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@joycebrown1412

2 жыл бұрын

Rev Vernon, I may be late, but I am just watching your Podcast. My suggestion is to do a Podcast on why are black men are marrying out of their race at an alarming number. We are at the point of no longer preserving our race, because of excuses from black men that black women are difficult. However, black men create difficult energy. It pains me to hear you say their is a shortage, when there really is not a shortage, there is a mis-education of the significance of preserving our race with our young black men. I could go on, but the shortage is being brought on by our men not by any other reason. Blessings, Joyce Marie

@lyrendasdailey3901

2 жыл бұрын

I want to be married again I'm 53 and love to singing a hairstylist love the Lord.

@lyrendasdailey3901

2 жыл бұрын

Alvin what's that number

@connieedwards9323

2 жыл бұрын

You have to compliment each other and be mindful of your differences and receptive to one another. Life happens to where a women or man didn't meet the grade to the satisfaction of another. If that's an issue then they are not for you if they can't meet you where you are at.

@caroldavis6432

2 жыл бұрын

Time for a singles class with dinner afterward.

Black women are going to have to start opening up to the possibility of getting to know men who are from other countries and backgrounds...there are many who are believers...we need to stop wanting someone who grew up in the same hood as us...plus you grow and can end up with such a richer life experience...there are men all over the world looking for good women. With a healed and healthy mind...we attract better...automatically.

@mirical4871

2 жыл бұрын

And some men from other countries are looking for a hand out and green cards “will they leave once they get what they want “?Im just saying what do you all think?

@debbifranklin6050

2 жыл бұрын

Send him to me

@angelahicks7897

2 жыл бұрын

These men on here ain’t looking for women it’s to many out there

@lovinlife6918

2 жыл бұрын

Amen Sis!

@cherylriley8

2 жыл бұрын

@@mirical4871 In some cases, yes, they will leave.

Why is the one who is almost 50 still single???? Black men remain boys in that respect because by late 40s most men of other races are already married or been married.

Ladies please don't confuse "lower your expectations" with "lower your standards"... I prayed to God to deliver me from unrealistic expectations 🙏🏾. Black Virtuous Women of God, a part of lowering your expectations may just be being open to the possibility of dating/marrying outside your race! Once He loves the Lord, then the "playing field" is open...

@aharonyahudah3264

2 жыл бұрын

Outside the race really thats the best advice you can give SMH.

@jamiejackson1780

2 жыл бұрын

AMEN!

@la-nekabrown6825

2 жыл бұрын

But the problem is this message is not communicated to men. As if men are so great that we have to lower our expectations to have them. No offense that’s garbage and it really is about puffing up men’s ego. Perhaps if they lower their ego and be more realistic about who they are and what they have to offer a woman they would be in a better position to have a wife.

@jamiejackson1780

2 жыл бұрын

@@la-nekabrown6825 It sounds like you’re saying the same thing Queen. 👑 He said lower our EXPECTATIONS, nOt our Standards. Meaning we should “be more realistic about who they are” just like you said. Like they already SEE & OWN their imperfect, WE SHOULD TOO!! JUST in case they never change, we won’t have FALSE HOPE & can make INFORMED DECISIONS to be with them OR NOT.

@la-nekabrown6825

2 жыл бұрын

@@jamiejackson1780 When each of the men talked about their standards in a woman they were mostly superficial. What I would consider an expectation was their standard. They weren’t asked if they compromised on their expectations because the general thought is they don’t have to. In the video over and over and over again the message was Black women don’t have options so they need to lower their expectations. We all have flaws. I don’t think that’s the issue. For me, the issue is men’s desire to be wanted past their flaws doesn’t align with the levels of their standards. Mind you, I don’t believe that all men are as superficial as a guest on the panel. However, it is important to note the mentality that a lot of men have around expectations of women and their inability to meet those women’s standards. It’s most often times a mitch match and the women are the ones that are told they have to compromise and adjust. That’s a problem. We don’t train, prepare, support and hold accountable men, especially in the church, to do better and be better.

Good Men Look For This In Women 1. Positive Attitude 2. Physical Attraction 3. Love and Affection 4. Transparency 5. Listen 6. Respect 7. Loyalty and Support 8. Feminine Energy

@daetrickbrackett

Жыл бұрын

What makes a man fall in love? Physical attraction, sexual compatability, empathy, and emotional connection are key to making a man fall in love with a woman.

