Healing the Nervous System From Trauma: Somatic Experiencing

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  • @WomanKiing
    @WomanKiing3 жыл бұрын

    I just wanna heal so badly at this point. My nervous system is out of control

  • @ashanakhan8480

    @ashanakhan8480

    3 жыл бұрын

    What are your symptoms

  • @WomanKiing

    @WomanKiing

    3 жыл бұрын

    I’m always shaking and trembling. My stomach is always queasy. Constantly dizzy and light headed. And i have shortness of breath. Oh and a lot of muscle tension in my body too

  • @evelyneeliana8254

    @evelyneeliana8254

    3 жыл бұрын

    That is anxiety and panic. She has a lot of helpful videos on this.

  • @sergiocarrasco9762

    @sergiocarrasco9762

    3 жыл бұрын

    4 years ago started to feel the same symptons. Particularly, being shaky was the most annoying for me. I managed to get rid of all the symptons by doing exercise, diet and meditation, along with a lot of social contact. This year the covid-19 messed up everything and now I feel miserable again. Find love, enjoy what you do and try to stay healthy and I promise you that all of this will go away.

  • @SliszMeisterGeneral

    @SliszMeisterGeneral

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@WomanKiing A technique I found to be effective at cooling the nerves is to taking 30+ quick, deep breaths until you are nice and lightheaded, although there's no real minimum. It's what I discovered from trying 'The Wim Hof Method' and usually use it before bed as that's when I'm most jittery.

  • @battlehymnoftheempath3610
    @battlehymnoftheempath3610 Жыл бұрын

    "Your nervous system does not function through thoughts, it functions through feelings" so profound

  • @EvansClan2009

    @EvansClan2009

    Жыл бұрын

    Complete game changer for me.

  • @peaceofmindofpeace1650

    @peaceofmindofpeace1650

    Жыл бұрын

    Exactly, we are often told that our feelings follow our thoughts thus we should change our thinking but that's nlt true, at least not fully true. Feelings are a natural reaction to events, impulses from outside. To get better, lighter thoughts, our feelings like pain, need to be exoressed, acknowledged / validated, then healed.

  • @battlehymnoftheempath3610

    @battlehymnoftheempath3610

    Жыл бұрын

    @@peaceofmindofpeace1650 I completely agree with you. Thoughts rationalize I'll feelings and keep you stuck in uncomfortable situations.

  • @theologytherapist

    @theologytherapist

    Жыл бұрын

    This was such a great statement - it definitely spoke to me as well!

  • @jesusbermudez6775

    @jesusbermudez6775

    Жыл бұрын

    What is profound about this? The nervous system is there to tell the mind that it feels pain in some part of the body and that we should do something to remedy the pain. Anxiety uses the nervous system to manifest itself. In this case thoughts are affecting the nervous system.

  • @ArcanumMysterySchool
    @ArcanumMysterySchool2 жыл бұрын

    My jaw is on the floor. I learned more in 12 minutes than I have the past 10 years from doctors. This all makes so much sense now. I want to heal. My stress levels are so high and my health is deteriorating. Fibro, chronic fatigue, anxiety, depression, ADHD, CPTSD, stomach issues ... as I age, I develop more problems. I have to mourn my entire 30s. This is giving me hope. Thank you so much!!!!!

  • @astralydial7533

    @astralydial7533

    Жыл бұрын

    Use your senses to ground yourself from spinning out. Ive started to do it, and writing 3 things I've done or are happy for, for as many evenings as I can. Edit: i hope you're feeling better, sending love and good vibes your way 🤍

  • @junkpunkstore

    @junkpunkstore

    Жыл бұрын

    I have similar conditions. If you havent already Irene Lyon has a good free course on her website that helped me as well as Emma's processing emotions course.

  • @tammy3138

    @tammy3138

    Жыл бұрын

    I'm 59 and have been through so much trauma, I'm lucky to still be alive and yes this video, HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD 🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️

  • @Swansue

    @Swansue

    Жыл бұрын

    Me as well.. CFS.. long story but I was so stressed. Now they say vagus nerve will heal.

  • @PraveenSriram

    @PraveenSriram

    Жыл бұрын

    Definitely same here!

  • @Jennifer-bw7ku
    @Jennifer-bw7ku Жыл бұрын

    Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.

  • @elizabethwilliams6651

    @elizabethwilliams6651

    Жыл бұрын

    Please does anyone know where I can get them? I put so much on my plate and it really affects my stress and anxiety levels, I would love to try shrooms

  • @patriaciasmith3499

    @patriaciasmith3499

    Жыл бұрын

    Psychedelics saved me from years of uncontrollable depression, anxiety and illicit pill addiction. imagine carrving heavy chains for over a decade and then all of a sudden that burden is gone. Believe it or not in a couple years they'll be all over for treatment of mental health related issues.

  • @elizabethwilliams6651

    @elizabethwilliams6651

    Жыл бұрын

    @Micheal Harris Is he on instagram?

  • @jeffsmith2447

    @jeffsmith2447

    Жыл бұрын

    @Micheal Harris Can dr.sporess send to me in Ny?

  • @Zzz-.-369

    @Zzz-.-369

    Жыл бұрын

    @@elizabethwilliams6651 That's from I think mushroom, you may search that what country that mushroom grows💚, be careful psilocybin is drug as well

  • @Christandnature
    @Christandnature3 жыл бұрын

    (Written by River) I have survived my fathers murder being raised by him as a sociopath vietnam veteran full of violence torture and rage, been chronically ill for 8 years,survived a miraculous car accident 2 weeks before my dads murder that i hadn't seen in 10 years. likea life for a life deal. been through 30 years of the cycle of abuse and didn't even realize until i got very sick to where i couldn't care for myself. been homeless, tortured, abused in every way, survived life threatening illness, a fall off a mountain, overdoses from trying to numb the pain of my life while upholding everyone around me emotionally and loving everyone deeply but myself. and somehow i'm still in here. i'm still breathing, still wanting to learn about myself, still wanting to be a light on this earth, and wanting people to feel comfort and worth.i pray for us all and i wish everyone nothing but the best and I LOVE YOU> you deserve peace i deserve peace we deserve peace. My names River and we all matter here.today I'm 33 days sober and a lifetime to follow. We can do this

  • @janewoodman9731

    @janewoodman9731

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you xx

  • @nmania3

    @nmania3

    3 жыл бұрын

    ❤❤❤

  • @boxelder9167

    @boxelder9167

    3 жыл бұрын

    @Onyx 2020 - I tried a lot of things and neurofeedback therapy and cognitive processing therapy has helped the most. I also had to learn that it’s ok to not be ok.

  • @lashellsolis6443

    @lashellsolis6443

    3 жыл бұрын

    River. Sharing your life and experience on here has inspired me - and this video too we can do this. We are survivors. We want to not just live life barely getting by on low energy we have left but thrive. Thank you

  • @vrushankkamble7862

    @vrushankkamble7862

    3 жыл бұрын

    ❤️❤️

  • @brandonlee5487
    @brandonlee54873 жыл бұрын

    Oh my god. Everything makes sense now. Everything makes so much sense, the reason why I experience these panic attacks and constant anxiety is because my body is still stuck in the trauma response. I have had 2 years of crippling anxiety and panic attacks for seemingly no reason but now I understand everything and feel so guilty for being so hard on myself. Thankyou, you have changed my whole way of thinking

  • @steveingo

    @steveingo

    2 жыл бұрын

    i hope this helped you a lot. it did me. medication is sometimes the answer but not just on is own

  • @thefreckledasian

    @thefreckledasian

    2 жыл бұрын

    Don’t feel guilty! You have already done so much work on and for yourself which is always something to be proud of. That sudden awareness/awakening can bring new realizations and I used to feel so much guilt and shame but have compassion and gratitude for yourself. Because it can be easy fo slip back into negative self talk as you’re learning to heal.

  • @donwalker117

    @donwalker117

    2 жыл бұрын

    Stop

  • @smallhouseinthemeadow6131

    @smallhouseinthemeadow6131

    2 жыл бұрын

    I am curious how you are doing one year later Brandon.I hope that you are feeling better now.

  • @mentos93

    @mentos93

    2 жыл бұрын

    I have been stuck for 9 years now in derealization, hyper alert, hyperventilation, anxiety, depression, light and sounds sensitivity.. all started with 1 massive (panic?) Attack.. i have been prescribed with a beta blocker a week ago and my symptoms have been lessend by 30 %. I really wonder if all of this comes from the nervous system.

  • @giselsotopy
    @giselsotopy Жыл бұрын

    In Paraguay, South America, my therapist told me that curing anxiety is really simple because it is not an illness, that I just needed to take my anxiety off my mind and throw it into the garbage, then tickle myself, and pray to Jesus. 👀 So, if you complain that therapists don't take this approach in your country, imagine how it is in third-world countries like mine. Thanks to the internet, I can access this valuable information. Thank you so much for sharing.

