, but finally got my shit together!

@CaveWomen88

3 жыл бұрын

@@christineschaefer8216 That is fantastic 😌🖤 💪🏼

@LusciousTwinkle

3 жыл бұрын

i have never injected in nearly 20 years and never robbed anyone. I came to my heroin use late....and I knew what I was getting into. i dont think typical junkies exist. The problem is that those who are young and not so organised get into trouble with the law and those are the ones we hear about mostly. How many professionals go home and use? We dont know.

Thank you for this. Hello, I'm Timber, and I'm an alcoholic with a dual diagnosis of mental problems. I am 18 months into alcohol recovery. I continue to struggle with the mental problems. My drinking sneaked up on me as well. I was drinking vodka by the liter. I didn't listen when mom said "You need help for this." EVERY time she saw me. I would avoid her. I was a mess, inside and out. It made my mental issues VERY bad. It took me to have an NDE in a hospital after a panic attack. I was done, and I knew it. A nurse came in and said "If you don't stop drinking, next time it will be your funeral." My mom stood in the corner, crying. "I know." "We can get you help for free. Would you like us to do that?" "YES." I went to rehab for 3 weeks. Had a serious attitude about it, and really gave it my all. Haven't had a drink since. The idea of drinking now makes me feel sick. A week out of rehab, a drinking buddy showed up drunk, and did the whole song and dance about "Hey! Come party with me!" It made me ANGRY. I got in his face. "I did not just spend three weeks in rehab to go drinking again! Get out of my house!" He left. Didn't come back. Good.

@jana731

2 жыл бұрын

Keep it up man, your mom loves you. I'll loose my loved grandmother earlier than I have to due to her alcohol addiction. She's really heavy on it since 2 years and her health got worse so quickly, but she wont get help :( it causes so much unnecessary pain.

@timberwolf5631

2 жыл бұрын

@@jana731 Sending prayers your way!

@jana731

2 жыл бұрын

@@timberwolf5631 thank you, but I'm not religious :)

@timberwolf5631

2 жыл бұрын

@@jana731 Neither am I. I'm spiritual. You don't have to 'be' anything for me to send good energy your way. :)

@jana731

2 жыл бұрын

@@timberwolf5631 hey, I appreciate this, sending you good energy back :) have a nice day!

I sincerely think I have an “easy addition personality” that’s why I never drink alcohol or use other drugs, I know I wouldn’t be strong enough to control the use. Totally agree that we live in a society where alcohol isn’t take seriously.

@nihalnihal9356

2 жыл бұрын

Same man, and I'd advice you to never even try it. I thought well I won't touch it, but just to not be interested anymore I could use drugs once. And as soon as I crossed the line, the line disappeared. I am 17 and almost had a heart attack from alcohol. I don't drink on regular basis thankfully, but I see myself drawn to it wayyy to much. And if I do, I just can't see my limits. My third time drinking alcohol I had two glasses of Vodca, one Tequila and started drinking a little bit of everything that my friends had ordered. I absolutely have no limits. Now that I look back, I remember that my friends weren't as excited as going to the bar as I was. Starting from the morning I was only fantasizing how the night would be, while they enjoyed the shopping and eating during daytime. I wondered why that was, but now I understand. Sorry, I just wanted to go into detail so you or anyone who has an addictive personality truly understands how you should not even taste drugs any bit.

@dim307

Жыл бұрын

im the same. i was like this good mindset you have for most of my life.. but eventually, it got me during a low pt in my life in an enabling industry (restaurant/bar). i wish i never touched alcohol or nicotine. sooo hard to quit. 😢

Addiction as a whole is a symptom, - the drug is interchangeable.

@We_Are_All_Vultures

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah.. I've gone from iv heroin to alcohol

@deannalawley53

3 жыл бұрын

Some of us addicts do not change from drug to drug, I have been taking pain pills since I was 15 and never once tried heroin.

@LILREMAlNS

2 жыл бұрын

@@deannalawley53 yeah wait till you get cut off. I guarantee if you went through bad enough withdrawal and heroin was put in front of you, you'd rip a fat line with barely any hesitation, it any at all.

@deannalawley53

2 жыл бұрын

@@LILREMAlNS cut off from what? I've been using since I was 15 I'm 40 now I've gone through withdrawal plenty of times and not once tried herion. So I don't understand your comment.also I started recovery in July

@ninamartin1084

2 жыл бұрын

We are all addicts - to serotonin, oxytocin etc. And without that addiction we would literally die as there would be no incentive to eat or drink or even get out of bed. It's all a case of what we get addicted to - gambling, extreme sports, sex, shoplifting, etc. So many options! Trying to get addicted to healthy stuff now like sports.

My dad died of heroine overdose so I'm gonna have to watch this when I'm mentally ready.

