"if you can't bond because you're traumatised, isolated or beaten down by life, you will bond with something that will give you some sense of relief"

@lisalee2885

2 жыл бұрын

Right on!!! 👍👍👍

@jstmeknz87

2 жыл бұрын

Or distraction.

@attorneyeranbenezra-immigr3829

2 жыл бұрын

"If you can't bond because you're traumatized, isolated or beaten down by life, you will bond with something that will give you some sense of relief"

@shane34lv

2 жыл бұрын

This is unbelievable

@MrsJustJuli83

2 жыл бұрын

This guy is so right in the money, it's scary! I feel like he knew implicitly what I have been going through with not just this video but also the TED Talk about depression. He mentioned he wrote a book I will definitely look him up!

As a recovering addict, I think you are spot on...when I overdosed and woke up in ICU the doctor asked me why I did what I did and I said “to escape reality”....now I’m sober 6 years, and after completely changing my environment, I’m now close to finishing medical school!

@msgr9499

5 жыл бұрын

Really happy for you!! ❤ And I agree 100% Just because a person may have a loving family, or ppl who love them, doesn't mean they aren't deeply lonely or intensely unhappy ,or suffering psychologically in some way. And that's the whole point that ppl are missing. I know this from personal experience! I can't tell you how much his talk resonated with me!! I was forced to use pain medication but it wasn't until shtf several years into it that I started struggling with addiction. I am surprised how many people who haven't experienced addiction themselves have it all figured out 😞

@andresss1997

5 жыл бұрын

How did you change your environment? I mean, did you change the city where you live? Or your girlfriend? Or what ?

@godschild3324

5 жыл бұрын

Tyson Holyfield Congratulations! 🍾🎊 I’m extremely proud of u!🤗

@robbierotten2024

5 жыл бұрын

Nice!!!!

@beckykelly2850

5 жыл бұрын

Congrats keep it up

Thank you Johan for making this.. I was on the street of L.A. for 5 years slamming fentanyl, and because my brother saw this video and showed it to my family, they started visiting me. Fast forward a bit, after having 2 surgeries from an infection on my spine, I got an infection on my heart and had a stroke and basically woke up in the hospital.. I now have 200+ days clean, which is the longest I've been clean for since I was 13.. all this to say that without this video and your studies on the subject, they wouldn't have visited me on the street. Thank you.. -- Chris Moran Thank you EVERYONE. Just to update you all, I have over a year clean now and am a Data Analyst for work! -- Chris Moran

@classygary

Жыл бұрын

Yes.., God indeed does work in mysterious and miraculous ways .

@Instfitter5150

Жыл бұрын

Keep going 💪💪

@stefaniegodfrey6155

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing 💕I love you

@stephm.3407

Жыл бұрын

Hope you are hanging in there and doing okay.

@samscrazy707

Жыл бұрын

holy faaackk I'm so happy to have read this! good on you man and I'm so happy your brother took this video and shared it. this makes me feel so good. i hope for nothing but peace in your mind and love in your soul for all the days my friend!! stay well :)

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

@Jennifer-bw7ku

Ай бұрын

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

@elizabethwilliams6651

Ай бұрын

Yes, dr.sporessss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

@patriaciasmith3499

Ай бұрын

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

@Jennifer-bw7ku

Ай бұрын

Is he on instagram?

@elizabethwilliams6651

Ай бұрын

Yes he is. dr.sporessss

Virtual hugs to all the addicts out there. You're not alone.

@jsull81

7 жыл бұрын

thanks, I'm on day 4! ..... probably only because I'm broke, though lol

@larrytate1657

7 жыл бұрын

No, hopefully because you're ready to change.

@luiskuraica2907

7 жыл бұрын

+J Snow DOC? if you don't mind me asking... I've been on a 1 year 3 month run I had 6 months clean before this then I ran from rehab... Fucked it up.

@musclebrainsmartypants6275

7 жыл бұрын

+J Snow Wish you good luck.

@joshfinley9571

7 жыл бұрын

I'll pray for you man. Keep me in mind when you pray too...

I believe that loneliness is what fueled my addiction.

@joenyce2531

4 жыл бұрын

Amy Spears i agree thats why im trying to grow and band together as many of us as possible subscribe lets be frienda

@daveygravey6929

4 жыл бұрын

I'm an addict and also feel alone, since your channel has no subscribers I'll be the first, now in KZread terms atleast...your not alone!

@johnnylaw26

3 жыл бұрын

Amy I isolated as well with my drinking and use. Keep getting out into the world You got this. 👍 Edit day 23 for me.

@mtburton909

3 жыл бұрын

Like experiencing a shipwreck in a storm struggling to swim ashore.

@scottlandis7753

3 жыл бұрын

Me too.

“The opposite of addiction is not sobriety. The opposite of addiction is connection.” Hit the nail right on the head, thank you ❤️

@Skoopyghost

Жыл бұрын

The first time I went to AA meeting. I was showed compassion for the first time in my life. I was gonna sprint out of there, but I stayed. When I heard that line. That memory stuck with me. I wanted to change after it and treat people better.

@adaptercrash

Жыл бұрын

Is what we do right with the hand thing

@josiegaglio4212

Жыл бұрын

Spot on

@TinaLouise73

Жыл бұрын

👍 but its always CONDITIONAL bonding on OTHERS TERMS! i choose solitude n self help/love over other ppl n their abusive terms of returns if u want them in YOUR life! Uck that! Love ME as i am or eff off! N look at URSELVES FIRST!

@jbean4176

4 ай бұрын

And it takes two to sustain connection

I started smoking weed since my teenage. Got addicted to Crack for over 23 years. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.

@BrownGeorge-pw2xo

4 ай бұрын

Amen God bless people. Save your health save your mind. Life is better without heroin, Crack,alcohol and cigarettes.And you have more money in your pocket. God bless everyone who has rejected the devils intentions to be addicted to alcohol and cigarettes etc which can cause so much damage to health.

@Bastianbishops

4 ай бұрын

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need!

@DonnHowes

4 ай бұрын

Yes Dr.alishrooms.

@SusanaGomez-mp8sk

4 ай бұрын

I'm really happy for you that your wife decided to help you...I hear about alot of family members or so called friends shutting an addict out of their life, which since most addicts do it to mask emotions to me is the worse thing someone can do to an addict.

@Wimruther-hk4zn

4 ай бұрын

How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta

Everyone of us that searched and clicked this video has become aware of themselves and wants to change. Good luck everyone, much love

@philipkelly9753

4 жыл бұрын

I think the inevitable aspect is that we will have vices and virtues. Its how we understand our vices that define us.

@alicelascaux7222

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you, love to you as well

@alicelascaux7222

4 жыл бұрын

@@philipkelly9753 this is right., It's not an easy hike this life. Along the way you learn to pick up the the gear best suited for such a hike.

@Melissa-dd7ys

4 жыл бұрын

I watched this to help understand my alcoholic husband. Only to realize, that I fill the same void of connection with food rather than alcohol.

@alicelascaux7222

4 жыл бұрын

@@Melissa-dd7ys my dear, i have that food thing too. I've seen the most encouraging comments here by good hearted people in this same struggle it gives me hope.

The opposite of addiction is connection. Profound.

@tsummerlee

8 жыл бұрын

Agreed.

@writerconsidered

8 жыл бұрын

***** In 1934 a wall st.-er and a doctor came to understand that connection and went on to create the first 12 step program. Those 12 steps are used to help heal the addict and then help heal the addict's connections with the outside world, work, family, friends etc etc. They were wise beyond their times.

@elinope4745

8 жыл бұрын

writerconsidered and indoctrinate them into religion.... i would like to see a secular approach to addiction if it is going to be payed for with tax payer money in the united states. separation of church and state and all.

@hybby

8 жыл бұрын

Eli Nope Agreed. Secular & science-based approach is the only way that this is going to work. It must not pull people into religion.

@writerconsidered

8 жыл бұрын

Eli Nope What you don't know could fill a big book. First off this isn't about money 12 step groups are self supporting and do not accept money from outside sources including the government . Second Religion? I think not. 12 step groups do not require you believe anything. There is no defined god and no defined belief. Everything is self defined thereby cutting out dogma as we know it. Third the governments role is simply decriminalize drugs which cost nothing and pay for treatment as public health service that does cost money but far less then prison, Also that is completely separate from 12 step programs.

I just got out of detox after relapsing after 17 years of sobriety and we watched this video in there. So spot on. Addiction is lonely. We need connection.

@z.holding7379

10 ай бұрын

All the best. You can do this. Get up, brush yourself off and keep going/learning.

@user-le8kp1gt1y

2 ай бұрын

God bless you Kelly❤

As a 24 yr old addict myself, I have not a single soul to fall back on, to vent to, to connect with, etc. I’ve been traumatized and abused my entire life and never wanted to be an addict. My whole world flipped upside down after leaving a long term abusive relationship and tried meth for the first time. 2 years later, I haven’t stopped despite the desire and conscious knowledge of wanting to recover. I have no one that tells me they love me or are there for me, and I’m lonely with no human interactions in my daily life. I absolutely hate it and want connections with others. I have changed my toxic mindset completely over the past 4 years and nobody sees me for how I am now, only how I was as a child and young teen. I hope I can take the steps to recover for myself. I don’t want to lose my life or travel this path forever. I’m thankful for this video and the people that have commented. ❤you all, addicts or not. You matter & you’re seen.

@manishpunk1628

7 ай бұрын

Hope your doing well now and made new connections more power and strength to you 🫂

@leonhondamessi

7 ай бұрын

Seek the truth in the bible, and find yourself a community in the church… you will find purpose and a hope in your future 🙏🏼

@sarahmcmahon1800

5 ай бұрын

Oh my gosh, you are so brave and valued, please be string and keep going, you are an amazing human, and there is love in the world for you xx

@shamparice007

4 ай бұрын

You are loved and yes you are precious, just sharing this it must have taken you such courage, you must be such an incredible human! Please know I shall be praying for you 🤗shampa mum..India

@coffee-lp8iv

3 ай бұрын

I'm 37 yr old and believe me the feeling of isolation and disconnect transcends everything. I hope you have found peace within the chaotic void. I have not found it but I have begun the journey. The material I'm beginning with is by Gabor Mate and Johann Hari. They are very wise and compassionate persons. You and the universe are one, embrace it all.

