As a GenX, I use dark humor. I use it to see who can take it, and who's a little whiny *****. There's an old adage, "What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger.". GenX has modified that adage a bit, "What doesn't kill me, had better run like hell.".

@hampusbrokmann8249

3 ай бұрын

Exactly

@jamesanthony8438

3 ай бұрын

I also use: "What doesn't kill me had its chance." =)

@hampusbrokmann8249

3 ай бұрын

@@jamesanthony8438 nice one 😂😂👏👏

@dreadcthulhu5

3 ай бұрын

@@jamesanthony8438 Like it. Borrowing it.

@justintime41776

3 ай бұрын

Bingo was his name-O

Had a psychiatrist ask me about childhood traumas, and so I started listing them chronologically. He eventually puts up his hands in surrender saying "stop. I've heard enough. Just stop it". Me: but I'm only up to three. I've got another 27 years to go. He writes a letter back to my regular doctor saying that I have "fantastical tales of childhood" From there I have decided that statement will be the title of my autobiography "Fantastical tales of childhood and other equally unbelievable events that actually happened" What do you all think?

@m_d1905

3 ай бұрын

I love it!

@anvilsbane

3 ай бұрын

Do it.

@zhenren9703

3 ай бұрын

I was told by my therapist that I should write a book about my life. Wasn't sure if I should be offended or proud.

@annraines3573

3 ай бұрын

Love it 🙃

@StrangeQuack

3 ай бұрын

Went once, she said she's not qualified enough to help me and I just mentioned 3-4 little things from my childhood

It was literally a survival mechanism, crying wasn't an option it just made it worse.

@kalmac6255

3 ай бұрын

You wanna cry, I'll give you a reason to cry!!!

@elainstill1671

3 ай бұрын

​@@kalmac6255Omg! I remember that line right before I always blacked out! Yup, apparently my mother had a dark sense of humor also.

@AlldatJazz-rw9wy

3 ай бұрын

And that's a shame, we had to suppress our feelings out of fear, which means we have a lot of unsettled issues. That's a bad thing for some poor unsuspecting gen z person. When we go off, they start looking for the exit.

@cornishplumber5051

2 ай бұрын

Crying just made you wet and sad .

@TurboWulfe

Ай бұрын

Can confirm 😎🤘🍻

Take away dark humor from GenX and the world burns.

@durere

2 ай бұрын

the world _is_ burning mf, y'all should crack more jokes.

@fobbitoperator3620

2 ай бұрын

It presently is on 🔥🔥

@Hobbit1071

2 ай бұрын

@@durere Not Gen X on fire, you don't want to see that.

@DeAnnaG_KissingFrogsMedia

2 ай бұрын

Lol @durere. Nah this fire now, Gen X didn't light. (Billy Joel - We didn't start the fire 🔥) This current global 🔥 storm is the hell-fire of previous generations working its self out. Once that nasty fuel is gone, GenX will relight a pure fire to pass the torches to the next generations to carry on with, and you all can go forth, with our support, and let us live our lives in peace for a change.

@alphanerd7221

2 ай бұрын

@@durere Please. The world gets much worse than this.

When I was 8 a lady backed into me and my bike, it bent the frame, when I got home and told my mother she smacked me for not paying attention...

@paulquick8806

3 ай бұрын

So fuckin true 👍 🎉

@tabanderson5148

3 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂 the same thing happened to my sister (about 10-ish)!! A car backed into her while we were walking. When she told my mom, my mom said "did you watch for reverse lights or were you goofing off?" 😂😂😂😂 If an incident happened, we walked it off. Even now as an adult, I will walk it off.

@garywilkens8329

3 ай бұрын

And because we got in trouble for injuries that weren't our fault we didn't want to go to the doctor now

@golfnz34me

3 ай бұрын

I severely sprained my ankle playing basketball and my mom screamed at me because I was gonna miss a day of work.

@onceuponanexploration6048

3 ай бұрын

Yep. Don’t tell your parents anything.

The glint in your eye with the “that would be interesting” at the end was probably the most GenX thing about this.

@matthews2122

2 ай бұрын

Definitely made me laugh😈

@DeAnnaG_KissingFrogsMedia

2 ай бұрын

Lol burning down the world is this mans happy thought

@davidghizzoni6796

2 ай бұрын

Involuntary chuckle at the end. That might say something about me.....

@nadjasunflower1387

Ай бұрын

@@davidghizzoni6796 naa...your good...perfectly adjusted, emotionally stable....bah...what am I talking about...we're Gen X none of that shit is true !!! LOL

@nrais76

10 күн бұрын

Yes, that was awesome.

This is an excellent summary. The other point is that discussing it is a triumph of "look where I am now, in spite of all that."

