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@dannymichael808

4 жыл бұрын

Monice and Chandler ❤️

@blackbird2690

4 жыл бұрын

Can you add a list of all the movies you mention and compare in your videos? It would be super helpful and I would love to watch the ones I haven't seen before just to get a better understanding of the comparisons if nothing else!

@aideenmoroney1571

4 жыл бұрын

Hey, what's the music you used in this video? Sounds so familiar it's bugging me

@kamenriderblackman4426

4 жыл бұрын

Why do you guys dislike Chandler or something?

@eihposx3

3 жыл бұрын

T

The age gap isn’t bad, but him knowing Monica from childhood is weird though

@claymathews8814

4 жыл бұрын

Mega Margaux so true. If i was Monica’s dad i would have been way more angry.

@cynicalcenobia

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, but she was 'fat' back then, hence 'unattractive' (according to the show's logic), and hence he wouldn't have considered her that way. Apparently, and again, in the story, not even boys her age did.

@claymathews8814

4 жыл бұрын

cynical cenobia the fact that Monica’s attractiveness determines if the relationship is creepy is kinda messed up, dont you agree? Same goes for Richard, im sure if he was played by a less good-looking actor people would feel a bit different. But Tom Selleck is hot so its ok.

@flavia4408

4 жыл бұрын

true, atleast they seem to haven"t seen eachother years before. otherwise it would just be creepy

@cynicalcenobia

4 жыл бұрын

@@claymathews8814 You really can''t read, can you? I specifically highlighted that within the universe of the show Friends, 'fat Monica' was meant to be unattractive - it was a running joke pretty much throughout the whole series that men weren't interested in her in the past bc of her weight. So, no, I strongly doubt that Richard looked at her at 6 and thought: 'can't wait for her to be legal.' So do take your post-modern virtue-signalling feminist rubbish where it belongs: the depths of intentional misreading & stupidity. Thanks.

Richard: The one that got away Janice : The one that just wouldn't go away 😂😂

@huajiluhai

4 жыл бұрын

ΑΡΙΣΤΟΤΕΛΗΣ ΛΑΧΑΝΟΠΟΥΛΟΣ I literally laughed out loud

@christianali5431

4 жыл бұрын

OH... MY... GOD!

@helenagackowska8398

4 жыл бұрын

loooooool

@tamitami479

4 жыл бұрын

haha they are two guest actors that I love

@aname2688

4 жыл бұрын

amazin

As I read somewhere: 'If you could love the wrong person that much, imagine how much you can love the right one.'

@PaulinaGallardoEnriquez

4 жыл бұрын

But you build the right one, it doesn't magically appear.

@007Julie

4 жыл бұрын

That's beautiful.

@mette9279

4 жыл бұрын

I love that

@neatofication

4 жыл бұрын

Sebas Tian I could not love this post more.

@freshpotato586

4 жыл бұрын

After the most horrible divorce and heartbreak at a very young age, this has brought me comfort in very low moments

Richard dating Monica it's like Joey dating Emma in the future...

@aryamanm2170

4 жыл бұрын

u had to make it weird😂

@monsterenergyfiendd

4 жыл бұрын

@@aryamanm2170 its the truth

@aryamanm2170

4 жыл бұрын

@@monsterenergyfiendd but u dont say it out loud godammit..omg im gonna have nightmares now..

@zzzzzzz906

4 жыл бұрын

@@aryamanm2170 Hahaha I'm sorry

@alinefischer1251

4 жыл бұрын

Or in this case, Erica...

The age difference is weird but not nearly as weird as the fact that he probably HELD HER AS A BABY.

@trinaq

4 жыл бұрын

I second that, there's also the issue of him being her dad's best friend, and he likely saw her grow up in front of him, even if he never actually found Monica attractive until she was well in her twenties.

@lh9591

4 жыл бұрын

Maybe he imprinted on her, Jacob style.

@raniasdfghjkl

4 жыл бұрын

@@lh9591 YOU NICKNAMED MY DAUGHTER AFTER THE LOCH NESS MONSTER?!

@eleven-hopper

4 жыл бұрын

I don't think the age difference is bad because they are both legal adults, but I do think the fact that he knew her when she was little was weird. Still prefer them over Mondler anyday though

@STDeLuna

4 жыл бұрын

Tell that to Vic Sotto, a Filipino celebrity who literally carried his wife as a baby years before he married her. 😂

His arc was pretty well handled imo. He is the "sexy, handsome masculine" fantasy, a little too perfect perhaps, and his relationship with Monica ends not because of some shenanigan, but a genuine difference in what they wanted for their lives. Chandler, on the other hand, is the goofy friend, your average guy, who grows WITH Monica, they work on their relationship, and end up having common life goals.

@SilverAukahzy

4 жыл бұрын

right on

@artyfarty87

4 жыл бұрын

Well said 👍

@trinaq

4 жыл бұрын

I agree, Richard might have been the dashing, sophisticated older gentleman that Monica THOUGHT that she wanted, but Chandler was the sweet, charming goof ball that Monica loved and needed! 💘👫

@Silvercentipede

4 жыл бұрын

Heyyy speak for yourself I had the biggest crush in Chandler, nah I 100% get what you mean though :) ❤️ I have a thing for self deprecating humour so I’ve always fancied Chandler lol

@cazia9

4 жыл бұрын

Yup, no where is this more evident in the episode when they're starting the wedding planning and Chandler says that he doesn't want to spend all his savings on a wedding, and he talks about the future of a home outside the city and children...Chandler sees the whole picture, the life that the wedding with Monica truly marks the start of

"Hooking up with Richard could be a way to seek validation from someone that may represent her parents" Thats just a very fancy way of saying Daddy issues

@feraguilar4175

4 жыл бұрын

"Mommy issues" but yeah

@mollyshine20brown65

4 жыл бұрын

It's "Parents issues"

@raspberrycrowns9494

4 жыл бұрын

Her dad wasn't all that bad tbh

@remamili

4 жыл бұрын

I'm thinking Electra Complex

@LisaSimpsonRules

4 жыл бұрын

Monica had parents' issues, not only with her father. Her mother was even more annoying.

"It's been Richard Richard Richard." ". . . .I've only mentioned his name twice." "Okay, Richard Richard."