Crazy as it sounds it’s true 10 years ago I was a user , my mom found out after the back nd forth of arguing one day she told me “ I’ll. Be here for you regardless I love you either way” I got sober the next week . Been sober 10 years

@irchristo

4 жыл бұрын

Wow. I am trying to learn and so have been pasting the following question on several of these posts. Would you be so kind as to consider answering for me... Regarding "the opposite of addiction is not sobriety. the opposite of addiction is connection." May I ask if this is your opinion because of your experience or is it your opinion because you like the sentiment? ...Or? (Real question - no judgment or tricks)...

@judithenglish

3 жыл бұрын

What a lovely example of what the presenter was saying. Congratulations!!!

@jp8649

3 жыл бұрын

WE ARE SO PROUD OF YOU!!! 10 years is huge.

@darlakay908

3 жыл бұрын

That is awesome for you but I tell my son the same yet he continues to struggle with drugs. He can be sober a year or two then relapse again... Congratulations to you on your sobriety

@obedientconsumer5056

3 жыл бұрын

That's awesome.

So spot on. My addiction progressed the more alone I became.

@Educate-Advocate-Caffeinate

4 жыл бұрын

Yep. And then the addiction makes you more isolated. It's a vicious cycle. Hope you're well

@Carvingwanderer

4 жыл бұрын

Mine was when I couldn't make life work for me.

@kangaroorat100

4 жыл бұрын

Same

@fredericblin6557

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, me too, and frankly, even though I've lived in NYC most of my life, I think I will have to move to France (where my family is from) because everyone here is so convinced they know better.

@Packieeeee

4 жыл бұрын

@@DONFOREVER Nice man

"Using because you can't bear to be present in your own life." Thank you so much for this video. I really needed to hear this and I'm sitting here crying as I feel my perspective shift about the addicts in my life. Thank you

This made me cry. Children need to be taught in public school about mental health and therapeutic tools to cope from trauma and family dysfunction, self awareness and mindset, because a society that emphasizes maths and science while neglecting the human condition does not provide the basic human skills/education for a functioning adult in society no matter how great their SAT score, nor does it allow us to become a great society and reach our human potential. I felt I didn’t get enough connection growing up from my parents, and I have an “addictive personality.” I think we need to teach and emphasize more public education about communication skills, coping skills, and healthy relationships.

@shelbyhill147

Жыл бұрын

This has to start at home with parents and grandparents. This is why we have the problems in schools and society today. No help from parents and they should not depend on the school system to ways of the world and how to cope.

@ccburgessjr8659

Жыл бұрын

Totally agree Megan

@MarTinkaBell

10 ай бұрын

1000% yes

@magicmegan4290

10 ай бұрын

@@shelbyhill147 you’re right. What I’m thinking is, public schools should represent what areas are not being taught at home. So many kids grow up in dysfunctional homes that the hope is, a public education would fill in and make up for the systemic dysfunctional patterns we can see in society due to broken homes.

@user-fh2sl4nu8f

6 ай бұрын

Agree. And we need people to tell what you said to those in government.

"The opposite of addiction is not sobriety. The opposite of addiction is connection." This gave me all the feels 😭♥️

@mellymel5980

4 жыл бұрын

Yogi Aim, me too. 😭❤️🙏🏼

@jordank1489

4 жыл бұрын

I was holding back until then. I've struggled through addiction for years now and watching this was a breath of fresh air. 'They have connections in their life that they want to be present for.'

@enzoseven2944

4 жыл бұрын

Ikr the memories you have to escape that just to free yourself Got me scratching my head

@sarasumner373

4 жыл бұрын

It was those very 2 lines that hit me the hardest. I have a long history with addiction and I had never heard anybody, ever, talk about it or describe it in such a way. What struck me, besides the overwhelming compassion in his words, is how he was able to so accurately describe something he had not personally experienced. And to do so in a way that not only explained addiction itself, but also encompassed it's root cause in a way that anyone hearing it would be able to imagine how someone in that situation must hurt inside; and perhaps imagine the sheer emotional desperation that drives the initial search for connection. Connection of any kind. I actually just sent the link to this to a couple family members who have been more forgiving then I've really deserved, but who I know struggle to truly understand.

@jamesrekula1841

4 жыл бұрын

He's not joking groups like AA are full of sober addicts

"The drug doesn't make the drug addict, its the need to escape reality"

@codyrobillard4063

6 жыл бұрын

Montgomery Montgomery Yes absolutely

@blueshades98

6 жыл бұрын

Montana Marshall there is . A boring one for them

@tjfreak

6 жыл бұрын

Drugs liquor food huffing what ever it is,escape & a host of other wonderful things associated with chronic addiction are just symptoms of a deeper underlying problem..just like any other ailment..treat the the origin or the symptoms.

@ChefGreg78253

6 жыл бұрын

Montgomery Montgomery are you an addict?

@timothy9596

6 жыл бұрын

I drank and used on a daily basis for over 20 years. It was like breathing to me. I drank and used because I hated the way sober felt. I can't even begin to describe to a non-addict how completely disgusting sober felt. There's nothing worse than being sober when you're active in your 'addiction'. And even though I've been clean just shy of eight years now, I still feel disconnected from humanity. I don't even relate to other alcoholics/addicts, active or clean. Not sure that will ever change.

I used to be addicted to heroin and cocaine but now I don’t do any drugs. Just had to break away from that AA/NA mindstate and stop telling myself “I’m recovering”, Instead I just started telling myself the truth which is “I just don’t do drugs anymore so I’m already recovered”. After someone quits smoking they don’t sit around talking about smoking and referring to themselves as “recovering smokers”, They just say “I don’t smoke” and move on with their life. The words you use can and will subconsciously reinforce the thought that you’re giving something up, Or the thought that there’s nothing to give up at all.

@georgebodoni1179

5 ай бұрын

14:38 The statements are not mutually exclusive. I am a recovered addict and do not use anymore. I have found connections outside of myself to support the ongoing effort to stay clean and help others - addicts and all others in my tribe and anyone else i may encounter on the path. If my idea is that i am giving something up that i enjoy and would, if my mind and my heart, want to enjoy again (but without the consequences!) i will be compliant at best and will use again because i did not accept my physical intolerance (allergy in recovery jargon). People who are allergic to shrimp do not need to go the Shrimpers Anonymous, the just avoid shrimp. Problem with addiction is that i obsess on taking that which will kill me (sometimes quickly and oftentimes slowly and messily). Once i realize i have no personal power i subject myself to the 12 step prescription in the petrie dish of Fellowship. My willingness begotten from desperation propels my through and THE result and only promise is that i lose the obsession to use and find a new way to live, namely on of service in and out of ‘the rooms’. I have a new life where i get to “practice these principles in all my affairs” Great talk.

@karenk2409

Ай бұрын

That's what I found difficult with AA. They get you better, but they don't let you stop being a hyphenated addict. I did develop an alcohol addiction problem, and I appreciated their support, but I radically changed my circumstances, my life has gone on since then and I am no longer "recovering." Chapter over.

@highplains

5 күн бұрын

​@@karenk2409 Thing is though, your circumstances may change & next thing you find you've relapsed. I was 7 years clean & flying- never even thought of using. Then, a set of circumstances lead to dysfunctional thinking & after a few months, I turned to using for relief. I was isolated & no longer connected to NA. While I have got my relapse under relative control, personally I feel a return to NA & connection is what I need to get back on track

Wow, this is exactly what I needed to hear. I’m a current addict, and the clarity this have given me is profound. I can and will beat my addiction

@Johnsaffa-tb9nk

11 ай бұрын

Hay Ryan, just read your message, I hope this message finds you well, I just thought I would reply just to say I hope you are hanging in there, I have made a comment on what's going on for me, I'm struggling a bit but I haven't given up and I haven't given in today, I'm hanging in there, anyway I hope this message finds you well all the best, yen,

@Skoopyghost

11 ай бұрын

I an an addict. What saved me from illegal substances was learning instruments. The teacher believed in me for the first time. I wasn't getting bullied, and getting poor grades. I play the drums, guitar, bass guitar, piano, and vocals. The live gigs went away during covid, and I was considering buying on the black market. I had the connection theory since then.

@Johnsaffa-tb9nk

11 ай бұрын

I can't sing or play a musical instrument to save my life, but I enjoy writing and that's what I have been doing, I write songs poetry all sorts really but I can't spell my hand writing is terrible as well, anyway have a great day,

@aviryrodriguez4021

10 ай бұрын

I have 60 days clean today you got this

@ryanmroll3851

10 ай бұрын

Thank you for the replies! They have all put a smile on my face

40 days sober today and I can tell you I'm grateful to be on the other side of this addiction.

@herbiemedina2642

4 жыл бұрын

Amazing job. I hope your still continuing your journey to sobriety. Please go checkout some of the videos on my page about my personal journey. We are all in this together. You have my support if you ever need it. kzread.info/dron/5J8_aWgcKD9cOB3VAndefA.html

@irchristo

4 жыл бұрын

I've been posting the following question on several of these comments: Regarding "the opposite of addiction is not sobriety. the opposite of addiction is connection." May I ask if this is your opinion because of your experience or is it your opinion because you like the sentiment? ...Or? (Real question - no judgment or tricks)...

@jameshawkins494

3 жыл бұрын

Way to go Aymee

@snaps4kappu

3 жыл бұрын

You stay committed and be a trail blazer. You got this. ❤

@violetrose415

3 жыл бұрын

You got it ❤😄🖒

"I don't ever wanna drink again, oh i just need a friend"- Amy Winehouse

@MrAns786

4 жыл бұрын

Kamila Me too, I need genuine friends.

@faskii45odogwu99

3 жыл бұрын

I still and will always miss Amy, she was a troubled soul with no real love around her smh.

