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Bro I almost had heart attack because of the title 😭

@PINKzoHOT

2 күн бұрын

Right?!?! I wuz skuuurrt!!! Such wonderful guys!

@jeangenie1240

2 күн бұрын

Me too!

@SScott-nr9vl

2 күн бұрын

Please these two are the clickbait kings. They come around when they need an endorsement and money.

@jeangenie1240

2 күн бұрын

@@SScott-nr9vl Why are you here?

@pastbehind25

2 күн бұрын

Same!

Had you not married too young, you may not have realized what you needed to work through, because your partner was not there to hold your hand in the process. That could have let the issues go unaddressed far later in life, causing much greater distress. I hope you some time can reach the conclusion that Alastair arrived in your life not only to love you, but to help you become your best self... and that is what makes a marriage at any age totally worth while :)

@wwrover697

Күн бұрын

So glad that you have reappeared after such a long absence and with such mature reflections on your self journey, love and marriage. Best of what life can offer to both of you!

Thanks for being so vulnerable..Been with my husband for 44 years and have been through everything. Hang on and enjoy the ride..it gets better every year.

Gone through 2 marriages, first at 41, second at 53. Everything you said was spot on, and I was a lot older. Can't learn how to live in a relationship without being in one. I can tell you about wonderful marriages that started very young because they grew up together. I can tell you, from my own experience, that you spiral and fall apart at any age. I am proud of your honesty and Alistar for "keeping his eyes on the prize." Zach, you are the prize for Alistar, and he knows it as much as you know he is the prize for you. Keep working on being the best YOU that you can be.

Congratulations on 7 years. Today marks 6 years of marriage with my hubby🎉. Marriage has many ups and downs. Communication is key. Talk to him when you can. And stay open Wish you the best

@zuniga325

Күн бұрын

There’s a lot of straight marriages that don’t last this long.

I remember when you were a college student vlogging about dating and being out. You've come a long way, my man!

Zach, I really appreciate the vulnerability. Being able to look back and realize your mistakes and then put in the effort to make the change to get the life you both deserve is amazing, the effort is definitely apparent in this video alone but also your last couple of social media posts. I love this for you and I’m looking forward to see what the future holds for you both. Much love!!! 🌈❤️

"Domestication" is certainly a worthwhile objective.

It is called growing up. You look great. Always enjoy hanging out with you. Thanks for taking the time.

You’re always learning and growing. The person you are today is not the person you’ll be tomorrow. You have a good head on your shoulders and you have a good man. Keep growing for the positive!

You and Alastair are a couple of good, decent, honorable men, Zach. You don't follow whatever is trendy and fashionable. You are faithful to each other even when you are thousands of miles apart. For men like you, there is no such thing as "getting married too young," as if that was some bad decision. You two are that rare and real thing: two men in true love who truly understand what true love demands and requires--fidelity, honor, duty, sacrifice, and mercy. Take it from me, a guy who just ended his four-year "open relationship," who slept around with other men, many times even while "my man" was right there in the living room, both of us pretending that what we were doing was perfectly fine. It was not. I wish I knew it then, but what we were doing was far from fine. It was a mutually agreed delusion that gradually corroded the soul, a trendy farce that led only to a mutually assured destruction. Take it from me, who is now in therapy, working hard to patch myself up all over again. Godspeed, man!

@user-ie2pn9jg2t

2 күн бұрын

I hope things get better from here. I was in a similar situation and made it through. It's been good since.

@Carfan678

2 күн бұрын

No offense but I never understood the appeal of an open relationship like what's the point and is it even a real relationship? Your saying u have a partner while sleeping around at the same time I don't get it

@the_expidition427

2 күн бұрын

These two were married from the start

@aurorealis3249

Күн бұрын

Trust is critical in any relationship. What you described with your open relationship defines the term - "short term gain for long term pain." Basic human decency and respect as displayed with Zach & Alastair requires commitment and discipline. They are helping to show what is possible when respect is prioritize and commitments honored. It can be a very lonely life in these challenging times without a lifetime committed partner. Best Wishes on your healing journey into a healthy relationship.

To the person reading this, even though I don't know you. I wish you the best of what life has to offer 🙏🙌😊❤️👋

@PipesPlayer1980

2 күн бұрын

Same to you! Thank you!!

