A generation so focused on body positivity, yet so insecure about their own looks that plastic surgery becomes the short term solution to the problem 🤔

@SirKaeyaStoleThisAccount

Жыл бұрын

Body positivity, especially fat positivity, is often a result of insecurity. Gen Z is full of insecurities.

@utrock5067

Жыл бұрын

If they keep that up we're gonna end up in times where even draneys from WoW will no longer be fictional beings.I hope they won't cry about "lack of representaion".

@JordanRivers-hx2lr

Жыл бұрын

Alleged PROBLE.M manipulated reaction alleged solution. Clean the inside of the cup. What both sides are promoting, proposing, isnt human. Antichrist.

@run2cat4run

Жыл бұрын

Funny how people say awful things about overweight people and there are people getting plastic surgery to look perfect

@jeremiahmud

Жыл бұрын

Such a true statement

The generation that insists that "everybody is perfect the way they are" Ironic, huh?!

@Shawn6751

Жыл бұрын

My generation is a bunch of hypocrites

@utrock5067

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like body positivity movement was out for dinner when such statement was made.

@joshwandered2944

Жыл бұрын

@Elaina Mendez It really is ironic, they love to sugar coat some words to make someone better but even themselves can’t take their own advise

@kaleightodd5173

Жыл бұрын

"perfect the way you are, but change everything about yourself"

@user-op5wh3hv8o

Жыл бұрын

It should be "everybody is perfect the way they came out from under the surgeon's knife"

I’m small chested, and was always self conscious about it. However, I was successfully able to nurse 3 children for 12-15 months each, and they were all healthy and thriving. Having children gave me such a deep appreciation for my body in ways that plastic surgery never would have done.

@Maggie-zb7gx

Жыл бұрын

Yes!!!^^^

@CheeseBae

Жыл бұрын

That's great! Boob size has nothing to do with the ability to feed children. No one is sure why larger breasts developed in women, but it was almost certainly due to superficial reasons instead of practical reasons.

@TheStudioArchitect

Жыл бұрын

@@CheeseBae That's not really true, but I get your point.

@lubnan08

11 ай бұрын

Amazing

@Kermawford

10 ай бұрын

That’s beautiful to hear ❤️

As a 25 year-old, I am only now starting to feel confident in my body. I’m finally starting to leave the awkward young-adult phase where I didn’t feel quite like I fit into my body. Social media absolutely is feeding into this and it’s so sad, especially when a lot of the women who have plastic surgery ALSO USE FILTERS AND PHOTOSHOP. And it’s lazy. Don’t like the size of your butt? Instead of working on yourself either mentally or physically like going to the gym and building muscle, they jump into surgery.

I remember when plastic surgery was taboo,now you can mention Botox and no one raises an eye brow!

@karinaw4585

Жыл бұрын

haha literally.. no literally they can’t raise their eyebrows cus of the botox

@qine6559

Жыл бұрын

Hahahaha! What a good one!!!😂

@pepito69

Жыл бұрын

​@@karinaw4585 😂

@ves6170

Жыл бұрын

I remember when people would shame others for having plastic surgery and people wouldn’t mention getting it because of the shame, but now society is normalizing this shit

@gold_flies9199

Жыл бұрын

LMAO

Here's some unsolicited advice; As a rule of thumb, if your reasons are cosmetic, you will be much better of learning to accept your body, than changing it surgically.

@houseofhas9355

Жыл бұрын

Yup which is why I have accepted that having a 20icher is no reason to get surgery. 😂😂

@martinam7806

Жыл бұрын

@@houseofhas9355 🤣🤣🤣🤣

@calistafalcontail

Жыл бұрын

The more people get used to changing something easily purely for vanity, they will spiral at some point. Its harder to deal with aging and all the things that come with it at increased speed later, when you erase every little flaw early before that right away...at some point you cant fix stuff anymore...and then you get Madonna, who is still trying instead of letting go. We age in stages so we can get used to the change in our look. We dont just wake up one looking 80...that would be brutal. But people who try to look 20 until they are 80 will have a melt down for sure.

@unit38421

Жыл бұрын

@@calistafalcontail Exactly. Because they don't learn how to deal with it in a 'natural' manner, and they risk becoming more reliant on surgical intervention to solve those problems. Eventually, the surgery can't keep up any more, assuming it ever could, but acceptance can. That is without even getting into the direct side effets of cosmetic surgery.

@RCLIM-yx8gv

Жыл бұрын

EveryZody is getting surgeries and what not, and the medical staff's bank accounts are LOVING IT!

This plastic surgery issue is seriously out of control. I have a downturned nose and even though I had come to terms with its existence, people keep talking with me about it all the time like "You have a job and money. Why don't you get plastic surgery?" and it has started to effect me all over again. I used to be a very sickly kid and I have went under the knife for many lifesaving procedures for my heart and kidneys. I don't want to experience that trauma all over again just because of the way my nose looks. I don't want to mess with a properly working, healthy organ but seeing that even a 15 year old kid is telling me to get plastic surgery is starting to get beyond draining. People should just learn to shut up and let others live peacefully.

@sofi4283

7 ай бұрын

The way I see it is that people function as mirrors and therefore they will reflect their own insecurities, hatred on others. on others. When I was younger I also felt insecure about my nose because it wasn't perfect like everyone else's. and then I grew up and started to love my profile and my imperfect nose. At that moment I stopped caring what people could tell me. I know it's annoying when people criticize you but you have the right to tell them to stop talking about your body as if they had the right to an opinion, it's called setting limits and it's healthy. Don't change because of other people's criticism, people will never be satisfied with you or with themselves. 😁

I'm 5'6" and I used to tell myself I would never date a short guy.... Met a guy who is 5'4" and started to date him and it is the healthiest relationship I have ever been in! We are getting married this September and I'm so excited and grateful that I stopped being so shallow.

@YourResidentPersonWhoDoesStuff

8 ай бұрын

Hey! I’m seeing this in October. Did you get married? How’d your wedding go? Am I really weird and nosy for asking this? Don’t answer if don’t want to.