  • @jesusbermudez6775

    @jesusbermudez6775

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes, praying will solve all problems! Prayer is a repetitive activity and as a consequence it does calm the body. Repetitive slow activities such as breathing in and out slowly, rubbing your hands slowly, etc do assist in calming the body. I suffer from GAD and I have been suffering this since 2001. At its height I had constant visual and auditorial hallucinations and many other terrible symptoms. Many of these symptoms are now gone as I worked on a daily basis nearly 24 hours a day! at exposing myself to my irrational fears and removing these. An irrational fear I had was that of giving my opinion. Whenever I attempted to do so I would blush intensively. However, by using the social forums and giving my opinion on many issues, I can give my opinion on any topic and feel quite comfortable about it. The social forums are good because I can expose myself in a safe manner.

  • @JulietCrowson

    @JulietCrowson

    Ай бұрын

    Where isn't a. Third world country in 2024... Thank God we have access to this information without having to pay for costly therapy though ✝️

  • @heatherflynn
    @heatherflynn2 жыл бұрын

    I am slowly learning how to heal my body's nervous system from trauma with yoga and the difference is incredible. I was constantly living in a state of fear and anxiety, any noise, any sudden movement, any strange situation, I would notice it , my heart would start beating so fast, I was diagnosed with IBS (didn't actually have it but was just my flight response to need the toilet), I was paranoid, obsessive thoughts and I never actually truly knew what rest and relaxation felt like. I started to become suicidal and got admitted to a hospital , I ended up staying there for a very long time. After being out for a few years and doing better in myself I started to do a yoga challenge for 30 days and im here nearly three months since doing yoga everyday and the difference is insane. Sometimes you dont realise how bad the state you are living in is as this just becomes your everyday reality - its not until you enter a different mind state that you come out of the state you have been living in and yoga did that for me. I look back at only a few months ago and feel such sadness how I had lived my life like that for so long , my body constantly in stress and such tension, I feel really lucky I didnt actually get super chronically ill. we really can heal ourselves through the body.

  • @myronbagan1001

    @myronbagan1001

    2 жыл бұрын

    C an you recommend the video you watched? i also have ibs :) thanks!

  • @rosellecarmen2224

    @rosellecarmen2224

    Жыл бұрын

    @@myronbagan1001 Any yoga video helps. I've been following this playlist from YWA kzread.info/head/PLui6Eyny-UzwDdFPVSeYN3aTG_B1qtHtz

  • @SDivine1111

    @SDivine1111

    Жыл бұрын

    Hi! Do you have any yoga video suggestions? Or what yoga you do that has helped you so much? Thank you!!!

  • @heatherflynn

    @heatherflynn

    Жыл бұрын

    @@SDivine1111 hey :) I watch boho beautiful channel - I find them the best because I think the constant flow movement and strength positions really help me to get out of my mind and into my body as there’s not much time to think. I would recommend yoga with Adrienne too, because she reminds you to be mindful while moving. Yoga is not an exercise, but a meditative movement. Also consistency is key. I used to do yoga once a week but it was nothing like doing it on a consistent basis. I would recommend doing it at least x3 or x4 a week. You just have to trust you will feel benefits, after around a month and a bit I felt amazing benefits. Also there’s a channel on KZread called “wild Mollie” and she has a 1 year yoga video on there, I’d give that a watch if you need inspiration.

  • @SDivine1111

    @SDivine1111

    Жыл бұрын

    @@heatherflynn thank you so much!! 🧡

  • @golmaal138
    @golmaal1384 жыл бұрын

    You have a motherly soothing voice and aura. Don't recall any other person better suited to psychological counseling. Wish you a happy fulfilling life.

  • @debbiedebbie9473

    @debbiedebbie9473

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yes she's very calming. ♥️🙂

  • @kaydoherty3090

    @kaydoherty3090

    3 жыл бұрын

    You are amazingly strong I wish you well

  • @mdougf

    @mdougf

    3 жыл бұрын

    agreed!!

  • @stacielivinthedream8510

    @stacielivinthedream8510

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yes you can tell she really cares!

  • @tatianahawaii13

    @tatianahawaii13

    3 жыл бұрын

    ❤️

  • @TowerJunkie
    @TowerJunkie4 жыл бұрын

    About half way through I started crying. This is such a breakthrough moment for me... you have no idea.

  • @dewchamp5716

    @dewchamp5716

    4 жыл бұрын

    Same ❤️

  • @jcsrst

    @jcsrst

    4 жыл бұрын

    OMG! Me too!

  • @issayousif4788

    @issayousif4788

    3 жыл бұрын

    This made me happy, hope you're continuing your healing journey!

  • @arnold2428

    @arnold2428

    3 жыл бұрын

    Check out dr. Kristin Neff, her talks on self empathy and compassion are really good! 🙂

  • @Chantellemcc123

    @Chantellemcc123

    3 жыл бұрын

    Good luck ❤️

  • @evalinevanderwiel826
    @evalinevanderwiel8262 жыл бұрын

    Emdr is a very good tool in my experience, to treat anxiety and process stuck emotions. It really helped me and releived me from an overstressed nervous system.. what also really helped was, walking in nature, magnesium supplements, meditation, yoga, writing, healthy foods (fish/vegetables/muts/seeds/fruits/chicken/beans/avocado/dark chocolat), 8 hours sleep a day/structure. Someone to talk to. Praying. Writing down 3 things your grateful for, every day🌻wishing You welll if you’re going trough anxiety, and/or depression🙏🏻Keep up the faith.

  • @aubreyj.tennant1123

    @aubreyj.tennant1123

    Жыл бұрын

    Appreciate your comments here. I too have integrated a lot of what you’ve listed. A good daily sleep pattern, forest bathing, friends, great food, a good sense of purpose or hobby and regular exercise are habits that heal my trauma. 🙏🏼😊

  • @uncle-nice6556
    @uncle-nice65562 ай бұрын

    I remember having some minor surgery years ago and at that point I had never done any kind of drug at all. I didn't even drink small amounts of coffee or alcohol. They hit me with an intravenous dose of shrooms and I felt so good, so positive, and so thoughtful that I felt like I could've talked Hitler out of a wagging war.

  • @thrickthooter4403

    @thrickthooter4403

    2 ай бұрын

    Thats awesome, I'm glad you got a meaningful experience and I hope your as happy with the new you as you sound.

  • @muu1589

    @muu1589

    2 ай бұрын

    These are great healing compounds! When used in proper context.

  • @chang3227

    @chang3227

    2 ай бұрын

    I've had my fair share of pure magic mushroom and I can say it's definitely a great psychedelic tool.

  • @kristahutchinson6519

    @kristahutchinson6519

    2 ай бұрын

    Y'all all talk about the benefits but you don't say where one can grab from...

  • @muu1589

    @muu1589

    2 ай бұрын

    dr.rinehartshrooms

  • @FaithInspiredWriter
    @FaithInspiredWriter4 жыл бұрын

    YES! For once, someone understands me and that talk therapy doesn’t work successfully for everyone, especially trauma survivors. I’m on a beautiful healing journey giving voice to my inner child who had been silenced for 50+ years. There’s no single pathway to recovery. For each person it’s unique. Part of my recovery is standing firm in my healthy boundaries. #MeToo

  • @songmincarmenchan

    @songmincarmenchan

    3 жыл бұрын

    I hope you heal soon! It is really... Gosh silenced for 50+ years sounds horrible. I'm 26 and that is enough!

  • @namastesilence5230

    @namastesilence5230

    3 жыл бұрын

    Dana Arcuri My heart goes out to you. Living in a constant survival mode, my brain doesn't recognize if therapy is retraumatizing or is part of the healing process. It's a relief knowing there are kind souls out there, non-judgemental, understanding, crystal-clear, compassionate-hearted. 🌷

  • @julieannelovesbooks

    @julieannelovesbooks

    3 жыл бұрын

    There are many different shapes and sizes therapy can come in, it also heavily depends on your therapist, lord knows I’ve had to search for one I actually had a good connection with. Talk therapy is also generally not advised for PTSD cases, the type of therapy they will actually do is EMDR, which does not involve talking but actually involve reprocessing the experience to take off the emotional load that didn’t get processed when you got traumatized. I’m so glad you’ve found a way of healing that is effective for you! I just want to say to the people that need help, please go get help. There are so many amazing mental health professionals out there who can guide you through processing this awful thing that happened to you. Sending everyone in this comment section so so so much love ❤️ xxx another survivor

  • @FaithInspiredWriter

    @FaithInspiredWriter

    3 жыл бұрын

    Julie Anne Hurst Thank you for sharing encouragement. I’m a big believer that each individual is unique. We respond to trauma differently and there is no “one size fits all” for the recovery process. As for myself, I’ve had awesome results with holistic options. In my memoir, Soul Cry: Releasing & Healing the Wounds of Trauma, I list a wide variety of professional resources for survivors. Ironically, EMDR is one listed in my book. 🦋

  • @julieannelovesbooks

    @julieannelovesbooks

    3 жыл бұрын

    Dana Arcuri exactly! Not everything works for the same person and there is no ‘standard’ way to react to trauma! Those situations are so strange and not normal, how can we expect to be one normal way for people to react and one normal way to treat people that works for everyone? I’m so glad the holistic route is working for you! Currently I’m doing yoga to get connected to my feelings, sensations and emotions again because I’m so used to blocking all of that out. It’s a slow process but in the end I’m going to come out of it so much stronger. As a psychology student who went through a lot very traumatic experience I am really interested in it, so next year we start our research for our thesis so I might do mine on a more holistic way to heal from trauma. Are there any things that you found most helpful while healing?

