As a neurobiologist, the fawn response isn’t primary as you say. I agree that it’s a learned response! However, when highly conditioned from previous experience, that response can be just as fast as fight or flight. The “software” encoding the fawning response. It is similar to the seemingly automatic triggering response of PTSD trauma to evoke sets of emotions when a similar environment cues it.

@TheBehavioralArts

6 ай бұрын

Oooooo really great point!

@TazTom

6 ай бұрын

Cog neuro baby researcher and psychology 4th year here, and that makes sense. It would be interesting to know if it is as fast in terms of observable behaviour vs on the scale we can measure via EEG but at the same time, evoking those states is horrible for participants and that’s a key factor. Have you seen any studies?

@TheBehavioralArts

6 ай бұрын

@@TazTom some research using EEG uses movies to induce stress which is cool in certain settings but I don’t think it would trigger a fawn response. I mean to measure how fast it kicks in first we need to find people who actually fawn as a response to being with and even that is a challenge lol. Sounds to me like you’re well equipped and educated to find a way to research this 🤗

@TazTom

6 ай бұрын

@@TheBehavioralArts I have too many research ideas and not enough lifetime, however I am doing research for fear and stress states in public bathrooms across genders using a VR-EEG paradigm. A similar set up could work with this, but finding participants would be tricky and would need to be handled with sensitivity.

@TheBehavioralArts

6 ай бұрын

@@TazTom omg I love that!!! How can I keep an eye on your research on that? Would love to have a look at that

I really appreciated Renee's response. She had her one foot up and quickly got in down on the ground, like she was setting ready to take action. Standing between Drew and the stan and guiding her out with her arm around her. Her decisiveness and protectiveness are a credit to her.

The finger pointing lesson you gave us is exactly why flight attendants point with 2 fingers. I was a flight attendant 20 years ago and during training they said not to point with one finger bc it makes people not want to pay attention to you and during our pre flight presentation it’s super important for people to hear what your saying and pay attention to you. So that’s why we point with 2 fingers 🥳 it was so cool hearing you say that, it’s been so long since I’ve thought about that 😍

@TheBehavioralArts

6 ай бұрын

Oh wow!!! I love this! I will mention this next time I talk about the finger pointing! Thank you ❤️

@korie4198

6 ай бұрын

When I was studying for a teaching degree they suggested using an open hand, palm showing because it is generally seen as a passive nonthreatening gesture.

@TheBehavioralArts

6 ай бұрын

@@korie4198 yep. Palm displays are usually very non threatening which is why when we want to show we’re not a threat we often out our hands up and display the palms, it’s also the reason as a magician/mentalist I do this alot, to show that there’s nothing hidden or deceitful… yet 😜

A lot of celebrities have to learn to react like the "fawn" version after the initial responses out of habit because of constantly having to be aware that you're under a microscope or that your responses often come under scrutiny. So behaving that way often helps when you're still not sure if there's an actual threat also trying not to come off as an awful person if it happens to be a misunderstanding or more often there's a single picture of you in page 6 or wherever with your expression and a headline that unfairly describes the situation for click bait etc.

Drew Barrymore’s facial expression of polite greeting is amazing…it always reminds me of then she sees E.T. It is really amazing how you can still see that “innate” if you will, innocent surprise still in her face. Really cool…I feel old.

Literally just turned 40 three weeks ago. I needed this. Seriously. I don’t listen to country music so I didn’t watch the show but I’m so glad I had the chance to see this. I needed it. I don’t care about the number - I had my first baby at 24 so I’ve felt old for awhile lol - but because of issues with anxiety and depression, I didn’t end up finishing college and got pregnant before I could earn my degree. It can oftentimes feel too late. I know 40 isn’t dead, it isn’t the end, but youth is definitely starting to wane. And it’s disheartening. And scary. I needed this. A solid reminder that it ain’t over til it’s over. ❤

@TheBehavioralArts

6 ай бұрын

Colonel Sanders opened his first KFC at 62. Samuel L Jackson’s first big role was at 43 Sam Walton founded Wal-Mart at 44 There are countless more examples. Believe me: you’re fine 😊