@phiwokuhletuse839

3 жыл бұрын

@@MrAns786 me too ❤️

@nunocoelho8979

3 жыл бұрын

ODAAT

@elizabethmann3041

3 жыл бұрын

😭😭😭

That's so interesting to me. I have had depression on and off for a few years now. I think this also explains depression quite nicely. You see, my room is a mess, my grades are a mess,...my life is a mess. Yet I never wanted to get up because I have no friends, and my family did not try and reach out and help me. I always feel so lonely, and that I am worth nothing. My family, especially my mom, would make fun of me to other people. Talk behind my back intentionally so that I would hear what she says about me. Everything I say, my parents look at each other and make me feel as if I am crazy. My mom would tell my friends about how messy I am, how I am a terrible child. I ended up feeling isolated and unwanted, as she always told me she wished I was not her daughter and that some one else's child is. It was the fact that she said this so calmly and final that it unnerved me. They only yell and scream at me, Shame. Shun. Belittle. I no longer feel like a person. I know that no one will see this comment, but if anyone, ANYONE, sees this, this is my cry for help.

@robertstrong6639

Жыл бұрын

Try artwork, or get some jewelry making supplies. Don't underestimate how powerful this can be for your self esteem and peace of mind. I taught myself how to make jewelry, it was crap at first, now it's high quality craft work, I developed my own techniques. Your mom sounds toxic. Think of her as someone who is just human behaving badly, do something creative, maybe sell your work!

@boperez2841

Жыл бұрын

Oh my god. Girl you have Trauma you need to do research Consider: Borderline personality disorder Or Complex Ptsd

@noyb6200

Жыл бұрын

Sweetie, my mom abused me too. It sounds like your mom is an energy vampire who is sucking you dry. Focus on the kind of life you want and make it happen. Elena focus like a laser on your dreams and desires. Pray to Jesus to heal you. I have a much better life now, and my mom can't hurt me anymore. A mom should never say such terrible things to their children. YOU ARE WORTH LOVING AND DESERVE LOVE. I know it's hard but try praying for your mom to be filled with the holy spirit. Clean your room. Eat healthy fresh foods, lean meats, and try to avoid greasy fried foods, and junk food. Try to take 30 min walks 5 days a week some place safe, maybe ask your mom to walk with you? Be healthy, positive and SEE yourself being happy and healthy. You are a sweet girl. You deserve joy! I prayed for you. Blessings for you Elena.

@moisesvillasenor7256

Жыл бұрын

if you know ur worth and stay positive you will come out on top in the long run, negative always rules out positive put never let that keep you down

@crusaderchris1

Жыл бұрын

Your family sounds awful, maybe unintentionally sometimes, but not all the time. YOU know your worth!! Find your interests, be it chess, theatre, rowing, music festivals, TV shows, whatever and surround yourself with like minded ppl. FIND YOUR FREAKS!! They will give you the love and connections we all need in life. I can't stress enough...FIND YOUR FELLOW FREAKS AND CONNECT!!🤪😊

I'm an addict. And this was powerful beyond words. As soon as he said the words at the end of the video: "I love you, whether you are using or you're not. I love you whatever state you're in. And if you need me, I'll come and sit with you- because I love you and I don't want you to be alone or to feel alone." As soon as he said that, I instantly cried. Because tbh that's all I've wanted from people, especially those that I love- and I've gotten only the complete opposite of that all these years. To the point where I don't trust anyone and I have less than a handful of people I do trust and am willing to be around. I'm tired of feeling alone and I'm tired of being alone. Especially when I really could use a friend when I'm going through something that's difficult and I quite literally have no one I can feel safe to turn to for any comfort or even a listening ear. This really hits hard and right in the feels. I wish people would judge addicts less and be more willing to be open-minded and even comfort us somehow because we're not horrible people. We just need connection. We need people to support us and possibly even maybe believe in us if only just a little bit.

@alika207

6 ай бұрын

I believe in you! You are loved by me! I’m always here if you need someone to talk to!

@pamperez4638

4 ай бұрын

I believe in you! .....and I love you. I hope you are freed from any self imprisonment. Forgive yourself. It's very important.

@shamparice007

4 ай бұрын

I love you, you are precious 🤗

@jisselldelacruz4367

3 ай бұрын

I believe in you! And I love you

Now imagine if everybody was isolated for weeks or months...

@_Iscream

3 жыл бұрын

THIS.

@trumanruth6391

3 жыл бұрын

And posting memes online that normalize day drinking to cope as if it's funny.... it's not.

@B-RaDD

3 жыл бұрын

🤣😂😂😂 yeah that would be horrible and it would be even worse if they left liquor stores open as essential and then they closed AA meetings

@Feber2001

3 жыл бұрын

Yeaaaaaaah..

@axelpetersson5787

3 жыл бұрын

Truman Ruth I mean it’s kinda funny tho, humor is subjective

Being an addict in recovery, I quit trying to explain what addiction is to non-addicts a while ago. Im thankful for this video, its spot on.

@allisonrobertson7706

2 жыл бұрын

I am a recovering addict in the US and this video is absolutely 💯 correct. Never heard anyone explain it so well. Trying to explain it to nonaddicts is exhausting and most often these people do everything they can to make sure you know that you are a horrible person and that they are way better than you will ever be. These people that say they are trying to help actually make addicts need to use even more. Love is the best medicine for just about everything!

@thehulkamaniabrother2.089

2 жыл бұрын

@@allisonrobertson7706 no love for me lol

@iamthatguyfromslipknot1137

2 жыл бұрын

I tottally get what you are saying here as i can remember my dad saying to me i dont know why you would start to used hard drugs as everyone knows its the road to ruin i cant understand it or you and i never will..its simply just to complex for non users to even comprehend..sad really because we could never connect while i was in the throws of my addiction but now im clean i dont hold it agaisnt him for not wanting to understand..

@iamthatguyfromslipknot1137

2 жыл бұрын

The one thing i always hated from non addicted was the saying well why dont you just not do drugs..yeah that one always killed me and id usually just stop talking to them and walk away..

@skullrose8985

2 жыл бұрын

@@iamthatguyfromslipknot1137 It is hard to explain to a non addict but it is hard to explain to an alcoholic aswell(&people with other addictions),especially when it comes to heroin & crack. People who do coke(not everyone who does it)thinks crack is worse,some think its dirty & they (some) look down there nose at you..I mean i have spoke to alcoholics who think there addiction is not as bad as yours..Also people who don't understand addiction either haven't been affected by it,so they don't learn about it. And they judge on what they have heard. They can be ignorant (not on purpose)..I mean i understand why some people think like they do. Also it can be the way they have been bought up. Sometimes i find it hard to explain why i started,I mean my aunt just used to say in my day we didn't have drugs we just had to get on with it. I totally understand why she said that. It is hard to explain to people especially hard headed people🤣😂🤣😂.. Anyway i am waffling on now..I hope you are keeping well,please takecare..Sending big hugs,xx Oh and I hope this year brings you happiness,love,joy&peace. By the way my name is lisa,I am using my fellas account as i have forgot my password,it's been a really heartbreaking mind bending year,let's hope this one is better for everyone🤘🤩🤩🤟

As I sit here, as an addict, this resonates on a level most aren’t familiar with. Not to trope the male ego or stigmas, but I feel as if I’m expected to just deal with it. I do believe in hope and overcoming circumstance. Bless you all

@rolo2351

Жыл бұрын

It would be cliche for me to say “you got this man” or “you can do it “ I guess everyone is on their own journey brother. I myself started using cocaine at the start of the year because family issues kind of triggered me into dabbling with it .

@logannichols3759

Жыл бұрын

@@rolo2351 I hear you man. Good luck to you on your journey; I hope you find the peace I’m sure you’re seeking

@zatomlzxzanamolzy1253

Жыл бұрын

You sit there as a person before anything brother, all the best in everything you do.

@DoomsJ

Жыл бұрын

Rooting for u ❤️

@duxe_pill-on-IG_ship_pyschede.

Жыл бұрын

Hit the handle above ⬆️⬆️...shrooms, LSD, DMT, microdosing capsules, bars, gummies, MDMA, OXY, Xanax, 💊 💊🍄🍄🍫🍫

This hits hard. My dad lost his battle to addiction an exact month after my 19th birthday and as I was just getting into college. I never knew how to deal with his addiction but I know he struggled everyday. He always tried his best for his daughters. I wish he had more time on this earth so that I could show him more compassion in his trying times and maybe it would have helped him get better in the end.

This guy is on to something, this made me cry because I am an addict and many times in my addiction all I wanted was a connection with someone and to feel loved.

@westcoastorbust2462

Жыл бұрын

I tried hard to give this to someone and he eventually abandoned me.

@MrEntremaliat

Жыл бұрын

@Sarah Hodgins he wouldn't be there in the 1st place for you to abandon you, a person would need more than speaking monologues believing they're dialogues

@racheloliver3602

Жыл бұрын

100% right how I am with alcohol

@kedzie8

Жыл бұрын

You took the words right out of my mind. Sending you lots of love and good vibes! 💜

@katinabotten

Жыл бұрын

One size doesn’t fit all here. Sending addicts to prison instead of finding the root cause will make it worse. We need to get them help and then get them the connectivity / connection they need. We need to throw drug dealers in prison though.

Can't even explain how much this video has taught me. Thank you Johann Hari. Just today I finally got to see my brother after 8 years and he's been addicted to some drugs that made him struggle an awful lot in his life. Not sure if it is destiny but i spoke to my family about the exact point made in this video, before I watched it, and decided to take action again, but this time around, I decided to help him with more love, attention, affection and empathy. Fingers crossed this concept will help me to help him and change his life. Again, thank you.

@KSangel180

8 жыл бұрын

good luck! 😊

@stespark

8 жыл бұрын

+Tiago Barbs Hope it goes well, help him but make sure he know he is loved no matter what

@tiagomaqz

8 жыл бұрын

KSangel180 Thank you!

@tiagomaqz

8 жыл бұрын

bob yenan Thank you so much!!!

@theman211294

8 жыл бұрын

+Tiago Barbs So how is he doing?

My brother struggled with alcohol use and first time we sent him to rehab, it was useless. In a few months, he experienced alcoholic psychosis and decided to go sober. It's one year since and he is doing well. All through the journey, my family stood like a rock behind him. Made him feel valued and loved.

@daltonwhitehair3775

Жыл бұрын

You’re brother is lucky to have you all ❤

@michaelfinnegan6581

Жыл бұрын

I was a heroin and meth smoker, one day I decided that I was being an idiot and quit cold turkey and I decided that I would continue to hang out with the same friends that I was doing sed drugs with. I thought that maybe I could lead by example and I managed to save one friend, she got clean and stayed clean, no rehab. I one point I just couldn't handle watching the other friends killing themselves so I decided to cut ties with them. I am currently 3 years clean and I know I will never relapse.