@user-bk9fk2tq2z

Ай бұрын

I am between 5'3" and 5'4" tall.

Some days I look at myself and think I’m the ugliest person in the world. Then other days I feel absolutely gorgeous. That’s just being a girl. Deal with it

@aramjelalian3104

Жыл бұрын

Im a dude and I’ve definitely experienced that. It’s being human…

@Sonderax

Жыл бұрын

As a dude, 100% the same here. Today i feel ugly af, yesterday i felt hot as hell

@LuckyGhoul

Жыл бұрын

Nice to know it’s guys too lol

@TFMB

Жыл бұрын

you're a hawt ghost!

@Sonderax

Жыл бұрын

@@LuckyGhoul 100%

And this is why as a 24 year old who remembers the horrors of public school, social media, and my peers…. I homeschool my littles and have no regrets

@calistafalcontail

Жыл бұрын

I hear so much about homeschooling in the US, public schools must be a war zone there.

@talonsandtails501

Жыл бұрын

@@calistafalcontailoh boy coming from a public school student who switched to homeschool you have no idea

@EVA-ki5vw

Жыл бұрын

Kids still need public exposure to be able to make good decisions

@Ieatpaste23

Жыл бұрын

Anyone remember the show the Littles?

@calistafalcontail

Жыл бұрын

@@EVA-ki5vw But does this have to be at school? I dont know, most people started making bad decisions because they were to impressionable and got messed up by the things that were around them in bad schools. Sometimes promising kids (decent, smart, willing to learn) really get held back by bad schools. I have seen it with the kid of a friend of mine. The last thing he needed was this "public exposure"...he needed to get away from all the crappy teens around him and boom...graduated with amazing marks. Before that he was told he would barely finish school. You can get public exposure in sport clubs, youth organisations etc. in a better way I think.

To each their own, of course. I am thankful to a friend I had when i was in my 20s (she was in her 30s) who asked me, “Do you really want to look like everyone else?”, when I mentioned wanting a nose job. That stuck and made me think more about valuing my uniqueness vs trying to conform for approval.

The grossest part to me is that people have shamed me for saying that it's not good for your mental health to get cosmetic procedures like this done, that's how deep the brainwashing has gotten. I always hear the argument that it's empowering for women to fix their insecurities, but that in and of itself is such an insecure perspective. The empowering thing to do would be to accept your flaws and love yourself anyway. Unless in the case of some sort of disfigurement, I don't think people should be getting any plastic surgery done to themselves. It not only affects their own self perception, but it also affects the self perception of others, especially young girls. I appreciate you talking about this topic. I always see a lot of young female viewers in your comment section, and they really need to hear what you're saying. From a 26 year old woman, it does get better! We all hated our bodies growing up, it is perfectly normal and you don't need to change your body to be beautiful.

@littlecoastalfarmhouse

Жыл бұрын

46 here … and what you said is true!! You are stronger when you persevere and learn to love how God made you. It’s also empowering to know being all natural helps the next generation of girls to know that they are enough as is❤

You know the worst part about all this cosmetic surgery to me, is that it doesn't work. Here's a warning to any women who are thinking about it. As a man who is atracted to women, 9/10 times you were much prettier before the surgery or botox. Us guys like a woman who is able to smile much more than one with no wrinkles. We like one with body parts that match and were grown normally than one who is out of proportion. It isn't worth it. You're already pretty, you just need to learn to see it. And if you start down the road of cosmetic surgery, do you think you'll ever stop? If you can't learn to accept yourself, no amount of surgeries will be enough. You will always be able to find that 'one thing' that 'needs to be fixed' over and over and over. It's just sad.

@jamesredline1352

Жыл бұрын

PREACH BROTHER. I have made this point a few times myself. While attracting us shouldn’t be a woman’s only goal, if that is the goal the plastic surgery is not the way. Trout pout is a MAJOR turn off. Botox makes people look like cretins who can’t even control their own face anymore. I don’t want my daughter subjected to that. Godspeed natural women out there you are still winning.

@joshwandered2944

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, that’s addiction to some people. However, it’s considered if they want to fix something that is asymmetrical in their face or body. But change yourself, for what? Because the society’s beauty standards said so? Hell nah.

@DMp-xp6mj

Жыл бұрын

As a woman, plastic surgery looks awful to me too most times than not. I mean, you see fresh young girls turn into fourty year old corn stars and for what reason? I get that there are some men who like that look but I'm 100% certain that most men prefer the pretty girl next door look than the bimbo barbie look. I dont know, I think as a woman you grow up thinking that men only like women who are 90 lbs with ridiculous curves and so you think that your "average" body is not enough and this is a hard mindset to break. I myself am on the chubbier side and although I've had men interested in me i still feel undesirable. I get why those women do it because unfortunately the pressure to be beautiful is tremendous for women but it makes me sad.

@privatename2426

Жыл бұрын

A lot of women feel really insecure, especially after seeing the porn/women their SO looks at. I've been there. I'm not getting PS just because of a man, but I get the pain that turns women towards it.

@homeslice6064

Жыл бұрын

Constant Botox usage in the long term actually eats away at the facial muscles overtime. So, when these women are old, they are going to look unrecognizable and not in a good way…

and this is why I am scared to raise children into this world. first it's genders now it's height?? why can't everyone just live and be happy with themselves! it is literally so socially pushed

@Pikawarps

Жыл бұрын

Height operations like these have been around several years, we just see it on social media now

@SD-mi2vc

Жыл бұрын

​@@Pikawarpsyh

@aidanmeyer944

Жыл бұрын

I think just be a good parent and you wouldn't have to worry about that. My parents did a good job getting us away from this kind of bullshit

@abirmakesdumbvideos

Жыл бұрын

this world? only in “america”

@abirmakesdumbvideos

Жыл бұрын

we asians are safe here.

It’s so true… It’s like it’s not acceptable to go through a weird awkward stage anymore. It’s normal to not feel amazing when you’re 15. It doesn’t mean you should start getting surgery. At least wait until you’re an adult and have lived in your body for a while.

