Habits: How to be successful every day | Dan Ariely, Gretchen Rubin & more | Big Think
Habits: How to be successful every day
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Habits, both good and bad, are pre-made decisions that makeup around 40 percent of our day and require no real conscious thought. In order to regain control, resist environmental temptations, and reduce your bad habits, it helps to understand the three parts of a habit loop: the cue (or trigger), the behavior itself, and the reward.
Gretchen Rubin, Dan Ariely, Charles Duhigg, Adam Alter, and others explain how you can successfully hack your habits by shifting away from goal-based achievement markers to system-based processes; learning the difference between rewards and treats; and thinking less about immediate gains and more about long-term benefits.
Regardless of what some people might try to sell you, there is no "magic answer" when it comes to changing habits, says Rubin. You have to find what works best for you.
Read Gretchen Rubin's latest book "Outer Order, Inner Calm: Declutter and Organize to Make More Room for Happiness" at amzn.to/3rrMNlz
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TRANSCRIPT:
GRETCHEN RUBIN: The key thing about a habit really comes down to decision-making because sometimes people think about it's something that you do repeatedly, or you know, it unfolds over time. But really the key thing about a habit is that you're not making a decision. You're not deciding whether to brush your teeth. You're not deciding whether to use a seatbelt. You're not deciding whether to go to the gym first thing in the morning. You've already decided, and the advantage of a habit is that once something's on automatic pilot, then the brain doesn't have to use any energy, or willpower to make a decision. You've already made that decision. You're just moving forward. And so, it happens easily without any thought, without any willpower, without any effort. You're just on cruise control, and then you can do what you wanna get done. Habit is like the invisible architecture of everyday life. Research shows that something like 40% of what we do every day we do in pretty much the same way and in the same context. So it's easy to see that if you have habits that work for you, you're much more likely to be happier, healthy, and more productive. If you have habits that don't work for you, it's really gonna drag you down, because such a big part of our days is taken up by habits.
CHARLES DUHIGG: And this gets to the way that habits work, which is that there's this thing called the habit loop. There's three parts to it. There's first a cue, which is a trigger for a behavior, and then the behavior itself, which we usually refer to as a routine, or scientists refer to as routine, and then there's the reward, and the reward is actually why the habit happens in the first place. It's how your brain sort of decides should I remember this pattern for the future or not? And the cue and the reward become neurologically intertwined until a sense of craving emerges that drives your behavior. And this actually explains so much of our lives, and not only our lives, but also how companies function.
DAN ARIELY: So what happened is that the world around us is designed to tempt us. You know, one of the principles from behavioral economics is choice architecture, the idea that we, when we are placed in an environment, we make decisions as a function of the environment we're in. Think about the environment that we're in. What is it about? Is it about our long-term health? Or is it about the short-term profits of that environment? You walk down the street, there's a coffee shop. What does this coffee shop want? They want you to be healthy in 30 years from now, or do you want them to, they, do they want you to buy another coffee right now? Dunkin' Donuts, what is their optimization function? Are they trying to get you to be healthy in 20 years, or to buy another donut now? Your cell phone, what is it trying to do, to get you to be a productive citizen in two years, or to check your phone a couple of more times today? So what happened is that we are in an environment that tempts us all the time. These temptations are only increasing, and because of that, we fail.
RUBIN: One of the mysteries of habits is why do we persist in having bad habits when we know they're not good for us, when they know they don't make us happy? But you know, there's usually multiple things going. Maybe it's what you want right this minute versus what you want on the long-term. Or maybe you want two things that are in conflict.
JULIA GALEF: One example of rationality in action, just to give you a sense of what it looks like, and how it's relevant, back in...
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What's your method for breaking a bad habit?
@idaloup6721
3 жыл бұрын
My method is a spiritual one. What I mean by that is that my brain alone which is influenced by all what this society offers can't take the good decision because It is too much drowned by the collective consciousness. Therefore meditating is the key to reach the soul, this true energy inside me that knows everything about what is for my highest good. I spent three years scrolling Instagram and a morning after a meditation I quit It without any regret and I feel better. The same for cigarettes. I stopped in a snap of a finger. The better decisions we take are those which are executed in a snap of a finger because the intuition is the key. Happy new year from France
@kashyapkhandelwal7687
3 жыл бұрын
@@idaloup6721 Très bien madame! More power to you.