@Lib361

7 ай бұрын

Alcoholic Hallucinations are fucking terrifying. I’ll never forget my time spent in the ICU for withdrawals. I was close to dying. Your brother and I are brothers in sobriety and I hope nobody ever feels the hopelessness we have felt. But we do recover!

This made me rethink the distance I've put between me and a family member who is an addict. I don't know if I can trust them again but the least I could do is love and support them.

As a meth addict this hit me hard at the end. I'm alone and need people like you in my life but nope everyone looks and judges me instantly.. sad truth. Great talk thank you.

@rudranshsharma7064

4 жыл бұрын

Hey there! Stay strong. A Virtual hug to you !

@elbanner1

4 жыл бұрын

I am a methadon addict for 45 years and was a heroine/cocaine . I am also alone , 58 years old and no family or friends . so i say to you , i love you , and understand U real good. I use 1 day in the week some cocaine (base) so i got something .

@alcaraz1963

4 жыл бұрын

Hyperstunner take care of yourself be your own friend first then open your self for other to help you ❤️❤️🤗🙏

@MrGellert619

4 жыл бұрын

i really hope you the best, stay strong my brother, you are stronger than you think!

@mrs.schmenkman2858

4 жыл бұрын

Please, rewatch this, because you missed the message. The message is very simple really. His last 2 minutes are not a vindication for addiction.

The ending made me cry. This is beautiful, a very accurate way to explain the way addiction feels. “The opposite of addiction isn’t sobriety, the opposite of addiction is connection.”

@nopijepsng7703

4 жыл бұрын

Are u addict?

@saints360row

4 жыл бұрын

Sara Wright, Not really. You're just trading an in vitro chemical for a solely endogenous one.

@helen.cabo.villanueva97

4 жыл бұрын

thanks

@MarcosIturribeitia

4 жыл бұрын

And connection is Love :)

@3202hill

4 жыл бұрын

And if you do certain sobriety programs correctly, the resulting sobriety is about love and connection. Got example, it is always suggested to greet the returning relapser with open as rather than shame.

Telling addicts you love them no matter what is so important. My best friend since childhood left me in my lowest times (I understand why she did - i was a nightmare) but it really sent me spiraling into a darker place. Being friends with an addict is tough - I am so grateful for the friends who stood by me. I live in Vancouver and they just decriminalized small quantities of drugs but that doesn't do anything in the long run - there needs to be a safe supply too. I hope we can adopt Portugal's system as well. This video was posted in a recovery discord I'm in and it's great. Very well done.

@serisollukepom5941

11 ай бұрын

I love you 😊😊

@swolfe9668

7 ай бұрын

Stop coddling dunks and drug users, they need tough love and consequences

@solar2000

2 ай бұрын

​@@swolfe9668 You haven't watched the video. The data is clear. We have been doing that ....and it doesn't work! Overdose and addiction is the highest it's EVER been in the US.

@swolfe9668

2 ай бұрын

@@solar2000 because people feel sorry for themselves because life hasn't gone their way, so they CHOOSE to do drugs to numb their pain

The best quote I ever read was ‘recovery is making your reality one you don’t want to escape from’, and now I see an addiction craving as a symptom of a deeper problem

I’m glad to see Chandler’s doing well for himself

@giri8896

4 жыл бұрын

@@LokiandtheTwins r/whoosh

@meganh7829

4 жыл бұрын

@@LokiandtheTwins I bet you're fun 🙄🤦🏽‍♀️

@chicofromph33nix64

4 жыл бұрын

What was Chandler's job tho??

@wiseauserious8750

4 жыл бұрын

Bing!

@tibaitv253

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

What is ironic about the US is that it banned drugs, but in entertainment, arts, etc, Americans relentlessly send out the message that drugs are cool, even desirable.

@TashiSoCali

6 жыл бұрын

Francisco Comelli Maybe some drugs but I can't think of anything that makes heroin look cool

@kellysalinas7478

6 жыл бұрын

Francisco Comelli aà

@willstein8215

6 жыл бұрын

TashiSoCali uuuuh Kurt cobain? Sure, he died, but his death is romanticized big time. Self destructive kids see heroin use as a mode of expression, a cry for attention. Rockstars have been using heroin since the 60's, johnny cash abused opiates, the 90's were basically a heroin-bonanza for mainstream entertainment-Grunge made heroin very cool to a lot of kids.

@CLuTcHaSSaSn907

6 жыл бұрын

TashiSoCali pain meds, lol :(

@jeusvox2878

6 жыл бұрын

Francisco Comelli the elite want the people to be drug users, it ruins lives, fuels the prison system (majorly I might sad, 85 percent of prisoners in the US are drug users, nor even dealers at that. Without them the prisons wouldn't hold up. Which is a huge reason the government brings drugs in, distributes them, and then Imprison people for using it, also gives another excuse to tax the people more to keep the prison system up and running which the owners of them become rich off of. Quite sad.) it kills people, etc. The global elite knows that by making drugs illegal, people will tend to do them more. It's human nature to break the rules, to gravitate towards things we're told not to do. Teenagers have more fun drinking when they're younger because the thrill of doing something they're not supposed to adds the excitement to it. When they turn 21 they don't thrive to try and go out and party like when they were 16. Sad to know the people on top planned and execute the fall of their own kind, just for their selfish need for power.

Swear addiction makes you feel as lonely as you possibly could, yet we are not. Big big love to my fellow fighters, keep ploughing through

You are the first person I have seen hit the nail on the head! That's one of the things I tell my boys about video games and their phones. Seems our society thinks that that isn't a form of pacifying that situation. Since the person is not actually on drugs, it's somehow okay. Yet it's the same action that needs to be treated.

@jonb4176

Жыл бұрын

Along way from hitting the nail on the head

@captainofmysoul6162

Жыл бұрын

@@frankhrbolich2282 yes. We are addicted to dopamine "hits" for the brain in various forms in this instantaneous society. We, collectively need to re think our interaction with technology(as I type this on my computer).

I'm an addict 59 years old 15 years abstinent since May 10th 2004 Thanks for the 12 steps

@VixCrush

4 жыл бұрын

march 2009 for me...

@corneliomaldonado7888

4 жыл бұрын

@Rene Cross - you are not an Addict. The power of words can keep you trapped. By definition you are not an "active addict" - this is one thing I never agreed with the 12 steps. The reminder that you are powerless, or will be an addict for the rest of your life can have negative affects on people.

@renecross392

4 жыл бұрын

@@corneliomaldonado7888 was the most freeing thing that I've ever said.........

@renecross392

4 жыл бұрын

@@VixCrush awesome........🙏🏻❤🏳

@renecross392

4 жыл бұрын

@@corneliomaldonado7888 negative affect? People will use any excuse, even blame the 12 steps.......lol My life before recovery was an absolute nightmare....... Today is different...... MUCH

The "rat in a cage" analogy is perfect! If you're bored, or have no friends or support, you're going to drink or do other harmful things - even if you hate doing them. 😢 That's where I am right now- in a "cage" with a lot of beer and cigarettes and no friends or support - and there's alot of anger towards me because I'm an alcoholic, and it really sucks!!!! 😠 Just because I'm an alcoholic doesn't make me a bad person, it just makes me act poorly and have bad judgment at times. My family doesn't understand what I'm going through, and won't listen to me either; they just TELL me what I should do, they don't ever ASK me how I'm feeling, or how I got this way.

@amfshs991

3 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear. .ayve show them this ted talk.

@davidgoggins9585

3 жыл бұрын

Gazzy go out and create “rat park.” All we need is connection.

@paulrock9165

3 жыл бұрын

Hope u ok mate u can do this bro go meet friends an u will fine bro

@fernandajansen

3 жыл бұрын

Try going to a meeting. It worked for me

@radhatagia8663

3 жыл бұрын

No one is going to understand what ur going through but only an another addict...so honestly go to a meeting it will work out just fine, I promise😇

I've watched Intervention and while it seems inspiring at first glance, they say at the end of the show that most "victims" who had interventions done to them actually relapsed. Maybe, based on your talk Johann, that's because the mindset of shaming addicts never changed? My ex partner is an addict as well, Oxy for 1 year. The biggest thing I noticed when he was talking to me about addiction was the severe sense of disappointment that he felt everyone around him had towards him. Those feelings could be crippling he said, and can drive you to depression and further addiction. We're unfortunately not together anymore in part because of his lack of emotional coping skills due to drugs, but I still love him as a human and as a friend and don't want him to be socially alone. Maybe love without expectation is the answer.

been sober for 3 years , still remember listening to this in tears to encorage my self to quit from addiction :)

I was a heroin addict for half of my life before I fixed up, I am now 9yrs clean but still live in a "empty cage" I don't have many people wrapped around me as I managed to find the connection with myself, when you can say "I love you" to yourself (not in a vain way) you will never be alone. I am finding out the mechanics and science behind life and I am now on the greatest adventure ever! I send love and health to every addict and every other person in this world, one love x

@sagebrooks6907

4 жыл бұрын

Thx😍😘🤗

@terrorfirmaking1341

4 жыл бұрын

@@River-cm9tz Thank you for your lovely comments. I personally do not use "journey" as an analogy for life, I prefer to use "music" as the analogy, the universe isn't going anywhere, also if you use "journey" as an analogy that means that for most of your life, you will be working towards "the end" whatever that may be, retirement, heaven, success ect. But with music people don't go to concerts or festivals to see the band play the final cord lol it's the same with dancing, there isn't a certain spot in the room where the dance is ment to finish, dancing is all about the dance, so unfortunately people have been cheating themselves all the way through because when people reach the age of 60-65 they will say "I am here, I have arrived" and they will feel pretty much the same as they always have, so I can't stress this enough, life is not about working hard towards the end result as we are not ment to be heading towards anything as such, just stay true to yourselves, keep a pure heart and enjoy the singing and dancing of life :-) x

@River-cm9tz

4 жыл бұрын

Terrorfirma King that’s a beautiful explanation, although I believe journey as quite the opposite as in it never ends its always fun that’s why I love traveling, I thoroughly appreciate the wisdom you have shown

@terrorfirmaking1341

4 жыл бұрын

@@River-cm9tz that's a fair point of view, and it's good that you haven't put an "end" on your journey, I work in the transport industry and travel over 3,000km per week, maybe this is the cause for me to search for another analogy than "journey" hahaha. I wish you more fun, enjoyment and happiness on you journey :-)

@TheAnonymPL

4 жыл бұрын

@@terrorfirmaking1341 You like Alan Watts I can see, respect!

