Leave your concerns in the comments below #YesAllGamers

@williamnelson792

5 жыл бұрын

ok

@yam1212

5 жыл бұрын

ContraPoints give me time to watch it first geez :)

@msb4838

5 жыл бұрын

Oooh it's gonna be a juicy one!

@MariaBustamante1101

5 жыл бұрын

I'm concerned with the fact that u should have more suscribers

@batenthusiast7515

5 жыл бұрын

HI MOM

There definitely are pink brains and blue brains. Living people have pink brains and people who died of cyanide poisoning have blue brains.

@marina6860

3 жыл бұрын

lmao thank you for this

@ramywiles

3 жыл бұрын

@@FreeAssange Bud, give it a fucking rest and go do something nice for yourself.

@laurie7568

3 жыл бұрын

@@FreeAssange a cpervert? never heard of that one before

@ThePotatoSapien

3 жыл бұрын

This made me wheeze. Thank you.

@HockadayMath

3 жыл бұрын

Wild

"Excuse my beauty" This has been a staple in LGBTQ parlance for a while, and had no idea that it came from a trans woman in the face of oppression. I'm always shocked by how dark our history is.

@IMatchoNation

5 жыл бұрын

I went and watched the clip, and it's even more badass and depressing in its full context.

@mattsmith3750

5 жыл бұрын

I'm currently in the process of educating myself on trans issues and wider LGBTQ+ culture to support a friend who is currently transitioning and to be honest it's shocking how true this is. So much of the humour I have come across in the LGBTQ+ community is rooted in really dark stuff. I know a lot of great comedy historically was created by marginalised and oppressed groups but the context of "excuse my beauty" is honestly so upsetting, and yet there's something so powerful about that moment of defiance that I can totally understand why its become a commonly used phrase.

@akebjornblad9478

5 жыл бұрын

Excuse my beauty is the prequel to "Fuck my drag, right?"

@saradanhoff6539

5 жыл бұрын

@@algonzalez6853 How is transgenderism degenerate? I checked a dictionary and degenerate behavior is that which diminishes or deteriorates the individual mentally, physically, or morally. Yet I dont see people being diminished or decline in any of these aspects during a healthy transition, usually the opposite, and significantly so. I'm confused because I honestly can't understand why people are so angry about them they're calling them degenerate. The only behavior I see causing mental, physical or moral diminishment/deterioration arises from the ones calling transpeople degenerate. Am I missing something huge here? Or is this just one of those internet asshole things?

@saradanhoff6539

5 жыл бұрын

@@algonzalez6853 How? How and where has the physical, mental, or moral decline you describe been the fault of transgender behavior? (only the transgender behavior itself, other people's poor behavior in reaction is their own issue). I'm operating here as someone without your cultural indoctrination or mental conditioning on the subject so you need to make this clear to me. Because operating solely from empiricism and true-value ethics, the only irration assholes opposed to reality I'm seeing are the ones giving them shit.

Natalie's "inner terf" looks like a Sailor Moon villain. I love it.

@magicrainbowkitties1023

5 ай бұрын

Hey I mean Queen Beryl really did give off terfy vibes

@levibee9451

2 ай бұрын

Idk I think she's giving Rita Repulsa from Power Rangers

@mwells0017

2 ай бұрын

Or...Maleficent

As a straight CIS man of baby boomer age, you pretty much single-handedly keep me current on what's happening at the cutting edge of social issues, not to mention being a primary source of modern vocabulary & terminology. Smart, snarky, informed and lovely--thanks for doing what you do, Natalie.

@PeeblesTheBimbo

2 жыл бұрын

this comment gives me hope in people

@EtamirTheDemiDeer

2 жыл бұрын

I’m really happy you’re here

@TijnBruins

2 жыл бұрын

Nice!

@ignatiushazzard

2 жыл бұрын

I almost can't even believe you ha ha. 🙃

@nicholas6836

2 жыл бұрын

Same! (Except for the straight and boomer part haha but still)

The stereotype of the trans woman wearing her mom's clothes when a child not only harms trans women but also cis men. I'm cis and tried in my mom's clothes as a young child. It wasn't because I was trans. It was because gender exploration is part of how we come to understand our gender identity.

@darkstar2874

3 жыл бұрын

Me, I did it because I wanted to be taller and heels seemed the obvious solution.

@samuelhamblin7535

3 жыл бұрын

So how is it harmful to trans women if it's common for children to do? It's just a common shared experience

@Theroha

3 жыл бұрын

@@samuelhamblin7535 The commonality is why it's harmful. Not every child who tries on their opposite gender parent's clothes is trans. Not every trans child will try on their parent's clothes. Stereotypes are harmful in general. Not all Asians are good at math. Not all black people like watermelon and fried chicken. Small stereotypes like this feed the more harmful forms of discrimination like bathroom bills and Jim Crow voting suppression by othering our fellow human beings.

@samuelhamblin7535

3 жыл бұрын

@@Theroha I think you're overreacting. I don't think anyone said everyone who tries on their parent's clothes is trans

@mekullag9787

3 жыл бұрын

I wore my 1 yr. older sister’s old dresses (in public, too). My father got a little nervous but my mother just let me wear whatever I wanted. Was I showing *early signs of transsexualism* that needed to be *fought* before it took hold?! Nah, my older sister was simply my only idol and frame of reference, so I just imitated her. Reminds me of that anecdote ben shapiro told once about how he caught his young son wearing his wife’s shoes. He put a stop to that immediately and bought the kid a pair of cowboy boots instead. Quality parenting right there: Teaching his kid to fear the appearance of femininity is certain not to breed toxic masculinity.

After this video, whenever someone asks “is so-and-so dead?” I will respond “scholars remain divided”

@zenithquasar9623

5 жыл бұрын

I was dead!

@dylanchouinard6141

5 жыл бұрын

Phoenix Dawn scholars remain divided

@cinderball1135

5 жыл бұрын

"This week, police sources announced they are pursuing a new lead in the case of the serial murderer known as The Over-Literal Man who brutally hacked apart fifteen college professors in academic sites all across the country. The only lead they have had thus far is a note left by the killer reading Scholars Remain Divided".

@dylanchouinard6141

5 жыл бұрын

Cinderball I never thought someone making a joke about me being a mass murderer would make me laugh, but bravo!!

@zenithquasar9623

5 жыл бұрын

@@dylanchouinard6141 Hehehe

On the topic of trans women NOT being socialized like other boys- you are very correct, and it goes even further. I’m a gay cis man with two straight brothers. I have very little in common with them as far as we were socialized. They had a much more typical little boy and teenage social experience, and I was socialized to be alone because my male peers didn’t like me for being feminine in some ways, for being gay, and eventually, after years of social rejection, being closed off and defensive. I actually was a little boy and teenager and a man, totally cis, and my socialization was not at all typical of most men, and male privilege hasn’t really impacted me until college. For gender critical people to assume that the real phenomenon of an ideal, privileged male socialization is just the default upbringing for trans women is ludicrous, because even as children, anything seen as different is attacked or ignored by most boys. I wasn’t socialized like a girl, but I wasn’t socialized like a boy either.

@FreeAssange

Жыл бұрын

According to transgenderism, you're not a man, you're a straight woman.

@Iamhere829

4 ай бұрын

💯 agreed...To Me, (a cis het woman) it infact feels kind of misandrist that Radfems assume men don't feel any trauma while growing up .They do....I live in a semi conservative country.. Where people are so misogynistic, they used to support sex selective births against females... And I have always found that I have more in common with lgbt+ people and feminine men more than Rad fems...if anyone in society is more at risk of getting beaten up than women, it's fem men.. Because in case of women they atleast consider that women are 'weak' hence off limits...But a man, they think is a fair game..As a result male DV survivors are ignored..even more when the perp is a woman..

@artist91fb

3 ай бұрын

true, but also the main argument erases the experiences of young trans girls being socialized as girls. it is convenient for people to think that such identities simply don't exist. but they do. and the reality is that these young people will never experience male privilege at all. so, it really tanks their own argument as they attach "male privilege" with the idea that trans women start their transition in adulthood, when is in fact not always the case. and in a society that affirms trans identities, it would almost never be the case. alas...

Hearing people gatekeeping womanhood behind “having experienced catcalling” is so weird and kind of gross to me. Obviously, it’s a shared trauma for a lot of women, and should be part of a discussion about misogyny and gender. But that isn’t and shouldn’t be a defining trait of being a woman! I am a cis woman and I didn’t experience catcalling until I was around 22. Does that mean I wasn’t a woman before that? Personally, I can’t say I usually “feel” like a woman in the first place. I just feel like me. And I wish people were more okay with just allowing people to feel like themselves.

@eibecher

Жыл бұрын

i really just wanna beat the crap out of catcallers

absolutely shook to the core upon finding out there are people behind the camera

@whywhy8324

5 жыл бұрын

S H O O K E T H

@hamishmacdonald8835

5 жыл бұрын

I know honey, it was hard for all of us

@114Lazy

5 жыл бұрын

Theryn was just visiting Nat during the filming. She normally does the filming by herself.

@angryhobo212

5 жыл бұрын

SandsJ Thank you for that, for some reason her having a crew just doesn't sit right with me, I guess it just makes it feel less personal Sorry Natalie, you have to keep doing all the work by yourself :)

@LadyMercutia

4 жыл бұрын

I am SAYING

I recently asked my cisgender brother what made him a man. He told me told me, "Because I am. That's all there is to it." And, in a spark of insight and compassion he said, "And you're non-binary because you are, you know you are. That's all that matters." Like all my relationships with cisgender men, we've had our ups and downs, our rough spots. But shout out to my brother, who can be hot headed and obstinate but always calms down to listen and process and do better next time.

@Davidvp

4 жыл бұрын

I consider myself a man because the oppression I do to women by having abscribed to the behaviours and identity of a "man" in a patriarchal society. There is no trait or experience whatsoever that makes me a man except for my social interactions and being part of the dynamics in a binary patriarchal society. My masculinity, heterosexuality, dom preference or any kind of specific gender expression does not make me a man. I'm a man because of the parts of my identity that reinforce the patriarchy and binarism in the society I live in. Saying I'm a man because I'm just am it's dumb. It's a very surface level analysis.

@AtypicalADultHooD

4 жыл бұрын

@@Davidvp Have you even thought before typing? You're a man because of how you present your gender identity in society. That doesn't have jack to do with your bigotry and participation in opression. Were your argument true, no man could be a feminist or deconstruct themselves to unlearn toxic behaviours. I'm trying to abolish patriarchy yet I'm still a cis man.