@coreyomarismith9652
3 жыл бұрын
spotting Nephilims
@howardsmith9417
3 жыл бұрын
Bad habits lead to bad results. I ride the habit to its eventual result. I hurt, I learn. I guess I hit bottom and push off for the surface again. I wish i had more control over my self. I would seem to be a slave of temptation.
@DJWESG1
3 жыл бұрын
Define "bad habit"
I've got a bad habit of watching videos on how to break bad habits.
@anis909
3 жыл бұрын
Is it really a bad habit if watching those videos are reshaping your way of thinking which will in turn improve your quality of life and the choices you make in other aspects of your life?
@crazyprayingmantis5596
3 жыл бұрын
@dread true I'm not American either
@crazyprayingmantis5596
3 жыл бұрын
@@user-nu1vn3yy9s Buy Bitcoin, thank me in 5yrs 👍
@crazyprayingmantis5596
3 жыл бұрын
@@anis909 Bad habits are bad habits. By the way, my comment was a joke, sarcasm
@dadikkedude
3 жыл бұрын
@@user-nu1vn3yy9s You actually think this is self-help? This is about economics and how to get your people to be more productive in a work envoirment. These corporate types are living in this world view. Want to help yourself, get some real help. Not this garbage.
Happy new year everyone
@richawagle6437
3 жыл бұрын
Happy new year to u too!!
@rdrohilla6778
3 жыл бұрын
Same to you
@00954106
3 жыл бұрын
Happy new year. :)
@Majzs
3 жыл бұрын
Same to you mate!
Habits are the little steps that bring you closer to your goals, every single day.
@abelsoo5465
2 жыл бұрын
What about bad habits?
@amlacademy1426
2 жыл бұрын
@@abelsoo5465 the exact opposite of what he said
@Novastar.SaberCombat
Жыл бұрын
But unfortunately, one can rarely change CIRCUMSTANCES. In other words, if you're already invisible, poor, homeless, and you have no friends nor connections... it's already "over". 💪😎✌️ No amount of excellent habits will change that, ever. Only LUCK could do that, and 99% of people in terrible circumstances cannot change that. It is what it is. 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
@vaibjsjd
11 ай бұрын
@@Novastar.SaberCombat fortune favours the brave if you are poor and homeless you can always think how to get out of this ? And once you got the answer don't waste anymore time to act and reflect on your progress the problem with most of the people is they get so cozy and comfortable with their current situations even negative ones too, So that they don't want to change by being lazy and procrastinative yes you need contacts and relationship's to grow successful in your life but before that you need to develop skills and confidence to find opportunities to connect with such people unfortunately those who complained and whine would never make efforts to develop such skills and thus no confidence to create value to the market end up getting hopelessly homeless and poor . To seize opportunities one must be flexible to take your decisions while you select your goal as a target and build system to grab the opportunity when it arrived. Unfortunately most of the people don't wanna go through this difficult process to be successful in life thus end up getting in poverty when they accept their reality as it is such a depressive mindset though.🥱
They focus on being productive rather than being busy. ... They wake up early. ... They focus on being with the best team. ... They focus on making small and continuous improvements. ... They meditate. ... They take care of their bodies. ... They have balanced lives
@leonelantonio6512
3 жыл бұрын
100% agree
@enoobis
3 жыл бұрын
@@leonelantonio6512 I also
@Novastar.SaberCombat
Жыл бұрын
They have coin, connections, clout, computer code, control, communities, and opportunities. Unfortunately, most people don't, and they have no possible ways to achieve these things. That's why only a TINY fraction of individuals are truly successful, and those who remain will continue to be *slaves*. 💪😎✌️ Bottom line is: if you ain't rich, yer NOTHIN'. 😂
The 1% who's reading this may all your dreams come true. This 2021
@Hrishikesh_Salvekar
3 жыл бұрын
:) Same to you!
