There’s a big difference between appreciating everything your parents have done for you and feeling indebted to them to the point of letting them dictate how you live your life, even if it makes you miserable. This film is almost 60 years old and sadly so many younger people still struggle with this.

@tanizaki

Жыл бұрын

I’m GenX with boomer parents. When I was a teen, my father showed me this scene and told me it was very wrong. We don’t speak very much anymore. The longer I’m a parent, the less I understand how my parents acted.

@06bigd2000

7 ай бұрын

@@tanizakiMy brother is Gen X and he believes people owe their parents. While I’m a millennial and I don’t think people owe their parents. The argument most commonly used is your parents gave you life. But my question is when exactly did I ask for it? When did I have any choice as to whether or not I wanted to live in a world filled with hate, discrimination, war, and disease? Like seriously 🤷🏾‍♂️

@tanizaki

7 ай бұрын

@@06bigd2000 Ask your brother if this “debt” can ever be repaid in full. Children don’t owe their parents any more than my dog “owes” me. I have two teenagers and the abuse ends with me.

@06bigd2000

7 ай бұрын

@@tanizaki I’m with you. When you’re right you’re right 👍🏾

@EgoBrain1

5 ай бұрын

​@@06bigd2000😂 God, people today are absolutely ridiculous. "I didn't ask to be born" has got to be the most nonsensical line I've ever heard. 😅

That was some real talk. This is my favorite scene in the entire film.

@von2300

6 жыл бұрын

mgeek1 very real. I know how it is. If my hardheaded mom don't respect me as a man, she will lose me as a son.

@mr.balloffur

4 жыл бұрын

Best speech in any movie!

@justineves3588

4 жыл бұрын

me too

@GIGI_NYC

3 жыл бұрын

💗💗

@balwc147

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah same

Some scenes never quite get old. Rest in power, Sidney Poitier.

"I owe you nothing... b/c you brought me into this world and from that day you owed me everything you could ever do for me... but you don't own me". These words are literally the story of my life. Needless to say even as an adult my parents still don't get it and I doubt they ever will.

@kaharold

5 жыл бұрын

Ikr ME and You both

@catheybelcher4975

5 жыл бұрын

You and me both. I got one that thinks because he provided, me and my siblings owe him. Sadly, most of them feel like they do. He feels like he's entitled to whatever we make because we owe him.

@yrretgnortsmra8955

4 жыл бұрын

@@catheybelcher4975 Well you at least owe him respect at least.

@Land07

4 жыл бұрын

@@yrretgnortsmra8955 He should respect his parents because they did what they're legally supposed to do? The only parent that deserves respect is the one that gives their own children respect.

@keithwilson6060

3 жыл бұрын

Actually, he does owe his father something: honor, and all that implies.

Can it really be 50 years? This film has withstood the test of time.

@oldrocker74

7 жыл бұрын

That's correct!

@cameroncooper4175

5 жыл бұрын

@@oldrocker74Unfortunately, so has brainless racism.

@jeromemaida4933

4 жыл бұрын

Only from idiots love ke you, Cameron.

@Jocelyn_Jade

4 жыл бұрын

Bryan Hoare More like you were just exposed to what’s been happening for decades.

This scene was a revelation to me. Made me realise I wasn’t bound in eternal gratitude to my parents, that I was not in their debt and I was free to live my life however I want whether they liked it or not.

@Checkmate1138

2 жыл бұрын

Literally!

there aren't many epic scenes in movies but that one certainly qualifies

"Let me tell you something. I owe you nothing......You did what you were supposed to do!" Such powerful words from a son to a Patriarch.

@angelacarleton9575

2 жыл бұрын

Some parents would be upset and expect "quiet" from the new generation but he spoke the absolute truth which most was an incredible bit of speech. God, how I wished my parents knew English to hear these chosen words spoken out loud.

@brownigirlpie

2 жыл бұрын

@@angelacarleton9575 Oh absolutely. Truth be told I doubt I could speak those words. However, what it does do-at least for me, validates the parents responsibility to the child with regard to essentials and care which goes with having children. Duty of care should never be held over a child at any age so these words are freeing

@Kinos141

2 жыл бұрын

Father, he's his father.