@theresalayton9286

3 жыл бұрын

Take your time sweetie. Now the time to be gentle with yourself HUGGS 😢🤗🤗

@ashgardiner64

3 жыл бұрын

Take your time. ❤ sending love

@Nameless-dw5nv

3 жыл бұрын

You don't have to watch it if it's triggering! < 3

@veilenedream5825

3 жыл бұрын

sorry for your loss :(.

@corneliakobilke4638

3 жыл бұрын

Watch jessica kent on KZread. She is also a recovering addict and mother. I read often in her comments that people understand their relatives better now ❤️

I had a family member pass away at 32 years old from alcohol withdraws.. it’s no joke 😕 This was a very informational video, I liked every point you made and I think alcohol is truly the most abused drug and it needs to be taken more seriously. It’s sad how easily it gets slipped under the radar for being the leading cause of deaths by car accidents..

I've always said that I think alcohol is the most dangerous substance on the planet. What it does to people is absolutely insane and I'd rather someone tell me they are a heroin addict than an alcoholic.

My tolerance on heroin went up extremely fast when I started shooting. When I was smoking I could get by on $20-30 a day plus $10-20 for meth, because I had that addiction too. As soon as I started on the needle, I was soon shooting $100+ a day just on heroin, meth stayed about the same maybe $50 (you get a lot of meth for $50 vs $10) and I was homeless too. So glad to be sober sitting in my bed right now with a full stomach and a clear mind. When I was an alcoholic it was much cheaper for me personally, but that's intresting you found it cheaper to be a heroin addict.

@goneburnforher

3 жыл бұрын

You Quit both?

@Sophia-wz9qf

3 жыл бұрын

@@goneburnforher yeah I'm on suboxone at the moment, have been for about 2 years.

@Sophia-wz9qf

3 жыл бұрын

@@goneburnforher I would love do do that but I got drug induced psychosis from amphetamines almost got permafried...

@Sophia-wz9qf

3 жыл бұрын

@@goneburnforher whatever works for you tho!

@goneburnforher

3 жыл бұрын

@@Sophia-wz9qf na, Mine want really drin inintroduced

As someone who struggles with an eating disorder and was slipping into a drinking/drug problem (two weeks sober) your videos really help. I can’t thank you enough for sharing your experience

@brittney6463

3 жыл бұрын

Hey, I’m two weeks sober too! Congrats, keep at it ❤️

@BreezyBlank

3 жыл бұрын

Congrats on 2 weeks sober!!!

@BreezyBlank

3 жыл бұрын

@@brittney6463 congrats to you too!!!! Keep at it, you can do it! Relapse happens, just get back on the wagon!

@-t96

3 жыл бұрын

Haven't gone sober yet on alcohol but you got this alright? You might get those temptations but take it day by day and don't beat yourself up. Two weeks is amazing! Keep doing you love ♥️

@curlynoodle4

3 жыл бұрын

@@BreezyBlank you better still be clean I’m coming back to check on you

My uncle struggles with alcoholism and when he came forward about it to my Nana, she offered him a drink :| she struggles with drinking too but not as severe as my uncle. Just super insensitive of her. I know it took a lot for my uncle to come forward about how bad it was and for her to do that...

I think the whole not taking alcohol addiction seriously is especially a problem in the UK, our binge drinking culture is sooo damaging

The heroin version of the tequila joke the therapist made: One hit, two hits, three hits Morgue

@Metron3

3 жыл бұрын

YOOO

@ufc990

3 жыл бұрын

Rocks?

@TheAnomaly00

3 жыл бұрын

Okay... that made me grin just a bit. Here's a like.

@miiz_murrderr

2 жыл бұрын

Eh would take alot more shots for me to end up in the morgue 🤣 that tolerance builds up so fast is insane

@nilspochat8665

2 жыл бұрын

@@miiz_murrderr the reality of how rare it is to OD is lost on people whose only experience of heroin is through a screen.

This video somewhat downplays the dangers of heroin use. Alcohol addiction is definitely dangerous, but I don’t think it’s worth weighing one type of substance abuse against another especially since different substances have different impacts on different people. Best to stay sober if you have an addictive personality or are in a rough spot with your mental health.

@sarahunderfield8094

3 жыл бұрын

She's not downplaying things she talked about going to a hospital. She's just very functional. Last year I literally died in a car accident after drinking wine. I switched to suboxone after taking opiates to manage pain from the accident and I've had no problems. Some people have no problems ever with alcohol, some people die. Same thing with drugs, and for some reason when someone can't handle drugs people trip out but when someone dies on alcohol people just roll their eyes.

@michaelchitwood389

3 жыл бұрын

I have known DXM addicts that have died of "misadventure" and or overestimating their coping skills. These kids doing Diphe challenge concerns me greatly.

