I am a high school teacher. I share this with my students. If, over the years, just one student gets something from this, then it will have been well worth my time.

@ralfonseca

5 жыл бұрын

Bravo!!!! People like you make the difference in this world.

@fifabublz17

3 жыл бұрын

I love it! Thank you for sharing this with them

@karengerber8390

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you. Your students are fortunate.

@francescaa8331

Ай бұрын

Good for you! Yes. You are probably reaching somebody, although you may never know. Had a teacher that showed us a few short films that were pretty inspiring. And shared about how he saw life. It did make me think. He probably reached a few other kids too.

@Pikkiwoki

Ай бұрын

This talk radically changed my definition an beauty and I am a better man for it.

Dustin Hoffman is talking here about an experience that most women have sadly gone through at some point in their life. This will forever be one of my favorite videos ever

@bascal133

3 жыл бұрын

It’s painful to look at your partner and know if I met them and I was 30 pounds heavier or had bad skin they never would have talked to me and know it’s the truth.

@wonderhollow3240

3 жыл бұрын

@@bascal133 damn that is hard. I'm so sorry... people deserve better than that.

@MAli-os2yj

2 жыл бұрын

@@bascal133 well you yourself chose you partner because you were attracted to them so. Would you go out with some one unattractive?

@bascal133

2 жыл бұрын

@@MAli-os2yj someone I wasn’t attracted to? No I wouldn’t, I feel bad on both accounts.

@fifabublz17

2 жыл бұрын

@The caliph not sure what this has to do with anything; the point of the video is that Dustin realizes how shallow and wrong it is to dismiss or ignore a woman if he doesn’t find her attractive

Dustin Hoffman put into words his realization incredibly well. We need to start teaching kids that women and girls don't have to be pretty to exist.

@justsomeguy6336

7 жыл бұрын

The truth is that girls are judged primarily on looks.

@rebeccabrownie1437

7 жыл бұрын

And although it is the truth it still sucks, saying it is the truth doesn't mean it is alright. We are the ones tha have made it that way and so we also have the power to change it.

@jtonna1624

7 жыл бұрын

If you teach girls it's ok to look unattractive you're teaching them a fantasy. The reality is it does matter to an extent. It is not the be all and end all of existence, but you should not teach them feel-good liberal lies.

@jtonna1624

7 жыл бұрын

+Rebecca Browne - No you don't

@rebeccabrownie1437

7 жыл бұрын

+Just some guy Hard wired? Are you little more than an animal? I accept yes we are automatically attracted to more conventionally attractive people, but do you not realise how ridiculous it is that we appreciate people, women especially, according to how good looking they are rather than the person they are?

This video proves why theater is so valuable, and children should be encouraged to participate in it - it fosters EMPATHY in a person. When you are asked to take on the persona of someone else, to be in their shoes, it forces you to look at the world through a lens other than your own.

@DashManNashCam

3 жыл бұрын

I agree whole heartedly. This is why we need to push back against keeping people of different orientations, races, nationalities whatever from playing against their own identities. When straight men are ridiculed for playing gay because a gay person should get the job, it kinda defeats the purpose of "acting" doesn't it? Simply put, the person who can deliver the best performance should get the role. Hamilton worked just fine with a black George Washington, didn't it? It's the arts. We should never allow others to tell us what brushes and paints to paint with.

@TheRivrPrncess

2 жыл бұрын

It is also vitally important that we teach our children that, although what they are watching is not real they should still feel some emotions for the characters. We need to have the strength to let adults who have the "it's just a movie attitude" that they will not be watching a movie with our children. It is true that as a child grows they might not cry while watching the same movie, but they should still feel something.

Every man should go through Dustin's experience to realize what it's like... Dustin is an exceptional man.

@oldaccount8478

6 жыл бұрын

Paulo Chan no i get it. Unattractive men get the short end of the stick as well.

@FrankieBonsignoreMusic

5 жыл бұрын

😊❤️

@sittingturtleduck

5 жыл бұрын

@Paulo Chan at least you can work to become richer

@sittingturtleduck

5 жыл бұрын

@Paulo Chan because women have it worse when it comes to attractiveness, moron. men LARGELY only care about looks. this isn't an opinion, it's just fact. There was even a government study on it.