@visariosorino8034

2 күн бұрын

@@PipesPlayer1980 😊👋

Zachary! You got me all 😢 😭, I can't watch you guys being sad and saying goodbye even though I know he's already home. Glad you've worked on yourself and now you're being the husband Alastair deserves. ❤❤❤

This video got me emotional 😭 but look at it this way, getting married so young and having the pressure of already having the commitment of marriage is what helped you realize that you had to make changes in your life to mature and become a better person not only for you, but for your husband and your relationship.

I relate so hard to this, my husband is on deployment. He left January and won’t see him for another 2-3 months so I understand. That moment after you drop them off and you get ugh, that absence is so loud. I wouldn’t wish that pain and loneliness on anyone. I’ll join your Patreon just so we can connect, I know we can relate on this. We got this!❤

Nah we have to fight after this title. Don’t ever do that again!😂😂😂

Haven't even watched the video yet and just browsing the comments. Most of them are so sweet and nice, it really warms my heart just to know there are so many kind ppl out there!

“Too young “ is a relative term, imho. Depends on the people involved. I don’t think anyone is ever ready to be with another human being; life isn’t a Hallmark movie. You may well have met Alastair to enable/encourage you to work through the shit. I fell in love at 18; we didn’t marry until I was 23 but I would have earlier if circumstances had permitted. I was very insecure; she had issues from an abusive family. Whether it was appropriate or not, we essentially helped each other through and grew, probably because we did really love each other. Yesterday we celebrated our 45th with our beautiful sons and grandchildren. That stretch hasn’t been without its bumps, but has been a rich, wonderful experience. You’re still together and in love. Embrace it all and value it. It’s part of who you are as a couple. I hope that you have an equally long and fulfilling life together. Xxx😅

@brianmatthews1736

2 күн бұрын

That is the best, most loving comment from a straight ally that I have heard in a long time. Listen to this man, Zach...he knows what he is talking about!

@the_expidition427

2 күн бұрын

@@brianmatthews1736 There aren't really allys and enemies it's more a you do you deal

Met my husband senior year and got engaged 1 year after dating. Everyone in his family was scared because he never dated anyone before. We were both 21 when we got married. In May we just had our 27th anniversary and have been together 31 years. Only the 2 people in the relationship know their feelings, others have opinions, but don’t know what’s in our hearts and mind!

I'm so proud of u as a fan that you found your soul mate hey I'm still looking for mine and I'm almost 40

Self sabotage could be the title of the story of my early life. I could be in the middle of a relationship thinking about how it was going to end and then thinking well hell, why wait, I’m going to ruin this now and get it over with. My last long term relationship ended like that and I haven’t gone back in on a serious relationship because I don’t know that I won’t do it again. My relationship with my mother growing up and even now has filled me with such anger because of things she did, things she allowed to happen to me and her utter refusal to accept any responsibility for her bad choices and how I got burnt by them. I always tell people that if they want to know what my mother is like, watch Prince of Tides, she’s very much the mother in that movie. If you don’t talk about things, they never happened and you can just forget them and that just draws a rage out of me when I think about how shitty my childhood was and the fact that she just tells me that if I choose to be miserable, it’s my fault. Trauma is a bitch, I’m glad you faced your demons and were able to put them in check.

This video surprised me when it appeared in my feed. It's been a few months, and I was a bit surprised how much I had missed the both of you. It's odd how you can become attached to people you've never met or spoke to in person and most likely never will, but at the same time, can have a significant impact on you. Glad you two are still together and making it work. Sounds like Alistair was the wake up call you needed back then. You're lucky. You have what a lot of couples gay & straight couples want. Someone who truly loves them unconditionally.

@peterporta

2 күн бұрын

Amen!

You're a good husband, I can't wait for him to be back because seeing you two together is just amazing

You guys are meant for each other and nothing will ever break you apart the love you have for each other is Beautiful sending love to you both God Bless You Both ❤️

I applaud you for being so vulnerable! You have come a long way, be proud of yourself!

I have enjoyed your videos of you love story.. I been a fan when it was just you and your dog.. and when you both meet. And I was so touched when you and him had the little airport seen, it was so sweet.. 😊

I know that God will repay y'all with so much kindness for sharing this with us, Zack...I actually cried when Alaistar and you parted ways for this deployment......Some things are better left shown rather than explained......