@sweetysingh3212
3 жыл бұрын
Same to you and thank you 😊
@Messi10947
2 жыл бұрын
All your dreams will never come true. You wishing something is not going to change someone's life. Stop this bullshit
@potto1488
2 жыл бұрын
@@Messi10947 no need to be pessimistic, guy was just being supporting
@QueenDelaraDNA
2 жыл бұрын
@@Messi10947 it is, if you work on it ✨❣️
This kind of topics should be in education curriculums.
Wonderful addition to my knowledge on habits. I so love this video. Also, I would have wished James Clear was on the list of contributors, it would have been more packed. However, these guys did great. I didn't know Gretchen was big on habits before this morning I read her quote on Ann Handley's Everybody Writes, then saw her here on this video.
Thank you for another informative & useful piece!
This video is perfect for me. Very Useful for everyday life.
Gretchen is the best! I love all her books!
This compilation is gold.
This is a pearl! 7:30 - 8:10 or so hit me hard. I will take care of those important advices. Those should be tought in school to help EVERY young ones and preventing problems like procrastination and losing faith about the future (because, You know, "success" and "mastery" usually are achieved after a long time of hard work [that's one of the reasons of why some people quit going to gym or similar: after 1 week they do not see a result, then they lose the *ispiration* and quit, quitting also the _principle_ behind {because they had never believed in}.])
@vincentduhamel7037
Жыл бұрын
Yes, great video and that bit was great too. I'll look into Adam Alter's stuff on systems.
@chasermgijimi5996
Жыл бұрын
He also caught me.. very powerful what he said and often time we unconsciously do that but being conscious bout it helps a lot
@vaibjsjd
11 ай бұрын
They quit because quitting is an art too and they get pretty much skillful in it impatient people can't do much for them 😂🤣
LOVE THIS VIDEO! INSPIRED ME SO MUCH. THANK YOU
The video format is overwhelming. Lots of useful information but with no breaks for us to internalize. Overall great principles for dealing with our life.
@shashankke250
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly Overload of information. Had to pause just to absorb it.
"I owe my success to having listened respectfully to the very best advice, and then going away and doing the exact opposite." -G.K.Chesterton "All progress takes place outside the comfort zone." -Michael John Bobak Hi guys! Let me just share to you a short story. We own a cookie shop business in our college town. When we first started it, we just graduated college and were living in our car with very little direction, just a huge passion to be successful. I started it out of a local bagel shop in their off hours at night with my boyfriend, Bran. It was a crazy experience but it worked! We became a success! And how we have our first storefront location (a second one currently under construction but launching soon!) We started it to fund a year long backpacking trip around the world and to be successful while living the life of our dreams.
@SaiKiran-gx3hq
2 жыл бұрын
All the best! Hope u achieve what u aspire.
@sebastianmartin8665
2 жыл бұрын
This brings me joy. Viva la vida
@paleolithic6671
Жыл бұрын
You should add muffins to your store product offering - with one of the owner’s named Bran, it really is begging for you guys to have Bran (‘s) muffins….🤣🤣😂…all kidding aside, wishing you much continued success!
Well timed lol
I can't overstate how much this youtube channel has been helping me out lately.
Totally agree with the negatives of goal setting. Absolutely right!! Stick with your system and do not focus on achieving goals.
came at the right time, thank you
I think the biggest influence on your own habits are the habits of the people you spend the most time with. And also their understanding of the influence of habits on their own lives. Be very careful about who you spend time with. VERY careful. And be ruthless in cutting out those who have a negative effect in your life. Some have no interest in changing their habits or understand why others would want to change theirs. It is very hard to convince another of the value of your own habits as only you have access to the 'architecture' within your own life. So that can relate to your age, physical attributes, financial status, employment security, geographical location, and many other aspects besides. No one except you can see this overall picture. 'The man who mixes with other people a good deal either for talk or for a wine-party or generally for social purposes, must needs either grow like them himself or convert them to his likeness; for if you put a quenched coal by one that is burning, either it will put the burning 'one out, or will catch fire from it. As the risk then is so serious, you must be cautious in indulging lightly in the society of the untrained, for it is impossible to rub up against one who is covered with soot and not get sooty oneself.' Epictetus
I wouldn't break the habit but I find a way to survive and live the habit in a good healthy way !!!
