Story 1: "Why didn't you answer any of my calls?". Um, because she was in labor and in danger of bleeding out? And he's STILL pestering her to get a paternity test. I say get the test and deliver the results at the same time she delivers divorce papers. He absolutely was not there for her when she literally needed him most. He missed his child's birth. OP nearly died. But he's still making it all about him.

Story 2: paternity leave is not meant for the father to rest, is ment for the father to be able to help the mother with the chield

@davidsandoval7349

2 ай бұрын

Exactly, what is the husband on

@JustinAdamson270

2 ай бұрын

False you don't get to decide how a man spends his paternity leave just because women want to be coddled

@Raaslen

2 ай бұрын

@@JustinAdamson270 So, by that logic, maternity leave also ain't for the mother to take care of the baby, right?

@aaronwishard7093

2 ай бұрын

​@@RaaslenI mean, yeah, if a mother doesn't wanna take care of her kid during maternity leave, because she wants to rest her body. That's between her and her own life. It's not for you or I to decide what she does. Does that leave good signs for the next 2 decades of that child's life? No, absolutely not, but what are we allowed to do? Pretty sure the answer is jack and or shit.

@rubymeaddle

2 ай бұрын

​@@JustinAdamson270 I pity the woman you'll trap with a child

First story: best brother ever!

oh dude, i've heard this first story before; that ex-husband of OP's was absolutely horrendous. and that MIL had some nerve to tell OP to cut contact with her brother just for defending his sister, who was in so much pain. sure, the tactic of his approach wasn't the greatest, but i completely understand why he said what he did.

@M.W.2

2 ай бұрын

The paternity test thing I believe secretly came from MIL poisoning his ear

@skeleton_flowerx

27 күн бұрын

What happened in the end?

2nd story: Paternity leave is not vacation time. It’s time off work to be a damn father. And you can’t kidnap your own baby when you have full legal custody. Leave this loser. Then you would only have one baby to care for.

@JustinAdamson270

2 ай бұрын

False in a marriage both parents have joint custody there is no full custody

@jennafandoms9710

2 ай бұрын

​@@JustinAdamson270 both parents have full legal custody because both live with the child and make decisions for the child

@southernflight5078

2 ай бұрын

​@JustinAdamson270 I wouldn't classify a waste of space that does nothing for his family a "parent."

@BlastFromThePastTheGoodOldDays

2 ай бұрын

@@jennafandoms9710 actually unless in state/ country that assumes the husband is the father and does it automatically, until the birth certificate is signed Fathers do not have legal custody/ rights to a child. The mother is given automatic legal rights and custody, but a father doesn't have rights until the birth certificate is signed.. Which is why they sometimes refuse to sign until their demands are met like a Paternity test, or they have to fight in the courts to get legal access to their child. Until they sign the birth certificate they have no legal right or legal responsibility to the child

Husband 1 and husband 2 must be related.

That was no "prank" that was karma... That bastard ABDANDONED his wife and unborn for his pride over a childish squabble, and OP really did nearly die waiting for him. He's only "guilty" cuz his pride, again, was hurt, and her family had grounds (and still do) to have sued him had she really passed. And even after all that, STILL asked for a paternity test. He's looking for a out and OP finally gave him one, just not on his terms as he wanted. Win brother. Story 3: Let this be a reminder to people that just cuz a tumor is benigne doesn't mean it still cant affect you like a malignant one, just slower and more subtle

Last story broke my heart all that they went through to end in divorce 😢 but I understand where OP is coming from and honestly it is way better to be friendly and respectful co-parents than hostile hateful married parents

I betcha the reason he wasnt answering was he was with a sidepiece, you dont suggest a paternity test out of the blue unless you're guilty of something yourself.

My wife agreed to a paternity test for 2 major reasons that i explained in detail but heres the short of it. 1: make sure we got our child from the hospital and not get someone elses baby. 2: Family health history confirmation. Me getting the confirmation the child is genetically mine is just a bonus to those 2 much more important details relative to my values. Glad S1 OP is safe

@imboredsendhelp438

2 ай бұрын

I can understand the first two reasons but the third ??? Are you saying you don’t trust your wife ? , And If you do trust her why would you need a conformation anyway ?

@snekysneks

2 ай бұрын

I'm of the opinion that paternity and maternity tests should both be mandatory, but I also understand that when and how it is requested can be really insulting. If he really wanted it for benign reasons he should have brought it up at the same time they were talking about having kids, not during or right after pregnancy when hormones are rampant.

