Heal Family Karma🪽Part 1

When dealing with toxic family members, the “normal response” may not be suffice enough. Sometimes it’s necessary to take extra action to heal, harmonize, and move forward from the past toxic dynamics with your family members.
I am sharing with you what I have gathered along my journey, as I have personally had lots of experience with unstable and intense family situations. This has given me an array of understanding to deal with this, and medicine to help others transmute and heal their own family dynamics.
This is part 1 of “Healing with Family” and is focused on how to interact with/heal with the members of your family. Part 2 is about how to heal yourself personally, when you have toxic/intense family dynamics.
What’s your family like? What questions do you have for me around family healing? I am going to continue this series, so ask in the comments below!
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  • @della_joy112
    @della_joy1126 ай бұрын

    You’re such an example to people who say you should judge and abandon your family. Thanks heather! ❤

  • @MsYolost

    @MsYolost

    6 ай бұрын

    I haven't watched the video yet but I just wanted to say that cutting cords for a period of time was very helpful and healing to me. I needed the space to heal. I didn't know then that I would reconnect with them eventually but I did. To me that period of no contact was necessary, but everyone and every situation is different

  • @della_joy112

    @della_joy112

    6 ай бұрын

    @@MsYolost I am glad you found healing, and I’m in no way trying to advertise enabling behavior, but heather doesn’t speak about that, but about finding so much peace within that you can heal your family relationships too 🤍

  • @merladyneptune3908

    @merladyneptune3908

    6 ай бұрын

    Agreed ❤

  • @MsYolost

    @MsYolost

    6 ай бұрын

    ​@@della_joy112I just watched her video and agree with her :) I just wanted to emphasize that space might be good, healing and necessary. But she also stated that

  • @ruthroberts8868
    @ruthroberts88686 ай бұрын

    Thank you for presenting a healthier practice for healing family drama and trauma. The way you break it down makes so much more sense than the complete cutting of cords. I realize that some people never heal, but that doesn’t mean that we can’t hold space in hopes that they do. And holding that space is healthier for you, too. You explain it so well.

  • @graceartsgifts

    @graceartsgifts

    6 ай бұрын

    I appreciate your honesty! I have had an on and off relationship with my mom. I ran away from home when I was 17. I now caretake for her now that she is older. Love that you have healed and inspire healing in others!! ❤❤😊

  • @lightgoddess1209
    @lightgoddess12096 ай бұрын

    I hope that one day I reach the level of forgiveness that you have. I can't imagine speaking to my mother after all she has done to me.

  • @EmoGirl599
    @EmoGirl5996 ай бұрын

    I agree 100% ,it took almost 4 years for me and my parents to heal our relation and they are now my best friends too ❤️ love you sister 💜🔥

  • @heatherrunyan110
    @heatherrunyan1106 ай бұрын

    I’m currently in no contact with my family. There are times when I feel hope in the future and then most times I don’t feel like that could ever be safe… to be in contact constantly with these family members again. I do hope and pray that things can be different in the future. This video gives me some hope❤ thank you Heather

  • @ijshanitadunigan7825

    @ijshanitadunigan7825

    6 ай бұрын

    Awhhh✨🫂 May everything work out best case scenario!! It’s in moments of disconnect that we actually find what resonates with us~ the other family’s, the soul fam, that helps nurture our hearts, body, and soul✨💓🧘🏾‍♀️ ‘distance makes the heart grow fonder’ saying is REAL and so cherish/able. Communicate when you can- feel like is okay!! The love will always be there regardless✨🌊🙏🏾

  • @FormerlyCharity_
    @FormerlyCharity_6 ай бұрын

    Last night I had a dream where my (currently) estranged mother who I love to the depths of my being had popped back into my life unexpectedly and uninvited. Within the dream, I recall reaching out to hold her hand and giving it a squeeze, which was my way of non-verbally communicating that I love her. After that, I slipped out the back door...which I believe is my higher self's way of protecting me and showing me that it's not time (yet) to reconnect. I'm still estranged from all of my family by choice, but that doesn't mean it's easy. Crying as I write this. I'm thankful for this video and for you, Heather. Looking forward to future videos on this topic. Sending so much love to ALL. ❤❤💕💕❤❤

  • @calmwithtay
    @calmwithtay6 ай бұрын

    I’ve always had the same feelings too, that cutting cords is not always the answer. I love to see you providing a different than usual perspective. Beautiful video ❤️

  • @dianemorgan600
    @dianemorgan6006 ай бұрын

    Yes, the family dance, I think everyone on the planet have experienced toxic relationships within their family. Especially if they haven't awakened to who they truly are. I too, have had to say good-bye not in hopes of healing in the future, but more for my mental health. We will be connected forever as we are eternal, so I will indeed see them again. I send them love, I have no animosity I just want my freedom. Thanks Heather, wonderful that you could heal your family with emotional alchemy.