Who else is holding Portugal in extremely high regard after watching this?

@teddylifer

4 жыл бұрын

Wait til you hear about Venezuela's drug program.. My bad there is no Venezuela program👎😕😫

@user-yu1yz6qk1g

4 жыл бұрын

only fools

@kss3324

4 жыл бұрын

well Hari isn't known for honesty, so whatever fantasy world he paints for you should be taken with a grain of salt.

@grannyjudi1

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you.

@nicolaszein

4 жыл бұрын

Me.

Spot on! I lost my son in 2019. It’s not about the addiction, it’s about the isolation and mental health.

@randyw9266

6 ай бұрын

Yeah, it is about the addiction.

how on earth am i going to do this alone

Treating addicts like human beings works? Who knew. I promised I wouldn't be one of those people, but this is my first highly liked comment and it feels good!

@TJ-vj2hc

4 жыл бұрын

A part of the problem is that they end up getting treated like commodities by employers. I also looked into this guy's wiki page. Not the most honest person out there. I distrust TED talkers anyhow, and this just added to my view of them. At its core, addiction recovery is a service/business.

@moarroz

4 жыл бұрын

@@TJ-vj2hc a recent book i read was how a recovered one saw it as a ocd compulsion problem. You treat the ocd and it goes away. Treats your brain how to stop obsessive thoughts ans behaviors and makes you have the ability to think before acting. Since the frontal lobe that tells someone to stop is underactive. I dont think one thing is the answer like this guy says

@joe_326

4 жыл бұрын

@@TJ-vj2hc its a fucking wiki page

@godislove8740

4 жыл бұрын

Humans knew.

@aliprey7047

4 жыл бұрын

@@TJ-vj2hc - spot on! Some 3 letter political associations have been smuggling drugs in n abusing citizens since their inception, then there's big pharma... n then the business of "healing" - all issues combined n intertwined with politics...

a big applaud to the ones fighting the battle with themselves and overcoming their addictions.

@mastermike4716

6 жыл бұрын

Well said Gurninderjeet Singh, well said my friend. :)

@LuisMom1

6 жыл бұрын

Gurninderjeet Singh Thank you. 17 months free of heroin. 9 months free of the meth I switched my addiction to. Nine months no mind altering drugs!!

@lynnlynn9124

6 жыл бұрын

Nick Torres did meth help w the heroin withdrawal?

@LuisMom1

6 жыл бұрын

Lynn Lynn it did, immensely. However, bear in mind, I was a functional junkie for YEARS. Meth took me down in under a year. It's not worth it.

@twin7970

6 жыл бұрын

I'm happily taking all the opiates I can (heroin/morphine/methadone etc.) and have been for the last 25 years and will be for the rest of my life.

Yes this is spot on! This explains why some people have a problem with substances that others don’t. This can also explain why addiction runs in families and generations. If they are stuck in the same cage and they’ve only been shown one way to cope then there ya go

@swolfe9668

7 ай бұрын

More brainwashing going on, people CHOOSE to do drugs and be irresponsible. Stop blaming genetics

@marcvolpe8252

5 ай бұрын

JESSICA YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL ADORABLE SEDUCTIVE RAVISHING CAPTIVATING SEXY AND PASSIONATE YOUR BEAUTY IS PHENOMENAL IF MOZART WERE ALIVE TODAY YOU WOULD BE HIS MUSE LET ME FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU ❤

"The opposite of addiction is connection" ❤

I've been addicted to opioids and benzos for 8 years. I started when i was 14. Im now sober for more than a year. You can do this everyone, it's not easy buy YOU CAN be sober and HAPPY.

@wiseauserious8750

4 жыл бұрын

Cheers brother

@amp6057

4 жыл бұрын

I was addicted to pain pills and then herion from 2002-2008. On 7/4/2008 I did my last line, and then immediately OD'd and hit the floor. They lost me at the hospital, and I was lucky to be brought back on the 3rd attempt. After 2 inpatient rehab stays, countless outpatient programs and 12 step meetings this was the moment that finally made me stop. That said, it was and still to this day is a daily struggle. One thing that's helped me is realizing I'm an addict, and always will be. I know the devil in my details, and that actually has helped me to keep a grip on this issue. The other thing that took me the longest to get over was the overwhelming amount of guilt I carried for all the things I did in the depths of my addiction. I wanted to say sorry till I ran out of breath to let those people I hurt know that I truly was. Thing is, apologies are great, but they're just a phrase at the end of day. What worked for me was realizing that fact, and then realizing that the best thing I could do to make up for those wrongs was to be a better, kinder, and more understanding person to everyone and to try to stop beating myself to death over the guilt. Those people who you want to make things right with may, or may not see that you've changed but you'll know that you are and you will learn to slowly start forgiving yourself. If you stay buried in that guilt, it will eventually take you back to the addiction way of thinking, and you'll eventually go back to whatever the substances were that helped ease that pain. I know this is one very long comment, but I hope it helps anyone who reads it. Know that you can still pull yourself out of the deep end, and you can be a light in someone else's life to help them, and yourself thru the darkness that is addiction. Love you all, and thank you for reading my long winded comment. Apologies for any typos, I'm writing this from the heart, and going back through will only take away from that. Take care.

@catherinemeyers2995

4 жыл бұрын

Good to see positive feedback Congrats on your sobriety 👍

@krystalsunshine7412

4 жыл бұрын

@@amp6057 Jesus loves you and is here for you .

@EVRYMANaKING

4 жыл бұрын

@capral marines how did u make it ?

I lost my big brother to heroin on Sunday, 6/7/2020. His viewing is today. September 6, 2018 he and I sat on his front porch and he showed me this video. I tried to be there for him but I’m human and weak and I failed. Please do everything you can to be there for those who need help. RIP Mattie 💗

@peashooter8228

3 жыл бұрын

Please know this - He would've never wanted you to be hurting like this. It was an accident. But It almost sound as if you may be taking some kind of blame? It was accident so please don't let your mind go there. Instead live your life in the best way you can for you and for him...God Bless You ..

@seylerfam7025

3 жыл бұрын

@@peashooter8228 thank you for your kind words. It’s been a long road. I know he’s better now and he accepted God i to his life a few months beforehand. That had brought me so much comfort. I blame myself because he tried to tell me and I had boundaries with it. He was alone and in a motel (two weeks out of 90 day rehab). I was 5 months pregnant at the time and wasn’t allowed to have him stay with me. Part of me still thinks I could have kept it from happening. I know God is with me every day as I still grieve. I just still miss him so much and don’t want to be mad for what happened. I just had so much hope that this time would break the 10 year cycle. God bless you as well.

@KiraAnandita

3 жыл бұрын

@@seylerfam7025 I'm so sorry for your loss.. Sometimes all we need to do is let go of the burdens and guilt and believe God's taken care of it all and that He was and still is in control, sending you and your family love

@kimsmith3514

3 жыл бұрын

My baby son, 26 years old, died of benzos and kratom (similar to heroin) on 06/30/2019, every 6 months its either Christmas, or 6 months later his birthday. I cry for days at a time. I am an addict and have no life, no social life, I was on the way to the hospital because i wanted to use I called 8 people that said they would ALWAYS be there for me... they all shot me down. Even my other 2 children who blocked me. Am I happy to be alive... Nope.

@stevengray8663

3 жыл бұрын

Its not your fault. You really need to know and understand this! Sorry about your brother!

This brought me to tears. It’s like the first time I’ve heard someone speak that gets me. Wish more people would take the time to try and understand addiction. It’s an act of desperation. So many ppl look at someone with substance abuse issues and assume m it’s something that lives inside you that will always make you more prone to addiction, regardless of other life factors.

1. Conection is important 2. Love is medicine Thanks Johann Hari !

When he said those words “I love you, I don’t want you to be alone”, I felt like everything slowed down for a couple seconds

@DV-zv4ox

2 жыл бұрын

I'm not going to lie but my eyes welled up. Like many others I'm battling addiction right now, and although it's not going to kill me, I'm very alone.

@whispers8650

2 жыл бұрын

@@DV-zv4ox :(

@juanagallo7497

2 жыл бұрын

No, you're not

@sereneroche1608

2 жыл бұрын

♥️♥️♥️ me too.

@sallyjones7596

2 жыл бұрын

@@DV-zv4ox Many of us are with you, in our aloneness.

I wish someone would say they love and come to sit with me. The social stigmas related to addiction make it awful lonely

@nickyfagan6506

3 жыл бұрын

Hey😊..your an amazing person ..dont ever forget that 😊😘😙....also a recovering addict 😊

@pluto8404

3 жыл бұрын

I dont know, skid row seems like a pretty wholesome community.

@loganrichards9172

3 жыл бұрын

Ill sit with you. Im lonely too itd be nice to just have someone to sit with

@nickyfagan6506

3 жыл бұрын

Just because we are addicts does not mean we are not good people ...we are just people that have had life hard ..but we are nice good people 😊..with feelings 😊...we are all amazing and capable of great things 😊..dont ever forget that

@patrickstapleton3377

3 жыл бұрын

I'd sit with you Rachael. Being an addict does NOT define you. Underneath your addiction, you are a brave and good person fighting a battle that nobody would want in their lives. I wish you all the best! I am going back to school to get my masters to be a Substance Abuse Counselor to help people like yourself. Keep fighting! You will come out on the other side!