I had a relatively large nose for my face when I was in middle school. I was always insecure about it, even in high school. I'm 26 now and I love my nose. It's strong, unique, and it fits my face. I feel a sense of resonance with it because it's mine and only mine. The saddest part about plastic surgery is that it standardizes the look of humanity. It literally mitigates what makes you look like you. There's something inherently spiritual about the faces and body types we are born into. It's like they are symbolic of who we are. And yet some people call altering (and often harming) them self-love. It's ass-backwards.

I remember some girl told me that I was beautiful and that I was so lucky to be pretty. She did effin plastic surgery. She was so beautiful before the surgery now she looks like my sleep paralysis demon. I'm just 12 and I feel so tired of this generation. Thank you, Brett, for fixing my sight of the world and making me realize what is wrong and what's right.

@obscuraxxxx

Жыл бұрын

Wait ... was this girl your age or older??????? I follow a girly on KZread who was such a natural beauty but then she started doing all the fillers in the world ... she looked like a pufferfish after and completely ruined her face. Don't do anything to your face!

@oliviaaa4881

Жыл бұрын

Girl, 12??? Props to you for realizing that so young! Stay safe, it's rough out here ❤

@utrock5067

Жыл бұрын

I remember also a case of girl who was absorbed wit her looks that much that she spent hours before mirror doing make-up and thus missing school dayily.

@fallensanity1075

Жыл бұрын

Kudos to you, kid. Recognize your own worth, and help others realize theirs. You're on a good path.

@Ben9263Thurber

Жыл бұрын

My dear, you are beautiful. You don't need plastic surgery at all.

I saw a video of a girl who completly changed my view about myself. She said : Your body is a trend. Literally. One day, slim bodies are trendy, the other day is being curvy. On day, big lips are gross, than the day after everybody wants big lips. Straight hairs one day, curvy hair the next. It's changing everyday. So what are you gonna do ? Make plastic surgeries for the rest of your life, because you'll still hate yourself later since the trends will be changing and you'll need to change again, or will you finally try to love yourself and not suffer for the rest of your live ? Is it worth it for temporary feeling beautiful ? When you can feel beautiful everyday if you learn to love yourself

@moonbuni59

Жыл бұрын

I watched a video made by a plastic surgeon who was reviewing another video by a women who was talking about the plastic surgery trends in South Korea. One of the interviews was with a lady who is a hostess and she has had so many surgeries to keep her face trendy. It is so sad what some people feel they need to do.

@luckyduchesse8924

Жыл бұрын

@@moonbuni59 exactly, that's a really good example

@pc_suffering6941

Жыл бұрын

Can't wait for short ugly dudes to be trending

@jennifermcduffy7844

Жыл бұрын

It’s true. Think about it, back in the 1800s, it was fashionable for women to be more on the plump side because men saw this as women being more fertile. That is why, when you look at paintings of women from the 1800s, they are all plump.

@Vecchio_Rhosod85

Жыл бұрын

It's best to not take orders from indecisive people. And clout chasers.

The clinic I had my wisdom teeth surgically removed at also did plastic surgery. I didn’t realize that until I was sitting in a room, waiting for the surgeon, and facing a wall detailing why you needed every one of these surgeries. I sat there feeling more and more insecure about my own face, and I was in my 30s at the time! It’s no wonder teens and young women feel insecure about their own features when they’re bombared with those messages daily!

I would tell any man or woman considering this for cosmetic reasons, DO NOT DO IT! I had this done on my left femur when I was a child because a car accident damaged my left leg to the point it wasn't growing as fast as my right. I had a 7 1/2 cm lengthening so I wouldn't have a permanent limp, and it was a year long process. Not to mention, the most excruciating pain I ever endured. Now I do have even legs which I'm thankful for but risks include infections (which became almost life threatening) scarring, nerve damage, and muscle damage. It is NOT WORTH IT!

I’m 30 and used to want a nose job so bad I hated my nose. I had my daughter last year and she has my nose and I’ve grown to love it. I don’t want her to have the thoughts I did so I’m choosing not to alter my nose and will constantly tell her how beautiful she and her features are.

@mirrenbutns1715

Жыл бұрын

Love this ❤❤

@sarasweightlossjourney1432

Жыл бұрын

Beautiful comment and mother❤

@RCLIM-yx8gv

Жыл бұрын

EveryZody is getting surgeries and what not, and the medical staff's bank accounts are LOVING IT!

@simplybri3608

Жыл бұрын

@@RCLIM-yx8gv that’s very true!

@tinam761

Жыл бұрын

Glad you worked this issue out to be an example for your daughter and YOU are also worth loving yourself. ❤

As an old millennial, it's just crazy to me to see young people who look fantastic getting surgeries that make them look like plastic dolls, they literally look awful

@gustavovm491

Жыл бұрын

This, I don't get how basketball butts, engorged pouty lips and sunken face cheeks became so sought after, they look gross and unnatural.

@jamieweatherwalk2752

Жыл бұрын

I'm also an older millennial and I am VERY saddened that it IS OUR generation that raised these people!

@samanthalopate5683

Жыл бұрын

@@jamieweatherwalk2752 Millennials in large part wouldn’t have raised the young adults getting plastic surgery-that would be Gen X. The oldest millennials are in their early 40s, and could be as young as mid twenties.

@arissahusayn4874

Жыл бұрын

@@samanthalopate5683 early 40’s have kids that are 22 yk?

@samanthalopate5683

Жыл бұрын

@Arissa Husayn obviously, I'm just saying it's not the generational majority.

Thank you so much for talking about this, and thank you for not getting a nose job! The more people get nose jobs the more a regular nose looks “too big” or “weirdly shaped”, and then people with larger noses look even more “different” and the insecurities just never end 🙄🤦‍♀️noses of all shapes and sizes are beautiful!! Same goes for all the other features and procedures. And if everyone gets plastic surgery everyone just looks identical, and that would be truly disgusting 😳 Variety is beautiful, individuality is beautiful! We as a culture seem to support that idea when it comes to skin tones(as we should) so why not all other natural features???