  • @martianmoongdds
    @martianmoongdds4 ай бұрын

    I just watched the Dr. Phil show with you, your sister and your mother. It made me love you even more, you wonderful, beautiful and strong woman. It made me cry too. Look at you. Even back then. You walked, talked and sat like a queen 🍍 even though what you had gone through. I felt empowered when Dr. Phil confronted your mother. I am glad you told him that no one had told her the things he said. I got disappointed when your sister did not remember the dog-situation. I can relate to your story. My mother is mentally ill and a living abuser, but is too narcissistic to care, and therefore I will not have her in my life. I have met her every now and then when she has showed up outside my home like the victim she is, but nothing has changed, and I know in my bones that she will die like this. I have been on the path of healing for a long time and am in a great relationship with myself thanks to my intense need and will to remove what is not serving me. Even though I lived under the same roof as my family (including my mother) until I was 18 years old, she was never interested in being present if not to abuse, so I do not have good memories with her, which has made it easier for me to understand that I will not have a motherly mother, but it was not easy to accept that. The fact that she cannot see herself and therefore act confused after abusing me, makes me angry. Angry at myself because I have felt a responsibility to be there for her regardless, and try to help heal her and in that way hopefully make her see me, but it was the worst things I could have done to myself. But I did not know better, and I have compassion for that. I just wanted to finally be seen. But the result was the opposite. She has been and is a dangerous woman, and I have of course been like her in some ways too until I became around 14 years old (I am 30 years old now) and started to really change my ways because I started to understand how bad things were. I can still tap into some of her ways in romantic relationships, but I am good and fast at recognizing it. I helped my father divorce her a few years ago, and hooked him up with a lovely woman he probably will grow old with (he was 68 years old when he met her). He always wished for a true love or a healthy romantic relationship but was weak and scared, like my sister. I have been the protector of the family. A true warrior. I got as loud as my mother got, which made her go even higher, a fucking shitshow, and I tried to change myself into all different types of things to get to her, but not once did I succeed. She is impossibly unwilling and deeply wounded, mostly by her own thoughts that has made her feelings and body believe her sickness too. I know that she secretly respects me for always having the energy and courage to try to be fair, which I assume is difficult for others to understand. Outside of my family I am naturally a strong creator. The more I tried with my mother, the more blessed I felt outside of my family home, because it took so much from me which made me grow up fast and beautifully which was received wonderfully by others (not family members or relatives though, because they think it is valid to take shit from family members because of their culture, but those are not my people so it does not matter). I always knew I was not the issue even though it felt like one of my mothers jobs to try to make me give up and be hers to control and manipulate. My soul is thankfully too wild for that. My father and sister did not understand the deep damage my mother created because of how they are as people. I grew up with my mom and am very Plutonian, Martian and Mercurial, so I adapted fast and could see how fucked up it was. My father had it great until he met her, and my sister got abused be her biological mother too with no voice to express herself or anyone to protect her, so she has been like a living dead scared yes-person. I just let go of the responsibility for my sister too, to be her stabilizer, because that has not resulted in much success either and she is 8 years older than me and I am tired and want to be away from those energies. My mothers ability of confusing my father and sister after her regular abuse made my father and sister a bit blind to what was really going on. Therefore I got disappointed when your sister did not validate the dog-situation, because I got triggered. You are the people I want and need in my life. I have wonderful people in my life, but I would still categorize most of them as weak because they lack the courage to fully get to know themselves and to be themselves because I believe that they do not dare because that would then acquire them to make changes and stand up for themselves and others. And that is what I want and need in my life, people standing up for themselves and others because it is lonely being one of the few willing to be rebellious like this. To not feel safe enough to be in my feminine energy more often. Thankfully my best friend has it all and would kill for me without hesitating, and of course she has her Venus in Scorpio. It is no thing for those with personal Scorpio energies, therefore I love that energy so much. I love all other energies as well, but I can fully relax and just ”be” in the presence of healed and enpowered Scorpio energies.. I hope this was not too negative.. Thank you for all you do.

  • @GreenVibesWellness
    @GreenVibesWellness6 ай бұрын

    Ancestry healing literally starts with the ones who are aliveeeee ✨ such powerful medicine, Ty Heather I posted angel number readings and A LOT had ancestors messages 😇 tune in & connect fam!