@CoRLex-jh5vx

2 ай бұрын

Unless there's other reasons to suspect infidelity, reason 1 is the only valid one. Anything else directly implies that you just don't trust your partner, and without trust there's really no point to even having a relationship.

@Toonwalla2010

Ай бұрын

I feel paternity/maternity tests should be mandatory for the hospital to conduct as part of the OBYGN's/doctors duty, because even if there are no issues with fidelity, then it should be the start of the child's medical history paper trail along with the birth certificate. If it could just become part of the regular formal documentation then it loses the lack of trust issue because it is the law/hospital keeping accurate records.

Last story woah

Story one, someone went both sides in the comments and I know I'm insane here, but I might want rip their thro- Deep breath... Her brother was there for her when her hubby ignored her for ten hours when she was at the end of her pregnancy.

@beefydonut6977

Ай бұрын

Honestly if you refused a DNA test I would too. Whether I trusted you or not the moment you refuse you put suspicion into our minds. DNA tests should be mandatory.

story 2 has an update that was posted 11 hours ago

poor john brain tumors can be the worst thing a family can ever go through the behavior isn’t exceptable but it explained a hole lot 😅

Story 3: Actually, I’ve read stories where after having a brain tumor removed, the love or even the recognition of a person for their spouse / partner disappears. Sometimes, they can fall in love with their partner again and it works out, and sometimes they mutually agree to split, like OP. Honestly, this was the best case scenario for everything; he wasn’t a chauvinistic xsshole, he had a tumor affecting his personality. Downside: now the love is gone for OP, but he still respects her as the mother of his child, so silver lining. Also, tumor is benign, so yay for them both. Best case scenario for a mutual divorce imo. Legitimate reasons on both sides for divorce. And I’m glad that’s not who OP’s ex-husband is as a person; it was the tumor.

Damn… I didn’t know a tumor could give you misogyny….

Why us the guy is story 2 calling his wofe a little B if he wants to reconcile?

@JustinAdamson270

2 ай бұрын

He doesn't want to reconcile just because she lies about it

@Kris-wo4pj

2 ай бұрын

​@@JustinAdamson270we get it ya either hate your wife does she makes more than ya or ya cant get a girl to look your way cuz youre a loser dude. If not then youre 1000% an abuser and upset no one is tsking an abuser's side.

@rubymeaddle

2 ай бұрын

He wants to repair his damaged image

God, this video is a Trinity of Bad merriage!

ooookay I did not see the twist with the last story coming, I admit. I thought it was just projection and bullying with mealy mouthed excuses. But it turns out nope!

Paternity tests should be compulsory, so no one has to ask and potentially destroy a relationship

@sultryjmac

2 ай бұрын

This. Mandatory paternity tests to make sure both the father and the mother are the parents. Let's not forget how often hospitals mix up babies.

@Calories_To_Calibers

2 ай бұрын

It will never happen, the state doesn't want more cheating women on welfare

@rubymeaddle

2 ай бұрын

Statistically speaking men cheat more

@snekysneks

2 ай бұрын

​@@sultryjmac add mandatory maternity tests and I'll agree. Imagine finding out your not the father because the hospital switched babies.

@shadowsnake5133

2 ай бұрын

​@@snekysneks well surely this would solve that right?

Really really really hope that OP one and two were able to get a divorce and full custody of their daughters from their sh!tbag husbands

I’m firmly on the “every man deserves a paternity test regardless of who gets butthurt about it”, because they deserve to know without a doubt that the baby they are raising is theirs. Paternity fraud is an extremely real thing, it happens all the time out there. And it seems like every single woman but me has this entitled “how DARE you question me over anything!” mentality. And yet they can’t deny whatsoever that paternity fraud does happen and if the roles were reversed they would absolutely demand to know for themselves. It’s so totally hypocritical that they think they are above being asked for a paternity test. That being said, there’s a right and wrong way to approach this fight as a man. And this guy did it so wrong to the point that he’s proven himself an absolute monster. HOW could you not go help someone in the middle of a medical emergency??? She could have died, and his baby along with her. And he’ll know soon enough that it IS his baby after the fact anyway. That guy is trash, pure trash. She should keep as far away from him as possible because he clearly never loved her.