@Milla.Llamaface

4 жыл бұрын

@Paulo Chan Jesus what a douche you act like. Grow up.

Most of these comments prove that human beings also aren't capable of thinking of the opposite sex as a valuable person aside from sexual or romantic interest. Get it through your thick skulls, people: YOU DON'T HAVE TO MARRY SOMEONE YOU DON'T FIND PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE. But for God's sake, have an open mind to platonic relationships with the opposite sex and be aware that there are people you're overlooking because their looks don't appeal to you.

@FeministCatwoman

9 жыл бұрын

Fifi If there were more people out there who thought like you, I probably wouldn't have spent so many years being friendless. Thanks for restoring my hope in humanity. :)

@Macrocosm_Of_Dorian

6 жыл бұрын

This should be happening, but given the fact that we have a lot of sociopaths running around, women are more inclined to be friends with women. www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/07/mary-spears-killed-detroit_n_5945518.html wreg.com/2017/10/25/woman-says-man-shot-at-her-after-she-refused-to-give-phone-number/ It's like straight men are hardwired. I'll be honest, I'm a little hardwired, too. I don't know how to approach the problem.

@QUEERVEEART

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah man these comments are such shit it's so disappointing

@malachiwashington356

3 ай бұрын

This comment! Thank you!

I've watched this interview so many times, but no matter how many times I tear up. As a middle aged woman who is virtually invisible outside my familial or professional sphere I don't even cry for myself. I cry for him and his character, because I know what that feels like. It is incredibly moving and profound for me to have someone like Dustin Hoffman really understand what it is like to just be a regular woman.

@NazriB

2 жыл бұрын

Lies again? AIA Money

@JustNess78

2 жыл бұрын

I came here to say something very similar to what you've said, but after reading your comment, I hesitate to write anything myself because you've said it so perfectly. It's like you've taken the words right out of my mouth. Bless your heart. There's something so beautiful, so sentimental and so emotional in knowing that someone understands.... and, in that, I mean both you and Dustin.

How many times did I come back to this video and watch it again only to end up with tears in my eyes? Gets me every single time. Much respect for this man.

@DaniellaShabodiash

7 жыл бұрын

The same here,I get back to the video again and again- and I get amotional everytime.

@scottkirby8204

Жыл бұрын

This is the first time I've seen it and it brought ME to tears. But then the movie does too. And I'm a 73 year old man.

@francescaa8331

Ай бұрын

​@@scottkirby8204 you have a nice sensitivity, and that is sweet.

It’s not just about relationship trouble in an unattractive person’s life. It becomes harder to make friends, harder to have confidence as sometimes our opinions and thoughts just don’t seem to matter as much as the attractive person’s opinions or thoughts

@astoldbynickgerr

4 жыл бұрын

Anushka Gupta exactly.

@sarasteinberg2905

2 жыл бұрын

I feel validated by this comment

@dorkysoul

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly! As an unattractive woman I often get disrespected and ignored. I immediately see the disdain on a person's face when they see me. I try to not let it bother me but it does chip away at me. I've become jaded and I have low confidence. I keep to myself. I don't try to socialise because I know people do not care what I have to say. It is so lonely. And most people don't understand this. It is only heartbreaking for me.

@anushkagupta3897

2 жыл бұрын

@@dorkysoul I'm so sorry to hear that, something that helps me sometimes is to think that the world still has a beautiful face which you get to see and experience - may it be through books or museums or music and your life can be filled with beautiful things and people. I'm sure you are actually beautiful inside out, I hope you and those around you are able to embrace that!

A truly profound statement. Someone who sees the shallowness of social values through the eyes of the opposite sex.

I came here via Reddit post from "an ugly woman." Someone posted this link in response. I get it. Great interview and great emotion / explanation from Dustin.

@bonmot7850

9 жыл бұрын

Me too

@kathrenwashington7038

9 жыл бұрын

Me too

@johncull01

9 жыл бұрын

Me too

@rizzybone964

4 жыл бұрын

Me too

@randywhite3947

4 жыл бұрын

pwndecaf what thread?