  • @s1a2m3m4y5maxtedluyo
    @s1a2m3m4y5maxtedluyo6 ай бұрын

    Heather, this is one of your most beautiful videos. You are so incredibly well spoken, gentle & divine. Thank you so much for sharing. ♥️

  • @KD.Cosmic
    @KD.Cosmic6 ай бұрын

    When you boil this down, the essence of your story feels very relatable to mine, although reactively when I was younger I became the toxic one in order to essentially force separation because I felt very controlled and I didn’t know how to create that space in a mature way. In the time apart, I did so much growth and healing. I learned and studied and experienced so much. And over time, my family and I have reconnected and I would say the same thing. The space allowed us all to heal, and now my parents are truly some of gym best friends. But one thing that I noticed in my personal experience, was a challenge with accepting other people back into my life after some time and space apart. I’m learning to differentiate between family and community and who deserves the work of separation and reconnection and who to actually stay separated from. I would love to hear you discuss and insight you have on that ❤

  • @anishimi6994
    @anishimi69946 ай бұрын

    Ahh reading everyone’s comments and sending all of you my love!♥️ My closest blood relatives have all physically passed, but the connection is eternal. Grateful for that. I went 12yrs with no contact with my mother to heal. In 2018, I felt the call to reconnect with her. And we did heal some things. Then slowly after 2ish years it just didn’t feel emotionally safe again to stay in contact. And I did compassionately express to her that it’s best to take time apart, again. Blessing her and wishing her the best. The journey hasn’t been easy, however my perspective about her has drastically shifted. To actually see someone’s human-ness, (not a parent) and their own core wounds that are deeply present, takes a lot of the emotional charge away from clearing many cords that I had attached myself too. Deepest gratitude for you sharing this video Heather & for everyone sharing their personal family journeys too✨🩵✨

  • @ijshanitadunigan7825

    @ijshanitadunigan7825

    6 ай бұрын

    This this this✨🫰🏾❤️‍🔥 Condolences on their passings🙏🏾🪽 And yes setting those boundaries for your self is so important, the human-ness is honestly one of the biggest perspective changes thank you for the reminder!! Sending you love and healing✨🫰🏾🦋

  • @anishimi6994

    @anishimi6994

    6 ай бұрын

    @@ijshanitadunigan7825 Aww yes! Their human-ness, yes! Thank you for sending the love and healing🥰 Sending you infinite blessings on your journey♥️✨

  • @ijshanitadunigan7825

    @ijshanitadunigan7825

    6 ай бұрын

    @@anishimi6994 thank you beautiful soul!! I receive the divine love✨🌊🙏🏾

  • @LisaMcdonald-eb3lw
    @LisaMcdonald-eb3lw6 ай бұрын

    Yes! I disconnected from my 36 yr old narcissist son. It's been 2 months. I do not miss the abuse, name calling, and toxicity. I wish him well and ran like hell! Deleted and blocked him from everything! I seriously set boundaries. I love myself to let go.

  • @saharbaddar7255
    @saharbaddar72553 ай бұрын

    Your voice alone is so healing! Thank you for your light cosmic sister 🌟💖

  • @ChristinaProticMotivation
    @ChristinaProticMotivation6 ай бұрын

    Nice video. You have so many great insights.😊

  • @activationvibration

    @activationvibration

    6 ай бұрын

    Bless beautiful being 💜💜💜

  • @thegardenmuse2398
    @thegardenmuse23986 ай бұрын

    I'm glad you were able to work with your family. I think them *wanting and trying* to be better people is an important 1st step. It took your silence to make it happen.❤

  • @PouringLight
    @PouringLight6 ай бұрын

    Heather, your voice and cadence alone are 🪷🦋HEALING🦋🪷, but of course your wisdom and authenticity enhance that 🌞 Thank you sister 💖💜🧡

  • @marahmoonflower7926
    @marahmoonflower79266 ай бұрын

    I am grateful I was there to take care of my mom through her being sick and sudden passing (well, lying about her health situation) just last year. Though she had to discard me several times for her ways to avoiding feeling her own pain. There is still much to heal while she is on the other side. I'm here with my only sibling who needs special care. Whether my extended family knew how to love her, I'm so glad I went in with my whole heart. 🙏

