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  • @mike4088
    @mike40883 жыл бұрын

    Hey guys, this was a tough video to make. Thank you all for listening, especially syrmor. It can be hard to talk about my past experiences and relive them. I don't mind doing it as long as it can potentially help someone who may also be suffering. It's weird looking back at my younger self. I was a young innocent kid who didn't really understand myself or the world. I went out into there, made mistakes, and tried to learn from them. In contrast to today, people that I encounter see me as a tough built veteran guy that looks like he has his shit together, but in reality I am just as vulnerable as anyone else. A few things I have learned along the way that help me out in life: Learn to live in the present and appreciate every moment of your life. If you live in the past you can become depressed. If you live in the future you can become anxious. The only thing that matters is the present. Focus on being present in the moment. Life is made of opportunities and challenges. Build yourself up in all manners of life so you are ready to face any challenge and seize any opportunity that presents themselves. Mental health is an issue that I wish was taken more seriously. We are all in this together. Be kind to one another.

  • @GxthicGirl

    @GxthicGirl

    3 жыл бұрын

  • @jacks1bonnielass

    @jacks1bonnielass

    3 жыл бұрын

    Mike ❤️❤️sending you love & good vibes buddy

  • @beksapar913

    @beksapar913

    3 жыл бұрын

    Story is hard but I enjoyed it, much love

  • @DejectedCat

    @DejectedCat

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for sharing, and I'm glad that you turned out alright.

  • @Grayfox354

    @Grayfox354

    3 жыл бұрын

    I lost my sister to heroin.. I understand entirely that pain it causes. This video hit so close to home on so many things it hurts, but it's a good hurt, because it's a hurt that makes me feel like I'm not alone.

  • @cyrilgigee4630
    @cyrilgigee46303 жыл бұрын

    He created a life for himself with basically 0 help from his parents. A strong individual.

  • @TheChickenRiceBowl

    @TheChickenRiceBowl

    3 жыл бұрын

    No. Not 0 help from his parents. -100 help from his parents. He's survived with his humanity in tact in spite of his parents doing everything they could to destroy him and take all of his accomplishments from him as their own. It was worse than receiving 0 help. It was receiving 0 help on top of having a constant obstacle in his way.

  • @512TheWolf512

    @512TheWolf512

    3 жыл бұрын

    What a Chad

  • @jacks1bonnielass

    @jacks1bonnielass

    3 жыл бұрын

    They did everything they could to tear him down even after he was building himself back up again. I was so happy to hear that he cut off contact with them. I’ve seen this many times before: Parents who are abusive/narcissistic & when their child accomplishes something without their help in any way, they become jealous (yes, jealous) that their child is receiving recognition for it & want to take the credit FROM them. It’s disgusting & simply a disgrace. Any & every child deserves loving parents, not these dirtbags.

  • @nixpaFPS

    @nixpaFPS

    3 жыл бұрын

    Actually incredibly impressive. He was 17 and homeless, so he joined the military, got himself through college and landed a good job. Not to mention the physical and mental abuse he had to go through.

  • @costochondria5688

    @costochondria5688

    3 жыл бұрын

    Cheryl Clark my ex is stuck with her family like that. She’s incredibly fucking smart and amazing but they have torn her down and manipulated her so much that she’s resigned to living the same shitty life they have. They abuse tf out of her and are horrible people and she puts up with it, and has basically thrown away the incredibly future she could have had, because they have her convinced that if she leaves to live her life, she’s abandoning her family. Any time she does good at something they try to tear it down or persuade her to not do it anymore because it’s “not that important.” It’s sickening and I still worry about her all the time

  • @morbidmelody8783
    @morbidmelody87833 жыл бұрын

    "Being a kid is like being a dog." I felt that.

  • @jackkoffman5742

    @jackkoffman5742

    3 жыл бұрын

    Me too. Both are considered property by the state.

  • @saltysergeant4284

    @saltysergeant4284

    2 жыл бұрын

    Try being adopted from birth. It applies doubly then.

  • @jamiepoujade267

    @jamiepoujade267

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@saltysergeant4284 Really? That sounds so sucky. I really can relate and that's without being adopted so I couldn't even imagine 🙁

  • @saltysergeant4284

    @saltysergeant4284

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@jamiepoujade267 yeah, for sure. Imagine being picked up from the "people pound", like a dog. Contracts signed for YOU, like slave days. They're not blood. They're contractually obligated, which is different from caring, different from kin. Every time my parents did something shitty, I'd think to myself, "y'all wouldn't have done this to your actual kid.". On the flip side, I always remind myself, "hey, these people took you in and you're not even their kid.". It means more that they didn't give up on me when they really didn't have to stay past 18. It's a weird mix of love/hate. Lotsa questions that can never be answered.

  • @thtswutshesaid

    @thtswutshesaid

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@shamerspook Its not "The law" its just a bunch of people from different backgrounds putting their hate & pettiness unto kids that don't deserve it.🤷🏻‍♀️ "Laws" were never meant to protect people, only make more rules. Especially if you're above it all.

  • @ashtonhashbrown6155
    @ashtonhashbrown61553 жыл бұрын

    Bruh IMAGINE having parents like his, mad props to this guy for keeping his sanity.

  • @ryanhearn4075

    @ryanhearn4075

    3 жыл бұрын

    I don't need to imagine

  • @ashtonhashbrown6155

    @ashtonhashbrown6155

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@ryanhearn4075 I was going to original reply with oof but I honestly just feel bad.

  • @carolinashyne

    @carolinashyne

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@ryanhearn4075 same dude, and my kids will never be subjected to the shit I had to go through

  • @ryanhearn4075

    @ryanhearn4075

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@ashtonhashbrown6155 lol np it's fine it's been a while I'm all good had a bad day is all lots of alcohol

  • @anoriginalname4973

    @anoriginalname4973

    3 жыл бұрын

    I don’t need to..... I’ve already lived a life similar

  • @FidelCattto
    @FidelCattto3 жыл бұрын

    Parents pissed that they birthed a child more competent then them at less than half their age

  • @jorgen8630

    @jorgen8630

    3 жыл бұрын

    If i had a kid i would be proud if he/she surpassed me

  • @FidelCattto

    @FidelCattto

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@jorgen8630 yea that's how parents should be

  • @nighthawkviper6791

    @nighthawkviper6791

    3 жыл бұрын

    I have the same parents. Luckily I cut them off at 20 after I learned the deeper psychology of those people. 27 now and happy whenever I don't think about them.

  • @somethingbs3479

    @somethingbs3479

    3 жыл бұрын

    Lmao my mom tried to get revenge and ignored me for a whole week because I spoke back at an argument that wasn't even that big. Top 10 epic parents.(she's also a big fucking hypocrite)

  • @frozi7711

    @frozi7711

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@somethingbs3479 people be like that I count my blessings that my parents aren't crazy sure they have there bullshit moments but who fuckin doesn't on this crazy space rock we call earth

  • @spice2208
    @spice22083 жыл бұрын

    “World of Warcraft helped be avoid a heroine addiction” what a sentance

  • @renclave

    @renclave

    3 жыл бұрын

    Such a common story though. I used WoW and Halo in much the same way. Heroin and meth had our shitty logging town in WA in a death grip. My brother and about 95% of my classmates werent so lucky. Video game addiction can be rough too but.. in a way preserved me so I could even make it to adulthood.

  • @spice2208

    @spice2208

    3 жыл бұрын

    Renclave yeah I definitely don’t doubt it, I ask used video games as a distraction when I was much younger, not too drugs but just other issues.

  • @ZeranZeran

    @ZeranZeran

    3 жыл бұрын

    I think most people would be surprised how true this is. I would have hung around with some awful people in middle school and high school if I wasn't in a raiding guild, lol.

  • @ajjohnson5926

    @ajjohnson5926

    3 жыл бұрын

    I think that is every kid to plays video games in high school

  • @francoisnel5253

    @francoisnel5253

    3 жыл бұрын

    Starcraft probably helped me in similar ways.

