I am 32 now. I was 20 when I first met my wife (and started dating with her) and I was not aware of my OCD tendencies then. I could hardly stay with her, we broke up a couple of times in the first 1-1,5 year. (The psychologist I talked with did not realize that I had OCD either.) I remember nagging feelings like: "Do I love her enough?" etc. It was very very hard to stay with her, but I am so happy that we did not give it up. Now we have a good marriage (from 2016) and I love her so much! Actually I cannot tell you, what was the solution. Maybe just to keep staying in the relationship (it is like starving the compulsion - break up). I remember, that I told the psychologist the situation and asked her: "Do you think there is a solution for that"? and she answered: "Yes, there will be" - and it is very interesting for me, that as I remember, this statement gave me relief (with my current awareness, maybe I would say that it was a reassurance seeking). But I remember, that there was a period when I felt the anxiety in my body as well (in my throat). It was very hard that something that should have brought me joy, brought anxious feelings. I remember I told myself a lot of times that the past does not equal with future and maybe my anxiety/feelings will change in time. And it changed :) I am very happy that she is my wife! If anyone is in that situation, just please keep stay in the relationship and do not quit because of your OCD mind!

Thank you, Mark, every time I hear you speak I get just a sense of peace… the peace you walk in definitely flows out of you, and thank you… 🩵 thank you for being vulnerable… I sure needed to hear this today. You’re right when you experience dread it is dreadful… and I’ve been grappling with the “stuck single“ syndrome. I’m working on getting to a healthier place so that I can be a good spouse but man oh man, it’s taking a long time! Much love in Jesus and please tell Missy I said hello!

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Hey Lori! Hope all is well with you 😘

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Your videos are gold!

Your responses to the last question were spot on. I feel for the person because it’s easy to feel that God is withholding or is harsh when (and I don’t know if this was the case for her) you’ve had an unloving father. The God being a card dealer cracked me up. Thanks for what you do - it makes you see how much we can really create a lot of our own suffering as well.

This was a REALLY GOOD one! I have been married and divorced more than once, sadly. The men in my life were addict/abusers. Fast forward… It made me who I am today in helping other women through trauma and abuse. However, I want to be married again and I tend to have a lot of OCD regarding it. This episode really opened my eyes. 👀😲👍

Hi mark ❤it is reassuring to see your video again after 1 months welcome back 😊

I'm very excited to hear you talk about attachment styles and to see if incorporated into your future work, practically and theologically. I see attachment issues in all of my horizontal and vertical relationships and have greatly understood myself and my behavior more towards God as I understood attachment issues. I think it will really add so much to your future videos. Working on healing attachment styles is ironically how I found your work. There is one secure attachment style, and three insecure: dismissive avoidant, anxious/preoccupied and fearful avoidant/disorganized, which, as you said, is not one in itself, but a mixture of avoidant and anxious preoccupied.

Me: God, do you want me to continue watching these live streams? God: No. Haha kidding. I appreciate you pointing this out to others. I’ve fallen into this pattern so many times. And am trying to let go of this still and the God stamp with confirmation.

I feel like from about the 45 minute mark to around the 47:30 mark would be an excellent short. You have been an absolute godsend in my life in regard to ROCD, Scrupe and OCD in general, Mark!! I might be joining your OCD community soon.

The relationships I struggle with are ones with friends or acquaintances or even strangers. For example if I run into someone from high school that used to make fun of me I get awkward and uncomfortable and don't know how to act, assuming they still think that way even though it was 20 years ago. Or if I don't hear from a friend in a while, I start thinking that I've done something wrong and they are mad at me. I know I project my insecurities onto others. I just want to know how to stop. Would love more insight on these types of relationships!

This guy is flat awesome! legit. What an amazing resource he is. This OCD community though...? Ummm $97/month... Can someone please explain to me in detail if this is even worth it? Seems like an exorbitant amount. I live in Australia so that'd actually be $140-$150/month. Point blank: What am I getting that I can't get from KZread/books etc.? I legit would love to know if I'm missing out on valuable content.

Starting a relationship and it seems great, but my mind is sabotaging it. Looking for someone along Mark’s line of training who is either available over zoom call or in the central Ohio area.