  • @leonardstefanyshyn40
    @leonardstefanyshyn404 жыл бұрын

    When you can find peace in the middle of all the mess and suffering, you are on your way. In this world there will be suffering. Thankyou for all you do. Praying for you and your family.

  • @stevenkerr789

    @stevenkerr789

    3 жыл бұрын

    Jesus is Lord

  • @-HolySpiritDove-

    @-HolySpiritDove-

    2 жыл бұрын

    Calm in heart and mind, with the Helmet of Salvation 🌻🌿🗻⛅️😇👷✨💫

  • @GravityGamingCo

    @GravityGamingCo

    2 жыл бұрын

    Be of good cheer Lord Jesus has overcome this world!

  • @peterocholongwa88

    @peterocholongwa88

    2 жыл бұрын

    ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Sé de un hombre sue puede traer vuelta a tu ex en 2 días sin demora💝🌹🌹.Me ayudó hace unos días hace un trabajo perfecto, te lo aseguro, vas a testificar 🙏🙏🙏

  • @LinYouToo
    @LinYouToo2 жыл бұрын

    Decades of trauma as a child- two autoimmune diseases, asthma, and even had depression as far back as kindergarten. I so wish I had this training when I was younger.

  • @michellepackman1484
    @michellepackman14842 жыл бұрын

    As someone living through PTSD, I always feel that these videos advise us to return our nervous systems to normal without honoring the need for our body to emotionally express things. My PTSD only got better by releasing anger, crying, shouting, etc, first. I lived a good childhood and I'm always a calm person but after trauma, your body stored sadness, anger, general stress that has to be expressed. I think it is helpful to master the parasympathetic nervous system but not until (and this is critically important) AFTER releasing the pent up emotions. If you try to calm your nervous system before letting things out, you train yourself to store things permanently. Its really like "then they swallowed their pain" vibes and its unhealthy.

  • @japplesin

    @japplesin

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for your write up. I recognised and acknowledged my trauma that caused my anxiety in the first place. But I find no outlet to shout, cry or throw a punch.

  • @emmaceleste2435

    @emmaceleste2435

    2 жыл бұрын

    this comment is so helpful to me and could potentially have led me to transformation in my healing. thank you! ❤️ i agree.

  • @lisarussey9115

    @lisarussey9115

    2 жыл бұрын

    During EMDR, emotions come from 'nowhere'! I literally go from smiling to crying, back to smiling. It feels like such a release!

  • @tess9053

    @tess9053

    2 жыл бұрын

    So grateful for this comment

  • @lovelyk1386

    @lovelyk1386

    2 жыл бұрын

    How did you get rid of your anger..I can't just go around pouncing on ppl

  • @elizabethwilliams6651
    @elizabethwilliams66516 ай бұрын

    Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

  • @steceymorgan814

    @steceymorgan814

    6 ай бұрын

    Does anyone know any good source to get them? I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels, would love to give shrooms a try.

  • @APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU

    @APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU

    6 ай бұрын

    Yes, dr.sporesss

  • @twinfred3160

    @twinfred3160

    6 ай бұрын

    Dr.sporesss is the best, he's been my go to for anything psychedelics.

  • @steceymorgan814

    @steceymorgan814

    6 ай бұрын

    Is he on instagram?

  • @APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU

    @APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU

    6 ай бұрын

    Yes he is. dr.sporesss

  • @willowoodz
    @willowoodz2 жыл бұрын

    I AM SO HAPPY I CLICKED ON THIS VIDEO. as a child- i was always shamed for feeling emotions too strongly. “you’re too sensitive” while i’m trying to communicate my needs or “don’t be so giddy” as i’m literally too joyous for words. i’ve always been shamed for my physical reactions to things. in fact- i’ve been shamed for nearly everything by my mom. but it’s not her fault. it’s definetly not my fault. it’s a cycle of abuse that i’m willing to break- even if that means that my mom will think i’m crazy or that i hate her. i want to love myself, and although i love her- i love her enough to let her go rather than seek revenge. i have support. i have coping mechanisms. i have goals. i want to heal.

  • @alexro8048

    @alexro8048

    25 күн бұрын

    Thank you for writing this

  • @CassaundraBabe
    @CassaundraBabe Жыл бұрын

    After suffering with complex PTSD severely for the past six years, I found Ilene's book. I actually wept through the entire book because I finally could stop blaming myself (a very high-achieving, goal-getting individual for 35 plus years) for losing my career, relationships, friends, family after nearly two years of debilitating anxiety, depression, suicidal ideations, isolation, inability to focus or make decision and physical shut down.

  • @d.m.christina

    @d.m.christina

    Жыл бұрын

    Take care. Wishing you best of luck. Life is in front of you and it is yours! Success!

  • @lindazulinov9873

    @lindazulinov9873

    Жыл бұрын

    How do you manage at home.

  • @lilylancaster3571

    @lilylancaster3571

    Жыл бұрын

    Oh my gosh! I felt like I was reading a comment I wrote! I had to check the name to be sure. Very similar to my life! May we find peace!

  • @TheJordanBrownFamily

    @TheJordanBrownFamily

    Жыл бұрын

    Which book? I haven’t listened to the podcast yet. Reading your post wow. This is me and has been I would say since 2007.

  • @TheJordanBrownFamily

    @TheJordanBrownFamily

    Жыл бұрын

    Not suicidal at least but it’s like sometimes it tries to get in there as if knocking on the door wanting me to think about it yet I just won’t. I am so sorry. I’m here.

  • @ilikehumans1096
    @ilikehumans10963 жыл бұрын

    “ Traditional Western psychology has failed many people” A truer statement has not been uttered! Read books by Gabor Mate he has done some excellent work regarding trauma and body.

  • @paulajackson2678

    @paulajackson2678

    3 жыл бұрын

    True. It’s an excellent statement.

  • @miwito

    @miwito

    2 жыл бұрын

    WHen the body says no = mind blown

  • @tarawalsh-arpaia3928

    @tarawalsh-arpaia3928

    2 жыл бұрын

    Brilliant! My mother sent me Mate's Hungry Ghost book and Johann Hari's Chasing the Scream,. I also got Bessel Van der Kolk's The Body Keeps Score.There are also the Zaharis that do eastern psychotherapy in the UK (or did( They wrote a book about this.

  • @ckhaosreignsinc.6105

    @ckhaosreignsinc.6105

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes. My holistic treatment has helped. Acupuncture helps sooooo much!

  • @dustinclark3390

    @dustinclark3390

    2 жыл бұрын

    It failed me

  • @l.mendes547
    @l.mendes5473 жыл бұрын

    There comes a point in Life where you have to come to the understanding that suffering is a part of Life and we must find peace inside ourselves that everyone at some point in Life will deal with some sort of what is called 'trauma experience' which in spiritual scriptions is described as suffering. The western part of the world uses a lot of labels which actually keeps people stuck in a victim mindset which keeps the body in resistance; it´s the resistance of acceptance of Life which creates anxiety. So it is important to use these type of information as tools for therapy growth and healing but to detach however from the labels used for trauma or else you will be constantly dependent through Life when another suffering experience occurs. Life goes through changes and we can grow from these patterns by creating new ones but what is sure is no one leaves this Life without experiencing suffering. Once you look at Life from a bigger picture by accepting changes in Life and that the suffering passes by as much as joy passes by...you will create peace in your state of mind. This is a great therapy tool explained for healing from old patterns and break from the victim mindset.

  • @violet6839

    @violet6839

    3 жыл бұрын

    Couldn’t have said it better 🙏🏻. Beautiful words thanks for sharing

  • @youngsetapart3865

    @youngsetapart3865

    3 жыл бұрын

    Well said 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @myradeleon8618

    @myradeleon8618

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing. This is great!