@prei1735

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@bekycybille1889

4 жыл бұрын

Communication is key in a relationship

@lordalessan

3 жыл бұрын

"I feel so bad for you. That's YOUR ex. And I have Richard

"we think we're still in love because we're trying to recapture who we used to be when we once loved them." beautiful writing, as always!

@paloma4444

4 жыл бұрын

Eh, that is not aleays true. Love can last.

@ash-vd8zv

3 жыл бұрын

We used to be idiots

I kinda got the impression that Monica felt she had to be perfect to keep Richard. Like she had to be the most mature, most together version of herself. But with Chandler, she could fully be herself warts and all. Richard was great for her but Chandler was the one who accepted her fully for who she was.

@k_a_y_l_e_e

4 жыл бұрын

absolutely nailed it.

@quarantinedcosmonaut4082

4 жыл бұрын

100%

@JB-ys2cp

4 жыл бұрын

Also if you think about it, if Monika had the whole struggling to birth a child issue with Richard, he most likely would have told her to give up as he never really wanted children anyway whereas Chandler did whatever it took to try and fulfil her dream of becoming a mother and finally found a solution. Richard would have never opted for adoption

@sofia_rms

3 жыл бұрын

Yess

@gabistuts9646

3 жыл бұрын

YUUUPPP THEY BROUGHT OUT THE BEST IN EACH OTHER

I feel like a lot of people give Monica crap for being a meticulous, competitive neat freak when in reality her strength is in her discipline and strong principles. She doesn’t stay with him because she knows she won’t have a happy future with him, and she builds something with Chandler because she knows him inside and out and sees a future with him, despite his previous romantic failures that could’ve scared her away. She’s the realistic friend who knows what she wants and works to get it, from her culinary career to her marriage and family she built with Chandler. Everyone might root for Rachel the first time they watch Friends, but rewatching it I loved Monica’s storyline more.

@n.ami1505

4 жыл бұрын

Her losing all that weight took a lot of discipline too.

@loiracitr

4 жыл бұрын

I love Monica. And Mondler is the best couple in the show

@alinefischer1251

4 жыл бұрын

YES YES YES!!!! I hate when Monica are judged exactly for what makes her so strong, and for someone like me, who loves discipline and organization, she's a sweet reminder that I'm not crazy, just a little bit Monica.

@fasshunmonsuta3377

4 жыл бұрын

Me too!

@sarahagoune7006

4 жыл бұрын

Totally. Monica is realistic, Rachel is more a dreamer. She works for what she has and her couple with Chandler is way more realistic.

I don't think the age gap would've been weird if Richard didn't know Monica until they were both adults, but knowing he was there to see her grow up does make it weird.

@rachelsanchis

4 жыл бұрын

@Jay Anthony WHAT?! Are you saying a man can't know a kid without sexualising her?

@leoanything7285

4 жыл бұрын

NewsFromNY you said that acting like it’s not weird when it IS weird.

@AmbyJeans

4 жыл бұрын

I agree. The age difference never bothered me. Him knowing her as she grew up and being her dad's best friend was creepy to me.

@leoanything7285

4 жыл бұрын

NewsFromNY the knowing her as a child part and the sleeping with the babusitter part

@penelopeclaire539

4 жыл бұрын

​@@rachelsanchis I mean yeah, nothing is wrong with that. As long as the relationship is two consenting adults on the same mental wavelength, who cares? I'd like to give your parents the benefit of the doubt and say your dad didn't see your mom in a more sexualized light until they were both adults. I don't think there's absolutely anything inherently wrong with that because it's specifically not predatory. And I don't think there's any reason for those people to be apart if they suit each other. But if I were either of the people in the relationship, it would make me feel weird and I would just try not to think about it too much. But weird does not necessarily equal wrong in my book. So good for them, I hope they continue their happiness for decades to come.

”When they started dating, Monica is in her twenties and just starting to figure out her life, while Richard is a settled grandfather. The milestones Monica looks forward to down the road are already in his rearview mirror.” wow this writing 💯

you guys probably think more about this show than the original writers for the show did

@tyrant-den884

4 жыл бұрын

Definitely, the writer's could never even remember their own canon. Joey: "I have only ever been in love once, with you [Rachel]." Season 3: "HELLO!!!"

@ClairandHerImaginaryCat

4 жыл бұрын

Tyrant-Den wait what happened in season 3

@tyrant-den884

4 жыл бұрын

@@ClairandHerImaginaryCat Joey has an intense relationship with this actress Kate, which was at least as serious as anything he felt for Rachel except it was also believable and not forced.

@Crochetique424

3 жыл бұрын

@Elisabeth Fitness I hv heard almost 14 writes worked on the show during its peak .

@martifrey3357

2 жыл бұрын

it's always easier to see things from almost 2 decades later than when the show was still running

i like the way they handled Richard's storyline compared to David's. In some ways, David was also the one that got away for Pheobe and I think they should have handled it better than just shoving him so harshly for Mike (I like Mike but Jesus that was brutal)

@fam6883

4 жыл бұрын

Agreed! He just got back Minsk after a failed research project, he loves Phoebe so much since the beginning and his ending was humiliating.

@AgnessaMo

4 жыл бұрын

I think that David WAS Phoebe's endgame, after breakup with Mike, that would be the reason why they brought him back. But since the viewers loved Phoebe&Mike so much they rewrote the story in a - I gotta say - sloppy, harsh way.

@Lucynnyu

4 жыл бұрын

@@AgnessaMo exactly that was the original plan

@yingyang2838

4 жыл бұрын

Agnieszka M personally, i love david for phoebe more than mike. mike was kinda....meh. idk i just felt like there was so much build up with david and phoebe and to just squash their love story like that felt really shitty.

@suzannerust8658

4 жыл бұрын

Oh I loved David and sometimes when I'm rewatching Friends, I wonder if he might have been a better choice for Phoebe.

Monica is the most relatable female character in Friends.

@trinaq

4 жыл бұрын

I agree, while Phoebe is my favourite of the three leading ladies, I've realized that I'm a total Monica, since I have her obsession with being clean, cooking, and looking after people! 🍳😂

@Beaglegirl19

4 жыл бұрын

@@trinaq You and me both. Monica has been my favorite of the girls since childhood but, as I get older, I realize I relate with her the most.

