Never feel like an idiot for giving love a chance. I'm proud of you for protecting yourself and using good judgment! Bravo!!

@jillr759

Ай бұрын

Me too! Caught just in time so proud!

@susandusenbury6352

Ай бұрын

Always follow your intuition. Better to freeze and run than stay and suffer.

@junecleaver1

Ай бұрын

I always go with my gut feeling!! It's never steered me wrong!! It's me, I'm the problem it's me!!!!!¡Because I don't always listen, and I linger too long. 💔💔

@teresap.5991

29 күн бұрын

Yes❤

@bullpups

29 күн бұрын

Why are you proud of her? She's an adult.

My comment prolly won't be popular, but Danna, I would recommend that you slow down, make friends first and then 'keep' yourself for marriage with that special someone when you find him. We're wired to become 'one' and you're a special gal and should save yourself for your special someday guy.

@ginnyleedays

29 күн бұрын

You must be a Mamma like me agree ❤️

@janebuteyn2466

28 күн бұрын

Totally agree! ❤

@scarlethenderson6510

28 күн бұрын

Agree

Wow! I don't know if you realize how much you have learned, girl! Give yourself some credit! You backed out right on time. You didn't give up. You walked away. You saw what you needed to do for yourself. You have grown so much from when you and I first met. Keep taking care of yourself. Contact me if you need a friend to chat with. Better yet, write some music about it! Love ya!

Danna, If it feels icky it is icky. You’ve got this girl.

@zenstitch9972

Ай бұрын

well said!

Hi, Danna. In my opinion, over thinking about "love bombing" can turn into love blocking. My $0.02 is to know yourself intimately (e.g. your values; culture; personality; what makes you happy, why and how; etc.), then continue to live a life that promotes your safety (physical; emotional; spiritual; psychological), your health (physical; emotional; spiritual; physical), and your happiness (well-being). Focus on those things, enjoy them, and, I strongly believe that, you will realize that your lifelong love/partner is part of your journey. We tend to expect our soulmate to appear in a dramatic way, but more often than not our soulmates are unnoticed in a nook not far. Once we notice our "soulmate" it all makes sense. The best relationships start from friendships with those who have similar values, views of life, expectations, and interests. People don't change values/principles as easily as change opinions and attitudes. My apologies for the long message. Stay safe, stay healthy, and stay happy! Everything else is manageable! Pops

I rarely see someone that wants a relationship as much as you do but will not settle for anything just to be in a relationship. You are a rare human being. You inspire me, please always share your true self with us, its why we are here❤

@crawleyr4919

29 күн бұрын

Yes!!! But she has been pretty clear- she would rather be alone than with a whackadoodle or abusive person. Thats the positive of dating at 40 not 22.

@marloespeters8404

29 күн бұрын

​@@crawleyr4919 what is a whackadoodle? I am a Dutchie and i love to learn new words . Even when they are maybe not so nice 😊

@crawleyr4919

29 күн бұрын

@@marloespeters8404 just slang for uunknown mental health issues or sociopathic personality disorder (thats my personal definition).

@lorimoore5589

29 күн бұрын

@@marloespeters8404 my guess is it’s the same as “ douche bag”

@lorimoore5589

29 күн бұрын

@@crawleyr4919 True, except I have lost count of the people I know who say those same things then walk right into the kinda relationship they didn’t want. She is rare!

the Quints would love those stickers

You gave the relationship a try; you saw red flags; it didn't work out. Boom. Don't beat yourself up about it! Focus on your beautiful and creative self, and be glad that you didn't drag the relationship any further. 😘

The way to tell is to not move too fast. You don't even know someone after 6 months. Vet them heavily before horizontal mumbo...

@kathleenjbazan5563

29 күн бұрын

Love this phrase, “horizontal mumbo”, this was exactly what I was trying to say.

honestly Danna the way he treated you from the begin always made me feel he is watching the channel because it were too many check boxes in so little time.

@user-cs1xz

28 күн бұрын

same. she shouldn't tell people about her channel until at least a couple weeks in imo. she doesn't have to lie but she should be vague, like 'im a video editor and i write and teach music.' she will attract people who study her videos and who may even want her for clout. i always found it weird that she shared it right away.