@OKAYOKAY420

2 ай бұрын

Everyone who asks deserves a paternity test. But men shouldn't expect faithful women to take it without offense. That's like saying "I think you're cheating, so you should do ____ to prove to me you aren't." So ask for a paternity test but accept consequences.

@TrueBlunty

2 ай бұрын

​@@OKAYOKAY420if paternity tests were done at birth then this wouldnt be a problem. lmao. women act like it is some kinda right they have to use and lie to men about who the father of their kids are😂

@carolallain6130

2 ай бұрын

Just because done people are unscrupulous does not mean every one gets painted with the same brush! Get a hold of your self, for goodness sake. We just go way to far at times

@OKAYOKAY420

2 ай бұрын

@@TrueBlunty I agree they should be mandatory by law. But they aren't. So asking a faithful woman to take a paternity test and being shocked that she leaves when it's confirmed that they're the father is kinda hilarious. We could avoid this by making paternity tests mandatory but the people in charge evidently haven't done it yet lol.

@macylouwho1187

2 ай бұрын

@@OKAYOKAY420 all it means for a that your hurt pride is more important to you than the family that you’ve made. You’d leave it simply for being questioned. And you think you are above questioning. All someone has is your word for it that you were faithful and because people can’t be together at all times he can’t be sure of that. There is only your word for it, and a metric ton of women lie about it and act convincingly while doing it. I myself have seen my own mother lie her butt off to men and act outraged that they questioned her on things she lied about, turn it around on them and gaslight them to the point that they end up apologizing to HER when she definitely did lie. One of many examples that I know locally. So we’re going to have to agree to disagree. To me, people often do lie and cheat each other. I simply don’t understand how people who listen to as many Reddit stories as they do that prove that along with real life local examples still don’t seem to understand that. It’s common knowledge. The divorce rate proves it as well.

DNA tests should be standard. You literally never know sometimes. Also it's not entitled to ask for one when your gonna be spending 18 fuckin years of your life taking care of it.

The Brother is in the clear leave him alone your husband ain’t shit guhll he ducked you in the most important time he should’ve been by your side while your brother was there he’s the man!

The first story is half fake, the OP's husband was just neglectful and ignored her when she went into labor because he was watching the game with the boys. It had nothing to do with him asking for a paternity test. The rest of the story is pretty accurate.

Pretty sure there were red flags waving before marriage and procreation that were iiiggnnnoorrreeedddddd in all of these stories.

@palamedes4740

2 ай бұрын

Yeah i can't believe last op missed the brain tumor 🙄

story 1, yeah the husband was probably cheating and projecting but i do think the brother went to far

@lindah3803

2 ай бұрын

Disagree. Like the brother said, he wanted that AH to get a taste of all the panic and fear that he experienced for 10hrs. So,no he didn't go too far. There are Lots of brothers and sisters out there that would've put that AH in the hospital. AH got off easy.

@JustinAdamson270

2 ай бұрын

​@@lindah3803stop acting tough just to defend a cheating woman if she denies a paternity test she cheated

@ultraboy2669

2 ай бұрын

@@lindah3803 welp the brother went too far to me so agree to disagree because I don’t think making him feel the panic was the right thing to do If I was the brother, I probably would’ve just yelled at him when he showed up. People should have more integrity instead of being AHs to AHs but that’s just me and people that would put him in the hospital. Need to chill.

@rubymeaddle

2 ай бұрын

So another update did come out: he was cheating

@lindah3803

2 ай бұрын

@@ultraboy2669 Depends on your idea of integrity. You also seem to lessen the actual offense. Hubby's actions literally endangered his wife and baby. Brother barely got her to the hospital in time to save her and the baby. Yet, you're bringing up integrity. This comes across as you thinking that hubby deserves some amount of consideration or respect. Now as for putting him in the hospital. Some people have to experience similar pain to realize just exactly what they have done. Just so they don't act like that again. Real families defend and protect their members.

Story 1 Trust, but always Verify... Always ask for Paternity Test and if she doesn't agree let her know you will not sign the Birth Certificate/AOP without one (also you don't need her permission to do one anyways)... Women will always have the certainty that the child is theirs, but for us we will never have that luxury. Don't leave it to chance and get stuck raising another man's child, you have a right to know if the child is yours or not.

@georgeprchal3924

2 ай бұрын

Well let's hope it's not his because that dude shouldn't procreate.