Example of my dark humor: My parents died in 2015, and a few months later when I was talking to my maternal grandmother, she was starting to cry over the loss of my Mom (her first born). I said to her, "Well there is one good thing about all of this." She asked what it was, and I replied, "It's two less people to Christmas shop for." My grandma started laughing, and said she thought about making a similar joke, but she thought I would be upset. I had to remind her, that in our family, we all love dark humor.

@irinawarning4482

Күн бұрын

😂😂😂👍👍👍 i m 64, i lost my parents, my only son , my soul mate dog, i can laugh at it. Ly 31 y o acquaintance will be horrified hearing this joke.

I died one time when I was 7. Mom told me to walk it off. So I did.

@TheReddg71

3 ай бұрын

Your mom was of the mindset, "If you die? I'm not taking you to the hospital! Do you know how much my co-pay is for that shit?!" 😄😆😅😂🤣

@nathandc

3 ай бұрын

Did you rub dirt on it?

@brianwarshow129

3 ай бұрын

@@nathandc Of course. Cheers.

@durere

2 ай бұрын

You're weak, I have already died 2 times by the age of 7. By drowning. And I'm a Pisces.

@spacecadet2263

2 ай бұрын

Ahahaha sounds about right 😂

Or if you absent-mindedly answer some poor unsuspecting person's innocent question with just some blunt statement of (traumatic) fact then catch the horrified 'wtf!?!' expression on their faces. That's good for a laugh too. I don't think we've (GenX) ever claimed our coping skills are healthy... have we?

@lorireed8046

3 ай бұрын

OMG ... I'm so fed up with hearing "dealing with X In a Healthy way" .... Well, my dark humor and plain ole matter of fact attitude beats your drugged out whining healthy way, Karen.

@danielbaker8647

3 ай бұрын

You find it offensive, I find it hilarious...that's why I'm happier than you.

@lorireed8046

3 ай бұрын

@@danielbaker8647 I so love getting a notification from a thread where my comment was censored. This has become a very common and all too often issue KZread has. Ohh it must be something they are trying to fix . Haaaa 😁

@traillesstravelled7901

3 ай бұрын

Well, I'd say our coping skills, are somewhere between right, wrong and bootstrapping functional. Lost friends to drugs and alcohol, also know people who are , in a way, bulletproof from the crap of life.

@DeborahA_247

3 ай бұрын

Well Said!!!

There’s no crying in Gen X. Laugh it off, walk it off and carry on.

@C_majuscula

20 күн бұрын

And plan your revenge.

When people look at me like, “Why are you laughing at what happened to you? That was awful!”, when I recount certain things humorously, I always say, “Look, I can laugh about it or I can cry about it. I’d rather laugh.”. Because, seriously, a lot of dark things happened to me in my childhood, but I won’t let any of it defeat me. Younger generations would be in therapy the rest of their lives if they lived through a fraction of what Gen-Xers went through on a daily basis.

@rebeccamitchell2001

2 ай бұрын

Life is a great tragedy or a great comedy all depends on your perspective

@nadjasunflower1387

Ай бұрын

" and there's no one home, in my house of pain. " bonuse points if you can tell me the band. (no cheating and looking it up ) but your absolutely right. there's two ways to go, laugh about it, and cry about it. ones positive, ones...well...Millenials will understand the second one. LOL

@CheshyLARK

Ай бұрын

@@nadjasunflower1387 hmmm…. Could’ve picked a different line from that song. Almost too easy. But, yeah, I’m horrible with names so I did look it up and felt my full 45 years old again. Funny how that works.

@petesanger3041

Ай бұрын

​@@nadjasunflower1387fasterpussycat..great song

@irinawarning4482

Күн бұрын

My 31y o friend always feels depressed snd sad and everything in between… i am 64, had an interesting childhood in a different country, learned how to be alone and take care of myself, moved to US at 40 with a son, walked the way of settling here, lost my parent, my only son, my beloved dog - I look at her every time and ask “why?” And genuinely cannot get it. Oh , yeah, she does have a therapist. When I feel sad - i get me s bottle of wine, call a friend ( if possible, if not - watch a disaster movie.

I get this completely. I was an orphan foster kid and was on the streets by age 15 so my humor actually saved my life because if you can make a gangster laugh they keep you around. Also I wss vulnerable as a little girl so protecting myself physically was a problem. My words and story telling entertained the criminals. Also think I had angels 😇

@2were5678

2 ай бұрын

Even a king had the jester.

@lilithcumswelltm

2 ай бұрын

@@2were5678 Exactly! Lol 💙

And this is why I was just un-phased by the pandemic. I just expect bad things to happen, and then roll with it best I can, joking myself through it. Also, I just like to be left alone. 😂😂

@jae4807

11 күн бұрын

Quarantine in my own home was the best part of the 'pandemic'.

@krinklekid

8 күн бұрын

Be water my friend.

Us Gen Xr's faced death on an almost daily basis. Of course we used dark humor to laugh it off.

The ones who couldn’t get over it, and joke about it, are the ones that become serial killers.

