Just a quick update along with some answers to frequently asked questions: 1) I have retained a lawyer. I talked to a lot of people and read a lot of reviews and I'm feeling very confident in my choice. And it is a good thing I started the go fund me because retainers are... a lot. 2) I hear those of you who say "stay of social media" and "take down this video and get a lawyer," and while I appreciate the concern, what I think you may be missing is that without this video and the GoFundMe I wouldn't have had a cent for a retainer and would not have a lawyer. People may not like it, and heck, I had stepped away from it this past year, but this has been my job for years now, I'm apparently kind of okay at it, and I will do whatever it takes to support my kids. 3) And yes, if my attorney tells me to take it down, I will. But she hasn't. And so, here we are. 4) If you're here to scold me for crying immediately after my entire world was dumped upside down just... don't. Be kind. It's not really that hard.

@stevenlafleur8474

4 ай бұрын

Well said!

@Queenager.

4 ай бұрын

💯👍✌️🙏💖

@doreenllerena8429

4 ай бұрын

I’m so proud of you!!

@shannonsmith5301

4 ай бұрын

Very proud of you. U are gonna see how strong you are!! Please find someone to talk to... you need to vent. I have a feeling your world is not done being turned upside down & he's hiding things from you. Please don't believe anything he tells you...if you could, would you be getting a divorce?! Please don't let him make you feel guilty for asking for money & everything else you & your kids deserve. Y'all are what's the most important thing here. I'm praying for y'all & please block the haters. Sometimes people suck! You are going to cry & cry alot! You are human!!

@KristineS73

4 ай бұрын

It's protected speech. It's your right to make videos about your life and you already had been during the marriage. The videos are not an issue. Your lawyer would tell you the same.

You need to lawyer up. Don't trust anything he's telling you as taking care of you.

@ronjaj.addams-ramstedt1023

4 ай бұрын

I second this wholeheartedly!

@Autmazing

4 ай бұрын

Thanks. I'm trying to figure this part out right now. ❤ It's seeming more and more necessary, especially since posting this video. Sigh.

@shaunalea823

4 ай бұрын

I totally agree. He’s a lawyer he shouldn’t be surprised nor should he make his children pay for his issues. You totally have every right to know what to expect so that you can provide for your children.

@Java-D

4 ай бұрын

Yes!!! Please get a lawyer to help you navigate through this. I’m so sorry it’s happening but you do have the upper hand since he is the one walking away. Take advantage of that!!! ❤

@odinbolt

4 ай бұрын

This. Two of the kids are eligible for lifetime child support, which I would recommend pursuing, as well as pursuing spousal support (Cammie may be able to get it longer than it normally lasts for due to her disabilities and I would strongly suggest leveraging this). Her situation is kind of the opposite of mine though-- both of my kids are eligible for lifetime child support but I can't safely pursue it without risk of harm and had to let that ship sail.

His forcing you to sell the car and guns just to get by is not a gift. It is controlling behavior.

@pamelar3257

4 ай бұрын

This comment is Absolutely 💯.

@cantstanditanymore

4 ай бұрын

Don't sell them guns!! Or the car!!!

@CharitysClarity

4 ай бұрын

Everything is 50/50 when you leave sadly he clearly spoke to an attorney

@rebeccac.1758

4 ай бұрын

@@cantstanditanymore She said she already did. She needed money asap

Please get an attorney. He will definitely take advantage of you without an attorney. Get an attorney.

@Kwildcat13

4 ай бұрын

He might not but his lawyer will !!

@CrucesNomad1

4 ай бұрын

Wrong, once it hots the courts you have gave your decisions and power to lawyers and judges.

@CharitysClarity

4 ай бұрын

@@CrucesNomad1exactly an they will take the house and bye bye any social security for the kids it can be hell I endured it years ago with my ex husband an my oldest child

@voz805

4 ай бұрын

Yes, nothing more important for your children than getting an attorney. This lazy man who refuses to work much can get his wages garnished and/or he can be thrown in jail for not paying child support. The state is very touchy about fathers who won't pay and cause the state to support his children. Five special needs children with two low income parents, oy vey, prayers are much needed as well.

1. Stay off social media!!! 2. Get a lawyer ASAP. 3. Lodge the paperwork for spousal and child support.

@user-mu3xk7ie2t

4 ай бұрын

🎯

@kaythegardener

4 ай бұрын

Correct to get off social media, since it could be used against you, without even needing a subpoena!!

@WDWJP30

4 ай бұрын

This! You might want to delete this video as well. I'm so sorry you are going through this.

@pamostman516

4 ай бұрын

Anything you say and post can and will use against you in a court of law. The person you know can become a totally different person.

@sterlingmatsui154

4 ай бұрын

Her Attorney will advise properly...!!!

“He’s very busy with work…” “He’s moved half an hour away…”. His girlfriend probably lives half an hour away.

@dinahsoar6982

3 ай бұрын

Yes...happens all the time.

I'm divorced. Trust everyone telling you to get an attorney immediately is 100% correct. It's vitally important for you and your children that you have a lawyer! Asap!

There is no such thing as a friendly divorce. Get an attorney.

@ashleybergstrom8934

4 ай бұрын

SOOOOO TRUE!

@TheJulithegreat

3 ай бұрын

I had a friendly divorce. We didn't use attorneys and had 2 small children. There is such thing. But not with a narcissist.