Confidence is infinitely more attractive than altering your body to fit "society's standards". We're living in clown world...

@Joannefibracs9994

Жыл бұрын

I definitely have more confidence AFTER my rhinoplasty. 🤷‍♀️

This scares me. At the same time I was absolutely influenced by Instagram. I was in a 4 year abusive relationship and I discovered makeup and KZread tutorials. My lips are small. I got lip injections once. Nothing changed. I still got abused and hurt. I was older than most of the Influencers. Thankfully I got out, and I haven’t done anything like that again.

@jamesplymire5342

Жыл бұрын

❤

@RCLIM-yx8gv

Жыл бұрын

If that's your picture, then your lips are just right.💋

@RCLIM-yx8gv

Жыл бұрын

EveryZody is getting surgeries and what not, and the medical staff's bank accounts are LOVING IT!

@The_other_Jen

Жыл бұрын

@@RCLIM-yx8gv yes, they are my lips. Thanks

@RCLIM-yx8gv

Жыл бұрын

@@The_other_Jen Ha I *knew* it! 😃

I am a 6' 5" guy and have never understood why people want to be tall. Once you get so tall it becomes incredibly difficult to find clothing that fits (clothing companies assume everyone just gets wider not taller), you deal with constant neck and back pain from having to look down at everything and people CONSTANTLY staring at you. I don't wish to be shorter cause this is how I was made to be. When it comes to looks people need to accept who they are and stop changing their image to please others.

@SD-mi2vc

Жыл бұрын

Getting laid, feeling like a man. You problems seem trvial compared to the upside

@ricardokojin7

Жыл бұрын

If you are a short man a lot of women won't even look at you, a woman can see your face or photos in a dating app, talk to you for hours, call you, be super into you...but the moment you mention you are slightly less tall than she assumed (yet still taller than her) she gets drier than old nancy. Having said that, I do love being comfortable (ish) in airplanes and I'm pretty sure I require less food to stay alive lol

@wilhelmbuzzkyll

Жыл бұрын

I’m 6’1” and I hope I don’t get taller, I have friends close to your height in their early 20s and they already getting back problems. It ain’t all it’s cracked up to be

@mesamom62

Жыл бұрын

As I said in another comment, I was a 5'1.5" woman at my max. I get a sore neck looking up when speaking to people! Sometimes I think I just need to find a step stool!

@landinggreenmedia565

Жыл бұрын

Bruh this is like a rich person saying I never understand why people want to be rich. You have never had to deal with the problems of being short so of course you don't understand. Doesn't mean there is no reason that short people want to be taller.

I went to high school with girls who got plastic surgery and fillers. The filler girl told me she gets her lips done once a week. I found this out during graduation but she could've been getting them at an earlier age for all I know. The girl who got plastic surgery got a rhinoplasty when she was 16. I understand getting this kind of surgery because of a deviated septum or other medical issues, but I'm convinced that it was pure self-consciousness and vanity that caused her to change her nose forever.

I feel so sorry for some of these young people they haven't even given themselves time to grow into the bodies they have. They haven't taken time to find the right people who appreciate them the way they are. Growing up, I absolutely hated my nose, my freckles, and the weird color of my eyes. I was relentlessly teased for these things. And then in college, I met a guy who told me my nose was adorable, My freckles were so cute, and He told me he loved my hazel eyes. We've been married 16 yrs now. The problem wasn't my looks it was the people I was around. When I found my people everything changed.

I’m in my 40’s and I live in a state that does way too much plastic surgery and I know tons of women who are having to get explant surgery because their breast implants have been making them so sick for years. I’m so glad I never fell for that.

@americandee7721

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like Cali. I am in Cali and we have more plastic walking around then the dang ocean. Lol

What’s really amazing to me is that-very often-the lip injection thing is plainly obvious, and intensely unappealing. A lot of men, at least the men with values and sensibility, find overly-adorned or altered looks unattractive in general. The giant fake eyelashes, the kool-aid hair coloring, the cheesy hair extensions, the stupid lip plumping; it all comes across as desperate. Most of us aren’t at all into the ‘hey, look at me’ type of girls.

@JarethTheGoblinKingForever

Жыл бұрын

Most girls who do these things end up looking either like drag queens or blow-up dolls. Not a good look at all. Even worse still are those butt enhancements - sorry ladies, but nobody will want you if you're stick thin with an artificial rear end as big as a spring pig at the county fair. As women who get their butts artificially pumped-up start to age, it looks like they're wearing a loaded diaper. With any permanent surgery, always ask yourself, "will this still be hot in 30 years? Is it even hot now? And does it actually make me happy long-term?"

No way Brett!!! You are so naturally beautiful and your nose is perfect for your face. So glad you didn’t let peer pressure push you into making permanent changes that you don’t need

I had a huge breast growth spurt in the 4th grade. When all my friend were still in training bras and just wore them because they wanted to be “cool” I HAD TOO. I was so uncomfortable in my body until junior/senior year. I asked for a breast reduction and my pet eta said no. 35 now and so glad I kept them

I have cerebral palsy and I had to have hamstring lengthening and knee Encapsulation surgery when I was 17. Somehow the pre-op nurse didn’t realize that I didn’t have a meeting about what to expect after surgery and what kind of physical therapy I would need. Let me just say I went through hell for months after my surgery, physically and mentally. My surgery was a necessity to help me walk and to prevent other health issues from happening in the future. I don’t understand why people want to be cut open and go through all the pain just for looks.

@mesamom62

Жыл бұрын

I hose you are doing better now.

@sarram143

Жыл бұрын

You are literally me. I have cp too. I had to have my hamstrings lengthened when I was 11 (my fault cause I didn't want to exercise). Recovery wasn't horrible, but still so inconvenient. Even so, I learned from a very early age because of my disability to be content with the body God has given me. These other people are modifying themselves like nobody's business, and they're miserable. Better to be happy with what you have

@sophiahumes

Жыл бұрын

@@mesamom62 I am, thank you.

@sophiahumes

Жыл бұрын

@@sarram143 I completely agree!