So much truth, right there. Raise your hands if you have suppressed and repressed a h**l of a lot of darkness and rage to make life a little easier on those around us. The same goes for those of us who have worked in Emergency services. Robert A. Heinlein wrote in 'Stranger in a Strange Land': Michael - "I've found out why people laugh. They laugh because it hurts so much . . . because it's the only thing that'll make it stop hurting."

@AlldatJazz-rw9wy

3 ай бұрын

Amen to that. Also there a lot less deaths that way too.

Several GenX did let that rage out. They ended up in military serves, prison, or cemetery.

@flobp2381

3 ай бұрын

Or all three, or maybe a combination....

@sully0001

3 ай бұрын

Those that joined the Military just got darker coping skills and training in blowing things up.

@AlldatJazz-rw9wy

3 ай бұрын

Some of understand being a mercenary too. If we come for you, you won't know when, where, or how, because we'll eat your insults because that won't bother us, it's the disrespect that will get you served. Like I said, they won't know when or where, just know it's coming.

@Exiled.New.Yorker

2 ай бұрын

Fellow #ptsd warriors, google "cptsd stellate ganglion block". Appadently Navy Seals call it "The God Shot". Already taking steps here.

@lupaswolfshead9971

2 ай бұрын

@@sully0001 heh heh heh.

One of the hardest things I ever did was try to write a little bio for a company website. It made realize how f*d up my life really was and how hard it was to try and sound normal. Dark humor sometimes is the only thing helping to hold us together. You have to be able to laugh at it… it’s the only thing to get us through sometimes.

@AlldatJazz-rw9wy

3 ай бұрын

We have to laugh, because if we think too long on it, people will start coming up missing.🤣.

@pdxmusl1510

Ай бұрын

😂 I had a similar thing. My company did this round table with everyone to talk about our worst thing that happened to us. An attempt at getting to know everyone better. I politely declined to respond. You don't want to know what my worst thing was. Many people were gen x in that room and did basically the same thing.

I’m a member of generation x. When I was growing up, we had to actually get up and physically change the channel on the TV. AND, if we needed to get information for a school project, we had to go to a building called a library.

@BleepBeepClick

Ай бұрын

But don't touch the TV if Dad is watching.

I'm GenX born in 1976. When I was 10yrs old the space shuttle challenger exploded and my whole 5th grade class watched it on TV. The next week kids were talking about the science teacher that was on the space shuttle when it exploded. Saying "She was a Science teacher but now she's History!!! 😮😮😮😂😂😂

@al201103

2 ай бұрын

I don't know which one of us is a more terrible person - you for writing the joke out or me for laughing at it!

@CoreyjGrieve

2 ай бұрын

I remember the day it happened a kid at my school said to me " Ya know what NASA stands for? .... need another seven Astronauts! Cold.

@DeAnnaG_KissingFrogsMedia

2 ай бұрын

I remember kids singing "Ride Sally Ride!"

@lupaswolfshead9971

2 ай бұрын

oh the 7 up jokes about the shuttle disaster.

@lupaswolfshead9971

2 ай бұрын

see if I can remember it. Why does nasa not have sodas on the shuttle. Because they cannot get 7up. or why does nasa only have pepsi/coke on the shuttle . Because they cannot get 7up. Or the dark one that kids is why you donot let women pilot the shuttle..

I use it all the time. GenX (68). Traumatic childhoods, veterans, soldiers… we all do it to get through it. You really don’t want to see the rage, & frankly, we don’t want to feel it. If it upsets you, find yourself a safe space. We are who we are.

@myownproductions333

3 ай бұрын

Right.,

@dshepherd107

3 ай бұрын

@@myownproductions333 💯

@chrisfrisch1347

2 ай бұрын

68 yrs old puts you born in 56, which makes you a boomer, x starts in mid 60's, not mid 50's though i can see how and why you would like to retain your youth

@petalparker5

2 ай бұрын

@@chrisfrisch1347Born in 68

As a Gen X with three decades in the military, I have a sense of humor that most would consider “way too obscene.” I have heard females in the military joke about shit that makes my jaw drop…… leave those girls alone, some of the shit they joke about will make you cry.

@crikey6979

18 күн бұрын

I am one of those pirate 🏴‍☠️ military girls!! lol!!

That is why Gen X is so sarcastic and loves dark humor. Trauma has to be dealt with somehow and we choose to make fun of our pain and laugh through it

CAUSE WE ALL WENT THROUGH THE SAME SHIT!!!!!! And knowing that other people know the same thing is powerful. ...(and that "letting it out with rage" thing would be powerful too. But in a different way).

@rickpilhorn

3 ай бұрын

Anyone remember: 1. "Go outside and play"

@TheKrispyfort

3 ай бұрын

"I brought you into this world and by god I can take you out of it"

@rickpilhorn

3 ай бұрын

@@TheKrispyfort A classic for sure.

