I feel like listening to you for 15 minutes is more helpful than speaking about my problems for an hour with a therapist. Thank you so much for being a positive instrument of God.

@nicknorizadeh4336

Жыл бұрын

Can totally agree! Her advice is better than that of my therapists

@christinechapman9764

Жыл бұрын

She's a great teacher.

@kingd4500

Жыл бұрын

She’s a therapist,lol

@christinechapman9764

Жыл бұрын

@@kingd4500 yes, she is, but in this role she is teaching, not doing therapy. People can be more than one thing.

@kingd4500

Жыл бұрын

@@christinechapman9764 You are right about multiple roles, which was my point. Being a teacher is an important aspect of being a therapist, just as being an advocate for clients or being a holder of a safe space. A therapist being a mental health professional should be educating clients on mental health to help them understand their own mental health in a way that helps them think and behave in new ways that promote healing and a desired way of experiencing life. My point of pointing out that she is a therapist was to highlight that therapists educate clients the same way she is educating people in this video and that the lack of this type of experience in therapy has more to do with the actual individual therapists (not the right match) and not therapists in general.

1.Notice how you label yourself write them down. 2.Try to step back from them. Practice watching thoughts. 3.Explore these labels -ask yourself Which one of these are helpful or which one of these beliefs getting away of change or grawth. -hilght the labels that serve as an excuses for you. 4.Consider changing these labels by positive mindset. 5.Get a perspective of a therapist or a safe friend. 6.Let go of false sources of self- worth like perfectionsim, approval, comparison... 7.spend less time obsessing about your identity and your ego and more energy focusing on your values. Thank you ❤️

@sriku1000

2 жыл бұрын

Despite its biological consequences sibling marriages still take place in certain parts of the world. Spread this video to stop it kzread.info/dash/bejne/qGarptSietunqLw.html

@andersonisabel1

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the summary. 😊

@andersonisabel1

2 жыл бұрын

Emma, thank you for this relevant and timely content!

@jilliann.5728

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!!

She is strangely, spookily wise for such a very young person.

I wanted to add that on my kindergarten report card the teacher wrote in a note to my parents, "Ginene is very anxious for such a young child." I'm 70 years old now and instead of saying that I'm experiencing anxiety, I've been telling myself that I am an anxious and depressed person my whole life. Wow!

I'm teaching a friend of mine Irish, and something you said reminded me of what I'm going to teach her next week. In English, we describe feelings and emotions as things that we are; for instance, "I am happy", "I am hungry", "I am worried", etc. But in Irish it's phrased a little differently: "Tá áthas orm" literally means "Happiness is on me." "Tá ocras orm": "Hunger is on me." "Tá imní orm." "Worry is on me." and so on and so forth. These feelings and emotions don't make up the entirety of who we are, as the English language implies; they're just things that we experience for a time, that come and go like leaves or snowflakes falling on our head, as Irish more accurately gets at. (Not a criticism of the English language btw - I just love the little differences between languages that make life more interesting!) Your video was a really good reminder that we don't have to believe the stories that we tell ourselves, and that even if we do have some very real limitations with our circumstances or state of health for example, we can still choose to focus on what we can control and on what we're grateful for. Thanks a million for this series, or as we say in Irish, go raibh míle maith agat! :)

@TherapyinaNutshell

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! Same with spanish, how we use our words impacts how we think and feel, great example!

@I.Geek.Psychology

2 жыл бұрын

Same in Hindi as well ❤️

@carriebartkowiak

2 жыл бұрын

I love this! Going to try to remember this and redirect my thinking.