Definitely NOT oversharing at all. I love watching you talk about these types of things because as a girl in her late 20's, about to turn 30 in a few months, these are things that also relate to my current dating life too. We are all growing and learning and healing from things but I've been a long time viewer and I will say, you've come so much farther than you realize. Give yourself some credit for backing out of a situation that regardless of the reality of it, it feels icky and uncomfortable to you, whether he meant it that way or not. Most people would ignore that anxiety you have and continue into an unhealthy relationship that ends up turning worse later and makes a break up harder. I'm proud of you for standing your ground. And yes, sometimes love bombing is based on perception and can be misinterpreted as such but if you're having open conversations with said love bomber and he's not taking accountability for it or trying to improve on said concerning issues for even just the sake of making you more comfortable, what you're feeling is probably spot on. Thank you for your openness and honest about this Danna. As a person with a pretty similar upbringing, and a lot of trauma of my own, I appreciate your vulnerability in these videos. Take some time to truly heal yourself, I've spent several years doing it myself and I am still nowhere near where I need to be but it's a process. Take some time to truly get to know yourself and why you are the way you are, why you react in the ways you do and what you can and can't tolerate or handle at this stage of life you are in RIGHT NOW. Not what you want in a "future relationship" but what you need right now in this present moment.

Not oversharing at all, Danna! Your honesty and transparency are helping many watching this video. I really appreciate the words/phrases you are using such as love bombing, triggered, etc. I’m 63 and we didn’t have a name for these behaviors and feelings. The more we share, the more the world will heal❤

Be proud of yourself for being in tune with your feelings and catching on sooner. Recognizing it early is good!! ❤❤ 🙏🥰

Well, here I am just wishing you bucket-loads of peace, contentment and companionship. Yes please. I’m 85 (a mama, grandmama and great grandma) wishing we could just sit down, tell our stories to each other and just see where it takes us. ❤❤. Hugs.

Thank you for making videos! I watched you for years and during my pregnancy. Now baby is here and I KNOW if I play your videos he will immediately calm down. The sound of your voice soothes him 😂

@montanadanna

Ай бұрын

Haha! Thanks for the insta 😊❤ that is so sweet 😅🥹

Oh Dana please know that this is a learning opportunity. Our gut is never wrong, but our heart wants the fairy tail. You have so much self awareness, and you are learning what you DONT want in a relationship. This gy was a tool figuratively, and literally

@ilovelucy7073

Ай бұрын

Try not to think so hard on it. But I get it ! I used to go back in my dorm room and laugh 🤣 telling my room mate he told me he loved me (so soon I thought). One guy told me he prayed though on me that I was the one for him. I really didn’t want to hurt his feelings but it really put me on the spot…. I said “ you haven’t been on my mind . I didn’t even know his name. I think GOD would have told me. I look back now and hope he wasn’t hurt bad. But one guy I dated he drove 2 1/2 hours to come and see me 2 or 3 times a week. He had a job in construction so he would come after work to see me. (Of course looking great) when he told me he loved me. After our date I told my roommate ( he was serious ). That was after 3 months . We married that year in June . We have been married for 47 years now. So glad we did. We love being together, we have been though a lot but I still love being him.

First of all, SO proud of you for recognizing what was happening and being strong enough to end it. You have seriously answered your own question without reading it. " How do you know genuine actions from love bombing?" You just did it with this relationship. It WAS your nervous system. You will NOT feel the anxiety or your gut screaming. It will feel warm, like home. You'll know girl, you'll know. Honor your instincts. But yes, feel the feelings. Be sad and all the things, the secret is not getting stuck there. You are doing great!

I agree about the love-bombing and anxious attachment, but be careful with how much you give of yourself soon into the relationship.

Your in love with love..and that is fine..Just take time , friend first...❤

@bullpups

29 күн бұрын

"Might as well face it, she's addicted to love"

You are so freaking talented! One of my self cares is walking barefoot in the grass and sitting outside. No phone. No distractions. And I listen to the birds and enjoy the peace.

Danna this was one of my favorite vlogs of yours ever. So much wisdom, vulnerability, and self awareness, plus lovely singing! Thank you for trusting us with your authentic self on a rough day. We love you so much! I wanted to recommend the excellent book to you "How to spot a dangerous man before you get involved" and the accompanying workbook. I use to coach women who had a pattern of being in toxic relationships and that was required reading for my program. A big thing from breaking out of that pattern is education, which you are already doing a great job of, and going so so much slower of a pace when dating than actually feels natural or even comfortable for you. The longer you can delay sex the better too. And having real and honest conversations with discerning friends and/or therapists where you evaluate potential red flags early on. Your doing a great job and its really important work you are doing sharing this to the internet because its going to have a positive effect on so many peoples lives!