Before watching just off of the title, ETA. After watching, still ETA. Although obviously the husband is the biggest one for cheating. I personally feel like she should've just gotten the paternity test, if only just to show the husband how much of a douche he was being. The brother was also pretty fked up for "pranking him" though. I get standed up for your sister, but that was a pretty weak way to go about it. And the MIL should've just kept her mouth shut. Messed up story all around.

@lindah3803

2 ай бұрын

Way to blame the victim.

@crowfather0249

2 ай бұрын

@@lindah3803 At what point did I "blame the victim?"

@RequiemPoete

2 ай бұрын

​@crowfather0249 "just get the test"

@crowfather0249

2 ай бұрын

@@RequiemPoete How is that blaming her? I just said that I don't see why she couldn't have just gotten the paternity test.

@HeliosX28

2 ай бұрын

@@crowfather0249Because their feelings get hurt because the Father wants to make sure he isn't raising another man child...

1st story-OP is an ignoramus. First off, it should be mandatory that all fathers should be given a paternity test at birth. A mother should have absolutely no say in that at all. Second, her brother is a moron for getting involved in her relationship the way that he did. It wasn't his place to say anything to the husband on the phone, other than his wife is at this location and waiting for him. Third, she should be concerned over the fact that the therapist has plenty to say about her relationship with her husband and nothing to say about the horrendous prank that her brother played on her husband. Almost seems like the therapist has an agenda. Fourth, she was directly responsible for that trust being broken by getting pissed off that he wasn't by his phone every waking moment, when she should have been at the house with him the whole time. Instead of letting her pride get in the way of giving her husband peace of mind, she chose to destroy her entire family. And she did all of that only to admit that she's going to end up giving him the paternity test anyways, just so that she can screw him over in court. How is anyone seeing her as a rational-minded human being? Something that should have been as simple as a "I never cheated on you, but to give you peace of mind I have no problem doing that" when it came to him asking about a paternity test at the beginning and she would still be happily married and taking care of by her husband. And to anybody who's wondering why men want a paternity test at the time of birth. It's because statistics have shown that 1/3 of men in America are raising a child that is not theirs and they don't even know it. Men finding out that their child isn't theirs because they go to see if they are a match for a medical procedure or get some type of ancestry kit for the whole family, only to be surprised with the news that one of the kids happens to belong to the neighbor two houses down the street. It has nothing to do with projection and everything to do with current track record. 2nd Story-the husband that chose to relax during the time that his wife was recovering from giving birth to his child, is a humongous POS who deserves to get a first class ticket to the upper room via a satchel of Wilson's. That is completely unacceptable for a man to use paternity leave as an excuse for a vacation. There's absolutely no excuse for his behavior. 3rd story-then you have this heartbreaking story and you can't be mad at nobody for anything. The wife was handling everything being thrown at her, the best way she possibly could and without being overly emotional and the husband wasn't in control of his emotions at the time. It's sad that they are divorcing because he's no longer in love with his wife, but hopefully co-parenting will facilitate their relationship reblossoming. I legitimately feel sorry for OP having to go through this heartbreak, especially knowing that what caused it was out of everyone's control.

@Nerdbookworm

2 ай бұрын

To me if there’s going to be mandatory paternity testing, then we need to have the right to sterilize ourselves and right to not allow men to EVER stop paying child support unless the kid is an adult. But of course no one ever wants to do anything to benefit women, just men.

@gabriellemeche992

2 ай бұрын

Story 1: the prank was too far but her life was on the line. She almost did die and him leaving his very pregnant wife and not answering not one but numerous calls by not only OP but her brother then calling back only once then the next he starts arguing when the phone was answered the second time then screaming in the hospital when she came to after surgery and you're only focusing on the paternity test? Every pregnancy and labour, sorry to say, has a chance to end in death. I would give him the test then I would divorce him.

@DocMartn253

2 ай бұрын

@@gabriellemeche992 you don't realize how you contradicted yourself and argued on my behalf. Yes, her life was on the line. But like you said. Every pregnancy and a woman going through labor, are like threatening to women. So the crank was beyond going too far. The husband didn't leave. She left. She was staying at her brother's house and went to the husband's house while he was running errands. If she wouldn't have been so selfish and given her husband the paternity test, nothing in that story would have happened. And of course you're the type of female that sits here and says that I would have given him the test and then divorced him. Clearly you don't know what it's like to be your father wondering if the child that you're looking at is actually yours. If you feel that a man asking you for a paternity test is worth divorcing him, then do yourself a favor and don't get married or have relations with men anymore. Because every father has the right to know that the child that he is raising, belongs to him. Women like you are so self-centered. Just because you carried the baby to term, doesn't give you more rights over that child than the father. The only reason women are not asking for maternity tests is because the baby is coming out of them. So my questions to you are what is so wrong with giving a man that you loved enough to impregnate you, peace of mind of knowing that the child that you just gave birth to is actually his? And why is your man asking for a DNA test, grounds for divorce?