  • @simplyimpish1055

    @simplyimpish1055

    3 жыл бұрын

    This describes me to a T.

  • @IreneBelasco

    @IreneBelasco

    3 жыл бұрын

    You are an amazing woman. I needed that. Thank you

  • @lizgutierrez2310
    @lizgutierrez23103 жыл бұрын

    Exactly. Talk therapy didn’t help me at all just made me feel worse. Thank you for sharing this info. Much appreciated.

  • @NeuralRetraining

    @NeuralRetraining

    3 жыл бұрын

    Me too. It’s just reliving it. I’ve had to address trauma very differently and am healing it now.

  • @toronto416.

    @toronto416.

    3 жыл бұрын

    Hi, so what can I do?

  • @ven8422

    @ven8422

    3 жыл бұрын

    Maybe try writing it out, how you feel or have felt? Share with others what you’re comfortable with, hope it gets easier ❤️

  • @lettinggrace

    @lettinggrace

    3 жыл бұрын

    Hi, would you not recommended talking about the trauma? My therapist encourages me to when I'm ready by saying it will help me and she doesn't want something to happen when I'm older because all the stuff goes unprocessed, so she thinks it's necessary at some point to talk about it and says it will help me heal. I have been so wary it is just going to re-traumatize me or take me back to that place. A few years ago, I was going to therapy for the first time and another therapist asked if I had been through anything traumatic? So, I literally started talking about the traumatic experiences in my life I could remember that were surfacing back into my memory at the time. And after I shared two of them, I remember all I got was an I'm sorry. And I remember after I said it I had this weird feeling. I didn't feel better and I remember thinking that's it? I then had a lot of challenging emotions come up for weeks afterward and I felt like I was very close to having a mental breakdown when my mental state was already severe. I'm not sure if talking about that stuff had anything to do with feeling worse, but I have heard people say if you start spilling all your trauma, some people can end up in the hospital with a mental breakdown because it is so overwhelming and then I've also heard people say talk therapy doesn't help or made them retraumatized. What is the right thing for your mental health? Is there any way to heal or process trauma? I have been so scared to bring anything up after that experience.

  • @zelenooko3893

    @zelenooko3893

    3 жыл бұрын

    Read Luisa Hay heal your body and soul! Life changing🤗

  • @rhondar4063
    @rhondar4063 Жыл бұрын

    I've recently realized the healing power of these gentle somatic movements. Oh my goodness I'm so glad, Praise God! After years of self-help from a terrible abusive and traumatic childhood or lack of one, I thought I was doing pretty good. Then 6 years ago my fiance died suddenly and traumatically in my home. Me and my son tried to save him and it was an ordeal with the paramedics and him lying on my floor for hours. After my adult son started taking prescriptive pills not prescribed to him because of the experience and then proceeded to verbally bash me for a next couple of years for pills. It devastated me along with re-triggering the post-traumatic stress I had worked so hard to overcome and made me a nervous wreck. At one point I could barely move off my chair for almost a year along with truly wanting to no longer live for like two. Never experienced depression like this before. Luckily I'm not in that spot anymore but this time around Im a lot older and in a lot more pain from three surgeries on my neck with a whole lot less of my life to look forward to. I've been doing a lot of cognitive stuff, positive affirmations, meditation along with seeing a counselor weekly for about 10 months which is helped a whole lot but not fast enough. I don't want to die alone at home. I've never been someone to isolate like this. The pandemic and having no family made it so much worse. I'm so glad I found this and some other videos on this topic because I don't like who I am anymore. As a young adult I had no choice but to work on myself because I couldn't live in my own mind and be happy. I'm in the same position now. But I realize it's my body more than my mind now. I did some exercises last night and weeped out loud like a baby but I wasn't sad my body felt such relief, my chest had been so tight I couldn't hardly breathe for days. I felt instant relief and I could hardly believe it. My chest was so tight to the point I was feeling dizzy when I stood up. That's gone now. Thank you for putting out these videos, not just this one but all of them. They've helped me a lot in the last few years I just never found this one before. They say that teacher appears when the student is ready. They also say that teacher leaves when the student has learned;)

  • @DiDiRoos10

    @DiDiRoos10

    Жыл бұрын

    Wishing you lots of healthiness and happiness 🍀⚘🌸🌺

  • @Sunflower-lv9iu

    @Sunflower-lv9iu

    Жыл бұрын

    You’ve been thru a lot but you’re still trying to better yourself, you’re strong, a survivor. 💪🏼May YAHWEH bless you and bring you healing! ❤️

  • @lisethisabelsalguero2435

    @lisethisabelsalguero2435

    Жыл бұрын

    Genuinely hope you are feeling better, and I hope you are proud of yourself for doing the work. That is amazing and you will see changes the more you focus on this, healing, and doing things that make you happy. You got this. May this year bring you many blessings. :)

  • @Jordanjordan245

    @Jordanjordan245

    Жыл бұрын

    You’re amazing and be so proud of yourself x

  • @kirstieb8025

    @kirstieb8025

    Жыл бұрын

    i don’t know what makes me happy. nothing, really.

  • @cosmichouseofrose9788
    @cosmichouseofrose97883 жыл бұрын

    I am a trauma therapist as well. I am so happy that you have this channel and you are sharing this important information on a larger scale.

  • @gauravnarodey8021

    @gauravnarodey8021

    Жыл бұрын

    can u pls help me mam/sir

  • @gauravnarodey8021

    @gauravnarodey8021

    Жыл бұрын

    its urgent

  • @rcjacksonbrighton
    @rcjacksonbrighton3 жыл бұрын

    After doing yoga/meditation for a while... I have instinctively been able to allow my body to express what it needs to from a deep place and it’s released ALOT of stored emotions and trauma I had NO idea was there!!! There’s so much we can let go of when we enter deep into our energetic bodies x

  • @TherapyinaNutshell

    @TherapyinaNutshell

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yes!

  • @rcjacksonbrighton

    @rcjacksonbrighton

    3 жыл бұрын

    Therapy in a Nutshell ☺️ xx

  • @bubaiislam4292

    @bubaiislam4292

    3 жыл бұрын

    Can you givee me a bit of idea @rebecca how to release stored emotion from body????...

  • @teena5723

    @teena5723

    3 жыл бұрын

    Amazing❤

  • @rcjacksonbrighton

    @rcjacksonbrighton

    3 жыл бұрын

    ​@@bubaiislam4292 Yes sure. You need to be still and quiet with yourself. Find a quiet safe space in your home where you can be alone. Be with the stillness of your surroundings for a few minutes. Close your eyes and set an intention to step back and allow your body to do 'what ever it needs to do' in this time. That you will allow your body to express and move in what ever way it needs to. You will observe and be the watcher yet you will not get involved unless you need to. Be still, sit still, and then start to naturally move however your body feels it wants to. You may start to question yourself and wonder if you are dictating those moves. That doesn't matter just observe and let it be. Keep allowing your body to move, flinch, sway, circle, jolt, make sounds, what ever next feels right. It normally starts off very slow and builds. It can take some practice to get in touch with this subtle aspect of yourself. Allow yourself to be as 'weird' as you need to be. Sometimes the weirder the better.. The main part here is you want to communicate to your body that it is ok and allowed to do what it needs to do and that 'you' wont judge it. From my personal experience, when you trust your movements and impulses and allow it to get 'weird', some spontaneous bursts of crying and emotion seem to come from 'nowhere' and almost explode out of you. This is what happens to me sometimes. It's very much a practice where you need to get familiar with your body and your own quiet. You can play around with it in your own time. Trust your body knows best and you KNOW you can always step in and stop it if it ever gets too much for you. You are always in control and able to step in. :) x

  • @illssolution5720
    @illssolution57203 жыл бұрын

    I "crashed" from stress, depression, exhaustion... and my therapist Rx'd an SSRI. There ya go! 5 years later I am still "crashed". My nervous system feels that it is off line. THANK you for this information and this book. It is resonating with me and I am HOPEFUL for the first time in 5 years. Thank YOU!

  • @sandramedina9482

    @sandramedina9482

    Жыл бұрын

    How r u doing!

  • @yeseniamoreno3209

    @yeseniamoreno3209

    Жыл бұрын

    I know all that i need to know how to fixed. More exercices maybe. You guys just keep talking about the problem not the cure.

  • @emmabosman3716
    @emmabosman3716 Жыл бұрын

    When I moved back home after a really stressful time that threw me into a depression, I was surprised at how physically exhausted I was. Once I was in a safe space again, I slept and slept and slept. It felt really good, and I felt how much my body needed rest after my mind had been through trauma. In a way, it was a signal that we were okay again and that I could just relax. All that sleep helped me end the cycle of stress. Now I've got lots more energy again, I'm exercising and socialising, I'm working hard and having fun. But I don't think my mind would have been able to get here if I hadn't given my body time to recover. It made me realise that the trauma wasn't just in my head, it was also stored in my body.