@daetrickbrackett

Жыл бұрын

10 Things Men Find Attractive About Women 1. Embracing the style 2. Being an equal 3. Taking the lead 4. Being confident and smiling 5. Laugh at their jokes 6. Passionate women 7. Maintaining eye contact 8. You keep him intrigued 9. Living life to the fullest 10. Being a good listener and having intellectual conversations

@Rachel_Robinson

Жыл бұрын

This is wonderful!!! Thanks for sharing!

@rosiebrown220

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely , but are they the same! 🤔

@BerachahJudah

Жыл бұрын

These men definitely have issues. There are so many women who could easily fit their expectations. They’re probably not really interested in getting married.

So happy I’ve reached the age where I have accumulated enough wisdom to no longer care about what men want and to only worry about what I want. I hope and pray you get there one day.

I would LOVE for someone ( ministry, organization) to host a single’s convention, or gathering for singles to meet a potential spouse. We often have good dialogue but no connections 🤷🏽‍♀️

@nicolereese3374

2 жыл бұрын

I couldn't agree more! A lot of conversations and not retreats or conventions.

@sharidana.9681

2 жыл бұрын

I agree 🙋🏾‍♀️

@tierragratefultofatherGod222

2 жыл бұрын

I Plan to in my ministry

@AnnettaWilliamsSings

2 жыл бұрын

I have been praying about hosting something in that magnitude

@dionna3674

2 жыл бұрын

This!!!

Black women choose to be strong, get an education, take care of their children, etc. Let's change our expectations to EXPECT BLACK MEN TO GET EDUCATED, TAKE CARE OF THEIR CHILDREN and black women will support that! DO NOT LOWER YOUR EXPECTATIONS. If you can't find it in black men, date men of other races that treat you like you desire to be treated🎯

@returningtoperfection

2 жыл бұрын

My sister I hear and understand your rationale. As a man with my own children, I am intelligent, hard working, God fearing and I love my children with all my heart. I have my responsibilities and do what is required to meet them. But men in general want their children and do everything we can to support them but the mother does NOT want our children to have anything to do with us. The Govt does not support us, the mother does not want us to have anything to do with our children (not all mothers, but many don't want us near our children). So what should we do, raise hell and make ourselves out to be the bad guy like they think we are? We go through courts and spend tens of thousands of dollars to get rights and still we end up with the short stick. Here is another catch twenty two. If you understand the law and paying for children, a man who gets married or involved again will be taxed on the incomes of him and his new spouse. The combined income of these two people will determine the amount of child support he has to pay. Can I ask, do want to pay child support for a child or children you never had to a woman you never met, for the sake of the man you claim to love? For arguments sake, let's say you two make 70k per year. 10k or 20k per year until the last child or only child is eighteen, is going to another person you don't know and don't really care about? These are some issues us men face, for you to consider. God bless you.

@cfacia6045

2 жыл бұрын

@@returningtoperfection I understand your concern. This is why it's extremely important to get to know the woman, her character and morals before sleeping with her with out protection. Men choose their children's mother. I never slept with men that did not meet my expectations or those that failed to be involved in their own children's life. As a result, I had a daughter with a quality black man that is involved in her life 50% of the time as we are no longer together. As such, although he has his PHD, and makes well over 6 figures, I have never gone after him for child support. He has not paid child support to date and our daughter is now 12. His takes care of her and all her needs when she is with him. The minute you get someone pregnant or even before, men can establish a parenting plan that dictates how you all will co-parent. It's just like a divorce decree, but both parties create their own terms instead of the courts. Children thrive when adults operate in their best interest. Best regards.

@707tich

2 жыл бұрын

Yep

@shawngamble8659

2 жыл бұрын

Amen please preach!!

@Shedlightondark

Жыл бұрын

They not

Honestly, if he "truly loves God," he truly walked the holy walk. He has a job; he's kind, he's loyal, and a good communicator! We can build!!

@arlenedixon2547

2 жыл бұрын

Yessss

@wainwrightwilliams316

Жыл бұрын

WE HAVE TO FOCUS ON THE LEADING OF THE THE HOLY SPIRIT ABOVE OUR PHYSICAL ATTRACTION.