@xxIluvyouguysxx

4 жыл бұрын

Agreed. I love her and I see myself in her

@dvchel

4 жыл бұрын

@Chris I see why. Rachel is kinda like representing the "ambition" of females to be independent, strong but still loving and caring towards their kin.

@-inactive-7000

4 жыл бұрын

To me, that's Phoebe, although Rachel is probably my favorite, but I definitely see where you're coming from

I'm so glad that Monica has said what she did about soul mates. It's ultimately the healthiest way to approach committed relationships. People can have more than one love but it's choices that define how we live afterwards.

@Artnotforthesakeofart

4 жыл бұрын

Hear hear!

@vanpoison1104

Жыл бұрын

Amen

@j.s6946

Жыл бұрын

Real

I relate to this so much. 10 years ago I met someone, we became close friends, dated long distance then I broke things off because of the distance. We met up 6 years later, it was like we never stopped talking. We started dating immediately, and were old enough to handle the distance and made enough money to see each other. 4 years go by and we got married last month. 😊

@lunarei9051

4 жыл бұрын

Nymeria that’s amazing

@SunflowerSpotlight

4 жыл бұрын

Congrats! An awesome origin story! What a beautiful thing, through sickness and health to walk hand in hand with a partner, to know you won’t take the turns alone. I hope you have many happy years together.

@rachelfox8359

4 жыл бұрын

Nymeria, congratulations!

@carlathedestructor2454

4 жыл бұрын

Aawww

@mcsunflower7182

4 жыл бұрын

Noiceee

I think it's Monica that got away. It's Richard who lost his chance.

@neatofication

4 жыл бұрын

bs4e ooooh. That’s true. I’m reframing my narrative in my own “the one that got away” story after this.

@missgiroud97

4 жыл бұрын

Me too. Im was looking this comment

@misssoso5859

4 жыл бұрын

Nah. He found love again.

@feraguilar4175

4 жыл бұрын

I don't think so, he's old enough to not need a romantic partner for life anymore. But Monica, of course, is better of with Chandler.

@neatofication

4 жыл бұрын

Fer Aguilar Aw!! That’s not a nice view of older ppl. I’m not that old yet but I’m 35 and I hope ppl don’t think about me like that if I’m still single at 55! Lol jeez.

I dont mind the age difference, but the fact he was her dads friend is weird. One day he was holding his best friends new born baby, and 25 years later he was sleeping with her.... grosss

@emc333

4 жыл бұрын

Black Ninja it’s still weird idk how you can defend even whatever your reason is

@trinaq

4 жыл бұрын

I know, even though Richard and Monica were both adults when they started dating, it's still somewhat icky that he knew her from when she was a small child. 😳

@scartdarcy

4 жыл бұрын

@Black Ninja and it still sounds disgusting

@oomay1925

4 жыл бұрын

Yup imagine how the parents would have felt

@user-cd9bm1bo5t

4 жыл бұрын

Not really People focusing on age gaps rather than what the two acutely are at the moment and what they want is kind of annoying, they choose each other and both are adults

You should do an analysis on "respectable option vs risky romantic option" and the bias in which they're portrayed and how it changed over time.

@MalloryNewcomb

4 жыл бұрын

FIESTA FLANDERS Yeah!! They should do one on the love triangle of Elizabeth Swann, Will Turner and Commodore Norrington I’ve heard decent arguments for why she should’ve been with him. Bold move by Disney for them to encourage her to go with the risky romantic option

@talkativeacademy4528

4 жыл бұрын

@@MalloryNewcomb Since we're talking about Disney here, pairing her with Norrington would have been way bolder move.

@amandalopes3048

4 жыл бұрын

pretty cool

@davincent98

4 жыл бұрын

Which one was Ross?

@Lalan396

4 жыл бұрын

davincent98- he doesn't fit in this trope. He's more of a "nice guy"

The difference between a guy you have to constantly impress and a guy you can be yourself with.

I recently broke up with my long term boyfriend. 7 years to be exact. He was perfect. A lover of books, movies and music. We loved art but in different notions and had a similar sense of humour. He saw me as who I am. Goofy and twisted and he loved me for that. But one day perhaps everything changed for him and then one day he left me. I have tried a lot to find faults in him but I can't see anything that would make me hate him, except the fact that he left me. And I see him as the one that got away. Even though we talk now and then, I feel like the person I knew died in a way and this new man, is not someone I recognise that well. Sorry for bringing down the mood in the comment section. I love Monica and I wanna find my own Chandler :'(

@JaveriaYousuf

3 жыл бұрын

Heyyy,, I hope you are doing good.

@Thisworldisagoner

3 жыл бұрын

@@JaveriaYousuf thank you for asking. I didn't even remember about this comment I made 7 months ago 😂😂 I have been well. Really well. I have accepted my reality and made peace with what happened. And almost happy making a life for me, myself and I 😋

@JaveriaYousuf

3 жыл бұрын

@@Thisworldisagoner yaaas. I'm happy to hear that. 💖

@missmcphee8859

3 жыл бұрын

How are you now?! 😊😊

@yz1938

2 жыл бұрын

The same thing happened to me recently and I completely felt what you felt. Hope you're doing much better now, and I know time will heal everything.

The Take is always trying to teach me the meaning of life. And I can't get enough of it.

@paloma4444

4 жыл бұрын

This is a pretty bad take tho

Monica's love story is one of the most satisfying aspects of this show. All of her ups and downs were more than just new guy of the week. In just that one episode with the 17 year old I was completely sold those two belonged together as well. Age also drove them apart as much as it did Richard and Monica. It was like a reversed and miniature version of what was to come for Monica. I'm just glad she found love in the end

Monica and Richard is why you need to discuss over big things like kids immediately. People are unlikely to change their mind about these things.

Fleabag and the priest were also meant for each other but the timing was wrong, I hope you make a video on the series one day

@Jacksabbath44

4 жыл бұрын

not really, meant for fleabag maybe, but for him? she literally made him the worst he could possibly be, and we still don't know how is going to turn out for her, she still has a lot to deal with

@ives6622

4 жыл бұрын

@@Jacksabbath44 I agree with you even tho I ship them. But the ending where they split up is still one of the most gut wrenching scene ever.