@brians1793

3 жыл бұрын

@@michaelchitwood389 Did you see this?(Chubbyemu video on TikTokker that drank 2 bottles of Benadryl): kzread.info/dash/bejne/gJV1qLGrpcfQYMo.html

@isadoramoon7521

3 жыл бұрын

In my home country most violent crimes are done by drunk people (assaults and murders) Almost always when you hear that someone has killed someone you will find out that they did it while being drunk. When someone dares to point that out they will be met with hostility and stupid ignorant claims that cannabis is more dangerous or something. There has even been a research that basically said that my countrie's people, especially the men are more sucseptible to violence when intoxicated. My father for example had to quit drinking in his twenties because he would constantly beat people up for silly reasons, like someone asking what time it is. There are a lot of alcoholism in my country (has been since like from year 1500) but many people here deny it and think that anyone who doesn't drink is extremely weird and doesn't like fun. It's really childish attitude and I absolutely hate it.

@tonabolding7174

3 жыл бұрын

I can't help but wonder, have you ever been addicted to anything like heroin? Probably not.

It’s interesting to hear this to those less informed. I definitely worry a lot more about a person i know who is a heroin addict than the person i know who is an alcoholic, both are functional and both have jobs. So, it’s true that alcoholism is just not seen as as dangerous by most people. Thank you for this talk.

@OM-or3im

2 жыл бұрын

@@mollymcginnis5348 i thought the deaths were due to fentanyl mixed into heroin these days which makes it a lot more lethal… i am doing a placement at an outpatient treatment center ans we have been hearing of the huge spike in overdoses due to fentanyl being added to practically anything now.

66 days sober. I wasn't an "alcoholic". I was a heavy binge drinker. It almost took my life. I was extremely depressed and the anxiety was terrible. Two months sober and all of that is gone. The reaction from other people has been crazy. I've been called boring and people have told me "if you don't drink, don't even bother coming" I'm a 34 year old... Other 30 + people say things like this. Our culture is obsessed with alcohol.

Alcohol is so destructive, yet legal but weed is demonized......laws are very strange indeed

@Audreylover-dv5cl

3 жыл бұрын

Weed is glamorized by many young people

@Sakuya727

3 жыл бұрын

@@Audreylover-dv5cl I know, but it's not glamorized by the law apparently lol

@Volzotran

3 жыл бұрын

@@Audreylover-dv5cl by some teenagers yes, but the majority consume alcohol and glamorize It. And weed is definitely not glamorized or even seen as neutral by society as a whole, It is demonized.

My father was (is not an active user anymore) a severe alcoholic. My whole childhood was centered around his addiction, his anger, physical, sexual and psychological abuse. Guess what? I now suffer from C-PTSD, bulimia, depression and anxiety with severe panic attacks. Alcohol is far too normalised and it can absolutely ruin people's lives.

@Rachel-ng5dg

2 жыл бұрын

I’m sorry that you experienced that❤️ hope you’re healing

@classicarah

2 жыл бұрын

Experienced the same except the sexual abuse,it was horrible growing up with him. I basically lived at my friends house cause I never wanted to be home. He died from it and also had my issues with it growing up,but I’m doing so much better now.

@MrSuperG

2 жыл бұрын

Find bat man

@Aryzo

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely vile that these creatures get to reproduce. Sorry

@aphrojitex8972

2 жыл бұрын

Same here and I am so sorry absolutely nobody deserves that and I hope you’re staying grounded as possible now

I got into more trouble drinking than I ever did on my meth addiction. Crazy thing is that my family would of preferred me to continue drinking alcohol over meth or even weed. For me it was about loosing both of them.

I'd never wish for meth to be legal like alcohol. Watching family members decay on meth is so heart breaking amd sad. Thought they were gonna die everyday .

I was addicted to alcohol when I was 16-19 and everyone just laughed it off like it isn’t a serious illness, I know exactly what you mean. It was always ha ha classic sky drunk at 10am again !! And never any real concern. Sad

@chantellejade2900

3 жыл бұрын

Me too, it's a horrid feeling:(

@versatilehumanbeing6013

3 жыл бұрын

How did u overcome it girl please ley me know i too am suffering from it

@sky-sb5jp

3 жыл бұрын

@@versatilehumanbeing6013 tbh I still struggle with it, but being around people who support me and aren’t only around me to drink and go to parties has helped a lot. The people I surround myself with now are much better for me. It just took a whole lifestyle change, but I still drink, just not to the extent to which I used to

@versatilehumanbeing6013

3 жыл бұрын

@@sky-sb5jp Thats gud dear surrounding urself with people who have gud mindset will help u come out of it i am doing the same thing are u on instagram ?

You're like that cool relative that has a ton of stories and says "don't do this, kids, but do you want to hear a story?" I do agree with you that alcohol is insanely normalized, and I thought it was just only in Spain, but apparently not. I was never an alcoholic, but I kinda decided to not drink at all a few years ago (I really despise the taste), and whenever I go out with friends, everyone is like "you don't drink? Why? Are you sick?" and things like that. I just don't understand why people can't respect that you don't drink.