@Emily-ni2zg

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful sentiment. Preserve the Irish language

@chelseal654

2 жыл бұрын

Same in French, the auxiliary verb is often “to have,” rather than “to be.” You would say I have hunger, rather than I am hunger (that would mean you’re the literal embodiment of Hunger itself😂)

I wonder how many of these comments you read? Anyways, I wanted to thank you. I had my life changed by therapy back in 2019. I was having a difficult time with friends, family, and feeling like a failure, but managed to grow past everything and develop this sense of peace. Last year, that sense of peace ended up slipping away from me and I ended up struggling, once again, with friends, family, and feeling like a disaster. I was put on a waitlist for therapy, but I'd have to wait months and I was in crisis mode. I am so, so grateful that this playlist is here. Your advice and guidance allowed me to rebuild who I am and set me back on course to who I want to be. I've been recommending it to people in similar straights as I was in. It's also small, but I find it interesting when you bring up your relationship to your religion. Each time God comes up, I feel my own hackles raise because I'm so used to people trying to take every opportunity to proselytize. I was raised evangelical, but turned out queer and atheist, so you can imagine where that stress comes from. While I don't imagine that I'll be able to let my guard entirely down, I do appreciate how your beliefs come across as both incidental and sincere. It's pleasant to be exposed to someone who lives by kindness when all my life I was exposed to faith being a weapon. Thanks again for everything. I do hope your God blesses you. :)

@TVC15ohoh

Жыл бұрын

What you said about her beliefs come across as both incidental and sincere brought to mind a metaphor I incorporated in my thinking some 20+ years ago: "Silent rivers run deep." People who have absorbed their religion and are at one with it tend not to trumpet their religious beliefs, instead making only occasional reference to it. Likewise, rivers that have been around for extended periods of time usually manage to carve deep into the landscape they flow in, creating depth to their existence and minimizing the sound their water makes as they gingerly meander along. Younger, less established rivers are far more limited when it comes to the space the volume of water is given to flow through, usually generating more sound as it scurries over rocks and ground that may be but mere feet or inches below the surface.

This is so beautiful, I must confess ve just spoken direct to me I need to pick myself up and start doing the right thing. Many thanks Ms Emma Lots of love from Uganda.

You are really easy to listen to and I learn so much from your videos.

Omg you are like a modern healer. After this video was over I was able to listen to my thoughts and I recognized I was setting myself up for failure. Wow just wow. You literally made it so I could let love in and rationalize my thoughts and emotions. You are an angel!

Woah, that feeling of predestination is something that rules my life, I'd never seen anyone articulate it so eloquently and I didn't even realise it was a common experience🤯

Painted cow cattle guards is about the best analogy I have heard, ever! You are so creative, Emmal - love it. Thank you!

This is so powerful and eye opening thank you very much for this! I like to use the shirt metaphor when I start judging myself as well as others. I ask myself: am I this shirt? Obviously no bc I can change my shirt if I feel like it- it's totally my choice. I can wear a red shirt, blue, etc. Thoughts work the same way. When we identify with our thoughts, it's like identifying with our shirt- it doesn't define us and we can change it if we so choose to. To change our reality, we must see that the judgements we place upon ourselves are the same judgements we place on others, and vice versa. Life is a mirror. When we treat ourselves with unconditional love, we do so to others as well. However, never pressure yourself to be more loving, for that too is a form of judgement. Rather, write down the consistent beliefs and thoughts you tell yourself and determine how someone else would feel if you told that to them or even someone who is experiencing the same specific challenges as you. Like a passing cloud, thoughts come and go. Just take a deep breath and let them pass. They always do. If you were your thoughts, when they fade, so would you, and yet you remain. You are more powerful than you realize!

@Ella-dd3vz

2 жыл бұрын

this is beautifully written!

@iilgmelo6634

2 жыл бұрын

This is really eye opening thank you 😄

@rayscott82

Жыл бұрын

Whoa! 🔥💪🏾🔥💪🏾

Really good video, I'd give it 5 stars if that were still a thing on KZread. Instead of saying "I am an introvert" I like to take on an observer viewpoint of "I have parts of me that are as a social animal, and enjoy having food, water, and a sense of community"

@TherapyinaNutshell

2 жыл бұрын

nice!

@andraste6746

2 жыл бұрын

That’s awesome.

You do know just by discussing these things and also your anxiousness topics you're not only helping us and my friends( I actually recommend your channel everytime) you're also making other people whos so deep in the "dark" inch by inch understand themselves and even saving a life. THANK YOU FOR THIS I dont know about the others but I am so thankful your channel exists Be safe and healthy thank you :* sending digital hugs and love from Manila

@rachelsalex

2 жыл бұрын

Love your easy to listen to style and amazing content.