This was quite useful. Thank you 😊
Changing your mindset may give you a 'quick' win but changing your HABITS is what will give you results that STICK 🙏🏽
@Novastar.SaberCombat
Жыл бұрын
Unfortunately, changing one's *circumstances* is nearly impossible. If a person is in a terrible position, they're pretty much going to remain there until they die. 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
Thanks for the video Big Think it really changes the way I think about myself 🙏🏻 !
Excelentes sus cápsulas, desde México les mandó saludos, los felicito por las aportaciones de sus estudios a la gente y al mundo, nunca cambien con esos hábitos de aportar pensamientos a la humanidad, gracias.
Thank you
You totally had me until you said 5 minutes to surf the web. What on earth could be found in 5 minutes? It may take 5 minutes to find the thing that takes 20 minutes to watch. This video was longer than 5 minutes.😂 I’ll take the 45 minutes to the hour. That being said, systems over goals is great advice.
@kasondaleigh
Жыл бұрын
Exactly!
Happy new year
This is fantastic
Hope you successfully follow your new year resolution after watching this video
So I've cultivated a few of these "good systems" that they talk about in this video. I don't have any clear goals for myself so I don't particularly get upset if I don't hit a benchmark. However, everyday I study a bit of Spanish, I do a bit of drawing, and I do a bit of creative writing. Small little productive things that I do every day. It doesn't matter how tired I am at the end of the day, I always do at least a little bit of these things because I just have to. They're reinforced in my brain now to do them or else I will feel bad that I missed a day. And hey, you know what? I'm not in any better of a position than I was. I'm not any more of a positive person. I still loathe my existence. I'm still going nowhere fast. I have not developed a mindset to help me succeed. Some people are just broken. It's survivor bias to claim that everyone who tries to get better will. Some people just don't get better.
@RichardWilliamDamien
2 жыл бұрын
Omg. I was wandering what is Blackpill and here it is!
@maryamasomewhathuman.7870
2 жыл бұрын
Is there nothing you want to achieve at all? If not than you can make big or small goals to achieve. It's good to focus on the system but you should also have a reason. The things you are doing such as writing; why are you doing it? Is it going to get you somewhere? Do you like doing it? In my opinion the habits should also be reasonable.
@saloni.sharma
2 жыл бұрын
see a therapist or find a purpose. it's not always the things you do but also why you do them... "some people just don't get better" is an unhealthy myth and i used to believe in it too. turned out i had depressive disorder and anxiety and so i had no purpose in my life. i never enjoyed doing things. all i 'm saying id that it's possible to get better when you know what better looks like.
@Novastar.SaberCombat
Жыл бұрын
@Cabello Corto... you NAILED it. No matter how hard nor how often a person works, the only things that matter are coin, connections, clout, control, computer code, communities, and opportunities. Luck also factors in as well, but not nearly as much as wealth and workforces! 💪😎✌️ Those who lack these things cannot get them. And the amount of work they do is unlikely to change their situations, but the successful people like to PURPORT that "everyone can do it", lol. Unfortunately, THEY CAN'T. Only a small portion of people can be successful. Otherwise, NO ONE could be. A rich mogul needs slaves. Musk, Bezoz, Branson, Zuck, Chump, Puton, Jong-un, Alex Jones, Theranos chick, and plenty more need GRUNTS. And that's why 99% of the population are just that. Slaves! It's important to know which of the two you are. Slave or master. Pro tip: if you're reading this, you're most likely a slave.
KZread recommended me this video so that I can change my habit of scrolling videos
great video wow
SPOT ON ! .. i really really like this new Fugueform u r using .. my foot is tapping with the algo/rhythm
This is very powerful I work well with systems
I can never explain to people why I hate goals. I also often say "I love a good system". I think I need to read "Irresistible"... Because, confirmation bias 😀.