  • @rudrod95_41
    @rudrod95_413 жыл бұрын

    Sounds like his parents were upset about his success despite them trying their hardest to make him fail

  • @ulrohermit1369

    @ulrohermit1369

    3 жыл бұрын

    seems like it

  • @eclipsewh7777

    @eclipsewh7777

    3 жыл бұрын

    They probably set the bar so high for him and in a vague way, that when he was doing his own things, they just got mad and began to act this way to him. It also sounds like they just don't understand how things are nowadays, and are super traditionalist on how school, work and life are

  • @donjorvead2431

    @donjorvead2431

    3 жыл бұрын

    Why would they want to see him fail, it's so cruel to think like that...

  • @AutumnFallsOver

    @AutumnFallsOver

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@donjorvead2431 as someone else with shitty parents, it usually comes from the fact they they too didn’t do well in life. They want you to be miserable like they are, it makes them feel better.

  • @donjorvead2431

    @donjorvead2431

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@AutumnFallsOver yeah I feel you. Polynesian parents have that sort of similar experience where the fathers before theres were shitty to the kids. And with that, it affects the fathers on their kids. However alot of poly kids learnt from that, and forgave their fathers cause they understood the tragedy and triumphant that they went through to get into a more westernized country. It's a long story for another time my friend.

  • @TheDirtyBum900
    @TheDirtyBum9003 жыл бұрын

    "3.2 gpa pretty average" Me: cries in 2.1 after getting rejected from devry

  • @rcervantes1083

    @rcervantes1083

    3 жыл бұрын

    Lmfao. Fuck that gpa. You're a star!

  • @mantha6912

    @mantha6912

    3 жыл бұрын

    Take it from a college dropout: Unless you REALLY want a specific job that requires a specific degree, you don't need to go to college. Having a degree will help you get a job, but it never guarantees that you will have or keep one. Your skills, work ethic, experience, and overall performance is what makes someone hire you. Having a degree only means you have an easier time starting out in the workforce. ...Also college is heinously overpriced. You could be spending that money on things that will help you earn money now instead of in 4 years.

  • @Agent_Solace

    @Agent_Solace

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@mantha6912 yea true, if I lived im usa instead of the uk i probably wouldnt be going to college. the course im on is free like most colleges, but the universeties over here are paid to go as well but not as exspensive as its like 9000 pounds a year, at for game design/ art uni. plus the wages here are a little higher so its a lot easier to go to college and university then usa. i honestly would like to live in america but theres a few things that i dont like so i ended up just deciding to stay here.

  • @manictiger

    @manictiger

    3 жыл бұрын

    Remember that, whenever you're applying for a business loan or house or whatever, no one cares what your GPA is. They want to know credit score and financials. That's the real grade system, and unlike the school system, there is no "A+". There's just, everything up to trillionaire (unless we keep printing money, then it'll be decillionaire).

  • @averywebb3093
    @averywebb30933 жыл бұрын

    The fact that literal children have to join the military to avoid homelessness is sad :( EDIT: or escape a toxic home life!!! there needs to be more options, especially because the military is not an option for everyone

  • @popinmo

    @popinmo

    3 жыл бұрын

    America America God bless America the country is like a ad the ad looks nice but when you get it it isn't so nice

  • @yegorgribenuke6853

    @yegorgribenuke6853

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@popinmo one of the wisest thing about US i heard

  • @Boba0514

    @Boba0514

    3 жыл бұрын

    I don't see how this is the country's fault, he had fucked up parents...

  • @davidg9091

    @davidg9091

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yea... I don't get how is this USA's fault. His parents are from Italy and Italians are usually a close-knit type of family. I am surprised the parents kick them after he graduated from high school. They usually prefer their children to stay with them until they get married or get a good paying job

  • @civicsr2cool

    @civicsr2cool

    3 жыл бұрын

    That was not even close to his only choice lol, the military isn’t even an option for more than 75% of the population let alone the only option.

  • @cosmoid
    @cosmoid3 жыл бұрын

    The world doesn’t have room for people like his parents. Listening to his stories pissed me off so much.

  • @jacks1bonnielass

    @jacks1bonnielass

    3 жыл бұрын

    I was fuming by the end. It infuriates me to even know people, especially parents, like this even exist.

  • @darioguerra3065

    @darioguerra3065

    3 жыл бұрын

    That's like a solid 1/4 of parents lmao, a large portion of people who want to have kids don't want to be parents if that makes sense, and like half of people don't know how to actually be a parent at all.

  • @shuriken2505

    @shuriken2505

    3 жыл бұрын

    literally r/insaneparents

  • @brytonmassie

    @brytonmassie

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@darioguerra3065 In my opinion most people who don't want to have kids are either have experience raising kids and don't want the burden, or are intelligent enough to know they aren't qualified for the job, or they are afraid (which is ok).

  • @A_Drift...

    @A_Drift...

    3 жыл бұрын

    Same.

  • @sevakvirk2397
    @sevakvirk23973 жыл бұрын

    The amount of times I heard "I'm the parent. I am always right. You listen to me no matter what" and stuff like that really gets my teeth grinding

  • @pussypasta64

    @pussypasta64

    3 жыл бұрын

    i got told this all the time and im pretty sure its what started my mental decline. no conversations, no compromise, just shut up and never question anything. therapy didnt help, only made it worse. suprise suprise, now my only other brother doesn't ever talk to either of them and now they just whine to me about "well we did what we thought was best, why doesnt he see us anymoreee". well..... we tried talking to you but you'd scream at us when it turned out you were wrong or mistaken.. they made us feel crazy and treated us bad kids for years and it took me moving out of state to start healing and even then...

  • @arisako5625

    @arisako5625

    2 жыл бұрын

    I am very lucky to have parents who instead talks about the actual benefits to *both* me and them if I complied with what they said. It really is incredible to have good parents.

  • @beastmasterbg

    @beastmasterbg

    2 жыл бұрын

    I don't even understand how that saying is so universal with parents that grew in the 80-90s. I'm from Eastern Europe my parents were really stern and devoid of logic every fucking time when we had arguments. I have a better relationship with my mom now but she did what the guys mom in the video did. Which was beat me when I was argumentative . Never with logic always with hard pressed rage. But when you grow up , you're basically stronger than them so they can never hurt you. Which if you're lucky enough you make them apologize or be a bit more stern and they comply like sheep. I have two sides right now. I have this pity and hate because my mom is narcissistic and has been verbally abusive and I have expressed my side of emotions and rage to her till she apologized. Other side is I still love her because she's basically helped me with a lot in life ,although most of the core help was from my really hardworking father and shes less narcissistic and controlling now and they've helped me a lot when I didn't have a job. Hope everything gets better. Be strong everyone

  • @abruptfury9920
    @abruptfury99203 жыл бұрын

    Props to him for leaving that. They weren't parents. They were about as nurturing and as supportive as poison ivy.

  • @mantha6912

    @mantha6912

    3 жыл бұрын

    Pardon me sir, but I'm going to steal that last sentence there.

  • @noahdavis8559
    @noahdavis85593 жыл бұрын

    "Being a kid is a lot like being a dog. If an owner beats their dog, it's still gonna come back at the end of the day."

  • @ewwpoorpeople5684

    @ewwpoorpeople5684

    3 жыл бұрын

    One big difference though. A dog doesn’t really have the same ability to lash out against people like kids/young adults do. A dog will bite, sure. But a person that’s been beaten. Biting is a best case scenario

  • @noahdavis8559

    @noahdavis8559

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@ewwpoorpeople5684 Being a kid is kind of like being a dog. But only in very specific areas that can be used for metaphorical situations. Try and pick THAT apart, hehheh 😎

  • @JarthenGreenmeadow

    @JarthenGreenmeadow

    3 жыл бұрын

    "A dog doesn’t really have the same ability to lash out against people like kids/young adults do. A dog will bite, sure. " >dogs cant lash out >explains that they will lash out

  • @diewyre2292

    @diewyre2292

    3 жыл бұрын

    That struck home

  • @dregling5884

    @dregling5884

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yeah but dogs can't outlive their owners and inherit fat $$$ then laugh about it.

  • @luissimon9004
    @luissimon90043 жыл бұрын

    when your parents get old and need you, know that you dont owe them anything.

  • @benstech726

    @benstech726

    3 жыл бұрын

    Sadly, just like Rafael said, that biological link binds you to them. When they barely did the bare minimum to support and guide him, he really shouldn't give a fuck about them. I was brought up with loving and supportive parents. They weren't perfect but they truly wanted the best for me and my bro. Listening to Mike's experience makes me mad on his behalf.