  • @thandiola
    @thandiola5 ай бұрын

    your frequency forces my heartspace wide open! thank you

  • @lllStayHigh
    @lllStayHigh6 ай бұрын

    Heather!!! What a beautiful story 🥹 now I understand why I've been more drawn to your energy again lately.. the timing is so divine oh I love it ❤️ Personally I've spent 20 years being manipulated, exploided and gaslit, thinking I had schizofrenia.. not knowing I was being abused emotionally and suffering from trauma. At 12 years old my spine started twisting, a rare case of scoliosis, cause unknown. Got surgery twice at age 14 and 17 (currently 24yrs old), learned how to walk again and recovered twice. In the meantime I've been struggling with isolation, addiction, chronic illness, and seperation anxiety (on top of general and social anxiety), which are the exact same issues my parents are dealing with.. it's like we're living in the same vicious cycle WITH each other in it too.. casually destroying each other with words and being codependent on each other at the same time. When I started doing shadow work eventually and found out my family wasn't as healthy as I always thought they were, I realized that I've been gaslighting myself to the point I made myself sick and now I don't even know myself or my passion anymore. I used to write songs and sing, but I have no creativity left.. and I can't explain why but I don't even care enough to put in the effort to try to change that. I did tell my therapist this yesterday, my parents were there too and we had the most vulnerable conversation we've ever had with each other.. after my therapist suggested me getting hospitalized in a mental hospital. I can't decide if I'm willing to do this or not, the anxiety has me with my back against the wall. Your message speaks to me, and I know what I need to do, but I don't think I'm able to. Time will tell. Thank you for this healing session, Heather, love you! ✨️💝

  • @cameoninja
    @cameoninja6 ай бұрын

    Wow the timing of this...by far one of your best cosmic content

  • @geraldinebritschgi6413
    @geraldinebritschgi64136 ай бұрын

    Thank you Heather , Happy Solstice 21.12.2023❤🫶🥰, LOVE and blessings Geraldine🙏🙏🙏✨⭐⭐⭐🪐🪐🪐

  • @kay2191
    @kay21914 ай бұрын

    you are so beautiful, heather. i'm so thankful i found you in the most vital time of my journey ❤️

  • @unfoldingreflections
    @unfoldingreflections6 ай бұрын

    This is just the most incredible gift. I AM SO GRATEFUL FOR YOU. For this video, for this cosmic dance mirror expression I get to share with your virtual (higher) self. THANK YOU! I can completely relate to the experience of sometimes space, and sometimes not. I am finally (nearly always) at a point of acceptance with my family, and certainly moving into that deeper space of appreciation. I do consider them to be my closest people... now... and it does feel delicious. Quite the adventure. Love you all, and happy holidays. May we all be too blessed to be stressed, and so it is ❣

  • @CarmesiH
    @CarmesiH6 ай бұрын

    Affirmation for your own frequency field of protection: ✨ I am only in my own energy. I do not take on or absorb anyone else’s energy. I am only within and around that which is of highest frequency and vibration. And so it is. ✨ 🙏

  • @Moonglowhollow
    @Moonglowhollow6 ай бұрын

    Keep sharing your love and authentic self to the world. You are helping so many people. ❤❤❤❤

  • @robobobo5976
    @robobobo59765 ай бұрын

    That's for sharing I'm processing how I'm going to handle my family situation

  • @LAT.MTL.
    @LAT.MTL.6 ай бұрын

    Heather, A THOUSAND THANK YOUS 🙏🏼 This is veeeerrrrryyyy helpful!

  • @natashagutzwiller9353
    @natashagutzwiller93536 ай бұрын

    This is so helpful, I needed this thank you 🙏🏾

  • @ArtemisDeer444
    @ArtemisDeer4446 ай бұрын

    Beautiful message Heather, I really needed to hear this before spending Christmas with my family..... Thank you, blessings from New Zealand 🙏🌞👑✨💛

  • @brittanylaughman
    @brittanylaughman6 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much for this video, I haven’t finished it yet but I adore you so much Heather and my entire life, I’m 28. I have struggled with toxic family members, mainly my mom and dad. It has taken over my entire life in my 20’s. Thank you so much for speaking on ❤

  • @mjc4942
    @mjc49426 ай бұрын

    This gives me a lot of hope💚

  • @Master-cr-q
    @Master-cr-q6 ай бұрын

    I refuse to receive from her because I feel insecure, because she previously made me feel guilty because she is not aware of it, but I continue with the internal work and your awareness of the separation has inspired me to determine a special way for my experience with my mother. Thank you 💙🌟

  • @jbeezy2205
    @jbeezy22056 ай бұрын

    Thank you for posting this video! It came at the perfect time when I needed to hear it. I am in the midst of healing past family trauma and I went thru a period of not speaking to my mom for close to 10 years. And we just came back together May of this year in a much better space together. Such an amazing journey. I'm thankful to have your videos as a helpful guide too. You are one one of my favorite spiritual gurus. Thank you for being so open to sharing your journey and your story 💜🌈🦋🔮