  • @cococarton3601
    @cococarton3601 Жыл бұрын

    Hi Emma, thank you for explaining this so well. I am stuck in grief over the loss of my 23 year old son from cancer. He was diagnosed at age 18 and passed away 5 years later. I have tried everything and nothing works, but listening to you explain the whole body system.....I will try this. Even in the video I felt it all made sense when talk therapy does not work for some people. Thanks again from Vancouver, Canada

  • @keeleehudson
    @keeleehudson4 жыл бұрын

    Yep.. That's me. I'm that woman. I hope i found the right dr. But I've been getting myself out of survival mode, on my own. It's so hard to do this on your own while still having to survive.

  • @YoungAztecClips

    @YoungAztecClips

    4 жыл бұрын

    find yourself and love yourself, you're worth it!

  • @simonestreeter1518

    @simonestreeter1518

    4 жыл бұрын

    It certainly is. May I recommend a book? "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving" by Pete Walker. It is the next best thing to having a friend with you who understands.

  • @namastesilence5230

    @namastesilence5230

    3 жыл бұрын

    Keele Hudson You're not alone dear kind strong soul, I'm doing this on my own as well... Grateful I've found this channel and human beings to connect 🙏

  • @shyaaammeneen63

    @shyaaammeneen63

    3 жыл бұрын

    Keelee, Time to develop your mental muscles. Meditation is the permanent way to a relaxed and stress free life because it reprogrames the mind. Enter "Alternate nostril breathing meditation videos" on Google search and do the simple meditation for 10 to 15 minutes if possible twice a day--early morning before 6.am is a magical time when you may feel a divine presence around you. . Also read the benefits of alternate nostril breathing meditation. It can also be done sitting on a chair. Try to be still and avoid moving too much. Best wishes. Do meditation daily to enjoy a relaxed life. Best wishes--Shyaaam Sir,--Life Coach. God has given us life to be happy.

  • @goertzpsychiatry9340

    @goertzpsychiatry9340

    3 жыл бұрын

    kzread.info/dash/bejne/n3etmK9siNatqrQ.html

  • @jusjaisinghani8179
    @jusjaisinghani81794 жыл бұрын

    i seriously cannot fathom the amount of help this channel can bring to individuals who just need such guidance and understanding of their psychology and physiology to bring the positive changes they themselves have the potential of. i am seriously sad by seeing how a much smaller audience thinks about these problems as actual solvable issues and reach out to free resources like these to learn and live through this crazy chaotic place. I cant thank you enough, Emma. I just found your channel recently and would love to learn from all the information you have already shared! Keep up the good work!

  • @MsTitty77
    @MsTitty77 Жыл бұрын

    I have attempted to meditate many times in my life and prior to this CD the only success I've experienced is with live guided meditation. kzread.infoUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq This is the first CD I've used that cuts through my unmedicated ADHD and enables me to truly relax and experience a quiet and energizing interval. The instructors voice is very soothing and pleasant to listen to. I am easily able to sit successfully through the entire CD, and for quite some time after. I cannot adequately express how tremendously helpful this CD has been on my spiritual journey!! Two thumbs up and 10 stars!

  • @crispy-jolteon

    @crispy-jolteon

    9 ай бұрын

    dont click on this.

  • @TapiwaLexis
    @TapiwaLexis3 жыл бұрын

    After lockdown I want to invest in therapy 😢 I just want to live a happy life and erase certain things and people from my memory

  • @goertzpsychiatry9340

    @goertzpsychiatry9340

    3 жыл бұрын

    kzread.info/dash/bejne/n3etmK9siNatqrQ.html

  • @emirojas92

    @emirojas92

    3 жыл бұрын

    Same here sister. 🤍

  • @damsel72
    @damsel723 жыл бұрын

    Such an important topic. Can relate. 47yrs old...only now learning to listen to my body. Love your channel...your work is fabulous. Thank You 🙏 💐💕

  • @goertzpsychiatry9340

    @goertzpsychiatry9340

    3 жыл бұрын

    kzread.info/dash/bejne/n3etmK9siNatqrQ.html

  • @LNC2009
    @LNC20092 жыл бұрын

    One thing we must always remember is that healing takes time Never let anyone say to you that you can be healed in a day or two Our body is a gift of nature and it is alright if our body takes time to heal Always remember that words make a difference Saying a few good and encouraging words to anyone who is suffering makes a lot of difference Remember that mother nature will heal you All you have to do is to have some patience!

  • @isabella9124
    @isabella91242 жыл бұрын

    Helpful video. I dislike when this world doesn’t want us to feel emotions and to “get over it” and it’s no wonder we suppress them. It’s good to let it out and express it in a healthy way. My body still trembles sometimes but I try not to suppress it and instead let it be.

  • @lornaelizabeth6290
    @lornaelizabeth62902 жыл бұрын

    It’s amazing and fascinating! I started this journey at 35/36 now 40 I was blind to myself- after doing tonnes of work and unraveling I had the awareness but now had to embody everything! This was and remains the hardest part as I am now going against the ingrained record the familiar! It’s so uncomfortable- but so worth it! Yoga, yoga and yoga! It gets you into your body, your breathing and helps you to become a witness and practice detachment! It’s practice- there is so much resistance but it’s exciting! Change is possible ❤️ Sending so much love to you all! Get to know you, how you feel, your emotions and the way in which your body responds- we are not our trauma! Let’s put these heavy bags down 😍😘

  • @SunnyHeartKay

    @SunnyHeartKay

    Жыл бұрын

    What kind of yoga do you practice?

  • @wendyb9911
    @wendyb99113 жыл бұрын

    This video was spot on for me, after leaving an abusive relationship with my kids, I feel physically tense, sore and generally not that well. My body is definitely trying to tell me something, I've just not been listening! We need to take it slow, be kind to ourselves and not expect a miracle once we have been through traumatic experiences. thank you!

  • @sriku1000

    @sriku1000

    2 жыл бұрын

    A Calming Video On The Theory of Moving Emotions and How Music is as Complex as You kzread.info/dash/bejne/X6mZ2syyZNa9pZc.html

  • @cobain4969

    @cobain4969

    Жыл бұрын

    An abusive relationship w your ... Kids? Huh?

  • @fancy357
    @fancy357 Жыл бұрын

    I found this very beneficial. The biggest thing that I use to rid me of anxiety instantly, is giving my trauma, my past, my present, my problems and anything making me panic, to God. Pray for healing. Pray for peace and to bring joy back in your life.

  • @melissacole4903

    @melissacole4903

    Жыл бұрын

    Absolutely true for me as well

  • @Jade-bf5we
    @Jade-bf5we2 жыл бұрын

    I've severe chronic fatigue Syndrome. I've also experienced deep trauma, multiple times.. all this can cause Chronic fatigue. Along with other numerous factors.. Placing the body into a healing state and into the parasympathetic nervous system. Makes perfect sense. This video was so helpful.

  • @emma-kj8pr
    @emma-kj8pr Жыл бұрын

    This video came at the perfect time. Currently I'm in trauma therapy and EMDR for my PTSD. My EMDR is stuck cause of my body. So now I've been focusing on my nervous system and calming my body down. I've been in survival mode for 3 years now....this vid fits with everything I've been doing. I'm even gonna send this to my counselor and see if this book is good for me...which I'm pretty sure it is. EMDR is great and even talk therapy has helped me. But it all comes down to the body and that connection you have with it. Thank you for this video. It came on my feed at the perfect time.

  • @Dannniellleee
    @Dannniellleee3 жыл бұрын

    This is literally everything I’ve experienced, down to the stomach issues- as a kid, I thought stomach pains were normal! I took a few years away from everything (it was not easy) to “rebuild” and focus on self-love. It’s helped so much! ☺️🧡 I’ve been looking for a comprehensive book or video for years now. Thank you for this!! 🙏🏽

  • @lionofjudahlambofgod9132

    @lionofjudahlambofgod9132

    3 жыл бұрын

    God can heal. YHWH Rapha. God healed me a bunch through His Comforter and crying out pain. If i drink lots of water and stretch my body convulses because ive had lots of trauma happen. It calms me down but I have witnessed God heal people and have experienced deliverance and miracles. kzread.info/dash/bejne/ZKGbt7KtYq6vYJs.html

  • @Dannniellleee

    @Dannniellleee

    3 жыл бұрын

    Lion of Judah, Lamb of God Thank you so much for sharing! 🙏🏽

  • @metalphobos3632

    @metalphobos3632

    3 жыл бұрын

    Dani, have you heard of DNRS? look into it if you haven't

  • @Dannniellleee

    @Dannniellleee

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@metalphobos3632 definitely. Thank you!!

