Hey 👋 I am kinda down. My mother in law told my wife there’s something wrong with me. That cuts deep because it makes me wonder what if she’s right ? I only make $50,000 in a dead end job, and have no ability to make friends despite much volunteering. I told my wife if she wants to leave let’s just get it over with. She denies she will of course. And I don’t think she wants to. But women are all about what people say I know it’s taking a toll. I just feel down and like a failure. I don’t have skills or personality to get a good corporate job. I’m lucky to get the $50,000.

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Hello @catholicconvert2119! I will say that we don't address the initial making of friends in this talk. But this is where friendships of use and of pleasure are so essential. Almost every friendship of virtue, in my experience, grows from a friendship of use or of pleasure-- so these would be the friendships with co-workers and fellow volunteers or with neighbors or people at church or people in a club. Then comes trying to grow in intimacy with them, as far as they want to reciprocate. I've found some of the friendliest people at a club called Toastmasters-- there's a good chance such a club meets in whatever town or city you live in, and if you drop by to check it out, you should find a nice welcome. It's a club that teaches public speaking, which may help your situation if you feel incompetent right now. They're very encouraging, as a whole. Otherwise, it seems like finding friends is one of the larger problems of our society. You're not alone in feeling alone. But if there's no one around your marriage speaking up for it, then it's worth finding people who want to support your marriage. We have another podcast, called "Love Your Marriage"-- there aren't many episodes of it yet, but we want it to be short and encouraging for those who are living out the sacrament of matrimony.