@BlackKoshka23

3 жыл бұрын

@@BeatriceFlowers Yeah! I've had people tell me that they don't know how to have fun without drinking, and I think that's a big problem.

@C-SD

3 жыл бұрын

Its def like that here in the US. I know a lot of people in addiction recovery from a variety of substances, but alcoholics have a really rough time because everyone wants to go to the bar or have a party at home. If you don't drink you either get left out, or harassed. Its bs.

@C-SD

3 жыл бұрын

@@electricfishfan7159 very true. And it's so ingrained that most people don't even realize what they're doing, I think. It bothers me that my sober addict friends have to struggle so much to get sober, than all the push back from ignorant people. I do drink and smoke sometimes (though the latter is more for medical reasons.), its not that hard to abstain for a little while for their health and safety. If you can't go a day or a few hours without drinking, might be a good time to reflect on your own drinking.

@jemimahkendall6579

3 жыл бұрын

Cool? Nothing about any of this is cool, all my dead friends thought they were the cool uncle/aunty

@BlackKoshka23

3 жыл бұрын

@@jemimahkendall6579 I wasn't talking about the stories when I said cool, but about Dorian. I honestly think they're one of the coolest persons on this platform (aesthetic and personality wise). Sorry if my comment offended you, it was not my intention to make anyone feel uncomfortable.

I just found you today ultimately bc of Eugenia's content taking me down a rabbit hole. I've been addicted to alcohol for 15 years and physically dependant for at least 7... I hate every second of it but I can't stop. I'm a stay at home mom whose life revolves around living in my house and taking care of my children. I got pregnant 2 years ago intentionally to be sober but I had twins and fell apart all over again. Idk what to do to stop the triggers. This time last year I was in rehab away from my babies for the first time ever until may and I just don't know how to stop when there is so much propaganda and desire for it 😭

We have a lot of alcoholism in my family, it’s no joke... it really should be taken as seriously as any other addiction if not more so.

no one: dorian’s lips: •👄•

JUST A LITTLE PSA FOR Y'ALL...... Get yourselves a narcan kit learn how to use it of course, toss it in the trunk of your car, you never know when you might be at a party sometime or even just come up to someone in on the side of the road....it's not a big deal to learn how to use it and to carry one and you just might save someone's life, even if you're not in the drug scene yourself but especially if you are, better to have it not needed than need it not have it

@amoureux6502

3 жыл бұрын

Worth noting that it DOES expire - but even with that in mind, expired Narcan is better than no Narcan.

@theresalayton9286

3 жыл бұрын

@@amoureux6502 yes very good point!

@-t96

3 жыл бұрын

@@amoureux6502 how long till it expires?

@amoureux6502

3 жыл бұрын

@@-t96 18 - 24 months but it's been noted that it can still be chemically stable for over 10 months after the labelled expiration date.

@MissFoxification

3 жыл бұрын

If you leave it in a car it will expire far sooner. A hot vehicle will far exceed the acceptable storage temperature of medications. If the medication becomes ineffective and you inform an ambulance officer that they have received a dose of narcan they will account for that and the person may die because they didn't get what they needed.

Congratulations on 3 years sober love! I just found your channel last week and I'm a new subscriber I love you! You're so awesome to listen to and have a magnetic personality. 💜

It's so weird, I've had all those symptoms from when i was an alcoholic and I never even thought they came from the alcohol, I thought I was just messed up. I'm happy I'm not alone in this struggle, thank you for sharing your story, I wish I found your channel earlier. Much love to you ♥️

I don't like this concept of "this drug is worse than this drug" so that addiction is worse or has worse stigma. Regardless of the addiction, the person deserves help

@susannebambam

3 жыл бұрын

I think their point is that nobody takes alcoholism as seriously as they should. At 35:30, they literally say that everyone should take every addiction seriously. Also, everyone's experience is going to be different and they make it abundantly clear that this is just their experience. 💗🌸

@danebirbhaha7520

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely but it's not what the video it's saying, it's saying alcoholism is not taken seriously compared to other addictions

@Gingersnaps_the_pumpkin_kitty

3 жыл бұрын

Well drugs are amoral and people seem to forget that. They think everything has something to do with morality and it's harmful as fuck. Though if we're talking in terms of harm, that can be measured and ACTUALLY proven. For example, crocidyl is a drug that will seriously fuck you up. There are differences in harmfulness.

@caitiecunningham872

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed! Alcoholism and heroin addiction are both deadly. I have lost close family members to both. The fact that the beginning of this video is practically promoting heroin is disgusting. I really enjoy this channel usually, but I'm unsubscribing.