@andronikusable

Жыл бұрын

Respect even in an argument.From both.

You see yourself as a "colored man", I see myself as a man.

@emelyramos9829

3 жыл бұрын

OMG THANK GOD I WAS USING THIS FOR CLASS AND I NEEDED IT I HAD LESS THAN A MINUTE LEFT

@Boydster318

3 жыл бұрын

uh.......

“You and your whole lousy generation believes that the way it was is the way it’s got to be!” Spitting straight facts right there

@angelacarleton9575

2 жыл бұрын

Powerful speech from Sidney Poitier. Love it and wished I had the nerve to say the same to my folks. Who careless to work and carry the ball as mature parents which they were not!

@geoffwilliams4478

Жыл бұрын

@Angela Carleton I did, and boy was the ENTIRE family appalled when I did. My mom's crying was music to my ears because I felt like her toxicity was deeply wounded, if not completely gone. We're in a better place with each other, but it's not like it's easy.

“Dad you see yourself as a colored man, I see myself as a man.” Best line in the whole movie ever ❤️

@MultiMicelle

2 жыл бұрын

in a interview discussing racism, morgan freeman was asked, how he thought we can end racism, his reply to mike wallace was, stop talking about it, then he said, i'm gonna stop calling you a white man, and you can stop calling me a black man, just recconize that we are both men.......Brilliant!

@christophersantana5895

2 жыл бұрын

TRUE INDEED.

@AndreNitroX

Жыл бұрын

When people say they don’t see race. This is what most mean. That we choose to not let there be division. We are all human beings, men and women. Children of God.

@craigsims1189

Жыл бұрын

Yes ..that would work sigh.

@DaygoKid94

9 ай бұрын

​@@AndreNitroX ehh. I think this is what they think they mean but it reality it isn't realistic and more often than not leads to people being blind about key things. It's OK to acknowledge race the problem lies in treating people different because of race.

Still to this day no matter how many times I've seen this movie, this is the scene that always brings tears to my eyes. Such an incredible moment of this film and so well done by the great Mr. Sidney Poitier.

R.I.P. Mr. Poitier 1927-2022, a great gentleman on and off the screen.

Sidney was SUPERB in this scene. The tone of the voice was perfect! He was angry, rebel, but also calm in the end, all in a few seconds! Amazing

@JESUSISLORDforever888

10 күн бұрын

And still being respectful. It is WHAT you say and HOW you say it. One day I had to be like this and speak the truth in love to my grandmother who had “picks & chooses” over her grandchildren. I tried very hard NOT to be disrespectful but speak truth. i do NOT think she understood but GOD knew my words and heart and I left it to HIM to judge.

Many parents could learn from this speech.

One of the best scenes from any movie ever

RIP Roy Glenn (June 3, 1914 - March 12, 1971), aged 56 And RIP Sidney Poitier (February 20, 1927 - January 6, 2022), aged 94 You both will always be remembered as legends.

Love this movie. I’m an older woman now.....but back in the 60’s....I kinda went thru something like this....with my family. Long story short: I was 19 and in love. Family (and I can truly say that my mother and father never showed and prejudice...ever. My mom worked with 3 fantastic African American woman and she adored them..and they adored her. An African American family (a family who lived nearby (when I was just a child) and my grandparents and my parents were friends with them. The y moved away, but the grown sons would come over to visit my mom if they were in the area. I truly, deeply cared about a young African American guy who was stationed at a nearby army base. I never saw color...I just saw him. Sweet, funny, kind and my first love. I was young...he had to leave for Vietnam Nam. I cried a lot.. we wrote each other every day and the people around me kept trying to tell me how difficult life would be for us. Every day,..he was gone and I missed him terribly. 😢. We saw each other one more time 2 years later. I met someone else back here and I think he kinda met someone too. But when we saw each other...that same feeling surfaced. That warm, happy feeling called ‘love’. I’m gonna be 72 in two months and I still think about him...and what could have been. Now....the commercials are interracial, interracial dating, it’s finally accepted, I think....and that’s so great. It’s just love. What the hell? 🤷🏼‍♀️. I guess Jack and I met during the wrong time. It amazes me how different it was back in 1967/1968. Stupid, stupid people. Anyway...I’ve seen this movie about 10 times and I love it. My favorite scene is when Katherine Hepburn tells her snooty employee off. Love that scene!👍😊