@catherinebracy4332

Жыл бұрын

I have mild CP and I had to have heel cord and hamstring lengthening on both legs at around 11 too. Learning how to walk with groin-high casts as a preteen was fun 😅 I don’t understand these people 😂

I wrote a research paper about this topic for my English class back in CC. It's honestly so sad and terrible. There is a really strong correlation between snapchat filters/filters in general with young women. It isn't surprising if you think about it though. GenZ is probably the only generation that grew up with a device that offered them a distorted/"better" view of their faces (small noses, flawless skin, no wrinkles, bigger eyes, etc.). I'm honestly so glad I didn't have a smartphone until I was 17 (back in like 2012). Def know my future kids aren't having access to this kind of tech until their brains are more developed smh

I was seriously just talking about this the other day with my sisters, and didn't even see that you had posted this video. I understand booby reduction because sometimes there are serious issues when they are too big, and I also understand when you have been through an accident or something and just want to get back to your old self. The thing I don't understand is why people would do these things for fun, especially when I'm sure some money goes into it for research, when it could be used for more important research, that's actually life threatening.

Single-handedly convinced me not to get a nose job, I appreciate you going over this topic! 💕

i am still in school but when i am older and have kids i WILL homeschool because of how scary our world is now i wouldnt want to influence my kids with that type of people. thank you brett for your videos i love them and your amazing!!!

@zarahsgarden2097

Жыл бұрын

Just make sure you choose the right man. Being a stay at home mom is a very vulnerable position and if you end up with the wrong person it could be totally miserable, but choose a good man and it is very fulfilling. You can learn about body language, deception detection, narcissistic tendencies and behavior patterns to identify and AVOID manipulative narcissists. 🚩 Good luck 💕

@jekkjace3817

Жыл бұрын

God bless and be strong, my son is 1 and Me and my wife are absolutely homeschooling

@Rulas29

Жыл бұрын

More power to you kid

@Ivy_Trully13

Жыл бұрын

yeah agreed im 12

@Arwen_sj.x

Жыл бұрын

@@zarahsgarden2097 yes! i would love to have a job too its one thing ive always dreamed of! ive been dating people as a young age (now) so i can learn all the red flags before i get into a serious one as an adult! and i hope you stay safe too

I knew a girl who had a breast surgery back in high school. It was a reduction. Her back was messed up from having an abnormally large bust. That’s the only time it makes sense to me…. Why take the risk of surgery and go through the crap and the cost to change what isn’t wrong, unless it’s for health reasons (which means something’s wrong!)

@tvtvtfan3767

Жыл бұрын

Or they had a accident

@eily_b

Жыл бұрын

EVERY medical reason is why help should always be provided but these TikTok body part trend people tend to forget that every surgery comes with problems or at least a changed body forever. It's not that you make snip snip and everything is like before. You get scars etc.

@juodagalvesniegena714

Жыл бұрын

Same,like weight loss skin removal,breast cancer reconstruction,broken nose reconstruction,accidents,scar removal ect.

@juliannadouglass8844

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. I've been considering a breast reduction since high school, although I may wait until after I have kids so I don't have to do it twice. It's a medical reason. At 20, I'm already having back and shoulder pains, especially when I don't sleep quite right. It sucks. The one thing that is nice about it is that I'm generally pretty curvy, at least as of right now, and my chest and stomach look about even. I'd rather have a bigger stomach and big boobs than just a bigger stomach and no boobs. It doesn't look right.

@Def_not_Emi

Жыл бұрын

Yes, I was just thinking this. Breast reduction, medical procedures that aren’t because you want to look “pretty” when you have no deformities or any real reason to change yourself, are the only acceptable surgery reasons. Everything else…

I had the same procedure done that the man in the first video got. The correct term is distraction lengthening. I had them done on my two metacarpal bones on my hands (both left and right) because they were half the size they were supposed to be. Despite the fact that it’s considered a cosmetic surgery, the bone deformities in my hands caused me a lot of pain and reduced my grip strength tremendously. So mine was considered a surgery that would help me function better. However it was by far the most painful two years of my life and would never want anybody to go through what that guy went through or what I did

Hearing that you used to be insecure of your height and being too skinny made me feel a certain way, I’ve struggled with both of those insecurities as well as my nose so I’m glad to see I’m not the only one

I remember when "body alteration" or as it was called back then "body modification" meant getting a tattoo or a body piercing. Sure, plastic surgery has always been a thing as well, but this kind of insanity wasn't a thing. I've got plenty of tattoos and want more, but christ in heaven, this is absurd.

@heathdean3807

Жыл бұрын

@@Itugen88 Yup. What's truly sad about it is, the same people doing this kind of shit are the exact same people that will sit there and scream at the top of their lungs that everyone should love themselves no matter what. It's actually absurd. The cognitive dissonance is endless. And for me, the tattoos is a journey. All of my tattoos have meaning to me, even the very first one I got when I was 18. As time has passed, each additional piece of artwork has had even more significant meaning to me and is almost like a story of where I came from and where I've been, the situations that have made me into the man I am today. Have I changed in the course of all that time? Absolutely. But unlike so many people who get inked and then come to regret it, I have no regrets for any of mine because every one is a reminder of a part of my life that was very significant to me.

Personally, the issues I’ve had with guys who are short, has always been with their attitude, not their height. If they had a chip on their shoulder, acted like a victim, or were bitter, that was the turn off. And something tells me that surgically making yourself taller won’t fix the root issue of your attitude. And the same can be said of all the women getting plastic surgery too.

@SD-mi2vc

Жыл бұрын

You're a women u cant talk on this

@yesman3208

Жыл бұрын

What if I told you… that you already interpret and assume their actions and behaviors in a negative way BECAUSE you dislike shorter men…kinda like how people will perceive an Asian in a way that is stereotypical because they already have those made up assumptions in their head…regardless of how that person may actually act

@djarinriduur

Жыл бұрын

@@yesman3208 Nope. Because it’s never been all short men. Only some. I have zero problem with short men who are confident in themselves and don’t let the haters get to them. But men who are bitter and sensitive about their height? No thank you. Everyone has things that they don’t like about themselves and things that other people treat them differently because of. Some more so than others. And I think how people handle things like that says a whole lot more about them than anything physical about them ever will.