@laurareznick9097

Ай бұрын

I agree with the advice to get an attorney, but disagree that there is no such thing as a friendly divorce. My parents got divorced in 2013 (my brother and I were both adults and out of the house by then) and were able to reach agreement without a lawyer. I recently moved from out of state to live near my dad, and my mom comes for dinner every Wednesday and Dad usually joins us for family dinner. If only their marriage had been as good as their divorce, they never would have had to get divorced. I recognize I'm very lucky that things worked out so well and their situation is unusual.

Honey, you are too trusting. Please hire an attorney. You have to take care of yourself and your children. Clearly, he has been planning this divorce for a long time and is a liar. Protect your family.

Please please please hire an attorney-please do not agree to anything or sign anything or commit to anything.

@AnnaAnnieAnneofGreenGables

4 ай бұрын

Then, the attorney will get everything.

@aprilsmithswe

4 ай бұрын

@@AnnaAnnieAnneofGreenGables Yes the attorney will get some but without one she’s going to lose much more!

@commonsense6967

4 ай бұрын

@@AnnaAnnieAnneofGreenGablesNot nevessarily!

@AnnaAnnieAnneofGreenGables

4 ай бұрын

@@commonsense6967 I have less than zero respect for most lawyers. Lady Justice is a blind WHORE

@CrucesNomad1

4 ай бұрын

First one who files usually is on better ground in court.

You need a lawyer. The fact that social dynamics are not your strong suit plus that fact that he is a lawyer could be a disaster. Even if he has the kids best interest at heart, he understands the system and you don’t. A lawyer will be able to help you navigate and ensure you understand your rights and everything you have access to.

@Autmazing

4 ай бұрын

Thank you. Finding one is my goal for today.

@brooklin_bernek

4 ай бұрын

@@Autmazingdo not stop until you find one. It a fact he left because of a woman or hey even a man. A man doesn’t walk away from his family out of the blue just because he wants to be alone. I promise. And if you can prove it he broke vows. The divorce judges hate that’

@Ellaloveslofi

4 ай бұрын

​@brooklinjmxo I agree. In all my years I've never known of one marriage that ended at the man's request where there wasn't another woman. Please @autmazing, don't let him lead this. You need to take charge of your own affairs. I'm sorry this is happening in your family. 😢

@Kwildcat13

4 ай бұрын

Yeah and he got one prior to even saying anything .. horrible

@transitionsnc

4 ай бұрын

Completely agree with this.

Don’t believe a word he tells you about taking care of you. Get a fantastic attorney to protect you, and your children. It’s very hard, and heartbreaking……but promise it will get better…you don’t need to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you….you and your kids deserve more!

@stjohnbaby

4 ай бұрын

Yes!

Get a lawyer! Do not let him not take care of you and kids! He left you! That is abandonment.

@Mary-us8jb

4 ай бұрын

@gylefarmer5946, notice there was "counselling with a priest" was never mentioned again? That most likely was the time he spent with her replacement sans children.

@susanmurten6178

4 ай бұрын

So you're saying everyone who has filed for a divorce has abandoned their spouse and kids? 🤷🏼‍♀️

@Mary-us8jb

4 ай бұрын

@@susanmurten6178 Point out where @gaylefarmer5946 said that.

@saltycat662

4 ай бұрын

@@susanmurten6178 Why are you projecting? They're referring to this particular case, not yours.

@susanmurten6178

4 ай бұрын

@@saltycat662 if he served divorce papers, he legally didn't abandoned them 🤷🏼‍♀

You MUST get an attorney, this is so important! Don"t make any agreements with him or sign any papers! Monitor the bank accounts!

@Julie6550

4 ай бұрын

I would pull all money that is yours from any joint bank account(s) and get an account only in your name. You actually legally can drain it if your name is on it (and so can he), so get your money out NOW.

Remember standing up for yourself is not acrimonious it is your right and the rights of your children.

@ashleybergstrom8934

4 ай бұрын

IF he calls you a leech for TAKING HIS MONEY just realize you and the kids are ENTITLED TO IT. There is no amt. of money that would be enough for raising kids. It is legally and morally NOT HIS money. He is trying to degrade you. Don't let him if he does this.

Working long hours? Coming home at 6am? He's involved with someone else. He's unfaithful.

@aproverbshome173

3 ай бұрын

I think this may be inappropriate to put this weight on her shoulders.

@goldenretrievermom7945

3 ай бұрын

she deserves to know the truth@@aproverbshome173

Ask your folks to watch the kids so you can sit down without distractions and fill out the temporary spousel support documents. Get moving before your 21 days runs out. Do not believe a word he says. He has a responsibility to you and those children. It will get worse but in time you will find your way. Your a strong woman. Lean on family and friends during the hard times.

@ashleybergstrom8934

4 ай бұрын

My family and therapy saved me. One year in clinical depression. Worse year and time ever. Breaks my heart for you and the kids. I had over a 20 year marriage and had not worked. It was hard. God made a way.

He has money and is not telling you! That is why you need an attorney.

@ashleybergstrom8934

4 ай бұрын

100%

Having been divorced a few times.....You have to remember that he is NOT your friend. He's only !looking out for HIMSELF. Also, keep a journal....write down EVERYTHING! ❤

@mimi7914

4 ай бұрын

YES JOURNAL EVERYTHING!!! THIS IS IMPORTANT

@moonchildpink5525

4 ай бұрын

EVERYTHING!