@nonplayercharacter6478

2 ай бұрын

@@rickpilhorn Yeah, "what are you doing in the house? You had to pee? Get your ass back outside." Unless the street lights come on and you're 5 blocks away.... whole different kind of yelling. ;)

For Gen X dark humour is our coping mechanism.

@myownproductions333

3 ай бұрын

And our love language (when we can love)😂

“That would be interesting” The phrase that defines an interested generation.

I can't let out my childhood trauma any other way then writing it all down in a book that the reader hopes is fictional, but when they flip to the back page to says Based on the true life events of the author

@SiiriCressey

3 ай бұрын

Real book?

We have to laugh at, because there would be a lot of unsolved cold cases if we didn't.🤣🤣🤣🤣

@nadjasunflower1387

Ай бұрын

TRUE...my gpa showed me a place where there's a looooooooong drop. the only thing finding any pushed in there are earthworms. LOL

I often forget that my humor is dark and dry. This takes younger folks by surprise because they don't recognize it as a joke and i say it so matter of factly. I've definitely gotten a few "holy crap don't mess with that guy" looks and I've had to remember what i just said to figure out why.

@myownproductions333

3 ай бұрын

So you can say it again when you need to end a conversation?! Please say yes…Hello, my name is Noneayobiness and I’m a GEN-Xer!

@gaywizard2000

3 ай бұрын

Many young people don't know if I'm joking or serious or sarcastic, and I don't often explain but just laugh.

@mjolnir3309

3 ай бұрын

@gaywizard2000 that's the way!

@nadjasunflower1387

Ай бұрын

LOL...naa...you got that sheet on lock. play it right and you have that agent 47 persona going on at the office. LOL

I need to play this at the next unit meeting, just to savour the look on the younger members faces with this eloquent closing line

@irinawarning4482

Күн бұрын

😂😂👍👍👍

As a Gen Xer with ADHD, my dark sense of humor is on point!!... All the masking we had to do was fucking insane.

Raised on neglect and garden hose water. Combat in Afghanistan was a breeze. Gen X Rules!!!

@AlldatJazz-rw9wy

3 ай бұрын

Real talk. After a childhood like that, there is no such thing as fear.

Truth Brother! When I recount some of the things that have happened to me, most people look at in disbelief thinking that I'm lying...lol

Tell me you're Gen X without telling me you're Gen X: Gen Xer on KZread: "My brother used to throw knives at me" Me: 😆😆😆 I hit my brother in the forehead with a rock that left a welt the size of ping pong ball

@darrennew8211

3 ай бұрын

I really miss the old toys, like the creepy crawler hot plates and the chemistry sets with real chemicals in them.

@jefffischl6630

3 ай бұрын

My friend's brother still has a BB in his chin because of me... we just played harder.

@zhenren9703

3 ай бұрын

​@@jefffischl6630my cousin has a 3rd teet from a bb gun.

@sokyoutdoors588

3 ай бұрын

@@zhenren9703I still have a scar on my knee from a kitchen knife that got implanted there when my best friend and I were playing mumbly peg in his back yard.

@AlldatJazz-rw9wy

3 ай бұрын

My brother hit me with an iron pipe....in my head. We were playing pit. Those were the days.

From Ed, Edd, n Eddy: "You know what they say: a little childhood trauma builds character." 😕

I was 8 when my brother strangled me, I was told I was being dramatic, I was 8 when my brother pushed me down a slide with metal screws ripping open my arm from elbow to wrist, mom said "go outside and play, you'll be fine" . We learn at a early age that adults didn't give a f about us, that's how we learned to be independent and figure it out on our own. If we didn't joke, we would ALL be 6 ft under, in an asylum, or prison. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger is what we were encouraged to believe.

So true. Being able to laugh at the darkness that touches us helps keep us sane.

As a Gen X kid, I'd disappear most days & my parents wouldn't give a shit where I was or what I was doing. But if I wasn't home in time for dinner, man, I'd get the 3rd degree about where I was & what I was up to

Gallows humor is a traditional form of humor and also a coping mechanism. I'm not sure how he didn't know that.

Dark humour is a lot like a still born baby It never gets old

It's also like stuff that happens when you're in the military. Shit that is funny now wasn't usually that funny when it was happening, but now years, or decades later it's funny to talk about it. Now being a Gen-X'er who was also in the military, that's some real dark shit right there.

@ctrash

3 ай бұрын

Nothing like taking your shitty childhood out on an entire country of people's who's live are far worse than yours and you only it made worse while some how crying like a baby about how bad you had it. Yeah that 6 year old Muslim girl with a bullet hole in her throat really empathizes with you.

@ctrash

3 ай бұрын

Gen x will.never shut up about bad they had it while simultaneously patting themselves on the back for making things worse for everyone else. Garbage humans.