@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS

4 жыл бұрын

​@@Davidvp Hmmm... it seems there are many reasons why someone would call themselves a man or a woman. You consider yourself a man for those reasons. Internally I don't identify with either gender, but I consider myself a woman because I have been subjected to the patriarchy because of the body I possess. I relate to other women who've had this lived experience in a way I can't relate to men who lack the imagination to see the damaging effects of patriarchy and possess little will for change. (Meanwhile most men who get to know me, and some women, claim that I think more like a man. Stereotypes... as if all men or all women are the same.) Their analysis might be surface level to you, but it seems to me that getting to where you are (your own definition), acknowledging your participation, has been a process. Why would you call someone else dumb verses encouraging them to think more deeply if that's what you think is needed? Ah, that's right... aggression.

@TryHard505

4 жыл бұрын

@@Davidvp holy shit, you for sure dont sound like a sane man, if you are a man at all

The quote at the beginning makes me so sad. Imagine reading someone's book and being so thrilled to meet them, gushing about what an inspiration they've been, how they've changed your life... and then you pick up a copy of their next book and read... that. :(

@sandworm9528

Жыл бұрын

You wouldn't say the same thing if a black rights activist told a white fan that the book wasn't for them. Could've been more polite but the point she was making is the same. Not saying she's right, but that's what she was saying

@m3rify

Жыл бұрын

@@sandworm9528 It's not relatable in any way.

@m3rify

Жыл бұрын

sameeeee I thought about it just after reading it

@sandworm9528

Жыл бұрын

@@m3rify maybe you're not comfortable with the analogy, but it is the same. Race and gender are both social constructs, and people have both gender identity and racial identity

@theangryholmesian4556

Жыл бұрын

@@sandworm9528 Yeah I don't think they'd then call a human being an 'it' mate.

Trans women are not effected by abortion rights the same way I am, but they were still there marching with us at abortion rallies despite being treated horribly by “pro-lifers” and pro choice people alike

@misspoppyseed3909

Жыл бұрын

Roe v Wade (at least in America) also protects the right to privacy- which includes access to gender affirming healthcare.

@apollofateh324

Жыл бұрын

What it really means to be ally 🙌

@FreeAssange

Жыл бұрын

"being treated horribly" = being treated like men appropriating womanhood.

@theangryholmesian4556

Жыл бұрын

​@@FreeAssange I'm not sure how trans women are appropriating womanhood since they're ya know women. You must be confused.

@FreeAssange

Жыл бұрын

@@theangryholmesian4556 Since they're male, then no, they're not women. Do you call your dad "trans-mom"? No? Transphobe.

I'm a cis woman, but I've always gravitated towards gender neutral presentation. In high school, because I didn't look feminine and had a bunch of traditionally masculine hobbies, a whole bunch of people would never refer to me by feminine pronouns, almost exclusively calling me "it." Not a good feeling. It's not just being misgendered, it's being dehumanized. Because I was an "it," I didn't count. The whole idea of calling someone "it" just makes my blood boil. And I'm cis, for fucks sake. I cant even imagine how much it hurts trans kids.

@Jamie-kg8ig

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah personally, being misgendered feels like I'm being stabbed. Sometimes it's actually enough to cause a panic attack in me.

@maschaorsomething

5 жыл бұрын

I think I can sort of relate to the "people seeing you as non-feminine" part. I'm also a cis woman (or rather trans in the closet) and even though I did my best to present as feminine as possible, it was my deep voice and maybe my face that made people make fun of me, asking me if I had a dick or if I was my friend's brother, etc. I am not sure if that is empowering or not. I was definitely hurt, because my act of presenting as a real, normal girl always failed. But ironically, that may give me the motivation to finally transition, haha. How deep my voice will go?

@drakan4769

5 жыл бұрын

I've misgendered people by mistake before, I was corrected and then I apologized, but using "it" is going further, it's not "I made a mistake because I thought you were something you aren't", it's "I'm intentionally doing this because I think you don't deserve to be referred to with terms for humans"

@ZzraphMedia

5 жыл бұрын

Why can't we just refer to each other by our given names? That way nobody could be misgendered... [correction: stupid idea because of deadnaming. maybe a universal pronoun that's not dehumanizing persons that identify as human beings]

@misty6348

5 жыл бұрын

CheshAr just leads to people dead-naming which can be even worse.

It was March 30th of last year that Stephanie Yellowhair (Navajo) passed away. "Excuse my beauty", RIP

@MateusAntonioBittencourt

5 жыл бұрын

Pardon a possibly bad taste statement. But Stephanie had HUGE steels balls. "Excuse my beauty". It brought tear to my eyes.

I'm a trans guy from Russia, and holy shit, we have so much terf. There is not a single community where they would not crawl through, often they purposefully seek out trans people and write nasty things to them just for fun, threaten to leak the address, cooperate with male misogynists with pleasure (and they don’t care that they should work against misogynists. for them where it is more important to inflict as much damage as possible on the oppressed group). They are just fascists. I am very grateful to you for covering this topic.

@tula1433

Жыл бұрын

Horrible. Praying for your safety.

@avril6922

Жыл бұрын

💜

@user-ns4uq8ek7v

11 ай бұрын

❤

@Iamhere829

4 ай бұрын

❤❤

@georgeuferov1497

Ай бұрын

Мужик, надеюсь с тобой все хорошо

You know, as a biological woman it sometimes hurts when other women insist that being a “woman” includes being sexually harassed or cat called. I’m not disparaging other peoples experiences, but that personally never happened to me. So when everyone goes around insisting that you need that experience in order to be a “real woman” it makes me feel like I need to be sexually harassed or assaulted in order to claim womanhood

@megauser8512

2 жыл бұрын

which is sad!

@GoddoDoggo

2 жыл бұрын

I don't think you NEED that experience to be a "real woman," but a vast majority of women had that experience even as children. Like 9 out of 10 who you'd ask. So it's not a necessity to be a "real woman," but it is a shared experience of womanhood, kind of like a cultural experience, or shared trauma, and does form a sort of identity.

@r00tan16

2 жыл бұрын

i always found this weird too. as a trans man, im always told im "actually a woman" because i have the "female experience", yet when i ask what they mean by this so-called "universal womanly experience", a solid chunk of it i cannot relate to at all lmao. i guess im not "actually a woman" after all

@lilithwills812

2 жыл бұрын

It IS weird. I'm a cis woman (ish?) and my experience with gender is like 90% the fact that there's a tiny person inside my brain and she's doing a twirl to make her skirt flare out. I find it odd that, when I define my gender identity along the lines of positive experience it's cute (if occasionally seen as naive), but when a trans person does it it's necessarily dysfunctional. I don't know if this makes sense, but yeah.

@kirstenh5475

2 жыл бұрын

I agree. I think the numbers are exaggerated. I am the 3rd of 3 sisters, and one of us was raped as a child. My other sister and I haven't had any catcalling or assault or anything traumatic like that. So, yes, trauma happens, but it isn't shared by all of us, and just like gender is a spectrum, so is traumatic experiences. Trauma happens quite often to boys, too, and is probably way under-counted for them. So, traumatic experiences, helplessness, sense of no control is a shared experience to most humans of every race and gender. I would like to stop being told I'm a VICTIM because I'm a WOMAN, or being a woman is automatically ANYTHING! In fact, after I had a baby, I felt like a GODDESS of super-natural power. And, rape/trauma is TOTALLY something people can get over and go on with their lives. Don't ever tell anyone they can't get over that. Or they won't get over it.

As an AFAB person with an Adam's Apple, being exposed to TERF rhetoric and the way they talk about trans women as little more than a set of typically-masculine secondary sexual characteristics can also irrevocably damage cis women's relationships with their bodies. I grew up as a woman, was socialized as a woman, and otherwise presented 100% feminine but I'd still get "clocked" as a man by strangers on the internet. Even now as an Agender person who feels comfortable embracing things that used to make me feel shame, I still hate my neck. I can't imagine how it must feel to be a woman with prominent facial hair or less than delicate features to read the bile they spew. TERFs are poison to all women.

@Call-me-Al

5 жыл бұрын

It really sucks. To the point where finally learning how to trim and fill in your hairline to look "as it should" almost makes you cry because of how more whole it makes you feel. Having been "told" by media and fashion all your life that you're a fake woman for having been born with a "broken" body is easier to ignore (because that is their bread and butter to sell things) than actual people who hate you just for looking what you look like as if your mere existence destroys and poisons the environment. I can't imagine how traumatic it would be to be American where they don't just look disapprovingly at you but actually drag you out of bathrooms for looking "wrong" despite having the "right" reproductive system and not being trans. Edit: not that it would ever be forgivable to do something that horrible to a transwoman/transman. Just that the assholes fail even at their own goals.

@syystomu

5 жыл бұрын

^^^this It actually bugs me how often the discourse completely dismisses the fact that cis women don't all look like Hollywood actresses. Cis women can be tall or broad-shouldered, and they can have big hands or adam's apples or facial hair or hairy arms or just otherwise masculine features. Hell, most cis women are hairier than the ideal notion of feminity would suggest and pretty much nobody can achieve the perfect hairless doll thing naturally unless they're literally a child. (Or have a condition that causes hair loss, except then they also don't have the hair they're supposed to have because baldness is also not accepted.) So yeah, that's also creepy. If anything, destigmatising trans womanhood would help a lot of cis women too and it's incredibly frustrating having so-called feminists presenting impossible beauty standards as a sign of purity. Anyway, I realise that this is not a great argument in that it's still more about cis women's feelings than about the inherent validity of trans women, but it's a pretty relevant point all the same, I feel.

@catharticreverie

5 жыл бұрын

It really is just a bunch of gatekeeping. "If you haven't been cat called by the time you were 11, then you're not a _real_ woman."

@Call-me-Al

5 жыл бұрын

@@syystomu it's a relevant point because they claim to care about "actual" women (XX women, as opposed to the AFABs who have XY) and are "protecting them" but this proves that they're lying/wrong even about their bigoted goals.

@part-timepartytime9621

5 жыл бұрын

really makes you think, huh? They parade around as if they care about women but ultimately their cause is about shrinking the cage of gender. "If you don't match X, then you're not a woman." is the exact type of message that most sane feminists would try to defeat. It's the one they _did_ work so hard to defeat. Now these TERFs are desperate to have their womanhood validated by an arbitrary checklist of appearances and behaviours. I wonder what they think of CIS women who need to shave.