@xdlol59

Жыл бұрын

My first love and my first boyfriend was short and it never was an issue for me (because I am short too and also I was in love) He wasn't very insecure, but sometimes it came up and it was a turn off. Also I know many amazing, charismatic, funny and self-confident short guys and they have very cool and beautiful girlfriends. So yeah... It is all attitude, BUT this attitude is rooted in treatment and social stigma?? and in everything.

@yesman3208

Жыл бұрын

@@djarinriduur you don’t have to assume it about every short guy in order for it to be an inherent bias. The degree to which you judge them can vary. But the preconceptions are there regardless.

That limb lengthening surgery freaked me out. I had a total knee replacement in 2000. I went back to work and began to have excessive pain. I had a septic knee joint and had to have dozens of surgeries and ended up with a fused knee joint Please don't do unnecessary surgery.

Awesome video Brett 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

I have a friend who underwent years of cosmetic surgery after being badly burned with jet fuel in the military. She was not insecure or responding to criticism as some of these people are. She genuinely needed these procedures.

@MyBoysAndJoys

8 ай бұрын

Very different and not comparable in the slightest to overly insecure 18-25 year olds copying the latest “it girl” trend

You don’t need Botox at 19 .. aging will happen .. embrace it also just another reason that social media is killing us

@BandanaCow

Жыл бұрын

Lol no I’m getting everything fixed when I’m legal

I loved this episode. Thanks Brett

When I was in high school I wanted a breast augmentation so bad!!! Had I had the money at 18 I would have gotten it with no questions. However, at about 22 or so I started to not only accept my smaller boobs but appreciate them. I am not 33 and am SO happy I never got it! I didn’t just accept my small boobs, I love them. It fits my body for what it is. Had I got breast implants it would look so weird compared to the rest of my body. It took some time, but I learned to love my body the way it was made. Also, I hated my nose growing up too! Brett and I have almost the same nose. I didn’t ever think about a nose job because it wasn’t as normal as implants. But again, I now love my nose!

I’m 13 and kept off of every social media app (besides yt) and I am very thankful for my parents for that and homeschooling me ❤🙏🏻 and as a awkward teenage girl I have insecurities abt a lot of things but they will change and I’m still young so i shouldn’t worry about how I look

@pratikparbat341

Жыл бұрын

Hi a 23 old boy here , who is kinda in the same situation, I am good at academics and I always thought subjective beauty is superior; but I quickly realized that the world really doesn’t care about your personality. I would not say that you make it your insecurity but rather work on your insecurities. Remember nice personality traits are very hard to come by they are very hard to cultivate. But when you work on yourself and you have the objective beauty; the world becomes even more easier. Work on yourself and remember even though you’re 13, you having the sense of what is wrong and what kills your confidence is the fact that you’re much more mature than others kids who are playing with barbiedolls and video games. Just use your energy wisely to cultivate your emotional, physical and spiritual wellbeing.

@ritasjoy

Жыл бұрын

You're on a great track @IzzaStyle

Imagine a world where when faced with petty cyberbullying, instead of deleting the app, making a new account or facing the haters like a boss, you pay thousands to destroy your body.

Brett thank you for talking about this issue! I also hated my nose & body from a young age and I was CONVINCED I needed plastic surgery. Now as a 20 year old, I have grown into my features and I have learned to love my body and my uniqueness! I am SO GLAD I never got any procedures! Please young girls, JUST WAIT for your body to fully develop before making any of these major decisions, some of your “imperfections” might just be your favorite features later in life ❤️

@robin-hr7tc

Жыл бұрын

Nah dude i have a big nose and it doesn't look good

@madhavmathur4008

11 ай бұрын

To be very frank, if women even just exist, she will have get a partner but as a guy height is like eligibility criteria if you are about or shorter then avg women, an overwhelming majority (which is 90% and ya there are actual research papers on it) would pass on you. So, it makes sense why a guy would go through something as bizarre as limb lengthening.

People who are natural rarely go on social media to post a ton of stuff. My take is prom personal experience. When a person is insecure they want change something about themselves AND seek constant validation from the outside, from other people. When I gained my confidence I found myself simply deleting instagram, not realizing that these 2 occurrences were connected until much later

This is exactly what parents nowadays should be telling kids at home.

@Christopher-qq4dl

Жыл бұрын

❤

@MK-cy3ww

Жыл бұрын

I remember one time I told my south asian parents I was ugly and they both looked at me like "how dare you bitch" It was enough for me at that moment LOL And I realised that they felt insulted (since I inherited my look from them) But yeah kids become insecure like that when parents don't tell their kids (WITH CLEAR WORDS) they are good just the way they are.

Peer pressure really does influence people, I am young but I have learnt to love myself but I do get pressured. I’m glad there are people like Brett out here pointing these things out. X

I've always said that not everybody is "beautiful". And we see what it does to tell everyone they're beautiful as they are: nothing, because they know it's not true. I think it would be better to realize that it's not important to be beautiful, and focus on other things, instead of saying everyone is beautiful the way they are and get people obsessed with being perceived as beautiful.

@noortaiyeba1068

Жыл бұрын

You spoke my mind I’m glad I’m not th only one

I think we have gotten so used to the idea if you aren’t happy you can buy yourself a new face/body as if it isn’t a massive decision. I had a nose job 7 years ago, and this came after YEARS of contemplation, planning, saving, and working through insecurity. For me, it was one of the best decisions i’ve made for myself - not because I was buying myself a new nose on a whim in order to fit a new trend, but because it was something I had truly thought about and considered for such a long period of time that I was certain that this was the right choice for ME personally. That being said, I can agree that cosmetic surgery has become such a common and trivial/normalized thing for women especially. It’s quite sad the pressures people feel to fit into a societal mold of being “beautiful”. For me, getting my nose done allowed me to stop fixating on every single flaw I have. It allowed me enough relief that I was able to take a step back and accept myself for who I am. That being said, I think there are a lot of people who get plastic surgery and then go the opposite way of “ok what next”. I think you really need to consider this very carefully and you need to do some soul searching and self work. For me, cosmetic surgery was an act of self love - however, I do not believe this is the case for many people who seek it. I definitely do not recommend cosmetic surgery to others just because it was the right choice for me personally. It is a very personal choice and I think society has allowed it to become way too mainstream.