@weemarie1137

Ай бұрын

It's something you want to achieve, so go for it, I was 45 when I got my HNC and in the same year I found out I was dyslexic, so I was ecstatic when I passed, even though it took me a while, I finally proved my teachers wrong... oh and I'm still learning new skills at 59 😂 .... ❤

@BookishDark

Ай бұрын

@@TheBehavioralArts ❤️ I wish I’d seen this right when you’d replied (I’m awful with notifications lol) Thank you for this! When I went to college, there was a woman in her 90’s in my art history class. I thought that was the coolest thing I’d ever seen - my goal is to keep looking forward…but sometimes youth culture really hits you in the gut. Funnily enough…I wouldn’t want to be 20 again. I had working knees but life was more chaotic.

Regarding the discussion of the sad face when you're not sad, I want to suggest that it is the face of vulnerability and openness. As an empathic person, I get cranked open regularly seeing someone be kind or generous or emotional. Jelly Roll was up on stage being so open and vulnerable, all our mirror neurons were firing like crazy. Seeing a cute cat or a beautiful sunset, you are suddenly vulnerable and open. I'd like to think this is us at our best at being human.

@sarahacosta00715

6 ай бұрын

Yes!! I was also thinking (longing) as well.

Jelly Roll reminds me of how our pastor speaks/delivers his sermons. It does hit you on an emotional level.

I've seen this Drew video and love how the other actress is immediately like uh no and gets up to block his access to Drew. I've also gone down a Drew Show rabbit hole (probably cuz I watched your video of her apology) and love it, her interviews are very interesting and I love seeing her just being able to be her.

Your consideration towards others as a whole is an outstanding example of what type of people we need more of! Thank you!

I saw Jelly Roll live at the Gorge this summer, this is the way he is, he had the whole crowd in tears. He's an incredibly emotional speaker. I admire him

@missfletcher24

6 ай бұрын

Jelly roll feels his feels.

Having just come back to performing at 39yo and just turned 40 a couple of weeks ago, the speech made me cry. The performance community here in Toowoomba, Queensland has been super supportive and tell me all the time that my age means nothing and that I absolutely can be a performer. Because my own journey is similar and that might be why I’m connecting so hard. I wonder is some of the sadness is about how much that was difficult and painful needed to be overcome to get there. I do get conscious flashes of those dark moments in moments of extreme joy. (Oh, an emotive let down now it’s safe sounds on point, typed before this bit initially) I am recovering from a 4 day cognitive neuroscience conference, first time presenting, and I there was a fair amount of facial affective research presented that I saw too. So, I am a bit fatigued but also finding this very interesting. Great video, great choices, really interesting 💜😎 ETA Happy holidays to everyone ❤

I did not consciously catch the facial expressions of contempt but I felt that she expressed a who the heck are you when leaning towards that person. Great catch.

I totally agree about Fawn being a time-buyer. It puts the situation into a holding position until a door appears to really flee, maybe as long as hours away.

@seedsoflove7684

6 ай бұрын

It is stressful, esp if it goes on for years. PTSD could result from this kind of interaction, esp if over years. Like childhood or marriage....

I see physical blocking when Rene puts herself between Drew and the intruder and i interpret that as a fight response from Rene. Good for her quickly acting and removing Drew from a bad situation.

@morganrrhaze

6 ай бұрын

Fight was definitely ready to go.

@lizblock9593

6 ай бұрын

I got that impression as well when she was sitting and drew her leg up, like she was ready to kick.

@weemarie1137

Ай бұрын

That was beautiful to see ❤

A new video from Spidey = a great day!!

Having a stalker is absolutely terrifying, and celebs pretty much have to deal with this on a daily basis. Drew definitely went into fawn mode to calm things down immediately. Awful stuff.

@sivonni

6 ай бұрын

I had a stalker for two years as a teen and I absolutely had "fawn" after a few interactions with him when I was on my own, trying to keep him calm. I didn't even know I was doing it until now thinking back on it. But it felt instinctive in the moment. Even my last interactions with him went from "flight" to "fawn", when he turned up the same class in college. He confronted me after class when I was trying to get away but just to tell me he was engaged and would drop out of the college class so I wouldn't be uncomfortable. I never saw him again.