@ashleybergstrom8934

4 ай бұрын

True. 100%

@BlessedFloridaMom

3 ай бұрын

Stop sharing where you are in the divorce bc he’s watching and planning accordingly. You don’t have to answer to him or to us. Get your game face on and pray to the Lord without ceasing. You get strong - you may also want to file a response and request he pay your legal fees. Start calling attys explain you have a popular KZread and would like to work out a deal for at least them to file a response. You could recommend them if they help you. And that ultimately he should pay your legal fees bc he’s the one breaking his vows. 😉. You got this! And just think with your head and not with your heart. 💪. Stop crying and get determined. He will see you stopped crying and that you aren’t a second class female! Your actions will tell him he screwed up the best wife a man could dream of. 😎

@BlessedFloridaMom

3 ай бұрын

I have been divorced with 3 boys - it’s gritty but man do you grow as a person! God is your safety net - not him! Get depending on him out of your math. Stop bending over backwards for him to see the kids. He has to sacrifice now. He may need to change jobs - NOT YOUR PROBLEM…. He’s gonna find out like they all do - it’s hard to support a ex and kids AND a new gf ! The grass is never greener on the other side. So you get confident- idk why your story got to me but from one Sister in Christ to another - you can do this ❤…

Get a lawyer !! Get out!!! STOP all communication with him in ANY capacity!! He’s a liar and messing with your emotions. Divorce is hard and you need to protect and preserve yourself!

@asabovesobelow7981

4 ай бұрын

Well said and sound advice.. will save her alot of heartache in the end.. these kind of men are so toxic

@CharitysClarity

4 ай бұрын

@@asabovesobelow7981get a lawyer for what to lean her home? She is broke he obviously doesn’t have a lot of money either having disabled complex kids is expensive how would this help her? She needs to keep her home and not lose her help they will expect her to work while kids are in school etc it’s not the way everyone’s saying here I lived it they don’t care about your lifestyle staying the same all they care is the money for the kids is 50/50 equal unless you have a lot of money and assets 401k etc. Her needing a go fund me is a red flag to stay out of the courts

He's having an affair. A very good divorce attorney said men don't leave without a having someone else. Women will leave for abuse or when their needs aren't being met.

@Kwildcat13

4 ай бұрын

Yep , because men will stay and have both unless someone gave them an ultimatum like another girl .. I hate this for anyone ..

@aprilfisher4947

4 ай бұрын

True ! When my husband left me after 35 years of marriage a solicitor told me the same thing that men don't usually leave unless there's someone else and he divorced me without ever admitting it even though he was spotted with another woman.

@atlfun08

4 ай бұрын

💯💯💯

@transitionsnc

4 ай бұрын

I agree. Men usually have someone waiting in the wings.

@susanb7594

4 ай бұрын

Ugh! This is what I thought as soon as she said he started “working more.” Sorry you are going through this.

For all we know, he could be harboring money from you planning this for years. Lawyer will ensure you get half of it.

@DaisyAnnabelle65

4 ай бұрын

Exactly!

He is not being honest. In Michigan if yall are married more than 10 years. You get half of everything. Every cent. You need a attorney

@kaythegardener

4 ай бұрын

And if married for over 10 years, you can also qualify to claim part of his social security record to be calculated in your own benefits!! See your Social Security office after seeing a good lawyer. You will need to have his social security number. Get your estimate first & then see how your benefit will change under both records. That will give you a range of his benefit as well.

@joany11swatch14

4 ай бұрын

Wow. Ten years. Where I’m from…you get half if you live common law after a year. You don’t even have to be officially married.

@joany11swatch14

4 ай бұрын

Word of advice to those young couples wanting a family. If your first child is autistic or has any form of live long disabilities……dont have any more ! Children are expensive and a lot of responsibility without challenges. Marriages don’t last, nothing is a guarantee in any relationship and women need to think about a plan B if things don’t work out. Continue to work, earn an income and save whatever you can. Never, ever expect to rely on a partner to support you. You just strap yourself !

@ashleybergstrom8934

4 ай бұрын

Same for california. Then the ex says without him you would not have a pot to pi^s in. Degrading. Who is raising his kids????? They are lowlifes.

@em77775

3 ай бұрын

@@joany11swatch14 Well kids are usually staggered 2 years apart and you don't often notice signs of autism until after age 3, so you can't pre plan everything perfectly. Both my kids are on the spectrum (born 2 years and 5 mos. apart). It's been hard but with lots of work they have been thriving.

I’m so sorry you are going through this. My husband filed for divorce after 22 years of marriage. I had not worked outside the home in over 13 years. My son is on the spectrum and my daughter has ADHD. He told me not to get a lawyer, and that was the biggest mistake I made. Praying for you and your children!❤

@shannonsmith5301

4 ай бұрын

Yes!! If only I could go back...

@mimi7914

4 ай бұрын

how are you doing today?

@pattiannec4786

4 ай бұрын

@@mimi7914 I’m good

@goldenretrievermom7945

4 ай бұрын

I hope you are doing well today.

@ashleybergstrom8934

4 ай бұрын

My ex told me too not to get a lawyer. I ran out and got one and he had to pay all the fees!! He said I would get less if I got a lawyer. lol I got waaaaaay more with my lawyer. Which took away his new boat money, new truck money to pull the boat, etc. haha

Sounds like he has done a lot of pre planning.