@Den.Vos.Reynaerde

4 жыл бұрын

This 'Fleabag' isn't a 10-year old altar boy I hope?

@ives6622

4 жыл бұрын

@main I'm 99% sure it was a joke. No need to get defensive.

@Den.Vos.Reynaerde

4 жыл бұрын

@@ives6622 It was.

Monica and Richard’s relationship made me so uncomfortable. He was a good guy and their relationship was good but the fact that he knew her when she was a child bothered me. Monica also dated his son so............ yikes

@TheDiego517

4 жыл бұрын

Yvanna Bats Thank you!

@Thomas_of_the_forest

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, it's one thing for people to have large age gaps. I have no problem, as long as both are adults, and it's a genuine loving relationship But when it goes so far as the elder knowing the younger when they were a Child it's just weird.... 😳

@trinaq

4 жыл бұрын

Luckily, Monica and Tim, Richard's son, realized how icky it would be if they got together, and the other friends even lampshade it with "If things work out between you and Tim, you'll be able to tell your kids "That's not how your grandfather used to do it"! 😳

@penelopeclaire539

4 жыл бұрын

I remember finding out that richard had a son monica's age and I wished so hard that they had run into each other before grown-up Monica met Richard.

@gabrielwillians1385

4 жыл бұрын

If she started dating Richard's son it would be super weird

It seems like the "lost love" thing is actually due to a refusal to evolve psychologically. Ultimately it's about being authentic and understanding your real needs & desires, and realising that as long as you're alive, there will always be a love that fits that in a real, healthy way. There are ALWAYS opportunities for love. That's the reality "The One That Got Away" doesn't show, and people end up feeling shitty as a result.

@Kiuraish

4 жыл бұрын

Well explained, thank you for writing this!

@paloma4444

4 жыл бұрын

@@Kiuraish I dont get their point

@paloma4444

4 жыл бұрын

There are loves that are special and nothing will ever compare. That is what the trope means.

@zuryandrade143

4 жыл бұрын

Raul What this person is trying to say is that sometimes, you are in love with the idea of the TIME you spent with that person rather than the love you used to share. It’s why “High School Lost Loves” are so common, because people miss being young and having no worries rather than the person themselves. Super random example, but it’s kinda like how King Henry the VIII idealized Jane Seymour (his third wife) because she died very early into their marriage (a year after). At the time of her death, he was still one of the most attractive men alive, had just gotten the heir he so wanted, and his reign was thriving. On his deathbed, when he was fat and stinky and ugly and hated by nearly everyone, he demanded to be buried next to him as she “was the only one he truly loved” (this, again, was coming from a man with six wives). Which, according to historians, was completely false when Jane was alive-as he had been threatening her with violence constantly, forbidden from speaking publicly, and it was fairly well-known that he had told his courtiers that if she failed to give him a son or made him angry he would have her executed like her cousin (his previous wife. But, because he associated his peak with the time she was in his life, she became the symbol of everything he missed. TLDR; Some people don’t miss the relationship; they miss the person they use to be.

@zeezeeyu5683

4 жыл бұрын

While I do agree with this, miss opportunities are real too. I know a number of people who did find their way into each other again and got married. They made it work as they've grown more mature enough to handle the relationship better.

Ahhh the Richard Era. Still my most favorite episodes to this very day.

'I've only slept with women I've been in love with'~Richard Burke, demisexual icon

@MalloryNewcomb

4 жыл бұрын

Kate Roy I remember that and being like that’s quite the way to confess you love Monica and also I felt that line but as a straight female

@humanoide7076

4 жыл бұрын

Isnt that how it supposed to be though?

@SunflowerSpotlight

4 жыл бұрын

Humanoide #707 That’s what my Dad always says. But I think the distinction isn’t just that you only have sex with people you feel strongly connected to emotionally, but you don’t really feel... aroused by someone until you form a mental bond. They’re not really seen as a prospective love interest until they fire up your mind and establish common ground. You can notice someone is extremely attractive or in revealing clothes without having a sexual response. But at some point the switch gets flipped. I think it’s part of why I think the saying, “It meant nothing to me,” when an affair is discovered is the worst thing in the world to hear. If you’re going to ruin everything, all the trust in the relationship, it BETTER the hell be for the true love of your life you found belatedly. If it’s... just some no one and a cheap trifling thing you could so easily have passed on, and merely didn’t feel the need to... why is that somehow better!?!? I do wonder if demisexuals have more secure marriages, due to less cheating and being married to someone they have a common bond with before they dealt with intense sexual urges. Being married to your best friend is kind of the best thing ever.

@amityislandchum

4 жыл бұрын

"Demisexual" is a distinction that doesn't need to exist. I don't get why so many people are obsessed with making identities out of who they fuck.

@spemka

4 жыл бұрын

sharksandsheep it kinda does need to exist though. Not finding someone attractive unless you build a bond with them isn't all that common. Most people do find themselves sexually attracted to people they barely know; the thing is, if you don't act on it, it doesn't mean you're not into them, it means for instance your morality doesn't let you sleep with someone you barely know, it's your way of thinking, not the fact that you don't find them hot. Being unable to see someone sexually unless you build a relationship with them is different than that. And if those people want their label, why not ? I think it's cool how different we all are, why not express it if you need to?

I feel like Ross should have been the one that got away from Rachel. After all they've been through and even having a child together should have shown them they just don't work together but their daughter and friendship keeps them close to each other. They both had huge impacts on each other's life but the relationship was a fail from earlier seasons and they both could have done great with Rachel and her dream job and Ross having the life he always wanted with a wife and children, just not Rachel

@ioannnnnna

4 жыл бұрын

Well, while that would have been more realistic it would have sucked storytelling-wise

@mexsand2790

4 жыл бұрын

Dude I totally agree Rachel deserved to get the career she dreamed about and honestly giving all that up for a guy

@paloma4444

4 жыл бұрын

@@mexsand2790 love will always mean more in the long run than a selfish personal goal

@BeeKool__113

4 жыл бұрын

I could not agree more!

@zurzakne-etra7069

4 жыл бұрын

@@mexsand2790 that could have changed, instead of letting them get together, the showrunners could have made ross go and live with rachel in paris.

