"If you try to start from the beginning you'll lose steam and never get anything done" ---- OOFFFFFF! I needed that reminder.

@octavia88

2 жыл бұрын

And here I am, paused the video at 0:07 while reading comments 😂 just following the ENFP stereotype

One tip that works for me (ENFP) when being overwhelmed with things to do/what to take on first: write everything down on a to do list so you can clear your mind ('forget it'). Afterwards you can focus on 1 item at a time.I personally also color code it. Yellow = to do, red = very orgent/overdue, green = done, pink = awaiting feedback from other people. -> every time one item is completed, i put it in green to get that dopamine stimulation, boosting you to complete another one :)

thank you omg. i’m an enfp with big goals and honestly the skills and creativity to achieve them. i just have trouble getting it done. my parents are always like you need to plan every second of your day because that’s a ‘habit of successful people’. i just can’t do it. i’ve tried countless times and it just doesn’t work, i still don’t get the job done and it just makes me unhappy that i don’t have any freedom in my OWN DAY. thank you for this again, i find i work so much better when i’m thinking and finding and talking to diverse people and being engaged and learning about new or random things that allows my brain to figure stuff out and thrive, changing up even the smallest things in my life. this really resonated with me, pleasee keep going :)

@shannahighsmith1179

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. I need to talk to lots of people every day.

@angellombness4371

2 жыл бұрын

Woah! Love the ENFP club - everyone's comments resignate so well.

@octavia88

2 жыл бұрын

I found out that making daily to do list really helps me out a lot - I don't forget deadlines as easily. I never get the whole list done but that's ok, the following day I look on the past lists if I missed something and try to get things done..

@hotrodpat1

2 жыл бұрын

@@octavia88 Try also making a Done List. You'll feel better being reminded of what you've accomplished. Keep up the great work!

@octavia88

2 жыл бұрын

@@hotrodpat1 my done list is the to do list with big crosses over the squares ⬜

I swear everytime you have a sit down advice chat I start to tear up. It feels amazing to know that I am not crazy and I can function in this world, I just need to hack it the ENFP way. I love this...I feel so empowered and full of hope/potential. Does anyone else feel like normal life is just hard...?

@user-kr4yu6kx1l

2 жыл бұрын

ME. Normal SJ-ish life is an ENFP torture (I'm in a low quality school with loads of repetitive work). I felt crazy and thought something is wrong with me. After this video I feel hopeful and empowered too!

@Pirogok01

2 жыл бұрын

Yes. I felt the same way when I watched her videos for the first time today. The feeling of finally being seen and understood… And ye normal life feels pretty hard sometimes for me too

@MsNysie

5 күн бұрын

Totally agree. I have never really been able to find my place in the world but I'm not giving up and this video certainly does help inspire us doesn't it?!

No joke, this gave me more actionable information than 50 other ENFP videos combined. You dug down to the root behavioral explanations of WHY we do and think things the way we do, and you were so articulate in explaining it all. Thank you so much; you hit a home run with this video!

@berumenberumen2649

Жыл бұрын

Heidi is the real deal. Im on a diet of Daily Heidi.

“give your brain crops some water” I’m gonna repeat this to myself whenever I feel uninspired and stuck!!! This is SUCH. a helpful way of looking at productivity for Ne. Thank you ❤️

This is like a coaching session I would pay $500 for. Pure absolute gold. Thank you so much

I AM SO HAPPY YOU EXIST

@heidipriebe1

3 жыл бұрын

What a kind thing to say. I’m so happy you exist too ❤️😊

@roblake602

3 ай бұрын

@@heidipriebe1 This is so true: Developed treatments for human aging doing this!

I'm only 4 minutes in and I'm loving this. It's like I know this but had to be reminded...especially nowadays where people are completely pushing this "Te " way of life down everyone's throats.

@Hallelujur

3 жыл бұрын

💯💯💯

@KCMJournalist

3 жыл бұрын

Her best video yet! I was energized just from the first five minutes. I was starting to feel guilty and it’s the first time I felt directly connected to her.

All the ENFPs (me included) getting excited after watching this video and getting super motivated and enthusiastic are going to forget about this one week later! Hahahahaah..... As an enfp, I've seen multiple life changing videos and read articles which I've been sure would change my life, and after a few days, bbye persistence and determination!