@mohammedluay7065

9 ай бұрын

yea but u cant change ur genetic when ur child born with big nose

Damn im 5'5" and life sucks as a short guy. Yea everyone says "go short kings" but dont no one actually lives that way, they just ignore you outside of social media.

@SD-mi2vc

Жыл бұрын

Exactly i am 5'6 brother its so hard. Its so hard

@tanuguitar1

Жыл бұрын

amen man, I know that feeling. you can make 6 figures, own your own houses and cars. They still won't batter an eye at you. Evenmore they will make fun of you. Modern dating is rough combining not sure if a girl is a girl and the strong dislike for men under 6 feet tall, no wonder why a good amount of men has depression.

@SD-mi2vc

Жыл бұрын

@@beelllp2647 its not from a bad place. Its like when a friends relative dies, "what can i say" "i cant change it"

@thewand3r3r45

Жыл бұрын

@@beelllp2647 lmao i hear that all the time, its bullshit. I'm just as confident if not more than some who are taller, still nothing.

@FabulosoSpray

Жыл бұрын

There are those that do. The biggest problem is spending too much time on social media, and judging yourself self based on a person says or looks rather than YOU determining your self worth based on things that can be changed. The more time you spend on what others deem attractive or a required trait, the more time you take away from yourself love and reflection.

My husband works with four of five nurses in their early twenties and I worked with a similar age range and they ALL are getting work done. Preventative Botox is now done at 19-23 here in Australia. My brother's girlfriend (29) gets it too. Idk it just seems a) unnatural as heck which generally isn't good for you, b) like a rejection of the reality of your mortality and c) like a reflection upon an image-focussed society that thinks looks matter more than a good character (spoilers: they don't by the time you're a grandma).

Nerve damage is insaaaanely painful. Would never do that on purpose...

I like what you said at the end Brett keep it up ❤

Omg, Brett. I've been trying to share my nose job story too to relate to this. I wound up getting the medical stuff done, but no cosmetic change at all. And I think it speaks to A LOT these days. Thanks for all your hard work and content. I'm a former left, running, not walking to normalcy.

@robin-hr7tc

Жыл бұрын

Lol i'm also thinking of having a nose job too

@krismay01

Жыл бұрын

@@robin-hr7tc I don't regret not doing the cosmetic part!!! I do ABSOLUTELY breathe better than I ever have now though!! 😂😂😂

im a 23 year old guy and 5'4 height when i was 18 and 19 i wanted to be taller and used to do sports that concern with height and i remember seeing one video about self confidence and stopped doing those sports and now im great with how i am and seeing this king of things from guys its just sad that they don't love who they are and how they are

@utrock5067

Жыл бұрын

Also when Brett said about "short kings",there actually were literal short Kings in history ,and furthermore - they rocked.

Thanks for this I honestly don’t like plastic surgery unless it’s to correct something that actually hurting the cody like a cleft palate. But for years I wanted my teeth whitened, I go to the dentist and they decline me as I have a receeding root on my incisor. I did more research into whitening and found that it actually destroys your teeth. And most people have veneers which are fake teeth clipped into your teeth but they are shaped to look peg like.

Plastic surgery is crazy in Colombia. So much so, that almost everyone i worked with in Medellín had some procedure and i felt like my reality was being gaslit

HEY BRETT loove you what an amazing influence you have on our generation!!

There’s a British show on Tubi I’ve been watching called Bodyshockers and the amount of people regretting these modifications well into their 30’s and above is unreal. It’s sad. Although this has been an issue ever since I was born and I am 32. People want to look picture perfect and they’ll go to great lengths to get there.

The Arnold Schwarzenegger clip sent me to the moon 🤣🤣 round of applause for your editor

As someone who doesn’t wear makeup because it would make me insecure (example: if someone said I looked pretty, I would think that I was ugly and the only reason they said that was because of the makeup), I cannot FATHOM getting plastic surgery. There are things I don’t like about my body, but I just learn to, if not love them, just live with them.

As a short person I would never do this because if a girl doesn't want me because of my height she's not worth it to me

@SD-mi2vc

Жыл бұрын

So you want to end up alone?

@anonymoose7412

Жыл бұрын

@@SD-mi2vc I think that's a negative way to view it because I've met people who WILL go out with me regardless of my height and I see it as a way to improve the rest of myself since I can't improve myself. If you're short like me then don't feel so down you just have to put in more work then the tall guys

@SD-mi2vc

Жыл бұрын

@@anonymoose7412 i am 5'6 so i get it. In the end dating is a form of eugentics. We lucked out

@FabulosoSpray

Жыл бұрын

@@SD-mi2vc preferences are subjective, but that's a very unrealistic view on women. "All women want tall guys with a full beard and six cars, a two story house with a six figure bank account" that's an extreme media driven narrative

@anonymoose7412

Жыл бұрын

I understand you. Good luck dude and don't let other people determine your worth because of your height . Take care of yourself

Age definitely gives you a new perspective on yourself and your own appearance. I'm turning 26 and I no longer feel self conscious about my nose, hooded eyes, and chubby cheeks. I've seen enough trends come and go to know they don't last forever and this one too will pass.

Lots of people get 'cosmetic' procedures for non cosmetic reasons and this is also becoming more common. For instance, getting botox in my forehead is very appealing to me as I frown so much at the moment, I often get headaches from my forehead being tensed up all the time. Botox would relax those muscles and fix that problem. Now that would fall under cosmetic surgury but i'd be getting it for a non-cosmetic reason. I also will likely have to get a breast and body lift in the future as I'm currently rapidly losing weight following bariatric surgery. Again, that's cosmetic but it's also a necessity for my health.