Her and Richard practically being family is weird. It would be like if joey ended up dating Ross and Rachel's daughter Emma

@pyenme

4 жыл бұрын

I think you just described Jacob dating Bella and Edward's daughter..... LOL (I am ashamed to think I know "Twilight" to be able to make a joke with it...)

@SunflowerSpotlight

4 жыл бұрын

PBK K Hey, I have Spice Girls lyrics in my memory where scientific equations should be. 🤷🏻‍♀️ We all have our faults. 😜

@---wv4ul

4 жыл бұрын

Johnnessa Germain especially because joey and rachel had some history

@Crochetique424

3 жыл бұрын

I feel more like if dated Erica considering Chandler is his best friend .

@tammymartinez7488

3 жыл бұрын

@@Crochetique424 Chandler and Monica would be so mad a Joey!

The relationship is exactly like Ted and Robin's. And this is how they're supposed to end up. Separated on good terms.

@symmetrykidkun8

4 жыл бұрын

Ugh, please don’t compare Richard to Ted...

@Lola_Sokolskiy

4 жыл бұрын

Agreed

@monabohamad2242

4 жыл бұрын

@@symmetrykidkun8 yes I agree don't put down one of them in order to lift the other up please

@screenshotscenes

3 ай бұрын

exactly! implying that the woman should divorce a guy who was perfect for her just to get back together with the guy who wasn’t suited for her AT ALL once he got the stuff he wanted and she didn’t is shitty writing. it would be the same as if monica got together with richard once she got the kids he didn’t want from another man. also, I agree that richard and ted shouldn’t be compared, ted is way worse than him.

As I got older I am still confused as to why Monica expected someone like Richard to still want more children. I mean he had grandchildren at that point and it really showed her naïveté for even considering it. Hell I’m near her age now and want the same things she does (a marriage with children) so I wouldn’t have come close to him at all. Monica was a smart woman until it came to Richard. Someone once told me it was because she was playing the standard relationship steps with him when that isn’t the case. Richard was absolutely perfect if she was much older and had lived her life but not her now. Chandler was her soulmate and their really perfect together. If Monica and Richard has children, eventually another obstacle would have come up like his other kids not liking her.

@zhirraffa

4 жыл бұрын

The age doesn't stop many, many other old men have children so it is not completely insane to think that a man who is in love with a woman might want to have children with her.

@Amy-Wan-Kenobi

4 жыл бұрын

My parents have a 20 year age difference. My dad already had kids from a previous marriage before marrying my mom, and it was him, not my mom, who really pushed for kids even though he was older.

@penelopeclaire539

4 жыл бұрын

Chandler and Monica didn't believe in soulmates though. Their relationship worked because they made it work.

@radhiadeedou8286

4 жыл бұрын

But it happens, you sometimes see men with kids in their 20s or 30s from a first marriage, having babies with their young new wife

@PrincessSybilla77

4 жыл бұрын

They did break up in a good and mature way. He realized that she wanted children and she realized his heart wasn’t into it. They still cared about each other in the end. He’s really a great guy

Now fast forward 10 years, Chandler dies of an "unspecified illness" and Richard stands outside of her apartment door holding up a wine glass. Oh, wait, wrong sitcom? Crud.

@pixiedust8545

3 жыл бұрын

Is the rose from beyond the grave

@bef9612

3 жыл бұрын

@@pixiedust8545 No I just made a cheap shot at How I Met Your Mother

@firmanchristiansianturi4794

3 жыл бұрын

Ah, Robin should've stayed married to Barney and Tracy shouldn't have died

@j.s6946

Жыл бұрын

It could be happend

@screenshotscenes

3 ай бұрын

until now I never realized how mondler is another proof of how terrible himym ending was

It's like that phrase "when you make a choice, you essentially eliminate all your other choices"

Here's the thing, I agree it's weird that he knew her as a kid. However, he hadn't seen her in many years when they started dating, and she looked completely different. It's not like he was waiting for her to turn 18 or something. I don't mind their relationship. That being said, Chandler and Monica are the best TV couple of all time.

@gigigiooo

4 жыл бұрын

Isabella Bass he didn’t even recognize her when he saw her again too

@iiamromika

3 жыл бұрын

that’s like saying it would not be weird for Joey to date Emma later in life

@1hcc994

2 жыл бұрын

@@iiamromika wouldn’t compare the two since he sleeps with all of New York and probably California which is where he moved too in his show.

i have no issue with the age gap itself, just that he knew her when she was a child. if they had met as adults i wouldn’t have thought of it as creepy at all.

@BabyGirlTiny

4 жыл бұрын

But people grow and perception changes. I dont know why people dont understand this.

@silenceisbetterthannonsense

4 жыл бұрын

Homez18 That’s somewhat true but he was there to hold her as a baby and most likely there to change her diaper, refill her bottle, rock her to sleep, etc-she probably even considered him an uncle at one point in time. How do you go from holding your best friends baby, then 20 something years later you’re having sex with that same child?

@monabohamad2242

4 жыл бұрын

@@silenceisbetterthannonsense well their not even a frigging child anymore are they?

Richard is my favorite supporting character on Friends. I knew about Tom Selleck but never saw his work before this show & now I love him! What a talented actor, one of those guys whose warm soul just radiates through the screen

I love Chandler so much but I will forever have a soft spot for Richard

I don't know why, I just can't hate Richard. It's Tom's charm for sure. Like how could you hate him?! They had such great chemistry.

The age difference isn’t the weird part. It’s the fact that he knew her since she was a baby while he was an adult.

One that got away went away for a reason.

@paloma4444

4 жыл бұрын

That reason may be dumb tho. Or no longer apply

@ozymandias7372

4 жыл бұрын

@@paloma4444 depends

@ozymandias7372

3 жыл бұрын

@@user-nv3sh5jh3p I'm not denying the possibility of it said by Raul. I said it, it can be dumb depending on whose perspective it is.

I adore Monica and Chandler's relationship so much but Monica and Richard is a close second. As someone who is usually only attracted to older men, I loved the representation of age-gap relationships that it gave. It didn't matter how many years apart they were, they were still portrayed as in love and not at all abusive. I really appreciated that as there is so much stigma out there about age-gap love. Plus, it was just a really good and well-written relationship. They had phenomenal chemistry. I miss FRIENDS so much. 💔

I've had a Richard, and to this day it still hurts that we are not together---because I really thought he was my Chandler.