@katie5998

3 жыл бұрын

@@caitiecunningham872 Just because another addict has had a different experience from you doesn’t mean they’re promoting heroine. Dorian has talked a lot about how fucked up their life became because of heroine addiction. I think they were just making the obvious comparison of what people stigmatize heroine use as and alcoholism as. Most people think you’re going to be completely non-functional why experiencing heroine addiction, but in many cases this isn’t true. Many are able to live functional lives why addicted to heroine. No, that isn’t a promotion to take the substance, it’s basically just saying that-for some-it isn’t as crippling as it is for others. (They also mentioned that, why on heroine, they were also on methane, which reduces and completely takes away any withdrawal symptoms you receive from heroine use, which is why they were able to take it so frequently.) They did this to make the comparison that many think you can be a functional alcoholic. Some can. Some can live completely normal lives and no one will ever know, except for the people who have to encounter them. Some people ARE NOT functional in any way, shape, nor form, and that is treated more like you being stupid and irresponsible through choice rather than through addiction. By making this comparison, it highlights the definite stigma around heroine addiction and alcoholism-it isn’t Dorian saying one is better and one is worse, they’re simply making the obvious distinction about what *society* thinks. Not themselves.

I'm gonna say this cause I really can't get past it. I know you said towards the end that you think all addictions should be taken seriously and you aren't telling anyone to do heroin, so I'm not putting this on you. But as a person from a US city where you can't go to the heart of the city without seeing hundreds of addicts either in groups of 5-10 walking around nodding off simultaneously, or together on the side of gas station on the floor completely out of it, or hearing that kids are finding dirty needles on play grounds more than ever, and seeing a rise in homelessness in my city due to this unfortunate rise in opiate addiction, PLEASE be fucking careful because not everyone will be able to manage opiates as well as Dorian. And all of this ^ started only in the past few years, I'm assuming due to the introduction of fentanyl. I've had to stop a woman from falling on train tracks cause she kept zoning out. I've had to pick up a woman's belongings 5+ times on a bus ride cause she kept dropping her purse (and I did it gladly each time because everyone deserves grace). It's every fucking where in my city and I don't blame these folks. A lot of this is my city not taking the proper measures to assure these folks a methadone clinic and shelters that could help them, and giving out opiates like candy in hospitals. My point is to say, don't take either of these substances lightly (again I know Dorian said this, just reiterating) because not everyone can emotional handle being so responsible with heroin, and ESPECIALLY with drugs that hook on to you, even after years of sobriety. Just how Dorian's alcohol addiction started off seemingly innocent and spiraling out of control, the same could happen to anyone with ANYTHING. And ESPECIALLY opiates, with the rise of fentanyl cuts all over America. It's fucking terrible to witness. This epidemic particularly in the states has traumatized the fuck outta me, so I say all this purely out of genuine care for you all. Please do not take either of these substances lightly. And just to add, I hate that instead of getting these people help they just through them into another traumatic situation aka jail and prison. And I'm glad you mentioned the experiments they did before the war on drugs, it'd be nice now if they did SOMETHING helpful, like seriously.

@venus67venus

3 жыл бұрын

👏

@ferrisbueller9991

3 жыл бұрын

Fentanyl isn't increasing addiction, just fatalities.

@Mariah-co2ct

3 жыл бұрын

@@ferrisbueller9991 thank you for letting me know. I only mentioned it because I was watching a couple interviews of folks, and they mentioned that fentanyl felt harder to kick than anything else they did. Appreciate your comment though 🙏🏾

@b.mitchell4518

3 жыл бұрын

I'm in the states as well. Charlotte NC since 2014 and Orlando prior to that. I appreciate you saying what I wanted to say but couldn't word it as well. What major city are you in? Simply curious, so no need to answer if you don't want. Blessings

@casierandolph2254

3 жыл бұрын

The problem is America's policy on opiate use. If it wasn't black market and wasn't stigmatized a lot of the problems you describe would disappear. I say this as someone living in the heart of the rust belt who was so hard hit by the opiate epidemic that oprah came to the area for a show. I lost a lot of friends I wouldn't have lost of they could have copped their drug legally with assurances of its purity and dosage.

Great video! Considering that alcohol is so statistically dangerous, and that much of heroin's dangers are directly caused by prohibition (no clean product, safe dosage, clean needles=fentanyl and OD, and also being more expensive due to prohibition = more people ruining their and their loved one's finances), I think that if both were legal, heroin would come out as definitely safer. Heroin addicts in ideal conditions (like in some of the countries with legal programmes) don't die of liver failure and cirrhosis. There's no narcan for alcohol poisoning either. Socially, they don't get into bar fights or beat their kids while using; they just go on the nod. I say this as someone who drinks occassionally but won't do opioids, not out of some moral grandstanding bullshit, but because their effects simply don't interest me. Frankly, I like drugs that have an edge to them, like stimulants or psychedelics. For that reason I know exactly which drugs to be wary of (meth). But if I listened to mainstream advice about the subject, I'd be in deep deep trouble, because culture will never be able to think about these things rationally... hell, psychs and cannabis are still illegal. We are so far off from being able to reach true healing and education about this, and so many people are going to die or ruin their lives because of it. Very sad.