It's nice to think that some actors have the intelligence and insightfulness to step back from a character they're playing and recognise that these people do exist in the bigger world, and not just in Hollywoodworldland. Nice work Dustin.

This had me in tears. I've never been the typical pretty girl, I'm very plain and the farthest thing from sexy. I've always had guy friends, but have never been sought after or approached like my sisters or my other prettier girl friends. Hearing Dustin saying these things really touched me and warmed my heart.

@astoldbynickgerr

4 жыл бұрын

TheSmileygirl90 I understand, sis 💙

Set aside that this movie was not about a "cross-dresser" or transgender person. It was about an actor who wanted to find work and dressed up as a woman to get a roll on a TV show. Through that process the character learned what it was like to be a woman and ended up with a perspective of profound respect and understanding for the opposite sex. This what is the embodiment of what Dustin Hoffman went through in real life creating that character. Nobody needs to be commenting on transgender etc. This realization for Dustin Hoffman is beautiful and real and important for everyone to consider understanding.

@bugeater2763

6 ай бұрын

I have not seen all of the comments on this video yet, and while I agree the movie may not be about that I don’t think it’s right to denounce any mentions of transgender themes or even people relating to that experience. being a woman is hard. passing as a woman is hard. you will get very similar treatment, and the same beauty you see in his words is something they see too. art speaks to people in multiple ways

Respect to Hoffman. Few people are able to be that raw about their own experience, much less be so eloquent about it.

"I think I am an interesting woman, when I look at myself on screen, and I know, that if I met myself at a party i would never talk to that character, because she doesn't fulfill, physically, the demands, that we're brought up to think women have to have in order for us to ask them out. She says, 'What are you saying?' and I said, 'There's too many interesting women I have not had the experience to know in this life, because I have been brainwashed and that was never a comedy for me."

@MsLotusBlooms

9 жыл бұрын

norhidayah raziap Profound realization. That may have been the purpose of his entire life, that epiphany.

@julianjdogg

4 жыл бұрын

It's not brainwashing though, it's normal to want to only get to know the more attractive women. Profound epiphany, though.

@Milla.Llamaface

4 жыл бұрын

@@julianjdogg its normal to only want to get to know the attractive women? Jesus dude. This is what i have been saying for years. Men dont want felame FRIENDS. A FRIEND does not need to be attractive. But since guys think with their dick and where it might get them, of course they only want to have attractive females around them. They have a secret wet dream to fuck them ALL.

@KurosakiLuvar01

4 жыл бұрын

Milla true. They even want their “friends” to be “fuckable” in case they might get a chance. As if they even had a chance half the time anyway if they were already placed in the FRIENDS box. Such losers lmao

@Milla.Llamaface

4 жыл бұрын

I know right, it is absolutely infuriating the amount of guy friends I have lost simply because I have told them Im not interested in them like that. We can be super good friends but the second they find out i dont want to fuck them they ditch me! The tought of having friends with hidden agendas is the absolute worst

Still love this interview. It hits me in the gut every time I hear what he has to say and see how emotional he gets. To think of all the people we ignore everyday because they don't fit our ideal.

@MsLotusBlooms

9 жыл бұрын

Randomly Speaking I know, but as sad but it's animal nature….survival of the fittest.

@randomblinx

9 жыл бұрын

Tina Brown You don't have to marry or have sex with someone, you can be their friend. He's saying he never would have talked to them period, so he lost out on potentially valuable friendships. Survival is also dependent on community, which includes friends. If you have no friends (especially those with valuable skills) in an emergency you're less likely to survive.

This was such a great piece. You can see he truly gets so chocked up talking about how he’s been brainwashed into dismissing so many interesting women because they were simply not beautiful enough. He knows better now, and that’s a gift. A real gift.

I don't know him very well, but just from these 3min I can tell he is a very good person. My respect.

@thewhatorwhy

6 жыл бұрын

Maybe ... but what about people who wouldn't have judged women like that to begin with? Funny that someone who isn't THAT shallow is considered a huge hero .