@Kwildcat13

4 ай бұрын

Yep he is out ! That just is horrible .. more then a fight at this point

@ashleybergstrom8934

4 ай бұрын

My ex did a lot of planning too behind my back. I was stunned. Blind to it all. He had a deceitful heart, I didn't. I know better now.

Why did he move so far? He’s hiding something. Don’t be so nice get a lawyer asap! He has an obligation to support his children any lawyer will tell you! Start writing down all your expenses and keep a journal how this has affected you! I’m so sorry this happening to you!

@Artsylady2030

3 ай бұрын

I would go to where he is now living and do a stakeout....see if you can see a woman or man or whatever in his NEW life....that might help with the case IDK...that is what I would do...I would want to know who he left ME for ....

14 hours a day working to only make $14,000 a year? The math isn’t mathing 🤦🏼‍♀️

@Dr_Nutrition

4 ай бұрын

She said that’s how much money he gave her to spend in a year

@angeljuarez93

4 ай бұрын

@@Dr_Nutrition to pay for bills too?!? That’s so messed up

@Twebb349

4 ай бұрын

Yeah he sounds like a tight wad jackass. But I assure you, he will be paying a lot more than that in child support and alimony 😊

@Isaacand716

4 ай бұрын

Reminds me of my dad. Working so much but coming home to just bring scraps to barely get by !

Been there and at the 17 year mark! No warning,just went and filed!!! Told awful lies on me to,i guess, make friends and family think it was all my fault! Come to find out he was cheating on me and it wasn't the first time!!! Believe me,get a lawyer!!! God bless you and your children!!!

@conniecrews8462

4 ай бұрын

He chose to walk out so he would work with me and work around my schedule!!! Apparently he hasn't been schooled on give and take!!!

NEVER beg anyone to stay in your life!! Desperation is an awful feeling, but it’s also empowering to the other party! Value and respect yourself! And so he should’ve been paying to support you, you worked looking after and raising the children!

@asabovesobelow7981

4 ай бұрын

THIS!!

@user-px7nh7vs4b

4 ай бұрын

Never beg anyone to stay with you is absolutely right. The best thing now after you get an attorney and secure your assets is to start to learn your OWN value. Once you know your own worth you will never ask anyone to stay with you. You will be easily able to say. "Bye Felicia." You are strong! You're a mom so I know you're strong. Stop justifying his action by detailing the few positive things he does. He left you! You can do this! You will survive and thrive!

@priscillaanimations2836

3 ай бұрын

I don't see as that she was begging him to stay. You see, she's Catholic. And I am Catholic we see Marriage sacred. And it look like she was the only one fighting for her marriage. Which is why she suggested counseling. But he refuses as Catholics we see Marriage sacred and this man Went in front of God and Promised to be with her for the rest of her life. But sadly, he broke it. Also what concerns me which Priest is he seeing for example Catholic Priest teaches about importance of Marriage and will try to talk a guy out of it or suggest counseling since the Priest did not suggest that is also heart breaking. A priest gave a homely where a Man apporach him and said Father I want to leave my wife." Our priest said well why do you feel that way?" He said well I don't know. I don't feel attracted to her anymore. I don't feel butterflies like I had for her." Then the priest said that's all nothing else. He said my man's feelings come and go attractions come and goes but it's up to you if you want to save the marriage or not? Our priest suggested marriage counseling to these couples. He also said, "Take your wife out on a date again. Have a honeymoon of your own, so the man did exactly what the priest told him. And you know what happened he saids "Father, I don't want to divorce my wife anymore."" The priest said oh what Change your mind? " We went to marriage counseling. I took her on a special date. And I saw what a loving woman she is for raising our kids how hard she worked for our children and for me. He also saw all the good qualities and notice her beauty again why he married her from the beginning. His love for her grew twice as more that date. Now here's a funny catch the wife had no clue that he was going to pull the divorce card on her. It was a surprise when he suggested marriage counseling, which finally she realized. In the end, the man fought for his marriage, and soon, she fought for it to. This was the priest's sermon during Mass.

@Steven-hq3go

2 ай бұрын

Staying married is much better than divorce. No remarriage as it is adultery while the other spouse is still alive. Catholic anullment is unbiblical.

@priscillaanimations2836

2 ай бұрын

@Steven-hq3go Not Really you can remarried as long if you have annulment. It never stated that you can't be remarried. Yes, in some sense, it's adultery. But he's leaving her, which he didn't fight for his marriage. So if she happened to meet another guy, it's approved as long as she got proper divorce and annulment.

I’m sorry but he’s having an affair. Get a good lawyer.

@candiceconboy715

4 ай бұрын

I thought the same as soon as she said he was working long hours and left for a night after a fight🤔

@nataliethomas1991

4 ай бұрын

That's exactly what I was thinking! Working long hours & not willing to help her financially & to just walk out the way he did. He's been cheating!

@supriseimblack

3 ай бұрын

I'm a guy and that's exactly what I thought

Absolutely for sure, you must get an attorney ASAP! So important!

Please get legal help to take care of your children and yourself. He did not arrange counseling. He has proven to be untrustworthy. Sadly, you can't trust his word at this time. Please be very careful and treat him as unreliable. Without legal protection you could end up in terrible financial trouble. You are a good person; you love your kids and do everything in your power to help them. Be careful what you put on video because it could be used in court against you. You deserve an honest, trustworthy, reliable, and loving partner. I am so so very sorry.