@Thisworldisagoner

4 жыл бұрын

Same here. I thought we were my favourite couple, Monica and Chandler. Nope. Didn't happen. I am just hopeful for ever finding my Chandler.

I really love how Chandler and Monica are each other’s bestfriends, guardians and coaches; I love how they change, motivate and keep each other in check (Chan with his awkwardness, Mon with her neuroses). I do think they’re more perfect for each other, in a way, and that’s a pretty great choice. Thanks, The Take! Big fan. Hope you can make a ChanNica video ❤️

I kept thinking about HIMYM and the fact that Robin should have stayed in the Richard role for Tod. It was made very clear that they want other things in life, and they grew apart (not in the sense of falling of, but rather in the sense that they solidified their relationship as a friendship and it was clear that there was no coming back to the early days) in the later seasons. Sadly, the writers for HIMYM didn't learn from Friends.

@X_nien_vh

4 жыл бұрын

berlineczka this is so true. we have seen so many reasons why Ted and Robin didn’t work out romantically... and then we get that ending.

@foreveronmywaytofuckyourbi5567

4 жыл бұрын

Here's the thing about the ending, the only reason Robin and Ted wouldn't work out young is because Ted wanted a family, after he built one and his wife died, it makes sense to go back to a friend you Care for deeply, it would have been fine if Tracy wasn't such a great person lol

@hippieatheart90

4 жыл бұрын

I totally agree. I think that's the reason why the HIMYM-Finale was awfully received. Both characters got the chance to evolve and find their right fit (Ted found Tracy, Robin took care of her career and found Barney) but the writers probably still were so in love with their original idea of Ted and Robin ending up together that they just couldn't let it go. When in a better world they should've had the balls to change their originally planned ending.

@maximussaktish

4 жыл бұрын

who the hell is tod

@monabohamad2242

4 жыл бұрын

@@X_nien_vh Nah that stuff was probably nothing more than just a bunch of excuses to keep them apart until the ending

Hmmm...Might be time for a video on the older men-younger women relationships on screen? Modern Love most recently dedicated a whole episode to this.

@penelopeclaire539

4 жыл бұрын

I would love this! And then if that video does well, I'd like to see the older woman younger people dynamic and how it contrasts. I feel like people are ready to judge women who date younger than their age group a lot quicker than men that do the same thing. And that's probably just because it's more common for men. But it's an interesting topic. And though the trope is focused on straight relationships (because honestly what isn't?), I'm interested in learning about the few queer examples that must exist in media.

@christianali5431

4 жыл бұрын

@@penelopeclaire539 Do you know what Pederasty is?

@roniieeem5031

3 жыл бұрын

@@penelopeclaire539 Really..? I've seen opposite..at least in the modern times. That was the case mostly in the past

Welp there you go again "The Take" bringing relevant issues when I be in my feelings.

@paloma4444

4 жыл бұрын

Their take on the trope was kimda bad tho

@tremims8535

4 жыл бұрын

@@paloma4444 How come?

The writers did well to integrate Richard within the group when he was with Monica, and he was a welcome presence whom everyone seemed to like. And yet I never felt the same way about Mike. He always felt so separate from the others (except Phoebe) and there was never a sense the group liked him, or even acknowledged him as anything other than an extension to Phoebe

@imsickoflifeanditstactics5063

2 жыл бұрын

I guess it has to do with the fact that Richard came early and Mike came late. In earlier seasons, the cast wasn't nearly as close as they became later on so, Richard was easily welcome. But by the end the 6 of them had become so strong that nobody could get in that intimate circle of friends. Not just Mike. And Richard was awed and charismatic and they looked up to him. While mike was a little awkward and not really interested in the stuff that the group usually got up to.

@nizjus3234

2 жыл бұрын

I thought that was great, that he didn't feel the need to blend in, be liked, he just wanted to be with her

@screenshotscenes

3 ай бұрын

that’s a realistic representation tho not every single one of your friends significant other is gonna get along with the friend group also another huge difference is the fact that rachel and monica still lived together and joey and chandler were right across the hall so anytime richard was at her apartment he was automatically surrounded by the group while phoebe lived separately.

One of my favorite lines of any episode is while Chandler and Monica are eating the pizza and he's saying he doesn't want to get married. When she says are you serious, his response is, *"Hey, put down your copy of The Rules, Man Trap!"* I nearly pass out laughing every time I see that episode. They make me laugh and then when they propose to each other, it's beautiful. Monica and Chandler are the only Friends characters that I liked throughout the entire run of the show.

Richard was the one for monica. Chandler was also the one. It's contradictory, but so sad. I remember how stressed I was when Richard came back, because Chandler was there for her

If it was Tom Selleck, age wouldn't even matter. What a long cool tall glass of drink that man.. whew!! Quarantine is getting me.

@Takisan111

4 жыл бұрын

I'm not into older men, but something about him keeps bypassing that. He just has this air about him, ya know?

@Svengali764

4 жыл бұрын

@@Takisan111 yes. Yes YES! The suavity,. The old world charm, that deep voice, that dimples! All men crush come and go.. Selleck is a fine wine 🥰

@Svengali764

4 жыл бұрын

@Laverne Blaszczyk the jaw tho!

@Lilah_Ninigigun_Belet-Eanna

4 жыл бұрын

The chest hair does it for me...purrrrrr 😻😻😻

@Svengali764

4 жыл бұрын

@@Lilah_Ninigigun_Belet-Eanna Oooooooh yeah!!

I never minded the age gap, their relationship was just so good!!!

I honestly think of him as the MOST attractive man I have ever seen, both phisically and emotionally. His character represents, for me, the ideal male. No other actor or character ever came that near to my perfect ideal. And that's why I was so sad when he stood aside. Hold on, I LOVE Chandler, and I was very happy for him when Monica didn't "betrayed" his affection. But Richard is... well, Richard. And the fact that he showed no remorse and was incredibly, unconditionally generous didn't helped. I will always remember that ending as bitter sweet.