@wainwrightwilliams316

Жыл бұрын

THIS MORE OF A SPIRITUAL ISSUE THAT A SOCIAL OR EMOTIONAL ISSUE .WHAT ABOUT THE HOLY GHOST????????

@wainwrightwilliams316

Жыл бұрын

HOW DID MONEY COME UP.???,??????

"Adjust" is a better word than "lower." That broadened the opportunity to meet a qualified candidate. That means that there are plenty of saved men to choose you. White, Hispanic, British, African, Jamaican, etc... "Who knows the mind of God?"

@user-rz3ll2rz6z

2 жыл бұрын

Amen, sister!

I have been divorced for 20 years, I pray to get married again one day, All in God's timing. Yes I do have something left. Amen 🙏

@tonyatjoseph5801

2 жыл бұрын

yea... thats the problem with people... they want to be in relationships with alot of conditions on the relationship. no unconditional love. And God is a god of unconditional love.

@sakuraesther6309

2 жыл бұрын

@@tonyatjoseph5801 God will surely send alot of people to hell unless they follow the condition of being saved . So yeah And also you cannot love a rapist uncoditionally HAVE STANDARDS

@vanessasutton6510

Жыл бұрын

Me too sis!!! I have been single way longer and older than you but I do now desire Godly companionship. He's out there!!! Imma start "taking my time" with one!!! 😊👍

I don't care if he is white as snow; as long as he is going after the LORD! After all, it is we who limit our possibilities.

Bishop, I tell people all the time I would rather have a piece of mind than a piece of a man!! Yes Lord taking my time!! Thank you all my 1st time listening and I have enjoyed the podcast.

@VictoriousLiving737

2 жыл бұрын

Piece of mind vs piece of a man...love it!

Great conversation!!!! But the Church must build our men up and teach them morals!!! So our sisters don't have to lower anything!!! That's not Biblical but LAZY.

@ecclairmayo4153

Жыл бұрын

Bingo!

This conversation goes both ways. Has he played his formative years to the streets or another Team. Then come to me broke down and broken. We don’t expect perfection but work on self & have a plan. I’m in my 50’s & have walked a way with the Lord. Plan for the person you want in your life. Women or men prepare and be open.

@angelahicks7897

2 жыл бұрын

You preaching. That’s usually what happens. They come to you bankrupt and broken

@reconciliationrestorationr9097

2 жыл бұрын

Also... Men talk about physical attraction, light skin, beauty, real hair... All that's wonderful... To each his own..BUT MEN need to keep it together too.. their hygiene needs to be up to par, their teeth, their breath fresh.. not having hair growing all out of their nose and ears... Keep themselves groomed. On the other hand.. you can have all that but you're a player trying prove you still got it... Men gotta keep it together too!

@celesteporter2918

2 жыл бұрын

Each person has preferences. But, what is implied by the brother's statement, "nice light skin"? Is light skin indicative of beauty? Had he said beautiful, smooth, unblemished skin I could understand his statement better. Skin color does not make a person attractive. A green sheet draped or blue sheet draped and pulled tight on the same face structure looks the same, is the same. They are just different colors.

@rhargrow8399

Жыл бұрын

@@celesteporter2918 True

@alwaysSparkle1776

Жыл бұрын

Yes, I agree...Their love is fake...superficial; based on looks not character or principals. That's why there's a shortage of black men and black females are not married...we can't propose to ourselves....bruh you need to REPENT....

Ten minutes in and all 3 of them swimming 🏊‍♀️ in shallow pools of materialism, colorism, and the "I don't want someone who has been with anyone before me..." scenario. Ladies, the "DUST" is real!!! You should lower your expectations while you may get looked over because of your shoes 👞 Ladies be careful. Don't leave your house without a mask😷😷😷!!

@MariyahB_94

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@MsGear001

Жыл бұрын

Wouldn't touch either with a 10 foot pole.

@MariyahB_94

Жыл бұрын

@@MsGear001 me either, sis

@ecclairmayo4153

Жыл бұрын

Lower expectations yet one of these guys already has kids and is at least 50 pounds overweight while the other is balding with yellow teeth. I cant

@ladyt4478

Жыл бұрын

Exactly, neither mentioned anything about spiritually or character.

I'm really loving these conversations. It's hard to find a saved man who love women only.