@sarahpike9508

5 ай бұрын

I'm stalked constantly by an immediate neighbour with extensive evidence to prove it including verbal and written admissions and it's horrific and permanently violating especially because serices who say they are skilled in this area of criminal behaviour, actually aren't thus making the victims life immeasurably worse with catastrophic effects. Celeb or not; people are people and the obsessive and fixated nature and behaviours of a stalker is not a mindset many can comprehend/get their heads around because they fixate and obsess about things you would never even think someone would or could bother with.

@stephanieherman2861

11 күн бұрын

Could it be that she is making fun of him? to me it does not look like she is trying to deescalate the situation. it looks more like a bring it on attitude

Your hair looks AMAZING ❤ this was another great video! I have "tears of joy" all. The. Time.

@dogmamaortiz9046

6 ай бұрын

Thank you for mentioning his hair. I didn't want to take away from the great content but Spidey your hair looks great!

@savvyladylondon5841

6 ай бұрын

I thought that, too! I liked the way it's styled. Maybe he has just come back from the barbers.

That thing about sadness in joyful moments makes perfect sense. That's why people with trauma can collapse in tears when the moment comes. I think it feels like "home". Basic, safe. Then the body can safely let the pain go.

24:35 That dude has grown up in a church! What he was saying and the way he was saying it would fit right into a Sunday morning sermon at a pentecostal church. 😊

Spidey - This is one of my favorite videos you've made. It surprises me because I'm here mainly for the "are they lying" analysis videos, but something about gaining a deeper understanding of these universal emotions is amazing. Thank you for this one!

I got the look of contempt from Renée immediately! When she stood up, I feel like she quickly realized something was wrong and that she needed to get Drew out of the situation. She was surprised and confused for a moment but she quickly realized this man had potentially bad intentions. Drew was surprised and then I feel like she was maybe in shock a little bit seeing this man approaching her. Not necessarily fearful or contemptuous, just almost deer in headlights. I dont mean to brag or anything, I just got excited that I correctly picked up on the contempt from Renée lol

Jelly Roll spoke his truth with the passion of a man who is not only grateful for where he finds himself, but takes the moment to encourage everyone! Thanks for sharing this!

I *love* seeing live action woman protect woman 🫶🙏👏 gives me goosebumps 🫶🙏👏 that instinct clicks and it triggers something similar to mamma bear mode!

For the fear-vs-surprise comparison, I would argue that you're always seeing a combination of both, hence why they are so similar. You can have a high fear-low surprise, and high surprise-low fear, but I can't think of a single time when I've only felt one but not the other.

@TheBehavioralArts

6 ай бұрын

Yeah that’s a great theory. It’s often hard to distinguish between the two

Spidey your videos are the one thing i look forward to watching on weekends however i completely understand if you dont post sometimes. Im also very excited to see what you worked on last weekend as i can see the excitement in your face. I know it will be awesome. And to everyone else that reads this comment please dont forget to Like 👍 this video. 😊

Love love love this! You're the best, Spidey. I have that book, had it for about 10 years now, and you're right, it's awesome. A must-have staple for anyone interested in studying body language.

I am a childhood abuse survivor that freezes and placates. I believe that's what Drew was doing. I don't think she would have left the stage if she was alone. She only left because Rene got up and moved toward her. In my experience fight or flight has to be learned in certain situations.

@NicolaMaxwell

6 ай бұрын

Freeze, flight, fight - people get it wrong and backwards. I think you're right she would've froze first as it's human instinct. I'm so sorry you went through that as a child, it is horrendously difficult to move on from. ❤ best wishes

I didn't see this before your video. But the speech Jelly Roll gave masses me tear up. I'm also glad Drew Barrymore and the woman interviewing were safe.

He brought me to TEARS! I’ve watched his story etc and MY GOD, HE DID IT ❤❤❤❤

Jelly roll has come a long way. His speeches are always emotional. Growing up in TN in small town, is hard. Jelly roll came from the bottom. His small shows were always great and fun, but seeing him now and gaining such a bigger audience is so emotional and couldn't be so more deserving of such an awesome person.