Man, I loved these two together. He adored her quirks and she felt so confident around him. I always felt Monica learned from Richard and she respected him. Two traits I kind of missed in Mondler. There Monica was the mature one. Nothing wrong with that. But I loved Monica's personality better while with Richard.

@beebikinis

4 жыл бұрын

Society can definitely favour Richard&Monica type of couple dynamic over Chandler&Monica. Maybe the appeal is that it's seen as more traditional, and romantic.

@sabrinafrni64

4 жыл бұрын

Lol Monica dated Richard because of fucked up daddy issues it’s not respect it’s creepy fatherly admiration. Hers and Chandler is more natural, friends and equals relationship

@xJackDarkStonex

4 жыл бұрын

There was a moment in the show where it was actually chandler leading the way in the relationship. So it eventually balances out. (Then they have a final shift where they both are walking hand in hand, forward)

@sabrinafrni64

4 жыл бұрын

xJackDarkStonex Exactly they’re equals, Chandler is simply subtle when he leads the relationship (like the adoption, it’s all him). Monica was admiring Richard not really respecting him in an equals way, because she was jobless and so scared of her parents, it was Freudian

@DaiizR

4 жыл бұрын

Black Ninja Idk Richard and Monica were a really good couple but you can’t compare the love Monica and Chandler have for eachother. I love how chandler convinced their surrogate to let them have the baby and he did it in such a beautiful way and there’s so much more .Chandler needs Monica and Monica needs chandler .

I know this video was just meant to unpack the “the one who got away” trope through Friends’ Richard but I think I may now have the closure that I’ve needed for the last 10 years, so thank you guys. I’m subscribed.

This hit me so hard... I dated an older man that changed my life and I loved so much. We went back and forth, and back and forth, but timing was everything. Knowing the man I love , already had those big moments"in the rearview", was heartbreaking, knowing I wouldn't be apart of those moments. And again he was such a beautiful, manly "standard", it was everything that was right on paper, but not what practically would work out. Such hard in my feels. Walking away from someone you love, who is so perfect, but just not timed right, has changed my whole view on how love truly consumes, but enlightens, you.

I love Chandler, but damn I love Richard, too, and frankly, I'M not over him.

"What's perfect on paper, is not always make sense to you." ❤

I'm amazed Jane Austen's Persuasion wasn't mentioned in this video. It's the ultimate 'fantasy fulfilled'.

I’ve been saying for years that timing has WAY more to do with relationship success than we’d all like to believe.

This video essay was like sitting through a therapy session after it has been some time after a breakup. I often find myself coming back to this particular one, cause it's simply incredible. Take a bow, team! ❤️

Being someone’s One That Got Away is no fun. My ex came to my wedding, because we were still friends and part of a cherished friend group. One friend later told me our other friends were dreading the “if anyone here has any reason why these two people shouldn’t be together” part, as if he might do something, and has even talked to him before. (We didn’t include that part anyway because it’s a leftover from another time and wasn’t intended for dramatic declarations of love anyways, but really legitimate reasons like in Jane Eyre.) It really shook me to find out I was “the one that got away” for someone else. It’s been many many years now, and we have lost touch entirely. I think that was part of the reason. He would only call when his girlfriend wasn’t home, and it just felt wrong, and it felt like pressure. I miss him but I fear seeing him again, because I don’t want to turn out to be a disappointment. I don’t want the real me to be unappealing. It’s a self-esteem thing now, and damn does it feel icky. I need to work on that. The one I have built my life with and the only one I could ever have been truly happy with loves me, and I love him, despite our aging and no longer being 25 and fabulous and exciting.

Oh No! The title came in a bad moment of my life. s A d N e S s

@lo_Ovung

4 жыл бұрын

Awww I hope things get better for you

@SadiTonmoy

4 жыл бұрын

@Bisexual Ichigo I believe this video will help you to heal. It certainly gave me a chance at closure which I didn’t have! :')

@penelopeclaire539

4 жыл бұрын

Sending good vibes, hope you get them

@xxIluvyouguysxx

4 жыл бұрын

ME

@SunflowerSpotlight

4 жыл бұрын

The thing my mother’s always told me (and she really IS a very wise woman) is that if you subscribe to true love, this IS a stepping stone to helping round out your edges so you can be ready to take that step hand in hand with your perfect person. And if you don’t subscribe to the true love idea, people date multiple people the vast majority of the time. Eventually the odds will play out in your favor, but you have to keep trying to make that work, if not by looking for love, then by keeping your heart always open to it. Take time to grieve the future that might have been, the you you might have become. It IS a very real loss. An entire possible lifetime. But now, all the other possibilities are open to you. Keep your chin up, your heart open, and you will find your way. Hang in there.

Monica is my favorite character on Friends. I identify with her the most and her relationship with chandlers was the first solid thing amongst their friends after having watching repeatedly Ross and Rachel and their ups and downs. Each not learning from the previous relationship. Monica and Chandler to me was what I looked for.

I really needed to watch this video, I was wanting to get back with my ex but things aren’t the same and this really helped so thank you for your timing

@frosinicapandispan5534

4 жыл бұрын

Hugs! They never are the same, and you risk ruining the beautiful memories you left behind. Be strong!

@Thisworldisagoner

4 жыл бұрын

I broke up too. And somehow I end up thinking about how it would be like if we meet again many years later and both are single. Will we hit it off again. But then I try to remember how he left me. If he can do that so easily, I don't think he deserves me.

'the one who got away' reminds me of Gone With The Wind. Scarlett spends pretty much the entire movie pining over Ashley. When she eventually gets him back, she realizes the relationship was in her head, he never really loved her. It's after this that it hits her that Rhett loved her from the start, she was just too blinded by her fixation on Ashley to see it.

They were perfect! I loved them together! It's so sad that he's the one who got away.

Oh God I actually forgot about the how I met your mother ending. It was in the past long forgotten and then this video brought back that terrible memory.

@monabohamad2242

4 жыл бұрын

It's only a terrible memory because of whiny people

I mean Richard may have been Monica’s soulmate but at the end of the day she doesn’t believe in soulmates and CHOOSES to be with chandler and to work on their relationship

The fact that "The Take" can make a 22 minute video on Richard as well 😱😱

I would actually rather say that he wasn't the one that got away... He was the one who made her realize, that she needed to let go of guys like him, if she truly wanted her happy ever after

@leeleecassidy7175

2 жыл бұрын

"Guys like him"? 😂 What was wrong with Richard? He loved everything about her and wanted her to be happy. He was hardly some Patrick Bateman-type character.