This makes me think of the stigma that addicts may face when presenting to emergency departments and when working with other healthcare providers. This video really hits home that addicts need compassion and support whether it be from their family or from our healthcare system. The principles of beneficence and nonmaleficence come to mind. Beneficence is the idea that healthcare providers should do what is best for their patients, while nonmaleficence is the idea of doing no harm. I remember when I worked in an emergency department and some of the physicians did not volunteer recovery resources to addicts. This was very discouraging. While they weren't doing harm, they also weren't doing good by not being more supportive and for visibly judging the patient. If the opposite of addiction is a connection, I would hope that healthcare providers realize this, and take the time to make that addict feel connected to another person. I understand our US healthcare system is not really set up in a way to support physicians in doing this. I would hope that hospital CEOs and legislatures in the US would see this type of video and realize that the way we treat addicts in our society is not supporting them to get better but instead is further ostracizing them. The American Addiction Centers stated that in 2017 there were almost There was also a distinct 20 million people in the US struggling with addiction use disorders, and of that 34% were illicit substance addictions. It is obvious that this is no small problem, affecting millions of Americans. Addicts are people who deserve just as much compassion and autonomy within our healthcare system as anyone else. Autonomy is the idea that you have the right to decide what happens to your body. Addicts should be provided with all the needed care options to help them with their decision to recover and have the autonomy to make that decision. Justice is another important ethical principle to speak of in terms of addiction. Justice is the idea of giving everyone what they deserve. In healthcare, this means equitable and fair access to healthcare resources. Addicts need to have access to support systems and healthcare resources that will help them thrive in their recovery. I think it is unethical to not create great access to these resources. I think this also means that families and support systems need to support addicts. I really appreciate the speaker's dedication to finding solutions that actually work and hope that these can be implemented into US society. While I did mention some physicians may not have been the most compassionate when treating addicts, I also have seen amazing physicians treat addicts with such compassion and empathy, but they are not in a healthcare system that allows them to provide all the support that an addict truly needs to recover. I was forced to do this for school and it is jibberish im so sorry.

@albertnortononymous9020

11 ай бұрын

These kinds of assignments are cruel. Forcing an interaction that is supposed to be spontaneous and organic is like a communist regime making a person apologize publicly in self-degrading language for a crime they didn’t commit. Forcing people to act like they have opinions that they don’t have with an excessive pedantic amount of words to back it up is okay for acting improv or debate, but not for the amount of disciplines it is increasingly being used in, and certainly not medical school. Instructor, if you’re reading this and you deduct points for that last sentence, the most organic and fully human sentence in that whole comment, you’re part of the problem.

I spent years isolating myself from the world because I was afraid they would find out who I was. It wasn't until I started bonding with the right people that I started seeing why my reliance on alcohol started to lose it's grip on my life. I believe that the biggest problem we face in society is not the drug, alcohol and homeless problem. It is the genuine connection problem. Not internet connection, not WiFi connection, not satellite connection. Real Human Connection.... If nobody comes to mind immediately when you think of real human connection (without material connection) then you may be living in a disconnected world.

This is spot on. The worse I felt when I was using the more I used. The lonelier I felt or sad I used more. The more society or family came down on me the more I used. Once I finally found someone who loved me regardless of my addiction and was able to put meaning back in my life then I got sober.

@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823

3 жыл бұрын

Suggest adopting a cat or dog, as people can't be trusted. "Trust no one, Scully.

@kevinloftus7464

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing that. I think along with connection being the opposite of addiction I would also add self-love. We deal with self hatred and self worth issues on an everyday basis. When someone who truly loves us and supports us regardless of our addiction that's when our self esteem grows

@evearcana2392

2 жыл бұрын

It’s a question of dopamine. Surround yourself with things that awakens dopamine in your brain. Most of all also, develop a relationship with Jesus Christ! He will never leave you or forsake you. It’s the truest form of love us humans crave & nothing but He and His love can quench 💖

@patricialantigua

2 жыл бұрын

@@evearcana2392 And that is SPOT ON AND ONLY HE CAN RENEW AND GIVE YOU A NEW HEART ♥️!!!! Thanks for this comment! Because this is why many fall back to it because with out Him. It is impossible and it’s deeper then an addiction and it’s craving a connection that only comes through Him. Everything is temporary and leaves. This is what I learned in the field and help those with all types of addictions and God revealed this to me 20 years ago why many are affected by past and environment and personal.

@seanscully4347

2 жыл бұрын

@@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 My sir name is `Scully`,but I,ve just entered this comment section a few minutes ago, your comment is 10 mths old? What `Scully` are you referring to? I do not see any `Scully`s here except myself.

*note to self* I need to watch this when I'm sober. thank you past me.

@harrynac6017

4 жыл бұрын

Are you sober now? There's a video waiting.

@belindasaga829

4 жыл бұрын

Watched it sober yet? Hope so :)

@theimpersonator4203

4 жыл бұрын

I'll comment so this will pop up in recommendation for you.

@HeyitsFINI

4 жыл бұрын

Hey come watch this

@loveitsastarheart6790

4 жыл бұрын

Lennon Sending love your way!

So true. Addicts also alienate THEMSELVES due to shame

I used to be a crack and alcohol abuser for decades, and I found an awesome trauma therapist that actually cared about me and my health. I went through a lot of trauma as a kid and that was the reason I was "addicted" to drugs and alcohol. My therapy was what pulled me out of that mess.

@AlejandroLopez-mj9gj

Жыл бұрын

Thank u

@wallacepeeace6492

Жыл бұрын

@@AlejandroLopez-mj9gj I tell anyone who needs this advice because this system takes advantage of other peoples misery! For profit organizations don't work. That's been proven.

@wallacepeeace6492

Жыл бұрын

@@frankhrbolich2282 maybe, but I found out 12 steps, treatment centers, AA, only works for 20% of those who attend these "treatments". It's too complex to try understand without the whole experience. True story...

Hands down best Ted talk I've seen so far. I'm a recovering addict. 10yrs now. If it wasn't for the unconditional love my wife showed me I would probably be dead. I wish America would wake up and see the real problems and stop hiding behind these made up ones.

@xxxhushxxx2933

4 жыл бұрын

Good work. 5 yrs off heroin for me but only 2 yrs off marijuana. So I guess I'm only 2 yrs completely drug free. But I'm still proud of the 5 yrs of being free of everythi g else bc I not only was an iv heroin addict, i did most everything you could think of. So good work to you and keep going.

@jessykapop

4 жыл бұрын

I am so happy for you. You have an amazing wife. ❤️❤️❤️

@helen.cabo.villanueva97

4 жыл бұрын

GOD is love

@szirmaie

4 жыл бұрын

Hi.., I am on the other side and I'm not such a great wife as yours.., I am tired of trying to understand the other one and not be considered why and how it's is hard for me. Any advice ? :( I am surprised to see most comments come from addict and nobody who lives with one.

@andreabennington

4 жыл бұрын

Szirmaie. Please search for the closest Al-Anon meeting to you. If you go to the meetings once a week for a month and it’s not right for you, try a different Al-Anon group (I had to do just this). You will find men and women in situations just like yours. You will find understanding and gain strength. I hope you find what you need and what helps you.

Basically, seeing this video years ago is the reason I decided NOT to ignore my Mother who had problems with Alcohol anymore, to call her more and give her attention... And it was one of the main reasons that she is now completely alcohol free! And so am I! Ties, Connections and Relationships.... Thank you!

@mattrogers6646

2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations. What a wonderful outcome!

@101soldiergurl44

2 жыл бұрын

God bless you.

@DustinShaneYounce

2 жыл бұрын

Got any specific tactics? My mom has been going through this for years. Picked up near daily drinking almost a decade ago now.

@sjoerdvantilburg5745

2 жыл бұрын

@@DustinShaneYounce Honestly? No, not really... I avoided talking about talking about the alcohol and focus more on the person. It did not help anyway to tell her again and again that alcohol was bad and a problem. She new that herself and it did not work at all. During the spare times she was not drunk or only a little drunk, I focussed on the positive things in life... We got a better connection and as a result she decided life was not that bad at all, and alcohol was DEFINITELY not a solution. Hope everything turns out for the best for you Shane.. Stay strong!

@BS-dq1kz

2 жыл бұрын

This is a beautiful thing to read! So happy for you and your mom!

Sending love to everyone battling depression and addiction

Addiction is a complex, difficult to treat problem because it can be caused by a whole range of different things.

@captainofmysoul6162

Жыл бұрын

I love the work of Chris Scott and Matt Finch from fit recovery. Peace.

Wow. Best TED Talks yet. This must be listened to by every single American and developing country. Bless this man.

@donaldwilliams4019

5 жыл бұрын

I've been posting this video in many different places. For the single purpose of getting the message out. People NEED to understand this!!!

@Astralpilot2.0

5 жыл бұрын

kzread.info/dash/bejne/rJaY1ZOFZMW3ndI.html

@Astralpilot2.0

5 жыл бұрын

Here is Addiction talk

@gsp49

5 жыл бұрын

@@Astralpilot2.0 , I prefer recovery talk.

@mrp6459

5 жыл бұрын

Very good talk indeed. Evolutionary and positive. The problem with addiction is the fact that the current situation allows for the negation of addictive behaviour to affect the non addict. This is excruciating and vexatious for those victims of crime that see addicts everywhere stealing, robbing, and begging for their fix of hard drugs. The war on drugs is a failure, give the addict his fix legally while also avoiding crime which affects us all. Stats show that a high percentage of crime is for drug addiction so why are policies and laws and punitive measures still in place when those on the ground, ordinary people like you and me see the negative affects?? Maybe this is because those well to do policy makers and politicians are nicely tucked away in their nice neighbourhoods in their nice jobs with their full bank accounts totally ignorant to the impending realities of the poor life and those that struggle. Decriminalise and give the addict what he needs - at least one positive aspect of this is much less crime which in turn affects the lay man or women in a positive way. Logically, sensible and compassionate. Good talk.

The most beautiful interpretation of addiction ive ever heard. Tears are in my eyes, I’m 57 days clean and sober and i can confirm love is what we need 🤍 sending love to all the addicts still suffering

@melissafraser1900

Жыл бұрын

God bless you You are a beautiful human being God is with you He is always with you Respect God bless

@kaloryfer1218

Жыл бұрын

How is it man?

@shauryasavjani9811

Жыл бұрын

we are all proud of you man, be strong buddy

@natebrank4240

Жыл бұрын

How are you doing my friend

@brookejon3695

Жыл бұрын

Right? If I liked my life, I wouldn't be an alcoholic.

I watched this July 16, 2019 July 17, 2019 was my first day of sobriety and I’m about to hit five years. This TEDTalk quite literally saved my life.