@AlldatJazz-rw9wy

3 ай бұрын

It's not just military. I grew up in the home of a alcoholic, I didn't go to the military because they would've dishonorably discharged me for beating up my CO, because I already had PTSD from my childhood. Even now I can't stand to be hollered at, or have some raise their voice at me. If you do, you better be ready to fight, run, or be my friend. Bad asses, and enemies don't stand a chance, and I can't stand bullies.

@nadjasunflower1387

Ай бұрын

LMFAO !!! fuck yeah !!!! Gen X by themselves is a level.....Gen X in the military is a WHOLE new level !!!! lol (Uncle Sam's misguided Children)

My brother once convinced me to play “lightsaber” with him when dad was putting in a new sprinkler system. I stood on the far side of the lawn. He on the other with a bundle of PVC pipe. I had one. He threw them like javelins. I blocked a couple. Until one was embedded in my cheek. 43 or so years later… I still have a backwards C scar on my cheek. 🙃

Laughter is healing. You always know when someone has been through something, when they're practically a stand up comedian.😂

@DADela-ht6ux

2 ай бұрын

This is exactly why today's young comedians suck.

It goes back to the saying "We laugh to keep from crying"

Defensive mechanic. It's like spitting in the face of karma and yelling it didn't hurt. Gen X owns "IS THAT ALL YOU GOT ?"

Back in '86 I was riding my bike to school, my front wheel got caught in some discarded wire and jammed, I went face first onto the floor and slid 6ft in the gravel. I carried my bike home, washed my face and walked to school holding a cloth against my face to stop the bleeding, when I got there I apologised for being late and explained why because that was better than what would happen if the school told my parents I was late! GENX - "Sticks and Stone may break my bones but angry parents will definitely kill me!"

@nadjasunflower1387

Ай бұрын

LMFAO!!! no shit...angry parents are the bane of Gen X LOL

If you don’t want to cry, choose laughter. Works every time.

Anectdotally; younger gens interpret dark humour as some kind of hate, or inaproapriate speech. For them its all about talking it through and 'feeling' the trauma and taking care of self and wallowing in the ooze, rather than just a psychological reframing it to make it less threatening and thus becoming more operational people. they go on about becoming resilient and harder skinned, but offering comment on their situaion to do so, can bring some trouble. I am labeled as somewhat damaged but I was taught to just get up and get on with life, nobodys coming for you and you aint entitled to it either, in the words of wisdom once held by superior mortals: "ain't noboday got time for that". p.s. Scottich, genX, veteran (54) here: liking the cut of your jib sir! (subbed)

@timgodderis1918

3 ай бұрын

Aren't we all 'a bit damaged' ? Statler and Waldorf were role models for me.

@AlldatJazz-rw9wy

3 ай бұрын

Oh man, that sounds like my 25 year old daughter. She kills me with the "trying to figure it out"...shit. Like I told her, it is what it is. She can't stand my straight forwardness. Like I told, I just dgaf... She's my girl tho, I just told her stop judging me, because if I start talking about her, she just shuts down, but I show her mercy. She knows now, not to go too far with me.

@debcarsonart

2 ай бұрын

Youngers grew up in the "no spanking" era. We were started with " babies should be left to cry in their cribs. Don't reward them for crying by soothing them. Pick em up when they are quiet"...and finished with "stop cryin or I'll give you something to cry about!".

@debcarsonart

2 ай бұрын

By the way...what if that withholding of love taught a whole generation not to complain because you were just wasting your breath?

@Hannah-rl5lt

2 ай бұрын

Ain't nobody got time for that😂😂😂good one🇦🇺❤🙏

Laughing about the hardships we went thru growing up is how it is.

Idk, might be a cultural thing to. My dad's family was from Scotland. The sick shit we laugh about 😂 it's mad. Like, we know it's not funny. We laughed so many times talking about the time great gran broke a bottle over her husband's head, the ambulance picked them up, and when they got to the hospital and opened the ambulance doors, she was strangling him 😂 It's hilarious.

@nadjasunflower1387

Ай бұрын

welp..umm...that deffinately sounds like a Scottish thing. Had an online Scot friend who wanted me to desperately come to Scotland. Just so we could go to a pub so he could start a fight for him and I do deal with. (had I the money, for ticket and hotel I'd probably have done it) Because the 3 modes of USMC is fucking, fighting, or drinking....not neccesarily in that order. LOL

@careygrant493

13 сағат бұрын

Well looking back on it, it’s pretty damn funny 😅

"That would be interesting..." got me! Delightful ending!

@BUPC, sir! You speak to my Soul as a fellow Gen Xer! We went through shit and are able to laugh about it. Because our parents (Boomers) make no qualms about the way they raised us! The Greatest Gen, the Silent Gen, and The BabyBoomers. All helped create Gen X and are unapologetic about the way they all helped raised us! Gen X is the "Frankenstein Monster" of those generations! AND WE LOVE IT! 😄😆😅😂🤣

@nadjasunflower1387

Ай бұрын

gong to push back slightly on the fact of the " silent gen " since most of those were the after WWI gen. while the " lost gen " were the ones fighting in WWI. gee, history repeats itself. lost gen/silent gen...gen x - forgotten gen... hrrmmm...