Your experience with H is very different from most. But from my experience, 10 odd overdoses, horrible withdrawal symptoms, spending all my money etc. And then being put on methadone and trying to get off it for years. I still believe alcohol is worse but I don't think this is a very realistic account of h use, but it's still a good story with good information.

I remember your weight gain & being so worried about you. I’m very familiar with the look of alcoholism & can clock an alcoholic across a room instantly. Alcoholism is drug addiction and it’s just so sad how normalized it is, especially in America. Alcoholism is practically a right of passage for young people here

@MisterSisterFister666

3 жыл бұрын

Wow I like that picture ur really pretty

@MisterSisterFister666

3 жыл бұрын

Wow I like that picture ur really pretty

@mariannatatarska1140

2 жыл бұрын

in Poland it's worse

Alcohol is overly normalised, especially with how deadly it can be! I’ve struggled with both heroin addiction and alcoholism and only one was ever taken seriously (just guess which one)and this was at around 14. Alcoholism needs to be taken just as seriously as heroin and other addictions! Edit: Withdrawals for me were also not taken seriously. With Heroin I got a lot of support and medication however with alcohol I was forced to go cold turkey and almost died which was still taken as a joke and an ‘overreaction’

@theresalayton9286

3 жыл бұрын

I hear you girl sounds like a similar road is mine.... Only was crack cocaine for me, but the alcohol is always much worse a problem for me too Damn straight you could have died from withdrawal of alcohol..... I know the detox and rehab centers here in New Brunswick Canada although we've got a pretty terrible meth problem in our community the local detox knows how to treat alcoholism well!!! They're actually the most incredible people in the whole planet.... The staff of the Miramichi detox center are near God like quality to me. I can even call them at any time and I always ask for my favorite nurse and she'll sit and talk with me for hours and they know you and get to know you cuz it's a small town. Best human beings on the planet right there!!!

@ON-qy1ou

3 жыл бұрын

I've also had people not take my alcohol withdrawal seriously. it's such a terrible experience and everyone acts like "well, that's what ya get!" like what the actual fuck... this is deadly. something that no one told me about is the "kindling effect" which essentially means after you "get" it your withdrawals continue to get worse and worse, even if you find yourself drinking less than before. my last detox lasted a week, up from 3 days 2 years ago, drinking wine not vodka.

@C-SD

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry. Alcohol withdrawal is serious, and can be fatal. You can only ingest so much poison before your body starts to break down. My uncle nearly died of dt's (The most severe alcohol withdrawal is called delirium tremens, otherwise known as the DTs. The experience of going through delirium tremens can vary from person to person depending on the duration and frequency of their previous alcohol consumption.) in jail because they didn't take his alcoholism seriously. He also pissed off the guards (he was an asshole) so they mostly just laughed at him. He'd been drinking since he was 5-6. They got addicted before they were even old enough to understand what alcohol or being drunk was.

congrats on 3 years sober! I'm so proud of you. I know that sounds funny coming from a total stranger but I am absolutely proud of u. In fact this is the first of ur videos I have watched but as a previous opiate addict, I'm proud of u. It feels impossible at first and getting through that first year sucks......congratulations.....really.

Uhhh yea being on methadone is exactly why there were no “issues” lol. No withdrawal. No worrying about withdrawal. Anyway interesting topic. Everyone’s experiences are valid and everyone’s experiences are different! It’s a good thing to hear different people’s perspectives bc that’s all life really is. A perspective. 💞 Edit One minute after my comment you said the same thing. Lol I am clean and on methadone now. Definitely would have made life easier to be in it while using but I never even heard of it until I was “done” using and needed a way to put my life back together. Now just have to get off this stuff!

I know some functioning heroin addicts (they have careers, play in bands etc). They have been using for about 20-25 years. They have certain rules to keep themselves in check but it hasn’t been too kind to them physically and mentally. One can definitely tell they use - there is a sadness and sunkeness look to their face and eyes. They have expressed they want to quit but it’s so hard. 😢 I think a safe controlled source would be a positive thing for them because there is so much fentanyl in the drugs here. Alcoholism is a scary beast. Luckily no one close to me is struggling with that (as far as I can tell.)

My dad was an alcoholic all my childhood growing up, his dad was also an alcoholic which is why I tend to call addiction a disease. I'm proud to say my dad has been sober from alcohol for TWO years now! It was an awful struggle that I'm glad he has surpassed.