Danna.... watching one of your videos is like watching a masterclass in video editing. You do amazing work and I'm in awe of your editing skills.

I loved hearing you sing - beautiful voice - i liked the song. Glad you put yourself first, did not make excuses by allowing someone to treat you badly or self sabotage. Go girl you are extremely important 😊

Great video Dana teaching people the difference between love bombing someone and learning someone’s love language to build a relationship I wish I had learned this years ago thank you for continuing to get information out there so men and women can learn to go get their best life I appreciate you dear Dana ❤

Knowing when to break it off early is a super power in of itself! Keep your head up and shoulders back! You've got this!

Exactly what was happening to my bestie!! Gifts, he’s in love days after meeting, diamond ring 2 months in and then when she has to work he gets mad, says he’ll pay her to quit… wow, you are calling it all out! He has put some kind of spyware on her phone or car and he’s now stalking her after she tried to pull away. Creepy.

@spunkycat6144

29 күн бұрын

OMG. Watch the Mica Miller story. Her guy did that and it didn't turn out well. 😢😮

The anxiety it's probably because you're falling in love with a man who has told you he doesn't want children and every week that you waste is another step towards never becoming a mom. If you're still set on having children, you should immediately break it off with a man who says they don't want that.

I actually love your organizing videos!

It breaks my heart this continuously happens to you but also good for you to recognizing things really quickly and turning away. You know what you want and need and that’s not a bad thing! You’re amazing you will find your person. ❤

Beautiful melody. It's a keeper.

Sending you love. I'm sorry your heart is hurting.

Glad you listened to you gut on this one! Its the best advice we can get.

Beautiful voice! Beautiful song!

Hang in there - love your videos

Beautiful song!

Thank You for keeping it real. Truly genuine being, love I can do spirit😘

I appreciate you sharing this… I find you so inspiring and you really help me with my own struggles!! Thank you for being you!!

Thank you for sharing your new song in your beautiful candle lit bedroom, soo peaceful. 💕

Dana, you’re resilient and an inspiration. Thank you for being transparent and so real. Sending you all the best🌻

fav part of every video is your beautiful music! gives me the feels every time! thank you for sharing your gift :)

Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your life with us. I adore you! 🩷🩷🩷

You said it at the end. TRUST, SAFETY and consistency. For me that is the real deal.

Really appreciate you sharing your down days and how you deal in a healthy way! And yes, we all get those days, especially highly creative folks, whether they know they are creative or not. Also appreciated hearing about love bombing. I hope you have a refreshing sleep, and that your roses bloom beautifully and scent your room with goodness.

Obsessed with that song!

I love your authenticity. Lewis Howe - love his channel. Also, love bombing is so common. I think you caught it fairly early into the relationship so that's progress (at least in my mind) but you also has some really good insights and thoughts going forward. I've been there a time or two myself. Keep shining your light. You deserve a healthy loving relationship!

What a great video. I'm so happy you were able to recognize early on. Run for the hills! He doesn't deserve you ❤

this is my favorite video of yours ever. so courageous and relatable. i can't wait for a montana dann journal!

Sending brilliant white Healing light and love to you. Your music is so incredible. It warms my heart that you will be focused on that!!!!❤❤❤❤

I'm so sorry you are hurting. Here's the biggest hug ever ❤Your voice is gorgeous !

Oh Dana, my heart hurts for you but you are so intuitive and your gut guided you. I love your sharing, I wish I had been that aware when I was younger but I wasn’t, my self care has only started and in small ways but your inspiration has opened me up to new challenges in taking care of myself. Thank you. And I love your long videos. 💕💕💕

The song ❤. Your voice is beautiful and loved the tune, very calming vibe. Your vulnerability will help others too.

Umm 😍 💛 excuse me that was one of the most beautiful songs-I was feeling it girl. Thank you for sharing ❤

Beautiful song, great video. You are very intuitive and follow your gut. Best thing for self are right there, and the candlelit bath always helps.

Beautiful song, beautiful voice

That outfit is so cute!

So sorry you are going through this heartache. It’s very inspiring to see you create a soft place for yourself to land. 💕 Tomorrow is a new day!

