“I’m tired of you still tied to me, too tired to move, too tired to leave” really hits when you’ve been in an abusive relationship like that.

@linksey

10 ай бұрын

Ugh right. You want to leave, but the abuse has totally paralyzed you and you just can’t see the point.

@cngelz

7 ай бұрын

before i knew the origin of the song, i thought that’s what it was about. it reminds me of a relationship i was in, when i was 20.

@ihatemyownsocks

4 ай бұрын

@@cngelzI’m so sorry u went through a relationship like that, sending u love and strength 🤍

dear mother, i’ve never encountered an album or piece of art that has touched me and my life experience so deeply. this record means the absolute world to me. you’ve destroyed the need to be seen by anyone with this album

@yokai_2908

2 жыл бұрын

💜

@Daniel-so5fn

2 жыл бұрын

Damn

@blanky7064

2 жыл бұрын

💗💗

@growing.flowers

Жыл бұрын

Hope i can feel seen that way too

@psalmsesp

Жыл бұрын

what they said!^

"I was too young to notice that some types of love could be bad” really sums up the CSA experience. I listen to this whenever I need a good cry.

@sheEatskids

3 ай бұрын

YOURE SO REAL

With every tear that rolls down my cheek, I'm reminded of how deeply they wanted me to be their son...they can't accept that they have a daughter...

@eline.k1373

2 жыл бұрын

Ur a wonderful girl, i'm sorry they can't see that. I'm proud of u

@missrobinson1212

2 жыл бұрын

i feel u girl

@curtisrunstedler

2 жыл бұрын

I'm proud of you too. You're amazing as you are - always know that. :)

@clivemortimore8203

Жыл бұрын

It is very hard to get to grips with. I had a little boy who followed me everywhere, we were really close. One day "Mum and Dad I am no longer happy with my body". I was very confused for a very long time. She still lives with us and I get very angry about her laziness and untidiness, so her as a person she hasn't changed.

@KURTBLADE

Жыл бұрын

Felt this one, we love you

How can a song be so relaxing and yet so horrific at the same time? The talent of this woman

@lunamoth6

Жыл бұрын

Fr I love the little mmmmmms

@cngelz

7 ай бұрын

MY EXACT THOUGHTS!!

something about the way she sings the word “birthday” haunts my head

@GabrielCain28

2 жыл бұрын

same

@lovespring888

Жыл бұрын

so true

@charlesgoodwin5016

Жыл бұрын

Her southern accent

@ihatemyownsocks

4 ай бұрын

real

@askmewhocandiceis

Ай бұрын

it sounds so childlike, really adds to the disturbing meaning of the song. she's so talented it's insane

I'm a 30 year old woman, and this song unlocks so much pain I've been holding onto. So many tears have been poured by me.

@asmodeus6181

Жыл бұрын

Same, I was just chilling jamming and I heard "little girl who needs her daddy real bad" and I started sobbing so hard my husband thought I was like dying or received horrible news

@Filipomnomnom

Жыл бұрын

This song was the reason why I was put on lexapro last summer. I could not stop listening and crying because it unlocked way too many childhood traumas I repressed.

@GabrielSnyder-yo5zp

Жыл бұрын

I'm a 43 year old man, and this album destroys me ( in that kind of a good way)

@f.l.1257

10 ай бұрын

❤

@f.l.1257

10 ай бұрын

I don't think a song has brought so many feelings forward for me. It's so beautifully sad.💜

former daddy’s girls who can’t seem to stop loving their fathers no matter how hard they try… how we feeling guys

@gh0stpc360

3 ай бұрын

Wrecked, demolished, devastated, weeping, screaming, crying, rotting, deteriorating, absolutely wasting away rn

@LuckyOlivia44

Ай бұрын

Confused

@aidasalazar9702

Ай бұрын

Ripped apart

@notaperson9831

11 күн бұрын

Not great, tbh

I was too young to notice that some types of love could be bad 🥺

"praying I'd be like you, doing all of the things that you do, and i still do and that scares me" breaks my heart everytime

This portrays the persistent ache of CSA and associated CPTSD so incredibly well. Ruminating on the person who caused so much harm, who also stood as a father figure in life and subsequently looking up to them in ways. It's palpable, the hopelessness that is forever being attached to them in those ways.