  • @acester86

    @acester86

    3 жыл бұрын

    Visiting the nursing home on holidays is more than they deserve....

  • @HrKAcId

    @HrKAcId

    3 жыл бұрын

    @Rafael Lopez Canel Man even if my parents dont treat me right, i dont give a shit who they are to me. You have a kid to love it and take care not to trate it like shit

  • @thenobalnacho

    @thenobalnacho

    3 жыл бұрын

    @Rafael Lopez Canel are you kidding me. Bringing a child into this world for your own reasons and then abuseing them once they exist is inexcusable. He doesn't owe them SHIT

  • @LuixWalkingDead21

    @LuixWalkingDead21

    3 жыл бұрын

    @Rafael Lopez Canel Yeah no, that wasnt a life they gave him, it was literal hell, so no, he doesnt own them a single thing on this god's green earth

  • @slow_dancer45
    @slow_dancer453 жыл бұрын

    It hit home when he talked about being a kid is like being a dog, nearly had me in tears. I've been through the same situation coming from a Mexican background and man is it fucked up. Neither parents will apologize for all the physical and mental abuse they put me through. Ironically it's the reason why I actually dropped from joining the navy specifically. I've got more going for me than any of my family members and yet I'm still a failure in their eyes. My personal advice to anyone is blood always doesn't run as deep as friends and others. You have to find confidence in yourself and learn the only person you should impress is yourself. Be proud of who you are and don't let family get in the way of doing what you feel is right. Took me a long time to realize that but dam does it feel good

  • @CursedWheelieBin

    @CursedWheelieBin

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yeah I remember realising that I only felt good about myself whenever my own f**ked up family wasn’t around. That’s when you know it’s time to walk away

  • @Darksky1001able

    @Darksky1001able

    2 жыл бұрын

    After converting to Islam and performing the Shahadah, i found what i was looking for. Not a preachy moment, nothing like that. Its just... idk man, i found what i was looking for. Just took me a few years to realize it. Has certainly helped me mentally.

  • @TzUuup

    @TzUuup

    2 жыл бұрын

    Crabs in a bucket my man. End the cycle

  • @Dark-fu2ww

    @Dark-fu2ww

    2 жыл бұрын

    @doting O how old are you

  • @eyesofthecervino3366

    @eyesofthecervino3366

    2 жыл бұрын

    The blood of the covenant runs thicker than the water of the womb.

  • @PrincipalCowbellist
    @PrincipalCowbellist3 жыл бұрын

    "If someone is draining that energy that you need desperately to focus on yourself and better yourself, you need to cut them out of your life." - Mike

  • @Snowfly1
    @Snowfly13 жыл бұрын

    I didnt know it was possible to feel so proud of someone you've never met. What a strong human being.

  • @darcflame37

    @darcflame37

    3 жыл бұрын

    Careful Hannibal you might show too much humanity

  • @someasiankid6323

    @someasiankid6323

    3 жыл бұрын

    fr

  • @Nick-A1
    @Nick-A13 жыл бұрын

    "Being kid is like being a dog, even if their owner beats them they're still going to come back at the end of the day " that shit hit me too hard... legitimately I have been crying with the video on pause. But I think I needed to hear that. Damn someone hug this guy for me.

  • @AdamJMGamesDev

    @AdamJMGamesDev

    3 жыл бұрын

    Hope you're doing alright mate.

  • @parkmanpoop901
    @parkmanpoop9013 жыл бұрын

    I don’t think he realizes how much this helped me cope with an verbally abusive mother, and shutting her out

  • @mike4088

    @mike4088

    2 жыл бұрын

    Happy it helped!

  • @rem975
    @rem9753 жыл бұрын

    I dont know, but this video just makes me extremely grateful for the family that I have.

  • @CursedWheelieBin

    @CursedWheelieBin

    3 жыл бұрын

    Sounds like your parents did a good job. You’ll likely be a good parent too then 🙂

  • @AlexPentlicki
    @AlexPentlicki3 жыл бұрын

    My dad joined the Army for the same reason. My grandpa said he wouldnt make it theough bootcamp. We learned recently that that grandpa got kicked out of air force boot camp.

  • @BigMT9022

    @BigMT9022

    3 жыл бұрын

    Alexander Pentlicki Am I allowed to ask why he was kicked out?

  • @AlexPentlicki

    @AlexPentlicki

    3 жыл бұрын

    Matthew Thornton we have no clue lol, we just found out by digging through some old letters he sent to my grandma.

  • @newentry.-.8086

    @newentry.-.8086

    3 жыл бұрын

    Alexander Pentlicki That’s quite sad. What I take away from this is your grandpa fell short and wanted his son to be his legacy to the world but still put him down and projected his own “failure” onto his son. I feel bad for your Dad.

  • @dontignorewatchme5851

    @dontignorewatchme5851

    3 жыл бұрын

    Dang chill grandpa

  • @KarnEdge

    @KarnEdge

    3 жыл бұрын

    Hahahahahaha your grandpa sounds like a loser

  • @blockhead134
    @blockhead1343 жыл бұрын

    Imagine beating someone so hard you hurt yourself, then beating them for injuring you. That is like, saturday morning cartoon villian, comically evil self centered mideval noble level shit

  • @ulrohermit1369

    @ulrohermit1369

    3 жыл бұрын

    i know right

  • @nen7486

    @nen7486

    3 жыл бұрын

    that part hit so fucking hard, my dad used to do that to me as a kid, and it sucks that there’s more people out there who experienced horrifying shit like that growing up.

  • @Nova-qb4fj

    @Nova-qb4fj

    3 жыл бұрын

    my parents hit me but not in the way that you would get Flippin injured, they only did those slaps that hurt a bit. I mean damn those parents are monsters like yeah if your kid is being a little shiz hit them in a way you wouldn't hurt or kill them. don't flippin hit them till you hurt your arm and then hit them for making your arm hurt like Jesus that's the definition of child abuse.

  • @blacklight1104

    @blacklight1104

    3 жыл бұрын

    I mean part of why they're abusive is they can't take accountability for themselves. Easier to just blame somebody else and maybe vent off him/her/it (for those who abuse animals) than to do something about their fked up behaviors.

  • @Nova-qb4fj

    @Nova-qb4fj

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@blacklight1104 i agree with you 100%

  • @PaulTheadra
    @PaulTheadra Жыл бұрын

    I needed to hear this, I'm 40 and after my little brother committed suicide, I realized I had to stop acknowledging our parent's existence, or I would of also committed suicide. I'm a complete stranger to the speaker, but I want them to know, I'm proud of them, life is fn hard.

  • @Hope-Truth-Light

    @Hope-Truth-Light

    6 ай бұрын

    R.I.P. to your bro

  • @James11111
    @James111113 жыл бұрын

    Zim shares his story of breaking free from the All-mighty Tallest.

  • @demon13doc

    @demon13doc

    2 жыл бұрын

    "NOOOOOOOOoooo whatever." - Dib

  • @blakewalker94
    @blakewalker943 жыл бұрын

    He's absolutely right about the addictions caused by prescribing highly addictive medicines for pain pills and such. It's an actual fact and a really sad fact to boot.

  • @AlaskaBoyAlex

    @AlaskaBoyAlex

    3 жыл бұрын

    The fact that they prescribe them isn't the sad part, the fact that they give them way way too much for no good reason is. When you are under incredible pain the drugs are a lifesaver, its the leftover ones they give you just to inflate your bill that are the super fucking fucked up part

  • @blakewalker94

    @blakewalker94

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@AlaskaBoyAlex Exactly. That's one of the reasons my mom became dependant on them. It was very difficult for her to get off of them. It broke my heart watching.

  • @blakewalker94

    @blakewalker94

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@young98-cc5ls I didn't know about that. That is absolutely disgusting.

  • @bosmer3836

    @bosmer3836

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@AlaskaBoyAlex And then refuse to prescribe them in other cases, like women suffering from dysmenorrhea.

  • @alejandrolopez1154

    @alejandrolopez1154

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yep that is why we are having a opioid crisis

  • @SnakeBum
    @SnakeBum3 жыл бұрын

    This is the best WoW advert on the internet

  • @MichaelKorzon

    @MichaelKorzon

    3 жыл бұрын

    WoW: It's just like heroin!