@DocMartn253

2 ай бұрын

@@gabriellemeche992 like you said, a woman's life is on the line every time she gets pregnant. So you literally contradicted yourself by acting as if that was a justifiable reason for the brother to act the way that he acted and not be held responsible for his actions. If she would have just said yes to letting her husband get the test and giving him that piece of mind, none of this would have happened. That's the issue with a lot of you females with your nonsensical thought process about paternity. More women would be wanting a maternity test if the child wasn't already coming out of her. If you think it's disrespectful for a man asking you for DNA test, just imagine how disrespectful it is when a woman denies him. If a DNA test is grounds for divorce in your eyes, don't get married. Don't have kids. Because one, they're starting to make it mandatory and it's only a matter of time before every state has it down that anybody that's potentially the father should get a DNA test at the time of birth. And two, you would be completely in the wrong for denying your man while in the same breath saying that you love him and will forever destroy any trust that he will have for you. It's hilarious to me that women would rather take a father away from their child and struggle for the next 18 plus years to raise that child, instead of just letting the father get the DNA test and everybody be happy. That type of thought process is not only childish, but it's completely repugnant.

@gabriellemeche992

2 ай бұрын

@@DocMartn253 okay sir incel. Because it doesn't seem to compute to you. I'll explain in point form. 1. No one said the brother's actions were justifiable. You probably need some reading comprehension. 2. That man was willing to let his calls go unanswered when his wife was going into labour for what reason? He never explained and just wanted to punish a heavily pregnant woman because he could. 3. You speak a whole deal about trust but isn't that what he's saying? He doesn't trust his wife to be faithful so he wants to verify. If he was doing it for some other reason, he wouldn't be hounding his post partum wife with that request. 4. Thank you for advising me to not get married or have children *male* because for some reason you think that that is the only goal I want in life. First, I'd have to find someone who isn't like you. 5. Who said I'd struggle as a single mother because of some deadbeat who seems to be projecting? If that little tw*t thought that his baby wasn't his, why would I subject my child to that? 6. He obviously wanted to insinuate that she risked his mental and sexual health by cheating so why wouldn't he be happy if he got rid of her and why would she want to be with someone who'd think so lowly for her? Or do you think you should always be living in a state of perpetual dissatisfaction with your spouse?

Story one) OP and her brother are the biggest assholes like you don’t “prank” your sister’s husband by saying she died in childbirth that’s fucked up and I side with the husband like for all we know her husband could have been in a meeting with his phone off

@i10i60

2 ай бұрын

Then why did he take 10 (TEN) hours to respond? Then why didn't he say that he had a meeting? Op and her brother asked him repeatedly why he didn't answer the 30+ calls, and he never gave a reason? What meeting lasts 10 hours? You don't leave your 9 months pregnant wife alone and without a means of contacting you. That is being an irresponsible father and husband, and it's much worse than being an asshole. The brother spent hours fearing his sister and niece would die. OP spent hours in a near-dead condition fearing her daughter's health and hurting from her husband's disregard for her and their daughter. The daughter was near death too. A 10-minute prank to let the husband experience a minuscule fraction of the 10 hour hell OP, her brother and daughter went through is not asshole-ish at all.

@brandinicole1372

2 ай бұрын

The prank was extreme and totally overboard but deserved . Also you can’t ignore the fact that she and the baby almost died and her brother was there to watch as he almost lost his sister and niece and the husband didn’t have the decency to respond. Asking for a dna test isn’t the issue but the way it was handled was totally wrong. I have zero sympathy for the husband and mil.

@brandinicole1372

2 ай бұрын

@@i10i60I totally agree

@lindah3803

2 ай бұрын

Yes,all of this. Plus that comment indicates that the commenter termin.... Is just as much of an AH as OP's hubby.

@M.W.2

2 ай бұрын

​@@lindah3803he's a plant to generate more interaction

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