Danna, you've gotten so much spot-on advise and support here in the comments! Please take what resonates with you, take good care of you, but remember to pat yourself on the back, too. You paid attention to your gut; did something about it sooner rather than later; and you took some time to focus on self-care and reflection. Sending you love and peace! 💜

You are an amazing content creator and I really enjoy your videos. They are very entertaining. Well done!!😊

Great video .. love people who can be honest and vulnerable...i always learn something...like I've never heard the term "love bombing" before. Very interesting. Love your voice and the song. Stay strong. You are a beautiful soul

You are so wise Danna and definitely an old soul who knows exactly what she wants and won’t settle for anything less. Sending you a big hug 💗

Human to Human, I see you! I know these feelings. Thanks for sharing 🍷❣

Sending lots of love xxx❤

a hug your way shining star 🌟 I'm sorry for not having healthy suggestions, I believe you're dealing with everything wisely. you just left me with a lot to think about. I didn't know the love bombing concept. thank you for sharing your life experience with us.

That is classic narcissism. Don’t take it personally they will pray on those people who are willing to open up their heart. Appreciate and celebrate that you were able to recognize the issues early and got out.

Uggh I hear you. So good of you to notice the signs. You are not an idiot. You are wise to see it. I love your therapists advise. You deserve peace

I love listening to you. You’re authentic and real. Hard to find nowadays. I began Van/Bus life in December 23! I’m happy to be traveling but still have a large learning curve. Keep up with your thoughts. We like you and need more realistic content. 🌹

Yes the flow! ❤ action goes where the energy flows is my mantra

Aww, certainly was hoping for a normal guy with a steady personality that fit with your vibrant spirit! Yes many of us have been down that road that wakes up your danger danger internal mechanism, and I'm proud that you were alert enough to step back and rethink what is really happening. Take a break, but stay open to unexpected meetings that hold promise. Keep those standards high Danna, you deserve the real thing💕. Thanks for the update, sorry it didn't work out.

I would definitely buy a Montana Danna Journal - just make sure you can send them to Northern Ireland. Or come visit thar would be so cool. Love your reflective self care day. Im not great at self care. I need to work on that. You are most definitely not stupid or an idiot. We are are just going through life day by day, moment by moment. You have also gone through a lot over the last few months with moving and going through all your storage stuff. Continue to be kind to yourself. Looking forward to your album and Influencer the Musical. Sending you huge hugs sweetpea! Hope you got as some sleep! 🍀🥰🍀🥰🍀🥰🍀

I like who you are, Danna! Relax and do what makes you feel content! You know alot about yourself, lean on those things you know.

The pilot G2s are my favorite too! I try other pens, but always go back to those.

Great video Danna ❤. My self care is simply taking a day off of housework, cooking and laundry. Watching my favorite channels and allowing myself to cry. Today was that day. My son took his life one year ago today and I tend to hold it all in and pretend I'm ok. Today I chose to remember him, talk to him, cry to him, look at pictures of him and remember all the happy memories we had especially the past few years before he died. I miss him so much 😢. You deserve a great relationship with someone who is just right for you. I really believe you will find it it's just a matter of letting yourself be open to even guys that may not look your type.

@serenastanley9830

29 күн бұрын

Dear Theresa P., my words fail me as I try to write a note of love and condolence to you. The loss you have experienced is beyond comprehension. That you are still walking and working efficiently is the signature of strength. Opening up to others is a real forward step. Prayers for you and your family, 😢❤

@teresap.5991

29 күн бұрын

@@serenastanley9830 thankyou beautiful ❤️🙏💋

@marloespeters8404

29 күн бұрын

I am so sorry for your loss . Sending you a big virtuel hug ❤

I relate to childhood trauma and relationships. Self care is everything and difficult. Journaling is a God send ! I enjoy your organizational skills too seriously. Hang in there , you are an inspiration in the vlogging world

I had never heard of love bombing! Thanks for educating me. I’m single contemplate dating now and then. It’s good to know this to recognize red flags. Thanks for the video!

This has happened to me multiple times, so don’t feel too bad. It happens to most of us. I’m not sure what is happening with all these guys. I also get so disappointed with dating that I give up. Nowadays, it’s very difficult to find your person. 😣😔 God help us all. 🙏🏼 holding on to my faith.

@marloespeters8404

29 күн бұрын

Same here , single for 2 years and i don't think that will changes soon

Focus on your talents! My focus on men always gave me anxiety and no time to focus on myself! Thanks for sharing what you are going through…..so relatable

You have such a beautiful calming voice.