@peterbeyeza2383

3 жыл бұрын

Enfp to enfp... consistency is also a big problem for me.

@furrowsan

Жыл бұрын

SAME HAHA

"It's easier to tame a fire than it is to try to spark one that isn't there." OMG I love this so much!! I really wish they would teach more about these kinds of approaches & methods to life/learning in school. I see so many xNFP friends of mine who struggled growing up and only flourished after graduation because before they were trying to be productive like an xNTJ/xSTJ type! Even as an INFP myself, the advice you read out loud at 6:40 about the way you can't write an essay the way others do is the most accurate thing I've heard! I always did well on my essays and LOVED cross-contextualizing/immersing in new ideas, but I took twice as long to write them because I had to deconstruct & rearrange the pieces from the original draft or outline the teachers made me follow. I wish I could have found your channel when I was still a student, Heidi. Thank you for teaching the NFP types to work with their natural tendencies & motivations!!

As ENFPs our desire for productivity can lead to guilt while we our going through a refractory period. We too are allowed seasons to slow down and reflect. Maybe instead of feeling guilt, we can feel a sense of accomplishment for adapting patients with ourselves, especially when this is such a hard lesson to learn. Be kind to yourselves ENFPs ❤️

@emocean582

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, guilt & shame. I get as much done yet the criticism from peers and family (I'm older at 50) for NOT being "traditional" stings!!

Heidi I owe you the biggest thank you in the world. I am an ENFP, Aquarius, dragon (Chinese astrology) and I swear I am the biggest dreamer on the planet with zero follow through. It’s not because I don’t want to be successful, it’s just that I have so many ideas and thoughts that sometimes I feel like I can’t even move. Listening to your videos gives me some clarity and is helping me take the first steps to action. You make me want to be a better ENFP and person. Thank you so so so much for your videos.

Mind maps help me focus. They have a central theme. You build branches by associating ideas. Great for gathering knowledge, seeing patterns, building on your own ideas and those of others. You can draw them by hand on the back of an envelope or you can use software with products like TheBrain or MindManager. (INFP perspective)

@kellikakes81

3 жыл бұрын

Yes!

Wow, you're a God-send... I feel like if I'm consistent enough in following your advise I'd build an empire...

@heidipriebe1

3 жыл бұрын

I have no doubt that if you want to build that empire, you can and will ❤️

I love this. SO much. Possibly the best ENFP advice I have ever heard.

Wow it’s so eerily familiar as an infj watching this in a hall of mirrors kind of way. ( I’m only on your first point ) I have been jotting a few things down that might help infjs for a future book or article. One of the first points I made was Introverted intuition feels kinda magical but it’s only as good as what you feed it! (Whether that be books or experiences or exposure to people)

The quote you were probably referencing at 11:09 is "Time management is pain management.” It's from the book Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life by Nir Eyal Thanks so much for your videos. I bought your ENFP book a long time ago and it makes sense you've had a successful transition to youtuber/coach. You add so much value! Love your stuff. You are awesome.

ENFP here. Ok so it took me 6 hours to watch this. I kept getting distracted with Olympics, organizing my trip to Cusco and buying an specific alcohol to clean stuff. I really liked the video, you are like a role model for how an ENFP can be a functioning human being. I will need to watch the video again and take notes about it. I really liked the quote from the book about mind going absolutely in all directions when writing an essay. There are just so many possibilities and they are all linked in a way. Well, I´d like to say that besides all the good information you are giving us all, you do look like a very cool person. The vibe you share is as good as mine haahhaah jk. I do get in a better mood when watching your videos. Keep up the good work

The planning an essay advice is so amazing!! I used to write all my essays overnight before the deadline (so I HAD to be productive), with minimal planning and just write it from start to finish and then do well because I’m a good writer, but get comments about structuring it better 🤣

@Joanna-ci6zc

2 жыл бұрын

Amen!

Thank you so much for all the pragmatic, no-BS tips!!! Bookmarked forever. P.S. Daily meditation was a game-changer for me on this front -- and I initially didn't think I was even capable of it. I started with 5-minute guided meditations and worked up from there (now up to 45-minute non-guided instrumental tracks!). 10/10 recommend for improving emotional regulation and focus.