  • @derrilazkia1002

    @derrilazkia1002

    3 жыл бұрын

    Champions don't have time for drugs?

  • @rida9639

    @rida9639

    3 жыл бұрын

    "Dont get addicted to drugs! play WoW instead!"

  • @gilsai4990

    @gilsai4990

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yeah but videogames be like that. I ve been drinking a lot lately. I play mainly midlane in League of Legands and Xerath is my favourite boy but he requires fast reflex and accuracy in casting skillshots. Alcohol made it really hard to play him soo i stopped drinking. After my mind cleared ive realised that alcohol made my daily living like 20% more miserable.

  • @coolandgood1010

    @coolandgood1010

    3 жыл бұрын

    No...no its not.

  • @maku4814
    @maku48143 жыл бұрын

    It's a really shitty moment for a child when they realize their parents aren't the role models they thought they are... It took me 30 years of my life to realize that I'm not a failure, my parents are. This one hit me hard as it was very relatable. My parents were fucked up in a different way, there was no physical abuse, just mental... but that's a story for another day. It's honestly so heartwarming hearing this guy made it out. Such a weird thing to feel happy for a total stranger.

  • @aaayyygender

    @aaayyygender

    2 жыл бұрын

    🫂

  • @kekula69

    @kekula69

    Жыл бұрын

    bruv, maybe you can contact syrmor and talk about it

  • @andrewgochenaur5647
    @andrewgochenaur56473 жыл бұрын

    The best advantage I have ever had in life has and will always be my parents. Being born to good parents is winning the lottery.

  • @gliiitched4429

    @gliiitched4429

    3 жыл бұрын

    That’s great to hear.

  • @demon13doc

    @demon13doc

    2 жыл бұрын

    Even if its only one of them.

  • @EleanorNaomi
    @EleanorNaomi3 жыл бұрын

    The only people who failed are his parents. How pathetic... Some people should not be parents. They have no right to "Care for" precious life. I feel sick hearing this. Good on that man for realizing he doesn't owe them an explanation. He doesn't need to prove hes better because it's already true. That man raised himself right.

  • @bleb2771

    @bleb2771

    3 жыл бұрын

    I have the exact same parents, although I refuse to call them that. They shall die alone, they deserve it. And when the day finally arrives, I will get myself a cake and beer I don't even care whatever bs I might hear.

  • @fierce4453

    @fierce4453

    3 жыл бұрын

    This is y u need a license to get kids

  • @williambatch1418
    @williambatch14183 жыл бұрын

    I like this guy he has many stories sad and good and tells them like they are

  • @Gladiux0

    @Gladiux0

    3 жыл бұрын

    He doesnt tell the stories

  • @williambatch1418

    @williambatch1418

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@Gladiux0 sorry if you got confused I was talking about the guy symor is interviewing

  • @Gladiux0

    @Gladiux0

    3 жыл бұрын

    Willthebinchicken oh ok cool

  • @mike4088

    @mike4088

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you

  • @williambatch1418

    @williambatch1418

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@mike4088 no problem👍

  • @kebabkebob7808
    @kebabkebob78083 жыл бұрын

    Honestly it’s better he went to the navy and got his GI Bill instead of taking loans because now he gets to enjoy his money

  • @nihil576
    @nihil5763 жыл бұрын

    the way this guy nonchalantly describes how horrible his parents treated him is heartbreaking.

  • @wumbosaurus9121
    @wumbosaurus91213 жыл бұрын

    This is really important advice: "I think if someone's just continually toxic, no matter who the fuck they are in your life you should be able to just walk away. Like if it makes you- This is the main thing with mental health is like, *sometimes when you have mental health issues, you need to be selfish with your own emotions.* "

  • @veetee4826

    @veetee4826

    Жыл бұрын

    hah I wish I could move out but I cant because my mental health is that bad.

  • @nickmagrick7702
    @nickmagrick77023 жыл бұрын

    8:49 little does he know he dodged a bullet by not taking out loans.

  • @MultiKool13

    @MultiKool13

    3 жыл бұрын

    Depends on what he wanted to go for

  • @nickmagrick7702

    @nickmagrick7702

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@MultiKool13 if he wanted to go for life long debt that can't be paid back then yeah go for it. College loans are among the only loans you can't default on and get rid of. Colleges are increasingly becoming less valuable with college degrees mattering less and less because the quality of education is going down as well as a saturation of the job market in most fields. Few decades ago it seemed like an insane idea not to go to college even if it meant taking out loans. Now its more obvious it doesn't always go well anymore, and its getting more expensive.

  • @MultiKool13

    @MultiKool13

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@nickmagrick7702 yes but I'm saying for people who wanna go for the Sciences like Engineers and such it is worth it

  • @nickmagrick7702

    @nickmagrick7702

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@MultiKool13 even then its becoming more questionable

  • @MultiKool13

    @MultiKool13

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@nickmagrick7702 only for electrical and mechanical engineers, I really wouldn't recommend them. But chemical, and nuclear are in high demand, can make a lot of money, and have amazing benefits. Also doctors and physical therapy are great things to go to college for (obviously). But I do agree college is becoming very useless for most people. The real crime though is that nobody told him about trade school, he could've went there for free after he got out of the military, gotten paid while he was in school, and gotten multiple degrees like PTech and Instrumentation, came to the south and made BANK

  • @Akrenix
    @Akrenix3 жыл бұрын

    VRChat is the only game where you can hear Zim talking about his war experiences and his friends overdosing

  • @aidenstammler4618
    @aidenstammler46183 жыл бұрын

    In the end, deep down, we all know who she really was saying 'you were a failure' and it was not towards her son

  • @TZanatta

    @TZanatta

    3 жыл бұрын

    projection, for sure.

  • @RobertMorgan

    @RobertMorgan

    3 жыл бұрын

    It sounds to me like they were just pushing him to do his best. A B average is good, but is it your BEST, really? Is that all you're worth, all you can be, a B? I bet with a little more effort that could have been an A average. I've been there. I've been that kid that everyone told is so great, with so much potential, that should be getting As, and I did for a while, and I could...but that's boring so i slacked, fucked off, hanged with bad people, got expelled. Came back, graduated high school a semester early, making up for the expelled semester, while working 40 hours a week nights. I actually lied to my employer that I dropped out of high school so they'd let me work full time, because I liked the money, lol. That was 2001, and most of that school year, my senior year, was a daze of sleep depravation, homework, and secrecy since i'd started smoking weed at 18 (which I blamed on the stress of 9/11). One would be surprised what they can do when they apply themselves. If I'd had modafinil then like it's available today, whoooo, holy shit, I'd be a WAY ahead today.

  • @aidenstammler4618

    @aidenstammler4618

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@RobertMorgan True, but even when he joined the military, made a difference and actually made something of himself his mother still treated him as though he did nothing. that is disgusting. what was worse is how she was telling the family members behind his back on how bad and "lost" he was, thus undermining all of his accomplishments and goals to prove himself. This is where I am getting at. How can you defend that? What happened if your parents still bullied you and called you a worthless being after you made the necessary changes to improve your life in society? Now I must agree with you on your point that, yeah, we all need that push in the right direction. we need that shove if necessary. the issue here is that she is still shoving him even after he proved himself in the end. That I cannot excuse. P.S. thanks for your replying and giving your own opinion and even experience. that was really kind of you

  • @arisako5625

    @arisako5625

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@RobertMorgan I'm on the other scale of this, and although still young unlike you, I still believe I can testify about this. My parents have a great expectation of me. If I got a B in one class, it would be "Nice job, but I wanna see a board full of As." It also helped that my parents were from Vietnam and only finished (a very poor) middle school before coming to the US to avoid the Vietnam War. As a result, they wanted a child who got to learn. My father said to me when I was in 6th grade with my lowest grade of all time with a C when I complained that it was fine: "My dream is for my son to come home with a degree." Damn did that hit me.

  • @snipingpyro
    @snipingpyro3 жыл бұрын

    Wow. That ending was beautiful. "Sometimes when you have Mental Health Issues, you need to be selfish with your own emotions. Sometimes you dont have the energy to like put up with other people's bullshit. You gotta be able to focus on yourself and if somebody is draining that energy that you need desperately to focus on yourself and better yourself, you need to cut them out of your life." 100% REAL.