@realbeautyness25

11 ай бұрын

THIS A MESS THEY RAN AROUND THE WORLD 🌎🌍 SO THEY WANT A ♀️👠 WOMAN THAT HASN'T BEEN TOUCHED BY THE WORLD HOW DOES THAT WORK

There’s a definite difference between lower your expectations AND lower your standards. Expectations are simply what you “expect” Standards are what you “demand” Meaning you not compromising or settling. You can expect a man to have a job You can not expect him to be a billionaire. Your standard can simply be that he’s working, he has drive and ambition. He has a vision and a dream that you can come alongside him and “help” him bring it to pass IF it has not already passed. One thing I have come to know for sure is that A man’s Character is KEY🙏🏾 IF he loves God, he should KNOW how to love, honor and respect you and vice versa.

@releasedexpressions

2 жыл бұрын

Be realistic with your expectations but don't lower your standards. I believe that's what the Pastor really intended to say or should have said. What I've come to realize and following this and a number of other subjects is that it seems that women aren't interested in what men need. The common statement has prefaced many a message in church, "happy wife, happy life". As such the emphasis for men to focus on what a woman wants.

@madelinegarvin9792

2 жыл бұрын

Lower expectations re: what? It's important to be respected, valued, trusted, appreciated and enjoyed. These expectations are prerequisites in any good relationship.

@Playbackrm100

10 ай бұрын

Yes!!!!!!!!! I totally concur!!! You just spoke on 'one' of the 3-Things that I think is absolutely Major...to which I was "a little" surprised that Doc Vernon didn't mention: 'Character' as you mentioned...and the other 2 are: 'Integrity' and 'Spirituality'. In most cases, Integrity is the 'frame' (foundation) of 'Character', and although there are many men who claim to LOVE JESUS, The 'Spirit of (and) Integrity' is not always in Practice--ANNNND can be quite challenging when not in Practice or Disciplined or Focused. Either way, I just Love Dr. RAV for bringing such awareness to the forefront and challenging thousands of people to really look into themselves with the additional ability to look into others and perform a 'Good Screen-shot' before embellishing in unhealthy or unsuitable relationships and getting scorned more than before. Ya gotta Love Vernon!!!

I've lost seven family members to the Covid-19 pandemic, at this point, i could care less what men expect of me. I'm just glad to be alive and I'm focusing on what makes ME happy. I hope EVERYONE finds what makes them happy. God bless y'all.

@tonyatjoseph5801

2 жыл бұрын

exactly- I was thinking the same thing. Who cares about dating? You either love me or hate me. Self love is everything.

@tiffany84445

2 жыл бұрын

Sorry for your loss

@TheOriginalRasheedat

2 жыл бұрын

So why are you here? I’m asking cause I don’t know why I’m here either lol

@tonyatjoseph5801

2 жыл бұрын

@@TheOriginalRasheedat lol that title caught my attention 😎😂😂😂 “ what men really want in women”👀

@esintial

2 жыл бұрын

Real Talk.

Last thing, It is WISE to discern IF a man or a woman is ROOTED “in Christ” Not just “in the church.” I believe that is a mistake many believers make. Pray for the Holy Spirit to lead you and give you discernment in these dating streets. If something is off RUN🏃🏾 The divorce rate in the church should not be competing with the world.

@aharonyahudah3264

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah because you don't have Real pastors talking about the real things going on with in our people. We lie to much and don't talk about real issues . Like we don't know how to love and what is truly a real marriage the Way the Most High ordained it.

@user-rz3ll2rz6z

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!.....

@chanelanderson4968

2 жыл бұрын

Amen!

I'm glad a man... a pastor is finally talking to another man about relationships and not just telling women what "they ought to be or not be doing" to get a man and married. Men should be teaching men in the church... draw them first!

The guy in the purple shirt has a very good point. He wants a woman/wife that has energy for him. Does she have anything left for him? Ladies he is speaking the truth. Sometimes, we get in these toxic relationships with men who are not ordained by God to be in our lives that we become drain on all levels. Emotional, Sexually, and Spiritually etc. It’s very important to heal from toxic relationship. Meaning, be single. No dating, no sex just seeking God and waiting on him for your husband. When God sees that your ready you will have the energy for the man that is suppose to be in your life. God Bless! Good message. I would love if the Pastor speaks on blended families and the consequences of a saved woman marrying unsaved man. Also if he can speak on the scripture it is better to marry than to burn. How is this scripture applied to someone life.