@heidipriebe1

3 жыл бұрын

I love this!! I got the idea of doing '1 minute a day' of meditation from a friend who was doing it... I thought one minute surely couldn't make a difference, then we fell out of touch and caught back up a few years later and she was regularly going to 5 day meditation retreats... I was like damn, okay. I stand corrected hahah.

Wow! That was spooky - like all my productivity problems listed.Thanks for breaking this down and giving possible solutions. I always feel soooo bad about getting stuck in unproductiveness and being sidetracked by "brain-porn" like political articles, psychological books, scientific videos etc. instead of actually doing my work. And I never get anything done in the order I "planned" it. The best advice I found for myself was from this book "The one thing" - sitting down in the morning and thinking about what task being done would have the most impact and just planning that (and nothing else) for the day. The rest comes spontaneously.

HEIDI! This just changed my life. I don’t need to wait to find out for sure, I know it did. Thank God for you!! You are such a blessing, full of so much wisdom! Can’t thank you enough for the different videos you’ve shared that have really hit home for me, and have helped me tremendously. What a gem you are!! 💎

@heidipriebe1

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this outrageously kind comment - it honestly made my day ❤️

@roblake602

3 ай бұрын

@@heidipriebe1 It's true!

Literally saw this video and said “THANK YOU” before even clicking on it. I’ve gone the hyper structure route before seeing it work for others and always wondered why I felt so burnt out and uninspired when I was doing all the “right” things to be productive. The wanting to learn about anything and everything and seeking novelty resonates so much within me. Definitely saving this video for future reference!

One of the most helpful tips I ever read was to give yourself the opportunity to procrastinate within the project. So devide the project in different areas - for example if you are writing a thesis for university it might be helpful to have the practical part, the research part and the writing all going at the same time instead of doing it in a specific order. That way you may do something else than originally planned entirely, but still be satisfied with the outcome. I think it aligns nicely with lots of the tips in the video as well.

@heidipriebe1

3 жыл бұрын

I love that actually!! Thanks for sharing it 👏

@appolinash

5 ай бұрын

This is so true ❤

Wow, I finally understand why I felt so unproductive within 3 years of my job. I felt myself slowing losing itself to the world. Your nuggets of wisdom really resonates with me, thank you for the advice! I'm a new fan and just subscribed to yr channel! :)

Thank you thank you thank you. I'm about to start my third year teaching and I'm so tired of not being organized and grading in a timely manner. I love the social part of the job but it's necessary to do the other tedious things too, I know I can do it and these tips are sooooo helpful! I'm excited now 🥰

I love the idea of ENFPs compiling "life" in a diverse way. I find myself waiting for "the plants to grow" all the time with utter impatience - thank you for your message to give ourselves permission to get moving first.

I would love a video about ENFPs dealing with the forced routines of motherhood and trying to get anything else done. Diapers, laundry, baths, school schedule...are so life- draining even though the kids themselves are so life-giving. Have you come across this feeling with ENFP moms you have run across? I feel like ENFPs thrive as young singles, it is like our natural habitat for implementing most of what you talk about. Marriage & kids are so fulfilling but make being an ENFP much trickier. Thoughts?

@Hallelujur

2 жыл бұрын

This is such a great point! I'm still trying to figure that out and we already have teenagers. 🤣😣

@emocean582

2 жыл бұрын

50 y.o. ENFP here, I agree. Looking back what would have changed all the downsides was a partner who appreciated my qualities. My former husband was a good monitorial provider yet didn't value the quality time we had (the children & I or him & I). Thus I NEVER got my "well" filled with validation water. My partner now is ENFJ...it would have been a blast to raise children with him!

@emocean582

Жыл бұрын

@@Recusant_ He refused to test yet I'd say definitely a Sensor. The SJ combo for me is the toughest to be around. NJ, not so bad.

@holleighlordel1575

Жыл бұрын

Yes!!! The forced routines of motherhood and trying to get anything else done….have turned me into someone I don’t like. 😢 A video about coping with that would be greatly appreciated.