Hey, real talk? She could make a killing as a costume designer. Every outfit and character is _iconic._

@Pebphiz

5 жыл бұрын

@@Irgendwelche5 Silence, clown.

@Irgendwelche5

5 жыл бұрын

@@Pebphiz ?

@carlslabs5368

5 жыл бұрын

@@Irgendwelche5 found the cwm

@Irgendwelche5

5 жыл бұрын

@@carlslabs5368 cwm? Is that your master?

@owenb3962

5 жыл бұрын

@Lyn K did you not watch the video?

I’m a trans man and I almost clicked off this “women only” video until I remembered that my genitals define who I am and everyone sees me as a walking vagina. Silly me! But in all seriousness I love your videos, Contrapoints. keep up the good work!

@radiotomatosauce99

Жыл бұрын

that's a really good username

@shinyminunthetheatregeek2036

9 ай бұрын

Yeah that is an awesome username

@sonnentausnest

2 ай бұрын

Same 👋

"IT RATTLES MY CHROMOSOMES!" was such a hilarious line :D

"Excuse my beauty" is iconic. Ugh. RIP Stephanie Yellowhair, your spirit is not forgotten. Your acknowledgement of her was so poignant and made me tear up a bit. Great video.

@TriggerHappy923

5 жыл бұрын

I know I got teary eyed and wondered if her heart survived such abuse. This is so sad to hear.

@NataliePierson1

5 жыл бұрын

So did I.

@r.h.f.6073

5 жыл бұрын

right! i'm tearing up right now, first out of sadness for her mistreatment and then out of appreciation for her response.

@jemangedessaucisses206

5 жыл бұрын

I like tans on my legs but not on my face!

@margolett7267

3 жыл бұрын

al gonzález she doesn’t deserve death or abuse regardless of whether or not you want to fuck her. But I get it, being such a smooth brained idiot must be hard for you, I don’t blame you for malding.

That Germaine Greer "grossed out" quote legit grossed ME out. How despicable can you be? To publicize your hatred towards someone so undeserving of hate like that.

@juannaym8488

4 жыл бұрын

It's just not okay to talk about a person like that who you just had nothing more but a cordial interaction with, no matter if it's about transsexuality, race, or if they prefer Squirtle over Charmander

@g.s9943

4 жыл бұрын

@@juannaym8488 wait people prefer charmander?

@juannaym8488

4 жыл бұрын

@Justine Y Yeah, I'll never get why tho tbh My ranking of the first gen starters would be Bulbasaur, then Squirtle and then Charmander

@seignee

4 жыл бұрын

@@juannaym8488 you sycophants will never appreciate charmander's beauty

@Zernium

4 жыл бұрын

Did Germaine Greer even ever get 100% confirmation that this woman was trans or "a man"? Some cis women are just very physically masculine, or have hormonal problems that cause them to have some male features.

The uterus=woman not only screws over trans, non-binary, AND some people who are intersexed, it also makes those of us who have had hysterectomies feel even worse than losing a body part already has! Body parts do not make gender, our brains (and societal constructs) do!

@marioluigi9599

Жыл бұрын

Okayyyy that cute. However, Uterus=woman

@DukeDyke0

Жыл бұрын

@@marioluigi9599 Okayyyy that’s cute However, Uterus≠woman

@Kaylakaykay1997

Жыл бұрын

@@marioluigi9599 No it doesn't end of discussion

@Livy.3

Жыл бұрын

@@marioluigi9599 so like if I have cancer and my uterus needs to be removed I'm not a woman anymore?

@marioluigi9599

Жыл бұрын

@@Kaylakaykay1997 Yes it does. Because that's biology and men can't biologically get one. End of discussion

"NO ONE KNOWS WHAT IT'S LIKE TO BE A SAD TRAN" Oh Natalie, please keep singing.

@hortamaroto

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, she's great

@ZijnShayatanica

2 жыл бұрын

That still gets stuck in my head with some regularity. Ironically, less often now that I came out as trans???

This video deeply offended me. As someone born and raised in Cincinnati, the unprompted attack on our chili has left me shattered and devastated.

@wolf1066

4 жыл бұрын

Any attack on chilli is richly deserved :P

@ariegabrielg.zavala9429

4 жыл бұрын

LMAOOOOOOOOOSISISIS

@jodyfinley3352

4 жыл бұрын

Tell me more about this Chile 🌶 🤔

@jodyfinley3352

4 жыл бұрын

BustyNuts chili*

@jackmarketos90

4 жыл бұрын

#CincinnatiChiliIsRealChili

😢I started to shed tears near the end. Speaking of transphobia’s rootedness in “disgust” was able to show me that I too, someone early in their trans journey, felt the same disgust. I’m so glad I watched this, it is brilliant & cathartic 💕💕💅🏾EXCUSE MY BEAUTY

@oyoyoyo7624

7 ай бұрын

Thank you, Stephanie Yellowhair

@Lana.blooming

4 ай бұрын

But where does that disgust originates from? 😢 Why do people feel that disgust? How do we fight against it?

Something that reminded me of this video is in Juno Dawson's book "What's the T?", where she says that, 'it's not transphobic to have questions, it is transphobic to have concerns', because concerns are usually built off of scepticism and negative presumptions. So I never give the time of day to people who have 'concerns' about my identity and how I choose to live my life, but anyone who has questions I am more than happy to talk to.

Our dark mother has blessed us once again Ring the church bells and sacrifice your children in gratitude

@ucitymetalhead

5 жыл бұрын

I only have potential children will that do?

@brotlowskyrgseg1018

5 жыл бұрын

Sorry, but I'll pass on the demonic rituals and human sacrifices. I'm just here for the degeneracy.

@lauratatum509

5 жыл бұрын

I thought dark mother was Anita?

@travelerfinder7840

5 жыл бұрын

Consider my kids dead

@WILLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLU

5 жыл бұрын

Dab for solidarity

Yoooo I free bled on the national mall today...not as like a political statement I just live in dc and forgot to pack tampons

@IamMissPronounced

5 жыл бұрын

Underappreciated comment

@ndawn90

5 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@mansamusa1743

4 жыл бұрын

Kt M that's what happened to a friend of mine so I had to frantically run around asking for pads since she hated tampons

@ThreeFortyThree

4 жыл бұрын

@Ebony Panther "Kind of like white people in blackface..." This, right here, is what the root of your issue really is: Your core belief is that trans women are men disguising themselves as women, and are a hateful and undermining mockery of womanhood. I'm pointing this out for being the stark transphobia that it is.

@NoCommonSense9

4 жыл бұрын

@Ebony Panther look it's a joke, chill out

I'll bite, I used to have a lot of trasphobic views that could be labeled as 'TERF', before I even knew what that was. There were two sources of it, insecurity, and traumatic experience towards the opposite gender. The insecurity stemmed from me being a gay woman who doesn't dress like a girl. Probably part of me felt like it was pushing against what people judged me for most of my life. I'm not proud of the views I held. It took longer than I'd like to admit to change.

@FreeAssange

Жыл бұрын

According to transgenderism, you're a boy.

@lirian1053

Жыл бұрын

if you describe yourself as a "gay woman" who didn't dress "like a girl", maybe you weren't a radical feminist after all, - just a transphobic conservative.

This video is excellent. As an unapologetic radical feminist who thinks feminism is about the safety and protection of women and girls, especially the most vulnerable among us including trans women, I have to spend a lot of time unpacking and challenging myself to not get wrapped up in bioessentialism. I honestly think a lot of "gender critical" feminists agree a lot more with trans feminists more than they know. Thanks for making this video!

@FreeAssange

Жыл бұрын

Straight, white men like Contra are not "vulnerable women", they are the most privileged demographic on the planet.

@lirian1053

Жыл бұрын

I feel like they would agree even more if gender activists didn't demonize radical feminists, misrepresent it's points and send death and rape threats. Talk about girls' and womens' safety.

Fresh-faced Natalie in a gender-neutral robe with her hair down is what I imagine the leftist afterlife is like, and she's basically St. Peter

@irishecker

5 жыл бұрын

James Bella lol!

@MrSeekerOfPeace

5 жыл бұрын

The leftist after life is more like the USSR post ww2

@GlamStacheessnostalgialounge

5 жыл бұрын

I always imagined it as a very red street with those blocky but large and functional apartment buildings and everyone driving Trabants and Yugos.

@HetLedie

5 жыл бұрын

@@MrSeekerOfPeace for a self proclaimed "seeker of peace" you sure like to stir up shit

@TulilaSalome

5 жыл бұрын

Here's an old Soviet joke: who were the first communists? Adam and Eve, of course! Why? They had no house, no clothes and only one apple to share, yet they thought they lived in paradise...

Your point starting at about 9:20 regarding femininity, womanhood, gender-non-conformity, and the question about why feminists don't leave comments on Kardashian pictures regarding enforcing gendered norms by dressing fancy finally clarified a prejudice I've been struggling with for a while. As you said, I was/am one of those non-gender-conforming-cis-women who kind of side-eye the High Femme aesthetic many trans women adopt. I've struggled with this because having the "freedom" and courage to craft my own gender expression rather than conforming to feminine expectations has been a major part of my process of maturing and defining myself as a woman in our society. My girlhood, and especially my adolescence, was in many ways defined by defying those stereotypes and defending my clothing choices and (lack of) make-up and hair styles, mostly against other women and girls, while still identifying as a straight, cis woman rather than a lesbian. I was repeatedly, falsely, clocked as a lesbian in high school and college, and even accused of having a beard boyfriend, which made me very angry on my own behalf and on behalf of actual lesbians. It also made me reluctant to come out as bi for fear I'd be "confirming" everyone's "suspicions" about how I wasn't "really a woman", or not the right kind of woman, i.e. a straight woman. So I found it a bit off-putting to see my gender seemingly distilled into very shallow signifiers like fancy hair, nails, and makeup, which have been used by the patriarchal society to dismiss women as being "too frivolous" and "too superficial" while simultaneously demanding that women dress well and put heavy emphasis on how our appearance defines, or is at least heavily influences, our worth as humans. (And also, I realized an embarrassingly few years ago that identifying expertise in fashion, make-up, and hair styling as "shallow" pursuits, or indicating superficiality on the part of people who excel at these skills, is also a symptom of our cultural misogyny, dismissing these disciplines as somehow more venal or disposable than other art, because their main devotees are women and gay men.) Your explanation of why many trans women choose High Femme looks to make it crystal-clear what gender they are presenting as makes perfect sense. But the Kardashian example really clarified that I'd been staring "downstream" at people who were negatively affected by societal misogyny and transphobia, rather than looking "upstream" at the cultural messages and gatekeeping used to keep women obsessed with presenting as "proper" women, forcing all of us, cis, trans, straight, lesbian, bi, into uncomfortable roles that don't fit the people we really want to be. Thanks so much for this video.