@TheReddg71

Ай бұрын

@nadjasunflower1387 you bring up a very interesting point. And I think that Gen Alpha might be the next iteration of Gen X/Silent Generation. They are showing some characteristics of Gen X/Silent Generation.

This had me passionatly nodding in agreement to the very last smirk ;)

I'm 50, was born behind the iron curtain and we immigrated to Canada in the early 80s when immigration wasn't ubiquitous and "Commies" were hated. Humour is cathartic and a great coping mechanism. If you'd rather we act out then you're divorced from reality.

@nadjasunflower1387

Ай бұрын

LOL..no shit. what Gen X experienced before the Iron Curtain was by most counts insane....let alone those of you beyond the Iron Curtain. (just knocked back some good Irish whiskey for your families fight to be free, even if it is in Canada...LOL) (love our maladjusted hat...except when the winter olympics come and it's hockey time !!!!) LOL😁

This is why as a gen x I was perfect as a basic training instructor. The darkest of humour is a very valuable thing when you live in a forward base for months without showers and game stations. These young men got to learn this coping skill from the best. And it’s why they can’t fit in society after service. Like a gen x they have a different perspective on bullshit.

@AlldatJazz-rw9wy

3 ай бұрын

Well let me tell ya. I wasn't in the military but my perspective on b.s. is the same. After all the harsh realities I had to face being raised in a alcoholic home, and being rejected because I saw through the bull, my sarcasm is straight from the military. Tbh I was shown no quarter, and now call out the b.s. before it gets going. Especially being a Scorpio, revenge is dish best served cold. I laugh so no one gets hurt.

After my first taste of combat, I was pretty shook up about it, my gen x father told me about his. We laughed, hard. I went back to work the next day thinking this isn’t that bad.

I was skating on thin ice and before my non swimming brother broke through. Granted, getting him out was a win. We always joked about it, which, along with other incidents as well. Several months before passing of pancreatic cancer he said "thank you for saving my life when I fell through the ice". I had never thought about it that way. This is how we were bought up. My father always said "if you can't laugh at yourself who can laugh at." This was how we were bought up it was a learning experience with a good ending. GenX style.

Being able to pull yourself up and continue on, not allowing the BS to hold you back, that's some power. That's what people are supposed to do, too. Too many people allow things to gain power over them instead of them telling life what to do. It makes life a lot harder to deal with.

I was told by a psychologist during a divorce, that my dealing with trauma through humor was healthy. I didn't realize I was making people uncomfortable 🤔😅

"Letting ot out with rage, that would be interesting. " Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha.

I was playing in the park when i was about 7 years old. A couple of neighborhood bullies chased me up a tree and threw rocks at me for about a half an hour. They broke one of my teeth and i have a huge scar on my cheek from one of the sharp rocks. Eventually they got bored and left. Years later that was one of my turning point moments that caused my to join the Marines. On day one out of boot camp while on my 10 day vacation i tracked them down for a "chat". We "chatted" until i became bored. GenX doesn't forget.

@nadjasunflower1387

Ай бұрын

Fuck yeah !! Semper Fii !!! " HEY THERE JODY BOY ?? " (while different reason...still a fucking Jody !! ) GET SOME !!!

It seems like it's a healthy way of dealing and moving on from one trauma to the next . You not hung up on the past and laugh at it instead of letting it eat you up from the mind out and raging or breaking down mentally. Sounds wise to me .

Nurses, doctors, soilders and those kind of people have the best dark humour.

When I was 6yrs (only girl), my father and 6 older brothers went into the Gulf of Mexico during a hurricane while we were on vacation in FL I was on my way into the water when the youngest of the 6 got pulled under by a tide he was 7yrs at the time we spent 10 minutes looking before he resurfaced. My mom wouldn't let me in the water after that until the next day, and then we all were back in the water. Now, I'm a retired RN, and dark humour is a coping mechanism.

Yes. A sense of humor has really helped me live this long.

We used to share these types of stories in the Navy, out at sea. Good times. I retired from the Navy and got a job and tried to continue sharing these stories with young coworkers. Let me just say they didn't get it

I was 9 my brother was 7 and that was our 1st time many more in the years that. Makes you appreciate life alot more and more fun.

If I didn’t use dark humor, the alternative would be far more disturbing to everyone else than the humor! Like the sparkle in his eyes when he contemplates reacting with rage…a tiny bit disturbing, but it made me LMAO! That contemplation is a battle that my brain has several times a day. Unless I’m alone in my car, then I let the rage flow out of me like a tsunami.🤣☠️

I've been to prison twice. I've settled down now I got it out of my system.😂

@mattmozgiel2111

18 күн бұрын

That was your parole plea? I got it out of my system, I'm good now. What's past is prologue.