  • @Theawakensoul_133
    @Theawakensoul_1336 ай бұрын

    Thank you, I’m glad you shared this ⭐️💗

  • @Emily21134
    @Emily211346 ай бұрын

    Thank you for your work on this earth !!! We love you

  • @harmonylight1137
    @harmonylight11376 ай бұрын

    Thank you for sharing all of this, as it resonates so much❣

  • @StevetheMartin
    @StevetheMartin6 ай бұрын

    thank you for sharing!❤

  • @Julialauren28
    @Julialauren286 ай бұрын

    Beautiful, thank you so much Heather ❤

  • @steveszubert
    @steveszubert6 ай бұрын

    Your mom is amazing ❤️

  • @livingwai
    @livingwai3 ай бұрын

    I am so so proud of you

  • @brookelahnan1748
    @brookelahnan17486 ай бұрын

    I really needed this heather. Thank you so much.

  • @gayathriseth7
    @gayathriseth76 ай бұрын

    super powerful

  • @user-il7hc4zd3d
    @user-il7hc4zd3d6 ай бұрын

    Thank god thank the universe ❤🎉

  • @mayrapiloni
    @mayrapiloni6 ай бұрын

    Thank you this helps me enormously bless you soul sister! xx

  • @susanna5864
    @susanna58646 ай бұрын

    Loved this! Thank you Heather 🥰✨🙏

  • @pippalbrooks6525
    @pippalbrooks65256 ай бұрын

    Thank you. You are such an inspiration for others.

  • @thefairiewithin
    @thefairiewithin6 ай бұрын

    Mmm so healing 🥰 thank you sister. Resonate so highly 🙏

  • @ceezus5295
    @ceezus52956 ай бұрын

    You have helped me so much over the past couple Years! Thank you for all your videos. Much love from nz. Merry Christmas ❤

  • @stephaniemthoma
    @stephaniemthoma6 ай бұрын

    Thanks for highlighting this issue that may be more common than we recognize as a society. My story is a bit different, doing healing work and being dedicated to being the change I wished to see for years throughout my 20s, then to decide that I wasn't and would not be met even with my best efforts and intentions, so in my 30s taking intentional space from contact with love, setting boundaries and not putting a minimum or maximum time on it. Being extremely clear and redirecting energy to creating and sustaining more nourishing connections. Taking this space has been the hardest thing I've done in my adult life, but as you mention, when a scape goat family member takes space, people have the opportunity to see their own reflections, and ideally grow as well. It's also an opportunity for the one taking space to finally meet one's self more deeply.

  • @flow5397
    @flow53976 ай бұрын

    Thank you for this great video, beautiful Heather. I am so grateful 🙏 Much Love ❤️

  • @ElizabethPalacios111
    @ElizabethPalacios1116 ай бұрын

    You are such a beautiful and angelic soul, I´ve done some healing with my family too and it feels like a project in progress. This video feels like a hug to my heart, relatable and with many new lessons. 💌

  • @ijshanitadunigan7825
    @ijshanitadunigan78256 ай бұрын

    Definitely divine timing!! So nice to have this awareness to shape a new dynamic and reflection after the holidays and being around the fam!! I appreciate these beautiful perspectives and you going through all your trails and lessons to bring these blessings✨🫰🏾🕊️ I like to talk to their higherself, and possibly even ask if they need me as a pillar or space in order for the shift to be taken place✨🙏🏾🫂 And yes, so powerful, beautiful, and inspiring to meet & see your family!!!!✨🥰 such a magical thing to witness all the love and sass that helps create us💋 Thank youuu- I love you SOOO much Heather✨❤️‍🔥

  • @user-mi7wk4qh2n
    @user-mi7wk4qh2n5 ай бұрын

    Let's apply this generally on Earth. Wow how powerful! ❤️ With the media, with the creations, with the workspaces. So nice.