@ranasenformol246

5 жыл бұрын

This is the best comment ever. I too struggled with the same issues about femininity growing up. I've had to put up with everyone around me telling me that I should be more feminine, even one of my male gay friends once told me that I should wear more make up and a different style of clothes (more feminine of course), and I was like 'dude, would you like it if I went around telling you to be more masculine?'. It's like if people don't understand that being feminine is not all there is to being a woman. So, I also assumed that these ultra feminine attitudes that transwomen have were just another way to reinforce gender stereotypes. Now that Natalie explains it further it makes a lot of sense why transwomen act like that. This video was very enlightening. Thank you very much.

@wxedsanddokx

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, this comment yas

@kelly-annmaddox

5 жыл бұрын

I love this comment. 💗👌

@Xeridanus

5 жыл бұрын

Way to go Kestra and Sofia. :)

@BT859

5 жыл бұрын

Very well said. I think we should remember that in the struggle for progress all marginalized people are our natural allies because even though they may experience oppression differently, they learn just by living their lives every day that they live in a society that is fundamentally not designed for them. That it was built to benefit someone else and put them on top. The bullshit of our world becomes felt and known just through daily experiences.

Not to be dramatic or anything.... but I would die for this woman.

@shobo4482

Жыл бұрын

wouldnt we all

I have always said that comparing suffering is ridiculous, everyone's personal suffering is the greatest suffering on Earth because it's theirs. We should find people who understand our personal suffering and empathise with us and then support each other rather than compete for sympathy. So I absolutely agree with this video and I think you explained your perspective clearly and concisely, bravo! Also, I'm so grateful for what you said about cis women periods, I felt so seen and understood, thank you. I suffer from PMDD really bad, I can't hold a regular job because for two weeks every month I can't even walk without tripping on everything and walking face-first into walls because I completely lose depth perception (there are handrails all over my house so I don't injure myself) my energy level drops so low that I can't even take a shower without panting and needing to lie down for an hour after, plus my memory and cognitive capability drops to the level of a goldfish. So many women have looked down on me because they don't believe periods can possibly be so debilitating, just because theirs isn't, and of course the people who don't even menstruate as well. It's awful and I can't argue with them because yeah, I'm useless for half my life. And you don't need to tell me how useless I am, I already know and cry about it for two weeks every month.

@quandaredevil

8 ай бұрын

“everyone’s personal suffering is the greatest suffering on Earth because it’s theirs” is an absolutely amazing quote. also, as someone with severe chronic illness and a physical disability I can really relate to the feeling of being completely useless and how emotionally painful it is.

@WinningSidekick

7 ай бұрын

PMDD sucks SO bad and barely anyone seems to know what it is! It's incredibly frustrating.

"Excuse my beauty, TERF." One of the most powerful things I've heard in a long time.

@Mefistofy

5 жыл бұрын

With perfect comical timing!

@panzerfaust1998

5 жыл бұрын

Women don't have Y chromosomes...

@classypotato9255

5 жыл бұрын

@@panzerfaust1998 K

@germanbuda5834

5 жыл бұрын

@@panzerfaust1998yes they have..

@munii3216

5 жыл бұрын

@@panzerfaust1998 trans and intersex women have left the chat lol

"We're using cultural signifiers of femininity to prompt others to see us for what we are." I have never really understood why the hyper-feminine performative factor seems to be such a *thing* among trans women, when nails, makeup and heels don't *make* you a woman - but I think I finally get it. That makes a lot of sense! Especially when your safety often depends on "passing".

@maysea8689

4 жыл бұрын

💜

@rockenrollern

4 жыл бұрын

It's a lie. They are men with a sexual fetish.

@glassoforangejuice6675

4 жыл бұрын

Karl Stark WOOOOAAHH that’s crazy I was starting to think there’s no way you people existed

@isidoreaerys8745

4 жыл бұрын

Yes I’m very thankful that his video cleared up the same concern for me. As a gay man though I still hold have one complaint and that is that trans women don’t belong on grindr. Since Grindr positioned itself as an inclusive queer dating space the opposite has happened and with the explosion of trans women using the app a huge population of straight men has been attracted and the environment has become extremely hostile and no longer gay friendly. Just yesterday I messaged a guy and he responded mocking me and saying he thought my mustache was hideous. More and more we see profiles that demand bottoms be “fem, cd, hairless or trans” It’s causing the expectations of women to be transposed onto gay men and i don’t like it. If I search for Tops in my City, Las Vegas what few results there are diluted further by a number of people presenting as women, which I respect and support, however am not attracted to. What I always liked about being gay was the relaxed fluid nature in the way people express gender. And the inclusiveness. However these days the main gay dating space has been swallowed up by an arms race of hyper-feminine and hyper-masculine gender expressions.

@whatelseison8970

4 жыл бұрын

@@isidoreaerys8745 Wow, that's kind of fascinating although I get why you're not happy about it. I'm cis and straight.. whenever circumstances require boxes to be checked. (I like the term "heteroflexible" ha) I'm also chronically single and celibate so I'm pretty naive about these things. I never could have imagined such a thing could be happening. Maybe I find it fascinating due to maybe being a tiny bit of an autogynephile myself, although it's not like I'm about to run out, grab some fishnets, eyeshadow and sign up lol. I actually had heard of grinder though and for that to happen it must be waning in popularity by now. Don't lose hope, something better will come out soon probably. :)

the focus on "male socialization" is funny to me because as a trans man who looked (to the world) like a cis woman until i was about 20, the "traumas of girlhood" that they treat as universal have never happened to me. i was a nerdy unpopular kid living in a small norwegian town. i dont think i was ever catcalled. i've also never been forced to wear a dress or keep my hair long when i didnt want to. my family and friends were never people who imposed harsh gender stereotypes on me or judgmental when i cut my hair short or anything like that. i was just was never someone who experienced these supposedly "universal" traumas of being seen as a girl. i was never made to do extra housework or "act ladylike." i've never experienced slut-shaming or sexualized comments about my appearance while i'm just going about my day. like, sure, i got a few "go make me a sandwich" jokes from nerdy male friends in middle school, but they were pretty obviously jokes, albeit annoying ones. also, around that point i already identified as a trans man internally and those comments just don't hit as hard when you don't see yourself as a woman. maybe it would have been more traumatizing if i saw womanhood as something key to my person, but i just never did. so... what are these supposedly universal traumas???

@lulu4882

2 жыл бұрын

i think a lot of TERFs (not gonna speculate on the proportion) went through abuse from men growing up, and maybe they project those experiences as being "universal", or try to universalize them to coat their transphobia in feminist optics. it's sad, there's a lot of pain and trauma underlying transphobia from TERFs and they develop morbid hateful obsessions over it. so that may be part of it at least; another part might be some TERFs wanting to claim the trauma of other women in order to craft a monolithic conception of "womanhood" which definitionally excludes transwomen.

@Youkneecorn007

2 жыл бұрын

This is so insightful to me, I'm a transwoman and I certainly resonate with your experience. Early on my childhood, my parents noticed that I'm not comforming to the typical "boy" as a kid. My expressions, manerrisms, my gestures and the way I speak, it all exsudes femininity. And because of that, I experience being cat called and get harrassed by other boys as a KID! I kept it to myself because I don't know how to tell it to my parents without them being confused. I fear that they wouldn't belive me, since they percieved me as their 'son', that's why it would be absurd for them that I would experience such harassment in other boys. (I'm not a girl for them, so it would be impossible or might even be funny for them to hear such things). It was hell for me and I have no one to talk to in those times. I believe, my experience as a kid made me hypervigilant and scared at men, even now that I am 20. Hence, you can't assume someone's childhood experiences based of their biological sex alone. Unfortunately, TERFs think that way and they often use it on their bigoted beliefs and transphobia.

@SaoirseElezen

2 жыл бұрын

Your experience sounds great. I have the stereotypical trauma here mentioned and hate my experience but like I still feel I am a woman. I hated period so much because my gynaecological issue, still feel I am a woman. I really feel some of TERFs are projecting their trauma. Like, i feel your gender only depends on what gender you identify with. I was also the nerdy unpopular gal haha yeah just to say this to add to the convo Edit: typo

@WeiYinChan

Жыл бұрын

That’s because you are from Norway. I wish every other country would learn something from the Scandinavian countries. You can’t understand how jealous we are of you guys. I experienced my first serious criminal-level sexual harassment when I was 7. Luckily I was well prepared to handle it due to a school sex Ed class I had literally weeks before the incident, and immediately informed my parents, who dealt with it quickly. as a result I don’t have a lot of trauma from that. The school sex ed course that protected me was taught to boys AND girls. TERFs seem to think all girls experience sexual trauma and it’s a unique female experience but that’s just not true. And it’s not like I didn’t identify as a girl before that. Unlike what TERF said, trauma isn’t what made me women. And like you said, it’s not even universal. Girls in many other cultures would have had it 100 times worse than me. Are they more women than I am? I don’t get the obsession they have over trauma.

@FreeAssange

Жыл бұрын

Doesn't anyone else remember when Contra used to say he isn't a trans-woman bc "male socialisation is a thing"? He was right then & wrong now.

Just cited your JK Rowling video in a master's program paper about gender dysphoria and the trans community. Always amazing content! Thanks for the reference!

@FreeAssange

2 жыл бұрын

Then your paper is already out-dated. Starting this year, it's not called gender dysphoria, it's called gender incongruence.

Fun story I actually had someone used the “Why do people need gender specific pronouns, gender roles are oppressive already why don’t we concentrate in abolishing that?” My response was basically “The whole reason we are having this conversation is because you can’t handle the idea of calling someone they/them, do you really think you’re ready to abolish gender?”

@butterfreedom5357

5 жыл бұрын

Artemis Wolf That was brutal

@lerualnaej5917

5 жыл бұрын

Hello? I'd like to report a murder.

@revangerang

5 жыл бұрын

??? Which way do they want it ?????