@fosterglucose3214

4 жыл бұрын

I believed a lot of the people of that time were afraid to see a change in society, I'm glad people like you are able to share your story to all of us. You're awesome!

@alexmercer5414

3 жыл бұрын

As the old saying goes love is blind

@sandella11

3 жыл бұрын

@@alexmercer5414 Yes....I believe true love isn’t a ‘seeing thing’. It’s not really about what you see on the outside. Love is a feeling. Love arises from deep within all of us. He was my first love...and he shall be my last love. Unfortunately, some superficial individuals perceive and form biased opinions about what they see, even in this day and age, I believe these individuals are self centered, lack compassion, lack common sense, and lack empathy. Love is love. I doubt these particular opinionated individuals will never get it. 🤷🏼‍♀️😔

@georgestewart9739

Жыл бұрын

This is one of the most touching things I’ve read all year . . . ❤❤❤

@sandella11

Жыл бұрын

@@georgestewart9739 TY. True story. I’ll be 75 yrs old in 3 weeks…I still think about Jack almost ever day. 💖🥺

An absolute legend of an actor.

"You've got to get off my BACK!". At 1:24 when he turns and looks at his father....it is acting brilliance.

I started crying when he turned back at his father and smiled at him to say he has always loved him despite their differences And by the way "You think of yourself as a colored man, I think of myself as a man"...wow, this is powerful Rest in Peace Sidney Poitier

@angelacarleton9575

2 жыл бұрын

A lot of folks that were young and felt like Sidney whether they were of a different culture or black or any other origin - we felt Sidney was defending "all of us!" A Powerful message to everyone who wasn't heard by parents.

Saw this movie last night and this scene is the best one! Not only race is addressed here but also parents rights, who often assume that own sons and these have to be at their service, contributing as a duty because parents gave them life.

@catheybelcher4975

5 жыл бұрын

Preach!!!

@MsAppleofhiseye

4 жыл бұрын

It's CALLED RESPECT ! Black people are still suffering exactly the same and everything his father was saying was ROOTED IN THAT. Sidney was selfish!

@rosaray6618

4 жыл бұрын

Parents of adult children often want "giving respect" to be "silent obedience", no matter what. We have to learn to respect our adult children's life decisions in order for the relationship between us to grow. And for them to make and learn from their own mistakes. Otherwise, there is resentment and eventually distance. You lose as a parent what you thought you controlled...your child.

@mgeek1

3 жыл бұрын

@@MsAppleofhiseye - He never disrespected his father. But do you expect a nearly 40 year old man to obey his father and not live his life? Why does he have to live his life and think the way his father does? When does his life belong to him? Parents do not own their children. No child asks to be born, so this notion of owing your parents everything is outdated and emotionally unhealthy. You can respect your parents without allowing them to control you.

@mikechansw748

3 жыл бұрын

Oh my god, yes

Probably one of the best movies of all times... Simply love it!

Poitier was incredible.

That was one of the best pieces of dialog between a Father and Son in a movie. I commend the Writer and Mr. Poitier for a very powerful piece.

The last 15 minutes of this film is some of the best 15 minutes of dialogue in any movie

brilliant scene.

No doubt. One of the best scenes in cinema history. And he was such a monumental actor. RIP

I just recently saw this film didn't catch the beginning... I immediately fell in love with this movie. So now I'm gonna get this movie on Amazon. Such a breathless scene.

It is not as though that this film doesn't have a lot of brilliance in it. What one owes ones parents and what one doesn't. Such a difficult question so wonderfully described.

A remarkable man, may he Rest In Peace and Power.