@joshomera7096

6 жыл бұрын

Alex Ander he actually isnt

@robingagan6288

6 жыл бұрын

I thought so too. Update: women have now come out saying he sexually harassed them and he hasn't denied it

@vars280287

6 жыл бұрын

Alex Ander he's one of the greatest actors of all time. I'd suggest you watch some of his 70s and 80s films. He's great and belongs to the same league as Deniro and Pacino and Nicholson

@robingagan6288

5 жыл бұрын

@@susanb2015 odd that she didn't say something sooner

People are hung up on the "attractive" and "ask out" parts. I see his point as being clearly about not giving himself a chance to connect with or even approach another human being on any earnest/intimate level. Many kinds of relationships can exist between men and women with/without age or aesthetic differences.

This interview should be shown everywhere. It's just awesome

What most people fail to understand is that Dustin played himself in Tootsie. Dustin is Dorothy. You can see her passion and strength come through in this interview. Which is why Tootsie is such a great film.

"It was never a comedy for me"

now that is one substantial man

Guys the message here isn't "date someone you don't find attractive or marry her" it wouldn't make sense to do that because you wouldn't be completely happy right, we all have our preferences but what I think is the big message is that don't ignore those you don't find attractive, if you see a girl at a club alone and no guy pays her the minimum attention then be the guy that asks her to dance you might make her day. Be better people is what's the message here. This changed my way of thinking completely because I was one of those guys who would just try to avoid someone I didn't find attractive 😒 and now I see how wrong i was. Good day everyone

@johnfedorov8089

9 жыл бұрын

So essentially you're telling us to lead ugly girls on and then eventually break their hearts. Got it.

@hitthegoat

9 жыл бұрын

John Klitsko That's actually... not... at all what he's saying. He's saying to be nice. No sane woman is going to think a relationship is automatically going to happen if someone asks them to dance. It's not like he's saying call her all the time and spend every waking minute with her. He's just saying to do the nice thing every once in a while and treat people like they're PEOPLE regardless of what they look like. As someone who's pretty unattractive, I deal with the mean attitudes on a regular basis. If a girl comes up and says hi to me I'm not going to immediately think she wants to date/fuck/marry me, but it would brighten my mood and I would have respect for that girl as a person. That's why I treat EVERYONE with decency and respect, whether I'm attracted to them or not. That's what the message is here.

@clubbescene

9 жыл бұрын

Your right. you never know.I actually fell for a girl I wasn't attracted to when we met. Her personality won me over.

@Greenblood60

9 жыл бұрын

Umm...welcome to reality, women don't go to clubs alone, so you're not likely to see a sad unattractive girl who's all by herself. You're more likely to see her actually hanging with an attractive girl that you want to approach, and nine times out of ten ( when you approach said attractive girl ) the unattractive girl will sabotage any attempt that you make at talking to this attractive girl...unless you bring someone along ( the wing man ) for her. Essentially, if no one talks to the unattractive girl, no one is talking to anyone. Why the fuck should you feel sorry for unattractive women when they routinely behave like this ? And where are the women who are expressing empathy for the painful experiences that unattractive men go through ? Where are the women tearing up when seeing attractive men who are constantly rejected and ignored by women ? The answer is women don't give a shit. Why should we men ? Let the unattractive women fend for themselves just as men have to. That's equality.

@hitthegoat

9 жыл бұрын

Greenblood60 what you just described is not reality, it's a fucking sitcom or romantic comedy. When an unattractive girl is out with her friends, she isn't likely going to put a stop to her friend talking to/dancing/getting a drink with a guy who talks to her. This is a scenario invented out of hollywood and it rarely happens in real life. So what you're saying is we shouldn't treat unattractive women like people because of a ridiculous stereotype found in movies and T.V.

And this is why I love Dustin Hoffman

Dustin Hoffman cries a lot in interviews. He's a very passionate intense man

@carolfromhr9900

4 жыл бұрын

Sign of a great actor.