@onijester56

5 жыл бұрын

Fun story, there's a Hispanic-American I'm "Facebook friends" with because of an online gaming group; you know the "share with X people" from the likes of when Farmville and Candy Crush were popular. They keep saying that people are only men or women, that there's no possibility for intermediary identities, and that the deciding factor is chromosomes and physicality. It took literally pointing out that their wife probably wouldn't want them to be shoving their face and hands into other peoples' crotches to confirm whether someone in a pair of slacks has a penis or a skirt or dress has a vagina before they admitted that a person's identity and thus their gender isn't dependent upon their genitalia. (They then retract this conceit in the next post, which gets me to tag their wife to point out that her husband still wants to feel every person's dick and vagina.) Even after getting them to accept that they shouldn't be trying to stick their hands down other peoples' pants, they still then refuse to grant a gender identity that isn't singularly exclusively either male or female. Twice so far I literally invoked Spanish, a language they claim as primary alongside English, to show that per their own language you can have an entire paragraph discussing a person without using any specific gender pronouns. Admittedly adjectives are still gendered, but alternating gendered adjectives or employing masculine-gendered adjectives is applicable for gender-neutral contexts such as when a noun isn't intrinsically gendered. Because in Spanish items like books and pencils and houses and pets and phones and computers and literally everything that is a thing has a gender despite not having either a dick or a vagina. (Which the Spanish-speaking Hispanic-American apparently never realized in his lifetime of speaking Spanish...)

@messi9991

5 жыл бұрын

And you cant handle being called he/she so you pretend you're something else instead of fighting stereotypes. This works both ways, though of course every 'woke' reading this will dismiss this because all that counts is towing the line, not logic, not reality

>drinking straight from the teapot And thus, I've seen the peak of youtube.

@AyushShenoy

5 жыл бұрын

True culture tbh

@DumbIdeaPresentedStupidly

5 жыл бұрын

Like it or not this is what peak preformance looks like

@Neville133

5 жыл бұрын

@@DumbIdeaPresentedStupidly truth and based

@SotamiesTrolli

5 жыл бұрын

The subject made me feel nauseous but this part cracked me up

@Neville133

5 жыл бұрын

@@SotamiesTrolli why did it make you nauseous? Just curious. And yeah, contra really knows how to break tension with comedy.

As a trans girl i just want to thank you for your amazing content and sheer badassery. Thank you for being a role model for trans people. They can be hard to come by.

@man4437

Жыл бұрын

Not to be rude, but an alcoholic opiate addict who used to harass feminists with porn isn't my idea of a role model I mean, I am being rude to Contra, not to you

@ronaldodimaano8641

Жыл бұрын

@@man4437 seethe more you dmbfk

@herrbeschwerde5051

Жыл бұрын

@@man4437 yeah right and Daniel Radcliffe is an actual wizard. Learn to diffrenciate.

@sandworm9528

Жыл бұрын

@@man4437 yeah laern to difrenciate, idiot

@lirian1053

Жыл бұрын

@@herrbeschwerde5051 what does Daniel Radcliffe has to do with this? never heard of him having a role model of an alcoholic opiate addict who used to harass feminists with porn

Aahh I'm a transfemmenine person like 14 months into HRT and I'm just laying here on the couch crying. TFW Natalie perfectly articulates feelings that you didn't think you were allowed to have

Yer Dad saw this and now he's tutting at BBC Good Morning cause they got Germaine Greer on again

@kalanaherath3076

5 жыл бұрын

Lol 😂

@LeftyConspirator

5 жыл бұрын

Literally the same day I first saw the Yer Dad character I went to visit my parents, and my dad did that precise same thing. I didn't know whether to roll my eyes or burst out in hysterical laughter.

@lunardancer6047

5 жыл бұрын

No one's better at waking up daddies than Contra.

@HeyJudie

5 жыл бұрын

Tut-tut-tut, BBC!

@ThatOneGuy7550

5 жыл бұрын

Can we expect Ian N. Drivel to return, Olly?????

The clip of Stephanie Yellowhair made me burst into tears. That's incredible strength and courage.

@AuntAgatha0fullmoon

5 жыл бұрын

KrishnaWashburn same. I actually started crying when Contra started talking about transphobia and the lizard brain, and this is the third time I’m watching the video.

@LucianCorrvinus

5 жыл бұрын

Miss Yellow Hair is neither gone nor forgotten she's simply gone on to the land of the ancestors and for that I am thankful.

This came out right around when i began my transition and ever since, every time i have a bad day "no one knows what it's like to be the sad tran" plays in my head lmao.

I worked w a trans woman at my last job and she did more than any cis woman there when it came to fighting for a lactation room and other work place rights for women. She didn’t just limit it to women and fought for a lot of general work place rights. ❤. I think part of the problem is not enough ppl have ever even met a trans person and assume all kinds of BS. When I learned that my coworker was trans I was surprised and yet not. She was more feminine than I was so it made sense 100%, Of course she’s a woman. She’s exactly who she was meant to be and I can’t imagine her any other way.

Let's all pour a drink for Stephanie Yellowhair, who died aged 41 about a year ago.

@Farscryer0

5 жыл бұрын

www.vice.com/en_us/article/3kj5bw/the-death-of-stephanie-yellowhair-and-the-resilience-of-the-queer-spirit-excuse-my-beauty

@Nathanramires

5 жыл бұрын

+

@definitiveentertainment1658

5 жыл бұрын

Philipp Bob Kaufmann Not to be rude, but I don’t know why anyone should look up to her. She definitely knew the struggle, and dropped a good one-liner, but that’s about it.

@AustinCampion

5 жыл бұрын

Definitive Entertainment what else are you looking for

@Technodreamer

5 жыл бұрын

That's too goddamn young.

*I never thought I'd ever see what a transgender Jesus in a gender neutral robe would look like.*

@MoniBahaa

5 жыл бұрын

Gorgeous, I think the word you're looking for is gorgeous.

@qarsiseer

5 жыл бұрын

Jesus was born from only Mary, making his chromosomes XX, Jesus was a transman confirmed.

@CODMarioWarfare

5 жыл бұрын

Charlotte Butcher Jesus was made from godly cum tho

@tym7267

5 жыл бұрын

XDD +1

@shubhamchaudhary2170

5 жыл бұрын

Actually, gender neutral robe *moment

Hi. Cis guy trying to learn so I can be a better friend to my trans buddy. I’ve had a lot of questions rattling around that I didn’t have a place to ask. This was really helpful.

@CherryLipstick6x3

4 ай бұрын

Your buddy is lucky to have a friend like you ^^

19:53 // wow. this section right here has completely transformed how i've felt about non-dysphoric trans people. that comparison to terfs and identity out of pain has made me realized how stupid transmedicalism has been all along. transmedicalism was just a form of envy for me. thank you

I'm not a communist, I'm capital-critical

@hannavignolo6454

4 жыл бұрын

amazing

@kralts4184

4 жыл бұрын

Yay I gave the 666th like. Time to pointlessly celebrate myself for this occasion.

@reneebear3641

4 жыл бұрын

I’m not anti theistic, I’m religious-critical.

@Marsyas01

4 жыл бұрын

I'm not anti theistic, I just think God is a monster.

@cirimpufka

4 жыл бұрын

Omg. What's wrong with that?

"Throwing glitter spaghetti against the wall and hoping for some glimmer of femininity" is one of the best written lines of this episode.

@Corbeaux08

4 жыл бұрын

Alan Tyson there are so many that it’s hard to pick just one, but this one DOES fall among the top candidates

@nathanclark2424

4 жыл бұрын

Kinda like the makeup shotgun homer made.

@jodyfinley3352

4 жыл бұрын

Alan Tyson you get the same effect with glitter in your 💩

@ChonosTack

4 жыл бұрын

As a translater, this line was the hardest to translate lol

Natalie Wynn: ✅ _Not Real_ ✅ _Not Valid_ 😂🤣😂🤣 An absolutely _HILARIOUS_ joke thrown in and moved on from like it were nothing. Great stuff, wow.

god. this was my first contrapoints video. i remember So well putting that on while i was messing around with makeup and expecting just another white noise sort of video essay to half listen to while doing other things. i think it was a month or so after it was posted. then a few minutes in i dropped all the makeup and just got mesmerized with the video and the way natalie frames her arguments :') it makes me happy to come back to it having followed her for years now. i think its a video that definitely has aged well, and seeing how far her channel has gone makes me so happy. i love coming back to this, it will remain one of my favorite contrapoints videos even after the hunger released and stunned me the way it did

every time she lets loose a real laugh i gain 5 years on my life

@cottage-core_

4 жыл бұрын

+

@skylinesandturnstiles9595

4 жыл бұрын

same

@pressedrose1

4 жыл бұрын

I know it's adorable it makes my heart melt Natalie is amazing

@Hopppp

4 жыл бұрын

same it's so cute I love her

@reneebear3641

4 жыл бұрын

teeth bitch My girlfriend’s name is also Natalie & both make me super happy.

"is Anita Bryant even dead? *checks notes* Scholars remain divided." is one of my favourite Contra jokes

@gabrielalmanza9433

3 жыл бұрын

Ik who Anita is but I didnot quite catch the joke, can you explain plsss?

@CinnamonCheesecake

3 жыл бұрын

Gabriel Almanza When someone says that people are divided on an issue it means that there is some disagreement or debate. The idea of debating whether someone is dead or not is funny because it’s just silly; there’s an obvious answer. Hope that cleared it up!

@luciacardosoveloso9458

3 жыл бұрын

@@gabrielalmanza9433 I also believe it has to do with the fact that after she started her "war" against lgbtq people she lost her popularity so fast, it was as though she died. So although she is still alive to this day, she hasn't really been around since the '70s, explaining why some people would maybe assume she is dead (metaphorically at least)

@gabrielalmanza9433

3 жыл бұрын

CinnamonCheesecake thk yu

@gabrielalmanza9433

3 жыл бұрын

Lúcia Veloso thx

The first time I watched this was in Jan 2020 and I was kinda mad cause I was really convinced about being a Radfem because of "biology~". Two years later I've grown so much and thanks to being around trans people I've realized how wrong it was and that I probably caused a lot of pain with that ideology. Equating being a woman to the sad reality that we face because of lots of men is not the best approach. It's not the fault of trans women what men do to us both.

@bpiya8743

2 жыл бұрын

It's so good to look to the past and see this kind of growth. I have a similar story. I had a very frail sense of how to interpret trans issues and Natalie provided a lot of the education that's integral to having a nuanced understanding of these topics.

@FreeAssange

Жыл бұрын

feminine is a patriarchal construct, "woman" is not. Feminine men exist, not "male women". The only harm comes from the "trans-womxyn are women" lie. Look at Keira Bell & other gay people who mistakenly thought that transgender identity is real.