I can’t stop crying lol.. each “I’m tired of you” hurts more and more dude

@debrajgogoi7326

2 жыл бұрын

This sound ahh cant explain in words

@Mo-sk7xo

2 жыл бұрын

ooh so it aint just me??? Bett

@adaliestoddard4778

2 жыл бұрын

@@debrajgogoi7326 pp

the cicadas and crickets acting as instruments ... your mind!!

do not leave me alone with this album playing

This song is heartbreakingly beautiful. The part where she says “I thought good guys get to be happy” punches me right in the gut. THANK YOU for writing this

@KateKillet

2 жыл бұрын

In my head always

@No-os9qn

Жыл бұрын

“Name one hero who was happy” - The Song of Achilles

“In the corner, on my birthday, you watched me Dancing right there in the grass I was too young to notice That some types of love could be bad” ☹️

“i am poison in the water” best lyric

As someone with an estranged parent, the repetition of "I'm tired of you still tied to me" hits notes in my soul that I didn't know were there. This album is a gift. Thank you Ethel (even though I'm crying now).

4:18 Does anyone else hear her say “please can I sleep tonight?” in the background at the end?

@eighttrigramzz

Жыл бұрын

It’s def there not sure why it’s not included in the lyric.

@jouiboui

11 ай бұрын

Whoa omg I never noticed that until you pointed it out omg :-(

@mxh098

10 ай бұрын

i think it’s “please can i sleep? can i sleeeeeeep?”

@joelc202

3 ай бұрын

It’s my fav part of the song! ❤

@m4rttaaudio

3 ай бұрын

breaks my heart every single time I hear it

When I first heard this song, I was driving. I had to pull over and just sob and sob. I went to work and felt like my heart had been rubbed raw. I love this song so much.

@jamesdavid6985

Жыл бұрын

reading your comment made me choke up. damn. my eyes are welling up with tears.

@growing.flowers

Жыл бұрын

rubbed raw

Hide me there, under the leaves Nine going on eighteen, lay it on me Tell me a story about how it ends Where you're still the good guy, I'll make pretend 'Cause I hate this story Where happiness ends and dies with you (mmh) I thought good guys get to be happy I'm not happy I am poison in the water and unhappy Little girl who needs her daddy real bad (real bad) In the corner, on my birthday, you watched me Dancing right there in the grass I was too young to notice That some types of love could be bad Praying I'd be like you Doing all of the things that you do And I still do And that scares me I'm tired of you still tied to me (Bleeding whenever you want) Too tired to move, too tired to leave I'm tired of you still tied to me (It's just the way that you are) I'm tired of you, too tired to leave I'm tired of you still tied to me Too tired to move, too tired to leave I'm tired of you still tied to me I'm tired of you, too tired to leave I'm tired of you still tied to me Too tired to move, too tired to leave

When my 35 yr old extremely jaded self needs to feel something, I come here, listen, and read these heartfelt comments

This song perfectly embodies what is feels like to have an old wound that never healed correctly.

I just wanna sleep

Ethel Cain, you're the only new artist I even care about right now Knowing a little about your background, what you've been through, you lay your soul on the table for everyone to see And you have a beautiful soul ❤️ Please, continue to do what you do I read the comments and it's plain to see that you're helping soo many people make it another fkn day Heh, like it or not, you're doing the good work Jesus Christ wants you to do by letting them know....it's OK to be hurt, to have an unpleasant history, that you can rise above it and be strong in spite of (or because of?) it all May God continue to bless you and keep you under His wings 🖤

@pineapplecircus

2 жыл бұрын

If it's "God" you believe is driving this artist I'd say it's lots of talent and refusing to give up. It's time we all look up from our phones and at each other. Humans helping other humans is what she's doing, showing her pain to the world. That bravery is what we're responding to. Pay it forward.