  • @sheapila
    @sheapila6 ай бұрын

    ive been going through this my whole life with my mom, im 39 now, and we still live together, im actually her caregiver now. i feel like were both co dependent, but i just dont know how i could create space, so...i will be a pilar of light, im only going to show love and support and not get sucked into any passive aggressiveness or gas lighting issues, i will not partake, and, i know i need to solidify my energy and get to know myself better so i dont take on anyone else's energy. im going to take a different approach with our relationship from now on...i dont want to have to shape shift to keep the peace, but also say what i need to say with love and compassion. this video helped me alot, i want to thank u from the bottom of my heart...your spirit is just so beautiful, so sweet and compassionate, mahalo and namaste my sister, i wish u and your ohana so much love and aloha, and thank u again for sharing your story, this has woke up a part of me that i feel i needed in order to be able to move forward in a healthier manner with my mom, and just people in general as well, love is ALWAYS the answer, and im wishing everyone a beautiful solution to your family issue, God bless all of our ohana!!!!! 🌺🌿🌺🌿🌺🌿🌺🌿

  • @miracleeva1122
    @miracleeva11226 ай бұрын

    Thank you for sharing! Im at the stage of "I dont have parents" for about a year. it's a major healing and transformative stage for sure, especially I still live with my mom... it's hard when you are easily being triggered and she still doesnt respect you regardless of your expression. But still, I'm looking forward to how things will move forward as I practice grounding my energy more and consciously practice moving out of the state of PTSD.

  • @Kanikanihia
    @Kanikanihia4 ай бұрын

    You’re so wonderful, Heather! Thank you so much for such a healing, wholesome message. The concept that you should completely and eternally cut off your family never sat right with me, because I think you never are able to cut off those deep, divine cords that tie us to the ones we descend from. It’s a web, a star map that makes up the path that led to us and it cannot be broken. Facing and healing the wound is the only way.❤

  • @CrissySims
    @CrissySims6 ай бұрын

    This is so healthy Heather, I was genuinely scared I wouldn’t like you after this vid bc it would be some very ungrounded / airy fairy “forgive all” speech😩 (sorry to be frank) but emphasizing how important it is that they go thru their own healing too before reconnecting is the best message! And actually recommending ppl disconnect in order to heal❤ I’ve heard so many ppl say it’s bad to cut cords with family no matter how toxic and I’ve always felt alienated bc of my choice to cut ties. (Even tho intuitively I knew I had to) So thank you for speaking on this it truly is so powerful🫶🏼

  • @arjanvogel6444
    @arjanvogel64446 ай бұрын

    Thanks girl for your vid 😇💟💟💟 Love and bless us all in divine light from the universe and so it is.

  • @marciaturley2850
    @marciaturley28506 ай бұрын

    Oh my gosh you're so beautiful! Your energy is incredible! I needed to hear this. Christmas with family was pretty harry canary. There's so many helpful tips here! Wow. Thank you so much!!! Merry Christmas Heather!!! Sending you so many good wishes for 2024

  • @michele8289
    @michele82896 ай бұрын

    God bless you for sharing your experiences and your wisdom and knowledge on this important subject!!! ❤💖🥰

  • @justicefrequency
    @justicefrequency6 ай бұрын

    Love this, thank you Heather. I am a year into no contact with my father. In this incarnation, he hasn’t made any changes to light. But I am starting to communicate with his higher self. And I believe we will reconnect happily in the astral 🤍✨

  • @sharron303
    @sharron3034 ай бұрын

    Heather! My personal IG got deleted, but I think about you often. Haven’t been on KZread much outside of yoga, but so happy I remembered your channel here. Thank you for sharing this video, so much family and ancestral karma healing now available for many. Our family stories are very similar, and I too reconnected with my mom fortunately a few years before she passed. I feel like it’s on trend to be “no contact,” and calling anyone you don’t agree with a narcissist. We so easily throw around labels without looking inward. Happy for you and loved spending some time with you in the virtual ❤❤❤ Sharron

  • @activationvibration

    @activationvibration

    4 ай бұрын

    Awe I love you and think of you often! You are always in my heart. Ami am sooo so glad and grateful you are doing well love. Thank you for also always doing the work, and for being such a beam of light. Yes to the transformation within that comes with dealing with what we are dealt. I am so proud of you. Love you always Sharron!

  • @rachelina97
    @rachelina976 ай бұрын

    Holidays have become so much lighter and joyful since we began implementing games and other activities! Such a breath of relief.