@lirian1053

Жыл бұрын

radical feminism isn't centered around the gender issue. radfems don't define being a woman to the "sad reality". what you mean is more of a gender. radfems equate it to being a human female.

If terf is a slur, why don’t I hear it the CoD chat?

@badideajenkins6385

2 жыл бұрын

facts!

I wholeheartedly reject the idea that my identity as a woman must be defined by the worst things that have happened to me, which is how I see the essential core of the "you don't know what it's like" rhetoric. Like... I've been sexually abused, but my womanhood is not contingent on that. I've already spent too long defining my life by what happened. That's (part of) why I'm in therapy now, so I can stop doing that.

@LorRosengartsky

5 жыл бұрын

Right? I was expecting Contra to say at some point, 'Go get therapy you've always been in need for', which, I shall add, must come with a continuent human rights mindset, which they already do have. The only thing that's missing is that, while being on the right side of things, in its' core those, if repulsive, TERF and the like people settled for the first step of realizing the problem - that is, pure hate. They have all the right in the world to feel what they feel, but in order to become the very heroes they've always dreamed of becoming, this pain, and loss, and offence, must at some point transform into positive, resilient in its' good, and constructive agenda, with which Contra decided not to conclude her narration, but which therapy can and will provide.

@bitnewt

5 жыл бұрын

Well put!

@therealjanekennedy7630

5 жыл бұрын

you go girl!!!! excellent comment

@alizzie46

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@only_sleeping7276

5 жыл бұрын

hey um, gender has never been useful for anything BUT oppression, yall love talking about how its a social construct ever wonder WHY society mightve constructed gender??? maybe to keep women passive? you dont have to define yourself by your trauma and im sorry that happened to you, but that doesnt mean theres anything intrinsically good about the concept of gender as a whole.

i am natalie's insatiable lust for increasingly elaborate headdresses

@danielgalan9579

5 жыл бұрын

is this a chuck palahniuk's reference?

@Nersius

5 жыл бұрын

I like this Fight Club remake.

This is utterly brilliant. I must have watched it five times now, over the past three years since I accepted my own gender identity, and every time I laugh out loud repeatedly and am bawling by the end of it. Probably the most cogent summing-up of TERFism for the uninitated, with enough in-jokes to keep the rest of us entertained too. Pure gold.

My brain is pink because I like hello kitty and the colour pink. My girlfriends brain is blue because she swam a lot as a child and the chlorine bleached it

@SoVidushi

2 жыл бұрын

Couple goals.

As a cis lesbian, one thing I’ve always thought was strange about the TERF argument is the idea that there’s one unifying experience that makes you a woman. Womanhood is a vast, diverse set of experiences that can’t really be boiled down to “women are oppressed for having two X chromosomes”, even among cis women. What being a woman means varies by race, class, sexuality, culture, disability, and a whole host of other things. OF COURSE trans women are going to experience misogyny differently from the way cis women experience it, because there isn’t a solid “female experience” to begin with. As a lesbian, my experiences with misogyny are going to be different from a straight woman’s experiences with misogyny. But I don’t hear TERFs trying to claim that I’m not a “real woman” because I don’t have to deal with IPV from men.

@AirAquila

5 жыл бұрын

TERFs should leave the oppression to the oppressors instead of joining them

@ZZKoverts

5 жыл бұрын

Right on, something similar to this came out in the UK last year during the public consultation about allowing self ID for gender identity certificates. As noted in the video, radical feminists argue strongly against rigid gender norms and stereotypes of women in society and rightly so! Women should be able to define for themselves how their life should be and not be stigmatised for diverging from society's expectations of femininity. But in the self ID debate, that laudable stance kinda fell down. TERFs demanded that Trans folk shouldn't be allowed to self ID without going through a clinical process, and should be expected to live 'in role' for at least 2 years. But when it comes to definiing what that role is, it was basically just down to sterreotypical femininity for trans women. Masculinity for trans men. And as for who defines those roles? Leave it up to the clinician who might not be a woman. Patriarchal control distilled. That kind of situation is something most Radical feminists would abhor if it were imposed on a cis woman. Conform to this rigid norm or you'll NEVER earn your legal recognition as a woman! it's brutal! But because of transphobia, the principles go out of the window. It's baffling to me.

@merrittanimation7721

5 жыл бұрын

Speaking as a man, I think boiling femininity down to being oppressed sounds like a depressing way to view oneself.

@no_peace

5 жыл бұрын

I would bet that a little trans girl has seen much more misogyny than the women on social media who say sexism doesn't exist and don't have any female friends because they "don't do drama"

@LaVerdad65

5 жыл бұрын

There absolutely is a universal unifying experience of womanhood. It's called being a female

"No one knows what it's like To be a Sad Tran" I'M WHEEZING

@caseyhayes7510

5 жыл бұрын

"trans women *do* bleed, but only when we cut ourselves" jesus christ natalie

@peeparoni8634

4 жыл бұрын

this shit cuts deeps

@spookyrosev6467

4 жыл бұрын

poofballoon TM Am I a terrible person for repeating that part on loop?!

I really love how you address point 5 (male socialization). I’m non-binary, and growing up socialized as female, and having transfemme friends coming into adulthood, it was difficult when my friends would not even mention the impact their male socialization may have had on them- like you said it’s common in the trans femme community to not acknowledge it. Just hearing a trans woman bring this into the conversation with nuance puts me at rest. I know it’s not everything, but I really just want it to be acknowledged, exactly as you did. And I don’t consider myself cis, but non-binary and genderfluid (but without dysphoria or need for medical procedure). Even so, it still bugged me, for there to be such silence around a very real difference in experience. And I totally experienced this “stolen valor” concept you mentioned (SO WELL PUT), but as I actually had relationships with trans women, after a bit I began to see how actually beautiful it was for them to be able to be women in the world with *less* suffering, without having to endure the shitty experience of childhood female socialization. (of course, like you said, some folks do transition earlier. *my* friends didn’t, though, and that felt important, because it felt like we couldn’t have that conversation because of the taboo in the larger community.) like, they didn’t have any shame around doing makeup right, and resisted some of the things I tried to show them that were “girly”, making me realize parts of my socialization that were really coercive and uncool. I didn’t realize I could have a feminine relationship with makeup that wasn’t rooted in coercion, and here this beautiful trans woman was so naturally doing just that right in front of me. All I could do was shut up and support her as she explored her self-expression. I felt so happy for her, and also just stunned. It inspires me to one day explore femininity in such a healthy way. This is what the polyamorous folks (of which I consider myself one) call “compersion”. Also love. I love y’all

I have all of those troll questions as real questions. I'm a dude, who thought he was straight till 30 but got made fun of for being gay all his life anyway who now realizes he's bi and paints his nails (I don't know!) and I still have these questions but I'm half way through the video and OMG someone is finally addressing them in a way that is...accessible because you keep anticipating everything I would say and covering it. Damn, your content is ridiculously valuable because you are so intelligent, insightful, empathetic in the real sense of the term, and hot as hell.

"Caitlyn Jenner, whomst... well... just whomst," I CACKLED

@aliebrubaker7473

5 жыл бұрын

I transitioned socially a couple months after Caitlyn Jenner went public... 😐 ...So, yeah. This.

@hoofarted

5 жыл бұрын

Caitlyn Jenner is human trash 😂 unfortunate she is trans

@ryanthomas9306

5 жыл бұрын

@@hoofarted what's the difference between Jenner and CP? Just age

@sydneylashbrook596

5 жыл бұрын

Kim Kardashian Un I feel like you are the delusional one, my friend. Educate. Get outside. Breathe some air. And then stop commenting on videos weeks after they happen thinking that people won’t respond to your idiocy. I will. And guess what? Not stopping.

@stevencleere4912

5 жыл бұрын

@@ryanthomas9306 take it back.

every time natalie breaks at her own jokes she makes me laugh so hard and it makes my whole day

@queenemma5823

5 жыл бұрын

10 more years is added to my life every time she does, I love it!

@alexanderguthrie6744

5 жыл бұрын

Came here to say this. It's partly the lovely smile!

@a.square8658

5 жыл бұрын

@@alexanderguthrie6744 She's so pretty when she laughs

My god! You are.... I don´t even know what words to use but I am blown away. Thank you for making this video, I am feeling... so happy right now it is almost ridiculous. Being a 50 year old trans man, having transitioned for about 8 years, yeah I hear you... You are an amazing woman. I will share the crap out of this video. Hugs from this old viking :-)

@Matheus_Braz

2 жыл бұрын

Are you swedish?

@lukasronnqvist4839

2 жыл бұрын

@@Matheus_Braz Yes I am

@Matheus_Braz

2 жыл бұрын

@@lukasronnqvist4839 cool!

@idontcheckmynotifications

Жыл бұрын

I don’t see many trans men around. I’ve considered it for myself but among many other things the small representation/community kinda intimidate me. I’m happy you made it work! You go man!

@FreeAssange

Жыл бұрын

What's the difference between men & women?

I'm so fucking glad to see someone criticizing the term "menstruaters" in a non-tranphobic way for once. aS a tRaNs mAn who had a fucking awful time with periods the last thing I wanted while going through that was to be called a "menstruater." I did not appreciate being defined by the problem that made my body intolerable to live in. Person-first language like "people who menstruate" is so much better when talking about a bodily function that people have such a wide spectrum of positive and negative experiences with.

Love how JK Rowling has bought us all together in this dark time.

@arandomcomment1092

4 жыл бұрын

That is the only good thing she has done in her lifetime. Hastune Miku created Harry Potter.

@gordonmacgregor7668

4 жыл бұрын

lol fuck off, oh yayyy JK Rowling has brought us together with HATE wooo

@calebmcintosh1991

4 жыл бұрын

@Miu most of the research she cited in her paper is debunked or skewed, none of it is verified. And even when she wasn't citing inaccurate studies she was "raising concerns" about things that are blatantly not a problem (trans women in women's bathrooms, for instance - attacking women in bathrooms is already illegal, and there have been no cases of men pretending to be trans women attacking women in bathrooms), or stating facts without actually looking into the context around them (she said that the number of trans men seeking healthcare related to transition had increased dramatically, but she fails to note that it coincided with the opening of gender clinics - people didn't seek the healthcare because there was no healthcare available, but she doesn't say that). She's presenting falsehoods under truths.