@cgreen2984

2 жыл бұрын

I agree with him, too, as long as it goes both ways. He shouldn't expect a woman to have 'energy' for him and post pics of him on his social media if he's not doing the same FIRST.

@ambersherillbeauty8278

Жыл бұрын

@@cgreen2984 exactly it cannot be one sided and it sound like that’s why he single…. There is nooooooo women with those qualities? Most women want to show their men off

The TRUTH about relationships Connection cannot be created, nor can it be destroyed. It’s either there or it’s not. There’s nothing you can do to build connection. You can build a stronger bond. You can build a stronger attachment to each other. But that still doesn’t mean connection is there. And you see this play out in situations where you have people who could meet each other right now and have this amazing connection. Something happens when they fall apart. They come back together years later, 10, 20, years later. And it’s like they never stop talking. It just falls right back into place. It’s connection. It’s a deeper thing that’s occurring there. To me connection is your spirit recognizing it’s met. It is something that is happening beneath the surface.

It's better to be alone than to marry wrong (Dr. R. A. Vernon). I enjoyed the conversation.

The EYES have to “eat”, FIRST. PERIOD. So, I 110% agree with that HONESTY. 💥💥💥

Compatability matters! Keep your standards, ladies.

@joeroot9142

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed

Single black female divorced over twenty years. I am healed from my separation letting go of the bad, holding on to the good to produce the loving, Godly covenant with my king. The one God has for me is worth the wait. Word

I love what you have to talk about. You pour the water and the harvest grows. ❤😊

I can agree with Pastor Vernon, when he states that outward appearance is key because I did and is still doing the appearance look but totally the opposite. I don't want to shine because I'm not interested in having an relationship now, so dressing to impress, means nothing to me, however I'm still feel good about me, everyday.

Speak over our men's life. Train up our men. God is moving!

"You look at the feet of a woman ' Sir, you failed right there. I dress for comfort and for me so, I wear Nikes. I am the price.....bye The single man in shades does not know what he wants and how to haunt a woman. Sir,you got to do more self development and learn women. Queens don't tell a grown man to take her number or take her out!

Glad u said that about how a son should be raised, i once heard on the radio a woman said, (speaking to the public) " would you want to marry the son that you are raising. I am trying blessed my son is 40+ & his wife of 20 years, personally thanked me for the way he was raised. God / prayers works 🙌🙌 in Mississippi. I enjoyed your podcast, today 4--11-22. 🙏🙏🙏

Busted shoes!! Lawd, help this man!

@neenee5198

2 жыл бұрын

😅😅😅

This was good! The trend I’ve noticed is that some, not all but some saved men will go get a unsaved woman and marry her before they will get a saved woman. So now that have the saved women marry unsaved men because the saved men are not available. Again not all saved men and women are doing that. But that’s the trend I’ve noticed. I am saved and single that desires a saved and single man.

@ecclairmayo4153

Жыл бұрын

Yup they go after the women they say they dont want. Women they tell us not to be. Very hypocritical

Very enlightening conversation. Good to hear a godly man's perspective on relationships and what he looks for in a godly woman.

@tonyatjoseph5801

2 жыл бұрын

this dialogue between these men are super carnal... they don't even care to connect with women on a spiritual level and thats why they are SINGLE. Dating is for confuse people who don't know what they want.

I understand we must have energy. Sometimes a bad relationship will drain your energy. Thank you for knowing that you are the provider. I believe if we both are following God spoken words we will not have any problems. Prayer is the answer. No lowering expectations. The earth belongs to the Lord and everything in it. We as believer know . When a man finds a wife the man will receive favor from God. FAVOR! Who does not want favor.

One of the qualities that l look for in a man after God’s heart~is a man who plays the piano/organ because l am the praise and worship leader at my church.

A Man Must KNOW HIS WORTH Too! Society’s always telling women know your worth. But we act like men aren’t supposed to know their worth. And people take issue when a man knows his worth. Men should know their worth just as much as a woman. You have to understand you have value here. You are just as important to this relationship as she is. So just as you need to give to her. She needs to give to you. It’s a two way street. And I think more importantly. You have to get to a point where you are not afraid if she walks away from you. The reality is that men, especially good men, get caught up in the fear of losing her. That they’d do everything in their power to keep her. Rather than losing her you’re losing yourself.