Wow this made me tear up toward the end. So much passion and emotion. I ask myself that question too. How would I be if I were a guy? Would I be more or less attractive? More accepting towards the opposite sex? That made me realize I'm not perfect myself.

Probably some of the deepest truth to ever leave an actors mouth not only in the history of filmmaking but in the history of humanity.

It's disgusting. People have no control over being born 'attractive'. No one decides to be born 'ugly' it wasn't their fault. And to think that many people will treat these 'ugly' people worse over something they had no control over, it really does make me feel sick to my stomach.

@Misrabelle

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly. Yet so many people think the answer is "just lose some weight/get a hair cut/change your style/wear make up" and all of this miraculously goes away. Some people (men and women) will never meet the 'acceptable standard' of attractiveness, no matter what they do. I have Hirsutism, and even on the same meds they give M2F transgender women, I cannot get my hair growth to a normal level. Specialists have told me there is nothing they can do. My only options are cosmetic removal every 10 days. That's not even to make me attractive, just to make me "socially acceptable". To be able to show my face in public and not have people look at me with disgust.

@kathyhayward6207

4 жыл бұрын

Agree totally

@shooter7a

3 жыл бұрын

Sugarrr, you fail to realize that men also have no control over being more attracted to sexier women. You did not think of that did you?

@nickfekula6617

3 жыл бұрын

This made me tear up. Wow. Someone of the opposite sex who gets it.

@umbrasyl

3 жыл бұрын

@@shooter7a fuck off virgin

“I had an epiphany.” He did, and I love his honesty.

This made me cry

Finally, a man who gets it. Thank you Dustin Hoffman.

@jmbwithcats

2 жыл бұрын

A lot of men get it, but it's a beautiful thing to see a man who recognizes how wrong he used to be and how remorseful he is about it... that is the sign of a man who truly wants to change.

I never knew he was so moved on the making of Tootsie. It is hard and there are lot of people who don't get the light of day because of our idea of what men and women should look like.

I am more impressed than ever by this awesome man.

Welcome to my world, Dustin. Welcome. 🍻

this is true on so many levels. at least you got there Dustin cause so many people don't

What huge emotional intelligence Dustin Hoffman has ; and how sensitive. One of the best actors of our time. 💐💖😘👍🌈

So Dustin admits that didn't engage with unattractive women, and Tootsie changed all that. That should be a lesson for us all.

@isabelsiete10

8 жыл бұрын

wow wow

I've always been the unattractive one in my family. I've always been one of the least attractive of my friends, so this really hit home for me. I don't wear makeup very often, I dress in jeans and t-shirts and converse. I'm not tall, I'm not skinny and I have very plain features. I'm always the friend (the 'wingman') but never the one people see as attractive at all.

@cap3727

6 жыл бұрын

TheSmileygirl90 keep you're chin up, you'll be somebodies princess one day

@astoldbynickgerr

4 жыл бұрын

TheSmileygirl90 are you me?? 😅 im the exact same way. _exactly!_ but my features aren’t plain, they’re genuinely ugly.

@Novalunosis90

4 жыл бұрын

A ViRGO Don’t say that! Or imma embarrass you with compliments!

@nicolenorthild5093

3 жыл бұрын

You are a women so you are beautiful and of value period. It’s innate, it just is and it can’t be taken away or added to. I’m sorry if people made you feel less then you are, I’m sorry it’s hard to walk through this world and try to keep a handle on this truth. Truth however it still remains. If people don’t see your beauty/worth that’s on them, it’s not about you. Their opinion might hurt but it does not change your beauty or worth.

@Novalunosis90

3 жыл бұрын

@@nicolenorthild5093 Thank you for that. You are incredibly kind.

❤️ I'm in love with Dustin Hoffman's humanness. I'm glad this got so many views.

DUSTIN YOU GET ME EVERY TIME WITH THIS INTERVIEW. JESUS. "that was never a comedy for me"

this is probably the most universal mankind defining piece of video in the whole world. this says so much about us... it's brutal. thank you dustin!

Great to see a man who is so sensitive and aware; Dustin forever!