  • @StevePaulSounds
    @StevePaulSounds6 ай бұрын

    Thank you 🙏

  • @dawnmcdonald2084
    @dawnmcdonald20846 ай бұрын

    Oh wow I love this you've just explained my relationships so well very similar to yours ❤ thanks for sharing 😊 x

  • @MesticleJesticle
    @MesticleJesticle6 ай бұрын

    I live with my parents and my dad has always been the most difficult to get along with. I once spent an entire year leaving the house shortly after waking up and not coming home until they were asleep because I was in my earlier stages of healing and couldn’t help but to feel so resentful & just felt that I needed to not be around them. One day my mom stopped me and said that she felt like I hated her and that led to a conversation where I had to tell her that I didn’t hate them, I just didn’t feel comfortable around them because my mom never trusted me (she always assumed I was doing drugs or rioting because I went to one protest) and would often use scare tactics like threatening to kick me out if I didn’t do what she wanted me to & so I told her that I knew they were empty threats and all they were doing was pushing me further away. I think that was the first time she saw what she was doing & since then she hasn’t used any of those tactics and she doesn’t ask me if I’m doing drugs anymore, she still asks where I’m going but I think it’s because she’s just a concerned mom, but I tell her so that she doesn’t worry and so we can build that trust. There’s still some thing that we need to work on but she’s become a lot more receptive than she used to be. My dad on the other hand is a more difficult person to approach. He used to always unload his frustrations about me onto me at random times and it was always aggressive, no matter how many times I told him to stop he wouldn’t, so one day I told him if he didn’t stop that I was going to leave the house until he cooled down & he didn’t listen so that’s what I did. I could tell he was angry as I was leaving but he had texted me later that night and apologized & since then it hasn’t been to that level. He’ll still pick apart small things that I do but he’ll say 2 or 3 things about it and then walk away. Now he takes out a lot of frustration on my nieces, one who is 9 and the other who is 2. I always want to say something because they don’t deserve it but him getting to that level of irritation is very triggering for me, and I feel afraid to say anything during those moments. I’m still trying to learn how to navigate my relationship with him. He’s not exactly the “take advice from your daughter” kind of person. I have however recently gotten better at self regulating and not allowing the negative energy to affect me, so we’ll see if there’s any improvement to come. Any tips are appreciated ❤️

  • @JC-xp8lp
    @JC-xp8lp6 ай бұрын

    u r so real .. very cool

  • @Harmanaujla_
    @Harmanaujla_6 ай бұрын

    Thank you 🩷🩷🩷

  • @MariavillarREAL14
    @MariavillarREAL146 ай бұрын

    Thank you god❤

  • @lorrainemccormick2655
    @lorrainemccormick26556 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much for that , I,m from a large family and some of them are very toxic

  • @divinelyalkaline7464
    @divinelyalkaline74646 ай бұрын

    You are the blessing and light and knowledge I needed and asked for a couple days ago in regards to family. I thank you . I have been to the Louise hay audiobook has also been helping me and anyone who is struggling with family really should listen to Her book the power is within you. Affirmation for healing from parents I am not my mothers fears and limitations nor am I my fathers fears and limitations Nor am I my own fears and limitations ❤love hope this helps heal many

  • @crystin7503
    @crystin75036 ай бұрын

    Omg yes. Iam in the period of having a time off again. And i ts a challenge to not feel guilty for that... and yes they were my ennemies. Definitely. I said that too: I dont have parents/family. My energy was that of an orphan often . I love them- I invited them for christmas and can't sleep well for two weeks And all the unhealed stuff came up. I thought I have been through this. And i defineteky know what extremly toxic is and telling them "this is toxic " makes it wrose mostly .. seen with love they do their best. Just everone running on programs :) and now the aim is not expect them to change... but be there when they are ready Connect to their higher self like you said. And never go into their games again

  • @scarletozzy8937
    @scarletozzy89376 ай бұрын

    Miss ya heather!

  • @YAHWEHTheDragon
    @YAHWEHTheDragon6 ай бұрын

    Very insightful. 👑🤲❤️

  • @munisvaran1691
    @munisvaran16916 ай бұрын

    Happy new year ❤

  • @DistortedIlusion
    @DistortedIlusion6 ай бұрын

    I know what's going on with the problem, I'm taking care of it.

  • @esmeraldavandenbosch9011
    @esmeraldavandenbosch90116 ай бұрын

  • @daneille69
    @daneille696 ай бұрын

    Thank you gorgeous

  • @Sol-cm4nj
    @Sol-cm4nj6 ай бұрын

    Soul Fam ❤

  • @Cecred586
    @Cecred5866 ай бұрын

    I like your voice 😊

  • @jasminenijjar3772
    @jasminenijjar37726 ай бұрын

    my mother. She is a part of me, i am whole with her. in the past she has been nurturing and my best friend. now her energy feels like she hnever has time. like she is always rushing to get to work. and she doesnt understand in her brain why i do not work more like her, and there is a lot of tension in our relationship because of that.