@KylerQuinn

4 жыл бұрын

My mom still supports her, RIP

@rickardkaufman3988

3 жыл бұрын

@@calebmcintosh1991 A chap by the name of Andrew James Carter Esq. debunked every single point made by by Joanne K. Rowling. The points are on his twitter page. Here is the link: mobile.twitter.com/Carter_AndrewJ/status/1270787941275762689

"Is Anita Bryant even dead?... Scholars remain divided." Lmao XD

In all seriousness, as someone who used to be politically very far right up until the last few years (thank you everyone I encountered who helped change my mind and got me to leave my small, conservative town), your videos really have helped me gain a better understanding of subjects that were taboo where I grew up, and allowed me a better way to share that knowledge with the friends I grew up with who have just begun to learn more. On a less serious note, the bit with the teapot made me pause I was laughing so hard 😂

As insulting as Germaine Greers words are in that opening, I just love how the narrator reads it. So wonderfully snobbish and over the top. The way she pronounces certain words like ‘luxuriance’ and ‘piss off’ just makes me giggle! 😂

I'm a 16 year old trans girl, I'm not out to anyone but a few really close friends, mostly because I'm scared of how people and especially my parents would react, but I just want to say that your videos keep me from abandoning who I am and I'm so thankful that you can make me feel accepted and cheer me up even on some of my darkest days

@miguelzavaleta1911

5 жыл бұрын

16 is already a tough age as it is. I'm not one to suggest coming out or not, but I can suggest you seek out like-minded people -- especially if the circles you run in are more conservative-minded. Best of luck, friend.

@11corvus11

5 жыл бұрын

36 year old trans masc here and while we will undoubtedly have many different life experiences (and some in common) I want to say I support you and you are so valid. I also want you to know that people like me who didn't fully understand that we were trans until our 20s, 30s, or higher often admire people like you who are so wise and in touch with themselves during their youth. It's a really cruel world out there, but there are also a lot of great things about being trans and being yourself. And there are great Queer and Trans connections to be made. When shit gets hard, please hang in there and remember you are loved and cared for by our communities. Edited for typos

@asuka_the_void_witch

5 жыл бұрын

hang in there

@asuka_the_void_witch

5 жыл бұрын

@Akauali Art i was like "fuck this, i'm too old for transition, i don't even hate my body anyway" i would definitely recommend to think about it thoroughly.

@silverandexact

5 жыл бұрын

There's a lot of celebration around coming out (for good reason) but remember that there are definitely valid reasons for waiting to come out too. The fact that you're not giving up on who you are is enough.

I feel like somewhere along the line recently Natalie's thought process has been "I paid for this gong, Im damn well using it"

@scouttyra

5 жыл бұрын

@C caymer and how does this pertain to OPs comment?

@Luinta

5 жыл бұрын

@Keebs I've been reporting each one I find as I scroll through hte comments.

@theDENIMMAN

5 жыл бұрын

@@copperfoil8373 "I was gifted this gong, I am going to damn well use it"

@ryanthomas9306

5 жыл бұрын

@C caymer no its not

This video has really helped a whole lot. I found myself falling down a transphobic rabbithole and hated the way my mindset was changing. I'm still confused on a couple things, but this breakdown of things I don't want to ask (in fear of making people uncomfortable) has really cleared my eyes again. Thank you!

@quandaredevil

8 ай бұрын

thank you for acknowledging that your questioning can make people uncomfortable and choosing to do your own research. I wish everyone did that instead of making me explain things like this to them (often at the cost of my own sanity)

@omoriiii5630

7 ай бұрын

@@quandaredevilwell no one’s asking you to do that 😭

@quandaredevil

7 ай бұрын

@@omoriiii5630 yes they literally are and they have many times. you don’t know me, so don’t tell me what I have or haven’t experienced

@omoriiii5630

7 ай бұрын

@@quandaredevil “instead of making me explain things” no one is making you waste you’re time coming into yt comment sections to pointlessly argue w bigots

even 3 years later Theryn saying "B U R G E O N I N G" just keeps getting more satisfying every time.

That part near the end where you more or less said "I recognize that hate because I've felt it towards myself" really hit me hard

@Observer31

5 жыл бұрын

Oh, the anguish... yeah that hit me too.

@MrGshinobi

5 жыл бұрын

it really did, she was being as real as possible without breaking the point of her argument for sympathy.

@Timmsh88

5 жыл бұрын

I cried man..

@allisondoak9425

5 жыл бұрын

There’s no one more violently transphobic than the closeted and dyspeptic trans person after all

ContraPoints: * drops new vid * ContraPoints: * transphobia warning * Me: Me: *_I WILL SUFFER FOR YOU, MY QUEEN!!!_* EDIT: Oh. My. *God!* I didn't expect a reaction like this, in less than an hour even! Thank you, thank you so much everyone! I love you all! ❤❤❤ EDIT 2: Grammar corrections.

@j.f.1639

5 жыл бұрын

My exact feelings everytime I watch one of her videos. I went out a text to my peer as soon as I saw the video saying "Hey, I'm gonna watch this and feel like crap, just a heads up".

@rmcewan10

5 жыл бұрын

J.Aaron FCE your...peer? You textin lords bro?

@njabulomoratioa3252

5 жыл бұрын

I wasn't ready. Why do I do this to myself. I know I'm not strong enough yet I willingly choose to suffer

@steele_heart77

5 жыл бұрын

@@njabulomoratioa3252 Because you can ÒwÓ

@steele_heart77

5 жыл бұрын

@@j.f.1639 #Relatable

Love this and agree with most of it. As a cis woman I am not transphobic, I just don't like it when trans femininity and cis femininity have to be the same at every point. I do feel a bit weird when I have to pretend there's no difference or I'm somehow transphobic. The two forms of womanhood (just one kind of difference among many within womanhood) have important differences - many of which are covered in the video very brilliantly. But wanting to be able to talk about this difference is not transphobia. Difference is exciting, convivial, fun, and when you can get your head round it makes you stronger collectively. It's not being able to speak of the difference that bugs me. That is all. Having said that, having watched this video I understand more why trans women aren't totally cool and groovy about discussing the difference, terfs be like alt right trolls, weaponising the difference for conservative ends. Great video.

Thank you for this! I was previously transphobic, and it changed in much the same way that my adolescent homophobia did: I actually met trans people, talked to and (more importantly) listened to them, formed lasting friendships with them. It's much harder to hate a person who's right in front of you than an abstract idea of a type. Even so, so of the questions/"concerns" from my earlier perspective hadn't been directly addressed, namely because I didn't want to add to my trans friends' hurt by making them feel like they had to justify themselves again, and to someone they should have been able to trust. So I didn't ask the questions... But I still thought about them. So thank you for addressing these questions as questions, even if they're not usually asked in good faith. Numbers 2 and 4 were particular holdouts for me. And yes, Kaitlyn Jenner was the first trans person I became aware of, and yes, that went over as well as you might expect.

I love you, Natalie. I’m a shallow post-boomer, old as the Flintstones, so much of this gender fluidity is news to me. I desperately want to understand, to advocate, and be utterly converted. You have made great strides toward this-in my own stupid heart. God you’re beautiful. Keep me thinking. Keep me questioning what I was raised with. I learned and believe in gender equality, and in this 21st century, so should we all. Keep talking, Natalie. Keep converting me. PS your costuming is amazing. And so are you. Thank you for posting. I’ve been looking for something from you for weeks. Stay gorgeous as you are.

@rafaeltota

5 жыл бұрын

I've been searching for the words, but I'll just second this. She's made me a better man.

@shayneoneill1506

5 жыл бұрын

I think all of us where never had to go through the trans experience would find all of this new. But its exciting and interesting, and its great we have a teacher like Natalie with the patience to walk us through it.

@TheChocoXCheese

5 жыл бұрын

I want to thumbs up, but you're at the sex number. So instead, I'll give you my support through a comment.

Contra has always created the inspirations of my aesthetic, and I'm so glad I can add "drinking hard liquor out of porcelain" to that list

@bryntendo

5 жыл бұрын

Drink out of a coffee mug or teapot and no one will question why you're getting drunk at 8am coz they'll just think you're a responsible functioning adult who really loves coffee/tea! *_LIFEHACK!_*

@tiredcatman7381

5 жыл бұрын

@@bryntendo once a friend bought wine to a party, me and my other friends drank it from mugs. The guy was really confused when he saw that the wine disappeared if no one was seen drinking it (??

@bryntendo

5 жыл бұрын

Camila Lmao, it didn't even occur to him that people are able to drink wine out of something other than a wine glass? Bahaha, that would've been hilarious. I used to live with a friend who was notorious for always breaking glasses at parties, so we didn't have any wine glasses or nice glassware after a while and everyone had to drink out of coffee mugs, empty jars, plastic keep cups, or straight from the bottle - All our photos from parties during that time look so ridiculous, all these obviously drunk 19yr olds clinking their coffee mugs together during a house party at night 😂

@krixkhaos

5 жыл бұрын

Yep, I've decided I'm going to start drinking my absinthe out of my fancy teacups.

@bryntendo

5 жыл бұрын

Kris Keall I bought a bottle of Hendricks gin that actually came with a nifty little teacup and saucer. The gin is loooooong gone, hahaha, but I still have the cup and saucer, they're just so stylized and quaint. Never actually drank the gin out of it though, it's a very small teacup that wouldn't even hold the amount of gin I usually put in my drink let alone any mixer, ice, or garnish lol. Still, the gin came with a proper china cup and saucer, so I have to assume they wanted consumers to drink out of teacups/coffee mugs right? 😂

Your comment about trolls actually cleared up something for me: If the matter of trolls came up on YT or in the media generally, there were regularly times when I questioned whether those people shown are actually trolls. The questions they asked were actually complex and could as well be asked by someone genuinely interested. And sure, some of them might have been interested. But the fact alone that these type of short questions need long and complex answers is exactly the reason why they are chosen by trolls. Not only that, they also stir up drama just by being answered, and you simply showed me the thread that connected trolls with these questions that are actually interesting to hear answered because they are so complex

experiencing girlhood for me did mean dealing with male harassment and often being afraid of men. but just like how transness shouldn’t be defined by what makes you feel dysphoric it should be about what causes euphoria, being a woman should be about the unique joy of female spaces and the closeness between women. my favorite part of growing up a girl was being trusted with things that needed privacy or secrecy around men, its a bond that feels very special and it’s something you can experience no matter what age you enter womanhood.

"This America's next top victim contest does nothing but to promote in-fighting among trans and cis women at a time when we should be marching to destroy all video games forever!" #yesallgamers All jokes aside, that quote is SO GOOD. THANK YOU!