  • @MrAgentEcho

    @MrAgentEcho

    3 жыл бұрын

    People say “you’re not the center of the world” like no, I literally am the center of my world. It’s how life works!

  • @mike4088

    @mike4088

    3 жыл бұрын

    Glad you appreciated that. Hope it helps.

  • @TzUuup

    @TzUuup

    2 жыл бұрын

    100% at the end of the day all you have is you. It is ok to be selfish in certain situations

  • @karmakameleon113

    @karmakameleon113

    2 жыл бұрын

    This is exactly why I choose to not have friends, a love/dating/sex life or any kind of social life at all. My "resilient zone" is EXTREMELY small, I have deep CPTSD and many days, even just seeing other people/hearing other people's voices (without even interacting with them directly) completely exhausts me and sends me spiraling. I don't even watch live action tv/movies/shows because I can't stand looking at/hearing people, especially not at the same time. The majority of the media I consume are books and audio-only educational podcasts, unless I'm watching something that's purely instructional. I get called selfish so much (especially by family members) for keeping myself away from other humans in as many ways and as much as possible, but they don't understand that that's what I need to do to keep myself sane and generally ok.

  • @CursedWheelieBin

    @CursedWheelieBin

    Жыл бұрын

    @@karmakameleon113 It just doesn’t sound as though it’s keeping you sane though. I ruminate about all my social interactions, which makes me anxious, which then f**ks with my sleep, causing more anxiety, then there’s the shame I feel for feeling anxious, then I get angry at myself for feeling shame and anxiety. On and on it goes, like a snake eating it’s own tail

  • @Doonesh
    @Doonesh3 жыл бұрын

    This guys story is literally how super villains are born. Props to him for overcoming it man!

  • @Metaknightkirby2

    @Metaknightkirby2

    3 жыл бұрын

    @J J Idunno my dude, those parents are pretty close to being some.

  • @The_NJG

    @The_NJG

    3 жыл бұрын

    I know I would’ve became evil and vengeful if I was in the same situation. This guy took the energy and used it as fuel for a positive outcome. I would’ve just became consumed by it.

  • @chrissy9153
    @chrissy91533 жыл бұрын

    “The less I talked to my parents the better off I was” I’m a freshman in college and I’m going through the same thing I don’t have any mental health issues and I’m just overall happier dealing with unpredictable alcoholic psychos everyday was worse then anything

  • @CursedWheelieBin

    @CursedWheelieBin

    3 жыл бұрын

    If it’s as bad as you say then you probably have developed some issues - it’s just your mind’s way of coping with the stress of a turbulent home environment where you’re supposed to feel safe and secure.

  • @matturner6890
    @matturner68903 жыл бұрын

    Way too many "parents" get away with this kind of shit, and they never see jail time. I had to pause a lot because I kept getting overcome with rage. Personally, I think it's one of the worst things you can do and I sincerely hope every abusive parent goes to their own special hell for eternity, feeling solely the most intense pain that can possibly be felt, so they have some idea what it was like for their poor kids. Thanks for sharing this story.

  • @missasissa
    @missasissa3 жыл бұрын

    I feel bad for this guy. Parents are supposed to be your main support and protectors. But it sounds like he's got a good life, good for him. I'm due with my daughter in less than a month. I will always be her main support and I will give her the best, loving life she can have. That means cutting certain people out of our lives, which was hard, but necessary. Do what makes you happy, live selfishly to achieve your goals. I never thought I would be this happy but I am. The struggles in life are worth it. You matter to someone. 🥰

  • @hirxken7851

    @hirxken7851

    3 жыл бұрын

    It's good that you'll be there for your daughter and trust me when i say this but, everyone needs their mom or dad to be in their life. My dad doesn't even bother with us and that's why i think so negative but, atleast i have my mom and even though she's not that great she tries her best.

  • @CBRN-115

    @CBRN-115

    3 жыл бұрын

    Hope everything goes well for you and your family

  • @eclipsewh7777

    @eclipsewh7777

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@hirxken7851 I feel this so hard man Last few months, I've been kind of gloomy and down because I went to live with my mom after living with my dad for awhile. My dad hasn't talked a whole lot since, I ask him to get lunch and it seems like he has some kinda excuse to push it off and not see me. I just want to be in his life still, I don't want to never see him again. There are a lot of things he's done that I don't agree with, but he's still my dad at the end of the day and I love tf outta him man

  • @NeonNym

    @NeonNym

    3 жыл бұрын

    As a daughter to a not so good father one thing i can happily reccomend is to try and think from the childs view and let them explain things at their own pace; when your child does something wrong please dont get super mad and simply ask in a calm voice why they did what they had done, this can help build trust ive never had with my dad and could help you as a parent. Thank you for reading this in advanced!💞

  • @TheChickenRiceBowl

    @TheChickenRiceBowl

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@NeonNym You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. I think you have a lot of potential to do well in spite of your parent's failures. Good luck.👍✊

  • @jordandeshan8020
    @jordandeshan80203 жыл бұрын

    Damn, I heard my mother's shrill screeching in my head when he mentioned how his mother screamed at him. Toxic parents scream alike

  • @zilentzap
    @zilentzap3 жыл бұрын

    I kinda have parents like his and I feel so sorry, I'm glad he turned into a better person than them.

  • @RobertMorgan

    @RobertMorgan

    3 жыл бұрын

    when you realize he turned into a better person BECAUSE of them. That without that experience, he might have turned out better, but maybe different or even worse. Some of the most entitled, horrible people I know had wealthy, coddling, nice parents.

  • @themike4326
    @themike43263 жыл бұрын

    I can relate to him to some degree. My parents are very narcissistic, especially my dad. If its one thing I learned, you owe nothing to your parents if they think doing the bare minimum is grounds for them to abuse you mentally and physically and then call it love.

  • @Bibimbapski
    @Bibimbapski3 жыл бұрын

    His parents sound like a couple of narcissists. The fact they kept telling him he a failure, he went to college and graduated but didn't accept it, they wanted to manipulate him into believing he was a piece of shit and would never amount to anything. Yep, sounds like a classic narcissist and I have met many people like that. Best thing is never to talk to them ever again. Focus on your own life and future. Leave them in the past. I know it might be difficult for some people because they are related but it is much better to never speak to them again. It is extremely rare for a narcissist to change.

  • @Killerwhale-kp2fm
    @Killerwhale-kp2fm3 жыл бұрын

    Really hits different that his drill instructors from Boot camp are less harsh than his actual parents. Seeing stories likes this that start from agony to redemption really gives me a smile.

  • @nighthawkviper6791

    @nighthawkviper6791

    3 жыл бұрын

    That's because DIs eat sleep and breathe with their brothers and sisters in uniform.(Okay maybe not sleep...) They have mutual respect(generally) and they're using that toughness to immediately provide these cadets with the tools necessary to thrive in the military.(Unlike his parents who left him to fend for himself)

  • @SavageFXL
    @SavageFXL2 жыл бұрын

    You know what. I’m proud of this guy. He took crumbs and made it into a loaf of bread. All this just really makes me want to make sure my future home and family is full of love and support.

  • @MellowMink
    @MellowMink2 жыл бұрын

    Holy shit, I’m so sorry you had to deal with those pathetic excuses of human beings as parents; you are so much better than they ever could be to a severe extent, and my extreme respect to you both for your service as well as your technical achievements outside of the navy. I also hope that you got to share the truth with more of your relatives; those abusive parents deserve to be called out by everyone.

  • @Ir0nW01f
    @Ir0nW01f3 жыл бұрын

    Shit....a friend of mine recommended this video to me and told me "Hey, you need to listen to this, it sounds a lot like what you went through." Different strokes, but I went through a similar situation, and it's painful to hear that another kid had to go through that kind of abuse as well. It sounds like he's okay now, though. I'm glad. I'm glad I listened to this...

  • @nen7486

    @nen7486

    3 жыл бұрын

    I went through the same shit as a kid too, and the fact that someone else went through similar things as me caught me so fucking off-guard. I really hope that this future generation of young kids has at least some sort of outlet to reach out and receive help.