@bettyjgandy2306

2 жыл бұрын

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Okay, bawling my head off. Asking my Higher Power how do you see me? I was overwhelmed with such a strong sense of love, I almost couldn’t bear it. ❤🎉

Emma, thanks for sharing this message of HOPE and not allowing us to wallow in our broken past. I am a new creation! So from now on we regard no one from a worldly point of view. Though we once regarded Christ in this way, we do so no longer. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation: that God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting people’s sins against them. And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation. 2 Corinthians 5:16‭-‬19

Emma...I stumbled upon your videos and I can't thank you enough. So many of these skills are exactly what I've been needing. I especially love that you are a Christian. How cool is it that God's word authored so many, if not all of these skills you teach. He knew what we would need! And he raised up people such as yourself to present the concepts in a clear, methodical fashion. Thank you for what you do. You are making a difference! 😊☝️💛

Not me having to check the title of the video again after you jumped straight into talking about cattle guards and agriculture 🤣🤣 For real though, these videos have actually been a godsend during the pandemic and have been helping me so much as someone who can’t afford therapy rn and is living in lock down. I’m taking notes during every video like a good little student 😅 Thanks for making these lessons freely available and always taking the time to explain topics in depth. It’s been helping me more than you’ll ever know and I suspect it’s the same for a lot of other people watching too. You’re a gem!

@angelicasoto6501

2 жыл бұрын

Love it - same experience

I wish I heard this 20 years ago. Beautiful. Thank you❤

The best video on KZread about limiting beliefs! 🙏👍👌

I don’t need personal therapy because this channel exists ❤

Thank you Emma.... And for spreading the word of God. Love from South-Africa

Emma, thank you, thank God for you...more grace to you & through you🙏

This helps with illnesses too. "I have trouble with xx...but i am not the illness."

I always learn something new here! :-) It hadn't occurred to me that positive labels could also be limiting! Thanks for that :-)

I can’t express how much your channel has helped me.. I have watched your videos when I feel I have nothing left and just want to give up and you always give me good tips and advice. I can’t thank you enough

I love that your a spiritual person. I have not found many doctors that are in my area. Your a jewel. Thank you. You have helped me so much.

you-tubers like them deserve so much more subscribers, amazing work keep up

This was A VERY helpful segment !!

I love her semi-deep voice. It’s beautiful and relaxing.

Wow, I’ve been watching your videos for awhile and it just never really stuck to me, until this week. I have been dealing with depression for so long.. I got so sick of my life being terrible and I’m trying to get up again and get out of these labels and self limiting beliefs.Thank you for the encouragement and knowledge.

My relationship to my mental health has improved a LOT over the past two years. But as everyone does, I still have my wobbles. I return to this video the most in those moments like revision. It reminds me about how I frame my wobbles to avoid me becoming too cynical about how I'm feeling

What kind of therapist are you? e.g. CBT, psychodynamic, IFS, ACT etc? Your way of explaining emotional issues across all of your videos is the best I’ve seen on KZread and clearer than in-person therapy that I’ve engaged in.

Your videos have helped me a lot. Glad to hear you're a child of God!

I do the "I'm better than" comparison all the time. I think it originated from me competing constantly in sports when I was young. Only over the past year or so I've started to see it as an unhealthy way of thinking. This video really confirms and accelerates my motivation to change. Thank you

My PHP (virtual) used this amazing video. The quote at the beginning knocked me over! The way you present the material makes it a logical process, and it's so accessable! I can't wait to start watching this whole series. I think I'll even use each video as an art prompt for afterwards! Thank you so much!

I don't understand all you said but I got this point what you say. I just new learning English skills and I am struggling with the self-limiting belief I hope I can speak English fluently to translate your video into Indonesian languages. anyway, thank Emma your videos give me warmth and gratitude.

Been labeling myself saying "I'm a failure" "I'm stupid" "I'm an idiot" "I'm a bad mum" This has opened my eyes. I'm definitely keeping a check on it now

I can’t thank you enough, I was able to separate from my thoughts and see my labels more clearly. I was aware before I am the observer but this time I was aware of my ego as well, telling me it’s not safe explore all the negative things I think about. I was able to control it now by saying “no I choose growth”

Thank you so much Emma ...I am guilty of labelling myself as an anxious person or an overthinker. Now I can learn to say to myself...sometimes I overthink and sometimes im anxious or sad or lonely.