  • @nicolenichols240
    @nicolenichols2406 ай бұрын

    That's Beautiful 🙌, but Not Always what can happen for some in this lifetime. We chose to be born in these families to learn what we needed too and I did! However that doesn't mean that is the soul plan for everyone else. And I specifically was told by the Our Family of LIGHT to stay Away! So many are like this too!!! Especially the Forerunner Group of my time. So We learned a different way of cutting ties and Protection for Good! But I do Love Hearing this is and knew it would start taking place for others which is cool 😎😇. Blessings and Namaste Everyone things they have the worst family until One grows up into a Dangerous One they don't really KNOW. Not knocking your Truth, but in general just saying. I KNOW Who my Family is and that is my Family of LIGHT!! Everyone I loved and was close too died a physical death. The rest made their choices and I made mine. 😂

  • @ru333
    @ru3336 ай бұрын

    Hey Heather what's your moon sign?

  • @MarcosCortez-wx3wn
    @MarcosCortez-wx3wn6 ай бұрын

    Hair

  • @girlygirl3721
    @girlygirl37216 ай бұрын

    I went no contact with my dad about a year ago, and it wasn't my first time. Is it reasonable to never get back in touch if I feel he won't change or grow? I find it hard to accept him the way he is, which does include narcissistic traits.

  • @ambrielmeilleur2560
    @ambrielmeilleur25606 ай бұрын

    By any chance, do you know the reason why i lose my hearing when I'm around my toxic family ?

  • @joysnow3779

    @joysnow3779

    6 ай бұрын

    Could be like a self preservation or protection mechanism as to not let them or their hurtful words in to close.

  • @ambrielmeilleur2560

    @ambrielmeilleur2560

    6 ай бұрын

    @joysnow3779 That makes sense. Thank you 😊

  • @manifestingmaren
    @manifestingmaren6 ай бұрын

    I have a feeling you are the oldest in your family Heather ❤ and i don’t mean physical age #WiseOldSoul

  • @dailyweekley
    @dailyweekley6 ай бұрын

    ✨🫂✨

  • @traicyarciniega7824
    @traicyarciniega78243 ай бұрын

    Well congratulations on healing your family trauma.

  • @annamalystic
    @annamalystic6 ай бұрын

    Please make a video about veganism. I remember you saying that you were vegan for many years and then you switched to eating animal-based foods. Have you channeled any information about the different eating lifestyles?💙

  • @user-tf3hb2wb6m
    @user-tf3hb2wb6mАй бұрын

    You are a narcisistic empath to my dear work on that shit

  • @heatherbarbermassage
    @heatherbarbermassage2 ай бұрын

    Beautiful 🩷 thank you💓

  • @empressbthealkemisst
    @empressbthealkemisst4 ай бұрын

    Wow 😮 what an amazing testimony thank you Universe for leading me here 🫶🏾🙏🏾✨

  • @irisalvarado8429
    @irisalvarado84296 ай бұрын

    I totally love your channel and you know I want to share something with you I came from a background that was toxic and it wasn't you know that they were just toxic I think it came more from their background from their family of their upbringing so yeah I do understand for me to explain it I would have to do a whole video on this because I am just like that I explained things from details so yeah I agree this should be continued and it's good it's a good love and light inspiration white light🤍🙏✨️

  • @crystin7503
    @crystin75036 ай бұрын

    Omg yes. Iam in the period of having a time off again. And i ts a challenge to not feel guilty for that... and yes they were my ennemies. Definitely. I said that too: I dont have parents/family. My energy was that of an orphan often . I love them- I invited them for christmas and can't sleep well for two weeks And all the unhealed stuff came up. I thought I have been through this. And i defineteky know what extremly toxic is and telling them "this is toxic " makes it wrose mostly .. seen with love they do their best. Just everone running on programs :) and now the aim is not expect them to change... but be there when they are ready Connect to their higher self like you said. And never go into their games again

  • @sangloter
    @sangloterКүн бұрын

  • @crystin7503
    @crystin75036 ай бұрын

    Omg yes. Iam in the period of having a time off again. And i ts a challenge to not feel guilty for that... and yes they were my ennemies. Definitely. I said that too: I dont have parents/family. My energy was that of an orphan often . I love them- I invited them for christmas and can't sleep well for two weeks And all the unhealed stuff came up. I thought I have been through this. And i defineteky know what extremly toxic is and telling them "this is toxic " makes it wrose mostly .. seen with love they do their best. Just everone running on programs :) and now the aim is not expect them to change... but be there when they are ready Connect to their higher self like you said. And never go into their games again

  • @empresstaitu7345
    @empresstaitu73454 ай бұрын