I really like how you approach the beginning with questions and as a teacher/student vibe. Been listening a while and now that I have learned a lot being asked to think made me feel more attentive. ❤ 👍

Woohoooo almost 1 million subscribers!! Congrats Spidey! Hard work, amazing results!! Wooohooo!!

I LOVED this!! More than usual, you exsuted so much joy for what you do, and so clearly love! Love seeing how happy you are 😊

@TheBehavioralArts

6 ай бұрын

Oh wow thanks so much. 🤗

Again, I'm such a fan because he really spots every little detail. I do spot those expressions naturally because I've grown up in a toxic inviroment, so I had to look out for every little hint. I really appreciate your work!

She didn't learn the fawn response as a practice. She learned that dealing with abuse.

@LindaC616

6 ай бұрын

Yes

Another great video critique! Always enjoy watching your video’s Spidey!

At first, It looked like Drew was surprised and happy to engage with a fan. Then a bit confused as she realized what was happening. René, looked concerned, and then rapidly afraid, when she heard his name. With Jelly Roll, he is a very good example of someone who is Faithful, as opposed to someone who is Religious. As an atheist, I can vibe with faithful people all day long. My faith was very important to me when I was a believer. It was hard for me, even then, to get into a close relationship with someone who was very religious. The strictness of their thought was hard to overcome, sometimes.

My thoughts on Jelly's face of sadness... i find that in my happiest/life changing moments.. there is a split second when i am truly sad... sad for the girl that had to suffer before getting here, sadness that the ones i have lost are not here to share my accomplishment, and sometimes it is just such an overwhelming rush of emotions

Enjoy the work over the holidays! Bring back great stories -- and we can't wait to see whatever you big surprise is!

This is the first time I got them ALL ! Surprise, confusion, contempt from the guest, freeze from both, flight from guest, fawn from Drew. 😃

I am from a mid western state, not necessarily a huge fan of JellyRoll but respect hes a top country artist and like a few of his songs. That being said i share a different faith than Christianity. I was not offended in any way shape or form when i watched his speech. I honestly felt pumped, encouraged, pushed in a positive way to keep truckin towards my dreams. JellyRoll is just an average guy (with an internet sensational wife) who worked really hard on his own and he can contributed that success to anyone he wishes IMO

Have a nice busy month 🎉 greetings from Slovenia (Europe)

Did you know at Disney, when you ask a member of staff where something is or which way to go they will direct you using two fingers, they are not allowed to point with one finger as its deemed rude. 😊 great video btw, as always...❤

@LindaC616

6 ай бұрын

Airline attendant pointed out above rates they're trained not to point with one finger bc people will tune you out

@coloursofangels

6 ай бұрын

@LindaC616 Yes, I saw that 😊 I wonder if its a combination of the two, ie; people generally tend to have a negative reaction to being pointed at with one finger, and also think it's rude? What I noticed about the way Jerry Roll pointed though, was that he had his finger and thumb together in a pointed motion, rather than just a single finger...which I thought was cute 😍

@LindaC616

6 ай бұрын

@@coloursofangels definitely

I recently went through a similar experience where I started to cry like a baby in an extremely happy moment. Now I understand why, and it blows my mind. In that moment, I felt like I was truly living my purpose and had to overcome so many obstacles to get there. Brilliant explanation. Thank you, Spidey, for your amazing work.

Tears have different patterns when shed with different emotions. So tears of joy look differently than tears sadness.

Most Body Language channels give straight commentary/reaction. I like that you try to pull us in and get us active with clips. I love to learn…your format is excellent. I am intrigued…. Just like there are 3673 types of bread on the aisle in the grocery store , there is something for everyone. I think you’re the BL channel for me. ❤👏🏾👏🏾

Really enjoyed the video thanks Spidey. Drew's response seemed to be one that's probably been learned over years of experience. As for Jelly's final emotion, I think you described it in your discussion of building up and fighting through something that, but didn't mention (apologies if I missed it) when you know you are through or past it, the response is relief. That release of tension can be very emotional. Keep up the awesome content 😎

I want to create a cartoon of someone fawning a flying football.