@Autmazing

4 ай бұрын

Thanks. I’m going to try to find one today. ❤️

@jenniferwistey7323

4 ай бұрын

I am praying that God would show you clearly which lawyer to hire, and that you would feel God's comfort and protection surrounding you in a miraculous way during this very very difficult time. Humans fail, but God's love will never fail you, and you need and deserve that miraculous, reliable, protective, wise, and compassionate Love right now. @@Autmazing

@veraiskes8805

4 ай бұрын

I am so sorry for you and your children.... Please stay strong and do not believe him anymore. I wish you strengh and lot of love. ❤ From the Netherlands thinging and praying for you, Vera 😘

@mimi7914

4 ай бұрын

@@Autmazing don't talk to him and agree to nothing . He is not your friend at this point. Believe me. Definitely do not sign anything either

@ashleybergstrom8934

4 ай бұрын

YES, watch what you say here. Attys. will use it if needed.

Long ago, a friend called me, crying, because her husband asked for a divorce. He told her to go stay with her parents, states away. I told her that she needed to get an attorney, get home to the house. He most likely had a girlfriend. Of course he did! He also made all of the money, so she got a job. They ended up reconciling, but later divorced. He’d had affairs all along.

The same thing happened to me about 17 years ago and I couldn't be happier.

My friend, from the moment you were served, he became your opponent. I believe that there’s someone waiting for him to exit the marriage. I’ve learned that once the process begins, you must armored yourself with an attorney to ensure that he continues help you financially. As women, we’re guided by our hearts, especially when we want the relationship, sadly, men uses it to their advantage. Please, take a deep breath and fight for your children. I want you to know that everything will work out for you and I’m praying for you & your children.☮️

@melissasplitt158

4 ай бұрын

Since he is paying property taxes that the properties in his name, I'm wondering if he's going to be a snake and take that from her, and then after the divorce is done, serve her with eviction. She doesn't know what's about to happen.

@Autmazing

4 ай бұрын

@melissasplitt158 the house is definitely not in his name, thank goodness.

@mimi7914

4 ай бұрын

@@Autmazing run do not walk to an attorney. Time is important

@ashleybergstrom8934

4 ай бұрын

Words truthfully spoken.

If you don't have the money for the attorney's retainer, ASK YOUR ATTORNEY TO PETITION THE COURT FOR IT. IOW, ask for your husband to be made to pay it for your attorney! This is so important!

@Kwildcat13

4 ай бұрын

Yes because she is a SAHM .. she needs to stop being kind to this man

@rjr618

4 ай бұрын

@@Kwildcat13 she's a what? And have you ever gone through something like this?

@ashleybergstrom8934

4 ай бұрын

Yes! My husband had to pay all my atty. fees. It was awesome and he hated it. Garnished straight from his work's legal dept.

@rjr618

3 ай бұрын

@@ashleybergstrom8934 way to go!

@beckyboo1433

3 ай бұрын

​@@rjr618stay at home mom

Get a pit bull lawyer. Fire the lawyer if hes not tough enough. Yup you can. Fight for your life.

@ashleybergstrom8934

4 ай бұрын

I had to fire my first lawyer for telling me to give my husband BOTH our vehicles but I was supposed to get a job and take care of two kids. Yeah right!! Fired him, had no idea what I was doing and got a killer women atty. NUFF said. lol

He is having a affair. I guarantee it. I’m so sorry.

He’s a lawyer (which you now know how much they charge) running his own firm, working 14 hour days, and things are tight?! That makes absolutely zero sense. I’m a paralegal aka a lawyers assistant and I’m making over six figures. Either A) he is not actually working or B) he is hiding a TON of money from you and either losing/spending it or has it squirreled away somewhere. I would not believe a single word that man says about literally ANYTHING.

@hannahpeters9600

4 ай бұрын

Also, knowing you hated guns and that’s the gift he always gave you bc that’s what HE liked?!? That’s so so horrible. You will be a better, happier woman without him. You deserve so much more than that.

@HerMajesty1

4 ай бұрын

Ya. He's a narcissist. And a cheater. 💯

@miajoyce11

3 ай бұрын

Happy you are taking charge and. Got a lawyer. You will make it through. You are stronger than you know. Good luck.

Because he filed initially your lawyer can help recoup your legal fees from him. Get a loan, credit card, family and get an attorney TODAY.

@ashleybergstrom8934

4 ай бұрын

After a partner leaves, any debt each one takes on is their own. I would never advise her to get a credit card or loan.

The grief of losing a partner is exactly like the grief of losing someone to death, sometimes worse. You also need counseling to get through this.

@ashleybergstrom8934

4 ай бұрын

I told my therapist it was like a living death. The rejection, so so hard.

@em77775

3 ай бұрын

Yes, this is what I was saying all along. I lost my husband to a similar situation. He was a narcissist and suddenly no longer was the man I used to know. The "love" evaporated seemingly overnight. He ran away from the marriage and his family responsibilities while I kept trying to get him to see the error of his ways. Then he started with the cheating and on and on it went. Finally divorced. Life is good now and I don't care about what I thought I lost anymore.

BS! My ex said the same thing-we were married 26 years. I told him I knew he was going to be vindictive and he said “then you don’t know me very well.” He tried like crazy to screw me in every way possible. He even claimed I forged his signature on our kids student loans-we are both co-signers (50/50). He went to the police station and asked them to arrest me. My lawyer asked him in front of his lawyer if we need to subpoena the Sallie Mae records. He got a stupid “busted” look on his face. That’s just one of many things he pulled to screw me over. Find a way to get a lawyer ASAP.