  • @JasonEngman

    @JasonEngman

    3 жыл бұрын

    Crazy, same here. Hadn't met anyone that had the same sort of past. I chose homelessness instead of the military for a while. I long since learned that I did better than my father in many ways, and have a son who I can show the real values in life, and how to be a proper caring father.

  • @prestondavenport1094

    @prestondavenport1094

    3 жыл бұрын

    Same here. I went through a psychotic narcissistic abusive parent. My mom is a lot like his mom, never worked, expected everything to be done for her. And the family tree is similar too. My mom was from long island, grandpa served in WWII and was an abusive alcoholic. Glad that there's other people who survived/thrived. I love this guy's story because he did well for himself.

  • @largefecesreal
    @largefecesreal3 жыл бұрын

    This Invader Zim reboot dark.

  • @andreyisinsane2162

    @andreyisinsane2162

    3 жыл бұрын

    Finally something cheery to make my day. Though dark.

  • @beautyandtheoffbeats

    @beautyandtheoffbeats

    3 жыл бұрын

    Dib must have really fuck Zim up.

  • @harrybechtle4333

    @harrybechtle4333

    3 жыл бұрын

    Zim’s talking about the tallest

  • @carrotswordgaming3483
    @carrotswordgaming34833 жыл бұрын

    Not the hero we deserved, but the hero we needed.

  • @CrispyMuffin2
    @CrispyMuffin23 жыл бұрын

    things like this keep reminding me how fucking lucky i am to have parents who actually care about my wellbeing. that guy is a god damn champion for being able to go through all that with his sanity intact

  • @zzsebzz
    @zzsebzz3 жыл бұрын

    The parents were just projecting and trying to make their child seems more incompetent than they are, so they can feel superior. This is actually common in certain community.

  • @ulrohermit1369

    @ulrohermit1369

    3 жыл бұрын

    common doesn't make healthy

  • @mantha6912

    @mantha6912

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@ulrohermit1369 I don't think they meant it that way.

  • @RobertMorgan

    @RobertMorgan

    3 жыл бұрын

    NOTICE, in those 'certain communities' they're disproportionately highly successful. Many of those successful kids credit that intense parenting for their success.

  • @michaelclark3862

    @michaelclark3862

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@RobertMorgan and also produces druggies and suicides

  • @LeGronk

    @LeGronk

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@RobertMorgan define "success". if you think pushing a kid to their mental breaking point so they can have a high-paying career is all there is to success, you're missing the point. a person can be outwardly successful and inwardly an insecure house-of-cards mess in a way that risks derailing their entire life at any moment. you can't justify abusive parenting with this.

  • @natej1026
    @natej10263 жыл бұрын

    Kicking a 17 year old out is beyond me. I'm almost 19 and my life is no where close to being manageable yet so I can't imagine being kicked out at 17.

  • @ssj4galactus

    @ssj4galactus

    3 жыл бұрын

    Most parents even kick their kids out at 18 and be like "be off on your own now". Like yo i know they need to learn but being a parent doesnt end at 18, its a life long commitment

  • @kush7138

    @kush7138

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@ssj4galactus that's an excuse of letting the kid learn. If the parents care about their children, then they wouldn't kick them out like that unless they're an complete problem. Kicking out your child when he / she are not financially stable is beyond the asshole territory.

  • @ssj4galactus

    @ssj4galactus

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@kush7138 word man

  • @ItsGibohh

    @ItsGibohh

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yeah I just turned 20 and I’ve been living on my own for almost a year and it’s had its hard points. I couldn’t imagine doing it at 17

  • @beckettmmasson125
    @beckettmmasson1253 жыл бұрын

    syrmor deadass put in one of the captions *joyless laugh*

  • @gabebova3278
    @gabebova32783 жыл бұрын

    hearing stories like this make me really appreciate my parents and all they are going through to help me succeed in life. ive decided to join the marines next year and when i told them they were nothing but supportive to me.

  • @kingmwila
    @kingmwila3 жыл бұрын

    This dude had it rough. I feel so bad for him. I honestly hope one day that his parents see how much he's done to try and please them. They honestly sound terrible and don't deserve such an amazing dude as their son. And to lie to the family members as well? That's like the lowest of lows. I hope this dude achieves more greatness and ends up being talked about on TV or something so his extended family can see how messed up his parents were to him.

  • @spoon6804

    @spoon6804

    3 жыл бұрын

    I don’t think those thick skulled idiots can get shit through their head

  • @freddy4603

    @freddy4603

    3 жыл бұрын

    I wonder if at this point his parents just mentally can't accept his success because then they would have to confront the way they acted to him their whole life and get throught the pain of accepting just how terrible they are. Being wrong hurts, especially when you spent time trying to prove you're right, it's hard for me to apologise for being an asshole for 5 minutes, my chest physically hurts when I confront the truth that what I said was wrong. I can't imagine the pain of realising a lifelong mistake.

  • @SpeedyThingGoIn4

    @SpeedyThingGoIn4

    3 жыл бұрын

    Going off of that part where they lied to his uncle, I worry that they'd just brag that everything he achieved was because of them (rather than in spite of them). And they'd still call him a failure. Idk them, though... Plus stuff like therapy may help them grow.

  • @freddy4603

    @freddy4603

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@SpeedyThingGoIn4 of course, you should never rely on people to change

  • @SpeedyThingGoIn4

    @SpeedyThingGoIn4

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@freddy4603 That's an interesting point. Kinda... 'err on the side of caution' vibes.

  • @UNDScandinavian
    @UNDScandinavian3 жыл бұрын

    The part where he mentions “if I make more money than my parents, then I’m not a loser” - hit way too close to home. Thanks for sharing man, you did the best you could with what you had.

  • @vexbomer
    @vexbomer3 жыл бұрын

    As some one in the military in a similar situation i really relate to this story so much. Folks its ok the let family go if they keep shitting on you. Go live your best life and look out for #1.

  • @TheLostWill
    @TheLostWill2 жыл бұрын

    I can just imagine when they're old and helpless, they'll call him and he'll just tell them that he doesn't have any parents

  • @_ThatJaceKid
    @_ThatJaceKid3 жыл бұрын

    He's 100% speaking the truth. My dad crushed a disc in his spine back in the 2000's and doctors got him addicted to opioids and when it wasnt 'getting the job done' he started looking for drugs to fill the void. He's doing better now, but it took a decade to get out of rock bottom.

  • @_ThatJaceKid

    @_ThatJaceKid

    3 жыл бұрын

    @syrmor id love to find an outlet to tell u that whole story

  • @dawsondeweerd8058

    @dawsondeweerd8058

    3 жыл бұрын

    I know the feeling man, same happend to my mom. Lost her a few years ago man.

  • @rioluvo
    @rioluvo3 жыл бұрын

    The Mom sounds like a terrible person, this pissed me off so damn much. I am so inspired by Mike, he seems like such a great person. He went through all of that all by himself, at such a young age too. I am 17 right now and I cannot even begin to fathom having to go through any of that. Especially on my own. Thank you Mike. And thank you Syrmor.

  • @MrAlexmac123
    @MrAlexmac1233 жыл бұрын

    That last part when he was talking about being selfish and cutting people out of your life resonated with me so hard.

  • @grittypeso2083
    @grittypeso20833 жыл бұрын

    I got kicked out at 17 as well because my mom was an addict and couldn’t understand normal human feelings. So I turned to the wrong path, I ended up drug dealing and hanging with the wrong crowd. Until I met my wife and ever since the day I saw and met her I knew I had to change my life. Fast forward 1 year she was pregnant with my child. Now fast forward to now I have a nice house, I’m married and I have 3 beautiful kids. Never had my father or mother around and I still made a great life for myself. It’s not about the parents y’all, it’s about the heart you have as a person.

  • @cabin_quilt
    @cabin_quilt3 жыл бұрын

    glad he was able to cut that relationship off with his parents. He deserves people who respect and support him, not abuse and gaslight him. The BARE MINIMUM for parents is to provide for their kids' basic needs like food and shelter until adulthood, it's disgusting when they try act like their kids owe them anything for that.

  • @dREHER0009
    @dREHER00093 жыл бұрын

    I'm gunna go give my parents a hug for not being like this guys parents...