I can’t believe I’m just discovering Ethel. What a powerful soul she has.

Remembering some really terrible childhood trauma that I had repressed. I’m so sad I can relate to this song.

@ilincasirbu627

Жыл бұрын

Same

@ginayoung130

Жыл бұрын

Same. Lots of trauma being processed and released. These songs are everything to me.

@mariacoryes1295

Жыл бұрын

Same

@nikaialang5756

11 ай бұрын

you’re not alone. i am so proud of you and you are so strong. i mean that even though i don’t know you i know you are strong!

Girlie got me crying over trauma I don't even have-

Too tired to move, too tired to leave (I just wanna sleep) I was assaulted in this exact way a few years ago in Louisiana. Telling a coworker who took me home after a New Year's party that I just wanted to sleep after refusing his requests. He allowed me and then went back on his word minutes later. I was so tired after drinking. I asked him so many times to stop and let me sleep but he told me he knows I want it and held me down. I was too weak mentally and physically to continue to fight against his grip. He was bigger and stronger than me. Kept pulling me back onto him when I left his grip. Since I didn't get to sleep that night, I haven't slept since. So much pain and desire is shared in this song. The visual, the creek reminds of those years I lived the remainder of my teens in the small town south of Louisiana. I feel so much in the South, nothing will come close it. The good, the bad, but very alive.

@novanebula8004

14 сағат бұрын

I'm sorry you went through that I hope you can eventually find a way to rest and be shown real love in your life

if a song could perfectly encompass all the feelings of shame, sadness and inadequacy i felt while growing up, this would be it.

Never has a song ever hurt me this bad. It's so beautifully and painfully written. I experience being abused for over a decade and in the aftermath i don't know how to feel about this person. It's an emotional rollercoaster and everyday i approach my feelings towards them differently. The times where i was supposed to be innocent and enjoy my time as a child was spent in fear and discomfort when all i wanted was to be loved and cared for like a normal child. This song is healing. This song is helping me understand i actually went through a traumatic experience and has the right words to explain it all. I am so thankful i discovered this artist, I cant wait for their future projects and to give my support to someone with so much passion for what they create. Thank you Mother Cain

Listening to this at 3am, numb and depersonalised with tears running down both cheeks, the big black dog weighing down on my back whilst I sit wishing I had hit the liqueur store before it closed. It's songs like this that help me feel something anything, your tortured expression has tapped into a wellspring of pain and despair within me allowing a little bit to flow out, and now I can sleep. Thank you from the bottom of my concrete heart!

This song is deeply personal to me. Down to the details of the story. I never thought I would be represented, that my pain would be seen and described for the world to see. It hurts and makes me cry every time, but I wouldn't have it any other way.

this song is purifying i cant explain it

@annmarie_

2 жыл бұрын

That's such a great word choice. It's as if it frees and releases everything held within... Leaving your soul purified.

@madsringswaldegan1058

Жыл бұрын

yeah. it’s telling the story the child didn’t get to tell, in a comforting way that sounds like a lullaby, trying to make the horrifying experience a little less painful to talk about

@growing.flowers

Жыл бұрын

purifying

this album was released on my birthday. i had just turned 22 and got diagnosed with a heart condition. one of the loneliest and hardest times of my life. fast forward now, i'm living again and not just surviving. in a way this album was like a gift to me. im also seeing ethel soon ❤️ this song still hurts though :')

My ears hear the Book of Ecclesiastes reverberating in your heart. Your talent truly is a blessing for ragamuffins wandering in the wilderness.

@brijmsn

8 ай бұрын

Old testament? Ugh we don't get down with that.