I always liked R.A. Vernon always real!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

They both must be willing to make necessary changes in life. Work as a team. There is no perfect anyone....you know what....communication is the key to a lasting relationship....

@perious2821

Жыл бұрын

Agree

Everybody needs and deserves somebody,even a chance to prove yourself , nobody’s perfect but everybody’s capable. 💕☀️

What I got from this Pod Cast is black women should consider going outside there race to meet other believers….that is our future

That’s good Pastor, “I reserve the right to shift and move as I mature”.

@cgreen2984

2 жыл бұрын

In the meantime, the women who followed the previous, flawed advice are the ones experiencing the consequences. I'm learning to be cautious about taking advice from someone who doesn't have to experience the consequences of that advice.

@ecclairmayo4153

Жыл бұрын

​@@cgreen2984 - bingo!!

God is still in control. Women should NEVER lower their expectations. Trust in God. Keep your eyes on Him. He will send you a partner when you are ready. Men and women should seek counseling to rid themselves of past hurt and sin.

The man in the red is no ready

We just need to throw out our list! Believe God what He has for us and making ourselves available. Having a connection is important.

“Take your time with us”… 😢🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 and with us also 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💖

It´s been some years since I have seen Pastor Vernon. I have some of his videos here at the house. Anyway, I love to hear the men talk about what they are looking for in a woman. I hate at times some of us women gets so defensive when they only expressing what they look for in a relationship with a woman. We have our list, and not ashamed to tell it. The same shall go for the men even if we like it or not it´s their choice. I just pray that we be with the one God has for us!

The married brother spoke about waiting and I'm going to be honest ... I've met Christian men who have told me I'll be alone, no one is waiting, etc. when they find out I prefer to wait sexually. I explain that I wanted to be a kept woman because I learned I'm a treasure ... and they bow out. I need a podcast talking about when a woman waits, but the very men who should desire them, reject them. Non-believing men find value in me much more than believers. Some times it's heartbreaking.

@ecclairmayo4153

Жыл бұрын

Those guys are hypocrites and are the type to bring you heartache. In other words, you dodged a bullet bevaise they showed themselves to be snakes in the grass. So, its a good thing they weeded themselves out early.

I’m in my late 40’s probably as late as you can get in the 40’s 😂 😂 😂 me too. Hey Jamal. I look at guys teeth and shoes too.

Defined A Black Beautiful Women…. Beauty Comes from Within

Yall dropped so real talk in the Barber Shop!!! Glory to God and Thank you all for being so real and open.

So happy to see the church finally having open conversations about the absolute Biggest Problem in the Body of Christ of all ages for women. We need to hear this from the Mens point of view. Finally. Thank you. And as a seasoned woman I will have to say most black women have Not been fathered by their black fathers so do black women respect and honor men ? Especially black men. Do black women take the time to get whole in Christ? And let the older women Teach the younger women HOW to love their husbands how to love their children. We all need discipleship in not only spiritual things but how to have Godly and loving relationships. Be feminine too. And men get fathered and be real men in Christ. Get healed from not being fathered or mothered. Love this conversation!

@vivianmalone1354

2 жыл бұрын

This was wonderful

I love listening to men talk! Hopefully Pastor will have this conversation again, but make it longer.

Definitely have a relationship with God the Father, Son and the Holy Spirit 🙌 🙏

All of this is giving me hope! Keeping my spirits high

Single mothers (both now and 20 yrs from now) are not able to give their sons *all* of the necessary tools to become a good husband, no matter how hard she tries. Wishing there were more male mentoring programs to come alongside these single moms to supplement & help influence their sons. ‘True & pure religion is to look after orphans and widows in their distress...” James 1:27

Now my issue is having a man to match my energy. So I truly understand.

Dr. R.A. Vernon thanks for sharing this. I first fell in love with your ministry close to 20 years ago when you taught on Love, Sex, and Relationships and to hear this prospective now has been a blessing also. Thank you to all the gentlemen that shared also. I have never been married and have no kids and I'm from the don't lower your standards era. I have not lowered them but I certainly have readjusted them as time have progressed. I think it is so interesting to hear Alvin say he is looking for energy I am surrounded by men with no energy or ambitions. So I understand where he is coming from. I am often ask do I ever settle down because I'm high energy also. So I get it Alvin. I'm looking forward to a part 2 of this session. Walk Bless.