@brighterdays2come

Жыл бұрын

I'm a 43yo ENFP with 2 young children, 5 & 10. I like to stay busy but need to learn to monitor my energies as I often feel burn out. My friend Leah tells me that whatever I get done in a day is enough. I can rest in that. That is hard but I'm trying to believe it so that I can feel good & not guilty over what I was able to do/not do. To keep up on my house I try to do 1 thing a day the same every week like dust every Monday, floors every Tuesday, bathrooms every Wednesday and so on. That helps with keeping up on the daily of laundry, dishes, homework. I think the hard part about this "life" is that we're not applying our fun, creative sides to motherhood. How can we do that in a way that turns these mundane demands into something we love?? Can we simply view it differently, possibly as building into something vital? I don't know.

OMG, YOU are my LONG LOST TWIN, or my previously undiscovered new BFF. 😂I feel SO seen! Thank you for creating these videos, I have seriously wondered if I was a crazy person because NO ONE thinks like me, but EVERY. SINGLE. THING. you said in this video is relatable! 🙌

I am crying. Thank you so much! I needed to hear that right now 😭❤💫💯

Heidi, big thanks for sharing all this knowledge. It just feels great to be understood and receive your exceptional guidance!

Wow, this is the best ENFP productivity video on the internet hands down. 👍

Hey Heidi, as a fellow ENFP, thanks so much for putting out this material uniquely to our mental processes. As you said in your other videos, the world is populated and structures are made for and by SJ types so we can feel 'lazy' or 'out of place' for not fitting in so easily. I'm benefitting so much from this material. Thanks so much! :)

I AM SOOOOOOOO ON BOARD WITH YOU ON EMOTIONS HEIDI. I APPRECIATE YOU PUTTING THIS OUT THERE.

Preach Heidi Love your stuff. Best ENFP-specific stuff out here. Love the Bootcamp too.

Really learned a lot from the survival guide, and now I'm way stoked to explore your channel! The content you cover keeps me mindful of my thoughts/actions, and I'm very thankful for that. Keep up the great work!

I really need to hear this right now. Thank you so much!

Thank you so much!! This makes so much sense! I can feel my dopamine increasing already! :)

This has been the most insightful productivity video that I've ever come across. Thank you!!

A great video! Everything is helpful and very true and explained in a super nice way. Thank you!

I don't have the words to thank you enough for putting this content out. Wow! Incredibly helpful. Beyond grateful. Thank you!!!

This is soooo validating and helpful! Thank you so much! ❤

This video was so helpful 🥺🥺❤️ you're the coolest Heidi 😘

Wow Miss Heidi, this is really cool. I'm struggling with my final project and your video really helps me. Thank you!

This feels like a Master Class, thank you for uploading this when I most needed it. Keep up the great work!

omg thanksss soo muchh for thiss video heidi!! i feeel like a whole new world opened up in my mind... it feels as if a burden was lifted and i was nudged onto the right path.. i also feel proud of myself for having some tools already in place and motivated to combine what u mentioned and what i already know to come up with all the little things that will help me get the most out of my life..not just in case of productivity but in general too.. i grew up in a family of an ESTJ dad and an ISFP mom.. and hearing you talk about your family of SJs reallyy comforted me...seriouslyy. all that you said, at times i felt called out or like it didnt fit with me cauz i felt hesitant cauz i hadnt done that before but the more i kept listening, the more it all made sense and the more it all fell into place in my mind... i'll keep rewatching this video and other ones too to reallyy get started on working on each of my functions.. all of em.. def gonna try my very best to not to neglect Te and Si xD i used to run away from those two but i really think now that i can get all of my functions, especially Te and Si under my control.. and hence my whole life under control...well uk chaotic fun spontaneous but also productive control.. hehe. MAJORRR THANKSSS! i do want to join your program right away but i think i will hang out with myself and work with myself for now... once i start earning, for sureee joining that bootcamp heh. ^-^

So so good. Every Enfp must watch. The best I have seen on KZread thus far.

THANK YOU girl!!! This is SO TRUE! Ijust had an aha-moment when I watched this video. My enfp-brain has been sooooo unmotivated for a long time, and this video gave me motivation to take back my motivation!!! Thank you!! 😃🥰💖

HOLI MOLY! This is a TOTAL game changer! Thank you so so much. Your content on ENFPs is truly invaluable ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

Bookmarked forever. I feel like Heidi just read my mind ❤️

Omg that is so relatable! Thank you for these videos, finally I feel someone gets me and doesn’t blame me for being lazy.

This was so helpful! You articulated what I had intuitively figured out, but still hadn’t made logical sense of it. Now I have a clear game plan of the hows and why’s, and it all makes sense.