I’ve always called it, ‘Gallows Humour’.

Everytime I tell a younger or older generation my past, they usually cry. I sit there like wtf, it happened to me and I'm fine..one story, I got both my legs broke at 4 and had to army crawl up step to go to bed every night. ( Parents wouldn't carry me)

@TheKrispyfort

3 ай бұрын

I had a Viet Vet feel sorry for me That was when the childhood anecdotes stopped being funny and I realised that me still breathing in 2024 is unexplainable

@AlldatJazz-rw9wy

3 ай бұрын

I thought it was just me and my daughter. I talk to her about my experience, and she's shocked at how I laugh at it. I can say this tho, I any of those people tried to hurt me today, my daughter would take up the fight. But I wouldn't let her have all the fun.

@nadjasunflower1387

Ай бұрын

@@AlldatJazz-rw9wy hell yeah...can't let the " pupil " out do the " master " LOL ..... " GET SOME !! "

The last time Gen X let the rage loose we turned 30 miles of highway into the world's largest mass grave.

@JP-ec9rl

3 ай бұрын

It's still there. I went back to verify that nobody fucked with it in 2003.

@JP-ec9rl

3 ай бұрын

BTW, I'm GenX and we let a lot more rage loose than stormin Norman was allowed to. So, the "highway" wasn't the last time. We laid waste to cities, infrastructure and bunkers.

@jameswells554

3 ай бұрын

@@JP-ec9rl nah, they fucking tied our hands then, and they tied our hands for the remaining 24 years after that. We scared the dog shit out of everybody and after that it was Kinder and Gentler, and we had to fucking hold the whiny babies' hands and God for-fucking-bid you behave like a Professional Fighting Man and get into a fight, or worse offend some fucking shit weak Private by pointing out their Parent's mistake for not aborting them.

I should write a book with all the memories I have of traumatic events. Does anyone want to work with me on it? I recall walking to school in Amherst, NY in about 1990 (give or take a year or two, my memory is awful with dates and times). Previous years, I would walk with my older sister, but this year was different because she was now at the high school and I had to walk alone. I saw three men. One was being held by another, while the 3rd stabbed the held one in the stomach a bunch of times. I decided it was best to not run away since I knew I couldn't outrun them, and instead be like Daniel in the lion's den and face my fear head on. So, I put my head down and looked at my feet while continuing to walk. The two guys ran up on me and one was saying they can't leave a witness. I said, "I saw nothing and I've never been late to school." The other guy reasoned to the other: "If we take the kid, then the cops will really be after us. Let's go, we need to get as far as we can now." And they let me alone, and I told a teacher at school that an ambulance needs to be called for a guy I saw that was hurt. And for a month or so after I had to walk past the chalk outline (It wasn't really chalk, I would bet money that it was white electrical tape because I had touched it the next day and every time I do electrical stuff I am reminded of the dead homeless guy that didn't get help fast enough) and blood stained road, not realizing until years later that it meant he died right there. And then I recall being forced to take the bus and wanting to walk myself again, still passing the chalk outline every day. I consider this story as not even the closest brush with death I've had.

As a little kid, my parents would let me roam 8 or 9 miles away from home. Lived in the country, but it was more like your typical southwest wasteland. Didn't even dawn on me until i was nearly 30, "wait...i was like 9 and my parents literally let me roam like a wild dog that would hopefully find his way home?! WTF?!" When i asked my parents if they were HOPING i would get snatched they just laughed. 😅

I spent most of my life in a bad urban neighborhood. Bad as in hearing far off drive by shots the same way people fall asleep to white noise. Eventually, we moved to a small rural town closer to where my husband grew up. I forgot not everyone speaks Hood or Gen X humor. Told two sweet small town Boomers we became friends with how when thugs regularly torched stolen cars in a spot across from us, we’d just say, “Go get the marshmallows, honey, they torched another one!” The silence was both long and awkward.

There is a sticker on my water bottle that says, "At Least All This Trauma Made Me Hilarious," for a reason.

We have to laugh as gen x to save the world from us. Best believe they rather laugh with us, than at us. Our pain is only non spoken hell. They don't want any of that.

Every time me and my friend, who is also gen x, talk about flinching when our mom would go to slap us across the face we start cackling with laughter. We literally can't help it.

I love this. “That would be interesting.” Indeed!

I’m an Xennial and this is exactly how I deal with things. I almost died back in 2020 from anaphylactic shock and when I got out of the hospital I fought with my dad and walked home. There’s been many a time where I’ve dealt with some pretty messed up events. My dad body slammed me out of bed and I completely forgot right after it happened. Just another day.