Continued... As men we already have a lot of pressure that we have to face. As much as we talk about the things that women deal with there are a lot of things that weigh on a man and make it hard for him; to feel confident, to feel good, to be ambitious to do the things that he needs to do. To have a woman who can pour positive energy into him, and lift up his spirits, and make him feel good about who he is. Is a very powerful thing that I believe every man needs when they're with a woman in a relationship. Of course, we can talk about the sexual satisfaction. There's a lot of other things that come into play, but those things are just mentioned support, believing in him, and positive energy. I believe those things will have the greatest impact on his life. Everything else can fall into place from there. To me, it's not about necessarily what men want but what do they need? And then when you tap into that, that will change everything for both sides.

The gentlemen with the Chicago Bulls hat on seems very genuine 🙏🏽

@CSHAUNTESBSNRN

2 жыл бұрын

I agree.

I thoroughly enjoyed this discussion and the perspectives from each of you.

There are some men, that were raised in the church, but strayed. Therefore, the seed has been planted. Now, the woman that 's Truly Living IN HER 'DIVINE Purpose. ( not looking for a husband ; just want to do the will of God ; mindset) God will lead those types of men to these types of women. And, SHE will continue in her strong walk with our Lord and Savior... If he Loves her and SEES God IN her HE WILL COME ... to know the knowledge of Truth with the desire to LIVE IT! ❤

This was great to watch , thanks guys for giving single women hope

Enjoyed that session. I loved jumping in and how the guys feel what they look for in women in general!! Love your good seasoned teacher!! Evang.. Rhonda. Prater from. Mercef. Ca.

My dear Friends character is the most important thing in any one's life and while the person love the Lord and love you you both can work together sickness accident can change anyone situation in life. Love is the glue that holds any any life together.

@samanthapitts1910

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Character is truly important. Once you get past the superficial things, you need to be able to trust the person that you are sharing your life with. If they lack character, morals, integrity, how can you trust that individual and be vulnerable?

There are many churches, especially the black churches where there is not many available to marry from your same church. We have to encourage our single members to be open to meet folks from other churches.

@jnca911

Жыл бұрын

shortage of giid christian men PROBLEM,!!!

@jnca911

Жыл бұрын

SHORTAGE OF GOOD LOVING CHRISTIAN MEN IN CHURCH PROBLEM SINGLE WOMEN SAD

“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” ‭‭John‬ ‭3:16‬ ‭KJV‬‬

I think there needs to be a greater focus on encouraging men to level up. The number of black women leveling up is increasing, and they're leaving the men behind. If our male leaders can get more men to increase their value, the women wouldn't have to make so many adjustments.

@ecclairmayo4153

Жыл бұрын

Nope. Instead they always want to put the onus on women to "fix it". Even here, they ask the mothers to teach their sons and show them what to do.

@carlitavega2314

Жыл бұрын

@@ecclairmayo4153 they don't even understand what they're saying. When they constantly tell us to make changes, they are also saying that WE (women) are the leaders, not them. We are in the position we're in now because they haven't been leading.

God lead me to this candid conversation...it is very enlightening to hear Godly men speaking truth about the beauty of marriage..God bless you guys

Did he say she had nice light skin🤔, 🤨really.

If we wear stressed jeans & jackets, we can wear stressed canvas shoes. Most women have variety in their closets. Remember, what you see at first sight is not all you get....unless you want her out of a box!

@dedeh5370

2 жыл бұрын

Amen lol

I'm so glad to hear a Man of God having an open Convo of this magnitude with men in the church. As women in the church, we need to stay open. The hubby you desire may not be here but he can learn to love you possibly better than what you are used to experiencing. I am open to an international hubby. I believe God will send who's ordained for his daughter(s). That's it....

This is awesome Pastor!! If the Lord allows, please consider bringing the men, women, and Lady V together for the conclusion of this series!

@sheraibody2338

2 жыл бұрын

ABSOLUTELY 💯

Coming from a PK...Beautifully said

White Christian woman listening here, very wise discussion and I’m encouraged by the character of these men. I learned alot, thank you.

ok Pastor Vernon, this was very helpful. I have been single for a while, this was insightful, I haven't heard men speak like this before. Thanks gentleman!!!! Congratulations Monique.