@ashleybergstrom8934

4 ай бұрын

SAD but true.

Don’t trust he will financially provide. He’s proven himself. File for that support. You got this!🙏🏼

It gets better, there were times I felt my life was over but 2 years later I'm happy now. Wishing you all the best ❤

@Autmazing

4 ай бұрын

Thank you ❤️

Get a lawyer! The lawyer will ask that he pay your legal fees and he will have to!

@ashleybergstrom8934

4 ай бұрын

Truth spoken sister!!!

Lawyer , Lawyer, Lawyer! He's got someone else

He hasn’t been working long hours. He has been with someone else. He’s a cheater!!!!!!!

@Truerealism747

3 ай бұрын

She would surely no by his pay packet

Do not believe a word out of his mouth.

If he is an attorney, please be advised that he knows ALL the attorneys and Judges in your area. Be very careful . I am sorry you are going through this. It will not be pleasant.

Young lady you need to get a lawyer, please please do not do this without one. I’m speaking from experience here, I was handed papers and he would make sure we were taken care of but nooooo. GET A LAWYER

He's selfish. He's manipulating you. Mom's and dad's give up the right to just walk away. I call BS. He's going to continuesly dump on you more and more responsiblitys so he can go live his single selfish life. Don't fall for it.

oh Cammie, I feel for you, I have been there, it is the worst of times. My one piece of advice, if I may, what many others in the community are also advising, you get a good lawyer and leave them to fight for your rights. DO NOT TRUST! the trust is already broken. Reach out to your family and friends for emotional support for you and your children. I am so truly sorry this has happened to you, God bless 🙏

I’m going through the same thing. My boyfriend of 13 years & father of my 3 kids ages 4. 7 & 12 decided he’s done & gave me eviction papers. Being a stay at home mom for 12 years didn’t allow me to have a savings account so I have nothing. I make a little bit from my KZread channel but not enough to afford anything. My 3 kids are at 3 different schools also & have different schedules. Ugh it’s a struggle for sure.

@Kwildcat13

4 ай бұрын

Girl you have rights too .. he cannot evict you like that

@maryl234

4 ай бұрын

Eviction in this case is months long. A notice to quit is nothing. Stay put. Let him go to court and it costs him money to file at every step.

@ChessieChess

4 ай бұрын

Get a lawyer. Check your state. You might qualify as a common law marriage in which case you have more rights than a girlfriend. I do know he CANNOT evict you from your home

Very sorry for the loss of your marriage. It's heartbreaking to lose the one you love, your life partner. Will pray for you and your family

Please get a lawyer as soon as you can. I am so sorry about this.

I’m so sorry, but get a lawyer, he is probably keeping money from you, they can find out his bank accounts and freeze them, but again, please get a lawyer

😮1)Fill out papers for support 2) Lawyer, 3) New email acct, 4) Change passwords, 5)Church support, 6) Kids may need counseling, 7)Document daily, 8)You are a survivor, 9) You are worthy, realize he is watching this and comments

You bring tears...so sorry you're going through this... Get a good lawyer... very important...

@Autmazing

4 ай бұрын

Thank you. I’m going to try to find one today.

Two things. Number one is lawyer up. Number two is I'm sorry you are going through this and I'm sending you love.

Don’t gamble with your children’s childhood and future. Get a good lawyer FAST. I was in your exact position many years ago. A Good attorney will listen and advise. Sign NOTHING without legal advise. You and your family need to be strong. In a few years you will be so much stronger. Sending you a hug.

Document everything. It’s so easy to forget things, get a lawyer, protect yourself ❤

So sorry this happened to you and the kids. Sending prayers.

@Autmazing

4 ай бұрын

Thank you ❤️

You’re going on my prayer list ❤️ stay strong and I would absolutely take this video down and find a lawyer who will take your case and have your ex pay the fees. He’s gonna throw an absolute fit but you have to advocate for yourself because he is absolutely doing so for himself.

I’m so glad you got an attorney. You are going to need them to get a fair settlement. I believe in you and your ability to get through this challenging time. 💙

I am so sorry your going through this 😢

@Autmazing

4 ай бұрын

Thank you!

At this point forward -- you can not trust him. Big hugs too you friend. I'm so sorry for you and your children. Protect yourself!!! Give yourself time to grieve. Focus forward on being the best "you" you can be for you and your children 🤗🥰... Your future is going to be amazing!!!

I suggest if you believe your two girls qualify for SSI that you apply for it EVEN if you owe them $12,000. The reason is because I was also overpaid by mistake. But when I qualified again they took the payment from there. So let’s say you owe $12,000 and the payment is supposed to be $1000 per month, then you would get paid $0 per month for 12 months until SSI deducts all $12,000 that you owe, essentially paying themselves back. If you still qualify after it’s all paid off then the girls will begin receiving the correct payment.

@odinbolt

4 ай бұрын

That's for SSDI, actually. For SSI she should only have 10% subtracted from their SSI payments until the overage is paid in full. If this isn't what is occurring Cammie needs to talk to someone at Social Security and find out what's going on.

@brooklin_bernek

4 ай бұрын

When my brother was overpaid , he paid back $200 monthly until it was paid. Easy and worked out. We live in PA but it has to be the same all over right?