Yeah most of us gen-x had no idea what social services was or that it even existed. Even if you called them and you weren't facing a life or death situation they'd tell you to grow a pair and figure out how to deal with the problem. I didn't even know there was a such thing as social services until I was visiting my cousin when I was 17. His dad was a disabled vet and got regular weekly visits. Learned about social services when they were delivering medical marijuana to my cousin's dad. The look on my uncles face when he realized his monthly supply was there was priceless!

I had a house once. It burned down. At least the Ex didn't get it in the divorce.

Gimli speaks truth. My little brother built nunchuks to come after me. 20 years later, dad was out in our front yard, pondering a fallen limb, scratching his head; wondering what two short broom handles with eye hooks, connected by a short chain had been doing up in the tree where I'd thrown them.

😂 4th grade, all the guys were jumping off a 6 foot deck, girl power kicked in and I had to do it too. Didn’t land right and I literally compressed my neck to the point I couldn’t hold my head right for almost a week. I just pushed through because telling a parent was not going to get me a trip to the doctor, just an a** whoopin’

@nadjasunflower1387

Ай бұрын

LOL...yeah...back when " girl power " was actually something to celebrate.. 😁 it meant we could hang with the guys...and if we fell short, at least we got regcognition from them becuase...." no chic ever did that kinda shit man !!! " LOL good times.

I wasn't prepared for the Army Basic Training back in 1989, (I was 19) as I was a top shelf athlete, could shoot the ass-hair off a muskeeter from a mile away, yet the brute force psychological pressures the DSs out on me kept me from performing at my best, initially. Then I adapted to it, used the stress as a motivational tool, & graduated on the "Commandant's 3." (CSM's selected best 3) I went into the Army a boy, came out a man. I literally had to train myself to deal with the stresses as an obstacle, which I can & WILL circumnavigate to the finish line. The fella speaks 100% pure TRUTH!!!

Blazing Saddles was our childhood theme movie. Make a Milleniel or a Gen Z kid watch it with you. Results are HILARIOUS!

Last line from a great book: "A child weaned on poison considers harm a comfort." It's good to share these stories with others of the time; as close to war-time camaraderie as most of us will ever get.

Me and my brothers often reminisce about all the crap we did to eachother. Stabbing eachother, heads smashed through windows etc. Youngsters today are so soft they don't have a clue.

You sir are pure gold! You put this better than I have ever heard it explained before. Do you do voice over work, or make ‘renaissance themed’ movies? You certainly would excel at either. So I guess being abused has shaped you into quite a talented man! Lucky you, huh!? We trauma survivors are clearly a superior species!🤭

Yeah, when you realize you're laughing when everyone else is grieving or in shock, you know... you just know.

"Embrace the HORROR!! Laugh at the PAIN!!!" For the HORROR expects us to flee. As the PAIN seeks to break us. Our laughter is our therapy.

My Therapist, needed a therapist when I got done dropping casual references to my childhood. She would say something that would trigger a memory and I would tell her a story .... and her eyebrows would touch the ceiling and her notepad would get covered in scratching, followed by her kind understanding voice "Oh Nick, thats just awful" Me: "Really ? You think so ? Huh, I never really thought of it like that"

Ahh yes… the dark humor comes out whenever family or friends wind up at the hospital. We can’t help it 🤷‍♀️

I tell everyone, "I try hard to be a good person but ALWAYS state I don't concider myself a nice person & my humour reflects the last part.

@AlldatJazz-rw9wy

3 ай бұрын

Curt, and sarcastic. I feel ya, my fellow gen xers. I love the sarcasm, it really shakes up the younger generation. That look of, "how can anyone think like that", is worth it. But they fail to understand, I MEAN IT...🤣

@nadjasunflower1387

Ай бұрын

@@AlldatJazz-rw9wy during the time I was in...In the Marines we had a saying..." taste death, live life. " as a Gen-X'er to all Gen-Xer's...that's my submission for our life motto....

It's how we choose to deal. We all have our coping mechanisms. Try and learn from our dark humor. Three is most likely an important lesson behind it.

My parents left me and my sister crying on the sand at the beach (we were worried they would drown, according to my parents years later) when we were 3 and 4 while they played together in the ocean. I got so sunburned that it left my face discolored and scarred for the rest of my life. I thought it was a giant birthmark til they told me the truth in high school. Thanks for damaging me mom and dad!

Well said, I went through some shit as a child and then signed up for another 25 years of going through shit in the Army without even a blink of an eye as towhy am I still doing this. I even look back at my past and think that no matter how bad it got at times, it was still the best days of my life.

I don't know if I'm a young Gen Xer, or an old Millenial, but man do i get this. My bro, myself, and our collective friends are all pros at dark humor. The youth of today get really worked up over that. We also had mosh pits when we were in our teens and twenties, which was the best therapy session ever! All of that pent up frustration came right out. There is no release for the kids now, except to take their anger to the streets.

"GOTTA GO FAST!" -that guys ceiling fan

@nadjasunflower1387

Ай бұрын

OMG...i have no words...except to laugh my ass off !!! LOL