When he got to the ending part, i actually understood what he meant by how society has brainwashed into thinking that only the beauty and desirable women are the ones men should look at. And so him playing as Tootsie opened up a realization that he can play a part of a woman in the eyes of someone who isn't seen as your typical desirable woman and so she's interesting in other aspects of her physical appeal. :) Well job done Dustin.

Wow, that's deep. The best part is not only that he realized this, but that he is so hurt by the fact that he himself has helped perpetuate this beautocacy by ignoring average or below average looking women. Bravo to him for having that realization. I have a 2 year old daughter, and although she is very cute and pretty (according to other people) I often chastise myself for thinking to myself "Okay, it looks like she's on course to be a pretty female as a teenager and adult. Good." The truth is, even if I take the high road, so many other people will not, and the advantages of female beauty are not likely to go away even as more and more people become conscious of our partiality towards the beautiful among us. The same phenomenon applies to male height, hair texture, skin complexion and a slew of other traits which have a heritable feature which are "Beautiful" in some and "not so beautiful" in others.

I watch this over and over again because he finally vocalized it! I have had only one or two other men in my life "get it". When talking about a friend who was behaving poorly with men I had a friend tell me that I was the type a man would want to be with not her. And I said, ok, but if you walked into a bar and saw both of us who would you approach.

LOVE HIM! What a great guy to think like he does... You made a gorgeous Tootsie Dustin :)

@guesswho5941

8 жыл бұрын

+Satya Gumbert amazing performer! they don't make method actors like this anymore..

I love this interview and I appreciate Dustin Hoffman's heartfelt candor here. It is a wonderful movie and Dorothy Michaels is such a strong, powerful female character. I love that he clearly gained a new respect and appreciation for women through this particular role. Thanks for sharing this. :-)

Well said, LC. Made me cry a lot. As he tells his story, I see my young daughter, at a party, in all her internal beauty...And standing all alone.

What a beautiful person he is. I love him!!!

I'm a sucker for genuine emotion. Gets me every time.

This goes both ways for sure.

@everettfanor1989

5 жыл бұрын

Women dont care about our feelings. Its all about them. Even if shes fat and ugly. These women are so entitled

I think the important thing to remember when talking about a person's appearance is that ugliness and attractiveness are subjective concepts. That's why I try to use the phrase "conventionally attractive": to remind myself (and others) that these qualities are just considered attractive because we've all supposedly agreed on that point.

I spend 45 seconds trying to make myself look good in the mirror everyday. I have too many physical flaws. I have a disability. Nothing of my body is symmetrical. But I have to stare in the mirror until I see me. Sure it may take a while, but people don't take the time to find me in me. So Dustin's words ring true to even guys. How can I make "true" friends, let alone love, when it takes me a while to find me in the mirror. I cried. But my life has taught me to find the REAL person in people.

I try not to think about it, I used to be gorgeous, and then I gained 80 lbs (because working at a food place isn't good for your health lol), and I'm just ASTOUNDED at the different way I'm treated. I'm 6'2", a super tall girl, and I'M OVERLOOKED. Isn't that crazy? I remember turning nearly every head on the street when I was a teen, and now, according to my co-workers, I look like an "older" woman. Even though I'm only 26. No guys ask me out. My family tells me "I don't need that" when I reach for certain foods at dinners. My relatives, whom I never talk to, only pay attention to my facebook if I lose a few pounds on some dumb diet I've been pressured into. My best friend growing up, who is obese, I never understood why she always hated being next to me in public places, and now I get it. In my friend groups, I am now the "ugly friend," and I've had to work REALLY hard on my personality in order to be seen and valued. I mean, what the actual hell?! Why can't I just be VALUED?? I've given up on trying to "look pretty," because I don't want to get my hopes up, just to be hurt again for not conforming to some dumb-ass standard of beauty. I'm gorgeous, just the way I am. And I think you are too. Positive affirmation girl, that's the key to confidence. BELIEVE you are beautiful, because YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. Screw them.

@dumbasffff

7 жыл бұрын

but isn't that the paradox of that all? is what if you as the 34 year old guy isn't sexually attractive to her? would she be wrong to reject you?