You are the most resilient person I’ve ever encountered. Thank you for being around to educate all of us. Much love

Thank you so so much for this video and especially your vulnerability and effort to educate. The normalisation of alcohol addiction, especially in teenagers (at least where I live) has been bugging me for ages and I'm glad that you are talking about it in such a precise and eloquent way.

When I was 14 I watched my grandad at 62 years old (while drunk on his £100 a day habit), fall, have a bleed on the brain and get korsakoff syndrome which is really nasty! He passed away last year after 8 years of not talking, not walking and staring at a wall (+ multiple seizures). It's honestly put me off ever touching alcohol.

@mifrr1316

2 жыл бұрын

korsakoff is awful and im sorry you had to witness that. it should be used to deter people from alcoholism because it is so dangerous

My thesis is actually all about drug related deaths in England and i got on a very similar soapbox at the end. Harm reduction is needed; testing kits, needle exchanges, safe rooms.

My husband and I were addicts when we met. Nine days into our relationship he got me pregnant and our son saved our lives. I'm 5 years clean and I'm essentially back to "normal" I have never before felt "normal" until now, haha I'm happy and I'm succeeding in life. Thank you D, I love listening to you

Hi! KZread recommended me this video, and I'm so glad it did. I'm just a stranger over the internet, but I'm so proud of you for getting yourself through all of this. And I'm so thankful that you feel comfortable enough to share your story for the rest of us. It's really important to listen to other's experiences. I'm a younger person and I see a lot of my friends and acquaintances abuse alcohol and other drugs, and it's scary how normalized it feels. Thank you so much for this video.

I grew up with plenty of alcoholics who always claimed, "I'm a functioning alcoholic" or "I keep it under control." I just always remember thinking "No. You don't. You're plastered." It can be just as bad as anything else but denial changes perspective...

I very much buy into that whole "anti drugs" propaganda taught at school so I don't/haven't done any illegal drugs in my life - but the existence of clean needle exchanges and safe spaces for users and addicts is sooooooooo important! A friend of mine passed away from a heroin OD in 2012 (hearing that the cuts changed really piqued my interest here - I never really got closure after her death) and I really think if only we had access to methadone and safe injection sites it wouldn't have gone the way it did. The outcome of having these services has been proven as incredibly positive - im so sad we cannot see the dignity of intravenous drug users in greater society. Thanks for such an important story and perspective!

@freedomdude5420

2 жыл бұрын

If you want to know the real reason why I have a problem with drugs we need to talk about the opium wars nobody thinks that it could be used as a weapon drugs for governments but I can it is a dark and truth and nobody wants to talk about this.

As a former opiate addict that was on methadone (8 years clean 🎉) I’m glad to hear someone talking about this without shame! Sending you love ❤

Honestly I really get you on the shame aspect of it. I’ve felt far more shame due to alcohol than heroin. Like when I wake up after getting absolutely pissed out my mind I feel so much shame because of how easily I lost control. And not even knowing what kinda shit I did or said whilst drunk because I can’t remember really makes me feel ashamed.

I'm an alcoholic. Over 6 1/2 years sober. I have been watching your channel for about 6 years and I adore you. Congrats on 3 years sober, and thank you for sharing your story ❣️ Edit: Yes, a person can die from alcohol withdrawals!!! Please take detoxing from alcohol seriously, everyone. 💞

This is the reason I'm terrified of becoming addicted to alcohol so I avoid it. My parents are both alcoholics and I already have an extremely obsessive personality. I have a few sips and I think about it for a month afterward. If someone is an alcoholic you should have the same concern for them as you would with someone using any other highly addictive substance such as Heroin.

The absolute horror of my alcohol habit, when I was grieving the love of my life in a pandemic...the way it just became unavoidable to drink earlier and earlier because the pain was too immense to look at straight and I had nowhere to be. I gained an insane amount of weight. Was constantly having total breakdowns, throwing up daily. I would have absolutely died if I'd kept going

Thank you for telling us your story and how both of these drugs played a part in your life. I do struggle though with how heroin is portrayed. I have friends who have lost brothers, sisters, cousins and parents to this drug and I don’t feel like that should be downplayed. I’m so grateful that you’re still here but that’s not everyone’s story.