@paulk8072

6 ай бұрын

Old Testament is the Word of God before Christ and completely relevant to the New Testament, such as many allusions in prophecies of His coming, the 10 commandments etc.

@brijmsn

6 ай бұрын

@@paulk8072 Old testament is Satan masquerading as god.

this is my favorite song on the album i think. so heartbreaking

Hide me there Under the leaves 9 going on 18 Lay it on me Tell me a story About how it ends Where you're still the good guy I'll make pretend Cause I hate this story Where happiness ends And dies with you I thought good guys get to be happy I'm not happy I am poison in the water and unhappy Little girl who needs her daddy real bad In the corner On my birthday You watched me Dancing right there in the grass I was too young To notice That some types of love could be bad Praying I'd be like you Doing all of the things that you do And I still do And that scares me I'm tired of you, still tied to me (Bleeding whenever you want) Too tired to move, too tired to leave I'm tired of you, still tied to me (It's just the way that you are) I'm tired of you, too tired to leave (I just wanna sleep) I'm tired of you, still tied to me (I just wanna sleep) Too tired to move, too tired to leave (I just wanna sleep) I'm tired of you, still tied to me (Please, can I sleep, can I sleep?) I'm tired of you, too tired to leave I'm tired of you, still tied to me Too tired to move, too tired to leave

I thought good guys get to be happy I'm not happy I am poison in the water and unhappy. I felt that.

@corvoattano44

Жыл бұрын

I feel that a lot too. Empty and vacuous, sapping up energy

Ethel touches something so close and so personal to me. It drags up old and muted memories that have always been there but buried and locked away.

One of my best friends passed away from cancer 1 year ago next month I don't think I'll ever stop missing him but like many others discovering Ethel's music is helping me through these emotions Through grief is how I choose to interpret my feelings from this song,even though it's about something completely different

Her music makes me feel like I'm not alone

the urge to meet and befriend ethel 😵‍💫 this is so beautiful

Being raised Catholic, but getting deeper into its enthrall when my parents’ divorce, during a time I was learning to understand my own sexuality, and what it means to be different and alone, religion supplanted itself next to csa trauma from religious leaders and family ( holy that was a long sentence ). this album broke me to my core… lamenting on trauma has always bred more bad routes, often objectifying myself. even though, I abandoned religion, I feel it’s often an only hope in the end. praying whenever there’s something bad, from a religion that claims im an abomination, telling a god id change. every song, I wept from Cain. she expresses the feeling of hopeless calling. being told we are valued, but not all of us are. i wasn’t made this way to be punished. “im not happy; god loves you but not enough to save you; im poison in the water.” the chords these lyrics attack in me, it’s just a river. im insanely glad Ethel has allowed me to release this built up tension and further understand these crosses on my body. sorry for the long comment but she makes me feel pretty vulnerable 😅

That bass drop...ugh so good

@saminess2

2 жыл бұрын

....? Lmao what bass drop? Is this a joke or....?

@javj9476

2 жыл бұрын

@@saminess2 I thought good guys get to be (BASS) happy

@clarkingtonatortron

4 ай бұрын

my heart sinks at that moment every time

@jrdelrey3009

3 ай бұрын

in the corner (drop) on my birthday

The mulltiple meaning of the word "tired"... simply poetic

Curled up while my sobs make puddles on the floor while some part of me rejoices at the sheer majestic brilliance of this artist. Gasp. Bravo!

you always pick the most natural feeling visuals :’)

this song makes me think of my daughter so much, i think they would get along so much

My dad was sick and the medicine made him psychotic then he died when I was four this song always makes me think of him and what I wish I could say to him now that I’m 22

“I'm tired of you still tied to me Too tired to move, too tired to leave I'm tired of you still tied to me I'm tired of you, too tired to leave” this part makes me think of my abusive parent who I had to stop talking to for my sanity almost 8 years ago. One of the hardest choices to make