Hang in there, gentlemen! A year flies by really quickly. Just keep yourself, Zack, occupied with whatever YOU enjoy doing. Before you realize it, Allister will be back to you and the doggie. Much love, gentlemen!! Stay blessed and encouraged!! 😎 ❤🙏🏾😊

You both are in my prayers. Alex we can not wait till your 9 months are up. You will be missed.. Please stay safe. my friend. We TEXANS support you.

I got together with my partner, now husband, when I was 20. Forty years later and we are still very happily married and will be together for the rest of our lives!

16:40 -- Tell me you're from Texas without telling me you're from Texas. " WELL SHYYYYT!" 🤣🤣🤣 I wasn't born in Texas, but did MOST of my growing up in TX 1988 to 1997. I consider Texas HOME.

Zach I was with you from the beginning with the captain Alistair seeing you get married mature enough and now you're settling down to be husband and husband to your husband what I think that you are doing is maturing taking time to yourself to get mentally and physically slimmed and trimmed you have finally grown to be your own man that is one of the best things in life to do being married too young should not be on your vocabulary it is up to the own individual if the person wanted to be married to each other that has a common interest along with your interest thank you once again for this video this is bruce the vet. Thank you Zach.. And captain Alastair ❤

Yall this made me ball my eyes out the connection between you and Allister is ine we all dream of finding how special it is for you 2 to have each other thank you Allister for your service and sacrifices you've made prayers for a SAFE DEPLOYMENT and a super fast year for zach and you !

@pete84101

2 күн бұрын

*bawl

A Gay man, always supports another Gay man 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🧿🧿🧿✝️✝️✝️

That was really deep, Zach and shows a tremendous amount of growth.

When Alastair cries, the world cries 😭😭😭💔 But deployment is OVER and he's back! 🍾🤗💜💜💜💜

I love the switch to long format videos happy to embrace whatever your put out. Always a pleasure seeing you and Alastair!

Adolescent frontal lobe development is a real thing. Young brains are not ready to make good decisions until 25 years old. You are normal and this is the way brains work.

Zach, thank you for sharing your journey through KZread. It’s been therapy for us all. Please know that it’s helpful to countless others who are getting through life the best we can. Especially myself. I have only one suggestion for you from watching and listening to you these past 5 or 6 years, keep living in the present and planning for the future as much as you can. its so easy to get caught up in the past and find yourself deep in depression because of what you think you shoulda done , or what's been done to you. as long as you and Alister love each other and care for each other and pray for the same things together, you both will continue to help each other grow and thrive. love you both. stay strong for each other , and we all will certainly keep you in thought and prayer. Somehow , I wish i could do more to give you a lift….. oh… " You Look Amazing" !!!! 🤗

Trauma knocked me off my path in early childhood. Talk about not having skills to manage! Time is on your side, Zach, and your recent insights and efforts will see you through.

I love the self reflection ! You feeling like you were too young is so real 💯 Time is so precious and building that bond through marriage is something not a lot of people will experience. I hope after these years of living and learning, you appreciate your wants too. We all have a balance to function on and your hubby is AMAZING for standing strong and letting you figure yourself out. Don’t be so hard on yourself I’d say you do one HELL of a job! You can only do your best and none of us are ever perfect ❤️‍🩹I’ve been here since 2018 and you guys will re create your reality in any way necessary. LOVE YOU GUYS ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

You are an incredible person Zach such a strong person who wears your heart on your sleeve. It’s such a big deal what you both have gone through and sacrificed a huge amount. I am so happy that you are both back together because you are such a beautiful couple you both deserve all the love and happiness together. I am always here to support you both so much I hope you both do not have to go through this again. Love you both go celebrate your lives together and your potential future in NYC but first come to Sydney for my wedding next December xxxx

Zack self realization is hard to deal with and it takes time to work out those past problems. But you are willing to do that and that hard work is wonderful. No one is perfect. You are just like the rest of us working on our demons every day. You are a strong willed person and you will work out those past issues. Zack in my humble opinion it was not luck that you met Alastair it was meant to be. Very few people come into our lives only by chance.

Ty so much for sharing ❤

MUCH LOVE AND SUPPORT FOR THE BOTH OF YOU❤❤

Happy 4th Boys!☺️

Thank you for being so open and sharing your story, despite the hardships that you have both been through, this is a love for the ages❤

This recap made me think back to watching all these old videos during Covid.

I love your video style. It pulls at the heart strings.

I admire your growth and transparency.

This is the Zach I have always loved. Being truthful, sorting through life, trying to find and build the better you. Both you and Alister are admirable. The best to both of you.