  • @goertzpsychiatry9340

    @goertzpsychiatry9340

    3 жыл бұрын

    kzread.info/dash/bejne/n3etmK9siNatqrQ.html

  • @WisconsinWanderer
    @WisconsinWanderer2 жыл бұрын

    A big part of my anxiety inflammation is my flight or fight and my unwillingness to let go! Meditation is my key to fulfillment,peace and joy! Thank you 🙏

  • @Taratreehugger
    @Taratreehugger Жыл бұрын

    It’s good to hear a therapist talk about this. I did therapy for 10 years without learning about the Somatic side of healing. Could have healed so much faster if more therapists knew about it. 😢 If you haven’t already, check out “The Body Keeps the Score.”

  • @kenaelsegal7969
    @kenaelsegal79692 жыл бұрын

    Some of us PTs work with patients who experienced trauma. I am a pelvic floor PT. We are versed in the central nervous system and address sensitization as well. The combination of physical and cognitive therapy should be standard for all who experience trauma.

  • @patriciawhite1206

    @patriciawhite1206

    Жыл бұрын

    My Pelvic therapist was very important in the puzzle...she found things and pointed me towards correct diagnosis

  • @sparkjunk
    @sparkjunk3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for saying FREEZE regarding fight & flight, no one ever acknowledges that part of it. Through any of my research freeze just seems irrelevant. THANKS FOR THE BOOK SHARE!!! EXCITED TO CHECK IT OUT!!

  • @ojusbhanot676

    @ojusbhanot676

    2 жыл бұрын

    Freeze is the most relevant I believe.

  • @georgialee3432
    @georgialee34323 жыл бұрын

    This is very true. Traditional therapy just keeps that negative vibration going. Retraining your body to Distinguish between excitement in danger have to help me. When a good sensation occurs inside of me I say to myself this is a good sensation. This is a positive sensation. This is a pleasurable sensation. When negative sensations or anxiety comes up in me, I allow it. I don’t fight it allow myself to feel it but I don’t attach a story to it. I just observe it and allow it. I also meditate daily. Focusing on regulating my breathing. Emptying my mind. I find it resets everything.

  • @cecilcharlesofficial

    @cecilcharlesofficial

    Жыл бұрын

    "I feel it but I don't attach a story to it" - that's the whole secret right there. 6 months ago I just started feeling every sensation in my body in as unattached of a way as possible, and it changed my singing entirely (I had no idea how clenched I'd been my entire life).

  • @acenewark
    @acenewark3 жыл бұрын

    I had a traumatic health scare recently which triggered my existing trauma. This video has been invaluable to me thank you!

  • @kellynichols3124
    @kellynichols3124 Жыл бұрын

    So helpful full of useful knowledges. She spoke in a way that was not threatening or aggressive- so calming and helpful. Thank you 🙏🏽

  • @Stamada2

    @Stamada2

    Жыл бұрын

    Amen to this.

  • @themistersmith
    @themistersmith3 жыл бұрын

    See also "Heal the Body, Heal the Mind: A Somatic Approach to Moving Beyond Trauma" by Susanne Babbel (Author), Marti Glenn (Foreword)

  • @jbullets2175
    @jbullets21753 жыл бұрын

    I can completely relate to this. I went through some very traumatic experiences and the physiological response is the hardest to address and correct. You could give your mind tools and exercises to attempt to intervene with traumatic experiences but the physiological response is way different. My body literally felt like I had just come back from war. It's so horrible. Working with the nervous system is key.

  • @MZFiVETW000H
    @MZFiVETW000H2 жыл бұрын

    This is EXACTLY what I need... my trauma is suck in my body. All of this made complete sense to me. I’ve been through so much trauma and I suppressed emotions. Yes I had anxiety and depression because I didn’t know what was wrong with me. But I surpassed that... sometimes body gets stressed out with symptoms when I’m not anxious it just happens or triggers/thoughts. I need to learn how to bring my body back to calm. I just get so frustrated because I want it to just get better. Such a helpful video! 💜

  • @alecprimavera
    @alecprimavera2 жыл бұрын

    Shed a tear at the end!!! Was gently GROUNDED only to hear the most comforting words I’ve heard in such a long time. Thank you for sharing, we have never met but you have helped me so much since I’ve discovered your channel! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @helensmith9104
    @helensmith91044 жыл бұрын

    Love your voice - the pace is great, very authentic

  • @AliceAshlyn
    @AliceAshlyn4 жыл бұрын

    Thank you ! You helped me realize I had been living in survival mode for many years.

  • @tarawalsh-arpaia3928

    @tarawalsh-arpaia3928

    2 жыл бұрын

    Tara Arpaia Walsh: I think in Al-Anon, they call this over-managing. Or as Dr C. Cantofer wrote 'Depression: the Curse of the Strong' it's living in that 'survival mode' for so long (being strong) it is as if you are running a marathon with a broken leg.

  • @karajones6498
    @karajones64982 жыл бұрын

    WOW!! This is what i needed to hear... I started out crying and rocking back and forth and by the end of this video I was calmer and could finally take a deep breath!! I have been through 2 very traumatic relationships... I do ok if I just go to work and then hide in my house on my days off. I know there is more to life so maybe little by little I can heal and get stronger and do more in life. I pray for peace and healing over all of us.

  • @marcjax77
    @marcjax772 жыл бұрын

    Thank you! I’m being trained in trauma coaching components and this is right on the money. I’m reminded of when I sat with an experience and the ulcer I had went away without any medication or intervention other than my processing the event. Your insight and exercise is helping so many!

  • @havik7887
    @havik78873 жыл бұрын

    After a breakup where someone played with my emotions over and over I had a nervous breakdown around age 20 literally the past 13 years have felt robbed from me because I am not the person I was..I hate GAD with PTSD..I found your channel and hope I can finally make some changes and get my life back.

  • @karen.island3697

    @karen.island3697

    3 жыл бұрын

    Havik. I’m so sorry. This sounds like possible narcissistic abuse. Have you heard of that or looked into it? People can become frozen in time until they address this specific type of abuse. I have had a few breakdowns in my life. I’m currently recovering again from another breakdown. It is not easy. I feel sick from it and can’t explain to others what’s really going on. This video does help. In the past I had narcissistic abuse and the biggest thing that helped me heal was yoga, learning what a narcissist does, staying no contact, learning self love/self care and boundaries. I fell away for 8 months and since then things spiralled, circumstances happened causing a PTSD nervous breakdown so here I am again. There is help and hope for you. You do not have to remain in this state ok? I hope you find the answers. Don’t stop looking till you find peace and find your power again. I gave my power away to an abuser incapable of love. So..it all starts with self love. You are loveable and worthy. ❤️

  • @margefrancois7283
    @margefrancois72833 жыл бұрын

    I really enjoy your calm, encouraging advice. I love how you present anxiety and depression as challenges that can be overcome. Then offer the steps on how to manage and lessen anxiety and sadness. I really appreciate you and Therapy in a Nutshell. Thanks for your willingness to help all people and for making the world a better place by doing so. God bless you and prayers for you and your beautiful family!🙏💙🙏

  • @victoriaporsiempre
    @victoriaporsiempre Жыл бұрын

    Hi Emma, i just want to say Thank You to you ❤ a year ago i was in a horrible place mentally and spiritually and i remember how your videos were a great source of support for me Through therapy and medication im in a better place now but i like to watch your videos to remember what i learned a year ago For the ones who are struggling right now, don’t lose hope, keep on helping yourself, you are going to be better after the storm is gone ❤ we are all together in this

  • @LessThanThree76
    @LessThanThree762 жыл бұрын

    This was the most helpful video ever. I’m stuck n survival mode and chronic fight/flight stress and it’s SO exhausting. You helped me putting into word, the things I struggie with daily. Thank you! ❤️

  • @kathymyers7279
    @kathymyers72794 жыл бұрын

    It’s hard when your in that same situation. I can’t tell if it’s the past trauma or really this environment is making me sick. I’m depressed and the nerves in my head are burning and I have twitching all over my body.

  • @donnahimpler6649

    @donnahimpler6649

    3 жыл бұрын

    I hope you get check for gravis or ALS MS etc stay well study on the subject. Best to you lots of devotion for health .

  • @NeuralRetraining

    @NeuralRetraining

    3 жыл бұрын

    You’re not alone. It’s very similar for me as well.

  • @aliveandwell3958

    @aliveandwell3958

    3 жыл бұрын

    It's probably your environment. I've addressed all of my past traumas, yet I live in an unhealthy environment. Trying to heal in a place that's making you sick is counterproductive.