2 жыл бұрын

@@leeleecassidy7175 what I meant by "guys like him" is, guys who aren't on the same page as her, in regards to what she wants out of a relationship (there was probably some father issues there as well but that's a whole other story)...

I totally get why they worked out. I mean, Monica is a highly mature confident and beautiful woman while Richard is also confident gentle and hones gorgeous-looking man. They both are a good catch, so no wonder they fell for each other. I feel sorry that people frown upon the couples with age gaps, it's not like she's 16

We need the take about Mondler!💜

@dvchel

4 жыл бұрын

@Mariana Caballero I thing there is already one. At least about Ross/Rachel for sure.

@caballerosalinasmariana7881

4 жыл бұрын

@@dvchel there is Ross/Rachel, Phoebe/Joey, that's why we need Mónica/Chandler

This really affected me. I definitely know the first time I fell out of love sucked. I thought he was the one for me for so long (especially since I had grown up alongside him) only to realize we had changed so much we were no longer meant for each other. Now, I have a crush almost as big on someone else. I know it won't last but that doesn't mean it's not absolutely wonderful to flirt with her. My point is that I think you got the nail on the head with this video--that romanticism is lovely but often difficult to work through. It's hard to stop trying to make your life onto a fairytale.

It’s interesting watching the second series of Fleabag because Phoebe Waller-Bridge based the entire concept of that entire season on the “one who got away”, the person who makes you grow and mature along with changing your life, but it still doesn’t work out, and you don’t realise it until the very last scene

I just want to say that I love your channel, these in-depth analysis are stunning and powerful. They do not explore just a couple in a TV show, but they range from fiction to real life and the feelings that we all hide somehow in our existence .❤️

He is so handsome, looks like Burt Reynolds and he is so classy and James Bond-y, I used to root for him with Monica but now that I know Chandler and Monica, they're unbeatable in my eyes

@jenynz5334

Жыл бұрын

Hehe, I often mistook Burt and Tom for each other when I was a kid.

I'm not a big Friends fan, but this video came up in autoplay and it really resonated with me. One of my exes recently passed away and I always had this "the one that got away" feeling towards him. So now having you guys talk about it just made it more real. Thanks for the video, really.

I didn't think the age gap should factor at all when I saw the show in college. They are adults. However when I watched it again when I was nursing my infant girl and considered how I would feel if she grew up and started dating my husband's best friend, Monica's parents reaction to the relationship was a whole lot more relatable.

The thing that I found creepy about their relationship wasn't their age gap, but the fact that she knew him since she was a baby.

I’ve had that kind of relationship, he did a huge impact on me. I really grow like a person in them. And glad that I let them go. Thank you so much for this video! It’s not only about movies but about real life too.

Tracy being the stepping stone in Ted's life just so that he can get back with Robin is so so fucked up and sad ....more realistic than we would let ourselves think.....

@ShinjiniBose13

2 жыл бұрын

Omg yes. This is the perfect analogy

@1hcc994

2 жыл бұрын

Like she didn’t want kids so he did that with someone else then when he was done got with her. Messsed up.

I was randomly thinking about Friends and trying to remember how Richard was introduced in the show just last night, and then this video was uploaded! Great analysis as always and loved that your included that Bojack clip, pretty much sums up the whole video

I never thought I'd watch a video about Friends and actually get great relationship advice. I kind of want to send this video to my therapist, no joke. Great job, The Take!

This is one of the wisest, most thoughtful videos I have ever seen. Thanks for giving me so much to think about. Brilliant.

I absolutely adore Monica and videos about her! Please, could you consider maybe doing a video about her troubled relationship with her mother? Thank you, love you girls!

@Showtunediva

Жыл бұрын

I want to see this video too so that why I can find out if there is truth behind the fan theory that Monica is not Jack’s daughter.

I met my "one who got away" about 5 years ago now, when I was on the cusp of 25 years old. At the time, I was dealing with undiagnosed PTSD, had a job that went so bad I contemplated suicide and spent so much time trying to look out for other people, I wasn't looking out nearly enough for myself. So I consider my "one who got away" experience developmental - I didn't need romance at the time. I needed friendship and support. When I let go of the illusion of romance and put the idea behind me, I made a lifelong friend. And by discovering what my personal values were and properly focusing on them after getting through that time, I became somebody I actually respected.

Just wow... the insights and thought that have gone Into this video, I keep thinking is that you two must be some really incredible human beings. Thanks for another fantastic video, you've again knocked it out of the park.

This happened to me. The relationship was tragically wrecked by timing.

This was way deeper than I thought it was going to be

I have a lost love who lives in the Netherlands. Every time I think about him, I watch this video. I'll never know and neither will you of the life you don't choose... we will only know that whatever that sister life was, it was important and beautiful and not ours..." I truly felt that. This video makes me think about possible future scenarios happy and sad ones. We will never know what the future brings. Whatever happens, I will never be same... and for that, I must thank him.

This is just the BEST KZread CHANNEL EVER!!! Watching your videos make me excited and happy cos i learn a lot about things i usually take for granted. ♥️♥️♥️♥️

You referenced "Before Sunset???" Love it!! These videos are amazing, on every level. Don't know how you always get to the psychology of it.

@icantthinkofaname6991

4 жыл бұрын

Shawna Seniw I hope they make a video about this beautiful movie

@spj4you

3 жыл бұрын

That's the part where I cried. That series is perfect to me in all its fantasy and reality.

Sometimes the feeling of what could’ve been is stronger than what actually happened because the memory of perfection lasts longer. - Dante Basco. and he was right

I must say... Out of all the video Essay type channels out there... Your channel is literally the one I find very interesting and it makes me question my thinking and spews newer ideas. I'm loving all your recent work... Keep up the great work. ☺😁

Sometimes people just want to have “the one that got away” to say they have one. It somehow feels like it legitimizes your dating history and that you’ve been through something more, when you feel lost and lonely. But don’t give up hope.