@tatianabaudean1633

3 жыл бұрын

She stated that throughout the whole video. She even went to the extent of saying that a possible reason why her heroin addiction was not as destructive as the stories you hear from others is because she had a methadone prescription, so I think she made the point that experiences may vary a lot

Gin is such a glamourized booze for women and in my first two years of uni I started being really dependent on it. I would happily sit down and drink a neat bottle of gin to myself in the evening, wake up feeling awful, extremely depressed, vaguely remember the crazy, embarrassing stuff i'd done the night before and then go out and buy some more. It was an on going joke with my friends that you couldn't leave me in the house with a bottle of anything cause once i'd started i wouldnt be able to stop. I put on the three stone in those two years which I am still yet to loose. I got myself into SOOO many horrible situations and honestly without people looking out for me and general luck, i dont know what could have happened to me. I hardly drink now, and ive had a bottle of champagne in the house since my 21st (year ago) which i dont even think about. I was able to get myself out before things got worse and after some massive substance binges. I recognized that i was far too comfortable getting wrecked by myself at home and i got really invested in my work. I have a pretty grim diet coke habit though :') but im working on that too.

oh my i have been literally thinking about this topic today, love you for spreading awareness about alcohol dangers. coming from slavic country the drinking culture is insane and the problem of abusing liquor highly overlooked

@corneliakobilke4638

3 жыл бұрын

Same in Europe, its absolutely normal to drink every day

@xotleti

3 жыл бұрын

Oh I feel you :( my grandpa died from cirrhosis, my whole slavic family thought it was funny to let me try wine as a child. I think I'm so lucky for not being addicted to alcohol (but surely addicted to sleeping pills... Well...)

Not to mention how easy it is to relapse BECAUSE of how normalised it is, you try and quit and can’t escape it. Everywhere you go people are drinking alcohol or talking about alcohol. I’ve lost so many friends trying to go sober because thats pretty much the only thing they do to socialise is drink, and yeah I can still go out to clubs and pubs and drink juice but it’s not the same especially when everyone is drunk yelling at you to “just have one” or “don’t be a loser”. I feel like I miss out on so much now because I hate being around those kind of people, but it has really helped my mental health overall and I don’t think I’ll ever go back no matter how tempted I am. But man, it’s hard.

Huge respect to you, I’ve suffered from chronic alcoholism for 20 years and watching you video has gave me hope, I thank you x

I'm coming up on my first month of sobriety recovering from alcohol addiction and I can't tell you how helpful and weirdly comforting this video was. Thank you for making the content you do and being so open with your audience

I wouldn't say I was truly an alcoholic but I've definitely had an alcohol issue. It's the worst drug I've touched for sure. It's so easy to mess up and very potentially die. When I was out with friends it would just be so easy sometimes to drink too much and blackout - acting a fool (nothing too bad luckily). I've said some dumb stuff but the worst episode was me blacking out and just wandering around in the opposite direction of home. I came to and wasn't hurt but sometimes I think to myself something really bad could've happened. I also have a best friend who is an alcoholic and it was really difficult to watch how she would rationalize her drinking and how quickly it all went downhill.

@katerinaliakou5549

3 жыл бұрын

My therapist called this "weekend alcoholic" and I have definitely been there in the past myself. Thankfully I was always in the present of friends or good people in general, who didn't take advantage of my state.

My dad died from liver failure. One of the big differences between them is when someone quits heroin they don't see adverts for it at all times of day and they don't see it in every shop they go to.

Thank you, thank you, thank you for your videos and content!!!! I have always had eating disorders, from compulsive overrating in my preteen years, to bulimia (laxative purging) to anorexia in my late teens. Became a binge drinker, unbeknownst to me, in my twenties, although previously, I had sworn off alcohol due to the extremely bad behavior of an alcoholic father. I am Queer, I identify as Trans, have since age 17 in the late Nineties. I have been a binge drinker, on and off for years. This past year, it’s gotten really awful, recurring once every few weeks or so. I’ve been hooked on Xanax, have tried heroine but never really gotten that far into it. Coke was ok, but kind of a bore. I never got the fascination with crack. Tried it a few times but it just never really took. Anyway, thank you for providing a space where real experience isn’t shamed, just brought forward! ❤❤❤❤❤

Congratulations on your sobriety - you're a wonderful person and I'm so happy I found your channel by complete chance! :) Thank you for sharing your experiences; I'm sure they will help so so many people

I'm just shocked you have less that 1 million subs. You are so authentic and honest. We need more people like you on this platform ❤

@MarieLyster

3 жыл бұрын

Agree there! Dorian is so good at explaining things and I love the videos so much!

@venus67venus

3 жыл бұрын

I agree for most of Dorians content. Although this specific video made me a bit upset because they romanticize heroin and that can have very harmful effects. They definitely did not have a typical experience with heroin. But of course I agreed with the part about how bad alcoholism can get and it’s fucked up some people don’t take it seriously

These videos really help me as someone who's been borderline addicted to a lot of substances over time. I've been lucky enough to never fall very deep into things but especially as someone with a family history of heroin and other addictions, seeing videos like this helps me see more of the reality of the negatives that I haven't really seen myself. You're videos have directly educated me and put me in a more powerful and aware place and kept me from falling down shitty paths. Thank you

Thank you so much for your openess and honesty in making this video, I am absolutely certain it will help lots of people and educate them too. It makes a wonderful change to see a British woman providing KZread content as well, I am watching in Gloucestershire in the UK. Have liked, subscribed and am sending all my love and respect to you ❤