Thank you so much for the beautiful work lots of love and prayers from Egypt

Love your calming voice Emma ❤

I just want to say thank you. I appreciate that you are a member of the church and you aren't afraid to let that come out in your videos. Your topics and messages have been very helpful for me. Have you considered releasing a course with regards to healthy eating? I realize that my eating habits have taken a nose-dive in recent years and when I try to make even the most incremental of positive changes, my brain rejects the thought and I get even worse in my decision making! I'm sure this isn't anything new but would be interested in a course to help me change my thinking.

A better help commercial on Facebook had phrase "I have emotions, I am not emotion " and truly seeing myself as observer of my emotions instead of being my emotions was amazing.

Thank you so much dear therapist, you're so wonderful, I can listen and assimilat your teachings rapidly, I'm so grateful for your great work 🙏💖

Emma, your content is superb. I found your videos as companion pieces to the therapy sessions I presently attend. This video in particular cuts extremely close to the bone, as it hits so many points that I saw myself in practically every scenario you discussed. My struggle with finding a healthy sense of self has been lifelong (I'm nearing 50) and, only within the last six months, have I started to realize the damaging behaviors I put myself through and how much I clung to equally damaging labels. THIS video--if I may use slang from today's youth--hits different. Thank you for sharing your gift with us, and in particular thank you for THIS video that I will use on my path to healing.

I just want to say tank you ❤ l learn lot's of thing because of you and I try to cure my depression and fight it . I watch your video's and practice to become a good person and creat the happy life !! Thanks for your video's ❤❤❤❤

@TherapyinaNutshell

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Ghazaleh, keep up the good work! it adds up over time :)

@ghazaleh_exo

2 жыл бұрын

@@TherapyinaNutshell ❤

This is better than my 1year therapy

I just wanted to thank you for what ypu're doing you're helping me understand myself better and deal with my anxiety and stress . Be blessed

Loved this video. I am struggling with beliefs of superiority at work and it's been causing me to experience constant feelings of anger. This helped!

@videoettaceo8900

2 жыл бұрын

Good on you to have such great insight!

Will definitely check out others as well, but this certainly resonates with how I may be labelling myself without even being aware that I am. As always, thank you again for being you! Kind regards to you and yours. Stay well!

You are so kind THANK YOU FOR WHAT YOU DO!!

Amazing course! Thanks so much for sharing your knowledge !

Thank you so much for this video. it was incredible. i learned so much about myself. that example about thinking your smart really hit home because i often think about myself this way and feel so uncomfortable with being in spaces where i don't feel smart, so often times i'll avoid these spaces all together. this one belief about myself has not been helpful at all. i've missed out on so many opportunities to learn new skills.

Thank you for sharing and teaching. These are things we are working on to build a foundation with our children and by default healing our own disabling beliefs. Growth mindset is such a powerful and Grace filled tool ❤️

I really DO APPRECIATE your videos, THANKS FOR ALL THE FREE Therapy ! BE BLESSED!

This is a very helpful guide. I'd buy the course if I could afford it. Thank you so much for giving me part of it here on KZread.

Thank you so much. This is so helpful. ❤️

I needed this more than anything. Thank you so much for sharing this. Grateful 🙏🙏

I love the advice pointing out our all-or-nothing thinking about the kind of person I am…I am a smart person, I’m a hard worker. I did t think about how even positive labels are limiting. Some of my labels are defensive/protective, I’m not analytical and others are arrogant, I am a risk taker. You’ve given more to explore. Thank you

Such a strong and powerful message. Too often we enter into a vicious cycle of self-limiting belief. Absolutely love your channel! Sending you loads of positive vibes ☮️💟

Thank you Emma! Your vidoes are very helpful.

That wall exercise is really helpful for me. I think I may have some kind of disassociative disorder. I experienced death in the family when I was a teenager and that caused me to explore spirituality. And I think it led me to disassociate with reality. So I have some issues where I think things are talking to me when they're not talking to me. So like when I look at the wall I have trouble looking directly at it. It feels like I am the wall.