@brooklin_bernek

4 ай бұрын

@@odinboltyes!! This is what happened to my brother he got like $800 and they took almost $200 monthly until his $1500 was paid back. Then his payments went back to normal

@zariballard

4 ай бұрын

What a bunch of nonsense on the part of social security!! It is ALWAYS their error and we don't even know if it's really an overpayment but they have to be paid back. It's really disgusting.

@odinbolt

3 ай бұрын

@@brooklin_bernekYes, if they find that you once again qualify for SSI due to low income. They take up to 10% of what you owe out of each check until the amount is paid off. I'd still try to stick this to Paul with the finalizing of the divorce since he was the one who caused the problem in the first place.

Getting a job as a stay at home with a few children that are disabled is almost impossible , I know!! I have 5 and they go to 3 different schools, it’s literal impossible to get them there and get to a job , and then get them at all different times they are done. It’s ridiculous when people say this

@asabovesobelow7981

4 ай бұрын

I flip stuff on eBay and thrift the items from salvation army and goodwill and garage sales.. and your an awesome mama bear over there!! Im the oldest of 5 kids lol there was never a dull moment.. I only have 2 kids myself but have 3 grandkids 10,5, and 4 and they keep me busy thankfully they only live 10 minutes from me..

I have never been to your channel before, but this just showed up and the title got me. I went though a divorce 40 years ago and still remember the pain. I am so sorry, please protect yourself, don’t let the spousal support filing run out, I don’t think you need to know the exact amount you need but that you have intent to get spousal support at least that is the way it was in California when I had legal aid. ❤ take care of yourself, believe me he will take care of himself.

I'm new to you. I will tell you this. Other than these videos you need to keep a journal of every day date and time it. All conversations between you and narc spouse. Every single day document what happened that day even the food bank hauls everything. What you and kids did together everything!!! Praying for you❤❤❤

Also please know that he absolutely had an affair! No way a man walked out on his family alone. Please try and prove it in court , he broke your vows! Make videos so we can watch and engage to help you make income , even if you discuss divorce it will get a ton of views your not alone in this! Take advantage of this girl! You got this! ❤❤❤❤❤

How does he work so much and yet all along you have such little money to live on? You have 11 dolars and are going to a foodbank and he says no to giving you some money. All the hassle of selling stuff just but food.

As a catholic who didn’t believe in divorce I begged n did everything to have my husband to stay. Finally after seeking therapy for myself I decided enuf! It was hard, I had been married for 18 yrs. Fast fwd 20 yrs later, best thing I ever did n I remarried a man who WANTS ME! Stay strong! ❤I went to courthouse and they helped me with what paperwork I needed. I did my divorce with a pay as you go paralegal aid n the sweet people at courthouse!

@Steven-hq3go

2 ай бұрын

Unfortunately I don't believe in remarriage after divorce while the other spouse is still alive. Hopefully the Lord is forgiving towards adultery while your husband is alive and repent meanwhile.

Get in touch with your US representative for social security! They have caseworkers for exactly this reason

@Autmazing

4 ай бұрын

Thank you for this idea Marietta. I really appreciate it.

Any property bought during the marriage is marital property, not just his.He's playing you. fill out that paperwork for spousal and child support, don't wait till its too late

As a family law paralegal for more than 30 years I can’t imagine you having so little time to request spousal support. That can’t be right or legal. I’m not familiar with your state laws but most family law attorneys will give you a free or low cost consultation. Please get legal advise from a family law attorney ASAP! Many will take you on as a client and sue your husband for attorney fees for you. Even if you can’t afford an attorney yourself you certainly can’t afford to proceed without some solid legal advise. It’s your future so take action quickly. Best of luck!

@Kwildcat13

4 ай бұрын

Yeah I would think she had longer like at least 90 days

I am basically in the same situation. Only I have heart failure and other major medical issues that happened in 2021. I have proof of 3 different women he is calling and texting daily. I have days left before the judge signs the papers. I am scared of what is going to happen to me. I was a housewife for 20 years so I got turned down for SS disability. I get to stay in the house until March of 2025 with him making the house payment. I still have to pay for everything else. I am on oxygen full time and can not work a full day. I have hope that it will all work out. God Bless you. I am adding you to my prayers too.

@mimi7914

4 ай бұрын

💗

I’m sorry you’re going through this! I’ve been watching your videos for a couple of years and you’re such a fabulous mom!

@Autmazing

4 ай бұрын

Thank you ❤️

I just found your channel Maybe you could talk about this as much as your comfortable, there are so many mums of special kiddos that go through this pain! I feel this video so hard, my husband left us (high needs kids). He took my car and phone when he left and filled bankruptcy after liquidating everything and emptying our account. I can imagine there will be sooooo many people that relate to this, thankyou for speaking on it It is a lonely time and incredibly scary at the start. You are amazing and so strong, beautiful lady. Never stop believing in yourself. All the love from Australia x

GET A LAWYER, GET IN WRITING. I ve never seen or heard of you before. . GET A LAWYER. How do you think 7 people live on $14,000. He makes more money

You know you can fight the Social Security Administration for this! I did- and WON.

@ashleybergstrom8934

4 ай бұрын

??? Can you explain pls.?

Oh Darlin I am so sorry to hear this. Remember you are strong but even when you feel like your not you serve a good God he is a Heavely Father that always provides. You will get through this😊🙏❤️

@Autmazing

4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much. ❤

How does she get a lawyer with no money?