Sidney Poitier, such a powerful actor.

That scene was so powerful. What a great human being and actor Sydney Poitier was. R.I.P.

This scene was so brilliantly done. The best part was when Sydney turned around at 1:18 to 'reset' and then the entire mood of the speech changed. He went from talking to her father like his own person, like a man, to talking to him like a son, and still like a man. What a movie for its time, and it's such a shame that others still haven't seem to get out of this mindset that anything other than the color white is 'bad.' It won't change until everyone older than 45 is dead and gone.

@superlex611

5 жыл бұрын

A collosal generational gap problem of opinion

@ghanasoul

4 жыл бұрын

Great analysis and observation.

@jpanticona1400

2 жыл бұрын

It will not change the thing until the education in North America changes.

@GuineaPigEveryday

10 ай бұрын

Unfortunately conservative ideas like this about race still permeate a lot of younger people, not just 45+. Education is a big problem and conservative leaders have decided to ban any sort of progressive changes to it, in the US at least. And in Europe conservative ideas about islamophobia and about immigrants, often about race, has also become popular with disenfranchised youths. I mean the whole idea of equity has gotten such a pushback, unfortunately thats not stopping with boomers

This is the most powerful scene in the movie...and so real, then and now! R.I.P., sir and thank you!

'I owe you nothing' ... so true, I don't think my parents would understand that (they are older folks) but I know my kids owe me nothing, if they turn out to be appreciative and respect me I will be the happiest man, but if they chose to live their lives the way they want it I'll be fine with that

My parents would never buy most of what he just said...

@mgeek1

7 жыл бұрын

Well, sometimes the truth hurts and you don't want to face it.

@zazi5094

3 жыл бұрын

Yep, but its true.😅🤣🤣🤣

@helterskelter416

2 жыл бұрын

my parents argued with me when i was younger in favor of poitier's perspective.

What a powerful scene, full of universal truths. Bravo, Sidney Poitier. Thank you for blessing us with your talent and class. Through the masterpieces you left behind, you will live forever.

Some people have expressed an opinion that John was being way too rude to his father here, but personally, I think he deserves a standing ovation for saying what needed to be said. John Sr. was being at least as rude to him, and he shouldn't have had to grin and bear that. The problem with so many parents is that they expect their children to treat respecting them like some kind of religious thing which they must never take a break from or heaven forgive them. But you can't just keep getting in your child's face and berating them for every little thing they do that you don't approve of, and expect them to remain polite to you 100% of the time. That's like expecting to be able to have your cake and eat it too. And there's nothing incorrect about what John is saying. There's nothing his parents did for him that wasn't part of the job. After all, to paraphrase something Aladdin once said, "you want to be a parent, you got it, and everything that goes with it".

@davidlee4903

2 жыл бұрын

Well said.

RIP, Sidney Poitier. Thanks for all the great work.

Every single person in the USA should sit down and watch this film and especially this scene.

@nikkingman

2 жыл бұрын

Even babies and stuff?

@jgrothou

2 жыл бұрын

How about people outside the USA?

@Stogie2112

2 жыл бұрын

@@jgrothou ……. Sure! The more, the merrier!

@NJGuy1973

21 күн бұрын

Half the USA wouldn't have any idea what it's about.

Sheer brilliance! Unadulterated Brilliance! I get goosebumps when I see this scene. He was coming from a place he'd been before and it translated into a Powerhouse scene!! He walked a fine line of respect and defiance flawlessly!! Well done sir, well done!

Fifty years--and this just gets better with age, like fine wine.

This was the clip I was looking for - but I wish it began a little sooner, with the father's sentiments as well.

Sidney Poitier is such a versatile actor...👍👍👍and what an inspiration

@travisbickle4360

2 жыл бұрын

He was good actor but most of his roles are same. Versatile is more like Denzel Washington, Jamie Fox who play a wide range of characters

One of my favorite scenes in the movie. Sidney at his best. Also, did anyone notice that Roy Glenn, who played his father, was also Willie Harris, the thief who ran off with the inheritance money in A Raisin In The Sun? And Beah Richards who played his mother also played the would be abortionist in In The Heat Of The Night.