@dumbasffff

7 жыл бұрын

***** I can agree with dat

@alexzracer2008

7 жыл бұрын

Just open a dating app like okCupid, or plenty of fish. You'll get hundreds of messages there.

@J.0.E.

7 жыл бұрын

You can't be mad at people for not liking what you have to offer. You are probably going after the wrong guys. There are plenty of men who like tall fat women. My sister is tall and fat and she found a man and has a family of 5 children now. You can't get mad at people for liking what they like. They don't need to like you. There is someone out there who will love you. Don't get mad at people for not because they are unnecessary.

@dunmer_appreciator1379

7 жыл бұрын

+Mr_Chukes She's getting mad at these people because they're openly disrespecting her constantly. That's a valid reason to be upset. Although, that being said, there's not a whole lot she can do about people being dicks to her for no reason other than the way she looks, and that sucks.

No idea why this took 6 months to go viral, but I'm glad it went viral at ALL. I've seen plenty of his work, but this single video alone makes me respect him not just as an actor, but as a human being.

Now I love this guy

Wow... So many people are viewing this as a contest. As if Dustin scored a point for the "opposing" team... Can we grow up from "well they started it!!" arguments and just view this clip for what it is? Someone of one gender is learning something about another. That's a beautiful thing. He's not criticizing the superficial nature of men. He's criticizing his own superficial nature and is saddened that such a thing exists in human nature in general.

@jmbwithcats

2 жыл бұрын

well said.

I'm absolutely in awe of this. Tootsie is one of my favorite movies and hearing Dustin talk about his role brings tears to my eyes. Bravo! Or rather, Brava!

This interview makes me cry. I met the love of my life when she was overweight and insecure but what an amazing woman... what a thinker, a dreamer, with extraordinary kindness and taste and intelligence... and what a kisser... She died quite suddenly March 26 of 2018 right when we were finally moving in together... and the one thing that helps me keep it all together is knowing how happy she truly was. But I miss her profoundly every day.

@namangupta342

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful! I am sorry for your loss

This is one of the many reasons that Dustin Hoffman is one of my favorite people.

Thank you Dustin Hoffman - beautifully said "I would never talk to . . . I have been brainwashed". You recognized that there are so many opportunities missed to meet and love interesting people - lovely people because all too often we do not look past the cover. Thank you for sharing your epiphany - I hope it will inspire others.

That was beautiful... emotionally raw... I knew I liked him for more than just good acting. And, as the mother of a daughter - and not beautiful, myself - I appreciate his epiphany.

I’ve always loved and admired Dustin Hoffman as an actor, ever since “The Graduate” and “Midnight Cowboy.” Now I respect him even more as a person.

Omg he's such a sweetheart!

it's amazing he gets so moved and the realisation he has come to. what great actor and human being

This is the most humble I’ve ever seen this man. It’s refreshing because he is so damn talented.

AW, I just want to give him a big hug. He is SO sensitive. Love him, love him, love him!

I admire him even more now. It is tragic how much we all end up, consciously or unconsciously, letting a person's appearance determine our opinion of them.

Goosebumps !!! What a remarkable human being he is, I never knew !! Beautiful Soul - inside and out !!! Lots of love to everyone reading along, from Germany, Astrid Eta Anja

He is such a beautiful person!

God bless this man. He's fantastic.

I just respect the hell out of him for coming out and saying this. A lot of people would have talked themselves out of feeling empathy or guilt in a situation like this but he was completely open to the experience. I think if we keep going the way we are going then one day women will be treated as people, not just as objects of lust or something to be ignored.

Thank you Dustin Hoffman. Your candidness and humility is refreshing.

Good dude, my buddy ran into D.H. in ny and he took time out to talk my friend, he even told his driver to wait so he could ask where my friend was visiting from.

I cried. :,(

Soooo powerful

A stunning lessson.