Oh wow! I need some ENFP friends. This feels so right and the first bit with the “Humans aren’t real” tee shirt, had me in stitches. This is so me and now I can laugh and think how funny I am instead of how awful.

this is everything i've ever wanted to know 😭 thank you so much for the work that you do

This video is amazing! I saw myself in so many situations you put on it. Thanks a lot! You also encouraged me to try those "different" things when it comes to being produtive.

I feel SEEN! This was absolutely amazing and helpful from start to finish!!

this video just popped up in my recommended section and i’m sooo glad it did. this was very eye-opening and helpful for me (as someone who is an ENFP with severe ADHD). thank you so much :)

Super useful video! Thank you so much for making it! I struggled with productivity during the pandemic so much, but now that things are opening up I've been slowly getting much better at working again. I realized that I really needed a change of environment and social interaction to feel motivated

Explains so much and gives me permission to acknowledge rather than fight my realities . Thank you.

I flippin love you Heidi Priebe, thank you so much for this video. Sending good vibes to you and the entire ENFP community, we're in this together lovies! :D

You are taking the words out of my mouth, this helps me a lot, thank you❤

Your channel is so underrated. Thank you for this video

I took the personality the and found out I was an ENFP the same day this was posted, and it explains a lot about myself! Thank you, in an funny way watching this video casually kickstart my motivation and sent me to work mode. You have my subscription!

This is one of the most helpful ENFP videos that I have seen. Thank you!

You are brilliant and your work is brilliant! This video is very helpful! Thank you!

This was mindblowing ! I cant express how much i felt related to everything you were raying ! Thx a lot i think the world needs more videos and info like the one you give

Thank you so much for this informative and inspirational video! I am an ENFP, and this video helped me a lot to understand the problem and know what I can do.

your vids are an absolute blessing

Perfect! You always explain my mind perfectly. Wow!!!

This channel is seriously a godsend! Very impressed as an enfp your editing and organizational skills. And you also seem to have a lot of knowledge about a lot of different things which makes me happy. This whole video was just preaching to the choir. I’ve been talking about starting a KZread channel/podcast for over a year now. You’re definitely an inspiration ❤️

@ayandangidi

2 жыл бұрын

I eventually started a channel. Growth has been organic which I appreciated. Now I’m stuck. 🥺🤣 The overthinking and boredom and everything else keeps me standing still but these tools help a lot.

@beatsg

Жыл бұрын

What a beautiful compliment! You are gorgeous!❤️

This is amazing. I really needed to hear all of this. Thank you so much! I have been getting so depressed recently in my effort to get my life together. I think you might be right that that feeling comes from repressing my true nature. "Without wanting to die" is no joke!

Perfect title because this is exactly how I've been feeling lately! So many gems in this video! Hopefully I can join your bootcamp if it's still going soon! xoxo Thanks Heidi!

I LOVE THIS VIDEO SO MUCH 🥺🧡 THANK YOU. From an ENFP who wants to grow and be a better human 😊

This is AMAZING. It explains so much. My intuition and my brain have rumbled for decades around so many angles where you shared tips. THANK YOU.

YOU ARE CHANGING MY LIFEEEEE THANK YOUUUUUUUUU

This is the most comprehensive talk of precise specifics that are correct on ENFP I've heard. Very, very, very good!

wahhh i’m going back to school soon so it’s really nice to see this video show up on my page!! because of online school i’ve fallen out of my usual pace and i tried endlessly to find sources that could help my enfp brain to start working again LOLOL thank you for the wonderful video

Thanks as always, Heidi, for being the voice of compassion for our ENFP selves. I'm self-employed and collapsed mentally during the 2020 shutdown by mid-October, unable to work or think, and turned to MBTI to help me restructure my life in a sustainable way that didn't take a busy city for granted (since who knows when it will be available or taken away again due to the pandemic). Gradually I have gotten back on track by adding in loads of diverse input, as you advise, and it truly does work. I had assumed I needed people as the main interaction since we're extroverts, but I quickly found that who those people were needed to vary widely from day to day. I also realized that to stay on track my extroverted intuition absolutely demands diverse thinking -- films, museums, books, landscapes, activities, conversations-- it just has to get changed up for my brain to continue to crank. But I was still feeling a lot of shame around this need. After all, I'm inordinately proud of being my genuine self like any Fi, so why couldn't I make my brain work without needing the world so much? I was feeling like a drug addict, but with information and experience, UNhelpfully comparing myself to my INFJ and INTJ besties, who can and have gone months without needing this stuff like I do. I love this video! You'll laugh because I avoided it for weeks after you first posted it, precisely because I was too busy castigating myself for needing it. You're a true gem 💎 I can schmooze any therapist out there into thinking I'm fine, but you see us ENFPs wrestling the demons and always name them accurately. I so appreciate you and second the chorus: I am so very glad you exist! Thank you, thank you, thank you.