@Garrettk41

4 жыл бұрын

Not only that, but Roy and Beah would later appear together again in "The Great White Hope", and in the same scene to boot, though in that case they didn't play husband and wife.

Rest in Peace, Sidney.

Sheer poetry, one of the best movies ever made, way ahead of its time and whose message transcends generations and is topical today, over 50 years later, with the same vigour as it was when it was first released. Sidney Poitier, incredible actor, as the rest of the cast, simply legendary. I'm 25 but, damn, I do love these classics! Way better than today's stuff, there's no match!!! 💯

The writing in this film is soooo incredibly rich!! And you'd NEVER be able to get away with dialogue like this today! That's why this is such a classic!

When the music starts, tears drop. RIP.

When ever sydney poitier says "now you listen to me" you better listen cuz hes preparing to speak some severe facts

This is the realest, most cathartic thing I’ve ever seen.

Ciao Sidney

Gahdamn that speech was savage af 😬

One of the greatest scenes in the history of movie making! 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

This scene always brings tears to my eyes

I love his words to his father.

This is literally me & my dad (except the whole interracial marriage issue part)

@superlex611

6 жыл бұрын

BenfiquistaM20 every Black person, was a generational gap

Makes me cry evertime i see it.

First viewing of this film, I cried multiple times especially during this scene. Second time, I still do.

This is easily one of my top five scenes in movie history, and it could be the all time most timeless. It’s amazing to me that baby boomers were young when this movie was released, and were its target audience, and yet they themselves, for the most part, have become the dad in this scene. It begs the question- will there ever be a generation of parents equiped to understand the ideas presented here?

@davidlee4903

2 жыл бұрын

Our parents, with their failures, gave us the tools to prevent exactly the same, for at least one generation.

0:22 The best scene and this blowed my mind....

The best thing in this movie. Many parents are acting like that

Watched this today, as the turkey was cooking. We all loved it.

Still so friggin relevant

oh - the power of words and listening - some parents would be quick to shut down their child but in this case he listened and thats just as important as the words ... and in the end there are the words "i love you" my mother is just learning to listen a little better - my now x hardly ever listens ... great scene

The words in this movie are so powerful.

I really miss Sir Sidney Poitier, he's been a constant in my life since I found out about him. 💔🕊️ RestInPeace... 😘

Brilliant! and such a true words!!!

Sidney Poitier such an amazing actor! This is my favorite scene from the movie!!! The truth in these words man! I don’t owe my parents anything!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

RIP Mr. Poitier

RIP Sydney Poitier (1927-2022)

RIP Sidney Poitier This is why I became a #1 fan Betty While now Sidney

This scene is just amazing.

Oh this scene helps me in so many ways. My mom is like his father, stuck in the past.

My parents would never comprehend this.

This is the best speech I have seen in a movie !

that was the best scene and quote.

Even as a child, I loved Sidney as an actor. His acting is totally compelling

RIP :(

I never seen this movie, but this Scene right here was real and this was great acting Rest in peace Sidney Poitier you will be missed by fast and enjoyed your movies.

R.I.Peace, Sidney Poitier 💔

Damn i tear up a little when he turns to his father to still assure him, that he will always love him.

And now another great one of this great era has passed away...😭

RIP Sidney....a light goes out in Hollywood and in Cinema.

Still one of my favorite scenes

The Father, Roy Glenn NAILED this scene. 🎥

RIP

Great Bahamian actor Sidney Poitier, one of my favorite actors along with Burt Lancaster.

Farewell Mr. Poitier, Teacher, and a Thank you so much for teaching someone to think of themselves simply as a man.

What great writing

RIP.

Wow I just love that scene.

Rest In Peace, Sydney Poitier

Timeless. I'm sending it to my Mom now

One of the greatest scenes in a movie!

RIP Sidney Poitier!

This really is a awesome scene by sidney poitier.

Beautiful...

Love this scene ❤