Similar happened to me please find a lawyer straight away, call as many as you can till someone take it on. I left my to long and by the time it went to court he got everything even the house and I was left having to move my child and I into my mother house and having to pay for travel for our child to visit him. He had his new girlfriend move into the house the day I left. They both had it planned for years. He would tell me he was working all these hours but then I found out he was cheating the whole time and taking my money to spend on her. My legal aid lawyer wasn't much help. From now on every conversation with him needs to be by email or text so you can show courts what he saying. Get bank statements and any evidence of his pay to show how much he makes. Make sure lawyer put everything in and leave nothing out. Plus mention that you wanted to seek marriage counselling but he didn't. It show that he walked away . All the best and praying for you xo

@marydfm664

4 ай бұрын

I HOPE SHE READS YOUR COMMENT.

Eh, $400 is nothing. For the guns, as long as you have evidences proving those are gifts (e.g. he gave those to you during holiday or birthday as present/gift), that should be enough to prove those are gifts and not "ours". And if he must go down to that road....he can always get "credit" for those "ours" when you two do the calculation in dividing assets. It just doesn't add up when he works so much but he brings so little. Sorry, I deal with lawyers and part of me just feel like he might be seeing someone else. 14 hours away from home, subtract 1 hours of driving time and 1 hour of lunch time, that's 12 hours of billable hours. He either undercharges his work or is inefficient with his work. Just be mindful of what you post so that you won't leave any room for Paul to come back at you claiming you have ruined his reputation etc. If he wants a divorce quick and wants zero responsibility with the kids, he better pays the right price. :T

@ChampagneandWaffles

4 ай бұрын

Exactly, something is not adding up here! He’s a defense attorney billing 12 hours/day and has no money to support his 5 children? But he conveniently *does* have money to immediately move himself out and pay for his own place with bills, food, etc? No, there is money but he is controlling it and keeping it from his children. @Autmazing immediately download copies of all bank account statements, credit/debit card accounts, CELL PHONE RECORDS, toll tag accounts if your vehicles have those, etc. He is hiding something - an affair, financial infidelity, something - and you need to find out everything and document it. He has obviously been planning this, he didn’t just manage to draw up and serve you divorce papers AND find himself a new place in just over 24 hours while he’s also “working” 14 hours/day.

❤ Lawyer!!! You are a beautiful person. You deserve better! Manipulators have a tendency to take advantage of NDs get some professional legal help. Call every single family lawyer you can find and have the talk with each, or, just send them the link.

@Autmazing

4 ай бұрын

Thanks. I’m going to try to find someone today.

get a lawyer he will screw u over wise up protect urself he thinks the grass is greener let him go he will regret it

I was married for 10 years as well. It will get better a little bit after everything in the divorce is settled.

My heart goes out to you! I love you're videos, I've learned a lot about kids with different support needs than mine. And you're one of the vlogs that actually seems in touch with your kids about when they want to be on camera, how they want to be portrayed, and really respects that. I'm excited to hear you plan on more videos, I'll be sure to watch and engage!

@amandamandamands

4 ай бұрын

Yes I agree, this is the only family channel I watch and that is because Cammie doesn't show meltdowns and respects if the kids want to be on camera or not.

@surreal-wanderer

4 ай бұрын

@@amandamandamands it's so important! So many parents will get so caught up in their identity as an advocate for their autistic child that they don't realize when they start speaking over their child, but it's always been clear how receptive Cammie is to her children's communication in all its forms moment to moment. It's why this and OurLandingcrew are the only family vlogs I watch anymore. You get to see the kids being happy and the rest of the time it's moms talking about life, including the hard stuff, without making a spectacle of their kids difficulties

@Autmazing

4 ай бұрын

Thank you all. ❤️

@sterlingmatsui154

4 ай бұрын

Exactly Same Here~Plus, Watching Every, Single Ad☆☆:)

Divorce is FREEDOM and HAPPINESS!! Congrats 🎉 🍾🙌🏽

I’m so sorry. Divorce is unbelievably hard. Trust me, in time you’ll look back and realize what an amazing person you have become. A circle of friends family and a support group will get you through this. Remember no matter how crappy you feel, get out of bed, fix yourself up and get out of the house. Coffee houses,parks and solo camping will be very therapeutic. Lots of hugs❤ what state are you in. I’m asking because of legal concerns that might help

Get an attorney and have them ask the judge that your husband pay those legal fees since he initiated this.

I'm so sorry you are going through this. 💛

@Autmazing

4 ай бұрын

Thank you ❤️

I’m so sorry Cammie! I hope the best for your family! ❤❤❤

@Autmazing

4 ай бұрын

Thank you ❤️

Get an Attorney!!!!!! You must advocate for yourself and your children! Don’t believe a word he says right now. Advocate for yourself and don’t sign anything without an attorney representing you alone. Please do this.

I was not expecting this and I’m so sorry you and the kids are going through this, Cammie.

Lady take your kids and run!!! Never allow him to come back in your life

@isbjornen7418

4 ай бұрын

That's not very smart. Kids need their dad.

In my 70 years of life if I could offer you one piece of advice as you navigate these new Waters, is to make decisions with your head and not your heart. Sending prayers and strength your way ❤️

This came up on my feed today… I’m so sorry for the deep pain you are experiencing in this season of your life. I too was blindsided with a divorce 8 years ago. It’s going to hurt for awhile, but you will make it to the other side of all your shattered dreams. Praying for you 🙏🏼❤️

You are a strong mommy! I am sorry this is happening to you.