Good stuff man

I just had a flashback from NCO Leadership School in 1986. Never go to South Dakota during the winter. Thanks Top.

@STOKERMATIC

3 ай бұрын

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I was very fortunate to learn leadership in the military. Later to teach leadership. So often I was told that good leaders are born but I can tell you that you can teach leadership and people can learn leadership and become good leaders. You are right that good teams have good leaders. Without a good leader even if it is a as I use to say "common enemy number one" groups struggle and missions are compromised. Every organization should teach leadership no matter what kind of mission they perform. They most certainly will benefit from it.

@STOKERMATIC

3 ай бұрын

Couldn’t agree more!

I never aspired to be a leader, but due to me having the welfare of others, forced me into that role. Always checking in on cohorts, subs, and intermediaries. “How can I help? What do you need?” Etc. I’ve always surrounded myself with the people that had the most experience and knowledge. If you build a report with them, when in time of stress, you can rely on them for input/solutions. Leadership is a pressure spot, underlings will come to you for answers. Never say, “I don’t know”, instead guide them By saying, “ let’s go talk to the one in the know and we’ll both have the right answer. It shows interest in the question and that even though you are the leader, you are willing to learn like the rest of the crew.

Leading by example is the best way i have seen

I have found through leaders I've encountered, they were working side by side with us, not necessarily physically but more motivational. They celebrated the wins, acknowledged the losses, and took the accountability upon themselves rather than on the team. One particular leader took it upon himself to ready his team as if each one of us was his replacement. He ensured we learned each positions responsibilities in a way that you didn't realize he was coaching you, teaching you things that showed you the why behind what you were doing. Setting the goals ever higher, and actually gave you the credit instead of stealing it when there were wins, and we went from bottom of the barrel to the top of the list within a years time. An incredible leader that I try to emulate every day.

@STOKERMATIC

3 ай бұрын

Awesome example!

The ironic thing is so many civilian managers seem intent on taking people who would want to work for them and then try as hard as possible to make them miserable.

My experience of leadership both in the Army and running several businesses now has lead me to one conclusion. Being a good leader, isnt about being intimidating or being the boss. It isnt about day to day shit. Anyone can hadle it when its all going smooth. Its about crisis management. When shit hits the fan and everyone is panicking the leader is the one who keep his shit, and makes decisions. Perhaps not perfect decisions. But managing those flight, fight and freeze responses and getting everything moving in some direction. I have found that in a crisis making any decision is better than not. Even if sub-optimal, lack of decisive action is often doom.

Thank you

Many wise words of wisdom. Thank you for sharing. Stay safe. ATB.

"ELITE company of fighting men" Heartbreak Ridge Manual in Leadership right there!

@STOKERMATIC

3 ай бұрын

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Teaching by example and nurturing followers to become leaders is what I imagine leadership to be, along with not humiliating/shaming students in front others for wrong think.

@STOKERMATIC

3 ай бұрын

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Thank you for the conversation.

I'm spinning Been for a while Now im seeing more family And enjoying the smile Maybe I'm not spinning I just slowed to turn Tomorrow I'll make better It's my first concern

If you are standing around wondering “who is in charge?” The answer is YOU!

@STOKERMATIC

3 ай бұрын

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I can only speak from personal experience on the subject of " leadership ". I have always been an independent operator no matter where I have worked or what job it was I had. I've always known exactly what my job was, exactly how to do it, exactly when to do it, and exactly where to do it. I learned all of this when I was in the military. I'd get my orders, go out and do what I was ordered to do, and then come back and repeat the process with new orders. I've never been or considered myself to be a " leader " of any kind. To me, the subject of " leadership " has always been a foreign concept or set of ideas. It's all structured for people that can only think a certain way and never outside of the box.

@STOKERMATIC

3 ай бұрын

Leading yourself - where it all begins. 🥃

@davidjacobs828

3 ай бұрын

​@@STOKERMATIC Green screen ? I never knew you worked at NASA .

I've never seen real leadership. So I've always been solo. But nothing beat a team, no one is better then the next man, team work makes the dream work.