People seem to be misunderstanding something so simple. It's not lack of connection that causes addiction but the overdependence on one dopamine source. We need multiple dopamine sources which means connectful relationships, meaningful activities, and clear-defined goals.

It’s wierd how when you really need something it finds you. I needed to watch this!

@BigHeretic

4 жыл бұрын

See _Apophenia_ - it's a really common problem.

@phronessys

4 жыл бұрын

@@BigHeretic KZread algorithm too

@michellelynn7473

4 жыл бұрын

God bless neo

@chocolatethunder7453

4 жыл бұрын

They say when the student is ready the teacher will appear 😏💯

@jackistripping

4 жыл бұрын

It's the same with drugs tbh. I never thought I would do drugs until my dad cheated on my mom. I'm 14 and have now tried weed, Xanax, LSD, shrooms, adderall, I vape, and the Xanax gave me a seizure in math class after quitting. All the pain drugs take away will be handed back in the form of physical pain and mental suffering when you quit. If your a kid and reading this just don't do it, trust me I know I sound like a jerk and would have laughed if I read this before popping a xan. You do not have it all under control and if people get addicted to these substances so easily what makes you different? If anything your more prone to becoming addicted due to you ur age. Just don't, if you really believe you must smoke some weed or try meditating.

Didn't expect Chandler to know so much about addiction

@jko4698

8 жыл бұрын

+Mr Anderson lol I thought I was the only person who thought he looked like Chandler

@iverruler

8 жыл бұрын

+Mr Anderson Believe me, Chandler knows about addiction

@bidhsdOtcOms

8 жыл бұрын

+iverruler Mathew Perry* knows about addiction, Chandler on the other hand happens to know that 'in Oklahoma it's legal to smoke in offices with 15 people or less' XD

@nathanaelsoler3089

8 жыл бұрын

+Bidhya Rimal omg such a hard reference jajaja !!! but a great one tho

@apglasses

8 жыл бұрын

+Mr Anderson Matthew Perry actually did a lot of drugs. not sure if he's an addict but i'm sure he has quite a bit of first hand experience

Years ago, while walking out of another OA (overeater's anonymous) meeting, I was suddenly overwhelmed with a profound and deep connection to every person I encountered. It wasn't permanent, but it was unforgettable. A man named Harold Percival once described love as "conscious sameness"...Makes perfect sense to me.

Great Ted Talk. As a addict in recovery myself I think he's right. As the daughter of an addict, there's only one issue I have. I had to walk away from the toxicity of my mothers life for self preservation which is counter to his argument. Such a fine line.

@maryturner6470

Жыл бұрын

Actually, that need to separate does support his assertion in the video. We need connections to HEALTHY people in order to be healthy. I'm not addicted to anything, but I lived in a very toxic abusive marriage for years. When I finally divorced my ex and went into counseling, a very good therapist explained my situation to me this way: even though I didn't want to be abused (who does), but there was something I was lacking in my life that attracted me to him, and the abuse was the price I paid to have it. This is why it is recommended that anyone coming out of an abusive relationship should go into therapy in order to better understand what that attraction is so that we don't keep repeating that pattern of behavior.

I have been sober from IV heroin and meth for 15 months. I watched this a few months into my soberity and it really has helped me build a life worth keeping and adjusting my behavior when I start isolating. ❤

@lindymartin8425

4 жыл бұрын

@Andrea Williams thank you!

@irchristo

4 жыл бұрын

"I've been posting the following question on several of these comments: Regarding "the opposite of addiction is not sobriety. the opposite of addiction is connection." May I ask if this is your opinion because of your experience or is it your opinion because you like the sentiment? ...Or? (Real question - no judgment or tricks)...

@lindymartin8425

4 жыл бұрын

@@irchristo I believe addiction is a symptom of a larger issue. I wouldnt say the opposite of addiction is connection. I would say the way to recovery isnt just soberity but connection to oneself, others, and their God.

@irchristo

4 жыл бұрын

@@lindymartin8425 ... Agreed. My own working definition for addiction is "Using a physical solution to solve a spiritual problem."

@CoffeeandBarbell

4 жыл бұрын

@@lindymartin8425 u r certainly right

IF I CHANGE THE WAY I LOOK AT THINGS, THE THINGS I LOOK AT CHANGE. KEEP MOVING FORWARD MY FELLOW RECOVERING ADDICTS!!!!!

I think this is a perfect example of how normal people view drug addiction. It's a physical allergy. Go to an AA meeting and you'll get a better understanding of what real addiction is like.

I wish this could be instilled in every individual's mind. The way this would make the world a better place not only for addicts but literally for everyone is moving!

Back in 2012-13 the teachers wanted to hear our opinion on drug addicts and I responded with "They all just need a big warm hug"

@basiabasia3387

7 жыл бұрын

a hug won't solve homelessness, no job, no friends other than the ones they abuse drug of their choice:(:):(, so hug is a OK vbut that's not what they JUST NEED, dear

@Panpea

7 жыл бұрын

They wouldn't abuse drugs if they weren't alone. The reason why people even use drugs is because it's a temporary replacement for loneliness, or that hole in your soul that needs to be filled somehow. We wouldn't feel the need to abuse ourselves with these substances if we all lived happy lives. Alas, that's an impossible dream.

@pc...430

7 жыл бұрын

too many Links not all people some people use it for a replacement for lonlyness but not all ^^

@tommyhansen161

7 жыл бұрын

people have different reasons for self medicating, but loneliness is usually a big factor

@pc...430

7 жыл бұрын

too many Links sadly it isn't that easy i now people having problems with Drugs and i gave them love before they started with Drugs when they started and when they started to get problems

Wow, I did this with the people I love dearly. Spent almost a full year with 3 of them. It’s true, it worked.

@unknownx7252

4 жыл бұрын

Of course, it's not 100 percent proof but it's 100 times better than punishing and shunning them.

@helen.cabo.villanueva97

4 жыл бұрын

okey

@surfinsilver

4 жыл бұрын

Mary Palen hello ✌🏼 my name is Tyler I’m a recovering heroin addict running an up & coming channel on here that is recovery based and I also give advice & kind words & love to all addicts, ones that are clean and trying each and every day and people who are still using all welcome to my page. My newest vid “ a message to the person who knows an addict” just went up yesterday if you feel like checking it out. Every person that subscribes gets my message closer to the person who’s dead inside and needs it the most ❤️❤️❤️ god bless you

i’m 6 months and 14 days clean. i really needed this video today. thank you

I'm Portuguese! Some people say that Portugal is not what this man claims to be! But Portugal is more than that! This country is beautiful! Portugal is the 5th safest country in the world and has the most liberal drug laws in the world! Love from Portugal

@glennvandenberg3912

5 жыл бұрын

Can't wait to see it one day.

@stella-vu8vh

4 жыл бұрын

Love from the US. Are less people dying now?

@molovely2775

4 жыл бұрын

My family is from Madeira. I've heard it's the most beautiful place on the planet. Can't wait to visit!

@alicelascaux7222

4 жыл бұрын

And love to you & your beautiful people as well. Many Thanks to your country for turning what was broken into a brave, new approach & being a shining beacon for the rest of the world! Blessings!

@moreton77mansley24

4 жыл бұрын

I've went to Portugal as a kid. It's an amazing country with amazing people. Your forwad thinking is amazing. Junkies are not created or man made, we are addicts before we pick up a drug. It is having things in our lives before we start that needs to happen and the resources there if they'e not.

I agree completely with the" opposite of addiction is connection". I was in a loveless twenty-year relationship and when I was at my lowest (as an alcoholic), he left. The worst thing that ever happened to me ended up being the best. After a year alone and near death I found the connection I had been looking for those twenty years in my climbing community. My climbing family are the people who saved my life and who continually stick by me. I just celebrated nine years sober and connection is what made all the difference.

@lilshortie8991

2 жыл бұрын

congrats! "Your biggest breakdown can be your biggest breakthrough"

@judyh1790

2 жыл бұрын

@@lilshortie8991 so true.

@GusriYonaldi

2 жыл бұрын

that is true for me too

@kevinloftus7464

2 жыл бұрын

Excellent Ted Talk . Unfortunately most non addicts either through stubbornness or my personal opinion , a sheer unwillingness to refuse to look at addiction as more then somone who can't control themselves. Just get it together, what's wrong with you. Why can't you just drink like normal people. Now obviously this juvenile mentality comes from a place of ignorance, reluctance , stupidity to an extent and numerous other things or as I previously eluded to a simple unwillingness to challenge oneself's beliefs and allow new thoughts and ideas to maybe, dare I say, challenge old thoughts and even change your way of thinking?? Even in the slightest . For most, of course not. I mean it's sooo much easier to look down upon, shame , and chastise somone with an addiction. The non addict, generally speaking, will never get it, they can't. The most unfortunate revelation is it's not because they simply can't understand addiction . Most don't want to understand addiction

@elisabetexavier8883

2 жыл бұрын

@@kevinloftus7464 Wow you are so right that is exactly what I say most of my family members don't understands I think I have explained to them over a thousand times what is it that an addict feels and that this is not something that anyone would ever want to go through and all they know how to say is just go and seek help when I've seeked help many times and it didn't do me any good but get me even more deeper than what I was and like you said a lot of them just don't want to understand they stick to their opinion and their opinion means more and anyone else's loved your comment perfectly said💯

Thank you Johann Hari, my partner showed me this video and it helped him understand my heroin addiction. I am now on methadone & in recovery. ❤

Makes sense totally, from beggining to end. Let's demand this to our politicians and in our comunities.

I am a recovering addict with 7 years clean and, you hit the nail on the head, learned so much about myself that I was completely unaware of.

@johannesluttmer1285

5 жыл бұрын

Thats why;;THEY,,... wanna keep us al addicted.....!!!

@4406bbldb

5 жыл бұрын

Hey, good work.

@tannermcevoy5782

5 жыл бұрын

16 days clean 😊

@oprahwinfrey2532

5 жыл бұрын

@@cyberlion6411 It's 12 step talk. They say it's an incurable disease

@kevphillips02

5 жыл бұрын

CyberLion Allow others to choose their own path . I could easily criticise and try to shame you and put you down because of your choices . I won’t do that because you have the right to be you just the same as the guy that calls himself a recovering addict . Live & let live .