@littlelamb9709

Жыл бұрын

you're so strong, you got this💗

@vinsoriano493

Жыл бұрын

Thank you. I feel weak a lot of times but I think of everything I’ve gone through and I feel strong knowing I’m still here.

i’ve been feeling like the way this song sounds for a really long time and just you saying how you’re supposed to be happy even though you’re not feels really validating

I'm honestly still processing this one ... Hit me in ways I wasn't expecting. Grateful and amazed.

this song opened wounds i thought i healed already but also helped me heal more than ever. this song changed me forever i love you ethel

This is so honest and perfect .. I love how the guitar is out of tune even. Her drone has filled the Slowdive slot for an old man. It's better. This video reminds me of that Waterhouse painting of the nymphs in the water.

This song is like a sad lullaby

I wasn't abused by anyone when I was young. But I'm about, in a day or two, to call my father and tell him I don't want to talk to him anymore. Lastly, he was more and more tyrannic, irresponsible and being horrible with my mother, his ex-wife, and my little sister. And the more he was revealing his true face, the more I felt devastated. My father was the only adult on which I could rely on as a child, being a real "daddy's girl" (my mother was horribly toxic with me, because of traumas she couldn't handle, which I understood as a grown-up but couldn't as a child). My father was my hero, my protector, the one who seemed to truly and purely understand me. But years proved me I was wrong and that it was all on the surface : the last time we talked, he showed me how bad he knows me, not being able to see his faults or to truly say sorry. This may not be as much as certain people but it still hurts a lot. This song helps me to cry and might be the one which will help me to go through this. Thanks Ethel, you're pure beauty and healing ❤️

this is one of the best song I ever heard in my entire life...

Most heartbreaking song of 2022 imo

@skylarjune1635

2 жыл бұрын

Tbh one of the most heartbreaking songs I’ve ever heard

if life was fair ethel would be showered in grammys left and right, seriously am in tears, this is so good !!!!!

i’m a 25 year old man and this is legit one of the most beautiful yet haunting songs i’ve ever heard. her performance on this track is beyond phenomenal

Far from a one trick pony, the variety of the songs are deeply grounded in a style that I love.

honestly this album, I haven't felt like there was such a raw generational talent behind it since cobain and nevermind, never thought I'd experience that feeling again, especially at my age

you give me hope that individuality still exists beautifully

This hit me in the mommy AND the daddy issues. (In the best way) Ethel your music is so cleansing to my soul. I truly want to bathe in it. ❤

its unbelievable how much every line of this song explains my relationship with my dad. it completely blew me away

You changed my life mother. I found your song in a instagram reel one day. One hit and I just got addicted. I needed more of the Cain you know. So I listened to preachers daughter and this song had me levitating over the canopy and I live in New Jersey so there was no canopy. That’s how good you got me. I told everybody to stream I made my mom and my dad stream. I just want you to know that you found a way to say something I couldn’t really say sometimes. Your songs to me are the words on the tip of my tongue that I just can’t seem to say. But since I found you and your music I have that power again. This album and the eps give me such an essence of peace in insanity and it helps me process every little step of my life I come across now. I just want you to know you made a difference in my life.

I'm at the park sitting on a bench, looking up at the overcast skies through the tree branches, I'm really high, listening to this song

One of the only songs that have ever made me cry. :(

Mother, this song paved the last generation of songs I wrote, I can finally write down about the darkest sides of my life in the rawest way possible and with the most gut wrecking words ever, all thanks to this song. Thank you, no piece of art has ever touched me so deeply

My favorite song from the album !!

the way this song is so therapeutic needs to be studied !!! GENIUS !!

this album is life changing for me. breaks me apart and puts me together everytime i listen. your music means the world to me. thank you thank you thank you for everything forever💗

I’m in bed crying my heart out, yet trying so hard to not make a sound.