  • @ulrohermit1369

    @ulrohermit1369

    3 жыл бұрын

    well deserved

  • @jaimencroft8484
    @jaimencroft84843 жыл бұрын

    Brought up so many memories this guys story actually started making me upset because going through that myself you never wish it upon another person and hearing about him going through it too just sucks to hear :/

  • @HoneyPupcakes
    @HoneyPupcakes3 жыл бұрын

    Honestly even though his story is really sad and messed up, it's still really encouraging. After everything he's gone through he was still able to make a life for himself with zero help from his parents. My parents are similar in the sense that they treat me like a failure even though they aren't even trying to help me succeed. The fact that he was able to make it all on his own is really encouraging and it makes me feel like I can do it too.

  • @pineappleginseng1557
    @pineappleginseng15573 жыл бұрын

    The military life can be depressing a lot of times, not because we're away from home, but because it's worrisome to know that some of our friends we knew and loved from our childhood, high school, and all the times spent throughout our 'past lives', never truly 'left home' and got into some bad shit. Then those nights when I'd be alone in the barracks/dorms, wondering what it would be like to go back home one more time to enjoy the bonfires we used to have and playing manhunt (hide-and-seek) in the woods at night with my old friends, just like we all did when we were teenagers. Man, I'd kill to have a moment like that with my old friends one last time.

  • @infinitycabbage3984

    @infinitycabbage3984

    3 жыл бұрын

    thinking about this made me cry. thank you for helping me remember some stuff

  • @jonkbonk7107

    @jonkbonk7107

    3 жыл бұрын

    I always wanted to join the military but now I'm having second thoughts, there's a lot of problems that come with joining and as much as I wish I could join, I can't ease into the harsh lifestyle

  • @kamileon9958
    @kamileon99583 жыл бұрын

    Sounds like his parents were narcissistic and emotionally abusive

  • @RazorEXE

    @RazorEXE

    3 жыл бұрын

    Not to mention physically at the end. Fucking disgusting wastes of flesh.

  • @AbandonedVoid

    @AbandonedVoid

    3 жыл бұрын

    Nothing said in this video indicates narcissism, and people who suffer from NPD do not deserve to be erroneously stigmatized by being associated with abuse like this. There are many lovely people suffering from NPD that would never do anything remotely like what we see in this video. "Narcissistic" is not a synonym for "callously selfish."

  • @Jasonpetersen1

    @Jasonpetersen1

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@AbandonedVoid says this guy🤦🏻‍♂️☝🏻

  • @D3w10n

    @D3w10n

    3 жыл бұрын

    Happens more than you would guess

  • @Relatablenightmare

    @Relatablenightmare

    3 жыл бұрын

    I wouldn't say they we're narcissistic. Sounds to me like his parents are very unhappy with their lives and the only way they could feel better was taking it out on their kid and pushing him lower than themselves. Then when their kid achieves something, they do some mental gymnastics and try to convince themselves and people around them that they made it happen. Guarantee you his parents we're never loved in their youth and therefore couldn't give that to their kid.

  • @SoCalPresa
    @SoCalPresa2 жыл бұрын

    Jesus man I went through a similar issue with the parents gaslighting me through my entire life. I appreciate this 🙏

  • @Voltaire772
    @Voltaire7723 жыл бұрын

    That guy really spoke to me at the end. My parents are the same way my dad is slightly better but my mom was always playing mind games and mentally abusing me. Once I cut her off i realize my life is 100% better without her in it.

  • @ella-yo9mv
    @ella-yo9mv3 жыл бұрын

    i’m so excited to watch this- everything syrmor makes is so emotionally touching.

  • @mitpick7049

    @mitpick7049

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yes anime girl in vr chat talking about her only fans is so touching ☺️

  • @ella-yo9mv

    @ella-yo9mv

    3 жыл бұрын

    MitPicK HAHAHA-

  • @andreyisinsane2162

    @andreyisinsane2162

    3 жыл бұрын

    Invader zim guy last video: *ye we exploded into our socks pretty often on that ship*

  • @ella-yo9mv

    @ella-yo9mv

    3 жыл бұрын

    Smoked Bear y e s .

  • @cate01a

    @cate01a

    3 жыл бұрын

    I'd say it's syrmor documenting. Not to discredit his work, but the value of his products comes almost exclusively from the interviewees themselves.

  • @rotobracca
    @rotobracca3 жыл бұрын

    that whole 'sometimes you need to be selfish for the betterment of your own mental health' thing resonates with me heavily, thanks again for the wonderful conversation syrmor

  • @jasonbernard9012
    @jasonbernard90123 жыл бұрын

    My boy said it right at the end - be selfish for your mental health. If you’re in a really bad place because of someone, cut them out because they’re harming you. I digress, that was a wild ride and thanks for sharing what you went thru

  • @Dusk1990
    @Dusk19903 жыл бұрын

    I cannot imagine having parents like this. Makes me feel incredibly grateful for my own parents and I’m glad your doing well regardless of your upbringing. Love the videos and stories being shared on this channel.

  • @syrmor
    @syrmor3 жыл бұрын

    hi peeps! welcome back to another vid. i'm hanging out with Mike, an ex-navy soldier, about growing up and where life took him. keep up with the channel at twitter.com/SyrmorS

  • @Silent_oz

    @Silent_oz

    3 жыл бұрын

    do u reply????

  • @syrmor

    @syrmor

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@Silent_oz no

  • @laboon344

    @laboon344

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@syrmor 😂😂

  • @Silent_oz

    @Silent_oz

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@syrmor oh ok

  • @ScreamingFlames

    @ScreamingFlames

    3 жыл бұрын

    E

  • @D3ityCthulhu
    @D3ityCthulhu3 жыл бұрын

    I pray that his parents see this video by some miracle one day. I also hope they realize what scum bags they were to their own child.

  • @CursedWheelieBin

    @CursedWheelieBin

    3 жыл бұрын

    Never gonna happen. They’re emotionally walled off because of their own traumas from their own upbringings. It’s why the only choice is to walk away. Take a person like that and give them power over another life, and watch them become a tyrant. It’s inevitable. It’s also why I don’t have kids. I went through too much abuse and neglect as a kid, so that would undoubtedly affect my ability to be a good parent. It’s why so many people shouldn’t have kids. Most people are just doing it for themselves, to satisfy their urges. Mental health issues are nothing new, but at least now some us realise now how and why they develop in the first place.

  • @gliiitched4429

    @gliiitched4429

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@CursedWheelieBin They know they were treated like shit, but they do nothing about it. I hate people like that.

  • @shiloheaston9839
    @shiloheaston98392 жыл бұрын

    I feel this so hard. I feel less alone in my experience now. Thank-You for sharing this.

  • @BoazBoazBoazBoaz
    @BoazBoazBoazBoaz3 жыл бұрын

    My blood is boiling hearing these stories. Hope you’re doing well

  • @toysoldier5296
    @toysoldier52963 жыл бұрын

    When he started talking about his parents and how they treated him it physically made me angry

  • @wizblix5647
    @wizblix56473 жыл бұрын

    I hate that I relate so much to his life while living with his parents. I'm probably gonna have to cut my parents out of my life when I move out because It's such a toxic environment. Being kicked out, lying to family members about you, making you go to work when you really can't, not apologizing for anything "because theyre your parents", never living up to their expectations, when he said she screamed at him for not being a systems engineer. I related to all of it. And I hate it. Watching this was like reliving my own traumas.

  • @aljosanpedro3424

    @aljosanpedro3424

    3 жыл бұрын

    Hey man, rly hope it gets better for you from here, legit 🙂

  • @Lex_Fur

    @Lex_Fur

    3 жыл бұрын

    cut them off man. do it. it's a hard choice but you'll only be happier when time goes by. if you don't you'll continue to get disappointed. don't fool yourself. parents don't get better with time. i cut off a parent and a bad best friend. in that moment it was hard, but you'll thank yourself later.

  • @ulrohermit1369

    @ulrohermit1369

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@Lex_Fur yeah man , I'm really at one of those fork roads , i have this best friend whom i know from my high school years , he is a good person but he really is depressed , pessimistic and dark towards future , he is kinda making me hopeless about my future and my goals , and i'm hesitant to cut him out

  • @pussypasta64

    @pussypasta64

    3 жыл бұрын

    feel ya homie, cut them out dont get sucked into their pain

  • @unofficial_ai
    @unofficial_ai3 жыл бұрын

    All these videos make me feel so much better, I feel like I’m sitting down and talking to them.