  • @starwarsstuff8098

    @starwarsstuff8098

    3 жыл бұрын

    I have the exact same thing

  • @peacy1773

    @peacy1773

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@NeuralRetraining yes

  • @simplyme7821
    @simplyme78213 жыл бұрын

    I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia 8 years ago. Whenever I went to my regular doctor, I would hear myself say something out loud that I never thought about saying before it popped out. I would say to her, I have a broken central nervous system. I just knew that all the pain I was experiencing in my body from head to toe was from my central nervous system being broken and that break happen during a traumatic experience that triggered unconscious memories of childhood trauma. No doctor ever understands fibromyalgia and sometimes they don't believe it's real. But, when you only have three or four hours a day to do something before you can't stand up straight and the pain signals that are going to your brain are unmanageable, then something is real and something is wrong. I tend to believe that my subconscious is always chewing on something until finally it spits out what it has come to understand is true. I believe I broke my central nervous system. But, if I broke it, then I can fix it. Sincerely, Carly

  • @bb7bb8bb0bb6

    @bb7bb8bb0bb6

    2 жыл бұрын

    Read, Hope and Help for Your Nerves, Dr. Weekes.

  • @kmh9232

    @kmh9232

    2 жыл бұрын

    Has anything helped through the pain? I’ve been doing acupuncture and I feel a difference

  • @simplyme7821

    @simplyme7821

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@kmh9232 Hi, Chris. In what way do you feel different? Are you having relief from the pain? Has it helped with the flares? I know that there's something to that and I would love to hear about how you are doing. I still haven't figured out how to avoid flare-ups during stressful times or when the barometric pressure changes. It's been two years since my husband died on September 9th, his birthday. I had managed to learn to sleep on my back so I would not grind my teeth which is part of my fibromyalgia. Unfortunately, I found myself clenching my jaws so tight that I cracked two teeth a couple of weeks ago. Take care and let me know how you're doing. Sincerely, Carly

  • @kmh9232

    @kmh9232

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@simplyme7821 it helps with the overall pain. Especially key problem areas like for me knee pain and hip pain. For the teeth grinding you could get a guard from your dentist that way your don't have to worry about it. I'm sorry about your husband

  • @simplyme7821

    @simplyme7821

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@kmh9232 Thanks, Chris. The parts of fibromyalgia that really hurt me are when my breast bone hurts. It feels like someone took my shoulders and folded me in half toward the front and touched my shoulders together. Sometimes, I get trigeminal nerve pain. I used to call for my husband to please come and do Reiki on the side that was hurting. Nothing would take that pain away. Except, you don't have to believe in Reiki for it to actually work. I could feel the pain wiggling like a little worm under my skin and then slowly it would ease away. Then he knew somehow that the pain was gone and he would just whisper for me to rest and then quietly close the door. I'm having that pain in my head and in my temple and across my face right now. 3 days so far and no relief. Take care of yourself. Carly

  • @hissyfitz7890
    @hissyfitz78903 жыл бұрын

    You have a very ‘down to earth style’ that’s most appreciated!

  • @somer0703
    @somer07033 жыл бұрын

    I've been suffering from anxiety for the past 8 years and have been doing loads of work to try and keep it maintanable and it's been really hard at times. Since I found your channel about a week ago I feel like I've progressed and learned so much! From the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU!💛💛💛

  • @sriku1000

    @sriku1000

    2 жыл бұрын

    A Calming Video On The Theory of Moving Emotions and How Music is as Complex as You kzread.info/dash/bejne/X6mZ2syyZNa9pZc.html

  • @nylakhan5658

    @nylakhan5658

    2 жыл бұрын

    Try contrast showers they really helped me with my anxiety

  • @DizzKola3
    @DizzKola39 ай бұрын

    I had experienced chronic pain throughout my entire life. I’d been to endless specialized, tons of procedures and medication and not one doctor could figure out what was wrong. They couldn’t find anything physically wrong with me and the hopeless feeling was devastating. It ends up that trauma in my nervous system was exactly what was causing the problems. Not a single doctor mentioned it as a possibility.

  • @debbiedebbie9473
    @debbiedebbie94733 жыл бұрын

    Your voice and demeanor is so soothing and calming. Thank you for this. ♥️🙂

  • @kw3180
    @kw3180 Жыл бұрын

    I've watched several videos of yours and just stopped in to say thank you for what you're doing. I appreciate your work and your kindness in doing this.

  • @coachcoty6806
    @coachcoty68063 жыл бұрын

    Honestly, some of the best content on the internet. I have been watching these for sometime. Factual and easy to understand. Thank you for sharing!

  • @rachelcorinnaford9190
    @rachelcorinnaford91903 жыл бұрын

    I can't even calm myself down long enough to read anything. I try to read, and I skip over words as quickly as possible because I'm so nervous about what I might find out. Because I think everything is the worst of the worst. Wait, .... I am more than my brain?

  • @albosang8452

    @albosang8452

    3 жыл бұрын

    Try sapiens medicine.. Amygdala healing music... May be you feel better

  • @suzihazlove4979

    @suzihazlove4979

    3 жыл бұрын

    I know...😭

  • @harmlessrayan9225

    @harmlessrayan9225

    3 жыл бұрын

    I feelyo some much

  • @glassbeach3721

    @glassbeach3721

    3 жыл бұрын

    You’re the witness. Watch yourself. 💕🙏

  • @SoulSociety2021

    @SoulSociety2021

    3 жыл бұрын

    Heal emotional trauma with hydrolat

  • @michaelsuperstar606
    @michaelsuperstar6063 жыл бұрын

    I have had been working on this by my self for years. Thank you, this video is validation to my efforts.

  • @ceriorchid9751
    @ceriorchid97512 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for taking the time out to do these videos... it makes me cry with relief it finally feels like someone understands thank you for existing 💓

  • @dale9724
    @dale97242 жыл бұрын

    Invaluable. Thank you. This happened to me during a time of great testing. Caring for mother (now deceased), quadriplegic spouse, my own inflammatory arthritis, big negative changes at work, a move, and then, right after move, the Covid 19 pandemic. A perfect storm. I really can’t thank you enough.

  • @AnaiTarot
    @AnaiTarot2 жыл бұрын

    I am 'Kathy'. Thanks to discovering this type of therapy, I understand why I have chronic exhaustion & knowing it was linked to severe mental illness, but not sure where to start & It got so bad I had to quit a job I loved to focus on my health for several months. Also, talk therapy set me backwards, so Yoga, diet change and putting my health as #1 has changed the way I sense my body. I am grateful for Educators like you, I'm sharing these with everyone 💖

  • @marjamerryflower

    @marjamerryflower

    Жыл бұрын

    Anai, Kathy, thank you so much

  • @jesspeachie
    @jesspeachie3 жыл бұрын

    The timing of the video is scarily amazing. Recently I’ve been tuning into my emotions and body language to figure out what’s going on. Thinking to figure out what’s wrong wasn’t helping and stressed me out more. This video reinforces exactly what I’ve been working they lately. Thank you for the upload 🙏🏽

  • @lolololololutrythcfy

    @lolololololutrythcfy

    3 жыл бұрын

    has it helped???

  • @sriku1000

    @sriku1000

    2 жыл бұрын

    A Calming Video On The Theory of Moving Emotions and How Music is as Complex as You kzread.info/dash/bejne/X6mZ2syyZNa9pZc.html

  • @thelmadickinson2740
    @thelmadickinson27402 жыл бұрын

    So glad to find your channel! I have been dealing with flare up of intense physical pain due to trauma and prolonged intense stress. It was wild to make the connection that my body was in pain because of the emotional pain I was holding onto and unable to fully feel since I had to “be strong” and keep things going. Now that I know what’s happening I feel so relieved there are ways to work with it and heal. Thank you so much! 🙏💗✨

  • @pushyred
    @pushyred2 жыл бұрын

    I'm so glad I found your channel. Thank you. All the best to you and your family in the new year!

  • @deighfrost3023
    @deighfrost3023 Жыл бұрын

    I had stomach problems for a couple of years that got progressively worse and had all sorts of tests done. Doctors couldn’t find anything. After about 9 months of a new marriage going south because someone was a pretender, I left. Got my own place. In about a month most of my stomach issues were resolved.

  • @Ben-sg5cq
    @Ben-sg5cq4 жыл бұрын

    Absolutely incredible video--your explanation was so clear and easy to understand, and the guided exercise was incredibly relaxing and safe....thank you!!

  • @beckymenke6535
    @beckymenke65352 жыл бұрын

    Thanks so much! I watch many of your videos and always learn so much. I have been in therapy for 10 years and finally have let go of the need to meet with therapist regularly, however, sometimes I want a refresher of what I learned with her and you give me this every time! Appreciate you!