Yes, Dr. Vernon! As a godmother, my friends and I have been discussing raising my godsons to be good men to change the dynamic in the future.

I’m up late and said I didn’t look at KZread today. I’ve been find wonderful podcast and new shows speaking on relationships. I’m single and a wonderful woman. I’m willing to work with a godly man. I enjoyed this hearing what everyone had to say. I haven’t ever shot my shot with a man. I have look and showed I like what I see. But never approached a man to say how you doing nor strike up a conversation. I want to allow a man to be a man and approach me. I’m a asset to any man. I’ve been divorced since 2009. I’ve worked on me and enjoyed my me time again. Children are grown now. I can’t wait until I get married again.

Making money and having a degree isn't needed to get a man, but the process you go through, your purpose ... it all creates in you what these men are saying they want. It builds the character and energy that really attracts them.

@antoinettebessanh-bokorvi.1788

Жыл бұрын

I think l love 😍 this man. The one in wine long sleeve

I love your ministry, is straight from the heart.

This was so good. REAL information. Great conversation. 🥰🔥

@annamariedubose1255

Жыл бұрын

I wanted to crash the barbershop and a get permission to rub that bald head,lord help.

@annamariedubose1255

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Being a cheer leader is keys man that loves god is definitely key love god true and true, no faking I had one of those gave almost 25years end up with a divorce 2014 married 2089i have not dated or gone out with any man since need to finish raise my girls and didn’t want men tracing through my home didn’t want to take chances with my girls, the world is crazy

This blessed me! Especially the closing statements. Thank you for having this conversation!

I hear these men talking about the type of women they want but I didn't hear them say that they want a woman who carries the fruit of the spirit...I hear them talk about looks and education....not about a woman who prays....a woman who serves in ministry etc. Sometimes looks can be deceitful...what do you have to bring to the table to attract the type of women you want? Some things I agree with but some things I don't. A Godly man should come to build..if she has a building..help her Keep it up...and to marry someone from my church...God has Godly men everywhere not just my church. When looking for a spouse ALWAYS ALWAYS ALLOW GOD TO LEAD..HE WILL TELL YOU WHO IS FOR YOU...NO COUNTERFEIT ALLOWED!!!!

This was extremely fruitful thank you men of the Lord!

Very insightful. Thank you Dr. Vernon. It is refreshing to hear that we need to participate in the process and cannot “just wait” on God to send our Boaz. I was concerned that this would be surface conversation… I was pleasantly surprised. The brothers spoke their truth.

Thank you DR Vernon for your question at about 12:00! Cause THATS not what they’re looking for is the answer! 🤦🏿‍♀️

This was really good!! I’ve been waiting along time & I’m still believing God❤️

This was a good message and gave me some valuable insight . I have a-lot of energy and constantly working on me . Thank you Pastor.

Pastor Vernon, thank you for this, I was not sure how it was going to turn out because i saw the podcast with the women. i appreciate the honesty and the jewels they dropped about what they are looking for in a Women. It does provide a light for me to know that we still have some good single black men, ready for their Queen. Hopefully we still have them in New York. ready for the new podcast.

Thank you for being real I enjoyed the broadcast and will continue to watch God bless you

It takes energy from both ends to create sparks.

I definitely enjoyed this pod cast! It has given us more insight on how to understand a Gentleman. “Take your time with us referring to (men). That’s good. I have been awaiting for my Boaz. I have been patiently waiting. Trusting God for what is next to come. Thanks for the inspiring words.

YES!..I Have Something Left!!! ❤

“LightSkin” 😅😬🙄 He ain’t Ready! He’s Color Struck✌🏾

@ecclairmayo4153

Жыл бұрын

Its a NO for me as well!

God bless you pastor, and all the brothers 🙏

Beautiful podcast! Thank you fellas for your candid conversation!

This Shop Talk is! 🔥 Thank you Pastor, and to the three men who were very authentic, in spkg their truth on what they look for in women.

Omg, I miss you Rev. Vernon The Word network every Sunday back in the day🔥❤️👏🌟🏆👀😇

This was very enlightening😔. I really appreciate you guys choosing to give us a peak.