You have to get rid of the things that are preventing you from breaking these bad habits. For me it was religion I was hooked on The Catholic Church and being addicted to attending Mass everyday and any class that was happening at the Catholic Church. This religion was causing me to spiral down into a deep depression, I thought how can this be religion supposed to make you feel good. For years I tried to break away from it until finally I managed to break free in January this year, it’s been almost a year now and I have never looked back, my humour which was a great quality of my personality returned, I started feeling happy again and calm, and now I have got back into doing the things I have always loved like Psychology long walks on the beach and doing laps in the pool. I loved hiking once maybe I can do that again next winter. Life is sensational without religion. 🌟
@Novastar.SaberCombat
Жыл бұрын
Religion is one of the biggest, long-term viruses which has plagued humanity for centuries. All of them should be abolished, and studies in science, logic, compassion, empathy, and astronomy should be enforced instead. 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
I have a bad habit of watching videos like this on youtube....
Thanks
@bigthink
Жыл бұрын
Much appreciated! Would love to send you a thank-you gift and get your feedback if you're interested--we have a google form at forms.gle/BB91e6QWjFjZUvKq8 .
My goal in 2022 is to follow a system
great video highly recommend watching
@franzweiss9777
3 жыл бұрын
read books this is bs
Useful vidio
@franzweiss9777
3 жыл бұрын
no
@prangonprangon5793
3 жыл бұрын
So, what can i do?
But... I don’t always decide whether or not to brush my teeth... sometimes I forget... I’m Really bad with habits.
My idea of success is pizza for dinner while drinking a beer.
@devynlewis8167
3 жыл бұрын
It's tough to argue that that's not success if it makes you happy
@leonlee8524
3 жыл бұрын
If your idea of success works for you, then it works for you. Sometimes mines pizza and French fries. Other times its finishing writing a song. Sometimes it's lamenting existence and crying into a bowl of Seasame Chicken whilst drowning in the myriad of unanswerable tragedies of life. Other times it's that only I think "who needs an answer to living when you've got Chinese food? Thats good enough for me. " 🤷♂️
The answer is yes, WITHOUT A SHADOW OF A DOUBT YES!!!;)
7:30 Goals vs system
What are some healthy treats?
I just wanna break from the Ads.
I am really digging Latin Sylvester Stallone. His points are almost as good as his hair. Yes, I'm jealous.
@Adaginy
3 жыл бұрын
Do you mean Dan Ariely? His background is Israeli, not Latin. :)
This channel is one of my habits. Auto pilot on the click button.
what is the end state we are all seeking to attain?
Usually what we so call good habits are not addictive (no fun) meaning no dopamine related. I'm pretty sure these guys are also on auto pilot most of times.
Link of full transcript in description is not working
Is it normal watching this videos bc i feel like im not acheiving much? though i feel like the others are like much more productive than me and they dont even need to watch this to be it :(
I just want to know why no teach this in school.
It’s called Sunk Cost Fallacy not Commitment Effect.
What about the habit of telling people what is good for a living and then not doing it in your own life! My brother is a doctor and he smokes! How does that get reconciled?!
Funny to have this pop into the feed after the silly big think episode trying to convince people that they have no free will.
@adivp7
2 жыл бұрын
In a universal sense, you don't. Your circumstances have shaped your personality and thinking far beyond what you could through your own free will. In a practical sense, people like us have been given some means to bring change in ourselves and environment, if we adopt a growth mindset towards ourselves. Bear in mind, that this is only possible because our circumstances permit it.
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habits TIRE ME OUT
Unfortunately, poverty and being powerless to change one's situation aren't "habits". These are circumstances of one's destiny. From my experience and observations, 99% of people who are in truly terrible situations will *NEVER* escape them. Never. It's sort of like once you're too deep underwater; if you've sunk that far down, there's simply no getting back to the surface, ever. If you were meant to drown, then *acceptance* is the best mental state one can have. Recognizing that you'll always be a slave is important when it's 99% guaranteed. It's best not to hold onto silly illusions plaguing an already janky existence! 💪😎✌️
9:10
an extra-ordinary mix of schematic gobbledygook
Do I get a treat for watching this video? lol
Maybe Heisenberg knows the answer? idk
I can't
Easy stop worrying about failing
Magic mushrooms helped me change my bad habits, just saying.