"The opposite of addiction is connection" - wonderful words.

@unclealand

8 жыл бұрын

+Cliodhna Carthy Well, unless you're using other people the way you used drugs. Being addicted to "connection" and validation through other people is pitiful.

@CantWeedThis

8 жыл бұрын

guess that's why so many people with autism suffer from addiction. my one problem in life is the inability to connect with people.

@unclealand

8 жыл бұрын

Bike Rider It's often not worth the effort. Most of the problem is our feeling that we 'should' want to do this or that, we 'should' want to connect with others, we're "supposed" to find it a great fulfilling experience. Who says? Solitude gets a bad rap, especially from 12-Steppers who label it "isolation."

@PEACESEATINGDISORDERVLOG

7 жыл бұрын

"Re Parenting" & Self Development, searchable & free resources all her on KZread, is what gave me tools to change my brain; now life gets better every day!!! Go ahead, try it :) the highs are the best in the world.

@bronsonmcdonald5473

7 жыл бұрын

I get what you are saying . I am an introvert and need time alone to recharge. My healthy balance of time with people and time alone is different than that of an extrovert. And Beyond that, I would think that balance is different among each introvert; it's a very personal thing.

For me this story is 100% spot on. Because of my avoidance of living in my reality, my life, and not having reason and bonding with others. Nothing to get up for. I was an addict for 8 years. But when I changed that and rebuilt my connections with great people and family. I was able to step away from addiction without rehab.

I lost my husband of 12 years because I couldn't learn the lesson sooner that I was someone else when I drank that he didn't recognized. He started seeing my other side than who he fell in love with, I was pregnant with our second child and even though I stopped it wasn't enough. He filed for divorce, our son is 5 years old. I was a stay at home mother and our daughter is 3 months old. He has our own, I'm in rehabilitation now being served more divorce papers. I pray he'll see me as a mother of his children that he can respect and remember and not the wife that neglected our marriage and his feelings. I'll forever miss him, and I still wish I could tell him about my days now. He was my best friend and keep me safe for a decade. What I know now I will apply towards whenever my next realionship will be but it's hard because he'll never know the woman I'll become and he deserved more and hang on for a long time. I'm sorry cody, you were enough, our family was and this is enough but I accept your decision. I've been disconnected from him and my children and I want to stay sober but it will be much harder than it was when I was married and had his support. I am honestly completely alone, and have no where to go after rehab..... everyone I love is not in my life. I love you, thank you for loving me when you did. I'm sorry, truly I was so hard to love that I had to be cut off. Please forgive me that I got help after it was to late. -Desaree Jasmine.

"The opposite of addiction is connection" - beautiful!

@enzogodween3141

4 жыл бұрын

absolutely

@ruthylev5446

4 жыл бұрын

@lost souls Naturally, nobody implied that sobriety equal connection! With regard to the "junkie couples" and the deep connections between them, I believe you"re romantisizing a very painful situation plagued by loneliness and inner void.

@nickalden235

4 жыл бұрын

Such Bullshit

@irchristo

4 жыл бұрын

May I ask if this is your opinion because of your experience or is it your opinion because you like the sentiment? ...or? (Real question - no judgment or tricks)

@nickalden235

4 жыл бұрын

@@irchristo experience with friends growing up and watching them die in some cases. Didn't matter the level of love or acceptance, addicts I've known just take and take. I'm watching one spiral right now and acceptance just drives them to do more. It's more complex than this video makes it out to be.

Crying my eyes out after watching this, if only more people realised or even entertained these ideas. Alot of respect for this speaker and all who worked with him

@irchristo

4 жыл бұрын

May I ask if this is your opinion because of your experience or is it your opinion because you like the sentiment? ...or? (Real question - no judgment or tricks)...the opposite of addiction is not sobriety. the opposite of addiction is connection. - johann hari

@LWKGDfan

3 жыл бұрын

@@irchristo it's because I'm an addict and this hit me deep

Idk though... when an addict parent has literally destroyed and traumatised your life it's hard to say I love you, I'll sit here with you, I'll be here for you etc but that aside great presentation ❤️

@natureisallpowerful

Жыл бұрын

I get it,its about letting go of it, it doesn't define you as a person. "Not why the addiction, but why the pain?" Gabor Mate.

This is all true. I traded drug addiction for a music and writing obsession. Today I'm a film producer and a business owner with a wife and 2 beautiful kids I'm crazy about. My life is infinitely more exciting and gratifying today. If ur in pain seek out something to love and once you're sturdy, seek out people to dedicate your life to.

@sharonclarke6617

Жыл бұрын

I envy you ,not in a bad way but I have no one, I have children and they are amazing but because of my Crohn's I have just my kids and writing which I love but loneliness is a killer and I spend my alone time just crying as I have an abundance of love and kindness and yet here I am alone, those I loved my mum her sisters are now gone and I've no family at all, I'm so trying to get off prescription drugs but I feel I'm losing and I'm tired of fighting,I stop myself because my children are too beautiful to be traumatised so I will gladly suffer to spare them any pain,

@alika207

6 ай бұрын

Have you ever written any of your own songs?

That's awesome! My best was addicted to meth. The last time I spoke with her she stole my prescription of xanax that the doctors had given me because my little brother had dies. I knew she had taken it. I did. I told her that I did, and she told me, "there is no forgiveness for me, I have stolen from everyone, even my parents". I told her that I forgave her, and that others will with time. Once others see that she was trying to be a better person she would be forgiven. She died a few years later of a heart attack, but she had mended those relationships, and she WAS clean.

@patglennon9671

7 жыл бұрын

me

@dianaa.2802

7 жыл бұрын

Rachelle Nixon i am sorry for your lost and i encourage you to keep being such a good friend and person. thats the way help works. in my experience with addiction most friends and ppl would turn their back on me once they get hurt in some way by me get stolen or lied to they think im against them or something the thing that u did by simply supporting her was the best thing to do. most people would help "addicts" because they want to feel better about themselves by "helping" most of the time this only works bad and suffocate the "addict" and they leave as soon as they dont hear a "thank you" they only try to feel good bout themselves again thats not fair and for ur friend i really appreacite what you did. thank you and dont change.

@EvanNDoan-ry8vf

7 жыл бұрын

+Caponezheater do u know how to undue the damage. ..

@EvanNDoan-ry8vf

7 жыл бұрын

+Caponezheater do u know how to undue the damage. .. by

@zabritorres5079

7 жыл бұрын

shen d how?

watching this while high, as painfully ironic as that is. really feel like i know what he was talking about

@Jennifr1966

5 жыл бұрын

@Jicari Hickory Hill I get that he would have drugs out of system in 7 days, but how would he change everything else around him?

@matthewcastillo9951

5 жыл бұрын

Nice. I quit drinking. Have 1 year and 4 months but I still get high. Does that mean I’m not sober?.lol

@Jennifr1966

5 жыл бұрын

@@matthewcastillo9951 sadly, you're correct. Sober means being in control of your own mind and body. I used to do all that, but after I realized how little power I had left, I got where I didn't even want dentists "laughing gas" or the twilight shot before the operation. I can't stand not feeling in control! And when you are finally done with junk that kills your brain cells to where you can't think properly anymore (think Ozzie's cry for Sharon!), you'll recognize how much you value your brain. If you need a quicker kick in the hiney, go visit a memory care nursing home. It just gets to where not finding your keys, etc., becomes more of a burden than a laugh.

@ahmidsaleh9725

5 жыл бұрын

@@Jennifr1966 that was literally one of the hardest things to deal with once you quit cold turkey and your body doesnt physically need it anymore your brain can react negatively to your surroundings and all the people who i still had to see around me and every situation or circumstance can easily lead you to relapse and a possible fatal overdose.... imo i think a strong support system is necessary because they can help change the addicts mindset and perspective which can do a lot especially if you cant just pack your bags and move to another state just to stay away from the demons that filled up your reality with negativity so that it can trigger a relapse BUTTTTTTT if you change your perspective completely different to what you've been conditioned to see things or situations one way for however long you've been on drugs and take the steps to see those same exact things or bothersome situations and see it thru a new light and have a different understanding of it can lead to being able to get clean and NEVER go back to drugs again... basically just look at things completely differently

@Ballerina007

4 жыл бұрын

Maybe you should take it as a sign from God to stop getting high and be in control of your life again, there is always hope and to be in bondage is not what I believe anyone really wants they just don't know how to deal with things around them so they use because well exactly what the guy said in the video. There is always hope and freedom. You just have to want it.

As a recovering addict and now an addictions counselor I have to agree !!

This broke my heart because it's so true. I just wish that our loved ones would understand this about us.

i'm not addicted to drugs or stuff like that. But i also see, that with the Social media nowadays you live in a seprate world. The connection is lost

@milanarend

5 жыл бұрын

mitchell duiker Its not quite seprate but its different sub cultures. Every one has different things they like and thats why some cultures are more exposed then the others.

@nickilovesdogs8137

5 жыл бұрын

Go to an animal shelter and walk a dog or two every day. Go on long walks in nature with dogs and give them lots of water to drink and food to eat. They need your love and you need their love and you all need each other's connection.

@laurenbeals5519

5 жыл бұрын

mitchell duiker true. And social media can be an addiction within itself

@PaolaTheTimeLord

5 жыл бұрын

mitchell duiker i think addiction doesn’t have to be necessarily drugs. it can be anything. you can be addicted to gambling or addicted to biting your nails. addiction is an action that causes self destruction and negatively changes your moods with other people you interact with. addiction to social media is a growing topic. we are the first generation in history to be addicted to social media. or even the first century. because it wasn’t really heavily used until the 2000s. it’s a new topic that should be taken seriously like you pointed out.

@laurenbeals5519

5 жыл бұрын

Paola F you’re absolutely right. Addiction is for lack of a better description a form of OCD that manifests itself focusing on something or similar things in particular. And yes self-destruction is inevitable, even if it’s an addiction to something by all accounts healthy for you, like working out. The degrees vary, of course, but it becomes something you cannot and are not in control of. It becomes a compulsion. Goes back to the old saying “Nothing is bad in moderation”. Which is bullshit by the way.....and whatever truth is a slippery slope. Just stay grounded and pray often. The Lord will light the way. ♥️