I always admire and appreciate how vulnerable you are with us. Thank you for sharing ❤️ I’m glad you were able to reflect and realize what worked and what didn’t and how to course correct. Very mature of you!

Both of you are so blessed to have found each other. Thousands of us support your marriage and ongoing relationship. Hang in there. God blessed both of you.

Zach. I’ve been following and watching you since the beginning. Watching you grow has been a great thing. You’ve shown us all how REAL you are and don’t ever change that. We all have our different journeys and in the end will make us the person we are now. I love you and Alastair together. I see you two and hope I can one day live up to something like that with my partner. Keep your head up. Keep working on yourself and you will have nothing but great things ahead of you! Big hugs!

It’s so great to hear you tell your story again, Zach 👍🏽 Especially for your newer viewers. I look forward to seeing where your stories lead. Happy Alastair is home safe & sound. ✌🏽

Yes this type of video is very valuable, actually much more than regular vlogs.

This video is the BEST of all of your videos. So real! So honest! At the end of the day, you both met each other. A very special gift. God bless you all!

I've watched y'all journey for a few years now and y'all are so blessed to have each other to love and cherish each moment 🌈❤️

Great reveal into addiction and trauma. Your honesty admirable and healing not only to you Zach, but to those who can relate. Thanks for realizing the power of recognizing how we impact others and most importantly the work required to begin the healing process. It all begins with our truth inventory. Alastair has been unconditional in his love and a true soulmate with the gift of patience & compassion. You are both truly blessed to have each other. Please follow-up on your journey into healing and how you accomplished resolving your traumatic issues as we are all a "work-in-progress!" The learning is powerful.

Thank you both for your service to the country. Military families support those who serve and deserve praise for.serving our country too. My son shipped out to Iraq when we first went over there. For six months we had little contact with hIm as.he was moving through all the major combat areas we heard about on the news. When he finally settled into Bagdad around month seven he finally had some access to email. What a relief to finally be able to.have some semi regular contact. I can only imagine how much more difficult it is to have your spouse and heart deployed. The only way I was.able to deal with the hard times was to go up to his bedroom in the attic and just sit on his bed. I hope you find the space in your life that brings you that moment of relief that allows you to reset and continue the most important job in your life: supporting your man in the service.

Congratulations on the clarity. You are worthy of Alastair's love and you deserve to be happy.

You are an amazing person because you continue to try to improve yourself, and make your relationship a priority, you have realized that you need to make an effort for yourself, and for Alastair. I’M PROUD OF YOU!!’

What a great video ❤ thank you for being so candid and articulate with your journey. Sending you both a lifetime of happiness

thanks foe a most instructive talk, entertaining - yet personal, full of insights very very close to wisdom...

Love the Video. I love this stuff because it's real. Thanks for sharing this and know that I'm pulling for you both.

Found on road dead (ford), I am going to speak to other observers rather than Zach. Zach already knows how much I respect him and Alastair. Zach nice to see AZB, all of you if you have never seen azb you are missing a great intellectual, emotional and friendship experience. Zach on his own and Zach and Alastair as a team bring real life to us in an amazing way. Patreon with these guys is incredible. Zach I don’t want to sound like a commercial but I hold you in such high regard for your ability to share real life thought and emotion. Love you both as always Brad. Great vlog my friend.

I know you guys do this channel for yourselves, but ive followed since the beginning and you've done so much for me advice wise. Thanks for all your videos! looking forward to many more. (Also finally gave in and just ordered a Helix mattress haha)

Great video, probably the most important video you've made. You're a great couple ❤

Zach your husband loves u with all his heart never question that you 2 make a perfect couple

Nice to see you back. Glad you came out on top. ❤

Thank you for sharing

I'm glad you guys were able to grow with each other

just an amazing video. be proud of the man you have become.

This made me cry but it's so life affirming to see that you're trying to come out the other side and be stronger for it. I'm sorry that you put Alastair though so much needless b.s. but the important thing is, you have recognized it and you appreciate him. You're very articulate and intelligent and this video was very insightful.

I started watching your channel right before you met Allister & was watching your relationship grow. But, at that age, you really think you know it all and are ready for anything when you're not. A great man can grow, and if you realize your mistakes and own up to them, you are becoming a better man and a better husband. When I read your title, I thought it was going to be some bad news. I can understand every single word you spoke about and glad you worked through the problems. I'm glad you are still together continue to grow older together.