  • @duqu2405
    @duqu24052 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for your supreme words of wisdom. Psychological self defense is rarely taught, I believe you just showed us some sweet moves! Ty

  • @romeda5156
    @romeda51563 жыл бұрын

    Bad parents die old, angry, and sad.

  • @wockyslush3038
    @wockyslush30383 жыл бұрын

    "That's the bare fucking minimum you phsyco" god tier quote

  • @pussypasta64

    @pussypasta64

    3 жыл бұрын

    "WE MADE SURE YOU HAD A ROOF AND CLEAN CLOTHES" "THERE WAS ALWAYS FOOD IN THE HOUSE" if you think that's something you deserve extra credit for, kinda just shows how messed up YOUR parents were and why you think this excuses treating a child this way... kids shouldnt have to think about this stuff

  • @ryankhodadoost5865
    @ryankhodadoost58653 жыл бұрын

    Symor thank you for sharing these stories man, they’re great to listen to and help people more than you know

  • @lilgeorge248
    @lilgeorge2483 жыл бұрын

    The motivation this guy has is amazing

  • @calebsherman886
    @calebsherman8863 жыл бұрын

    9:20 Man, Umbrella academy is such a good show, also he's talking about Klaus in the 2nd season.

  • @nighthawkviper6791

    @nighthawkviper6791

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yep! At his manor trying to convince him not to join. UA S2 was quite amazing for me. I lived the exact story Mike(Navy guy) did in his anecdote. My dad and stepmom are doing the same to me.

  • @josephinehayward8303
    @josephinehayward83033 жыл бұрын

    The doctor's over prescribing problem was brought up In Shameless, when Frank points out rehab is way different than it was in the 90's, the worker explains how doctor's are over prescribing rich suburban kids, and under prescribing black and brown people, causing rich kids to land in rehab, paid by their parent's regardless of how many times they must return

  • @bombbud7523

    @bombbud7523

    3 жыл бұрын

    Is this a documentary or something? Can post a link for it 'cause i'm really interested in this now.

  • @josephinehayward8303

    @josephinehayward8303

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@bombbud7523 It's compiled information from "Adam Ruin's Everything" (they site the sources throught the episode) on Netflix, "Shameless" on Netflix, and a video that talks about racial bias in medicine and an actual study in 2016 seeing if black people don't feel pain/ feel pain differently

  • @richardrussel4567

    @richardrussel4567

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@josephinehayward8303 Adam ruins everything seems like an idiot though. Not disagreeing with what your saying, just that Ive seen that guys interviews, and Adam seems like a real kook.

  • @josephinehayward8303

    @josephinehayward8303

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@richardrussel4567 that's totally valid, but he's more like a mascot or actor for research that the writers have done. He's also a comedian who used to work on Collegehumor, so that might explain his kooky behavior

  • @rileylabski
    @rileylabski3 жыл бұрын

    Can't tell you how much this talk helped me dude, especially because I have a somewhat similar background and was in the US military as well. I won't go into it, but it's just uncanny to hear another veteran who had a similarly fucked up/abusive home life growing up who then arrived at literally the same conclusions I have recently arrived at after a decade-ish of escaping my abusive home, enlisting in the military and then putting myself through school with the GI Bill and the money I saved the shit out of when I was in military. I am now an IT professional and am increasingly successful in my career path and my parents still treated my accomplishments like they're not real or they would diminish them as much as possible. I came from nothing and was poor as hell growing up and now I'm a network engineer, and a good one at that. As an adult my parents brought nothing but strife/toxicity into my life, didn't help me at all to succeed and before I quit contacting them, they were a negative impact on my mental health in a really serious way. It doesn't matter who it is, if people bring toxicity and no value into your life, cut them out! Mike, if you're ever down brother, remember that you helped one of your infantry brothers a lot just by being willing to put this shit out there into the world. You are the man!

  • @LAVINIAx07
    @LAVINIAx073 жыл бұрын

    I absolutely loved this so much. A friend of mine recommended this channel to me, being aware of some of my past experiences with family, etc., But thank you for the people such as the veteran in this video that are strong enough to be able to share their own stories, it kinda made me feel like I had a chance to get better. And I'm pretty proud at how far people can come after that kinda sh*t going on in their life

  • @TimmacTR
    @TimmacTR3 жыл бұрын

    This guy played his hand the best he could. Respect.

  • @wzdew
    @wzdew3 жыл бұрын

    I relate to this too much. My parents did ultimately turn around for the most part though, but they kicked me out when i was 17 and still in high school. I was diagnosed with autism 2 years prior and couldn't work because of the emotional stress. I just wasn't able to always function, which made holding a job virtually impossible. They basically said I was just lazy and unmotivated. Was homeless for a while. it's a long story. That shit really really fucks you up. I will say that they learned more about my disability over time and do a lot for me now and I'm grateful. Even so, there's wounds in that relationship that will never ever heal.

  • @ulrohermit1369

    @ulrohermit1369

    3 жыл бұрын

    oh man , i'm really sorry to hear that , i feel you , yeah i have ADHD and we're in middle of the worst economical condition in the history of our country(iran) cause of the US sanctions , our currency have fallen 25x , our average salary is 40$/month , it really is dark times at least for me

  • @UsefullPig
    @UsefullPig3 жыл бұрын

    I was given opiods after I had my Wisdom teeth removed. They gave me this stuff that deactivates the drug to throw it away, so I did when I got home. Ibuprofen worked just fine for me.

  • @patrykpoprawa8495
    @patrykpoprawa84952 жыл бұрын

    This is a story that almost brought me to tears. It weird to realize that you always love your parents. Rarely it happens that your parents don't love you. So if your parents don't love you, you will still love them and keep coming back to them even if they will hurt you or yell mean comments to you. Even when your parents are lying in their deathbed, you will sit next to them even if they don't want you to. Or maybe when they are lying in their deathbed they will finally realize how much you care for them. You would even go to their funeral and cry for them, even if they hit you, or yelled at you. This is why you should never take your parents for granted. Always spend time with them.

  • @papillon1232
    @papillon12323 жыл бұрын

    when I broke my shit playing football after the surgery I had pills but never took them for this fkn reason and honestly the pain is bad the first few days but its not that bad so I recommend not taking the pills its not worth

  • @AnonymousUser77254

    @AnonymousUser77254

    3 жыл бұрын

    Well it depends what pills they've given you.

  • @klg9549

    @klg9549

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@AnonymousUser77254 Exactly. Mike didn't say all medication is bad, he said over-perscribing opiods is bad.

  • @thelittleredhairedgirlfrom6527

    @thelittleredhairedgirlfrom6527

    3 жыл бұрын

    My brother got perscribed a whole bunch of oxy after his tooth got knocked out in middle school but my mom is a nurse and she just had him take 2 tylenol and he was fine.

  • @Olivia-dg4fb

    @Olivia-dg4fb

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@thelittleredhairedgirlfrom6527 i had my wisdom teeth removed and they just gave me a few pills just in case but I stuck to tylenol and I was completely fine.

  • @wonjonglee7854
    @wonjonglee78543 жыл бұрын

    breaks my heart as i realize how truly lucky i am to have had parents who were completely supportive of me growing up and didn't kick me out lolololol. thank you for sharing your story Mike, definitely humbling me and putting me in my place when i have ill feelings towards my own family

  • @mike4088

    @mike4088

    3 жыл бұрын

  • @jordanmeeker8545
    @jordanmeeker85453 жыл бұрын

    Love the stories. Shout out to this guy. Went from negative to positive, it takes a strong person mentally to overcome what he did. Always persevere my friends

  • @ApolloTheDerg
    @ApolloTheDerg3 жыл бұрын

    These stories are amazing, and in every one it seems to end on a simple note, people forget how small simple things mean the world to you, such as just being around people who support you and doing work that doesn’t drain you, and even aspiring to enjoy what you do. It’s so easy to get caught up in the “it’s not that simple”, but it really is, it just takes a lot of getting over yourself to get there, and it could happen like the flip of a switch if you truly allow yourself to. I do love hearing these stories of people overcoming things, and also persevering through them as well, life isn’t all sunshine and rainbows, but you gotta keep your head in the game, and these people sure do.

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