If David Lynch reboots “Twin Peaks” or any film? We found his soundtrack! Beautiful song I grew up in the Bible Belt of North Alabama the video esthetics remind me of Red Bank Creek and the train bridge we jumped off of playing chicken with freight trains. FYI I moved to Hollywood, CA when I turned 18 never looked back. #musicislife 💔❤️‍🩹❤️

@ifimustdieiwillencounterda821

2 жыл бұрын

There’s so much subtle undertones of nostalgia in your melodies. ‘No story is a straight line. The geometry of a human life is too imperfect and complex.’ “Hard Times” is pure joy & pure sadness captured perfectly. Never stop writing

@rcgray2278

2 жыл бұрын

Grew up in North Alabama, too, and I also moved to LA for almost a decade. Had a similar first thought when I saw this, that it looked like Indian Creek.

@ipreferlonelinessincorporated

2 жыл бұрын

@@rcgray2278 Did you grow up near Decatur?

This album has been my saving grace. I feel so safe with it.

as a closeted trans girl i do feel courage through your art

mother i love you so much how tf can you write a song about my life like this omg

I'm currently a waterworks right now. I'm beyond grateful to have found you and your music. Although this is the first of many that I will listen to. I can only imagine what your other songs will bring out of me.

This is such an emotional melody and vibe

I remember listening to this for the first time when it was released such a beautiful song im crying

Holy crap this song never fails to make me cry thank you Ethel for such a stunning song! I can relate too much to this as I realized the one person I loved dearly no matter how much he hurt me mentally and was the cause of me getting bullied in school,also hurt me this way.. If anyone's reading this comment please know you're not alone!!!!

this song brings a feeling in me like no other i love it omg, anyone thats been in a toxic relationship gets it

@espresso_beans

5 ай бұрын

babes that's not what the song is about...

@lordbrainsick

5 ай бұрын

@@espresso_beans i know whats its actually about babes. the “tired” feeling of being tied to someone can resonate with a lot of trauma survivors. regardless what the situation was. i appreciate the song immensely for shining a light on a heavy subject.

this stays on repeat during hating my father time

This song leaves you teary eyed, especially when you relate to the lyrics. And it's really hard for me not to! There's a flashback of memories, whatever I've gone through.

This song and Ethel Cain is deep therapy. So beautifully sad 💜 Thank you Mother🙏🏼💜

I'm crying so hard. I can't describe how much this means to me...

I listen to this song on repeat when I’m sleeping. The crickets at the beginning and the vocals are so beautiful and relaxing. My favorite song of yours.

your visuals are so nostalgic and familiar especially american teenager all your visuals are places ive been(ive been places similar) and even some of your lyrics i relate to keep going on this path you'll be famous

It is impossible to describe this album or describe the emotions it feels. All the notes, the magical tones created by the voice and instrument plays in the melody transitions.. I am in a confusion of emotions. I'm 25 years old and all the songs on this album took me back to all my experiences and memoir collections. Dear Ethel, I am happy to have discovered an inspiration like you. Lots of love and hugs! Do not deprive us of your new works.

My mom gave me cptsd, she was physically abusive of my father and emotionally abusive to me and my brother, caused so many issues and now im struggling because of the amount of anxiety i have, i stopped talking to her in 2020 and she keeps finding ways to get to me online and it just sends me into a depression each time. I have nightmares. Im tired of her still tied to me.

AAAAA I LOVE THSI SO MUCHHH THIS SONG 😭😭😭💔💔💔

Beautiful, one of the best song of all time, period.

This has me in floods of tears. What a song 😭❤

Having grown up playing in rivers like this one, trying to figure out how to make it out in the world, this song hits home about leaving people better left in the past behind.

i cry every time listening to this

whenever i listen to this song, i can't help but bawl my eyes out

the river.. where I grew up.. this feeling.. ethel you're art is so inspiring!!

nothing will ever mean as much to me as thing song. thank you hayden.

This is simply beautiful... the emotions it unlocks and allows to pour outta me.. I will be forever greatful for this. 💜🙏💜