@rebeccamartin5484

2 жыл бұрын

Who knew a piggy back ride on his own narcissism would help him learn as a grown man that women who are physically unattractive may actually be interesting and have something to offer. Not sure if I’m impressed at him self reflection or disturbed by it

@mu6qy

Жыл бұрын

@@rebeccamartin5484 but this is how a lot of men (and to some degree but not as much women) think, they only notice or pay attention to the opposite sex they are attracted too and I think its very honest for Hoffman to admit he same to this conclusion and obviously felt emotional about it.

I love that, so many years later, it *still* makes him tear up to think about what he and so many other men (and women) have done. Good on you, Dustin.

It's weird seeing him talk after watching Rain Man.

@nothingbutphace9646

9 жыл бұрын

You, Sir. . . or Ma'am. . . are the light at the end of the tunnel. This cracked me up.

This always makes me tear up because I, as a woman, have often had that experience. Putting on make up. The dress, the outer shell and then to look and think "is this it? I can't make myself look any better, more attractive?" Arguments for inner beauty and outer vanity may be valid but it's a horrible thing to realise that you're simply not an attractive looking person.

I said 'Wow' too...and realized even further why I adore Dustin Hoffman.

No other actor could have carried it off he was simply amazing and the public loved Dorothy Michaels

@joerubi6249

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I see this video and it makes me cry just about everytime I see this. I was 14 when "Tootsie" came out and it wasn't just a movie for me but something that would point me to my destiny. I am a biological male who longs of becoming female and sometimes, when I'm dressed up I feel like I want to be the prettiest to be but sometimes I feel self-conscious about my looks when I just wanted to live my life. "Tootsie" became one of my all-time favorite films of all time and I am my"Tootsie."

That was a really beautiful moment of truth my respects. It’s time society starts prioritizing substance over just looking good. How unfair when “ugly” women are dismissed when they can still bring so much value to society. And beauty is subjective anyway too! Yes it is nice to look good sometimes and there is nothing wrong with taking care of yourself and maintaining looks. Still though, it is integrity, hard work, humility and respect for others that should be celebrated in the world rather than ONLY vanity. And a large part of this whole selfie-crazed new generation I am afraid is failing in perpetuating these important ideas. Thank you Dustin for seeing this. 💕

Probably the most honest interviews ive ever seen, its a horrible thing to admit but its a sad truth about society, respect Hoffman for putting this talking point out there.

It takes a lot to make me cry but now I am sitting here sobbing. 😞

I find this moving every single time I watch it. If only everyone could experience something like this.

This video changed my life. Seriously. I was brain washed till i watched this.

I've just cried watching this. I dnt get men. They are so inhumane at times. Last two days I've had two male friends say to me they want nothing to do with me anymore. First one, because he wants to sleep with me and it's not gonna happen. The second one, because he doesn't find me attractive, he doesn't want to sleep with me, so why bother talking with me and being friends anyway. He was afraid the reason I contacted him, was cause I want to have sex with him, and conversation was my way to build up to it, so he felt he should make it clear. WTF?!? Are we not human to you? Are we just objects? Scary and so sad at the same time.

@hazelps5990

7 жыл бұрын

Dominika Meštrović I completely understand what you mean. I've never had a relationship, and guys only want one night stands from me and nothing else (even if i don't give it to them)

This really made the tears fall. I've sadly known what it's like to be passed up because I wasn't perfect when I was young. Now, as an adult, I get a lot of compliments about my appearance and guys check me out but the emotional damage is done. I wish humans weren't so cruel and shallow.

Finally a man who gets it. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But we all are so much more. It's not what's on the outside but what's on the inside so to speak. We are more than the sum of our parts.

wow i'm so in love with him right now...

why would anyone dislike this video? wat is wrong with people

@thickheart28

8 жыл бұрын

Agreed, but thank god we live in a day where that freedom is allowed.

most people, not just men, won't ever come to this realization and the fact that he's willing to he so honest and open is a beautiful thing.

Makes me cry every time I watch it. Such a sick society we live in and his statement gives me a bit of hope that there’s still good in people

A masterpiece.

Such a great video..

I've never seen this interview. I saw Tootsie in the theaters, but not this. I'm blown away that Dustin had such a profound experience. It's nice to know he was sensitive to the issue raised by his own expectations. xo

He's so lovely, so human.