Thanks for sharing your view point and the struggles that our emotions play with ours lives. Stay strong and remember that you guys have a beautiful relationship based on unconditional love. Don't forget to keep things spicy while he's deployed. Send him those naughty pics and video while your in the bath or shower. But train to plan when you send them so he's not walking around with wet spots or tents in his pants.

2003 it was basically stop drinking or my husband would move on.I quit drinking and we are still together.Our 36th year together already.

Thanks for sharing. Keep on sharing. With love from Amsterdam

Zach thanks for sharing all that with us. Makes one think.

Love you guys.

Zach, thank you for being authentic and vulnerable. Trauma can take control of your life in ways that we can't comprehend, and when you're not prepared, it can be devastating. I blocked my trauma memories for years, not knowing why I would go through bouts of depression. It made no sense to me, especially when everything seemed to be going well. But when those memories came flooding back, I felt utterly destroyed. No clue as to how to handle all these new emotions that were moving through my head at an incredibly rapid pace. It's taken me eight years to see it getting further and further into the distance. I guess what I'm saying in this long comment is that you will get there and persevere. You and Alastair seem great together and I wish you both a very long and incredible future.

gotta love the boys

Sending both of you guys my love ❤❤❤

I loved this video Zach, thanks for sharing your deepest inner thoughts with us. Alastair is lucky to have you also, you are such a sweet guy and you've grown so much in the years I've been following this channel. I'm quite sure that you and Alastair will be together for a long long time. God bless you.

Congratulations to both of you. i waited too long, always thinking that Mr Right will be along. I am now 72 and he still hasn't arrived, but its all good. You are such lovely guys. Best wishes from Southampton, England 🇬🇧🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿❤️💕

@Vince-um5nq

2 күн бұрын

❤

Great video, always been a fan ❤of

Love your openness and honesty stay strong. Love from the Netherlands Amsterdam🌷

Zach, I’ve been following you since the beginning of your channel. I don’t comment much. But I relate to this post so much. I deployed in 1982 for almost a year. I was in my first of only 2 relationships. It was hard as hell. You’ll get through this. What other choice do you really have. Your love for each other should see you through. God bless you guys!!

Awesome 💯 Happy Sunday from Palm Beach Florida 😎

Zach, I wanna say congratulations on the anniversary of your marriage to Alastair on this video, I'm proud of you for that!!!

I really loved Zachary's simplicity I'm definitely a fan of them forever. ❤

Glad we could be here to listen. Any time. You and Alastair are so lucky to have found someone who loves you. Never take that for granted because not everybody does. I'd give a lot to have a small slice of what you have. We all go through tough times as we grow and mature. Learn from them and move on. Have a great day!

Thank you ,stay strong, And Thanks for your service Alistair. God speed.

You have so many comments, already, and I watched this late, but I really liked it. Your authentic self has always come through in your videos, but this one sounds more like a confession, which is refreshing, although anyone who has followed you all along already knew these things. Maybe you thought you edited them out of the earlier videos, but no artist can hide themselves in their art. 😉 Alistair deserves a medal of appreciation for his patience and compassion. Maybe you can order one for him on a ball cap? You are indeed lucky to have such an understanding and awesome man to call your own. ❤ 😺✌️

Have followed you from time to time over the years. Just wanted to say life is for learning and we learn ourselves along the way-- the good, bad, and ugly. We probably learn more about ourselves from others in addition from our mistakes and misjudgements. Some folks never do unfortunately. You are lucky to be able to do so and becoming wiser and just growing up. There's more chapters of your life ahead. Take care.

I think the communication factor is key to the success of a relationship/marriage. Keeping Alistair informed about what you are feeling and going through is paramount. Its clear you guys love each other so keep the lines of communication going. More laughter....looking back at your earlier videos I love it when you are laughing together. Hang in there your a lucky man and you know it!

It is nice to see you are still around. I used to watch you a lot when you first started in college with your B the little dog. I always kind of related to you because I was a much older gay but I never was into Divas or pop singers and mostly hung around men etc. What impressed me was you always seemed to growing and opening up. I am glad to see you guys are still together and are still working on it.

the best thing to do during deployment is volunteer at the USO trust me u will love it. There will be other people there in your shoes

Hey you’re both doing this and doing this well. You’re inspiring and going to get to the other side of this time apart so you can do all the rest of life together.