  • @gerdah.9975
    @gerdah.99759 ай бұрын

    I've been reading about somatic experiencing for some time now but this was the most useful explanation to date and made complete sense to me. Thank you, Emma.

  • @findingmyselfhealingthetra9564
    @findingmyselfhealingthetra95644 жыл бұрын

    So on point!! As someone who has been healing complex PTSD-- polyvagal THEORY and Innerstanding the somatic aspects, and micro-expressions (especially neutral faces) -- ref: Dr. Pete Walker & emotions Revealed by Paul Ekman & the Emotion CODE by Dr Bradley NELSON

  • @litew8
    @litew84 жыл бұрын

    Boy am I glad I discovered your channel. You have such a soothing presence and you offer so much valuable information that I am just beginning to sort through. Thank you for doing what you do.

  • @shyaaammeneen63

    @shyaaammeneen63

    3 жыл бұрын

    Litew 8, Time to develop your mental muscles. Meditation is the permanent way to a relaxed and stress free life because it reprogrames the mind. Enter "Alternate nostril breathing meditation videos" on Google search and do the simple meditation for 10 to 15 minutes if possible twice a day--early morning before 6.am is a magical time when you may feel a divine presence around you. . Also read the benefits of alternate nostril breathing meditation. It can also be done sitting on a chair. Try to be still and avoid moving too much. Best wishes. Do meditation daily to enjoy a relaxed life. Best wishes--Shyaaam Sir,--Life Coach. God has given us life to be happy.

  • @lioydwilliams1850

    @lioydwilliams1850

    3 жыл бұрын

    litew8,I admire your lovely smile

  • @sriku1000

    @sriku1000

    2 жыл бұрын

    A Calming Video On The Theory of Moving Emotions and How Music is as Complex as You kzread.info/dash/bejne/X6mZ2syyZNa9pZc.html"

  • @anitalucas3836
    @anitalucas38363 жыл бұрын

    This is my safe space. Listening to Emma. I am so grateful. Listening to Cathy's story was like listening to my own.

  • @BigSoul29
    @BigSoul293 жыл бұрын

    I loved how you made us do a grounding exercise in the end. It felt like you were speaking to me directly and it felt very intimate.

  • @cecik5578
    @cecik5578 Жыл бұрын

    She hit the nail in the head at 9:40. Psychologists pretty much just want to hand you a prescription and send you on merry way. They would rather diagnose and let a pill “treat” your problems. I’ve witnessed a family member’s life being destroyed over the decades by powerful prescription meds, and he still struggles with the same core problems regardless of what meds he is on. This is the kind of “alternate” therapy needed to help people work through their traumas and emotional illnesses.

  • @hillarysmith5567
    @hillarysmith55674 жыл бұрын

    Love this concept! Just downloaded this book on Audible. Thanks for recommending it!

  • @dezibarr8051
    @dezibarr8051 Жыл бұрын

    That was absolutely beautiful and so wonderfully compact for such a small session. Thank you!!!! You're a wonderful being. Thank you for doing these videos!

  • @fanmar8723
    @fanmar87232 жыл бұрын

    I was listening to you tonight while I was walking. It’s a beautiful nigh, full moon. I am so sad. It’s okay, I will feel better. It was so nice to feel the breeze, and my body. I stopped and close my eyes. I have faith that I will be better. I want to be happy, I do. Thanks so much for this. God bless you!

  • @thepearl6087
    @thepearl60873 жыл бұрын

    This was awesome and very eye opening. When you asked about the muscles being tight - I let out little whimper, and then I cried. I have no idea what that was about - but I may need to do more of it. Thank you so much.

  • @katebull2750

    @katebull2750

    3 жыл бұрын

    Tight muscles are so debilitating aren't they? I have literally spent hundreds and hundreds of pounds getting massages and seeing chiropractors but it just doesn't go away. My nervous system has been on high alert for years and years. I am exhausted 😥😥😥

  • @silentheart9325
    @silentheart93253 жыл бұрын

    You have honestly saved me in so many ways! You are a blessing, thank you so much not just for helping but you made me realise so much!

  • @lilyneva
    @lilyneva Жыл бұрын

    Emma, thank you. I think this is one of the most important and helpful videos you have made. I don’t know why I didn’t notice it a year ago when I first found you. Between then and now I have actually taken a course on this topic and yet I’ve been feeling confused about a number of things, in particular how this area fit into the field of trauma therapy and into the field of therapy and psychology more broadly. To my mind you clarify some important things in this video and in addition, to me this is the most calming and gently voiced video video of yours (and I think I have soon watched all of them at least one time, many of them several times) which is in itself very regulating and helpful.

  • @mifa6457
    @mifa6457 Жыл бұрын

    This makes sense to me. Thank you so much. Someone explaining how it works gives me more understanding of how the body-mind-soul complex interacts. All we need to know and what doctors are not telling. They don't take time for that worthy talks.

  • @MsGechi77
    @MsGechi773 жыл бұрын

    Your voice is so calming. Wish I could have you in my little pocket when I have an anxiety attack. 💜

  • @joellebouwman5566
    @joellebouwman55664 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much. I sent this to my psychologist. It does not make sense to me to NOT talk about this, yet I haven't found a psychologist yet who adequetly adresses this and teaches me ways to regulate and listen to my nervous system.

  • @TherapyinaNutshell

    @TherapyinaNutshell

    4 жыл бұрын

    yep. most psychologists simply aren't trained in it. But there's good research, if he wants to see the research tell him to read Bessel Van Der Kolk's "The body keeps the score. Or search for a therapist who does somatic experiencing

  • @joellebouwman5566

    @joellebouwman5566

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@TherapyinaNutshell thanks for the tip! I was wondering, since I'm following a course on polyvagal theory and it sounds exactly the same to me... do you know if somatic experiencing is somehow based on Stephen Porges' polyvagal theory?

  • @patriciafigueiredo9177
    @patriciafigueiredo91772 жыл бұрын

    Emma you are extraordinary, in the way you convey information and your choice of words and non-verbal communication. Thank you very much

  • @ruqayyahdiab5811
    @ruqayyahdiab58112 жыл бұрын

    Thank you I needed this so much, I saw footage of someone getting shot on live camera and this triggered me and effected my mental health because of this I suffered from mental trauma for like 4-5 months this went on very long and it really hurt me. I was crying for weeks straight. So thank you ❤️

  • @joycy
    @joycy3 жыл бұрын

    This was very helpful, thank you so much 🙏🏾 I'm happy your video popped up in my feed 💜

  • @wyattguttenberg7720

    @wyattguttenberg7720

    3 жыл бұрын

    This is almost the exact comment I was going to leave. The universe couldn't have gifted me this at a better time.

  • @joycy

    @joycy

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@wyattguttenberg7720 💙💙

  • @heatherannmoe2498

    @heatherannmoe2498

    3 жыл бұрын

    I have all but given up on professionals to help me through what has plagued me most of my life. Now, for the first time... this makes sense. When a behavior therapist asked me (related to my developed & debilitating OCD) to try exposure theapy... she suggested wearing mix matched socks! When she questioned why this therapy wouldn't work for me, I simply told her- "In doing so, would create so much anxiety.... I just wouldn't do it". Needless to say, I was demeaned "uncooperative to receive therapy in order to help myself get better", -Olmsted County Social Services in Collaboration with Mayo Clinic on providing Mental Health Services. It was the furthest thing from the truth!

  • @yvonnewilliams2048

    @yvonnewilliams2048

    3 жыл бұрын

    I

  • @goertzpsychiatry9340

    @goertzpsychiatry9340

    3 жыл бұрын

    kzread.info/dash/bejne/n3etmK9siNatqrQ.html

  • @katinss9983
    @katinss99833 жыл бұрын

    This is an excellent video. thanks for sharing. I had PTSD 12 years ago due to having 3 car crashes in 7 months. Very difficult time for me with brain but I managed. In 2017 I had brain surgery to remove a tumour. Very difficult time but , I resigned and allowed my body and emotions to guide the healing, There was no other way! And I've healed so much emotional trauma as well as adapting to the new neurological issues. I have so much trust and appreciation now for my body .I've had the space to release emotions held within from my teenage years. I'm going through a major transition but I fully trust the process. And I listen now to my emotions and honour my emotions .Always be true to yourself.

  • @lionofjudahlambofgod9132

    @lionofjudahlambofgod9132

    3 жыл бұрын

    kzread.info/dash/bejne/fn6llZqsn6Saiag.html

  • @filsan7409
    @filsan74092 жыл бұрын

    your calm voice adds to the soothing, thank you for doing what you do.

  • @sallyseligman9894
    @sallyseligman98942 жыл бұрын

    Just today I became aware of your channel. You are a wonderful therapist and teacher! This information is amazing. Thank you so very much!

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