1:30 why did I think of the White Girls movie!? “I got my knees done” 😂😂😂😂

A blog job at 15! I didn't have much in that department until I was almost out of high school. Kids, let your body finish developing before you start modifying it.

How are you This mature at the age of 22? It took me so many years to get to where you're at. I still struggle and I'm just in awe of your awareness. Thank you for sharing with so many young girls that they don't have to do anything drastic to themselves Because they're created beautifully

@neotoad456

11 ай бұрын

Mid 20s are not children. Typically, People in their mid 20s to late 20s do this. Your brain is fully developed at 25. So they aren't children. 0-24 are kids, not 25+.

@paninthedada

10 ай бұрын

childhood trauma, and in brett's case, unironically or strong, grizzled woman who went through dark times, a brave warrior if you will

I underwent a limb lengthening operation in 4th grade to help correct a limb length discrepancy. Having orthopedic issues, it's difficult to attribute long lasting effects, but can confirm that I can't feel much around my knee cap area

That stuff was super common in South Korea from a long time and still is if not more. It's new in America. It's saddening to see this becoming more common

I'm 29 and I never want to get plastic surgery. Not only is it expensive, but I feel like it ages some people. For others it looks great, but it can become an addiction and you keep getting more and more until you've done too much. You are beautiful exactly as you are and don't let anyone take that way from you!

Hi Brett keep up the great work!

I can't believe a Dr actually does this! I have had 5 back surgeries and my body is just never pain free!

Brett, thank you so much for what you do. You are slowly but surely changing the world and society! ❤️

Body dysmorphia is a mental illness, Ladies. You are beautiful just as the Lord intended.

@josukeuchiha

Жыл бұрын

Not guys apparently

I saw a documentary on the limb lengthening years ago. It was done more in hospitals in Asian or European countries where there was less restrictions on procedures. Men and women were coming in from other countries to have this done , just so they could be more like the tall Americans.

I can't believe you are only 21! And so wise! I agree with everything you say always! What is going on in this world! What is wrong with people and where are we headed!?

I've always been self conscious about my nose and I still kinda am because i have family that keeps reminding me about it or even mother saying if I would want nose surgery -.- I grew up being bullied for it, I never really cared much about my nose until people kept pointing it out which can make anyone feel insecure. We just live in a VERY judgmental society

As much as inner confidence is super important; the fact is society (nowadays) treat short men like trash

I was born with a mild case of cerebral palsy. This caused me to have weakness in my legs and several balance issues. Though I would often ask God why I was born like this, I was never ashamed of myself. A while later, I got the answer to my question. My parents told me that people wouldn't accept me into certain preschools because of my disability. One thing led to another, and this brought my family to a Christian church, where we got saved. Now, I know that this is long-winded, but here's the point: Never be ashamed of what you do or do not have. I learned from a very early age because of my disability to be content with the body God has given me. These other people are modifying themselves like nobody's business, and they're miserable. Better to be happy with what you have

Here in Korea plastic surgery is often given as a high school graduation present.

Yea. I visited my mom a few months ago (she has cable and I haven't had it in like 10 years). I was shocked how many plastic surgery commercials there were. All for women. There was one that was advertising how they had a discounts? And now when I watch youtube videos I see these ads. It's so disturbing.

There’s definitely some good reasons to get Botox, especially for people who have pain. My friend has EDS and MS and part of her pain management protocol is Botox. However if you’re wanting to look younger there’s other things that are less invasive you can do to slow down aging signs. Retinoids and SPF being 2 main things.

me whippin up chicken fried rice wondering what to watch then news mommy posts:

@pettiepage

Жыл бұрын

news mommy 😂

@trishapaytaskitchenfloor

Жыл бұрын

@@pettiepage i’ll forever simp for brett copper and i’m not afraid to admit it. this woman has me, a woman, in an absolute CHOKEHOLD for content

I asked to get this surgery when I was 12 years old in the 90s my father giggled and said you don’t want to do that to your body. Fast forward years later I have a beautiful career as a pro performer. If he let me do what I felt back then my life would be horribly different.

I’m 33 and I have disliked my nose since forever, I wouldn’t mind fixing it but I’m also ok with living with it. I think it’s important to wait a few years before making a lifelong decision, because as you mature you also realize some things are more important than others and you also accept yourself and your body more. Even at 22 my brain was still not developed I didn’t start liking myself until I was 25/26.

We need another behind the scenes part 2 video with Brett and Candace

Sick. Edit: An important part of growing up means learning to be okay with yourself. Not compensating for everything you deem unwanted or flawed.

i hated my chubby nose and small chest so so much but now i love those about me it makes me look and feel unique. it seems like everyone just wants the easy way out now rather than putting the work to love themselves

A Canadian fitness KZreadr, Keltie O’Connor is worth checking out. She got a boob job in her early 20s and has documented her journey getting them removed and her self-confidence journey. Really encouraging.

For the longest time I always hated how my face looked. I’ve struggled with Acne and started medicine for it. I always wanted to put on makeup to cover my flaws. One time I was getting ready for a dance that my friends invited me to. One of the moms really liked to do makeup and was really good at it. She put some on me and I didn’t feel like me. I hated it. I learned to love my freckles, 24/7 sunburned nose, and even my acne, I learned how to love myself. It makes me sad to see that society is pressuring men and woman to changes the way God made their bodies.

I had a plastic surgery list in high school! It had 10 surgeries on it that I wanted. I’m still glad I never went through with it!

@robin-hr7tc

Жыл бұрын

I am 17 and I have a list of 4 surgeries

@alessandrajackson3768

Жыл бұрын

@@robin-hr7tc trust me when I tell you once you are older 21+ it all seems so stupid. There might be one that you want still and save up for. But 4 cosmetic surgeries isn’t necessary for anyone without a birth defect. I promise you that you are just gorgeous

Brett , I LOVE your channel , but I’m not sure if your mic is so good and clear that it’s actually making you sound sick ( like you have a congested nose ) or if you actually have a congested nose 😅 but it’s hard to listen to through earphones 😅❤

Hi there superb post