This comment section feels like home, a big loving family! Thank you so much for this video, so interesting and helpful!

This video! This just answered so many questions! I’m exhausted emotionally and mentally trying to focus on, and run my own business… excluding all other interests… I’ve been doing it the wrong way for me! Thank you! You just gave me hope back. Thank you! Thank you! Waiting patiently for your next book ❤️

I literally stopped this video so I could bust my notebook out. These tips are AWESOME, and really realistic for me. I’m so glad I saved it for a time when I could sit and focus on the content of it. Thank you!!

These are such great pieces of advice.. Thank YOU!

I know im an ENFP because not only did this speak to my soul but it described so much of my current process.

The best video on productivity for ENFPs! Thank you so much! 🤗

Heidi! I just want to say a sincere thank you for you have helped me so much in terms of understanding my underlying issues as to why I behave in certain ways. With your insight on ENFPs and attachment styles, I have true hope for improving and healing myself! You are the best and have a wonderful gift. Keep on scintillating and changing the world, girlie! 🤗❤️

Only halfway through, but just wanted to comment to say thank you, because this is really insightful and feels directly applicable to me. I appreciate you !

Putting things into analogies helps me think so much better. Only 4 minutes in and hearing you naturally making analogies makes me digest this info much more thoroughly! :)

Hi Heidi, I just found your channel and wanted to thank you for the content you're sharing. I find it so useful! I'm three videos in and I've already learned so much about how to make my personality type work for me and not against me. There seems to be a generalisation that ENFPs are not good workers, that we're not disciplined, can't stay in one place, etc... It's so comforting knowing how to actually make the most out of our superpowers instead of feeling ashamed for not fitting into what society considers a "good worker" because we are greater than that!

You read my mind!! I was only thinking last night, I wonder if Heidi has made a video about productivity and how to stay on track and motivated. Having you is like having a therapist who is my best friend and knows me inside out. Thank you so much. I know this is a video I will rewatch many times. Big love to you from London xxx

Thank you so much for sharing!! I am a fellow ENFP and I have struggled with my time management, lack of motivation, etc. for as long as I can recall. However, because of our heavy iNtuition, there is so much going through our minds that is wonder and excitement that we would like to actually partake on!! Anyways, I just thank you for all your useful tips and information. - A fellow ENFP :)

Realized that I had purchased your book years earlier. Bumped into your channel only a few days ago. You deserve wayy more many more views as your content is truly helpful and relatable. Better than any ENFP videos I have come across so far. x

Half way in, this is brilliant. Thank you!

I realized after I saw you on KZread I bought your book about 2 years back need to finish it

After re-watching this I realize how important it is for me to have like minded souls that understand that level of depth and that channels that same energy. Always so damn refreshing coming back to this! I feel like if some ENFPs are stuck, it does not take much for us to get out of that rut and get going. We just have to turn our heads and open up and look what amazing possible options there are out there for us. That puzzle forms itself after some natural flow and when we least expect it we truly have synched into that kind of natural flow that just works for you and you and me and you.

This is one of the juiciest content I’ve ever consumed in my youtube history. Thank you so much for helping so many ENFPs

Thank u so much for this! I think this video is the greatest video for me to become a productive ENFP! It is so helpful! Thank you! ❤

Maybe it's a Friday fatigue maybe I am just my usual self but I constantly have to rewind this video because I get ideas and I get lost in them. Great topic, I need it for sure. Motivation keeps slipping away.

Thank you so much! It really helps me for my next steps!! Greetings from Germany 💖 Best, Lisa

The way This video is describing us is just crazy ! I need to buy her book, OMGGGG! ♥️♥️♥️♥️