I see fawn as a subcategory of freeze. In my experience, absolute “freezing” can be too noticeable, so it’s a way to blend in and not trigger a dangerous reaction.

@TheBehavioralArts

6 ай бұрын

Interesting take 😊

Great episode Spidey! I thoroughly enjoyed it! I truly appreciate what you do and never miss an episode of your show. I hope you have a wonderful holiday season 💜

On the topic of fawn response: From my experience, people do fawn response when they know they or someone else might get hurt if they do something like running or fighting. I have an uncle who never got diagnosed for decades due to his parents refusing to see the professionals after a chiropractor worsened his condition. He would get extremely violent spontaneously and when I was around 5 or 6, uncle's parents dropped him and his 2 younger sisters (my aunts) at my grandparents for few hours. I was doing my homework and suddenly I got punched so hard on my back that my ribs literally made cracking sound and I couldn’t breath for a while. When I turned around after coming to my senses my uncle who was 6"2 standing there with his knuckles raised. I still remember the feeling too scared to even make a peep. His youngest sister ran towards me and stood before me meanwhile the middle sister started to fight him. Youngest sister then stepped in to say things like "oh brother were you hungry? I will give you my candy" things like that because the middle sister was nowhere near to be able to make the 6"2 giant stop. Things got scarier and the youngest sister took me outside to hide near the elevator and the middle sister kept fighting to stop him from going after us (my god my aunts are my angels). After quite some time my mom stepped out of the elevator to take me home and she was surprised to see me and my youngest aunt, thankfully stopping my uncle's shenanigans. Since that day I learned to "fawn" over him whenever there was a family gathering so that I wouldn't get hurt. I would never trust my younger relatives or my child with him even if he is not aware.

Giving myself a big ole pat on the back!!! One has freeze, one has fight... but they both fly!!

I completely love your content and excitement!! Thank you 🎉

I'm so happy with myself that I spotted the contempt 😀 I'm glad you always point out the freeze response within fight or flight. Alot more goes on than just fight or flight. Great video to show all the aspects of this. Thanks

Love you Spidey! Enjoy the holidays! I can't wait to hear about your big news

Thanks Spidey! Re: Drew B "0MG! Th...... HI!" I think she was about to say "thanks" because she's used to fans yelling out something positive like "i love you" then she realized it was something other than a compliment and recovered with "HI!" Looking forward to your surprise. Until then Aloha🌺

@TheBehavioralArts

6 ай бұрын

Yep. You’re dead on. She went into autopilot then corrected in real time 😊. Thanks! Can’t wait to share the news with you all.

I saw the contempt immediately because it's the same reaction I had. I thought of my kids instinctually. I noticed the "How dare you!" look and that impulse is possibly what made her stand up and approach.

Excellent point on "Fawn." it is absolutely a "learned" response. I learned it as a kid, and remember it clearly. I used the old fable of Androcles and the Lion, and approached the bully(s) with figuring out how to de-escalate and address "what's really bothering you?" (I even used the logic of "you've done this so many times, and still feel the same way, so obviously it doesn't work. Let's see if we can figure out what will work?")

Don't burn yourself out. You can't pour from an empty cup. Have a Great Holiday. See you when we see you ❤

Amazing as always. Looking forward to hearing the news!

I some how feel ALL the range of “sadness” when I watch you. 1.Amusement….you are very entertaining and clever I could watch you all day (I practically have before) 😂 2. Affection/gratitude…not to sound weird for having a parasocial relationship but I have true affection for you and am grateful for your channel and all I have learned. 😊 3.Beauty/cuteness….dont even need to explain. 🥰 You are adorable. 4.Achievement….I feel so much pride in the success of your channel and career. It is amazing to see. 🏆 And I feel a little bit of achievement, and pride, that at my age I am able to learn so much from you. I wish I had known in my younger years., but it’s never too late. I enjoy your channel so much, I would never have equated the word sadness with it. But there we go, I’m learning again. You truly seem energized and excited in this video. Maybe it’s the big project you have coming out soon. But either way, it’s great to see you happy and joyful. (Not that you aren’t usually) you just seem a notch up today, and I’m loving it. It’s contagious! 😃🎉👍 Love your channel and can’t wait for the big things you have coming.