Hugs to you ❤

Oh lovely Danna I'm so sorry, my heart aches for you right now. You defiantly did the right thing listening to your intuition, you need to protect your heart when others don't. I was in a situation like this a little while ago and it almost... or maybe it did, brake me. But you just have to keep going, focus on you and what makes you feel for filled and safe. You are such kind lovely person, you deserve to be treated with all the kindness and care you give to others. Keep Being your wonderful self it will all work out. Sending you love and positive thoughts from England Xx

1:42 i love your outfit!!

Trust your intuition ❤ Sending you a big ole Mom hug (I’m old enough to be your mom). You’re beautiful inside and outside.

You're a really good person and you're doing great. You deserve a partner that doesn't need to manipulate emotionally to feel powerful. You have good instincts and you deserve all the goodness! Thanks for sharing.

Head to Nashville for a change of scenery next……plenty of genuine types there, and you may just be discovered, girl.

@LadyZaZaSol

Ай бұрын

Felt this. She should be discovered! Something else ❤

@bullpups

29 күн бұрын

Terrible advice. She needs to be single without a damn guy in her life for at least a year.

@RuthWilcox-de5vn

29 күн бұрын

Bullpups. Do you need a hug or who peed in your cheerios today? Why so many rude comments on here? Pretty sure you chose to follow this page and pretty sure if you don’t like what you see or hear, you can hit the little unsubscribe button. Nobody is holding you here.

you know Danna, its ok to "go thru it" or "feel it" some days. we cant always have it together and feel good. SOme days we feel the icky. You share your life online, so you're being real and authentic by telling us, "its just not a good day, guys" and we get it. We are all human. I am sorry youre feeling triggered or off about this new relationship. If it doesnt feel right, you are correct in stepping back and taking time. You need to do whats best for you! Beautiful song!! Sending you all the love and support from Canada! PS. Aww, I want to send a care package! You said you'd put he address down below? I dont see it. I wrote it down from your audio. Hope I got the address correct.

🫶💖🌹 Thank You!

Aww Danna wish I could give you a big hug! 🥰 When I met my husband he waited 2 weeks to call and we took it really slow. I was always leary of the guys that were too eager and too complimentary when they don’t know who you are yet. You will meet that special guy one day because you are that special. Just focus on you right now and reach out to friends for hugs and community ❤❤❤❤

I had a bad feeling about this one for you. Also. Please be very careful with showing your house and walking around by yourself.

Danna, I am sorry to hear what you are going through but it sounds like you recognized the deeper learning experience. One of the best ways to get to know yourself is through relationship with others and it can take you on a healing journey. Like you said you need to attend to your inner wounds that make these type of relationships comfortable. I can resonate as I did a lot of healing work myself. I so agree with what you said about it being a red flag when the other activates your nervous system. For books, I love Melodie Beatty such as Co-dependent No More, the Language of Letting Go and Journey to the Heart. I look forward to your videos.

You are such a beautiful soul ❤

Girl you got this... just keep going ;)

I relate to you so much and I bet I'm not the only one. It's a trust issue and I'm sure it's a warranted one. ❤ Keep doing what makes you happy ❣❣

You're already doing what I do. I write. Music and words. And I read. A lot. Take care. Much love.

I’m 66 and you taught me so many lessons in this video. More please Sending you a virtual hug

Yes Danna. We all have these days!!!!

I love your Chanel and look forward to and watch every video, please if you like someone, don't overthink it, I think it's normal to praise each other more at the beginning, but I guess you know what you are doing and I wish you luck. Your voice is AMAZING X

If you can put your vase of flowers in the refrigerator each night they will stay nicer longer

JOURNAL printing great idea! Use small batch printer online or amazon. Definitely love corner of page recipes, funny " kevin can you get that jokes" motivation thoughts, calender on last page for 30 day challenge, even knitted cover with book mark. You've got so many talents and love watching you grow all of them. Thanks for entertaining and saying what most woman don't share.

Yes, Danna. Please go with your gut right now about taking a giant break from dating. And by giant I don’t even necessarily mean length of time. I mean exactly the shift in focus you mentioned. Toward creating. Toward your musical. Toward sleeping and resting and doing what makes you happy. Toward journaling and looking at the picture of that girl and thinking hard about how best to guide, honor and love her. ☮️ & ❤️ to you my Internet friend.

Oh dang was hoping that wasn’t the deal with gifts and a trip so soon but at least you recognized it and exited stage. Just be vigilant you know some of these people like to continue ugly games. Much love and hugs.

I know it’s very painful to leave someone you care about but you are so wise in your analysis of the situation. You will find the right person soon. Love ya ❤❤❤