You are wonderful, Emma!

Thank you so much !Emma.You are definitely one of the best therapist I have know.One big hug

This is brilliant - it made me cringe just to hear it and accept that I do this all the wrong way around both on the positive side and the negative side - wow, so logical - and the message was delivered so gnetly.

Ty for putting out these eye-opening videos for free. So helpful and very much appreciated.

This is wonderful. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge so clearly.

Thank you so much! I love your videos!

Thank-you very much for putting these up on the tube. I've watched a few of them and they are helping me a lot.

Haven't come across anything so inspiring moving true as this. This is groundbreaking message.

This video came out at the right time! I was wondering why I don't have a solid identity and keep changing them according to the person that I want to please. It was insightful. I love "I am God's child" identity coz nothing can shake it. Can you make a video on how to have solid faith in God from psychological perspective? My faith in Him keeps fluctuating whenever I face obstacles in life. I want to get close to Him and hold onto him even when I face challenges. By the way I have BPD so that explains my splitting with God Himself! And about smartness as identity, I believe that the definition we give to it matters. To me being smart is being aware that I don't know everything and the willingness to learn. Thank you for your work. It's really helpful to understand myself a little more each day.

@sriku1000

2 жыл бұрын

Despite its biological consequences sibling marriages still take place in certain parts of the world. Spread this video to stop it kzread.info/dash/bejne/qGarptSietunqLw.html

Great advice.God bless you to share this.

I love your stuff , so practical, clear and concise… thank you !!!! You are blessing people

Thank you for this video , its very helpful .

I watch ur videos on a daily basis it means a lot I am grateful

Needed to hear it today. 💖thank you

This is so powerful thank you!

What I appreciate so much here is the use of such good and relevant examples and stories, thank you so much for your hard work.

Once again fantastic and great analogy thank you thank you

Love how you explain things. Thanks for putting such good, helpful and freeing information out there. Bless you!

I have a major decision to make in the very near future. The illustration of the cattle guards brought everything into focus. Will I let my self-limiting beliefs decide for me or will I choose which nature to water? I've been deliberating for days about this decision and in less than five minutes with Emma I know what I need to do and where to place my focus. Thanks Emma.

wow this video is extremely profound!! Love it

I’ve been watching your videos for a little bit now and they’ve been immensely helpful, especially this one. I’ve listened to this over and over and it’s calmed me immensely. Thank you🙂

I would have to have you in my head daily!" So much wisdom, thank you! 💖

This is helpful and you explained it clearly. Thank you.

Dear Emma, thank you for sharing your knowledge and wisdom. Regards from Germany.

Thank you so much 💫 I appreciate your videos are very helpful ⭐️🤍

Thank you for these video’s, these are life-changing and so filled with amazing truths! I appreciate you sharing these principles and tools and how beautifully and clearly and simply you state them!

Great insights Emma! Thank you!

Thank you ❤

So glad to have found your wonderful channel.

Thank you, this is so helpful. I've been experiencing some difficulties with setting boundaries. This really helps and makes me feel calmer.

Thank you! Very concise and to the point. Great examples too 👍🙂

I never thought of it this way, thank you for this!! :)

Thank you so much Emma for your videos...I find them very helpful. God bless you for showing yourself for what you are in a very humble way. Ciao

Thanks for this video! I now see I've said for years I'm an anxious person and that's not helped me to grow or move forward.

@TherapyinaNutshell

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah! You're a person who experiences anxiety (and a whole bunch of other things)

@livinlikelilly

2 жыл бұрын

Me too! It helps to close your eyes and feel exactly where the anxiety is. It separates you from the emotion and just notices it :)

Thanks for the great talk and God bless you and your family! Back again, great to review And reinforce lessons learned.

thank you, this was really helpful😀

Your definition of “experiencer” or “observer” was rather profound as this seems to happen in dreams often where I find myself playing both roles simultaneously. I am experiencing something in a dream, and then I am watching what I am experiencing at the same time! This has lead to some amazing revelations upon awakening. I have referred to the “observation” aspect as “my higher self”.