Thanks for yet another fantastic episode. I love all the details and can't wait for your next release

Cuteness aggression is one of my favourite psychological phenomenon. It is the urge to squeeze, bite, or pinch something cute like a young animal or a human baby without any desire to cause them harm. In response to positive experiences, some people express their feelings in a dimorphous manner, meaning they show both positive and negative reactions. It is thought to be a mechanism that is supposed to stop your brain from getting overwhelmed by positive feelings, like a kind of emergency brake (for example so that mothers can still be functioning parents and not get incapacitated by the love for their children). I think it's so funny for some reason. 😄

Loved this thank you !!!!!!

Spidey take time to be with your family and take care of yourself. Your videos are epic and insightful and we will always come back to watch them when you have time to upload them. Thank you 🙏 Happy Holidays 🎉

I just noticed that the number of views and the time since the post was made changes live now. That’s cool. I get to see when others are tuning in at the same time as me. Hello everybody lol

This was so so good! I love your explanations and love how you talk in such a non-judgmental way. You seem like such a solid, good, clear person. Thank you for teaching and inspiring us!! ❤

You seem so happy and excited that I can't wait to see what news you give us. happy holidays, be safe, be blessed 🥰

I loved this video ❤ I never saw the speech from jelly roll but that hit me so hard too. Loved hearing your break down ❤ his lyrics in "easier 4 you" with tech n9ne have such a similar effect. Edit: Happy Holidays Spidey! I hope it's amazing and full of joyful tears ❤

YES! Just what I needed today!!! You are awesome.

Thanks for another awesome video Spidey, very informative as always. Can't wait to hear the big news 🎉 Have fun with all your upcoming performances and wishing you a fantastic holiday season from South Africa 🇿🇦 if you don't do more videos before then.

I did see the contempt you were talking about except I saw it before your marker. I saw it at 2:32. She was going into that head turn with the one sided upturn already. It is so quick that I couldn't figure out how I knew it before that so I had to go back to study where it hit me. So that was two times that were really quick.

30:10 Am I the only one who wishes you had explored the theories of sadness during positive moments? I'd be fascinated to hear them! Most of mine are quite dark

Enjoyed this segment!

Fabulous video! Continue to enjoy & learn. OOF WOAHH I HAD NOT SEEN HIS SPEECH prior to this… I had to rewind, watch & listen like 3x simply because I wanted to live inside that sermon he gave the world.

31:21 omg!! Perfect analogy!

I’m making a second comment just to say I’m so glad to see this type of video. It’s really nice to learn how to recognize the positive behaviors in others.

Incredible dissection and analysis. Thank you

Hell yeah!!! I love me some Jell Roll. I am so happy to see Spidey bringing light to Jell Roll. He seems to be one of the most humble dudes in the planet. He is a great example of never giving up on yourself and how one can overcome past mistakes and become a better person. Much respect and love to you Spidey and Jelly Roll.

In my experience the expression with sadness during a joyful moment is connected to a more visually acute individual

Saving this one! One of my fav of your analysis! Thanks for sharing your knowledge 🙏

Ok jelly roll got a new fan!!!!!!❤❤

@audreymarie1191

6 ай бұрын

That was just too freaking adorable

@moisturisedgnome1181

6 ай бұрын

Is he some sort of entertainer? In the circus, perhaps?

Great job Spidey!

Happy holidays! Merry Christmas! 🎄🎁 Hope yours are the best and merriest! Love your content and completely understand about your busy season. We will always be here whenever you can upload a video ❤ But now I’m excited to learn about what you’ve been working on 😊 sending love hugs and prayers your way! ❤️🙏

🦋 Thank you for the wonderful video. Look forward to hearing your good news. Happy holidays to you and yours. Sending much love and many blessings.