@trippysk8er723
2 жыл бұрын
On 2 tabs now lol
Why drag Dunkin Donuts like that lol
Most of this seems to have nothing to do with habits
The self-help area is so poisonous full of money makers, so called specialists and systems to follow. Guys just take action ahead of time, do what you love and work hard it's as simple as that.
@077di6
3 жыл бұрын
The real reason behind it is control, To make you think you have a free will, and not to rebel, read my comment above. working hard is not enough.
@seanpi
3 жыл бұрын
@@077di6 you've been misled, come out of it.
@077di6
3 жыл бұрын
@@seanpi I'm working 10 years now nothing happned, and now on top of that we got the pandemic that ruined a lot of people lifes, no one talking about it here, where is their free will now? in the garbage, you are here writing to others like you are somthing, probably you don't even have a job live in your parents house, all day long writing nonsence comments in YT , like you are an expert of achiving goals.
@seanpi
3 жыл бұрын
@@077di6 you've been duped-wake up. Everyone is an expert in their own lives if they would follow their intuition and not self-help, gurus.
What is the purpose of having multiple speakers, jumping from one to another? It is very distracting, keeping us from concentrating and prevents deep understanding. The speakers may have a great deal of wisdom, but we can not really learn. I guess this is self - help psychology designed for a attention deficient world.
Examples of good treats please! If you say what treats are not good then at least provide examples of "good" treats. I'm going to keep eating dark chocolate under stress. It works and is only one square. 😂
What if you have a disordered brain? ADHD comes to mind. Even CPTSD.
You do know this is sociology 101 - habitus and auto pilot. But where you went wrong is that you mixed your facts and your values. You've almost defined a "bad habit" as an addiction. While addiction in of itself isnt a bad thing. I know heroin addicts who have developed some great habits. But I'm sure you wouldn't understand.
Why their eyes are green?
This woman is really beautiful.
has rationality made julia rich yet?
Ya I quit pornography and marijuana nicotine and some other bad habbit.
This doesn't work for substance abuse.
@L.Drizzle
3 жыл бұрын
Who said it did?
@ammaleslie509
3 жыл бұрын
Yes it does. 12 step programs follow a lot of these principles
@johnw3770
3 жыл бұрын
@@ammaleslie509 there are a lot of bad habits in relation to substance abuse, so putting this into practice can help. However, the urge to use the substance again always changes over time. For example: someone is living in poverty so they quiet their substance. They make a lot of money and everything about their lifestyle changes, now the untreated problem comes back full force. This could kill someone this time.
@_soupnazi
Жыл бұрын
@@johnw3770 Substance abuse is a far deeper that what they are talking about here - food, limiting time on the web, etc. I wish those were the problems I faced daily. Addicts struggle day to day fighting urges far greater than eating snacks. And these are not simple habits than can be changed by watching videos like this, it's learning how to live your life with this disease, remaining abstinent and finding some sort of joy out of life again.
You can kiss a nun once or twice, but don't get into the habit.
blah blah blah
@077di6
3 жыл бұрын
Ho well, most of them make a lot of money from that crap.
Can someone please hand me my tobacco pipe
Saint Luke 5:32 KJV I came not to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance. Saint Luke 13:3 KJV I tell you, Nay: but, except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish.
her neck looks funny! come to think of it, so do her eyes! very strange
Phuck no
This video does not help.
these are all weirdos and con artists!! evil crap. we see you
Sounds like heroin addiction.
Boring, too much theory
9:20 but if I surf the net for 5 mins every hour, it’s actually more than 45mins I would normally surf in a day. It defeat the purpose and it doesn’t make logical sense, that’s like saying you don’t smoke a pack of cigarettes in one sitting but you smoke one stick every hour is fine and it’s better.
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