Grieving for your aging parent before you lose them
When we think of grief we usually think of funerals and sympathy cards, however we can grieve for someone who is still alive.
It's called Anticipatory Grief. We might not even realize how it's affecting us as we interact with our aging parents
Garrick Colwell is a Certified Grief Educator. In an interview with Kim & Mike Barnes of Parenting Aging Parents, Garrick shares how to know if you're suffering from anticipatory grief, what causes it, how it shows up, how it's different from regular grief, why grief and mourning are not the same and how to cope.
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I’ve been anticipating this in waves since childhood 🤦🏽♀️ think it’s due to growing as at an only child and your parents often become like your best friends
@parentingagingparents
8 ай бұрын
It is hard since our parents have been the ones we have looked to for answers and advice.
@clairevicky
4 ай бұрын
I’m an only child too and can relate
I can’t even imagine life without my mother, I can’t sleep some nights because I dread this moment.
@parentingagingparents
Ай бұрын
So sorry to hear. Sounds like you are definitely experiencing anticipatory grief. Hopefully you can get the help you need.
I’m feeling this right now as I’m watching my aging mother experience extreme shortness of breath just doing small things. She has COPD.
@parentingagingparents
5 ай бұрын
That has to be very hard and certainly could bring up anticipatory grief for you.
@fordtrucklover90280
5 ай бұрын
I'm currently going thru the same thing, my mom has Pulmonary fibrosis and currently she gotten worst . She's really having a had time breathing and it hurts me so much so see her suffer
Thanks to all of you! I am in anticipatory grief alot because 10 days ago my husband was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer....16 months ago he had a tumor inside the esophagus and now its spread to lymph nodes. I have been grieving this since the day we found out 16 months ago. Mr. Colwell I am so sorry for your loss and I so get it...about the wanting to travel and how the diagnosis changed everything! I feel like you described what we feel better then anyone I have heard so far. Thank you!
@parentingagingparents
5 ай бұрын
Glad the explanation helped you put into words how you're feeling. So sorry to hear what you're going through right now.
I am having that for my husband, although I could in reality go first.
@parentingagingparents
3 ай бұрын
It can come in so many different situations. Sorry for your situation.
Invaluable. Thanks so much for this information. Helps to lighten the burden whin I understand what is happening.
@parentingagingparents
8 ай бұрын
Glad to hear! It is hard to understand when you're going through it.
This was very helpful. Thank you for posting this.
@parentingagingparents
2 ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful. It is so hard to go through this.
@farisasmith7109
2 ай бұрын
@@parentingagingparents My dad is in his 90's and I see him really slowing down. I will probably be there when he passes and the anxiety of this is something I've been feeling more and more. I'm sharing this video with my siblings because we really need to talk about this stage in my concerns. Just get that out there .
Thank you so much Helped feel validated Whew, now it begins ❤
@parentingagingparents
11 ай бұрын
Glad this was helpful.
Thank you
@parentingagingparents
Жыл бұрын
Glad you found helpful.