Thank you for sharing. When I watched the Jelly Roll emotional speech, it reminded me of a pentecostal church service. Very encouraging, sensational and uplifting. Something that will get an amen which he effectively did. It seemed more like a learned behavior from church that does really come across with passion and therefore sadness in the face. I'm glad you could offer deeper understand for me.

I don't have anything to say about analysis for Drew Barrymore, or Jelly Roll, because your analysis, Spidey, is always so great, and for the most part, what I was thinking myself. That said, however, I do want to talk about my first experience with Jelly Roll. I was following my guy Iam Tongi on AI, and saw Jelly Roll's performance there. I've never heard of this artist before, but I was so fascinated with his voice; his passion; and his lyrics that I turned to my kids and ask, "Who is this guy?!" They laughed and repeated his name to me. I was so enamoured with him, that I downloaded his playlist on my music platform, and am now a Jelly Roll fan. I'm always looking for new, unique artist (some artists today can be so redundant, sadly), and I'm happy to have found one in him. I'm not surprised he won for New Artist of the Year. Way to go, Jelly Roll! Love your content. Do what you gotta do. I wish I could be able to see you LIVE. Maybe one day. Happy Holidays to you, Spidey, & your family & your fandom. Stay Safe!

"I signed some stuff." Love it.

My mind is a bit blown by this comment and the discussion of "fawn." I hadn't heard this before as part of the fight, flight, freeze. It would explain a lot -- how I'm aware that some primal part of my body is telling me to run and I know I should listen, but somehow instead I'm sitting there "playing nice" with the threat, pretending like I have no idea there's imminent danger, with part of me wanting badly to believe there's no threat at all. It makes no sense, but I've done this more than once and afterwards wondered why I didn't just get the hell out of there when I had the chance. I wonder if it's trauma/abuse learned, a remainder of training as a 911 dispatcher to de-escalate/talk through it, or a combination of both. Very interesting. I love that this is making me think about it while far removed from any dangerous or stressful situation.

Happy Holidays Spidey...youre the best, always get excited when you have a new video out. Love your content and how you connect with your audience...and recently realized youre Armenian when i saw your real name!! Hello from a fellow Armenian!!

@TheBehavioralArts

5 ай бұрын

Thanks so much for the kind words 😊 pari nor dari yev sourp dzenount 🇦🇲 🎄

@megaliz1985

5 ай бұрын

I grew up speaking Russian but i think you said happy holidays/happy new year and i wish you the same! All i know in Armenian is Barev zess and zagermar 😂 look forward to seeing many more of your awesome vids in 2024!! 🎉🎉🎉 ​@@TheBehavioralArts

Great Video! Have to mention that every time you said ''Eyebrows of Sadness" , the line from Big Bang Theory ''The Blue Bird of Happiness" sprung to mind- had to chuckle...

Oh I could be a study subject for tears of joy because I do it all the time!! I was once at a soccer game and saw my 6 year old niece score a goal. I had to put my sunglasses on because it took everything in me not to burst into tears. Why?!? Haha and also, I bawled my eyes out at a Seaworld show a couple years ago. Something about the music and the beauty of it…and watching my son and husband react to the show. I was seriously crying my eyes out. Why and what is that??

My dude jelly roll was bout to drop a sermon on their asses, he was preaching!😂😂😂😂

Just got to watch this. I went to see the Glenn Miller Band last night. When they played my most favorite song in the world, "Moonlight Serenade," my husband was confused as to why I was crying. It is just so beautiful, it overwhelms me. Sort of what you were talking about....

Looking forward to your news 😊

Loved your explanations for why someone might experience sadness or cry in positive situations! Having experienced some of them myself it was fascinating hearing why and it was so accurate!!

Awesome analysis! I would love to hear more about beauty/cuteness in the face of sadness!

Thanks Spidey! Great insight as always! I did catch the contemp from Renee but it was quick and I definitely saw it as a "who does this?". Jellyroll's words were beautiful and for myself I pull a sad face alot because I'm very emotionally sensitive and they're often so intense they're painful (even happy stuff). Have a great holiday season, I'd love to see you live but I'm on the wrong continent. Post if you can and see you in the new year if you don't.

I love your videos so much! Thank you ❤