As a young trans man, I'm really grateful for your videos. They're informative and funny (not to mention your outfits and backdrops are astounding) and I've learned a lot from you. Thank you for being the trans icon and teacher I've been looking for for so long. Keep slayin' queen!

@xenotiic8356

5 жыл бұрын

Unrelated but your icon is really nice. Do you know who drew it/the source?

@jasperbriarlight

5 жыл бұрын

Xenotiic I’m afraid not, sorry! I found it on google. (I was actually planning on changing it soon since I don’t know the source hdjdndjsjfj)

@jadee5126

5 жыл бұрын

I'm not trans, but my God lady I with you. She's brilliant isn't she, not only as the creative goddess but she's a amazing teacher.

My favorite thing about Natlaie's vids is that I learn a ton about subjects I was only passingly familiar with while laughing a lot. I wish all forms of education were this good.

@MysticMuttering

5 жыл бұрын

Same.

@antediluvianatheist5262

5 жыл бұрын

The laughing makes it stick

@DJDocsVideos

5 жыл бұрын

She truly has a gift.

@skscharf

5 жыл бұрын

This. I’m so out of my depth on so much of this. Bravo to Natalie and her colleagues for putting in the labour on these topics.

@treacle913

5 жыл бұрын

Troggie42 why is this pinned this comment sums all my feeling towards natalie i love this THIS

Realising now that my ex was a full blown transphobe. Most of the things you said here sounded word perfect what she'd say (almost like she'd trawled the Gender Critical subreddit for ideas and opinions). For a while I kind of just thought she was a slightly awry radical feminist that didn't *actually* hate trans people (in fact, she hated men and saw trans-women as men). It clicked a bit when a friend of mine said to me "you do realise the only reason she (my ex) supports trans men is because she thinks they're misguided women right?". Incredible.

@FreeAssange

Жыл бұрын

Dysphoric men misgender themselves every time they outnumber dysphoric women in crime & positions of power.

@lirian1053

Жыл бұрын

"the only reason she supports trans men is because she thinks they're misguided women" is a lot of words for "radical feminists define women as female humans and center them in their movement"

I used to be at a point where I wouldn’t have been able to watch this video without getting intense dysphoria from the horrible descriptions of trans women, but now I can laugh and dance and say “excuse my beauty” :)

@SoVidushi

2 жыл бұрын

I'm happy for you! Stay epic :)

@dooby5833

2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations on ur progress!!! Im super happy for you fr

"I should probably be communicating with a series of genderless sounds: NEEOR NEEOOR NEOORR" Goddamn I laughed.

@joyl2981

5 жыл бұрын

Lmao

@gwendolynstata3775

5 жыл бұрын

@@joyl2981 Honestly, if the angel that takes me to heaven isn't exactly that, I'm not gonna bother.

@eddyviolet9422

5 жыл бұрын

Some of us strive for this but it should not be a requirement in order to have ur humanity acknowledged lol

I was a long term heroin addict for 5 years. I recovered, but people still think "you're a normal guy, how could you be an addict?" Not to compare it to LGBTQ, , but I get the way socity puts a label on you. Getting judged instantly is the worst

@normanorman

3 жыл бұрын

absolutely. addiction is so deeply stigmatized. this applies to any stigmatized minority and terfs are, for some reason, fighting in support of that stigma

Taking a trip through Natalie's videos for comfort and familiarity, and for the first time, I linger on the fact that the mouse-over animation for this video is Natalie taking a drink straight from the tea pot and breaking down laughing. And I appreciate that.

I just found this channel through Healthygamergg. I find it very informative, and this vid has answered most of my questions. I've tried in the past to respond to vids and threads about trans ppl, and get attacked when all I want is information. I am 60, and have no hatred toward anyone, but this is different from what I grew up with. IDK what it's like to be trans. I can only imagine. I was a tomboy growing up (at a time when girls had to wear dresses to school, I wasn't allowed to wear jeans until middle school) but I always knew I was a girl, a female. I was extremely sheltered. I didn't know about homosexuals until adulthood. I didn't get it, but I had no hatred for homosexuals either. Only knowing one way of looking at marriage, I was confused as to who wore the dress and who wore the pants. Seeing homosexuals get married when both wear wedding gowns or both wearing tuxes opened my eyes to other ways of doing things. I was never opposed to same sex marriage; I just didn't know how that would work being raised in a strict box. Then AIDS hit and being a nurse, it was horrific. AIDS patients were treated so badly by medical staff. Some nurses refused to care for them because we didn't know how it was transmitted. At the time, nursing was opposed to wearing gloves because it was seen as dehumanizing a patient. AIDS changed all that. Unless you saw how AIDS ravaged a person, I cannot convey how horrible it was. I did not refuse to care for AIDS patients. They needed care and I was a nurse, so that was that. I did take all the precautions recommended at the time, but what was almost worse than what it did to their bodies, was how lonely most of them were. Families and friends disowned them. Medical staff was in judgement of them. The haunting look in their eyes is something I will never forget. It is the only illness in all my years that actually traumatized me. It wasn't just how bad it was on the body but listening to the conversations around it. Then there was Ryan White and all he went through. It was a tough time. Shows like Jerry Springer and Maury did nothing to further my understanding of trans ppl. Back then, there were two terms, trans and cross dressing and they were two different things. This was confusing to me. It muddied the waters and the hype of those shows contributed to transphobia, I think. The only thing I remember thinking at the time was: they are more beautiful in their appearance than most women. I had my own issues with raising children and my life to think about it too much. Feminism is important to me. I never entered into the feminazi sites, so I didn't know many of the terms used in the vid. I simply wanted body autonomy. Men have that already. Why is it different for women and why do we have to struggle so much to have it? Back in the 90's I went to jail for a minor infraction. For some reason, I was housed in what my little country jail had as their supermax. It was 6 bunks in one small room. There was a woman who had murdered, some for violent assault, and one trans woman. I had heard of trans ppl before, and besides makeup and the negative and harmful jokes about trans women (and the derogatory term tranny) I didn't know much about them. She asked that we not look at her when she was in the shower, or toileting. Those things are out in the open for anyone to see. Being supermax, the shower was in our cell. Everyone respected her wishes, but I had so many questions and was intensely curious. She was so shy, however, that I never asked a single question. She seemed to want to be left alone, and not knowing what else to do that wouldn't be seen as intrusive, we all left her alone. That was my first experience with someone so different from me. Life moved on in my small town. Now here we are and it's only been in the last few years that trans ppl have begun to assert themselves into mainstream society. I have no objection to this, but every time I went to ask any type of a question, I was told I was transphobic, bigoted, or worse. I was constantly attacked when responding to any kind of thread about trans ppl. I was told they weren't there to educate me, and the defensiveness was incredibly sharp. I wasn't trying to be mean. I told them I believed what they said, I believed they deserved equal rights and respect, and I would stand with them side to side as we fought for various issues. Our communities (again, not trying to be mean) intersect in so many areas, I felt we needed to have a conversation to understand one another. I had almost given up trying to understand it all when I found your channel. Thank you for explaining so much to me. You covered areas of trans ppl and feminism in a way I could understand. I do think we have a long way to go. I still have many questions, (none you need to answer) but I've always thought that male and female could and does reside in us all. The question "What is a woman?" really made me think. What is a woman? It's something I took for granted all my life. I had never really thought about it. As I did, I found it harder and to answer that question. When you take away the genitals you are born with, what is a woman? I'm still thinking about that question, and I am one. It's a fair question, but not one to slight the trans community. The largest gap as I see it is the terminology. Some ppl do not like to be called trans. They only want to be referred to as their gendered pronoun. I do not care what pronoun someone wants to use, I will respect that. From what I have been told, trans women just want to be referred to as women, but there is a difference, isn't there? It isn't my business to know what is in someone's pants unless I am in an intimate relationship with them. Unless someone makes it an issue, most of the time I wouldn't know someone was trans. There are stereotypes, of course, but not everyone fits into them. So we do have a ways to go. I think that's OK, but I've been told that's bigoted and harmful. I do not want to be harmful to anyone. I simply want to have some understanding. I had almost given up trying to talk to trans ppl, especially when I am told on one thread saying the word trans is like saying the "n" word, but another person says it's perfectly OK. I get attacked either way. So, thank you for this channel. I will watch some more vids and continue learning.

@clairekim2525

2 ай бұрын

As a young person, I really appreciate you sharing your experiences in this thoughtful comment. As for your question about terminology, I can actually answer that (if you haven’t found the answer already): women who were born male are trans women, and women where were born female are cis women; so, there is an adjective (cis/trans) to describe the difference. They’re actually just both abbreviations for the adjectives “cisgender” and “transgender.”

“There’s just no reasoning a transphobe out of bigotry.” Lady, you just did exactly that to me. The sheer power. I respect.

@madeline7272

3 жыл бұрын

I'm proud of you for having the introspection necessary to improve yourself!

@jemandoondame2581

3 жыл бұрын

If you give up arguing with your opponents, you are just dogmatic.

@jemandoondame2581

3 жыл бұрын

@Zainab Maliki "There’s just no reasoning a transphobe out of bigotry." This is the quote of the comment. I was making a general point. I am not a transphobe myself. I believe in a universal right to justification. And I have changed my views many times.

@alisonpurser4457

3 жыл бұрын

This. You are a good person. Thank you for not only having the courage it takes to critically examine core values, which is genuinely difficult, but to share this development with us. People don’t always accept someone changing their views, and it can be hard to publicly acknowledge that you were wrong about something important to you. I’ve been having a very hard night, and being reminded that people can be better really helped me. Thank you.

@user-ej3iw8lw3w

3 жыл бұрын

in the muslim world and africa, there is a very simple compromise: submission or gravity

Cutting wit, logic, production value, inclusivity, research, sincere introspection, and good old fashioned crude humor. I found your channel after watching a video poopooing you. Now, from top to bottom, pound for pound, I consider you the best KZreadr in the game.

@asuka_the_void_witch

5 жыл бұрын

welcome to the herd lol

@lzmunch

5 жыл бұрын

Who was it lol

@stopthephilosophicalzombie9017

5 жыл бұрын

Phoenix Vanguard And bullshit Pomo demagoguery

@markz2666

5 жыл бұрын

@Stop the Philosophical Zombies "Be it feminine masculine or somewhere outside the gender binary, you should always wash your penis. Trans rights are human rights." -Jordan B. Peterson

Being the camera crew of Contrapoint gotta be a treat. I mean, entertainment and knowledge on your job? yes, please