Team player myself, I lead alone

Your book just came in today cant wait to start reading it. 👍

Thank You1 Great topic to be presented. Lots of poor leadership out there - civilian and military. Good to bring this to peoples attention. Definitely a matter that everyone needs to work on.

Unfortunately many people will not succeed do to poor leadership not just in a shift hit the fan situation but in everyday life at your job ! Somehow the wrong people are always put in positions of leadership as they are willing to do what they’re told not what’s right.

thanks

Thank you sir , keep up the good work, may Jeshua bless you and your family.

The only "I" in "team" is the one one yer teammates watching yer six with.

man that deletion of my link was fast! ;)

I like.

BE- KNOW- DO-

I'm here to learn how to be a good leader, and search for the comments claiming those cows in the background aren't real

@STOKERMATIC

3 ай бұрын

It’s all a green screen man. 🤣

Hey Bill! I was wondering if your still selling Stoked hats? I can not find them on your website or Amazon. Thanks!

@STOKERMATIC

3 ай бұрын

Hats, no. Patches - yes. On my site.

I wish you would talk about the more important things in life. Like your beard. Please do a beard video. I'm growing my first beard and I'm trying to style it like yours. Come on man

@STOKERMATIC

3 ай бұрын

Maybe… But in short - let it grow. First 3 months are the hardest most awkward - at 6 months it feels like it’s getting somewhere. You don’t need balms or oils or butter or wax. Just time and patience. At 3-4 months you’re ready for your first trim. You can do it yourself but it can be scary. But like sharpening a knife, you probably won’t ruin it. You got this!

@Nath4n1977

3 ай бұрын

@STOKERMATIC ok, yeah I did trim a little, but yeah I heard patience is paramount. been a month. 👍

Be, Know, & Do.....self-discipline.....and TLPs.....Getter Done....lol

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Is a leader born or made? Probably part genetic predisposition, then you can layer the teaching part/life experience on top. Studies have shown that even 3-5% of a crowd can influence the rest - hence the rise of the 'Instagram Influencer' generation, some of whom are heavily funded, and most of us can agree these are the last kinds of people who have any 'leadership skills'. I've never liked the idea you could learn leadership from a 'leadership school' like the NCO/Officer school in the army, or even in the civilian world we had in med school a 'leadership school' of sorts. Sure, a few of these people might be good leaders, but most of them are taught to be effective cogs in a larger machine, kissing the A- of higher-ups and fitting the ethos the organisation wants, they're more 'influencers' who have the backing of the organisation than leaders. More like managers, who manage stuff, but don't necessarily have leadership ability. Which brings me to the next point. I know people like to point towards their favorite politician as a leader but that's more because of their perceived policies and backing(usually financial) rather than such a person being a leader. We also can't all be leaders (our current narcissistic society promotes this idea) and society does need leaders and followers. You reading this, would you really like to follow (or have your family or people you care about follow) any of the people you see today both in real life and the mass media?? Do leaders even make a single percentage point of the people you see?? And even if you do see a few leaders many of your fellows don't agree with you and without some kind of consensus (or force, which then isn't real leadership imho, more a dictatorship) nothing can be achieved. So that is the real problem I think, as well as lacking 'real leaders', we lack people who can have a large number of followers who are genuninely grassroots in enough shared values in supporting that leader imho; we have too many people wanting to be the Chief and not enough people wanting or capable of being followers(narccistic society; internally society is divided). Being in the same country isn't enough. Having the same skin color isn't enough. You need a common ideology that enough 'common people' buy into and that only exists in third world countries, not the ideologically fractured west. Most of your neighbours (mabye all the people you know) of the same skin tone as you - 90% of his or her thoughts easily don't align at all with yours. And along with lacking genuine leaders of ability, this is the second main problem - the problem of achieving meaningful social consensus of enough shared values in our hyper-individualistic society; lacking real social consensus between enough people who are willing and capable of being 'followers'.

@STOKERMATIC

3 ай бұрын

Appreciate you sharing your thoughts amigo! Lots to chew on!